The Dumbest Dating Mistake Everyone Makes... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy) 

Vex T Umm maybe you've judged a bit too soon. Another way of looking at that writing is that it's absolutely crisp and to the point. That being said, you're entitled to your opinion. :) Have a good day ahead!

Perfect summary. Thanks Monali!!!

Monali Sisodia your Indian & Indian's don't date they directly get arranged with some unknown guy... so get out from here.. (a fellow Indian)

Yeah, but you're being passive aggressive.

And Sherlock is stereotyping your entire race to what is only common practice in your race's native country. That's not cool.

Melissa H 100%

SERIOUSLY!!!! As Matthew was saying all of this I wasn't even thinking or processing it only in regards to men or dating, I was thinking about it in all aspects of life in general! So enlightening!

I agree!

Agree!

Melissa H exactly

I noticed that too, unfortunately both sexes have the tendency to forget that the opposite side are just people.

The kind of aggression he is talking about is at least as common among females. So it is kind of sexist of you that you have thrown the word masculine in there.

@@Chiungalla79 Can't women sometimes be masculine and men sometimes be feminine. We both have both traits. How is that sexist?

@@TheWhisperTexan I agree with your first two sentences. But it changes nothing, and calling this masculine is still sexist. Why? Because it is as common with women as it is with men. But calling it masculine suggests that it is rarer among women. It suggests that it is a male trait that at times is expressed by females. And it isn`t.

He's the wahmen whisper

Slap your partner and mutilate him... but with smile and sweet words

This is like the old adage, speak softly, but carry a big stick..

such a empowering yet simple concept its like we have managed to blind ourselves from it.

Jen Mulyck This is so sweet

it is

j juniper very sweet and I hope you find love again.

The only gift in life that can never be taken back and always remembered is the time spent with the loved ones. May god bless you and your husband”s soul.

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I agree too emotionally attached

hopes and drems are enemy....

@@arorajivlogs1641 wrong: high expectations are enemies...dreams and hopes drive us forward. EXPECTING all dreams and hopes to come true is silly, but still a good force to keep us thinking positive and creatively.

I don't know if you realize this or not, but you just gave every single man who's had dating issues some serious inspiration :)

Yeaaaa… that’s crazy.

冰雪皇后 are u à hater with too much free time on his hand? Cause u'r on alll of his videos, u spend time watching first then hate after :D

You think?

Obviously because it's the truth and they can't handle the truth!

Waldzwölfen Because he's talking nonsense He just tells them what they want to hear A lot of women are very susceptible to this kind of bs AND from A MAN too You meet a man, you like that man, he likes you, you have a wonderful life together OR you keep going for the 'bad boys' because you think they're give you great sex - you don't, they're too full of themselves and you end up a 40yo spinster and all the younger prettier girls are arriving to take you place Nice guys also give you great sex too But they've already been snapped up by the smart women while the others are still being mistreated by the so-called 'bad boys' aka dickheads and losers

Waldzwölfen Unbelievable isn't it eh

Yeah 😂😂😂

It’s funny to watch this as someone who isn’t neither in love not interested in a relationship 😂 soo much drama

It’s funny that in this video he is making course corrections for girls who misinterpret what he’s saying and in the comments girls misinterpret the video.

But I guess this does not only work for women

S R I doubt it works at all

Sounds smart

emotionally intelligent (nailed) “Education is no substitute for intelligence.” ― Frank Herbert “It is so shocking to find out how many people do not believe that they can learn, and how many more believe learning to be difficult.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune

k-love "Constantly teaching" I can see why you're new to the profession if you're always telling them to do something What is "emotionally intelligent"?

+Agent J Back it up.

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He smiled and said "Oh, you're cheating on me!? Hmm, a little surprising but no big deal. Wanna go for lunch tomorrow?" then slits her throat on the way home.

lol

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😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Nice.

True. It's all about psychology. I find it useful too.

That’s a ridiculous assumption to make

@@boomds5602 But probably true.

I feel like a lot of fathers don’t talk to his daughter about her dating life, no matter how caring they are. There’s a lot of fathers who just don’t acknowledge that their daughter will date at all because in a way it’s accepting that they are growing up.

@@cardboardclub A caring father knows he isn't immortal, he knows he has to give his daughter everything he can so she can deal with men, with love, with death.

