#1 Lie Detecting Agent: "REMOVE People From Your Life If They Have These RED FLAGS" | Evy Poumpouras 

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I love the fact the interviewer did not interrupt evy once when she spoke. So we fully got the message.

This woman is a powerhouse! So refreshing to see someone embrace stress and obstacles, rather than the head-in-the-sand "good vibes only" bullshit that so many subscribe to.

my dad always told me that he who angers you, conquers you

1. Certain levels of stress are good. They teach you how to cope, they teach you how to problem solve, they teach you how to fail and then to do better the next time. 2. I am ___(put the labels you think puts you in a disadvantageous position). No one’s going to like me. If you put labels on yourself, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. 3. You just perform. In areas, you are weak, perform. Earn your place. 4. If after you perform, people still have an issue with you, know that you are not the problem, they are. 5. Focus on putting one foot forward the other. Think about the next thing you are going to do. If I am not performing. And I’m there waiting for people to accept me, then now it’s me. 6. It’s 50% you and 50% the other person. 7. Respect is a gift. If someone wants to give it to you, they will, if they don't they don't. 8. Don't tell people you are the authority. Show them. Don't demand respect, command respect. Show you are the in charge by how do you walk into a room, how do you carry yourself, how do you speak, how do you project your voice. All those things exude power, and all those things command respect. 9. People make your impression in first five seconds. Think about what you are exuding, how you are dressed, think about the audience. You are going to wear one outfit for something and a different outfit for something else. 10. There are different versions of us. There is no just one you. What version of you are you bringing to the table? 11. Your goal shouldn’t be to make someone like or fear you. What is the end result you want? Likability is important. 12. Competent and warm not competent and cold. 13. No one is 100% bad. 14. Don't make it personal. Focus on the end result. 15. When things happen to you, rather than completely losing your mind, take a minute, don't respond, and don't do anything. Introduce a disrupter such as time or movement. 16. If you feel threatened in a situation, listen to your gut. Don't worry: about making the other person feel that you are rude. 17. Embrace and not avoid confrontation. Also, you should be able to confront people about things you don't feel right about in your life. Don't sit there and swallow it. 18. Mirror the other person’s language. If they say hi, say hi, if they say hello, say hello. Connect. But dint fake it. 19. Get in the right mindset and then decide how you want to speak to the other person. 20. 80% listen, 20% talk. 21. Talk to people not the way you want to be spoken to but the way they want to be spoken to. 22. You are not going to own my response to you. I am going to own it. 23. You have to create those barriers for yourself. You have to self-assess who you are going to let in your inner circle. Select the people in your inner circle. 24. People should audition to be in your inner circle. 25. Don't embarrass people but don't hesitate from confronting them. 26. There should be standards that you create for yourself. You get what you tolerate. 27. When you make a conscious decision to be done with someone, be done with them. 28. It should be about your mental conviction. Speak with confidence to make sure those who heard your message heard it clearly the first time. It should not be mistaken for weak or uncertain of your abilities. 29. Strengthen your voice and believe in what you are saying and why are you saying that. 30. The more adversity you deal with, the more resilient you become. 31. Repetition, repetition. Create habits that are healthy so when things happen, you default to those habits and pull out that version of you. 32. There are two types of people you should be careful of: people who are extremely self-righteous and people who use justification. 33. Look at people holistically who are they with everybody because that’s going to come back to you. 34. You feel dirty with someone be aware of them. 35. Don't get energy from the outside things such as your job, your family etc. Give your energy to those things but be mindful of how much of your energy you put out there into things. 36. Don't be surprised. Everybody at the end of the day is looking after their self-interests. 37. Don't be a victim. 38. Indecisiveness is a very dangerous thing. Indecisiveness causes us to look to others to give us the advice, it causes us to not make decisions in life, indecisiveness keeps us paralyzed, and indecisiveness is bad for our self-esteem and our confidence. I am going to do this right or wrong I am doing this. 39. You don't become this person overnight. It’s work. It’s a lot of work. 40. This person has an emergency. It’s their emergency. It’s not mine. 41. Choose to make it a lesson. 42. Remember you do not know everything. 43. “I messed up. So what? Everyone does.” 44. Have some humility. 45. Establish yourself as an authority from the moment “go”. 46. Think of your words as “money”. The more powerful and impactful the words, the more money you are putting down. My words matter and they have weight. They are going to impact the other person positively or negatively and their connection with me. 47. Don't stand behind the podium when you teach. 48. Be prepared, wear the right outfit, and do your hair and makeup in way that make you feel confident. 49. Own your shit. Be responsible for yourself even if the person sitting across you is authority. 50. If you are constantly being victimized by people, ask yourself: what am I doing to let people think they can do this to me. 51. Realize that you have choices. Fight back, speak back, or walk away. 52. Realize you have power. You can choose to not stay there in victim mentality. You can get back up. Watched all three of her videos and put it on all three. This is of so much value.

