13:36 “Typically in life, later equals never”. This is the reason I like Todd’s content so much, because his advise is not just useful for Dating but for life as a whole. Truly one of the best couches ever.
I appreciate it. And yes, I can't emphasize the importance of action enough. It's not the whole solution, but without getting started, you're not gonna get anywhere!
Summary: 0. Active / Passive misstakes. (Active are less excusable) 1. Not having condoms - Bring two with you always. Its a priming technique/ reminder of 'game'. 2. Dont invite a girl to a place if you dont want to do the activity of that place. 3. Live in a bad place for dating. 4. Putting dealbreakers in your profile. 5. Poor style and fashion. Just lazy or stupid? 6. Trying to define the relationship before there is a relationship. 7. Bringing up a loaded topic on the first date. 8. Cant bring girls home. 9. Sandbagging your photos to be more honest (make good pictures( ex profile) and dont make them less attractive). 10. Putting it off (start gaming now, not later).
I would like to add: Letting the girl know like her too early/telling her you like her. Your actions should show her you are interested but not yet fully sold on her. I have personally struggled with this one, but I am never doing the same mistake again.
@@jean-pierreparent1408I have a hard time dating lots of people at the same time. My life is just so busy, it takes enough time to wrangle one person into dating me
Yeah, this really screwed me completely with a few girls I liked in the past before I really knew anything about any of this stuff. Of course, a girl doesn't want to jump right into a relationship with some guy she just met and it goes the same way the other way around. IMO, trying to pin the girl down into a relationship when she doesn't really know you just pushes her into a corner where the safest option is to friend zone you, on top of the fact that especially if you don't have other options, she feels like she can have you and that dampens whatever excitement might have been there.
Same experience I had too, and i concluded the same thing about what the girl feels. Well, we learned from our mistake, and won't tell the next girl too early we like her but will keep showing her that and let her bring up the label or show if she's interested in taking it further, right? 😅@Firecelebi
I suffered from the do it later mindset (single dad, working 80hrs/wk on my business, living in a warehouse), then when I was finally ready I did in fact start, but I was years behind. I got into a relationship with an incredible girl and effed it up completely with novice moves. Start now is right. If you don't meet the woman of your dreams or even get a single date, that'll be the same as if you didn't try but now you'll have months or years of momentum. 👊
It depends how you do it, if you ignore women out from the blue without even knowing them you are just creepy and will be single for the whole of your life, you need to attract them before ignoring them, anyway if you put your efforts ignoring women it simply means that you are not ignoring them, instead you are too busy thinking how to ignore them and so you are considering them, let's say focus on yourself sounds better as an advice
@@hansnielsen6280 absolutely nothing, but it's not in this way that you should connect with a woman. Women are smart, they understand when you are ignoring them on purpose and when you play mind games on them, they are not stupid and so you get zero results with women if you believe to connect with them in this way. Ignoring a woman is something that insecure people do because they do not have the balls to approach them, they do not understand how to relate with them and they believe that they can solve the problem making the woman do all the work, but again I repeat, women are smart, they understand it and you get zero results in this way. Anyway there is a bit of truth, if you firstly attract a woman, making her fall for you and then you ignore her she becomes even more attached to you, but you need to attract her first, because if she does not feel anything for you, you can ignore her how much as you want she simply does not feel anything for you and this technique does not work, however if you ignore her on purpose she understands it
Todd thanks that trough your free videos you actually gave me game, and guidance that i was missing from my life. I improved with girls you alongside some other channels, made me who i am today. A journey of 5 years that i started enjoying my life once again.