In many cases the insight is more missing than the care I guess.

Did great in spider-verse

Hot damn, i looked down and saw this at the exact moment it happened!

N Caged How's that working out for you?

Grace Lewis okay

GO GIRL YES

That's a bummer.. I hope you're happy wherever you're at now c:

He stood you up twice? Damn that's rough I'm sorry to hear that happened to you 😔

Try life as a man.

By two diffrent men..?

Everyone knows Jesus wasn't white.

@@murcielagosv9244 nor was he any other color, because he doesn't exist.

Neo NZ yasss 😂

Neo NZ because women are children

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franklingirl23 I agree but he has other things going on. You know what I miss, those love line calls... he needs to do something like that again! Learned so much from those!

quality!

Your my bliss point😍

Nothing is enough for women unfortunately example A the original comment

franklingirl23 why?

I feel like we're hardwired to pay attention to actions and just get annoyed by "appearances". I don't know what it is. When a girl is sweet to me I'm just over the moon for her. Catty, bratty is the biggest turn off, moreso than appearance. I was instantly uninterested in one of the hottest women I've met when she responded to someone with a snarky (not in jest) tone.

magpie_girl It has nothing to do with being lazy. Men with standards, expectations, demands are called as self-centered, narcissist... etc. Afterall, they should be glad even for getting a girl, a divine gift to him. Yeah... that mentality exist amongst women mostly. Other than that, just like how women are bored of judged based on looks only, men also are bored of being judged based on utility, based on how they can match women's demands. In reality, women are actually more lazy.

Just to clarify, it was just a list of demands, said absolutely nothing about her personality/hobbies/interests. Sure, everyone has a list of traits they're looking for, but this is a mutual relationship. If i wrote "you must cook me dinner every night, have sex with me, keep house clean, keep mouth shut" on my profile, everyone would think "wtf", yet she thinks it's ok to write that. Probably wondering why she can't find "Mr Right"

I think guys are basically looking for a woman who is attractive, fun, nice, and has a brain, in that order mostly. I've noticed in my experience with women that I am happy to spend time with women who meet those requirements, I really enjoy it; they don't need to have a giant laundry list of things I expect from them. In fact, I don't expect much of them, just that they are willing to get along and have fun. Now, I have much more stringent requirements for a wife, but that is way down the track. I find that women have much tighter criteria for what they 'want' in a man, like a wish list, and are more willing to rule out men based on some little feature. Maybe this is why men don't make demands on their profiles - they would rather meet someone they can enjoy time with than someone who meets their ideal preferences but is a bitch.

Mustafa U. That's a highly stereotypical comment. Not all men and women have a long wishlist which potential candidates have to fit in or abide by. I would never be with a man who doesn't respect me and for whom I am not a priority not because I am a queen but because he'll be my priority as well. Men are not viewed as utilities yes, women like to be loved and pampered but as long as it's mutual there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone has demands irrespective of gender and they don't have to make sense to all of us to be respected unless someone is outright rude and demeaning.

This is my take as someone of the opposite gender. Let me clarify that I will be using words like some, most, a lot of times, etc. But I will never say "all" because I know that isn't the case. Nothing is absolute, let's keep that in mind. Let's continue. I think most women have experienced a lot of asshole men who just want to have sex and are willing to be dishonorable, dishonest and right down rude and demeaning in order to get it, that it ends up burning them, scarring them and turning them into the aggressor. I can say I was pissed off at one point in my life and just sick of it. I have been insulted on dating apps by strangers out of the blue. If I was at work and not answered for the day, I'd open up the app to insults too. Someone who seemed normal on the app would turn into a douche in person, on the phone texting during the date, not paying attention, conversation without substance, trying to touch me thought evidently I wasn't into someone who isn't even paying attention to me. Sure, I would not talk to them again, I would accept any more dates, but the bottom line is, you can have so many of those experiences before you just want to eliminate the possibility of meeting one of those men in person. That's when you turn bitter and turn to writing lists of do's and don't. I am not saying it is right, what I am saying is, these women are wounded. Unfortunately, you have two choices: Pull out of the game, or come to terms that you will have to interview many bad singers, before there is someone you can give stage time because they can belt. But it takes patience, a deep self understanding to not allow yourself to become bitter and learning from the signs to adjust who you give a chance at a date. I ended up knowing how to spot the "I just wanna fuck" guys from the "I do wanna fuck, but I also want to get to know you" guys and my dating went a lot better. But Matthew is right, actions, no words are important.