I ALWAYS trust my gut. It’s saved me so many times. Including a time when a neighbor offered to watch my children. I turned them down because of my gut. It was uncomfortable, but the gut feeling was really strong.1 week later he was arrested for sexually molesting his siblings. Never feel embarrassed about something that makes you feel uncomfortable. Great interview!

Smart people should be the new Celebrities! Humans need to start follow brain!

This interviewer is incredible. She listens and lets the person speak. Wow.

"Recpect is a gift. If somebody wants to give it to you, they will. And if they dont, they dont." ..."You cant force it.. and sometimes, you dont need it."

My mentor was a homicide detective and he always told me to trust my gut “feeling” bc that’s just my brain processing information so quickly that it feels like “intuition” even though it’s usually not

Often times being "underestimated" works to your advantage.

"Respect is a gift...and sometimes you don't need it."

This woman has helped me more in 48 hours (of binge watching her speaking) than most of the adult figures in my life combined. I’ve seen a real change in the way I interact with people, with myself.

The best 52 minutes I've invested on. I will continue to replay this video from time to time to really absorb everything she said. Such an intelligent and articulate woman.

I have ADHD and this interview is the first that I listened to without getting distracted and needing to rewatch to understand. I love her so much.

"I fail a lot.. yeah failure is my superpower, the more I fail the more resilient I become and the less afraid I am of it.." BOOM

Notice how her character changed when she talked about failure being her superpower? That was her emotional side breaking out. The way she looked down and smiled is what we do when we're remembering something specific. She's probably remembering a time of her life which she failed so hard it forced her to wake up. She's grateful for the experience of that event because it fortified her. We must look at all our failures this way.

Wow. This is probably one of the most influential interviews I’ve ever watched. She just schooled me on so many levels. She is goals at life.

"Weak people push other people down so that they can feel stronger" - great quote, for all of life, for anyone! Im only 15 minutes in and loving this advice. Be likeable but dont make being liked the goal, also great.

I wish it were mandatory for all schools to have at least one talk a month from people like this, there is so much to learn (other than what kids learn at school, which isn't real life lessons). Children and adults need to listen to this talk. Thank you so much!

"failure is my super power-the more I fail the more resilient I become --the less afraid of it I become." Priceless

She's authentic; focusing on being her best self and her goals, rather than what others think. There is no other way to live, in my opinion. Way to go! Excellent job by the interviewer as well!

Im a guy and i feel empowered as a women after watching this

Hearing a woman saying that starting with the "I'm a woman" mindset being a negative from the start is so bloody refreshing. Jesus.

I absolutely love that she gives permission to leave a situation without guilt or shame. This is my go to for healthy coping with PTSD. I’ve given myself permission to leave a situation and I always make sure I have an “out” and that my freedom / mobility is not in the hands of another person.

It’s okay to be rude, to get to safety, if you have a gut feeling that something is wrong. Thinking about it now, I feel pretty stupid that I put my not being rude above my safety. Needed to hear this

Insanely strong person. Her attitude is everything and it was probably 90% of her achievements and success. Great job Lisa and her team for this guest.

