Anita cried more than a month waiting for a phone call from him but to no avail. She was deeply hurt and thus, theirs was the last relationship she had because she lost hope and confidence in "love". The "misunderstanding" they had...he said that he will keep it a secret in his heart but the way he related it as if it was Anita's fault 😢. Anita spent her birthday in 1995 showing him proudly to everyone but the following year when they broke up, she celebrated sporting white hair which depicted her heart "died". She danced happily on stage but deep inside she was crying. She refused to see him during her last days because I believe she didn't wantcto be reminded of the hurt again 😢. This love between them has ended!
The "secret" was that he did not love her anymore while they were together. The "secret" was that he needed an excuse to end the relationship completely. However, it was not a secret because she knew that and even share that thought in the show of 名人面对面 in 2003.
Yes, he did not love her anymore after tasting the "forbidden fruit". However, the "hope" that he gave Anita broke her heart totally. That's the reason why she did not want to see him even until death. The many reasons Zhou gave was not from the "horse's" mouth. It was pretentious of him to write that "she was the love of his life" during her funeral. Anita hated friend's betrayal and not sincerely loved by her lover. She was a person who is true to all and gave her best. Truly the daughter of HK!
In an interview of early 2003, the year that she past away, the host asked about her relationship. She said she was really caring and thoughtful in a relationship. She would remove her work and prepare everything for her boyfriend. However her boyfriend said that she did not need him because she could handle everything. She also said, 'He did not love me anymore so good thing I did for him was bad... 8 years I have not dating. I used to believe in love but now I just wanted to walk away if a guy asked me out. I believe this speech reflected how Zhuo mistreated her. When he wrote " the love of my life" in her funeral was a lie.
Not sure that the sharing she did 8 years ago was about Zhou. Thought it was about Lin Guo Bin. However definitely she was deeply hurt by Zhou because she was really ready to settle down. Although each time she really wanted to get married, she shared in an interview that she would think over carefully before she signs on the paper. She was "out and down" when they broke up. She only appeared later inviting 500 fans to a private disco to celebrate when the media reported she was "sick". Yes, indeed she was sick...the heart was sick! Poor Anita! She gave her heart away each time but failed to receive true love. In the end, her heart returned to the one that she loved...Matchy. There is a song that revealed this love, "A love of happiness that I will remember for life. I will never dance again...."
I doubt he really loves Anita. Even if he did, his love is not deep enough to overcome the misunderstanding between them. As a man, he should have gone all the way to pursue her despite of the obstacles....
Actually, I mainly agree with you. However, now I see it more clearly: this is theoretical and ideal; but practicing it in real life is very difficult, as it requires much self-realization, setting aside self-esteem and putting oneself in others' shoes, as well as being more receptive. As outsiders, we cannot see or know other things that happened which contributed to their ultimate breakup; as the Chinese always say "the 3-foot frozen ice is definitely a result of more than a day's coldness"...
How can he be good when he made a girl who loved him cried? What kind of excuses can he give when he went on to love so many women after the breakup with the "love of his life"? It is a lie! The other person is dead and lies cold in the grave...he can say all that he wants.