Welcome, brother! Yes, it can change. Just takes a bit of work. Good luck!

Greetings from Nigeria 🇳🇬 I'm just seeing you here for the first time...I will like to know you more I hope you wouldn't mind

You go queen! Lol jk sarcasm

Hii greetings to you from Nigeria 🇳🇬 I'm just seeing you here for the first time tho... I will like to know you more I hope you wouldn't mind

Msruru100 it's true, examples are needed. People's definition of ruthless and sweet vary, person to person and culture to culture.

I think it's not so much not caring as having the courage of you convictions. Understanding your worth and what is acceptable for you and sticking to those standards but in a respectful way.

Msruru100 think of the relationship later on when things have become comfortable and you start to relax on your personal standards and giving in on things that are important to you... It will just get worse until you're resentful and feel that he doesn't care about your feelings... On the other hand once your standards are known...there is no need to test them and you can relax and enjoy the relationship as there is trust that you are protecting the others boundaries

Msruru100 ok

Ruthless = consequent, that's all. You are kind and approach people by giving them a chance to be themselves without fear of your judgements but are not afraid to let them know if something displeased you (either with words or gesturs, again with kindness yet with transparent actions - hopefully or not, the other will be intelligent enough to understand or else you will need to take a more direct route, not more abrasive, just direct). But being charmed, we sometimes over look some details. This is why later couple have it more rough, relationship changes, more aware of personal differences and personal details and less charmed and 'controlled' by your own instincts and more by your 'logic' and sometimes unreasonable reason. Deep in the human unconscious is a pervasive need for a logical universe that makes sense. But the real universe is always one step beyond logic (Frank Herbert - Dune book series). In indifference, your will is not there. If your will is there but you think it's kind of indifference, you might be misjudging indifference for a lack of self-knowledge toward who you are and what affects you. What do you despise? By this are you truly known. (Frank Herbert). If it is truly indifference then you know you are done here, time to move on. 'Ruthless' in your actions, lead yourself, not others. Enjoy your time while you still have some =]

Ouch. Why women in your country like that.women and men in our country may be poor but they are like that. They are already matured in the age of 18 20 24. That why 95percent of our married people have lifetime partner. But great message but that speaker. There nit much standard in country. We date them to know them. And there loyalty integrity no matter how hurt we are. Thats what famiky oriented made there son. And for me the cause of that in your country are the divorced rate and emotional damage that your culture. Put on the kids of divorce. My opinion only 50 percent divorce on your country right. Because they run from responsibilities.

Greetings from Nigeria 🇳🇬 I'm just seeing you here for the first time tho...I will like to know you more I hope you wouldn't mind

I was ghosted as well and we just so happened to see one another in passing by accident , I decided to be ruthless in my actions by not responding to the text messages and kinder in my tone all at once , good for me.

Hii greetings to you from Nigeria 🇳🇬 I'm just seeing you here for the first time tho...I will like to know you more I hope you wouldn't mind

War is better.

wow

And remmember people that is what Sun Tzu said. Not to be ignored.

Yep. Especially because it’s been proven by social science studies that the large number of women out there, once they manage to start earning more than their man, are almost always likely to leave him for someone else. So why would a man sign up for a relationship only to have to work to stifle his woman’s economic potential to keep her around when it’s better to keep her as a strong, single, independent woman who can go out and have her career? Meanwhile the man doesn’t lose out on anything because he never participated in the rigged game in the first place and can keep more of his resources for himself. Remember, men in relationships: hypergamy is real and it’s only a matter of time before it strikes you down.

Correct. You are under no obligation, and should not even attempt, to give women what they want, especially if it involves a sacrifice on your part. Do not give women anything.