Presenting yourself 13:28 Influence towards goal 15:35 Self Assessment 21:36 Introduce a disrepute 23:40 Intuition (gut instincts) 25:12 Researching 6th Sense 27:20 Plan & Preparation/Training for the 'What If' 28:08 Embracing Confrontation 29:55 How to Confront without the Battle 33:20 Body Language, Verbal Language, Para-linguistics 34:50 - continued discussion throughout interview Examples of Interviews 37:00 Listen to People (open ended questions) 38:10 Assumptions (Confirmation Bias) 39:10 Knowing when someones lying (study human behavior) 41:30 Myth 'Look me in the eye' 43:30 Lying through Omission 44:40 Saying 'I' a lot 45:10 Lying and being Vague 46:00 Learn people (Empathy) 46:30 Put yourself in their place 46:53 Superpower - Failure 47:36

I naturally pay attention to body language, intuition, their social media accounts, listen, etc this is how I base my judgement of someone. It isn’t that we don’t all lie, we do, but what you lie about says everything about someone.

Don't ask, "How do I want this person to feel about me?" but rather, "What is the outcome I want from receive from this interaction?"

Stumbled upon this video and did not think I would watch till the end, yet here I am 50 minutes in. Great content and a stunning intellectual.

The only times I’ve gotten into trouble or had bad results is when I don’t trust my gut.

This interview is so incredible! Talking about gut feelings reminds of something weird that happened last summer... I had a casual "date" last year with a tourist who was on holiday where I live. We went for dinner. Halfway through what was originally witty and intellectual banter between us, I started to feel very uneasy in this man's company. I couldn't pinpoint why, but I had developed an unshakable feeling of anxiety. So, I made my excuses to go home to sleep early etc. He invited me to go for a walk on the beach at his hotel, but I declined. Then, he offered to drive me home. I declined again. We walked out of the restaurant together and chatted a bit before we would of made separate turns. As we walked, he asked me again if I'd like a lift home. I live in a hilly Greek village, and in a moment of laziness, I thought to myself, "What's the worst that can happen if he drives me? I know these roads better than him, plus it saves me walking uphill!" However, in that moment of internal deliberation, I heard somebody call my name in a whisper, as if they were right next to me. (Which was odd, as all the bars and restaurants were so noisy.) I spun around to see who could be standing so close to me to whisper like that, but there was nobody. I suddenly had the strongest instinct to RUN. By now, my gut was in somersaults and I was freaked out by all these feelings... Plus, I didn't want this guy to think I'm a crazy person just randomly running off into the night down a busy high st lol... As I was assuring myself he is not dangerous and that I was overreacting, I turned back to look at my "date". His eyes that bore into mine sent utter chills down my spin. They were pure malevolence. I will never forget those eyes. In that instant, I heard my name called out again by the same voice. But now loudly, urgently. As I turned to the direction of the voice, I saw in the distance Alecos, my neighbour and taxi owner. He was walking some customers to in his taxi. I knew I had to RUN. By this point, I didn't care how rude or crazy I looked. I just knew I had split second timing to reach Alecos before he drove off. My "date" was left standing on the pavement. By luck, Alecos was driving his customers near my home. So my story has a safe and happy ending. However, I truly believe I was saved from a terrible experience. As for who I think was calling my name? My guardian angel.

Evy is such a freakin BOSS! That energy is so assertive yet it also communicates, "I don't have time for your shit and I don't know how to beat around the bush" I loved this interview so much!

Right there is the utmost poster girl for "beauty and brains".

Oh Lord, she is breathtaking: her attitude, intelligence! Such a powerful woman on every level!

She’s remarkable. I can’t get enough of her honest conversations

"If you're blaming everything that's going wrong outside of you. . . You're not being you." Personal responsibility requires emotional maturity.