I had a date from hinge planned today, watched this video and went out and bought a small pack of condoms, and I did feel different after. She flaked, no call no show, and I adjusted that message you have in that one video where you suggested the quick call. It actually felt like no big deal when I messaged her that way. After waiting around for a little bit I walked to another museum (since the one I had invited her to has weird time slot rules) and actually cold approached two pairs of girls. The first pair was intimidating. I had to psych myself up a little, but eventually opened a door for them and asked them about their favorite exhibit and they were super receptive, introduced themselves to me, and we chatted for a few minutes. One of them started to seem like she wanted to break it off, interestingly the hotter one seemed more invested. I managed to conceal the fact that I was super nervous and even kind of cold read them and comment on how one was into more classical art and another was more into the weird stuff at the museum. Then I approached another pair who seemed a lot less talkative, I also wasn't sure if they really spoke English, so I just told them to have a good day and moved on. I didn't get any numbers, but I walked away from the whole thing feeling like such a goddamn king. Your videos popped into my feed right at a point where I was sick and tired of getting caught up in oneitis for girls who were either unavailable or who I ended up chasing away, lol. I've been finding all your advice so simple and obvious, and I'm really excited to see where it takes me as I keep going with game.
I like to dress down but stylish on first date…so when girl shows up in heels and all that…now she’s the one who feels overdressed and the frame becomes the date is a bigger occasion for her than me
I can attest that having an active dating life motivates you to improve your life in other areas. Don't wait! Just start now and improve along the way.
50/50. I've been in game community for almost a decade and I've some pickup guys go on to crush it in other areas of life, and many others have become degenerates who messed up every other area of their life because all they wanted to do was party and meet girls.
@@ZM-dm3jgYeah, absolutely man! It can cut both ways. Especially if someone is new to game, it can be addictive and cause them to lack in other areas. But if you're someone who tends to be complacent with your work, your health and your lifestyle in general, as soon as you start dating more quality women with more values, I think it is essential to increase your desire to improve, to at least keep up with the high level of women you want to continue dating.
Haven’t even finished watching but must respond. Ignoring your own deal breakers just to have a larger pool is idiotic. You’re wasting your time and theirs if you’re going to reject them anyway. Be true to yourself.
Yeah, don't bring up any of the "X" topics...I had pre-date phone call with a girl just a week ago. We went from dating app to phone numbers in a few days and the date was just a day or two later. The timing was on point. She was fun, cute and flirty. We got on the phone, it was great, I brought up my ex was Asian...That's all it took guys. Turns out this very whitewashed girl I was talking too is like 25% Asian and she felt "fetishized" lol and cancelled 2hrs before the date.
You know, what's dumb? After years of uploading to youtube, having finally a consistent format with good content and ruining it with annoying flashes and clicks that drive people crazy.
@@advsonhereI agree. Very methodical and detailed without any vagueness and always tries to make this thoughts comprehensible. He got so much better in explaining complex topics than before, less cerebral, more relatable but still logical. I just hate the flashes and the clicking.
@@tank6641Sure, it's a personal problem, when the screen flashes white and your pupils retract every time and your eyes start to hurt after the 10th time.
Do you plan to review reality shows like Single's Inferno? I'm interested in hearing your perspective, similar to your analysis of Hitch. Thanks for the great videos, as always.
Most dating coaches are really full of bs I didn’t even watch the whole video but at least you give men solid information and real world tips the stuff your saying I common sense for many of us
Can't understand single guys whatever age don't care about their looks. Be honest enough to think about what criteria do you have to girls (not looks😂?) Character is important but you don't see it on a pic and probably not enough on the first few dates. I think that's one of the reasons couples met at their workplaces, they have no pressure and enough time to see the character of the person and suddenly is an average person an attractive person👍
So if you still live with your parents and cant bring girls home to close is it how do you make the best of it? Should I just focus on nightgame and try to pull to girls who have roomates? Daygame feels like a waste unless I stretch the dates out and get the girl to somehow invite me to her place
Why can't you bring girls to your place? As long as you have your own room and don't sleep in the same bed as your parents, it's fine. Or are your parents somehow strictly against it? Don't make a big deal out of it, it's only a big deal, if you make it one. If she acts surprised, make up some dumb jokes: "Yeah, I like momy to watch us do it." "Or, finally I can introduce someone to my family." Or idk. just something, that communicates to her, that it is, how it is and that's ok, without justifying yourself.
Well the last tip may apply for me, I am right now job hunting and it also my only free time for doing game. I do see that cycle apply of pushing it longer and longer in the future. I need to reflect on it more and maybe reconsider.
Confess I’m hopeless at this but you can tell by how a woman looks at you if she’s in a secure relationship. You get the same look from a woman in an unhappy marriage or relationship though.
Great tips as always Todd! But can I just point out that the cuts (flashes and photo clicks) are quite jarring at times on this video. Not sure if you had a specific reason for it, or just trying it out, but maybe you might wanna avoid it in future videos ;) just my 2 cents
Really tho focus on setting up a vehicle for emotional investment because the most fulfilling times I’ve had in my dating life were when it didn’t matter if we were together on a dirty air mattress in my moms house or the ritz Carleton she was still there and we were still having a great time if you can get a women to pursues you that authentically you’ll be good with women men need to be informed and taught more about how to establish this.
An example is like comparing coastal San Diego (where I live) to Green Bay, WI...I cannot imagine the women in Green Bay, being in parkas for 7mo a year are as worried about their figure and looks as a 28yo single female living in San Diego. NYC can have some awful winters, but my guess is the social scene and world class destination separate it from Green Bay.
I've heard the advice about no religion/politics/ex before and it doesn't make sense to me. I'm not religious. If all I'm looking for is another notch on the belt, fine, stay away from this topic. But if I'm looking for something that could turn into somethingand she is devoutly religious, I want to know that up front so I don't waste my time. We are not going to be compatable and there are plenty of other women out there. Same thing with politics. A person's political beliefs are a good indicator to me of who they are and I will judge them on it. It's a character trait that's important to me. If she holds beliefs that are incompatable to mine, I want to know that asap. I tell the story about my ex-wife all the time on dates. I tell the truth. It's never been an issue.
Do you think the region including St. Louis sucks for social interaction in general? Because I think people are grouchy here. And verryyy shy. Almost like people come here to be alone. I've never heard a pua or anyone mention my city in regard to that so if Todd V or anyone could commwnt, thank you
In the long run....Who really gives a f* ck ! That's where to be with all this. Men are temps ! ...relationships are a joke. Don't think that if there was a change in things she wouldn't show her lack of ability to be loyal.
Lmao as a uni student in my last year, I only leave my house for my part time jobs, one of which is teaching Kids Tf kind of logic is there in having a condom on you at all times when I don’t even meet new people, let alone girls that I wouldn’t even want to have sex with right away?
Todd I gave you a shout-out to Rollo Tomassi on his latest stream (toward the end) and he said he really liked your work. He said he would be down to have a discussion with you!
Usually people who so readily talk about those topics have their own identities revolve around them and are not interesting at all in other areas of discussion.
Chase God and your purpose my brothers 💯 Pleasure will NOT satisfy your spirit. Someday you will find yourself a the girl of your dreams. Until then work on becoming the man you want to be. This message is for those who are not looking for short term flings btw Jesus loves you, peace ✌🏾
@@fasileyayu God* of Abraham, Joseph, Moses and the father of Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. I’m not here to argue or shame bro, just wrote this to give a word of advice. A lot of people are trying to date for sex but that will only lead to disappointment for those who are looking for something meaningful.
6 years ago, it was easier to invite girls out before i got to late intermediate level (now), now its just getting tougher after covid, i dont know where i got stagnant, it can be my belief system or i just got older, there's no excuse
i find the same to be true for me. now inviting them out now is such a pain in the ass, between increased workloads and new passions they want to pursuit, travels etc. those 2 years of SCAMdemic really put a halt on people's lives, and since spring of 2022 everybody is just doing doing doing stuff. which is good, but it rarely leaves room for dating for some