Evy is amazing. Articulate, confident and knows what she's talking about. And so was the interviewer... asking the right things and not interrupting. Loved it.

You don’t learn anything when things are going right. You learn when things are hard.

Notes: 1) Moving chair 2) Don't tell people you are the boss 3) Knowing your audiences and adjust to them. We have different versions of us depending on our audience 4) Look does matter. Esp for those people who don't know us. They make 1st impression of us within 5 seconds and it is hardly reversible if it is negative 5) Assess our goal, and communicate to get to the goal 6) Goal is not for people to like or fear us. Instead, we can accomplish if we are competent and WARM. Not cold 7) Pull out the good quality in people, then only they will highly co-operate 8) Don't take it personally when people lie to us. Don't say that people lie to me coz I am xxxxx.. Instead they lie coz of their ownself. They might want to protect themselves,etc. 9) Walk away from situation that make us angry. Don't react. Don't be repulsive. Wait for 24 hour. Don't send that email or text until 24 hours. Introduce a disruptor. Go somewhere else. Do something else. Do something to distract fron continue thinking about that situation 10) Follow your gut feeling! 11) Do not avoid confrontation. Embrace it. "I hear you. I disagree with you and here's why.." let them scream, let them become a fool, we just sit on our chair. SOMEONE IS YELLING AT ME, SO WHAT?? SOMEONE IS CONFRONTING ME, SO WHAT? Think like that 12) In the confrontation process, don't yell at people at talk to them like they are garbage. Avoid calling people rape, liar.. Instead ask, hey, did u hurt her? Did you take that money? 13) Listen to people. 80q listen, 20q talk 14) Do not make assumption or else we will fall in Confirmation Bias. We only listen to what we want and turn it to be something we have assumed earlier. 15) How to know if someone is lying? Body language, looking at they eye or not, omission (leaving out some info), stalling technique (asking back question). Observe the language they tend to use: often will leave out the 'i' in conversation due to lack of commitment, are they detailed or vague, liars are vague

"Weak people put other people down so they can feel stronger" - So true - see it for what it is and recognize it is a reflection of the other person and not of you. Remember who you are and don't let anybody dim your shine in your mind. Never give the power of your self away. When you know your worth and all that is great about you - you have the mental strength to validate yourself - you don't need to prove your worth or argue your value to some third-person who will never know you as well as you know yourself - thank you

This is complete validation! lol I'm a therapist and I teach these principles to my adolescents and teens in middle school ("Know Your Audience" so they can anticipate reactions; "Use your intuition" for protection from dangers in life and not silence it; "Disagree Tactfully" so you can have a conversation of differing opinions and not an argument, listen to LEARN not to ARGUE and be RIGHT because they may give information that triggers a shift for you.) YES!! Reframing is also a therapeutic technique I teach parents (You can yell all their flaws at them or you can acknowledge their mistake and talk to them about how and why to make a different choice)

As a child I was told how I should think and feel, so I learned not to trust my instincts. As a result, I've spent most of my life doubting myself, and over thinking everything. It's been a slow, painful learning process. I like her 24 hour rule of responding vs. reacting. My gut feelings have never been wrong.

It’s so great for women, but also for teaching teens to listen to that inner voice or ‘gut’ or intuition! It is a valuable life skill that can be life saving. Additionally, to not be afraid to act on that feeling - meaning don’t be afraid to look crazy for a moment. For example, when I was about 17 I had to walk home after work at a fast food restaurant. We lived in a very, very rough area, but we were very poor and I had two after school and weekend jobs. So I took whatever shifts were offered. One night I helped close and started walking home at 11pm. Suddenly I realized three guys following me and cat calling. Then I noticed they were closing the distance between us. It felt like a pack of wolves getting closer. Just as they got within 10 feet of me I notice two adult young men about 20 feet ahead. I had never see them before, but called out, ‘hey guys wait up! You are supposed to be walking me home!’ with a cheery voice. They turned around surprised and laughed as I started jogging towards them. They had stopped to watch this strange teenager in her silly uniform coming towards them. The wolf pack stopped and then turned a corner. I never made it to the two young men, as they laughed again and went on their way. Yet, I am sure that I saved myself from being harmed that night. That was the first time I trusted my gut and took action. I wish I had done that when I was younger, as it may have saved me from being raped across the street from the apartments where we lived - in broad daylight.

Wow, I came across this video by accident. It's like the universe led me to this video for a reason. EMPOWERING WOMEN! AMEN! #impact

INCREDIBLY IMPRESSIVE. I`ve watched hundreds, maybe thousands of interviews and speeches about psychological topics... So many people out there giving their 2 cents on what they think they know about human psychology and she just handed us a whole f*** DOLLAR. WOW!!!!

This is the type of class I would have LOVED going into back in school: the basics of life, interactions, relationships, trusting your gut feeling, how to over come fear and or confrontation. Just to name a few and to have HER as my teacher. Every second of this interview was “FIRE!” Just to quote interviewer! 😉👍🏽

Evie has changed my life by just watching two of her interviews. she’s truly helped me step into my power again after an extremely abusive relationship.

Just because you know someone is lying, does not mean they will actually tell you the truth.

This woman is not only stunning, classy & articulate, but also brilliant! I learned a lot. Thank you for this amazing interview.

Evy is like a real-life Disney princess, her eyes are incredibly beautiful. This is the kind of person I look up to! I deeply admire her skill and intelligence. We need more people like her in the world! 💗

This channel is my daily ritual, I clean, cook, relax listening to these interviews. I feel empowered and prepared and SAFE in this virtual space you’ve created, and for that I am eternally grateful. I will continue to support you and the women and men that participate to cultivate this incredible community! Thank you so much Lisa and team ❤️

I have been "binging" on TED talks and old Oprah interviews the past few weeks, trying to keep my mind focused on something not related to COVID19... This is by far the most interesting and useful talk I have watched.

There’s not a dull moment in this episode. This is something I would like to come back to time and again

This is real education.

I really appreciate her letting her talk without interrupting constantly, great interview!

My dad always told me to stand back and listen without saying a word and you will learn alot. This has proven true in some many different situations in my 39 years.

I love how the interviewer reflects back what has been said and clarifies, instead of pushing an agenda

Dang. I want to read the comments, but the conversation is tooo interesting.

I wish someone like her would have been my role model when I was younger

Wow I was so upset , just watching this made me calm down and realize my ego was in the way and the goal . And never self checked myself. Thank you

She is absolutely amazing!! "The more I fail the more resilient I become!"

The interviewer is such an empath. I want to hug her. haha

Lisa is so admirable. She tops any network news interviewer. She is strong, humble and naturally beautiful in and out.

Oh my goodness this was in my recommended and I almost didn't click on it and I'm just so glad I did. This woman is remarkable.

At 27 gut feeling is your guardian angel protecting you. Listen to it. It works for all aspects of our lives. Greek mama bear here very proud of both of you.

Woha! Beeing surrounded with sociopats or narcissist for years teaches you similar knowledge. What a Gift of Strenght! when you are not entangled.

Silence is the loudest response towards ignorance ( my quote) 🎯 I love her! Just ordered her 📕

My favorite phrase from this entire interview has got to be " even people who don't mean to harm us, harm us" soooooooo true!!!

I love this woman and I'm only 20 minutes in and she's gorgeous too! I'm a therapist and she is giving great info in general...

ALOT of men do that ladies , put you down to make themselves go higher ! And women are not loving themselves enough to see that!

The good part of internet is it makes you “meet” people with a type of mentality you wish you’d go across at least once in your life. Such an interesting conversation, thanks !

The vagueness is so true... someone who's lying is extremely vague.

I agree so much on the confrontation part. I learned this by working as a nurse on a Psychiatric unit. You let patients vent, that's energy. Once the patient is calm, you can speak openly and as far as my experience works with 90% of the patients and it avoids unnecessary restrictions/use of medication and provides a space to rapport-empathize with the person. I love my job. 😊

She's a Queen. Intelligent, strong and gentle.

I love all interviews with Evy, she represents everything I admire and respect in people. Thank you for inviting her to the studio.

"There's one common denominator, me. If something goes wrong -- I ask myself what could I have done differently or what could I have done to change the outcome because I can't control what another person does but I can fully control myself."

"Failure is my superpower." Thank you, Evy.

She's right. It's all about listening and observing. Understanding others instead of projecting.

Wow. What a woman. 20 mins in and I already know that I’m watching this for a second time, just to make sure that what she says here goes in properly.

She's so real, no acting, just authentic

When she said her super power was failure it brought tears to my eyes it’s such a powerful and positive way to change the narrative definitely getting her book 💜

This woman has given me a 30 year life lesson in this 52 minute 5 second video. This is the definition of street smart (Harlem) and book smart combined in one. Her eye contact is captivating::.and she’s beautiful too. This the new definition of Triple Threat! I for sure underestimated her when I clicked on this video.

As a midshipman at the naval academy I love seeing the parallels between her training and the training in the military. Putting people under stress in controlled environments, making them get comfortable being uncomfortable, and developing mental resilience are all things the training shares. She is amazing and spot on about being a woman in a male dominated field! You simply perform and let your actions speak for you

I taught my children to always trust their gut feelings. I call it our early warning system from God. If you feel uncomfortable get away from that person, place ,or thing! It has worked so well for them that they have trained their friends to do the same! I know that I have avoided some really scary situations because I didn’t second guess my gut instincts!

I feel like I was brought to this video at the perfect time in my life!

I’m an intuitive empath, so I read people immediately. I have an instant feeling about people upon meeting them. If something isn’t right with them, my spidey sense ramps up! Bless her heart, Evy worked with evil administrations from both parties. I’ve watched several of Evy’s videos and she’s pure badassed-ness! I’ve heard things I already knew and learned some valuable information! Evy is a wealth of information. My super power is chronic illness of over 10 yrs. Pain is an amazing teacher. All love to both of you, in oneness! 🙏🏻💞🕊🕊

The discourse on your sixth sense is validating. There were many times when I lived in Chicago where I had a gut feeling and I removed myself quickly from a situation. I always thought, well maybe I'm being paranoid, but you know what? I'm still here.

My problem is that I knew every time my ex husband was lying but his first reaction was to deny & tell me I was crazy.

She hooked me up on the first compasses of the conversation with the stress explanation. Basically what she said was something like "coping with stress is an intangible muscle that needs working, work it because everntually you'll need it strong"

“Let them become the fool.” Love that!! Great advice. She’s awesome! So sharp and wise. And seriously, what about those cheekbones. She’s like a sculpted Goddess. Not to objectify her, but I can see how her extreme beauty is a positive distraction. And the para linguistics and matching tone techniques she mentioned are fascinating and so valuable. Great interview!!

The challenge today is hot to treat crazy people because most of the examples are with people who some sort of mental organization but there are so many people with mental issues today which don't follow much logic.

Self assessment is such an important factor to her success. Two ways I would suggest to fast track this is Journalling and Meditation. Nobody will lie to you more than yourself. Thank you so much for this amazing interview Lisa!

One of the best interviews I have ever seen! The interviewer let the guest speak and give her knowledge and experience. The guest gave wisdom that can apply to anyone. Smart people on both sides of this event. Kudos!

My “sixth sense” has never led me astray. Not even once.

Body language gives subtle warnings , our feelings get in the way of exposing it

I like Evy's 24 hour rule. I practice something similar. Sitting with and respecting my emotions until I can transmute or address them logically helps a lot. I don't have a time frame on it though because I usually wait until whenever I calm down.

“Respect is a gift, you can’t force anyone to give it to you.”

Damn! Downloaded. Listening to this every morning until believing this is as effortless as breathing.