If you see the world or men for that matter as peter pan (all of them, by saying peter pan land, I know what you mean, child men) then it will be difficult for you to find that person "who rocks my world". A man is another human being with problems, vices but also qualities, hopes and dreams. Try not to get caught in the paretto distribution, you will only meet players, unless that is what you want, which is also another way to stay peter pan, I know is difficult because women find more attractive those men (those who had the dark triad personality) specially on women who are still young or did not mature. As he said in another, the majority of normal men will try to talk to you at the best moment, and even if we approach we don't know what to say at the moment, don't be easy, but be easy in the beginning so you can give him a chance.

Because he's above your standards that's why.

Sounds a bit childish, but I guess men and women are different

now you know how it feels to be a man boo boo.

@R V oof someone got his heart broken

Laura Rosario sounds like you scratched his ego. I'm glad you're ok :)

Good for you and I'm glad you're ok as well. I agree it sounded like he just wanted a reaction but not the one he got.

Lmao sounds like he was trying to make you jealous. He probably felt insecure, like you're too pretty for him. That is so immature!

Laura Rosario he wanted you to fight for him instead of letting him go to that girl, lol. good reaction from your side😉

guys, I get he wanted her to "react" or "fight" for him, but that is immature and not the right way to get a confirmation on the relationship or for her to boost his ego if he was feeling insecure. The CORRECT way to get those things is to talk to her maturely! Ask her where their relationship stands, tell her he's feeling insecure. And in return she'll let him know what the deal is, and compliment him to make him feel better ! That's how real mature adults do it!

Mandy Reynolds let me answer you can totally turn on back but you need to be consistently sweet for him to forget it

Aleksis Naim oohhh boy lol consistentlysweet consistentlysweet- gonna have to have that on loop in my head whenever I interact with him now, no matter what he does!(or doesn't!) ahaha CHALLENGE. ACCEPTED.

Consistently sweet and salty (bliss point), but never butthurt.

Why recover when you can just cut that person out of your life completely?

jackfavvv People we really like cone along once every few years.

stars Watch RSDTyler. His advice is mostly for men, but who knows...some of there teachings might be applicable for women too.

Depends what they did that you aren't okay with. Let them know what and why. If it's important then don't let them get away with continually doing it. If they always are late, they may start being on time when they show up and you aren't there.

Makes sense ,but for some things there won't be an action to show in return

If you don't mind me asking, what might be something you can't respond to?

You show you are not tolerant by not tolerating it. By making a decision to move on and stop seeing him.

zariah 25 how Bout letting them know and following with an action to reinforce it.

Anders Breivik Sarcasm

Judging by your profile picture this is a joke. Honestly it’s what people believe which makes me sad

Funny, if you would warch matthews Videos, you would know that is not what he is advocating. He advocates always working on yourself in Order to attract a mate that is also high value. Be high value, than you will get high value mates.

​@@alissaa2809 Except what you call "high value" for yourself is miles away from bringing anything interesting into a relationship, to not say toxic

Anita Bonghit haha the wall defeats them all by age 37.

Wow I have exactly the same. Video in this topic would be very helpful :/

i agree with that. such a video would be interesting! 😀

Ladies nothing wrong with that, however, if that’s the case why not go dutch until you both decide the relationship is worth pursuing

The first thing you have to understand, is that due to men's wiring, they want sex 98% of the time, so when they go on a date, their expectations and/or hopes are that they will get sex by the end of night. Be forward with your feelings and intentions. A guy doesn't want to waste his time, energy, effort and money without something in return, and just hanging out with you platonically isn't going to satisfy him. The reason that would be is that men and women have very different brains. We stimulate ourselves mentally in differing ways than women might. If my options are: hang out with a girl that doesn't want to be sexual, or hang out with a guy friend whom I can have interesting discussions with about things that interest me and that is a common interest, or do a fun activity with that guy friend, I am always going to pick that guy friend. It isn't anyone's fault, but women and men simply don't generally find the same activities stimulating. Guys want to play a game or watch sports or go do an activity, whereas girls are content with eating and gossiping, generally. Of course everyone enjoys fun activities, but if I can enjoy a fun activity with my guy friends or a girl, I'm going to pick the guy. Anyway, sorry for the lengthy response. I am trying to be objective and honest in my response, which will be the most helpful type of response in the long run, even if it isn't what people want to hear. On the opposite end of the spectrum -- if you want to keep a guy coming around and you don't want him sleeping with other girls, bombard him with sex so regularly that he doesn't have time to be with other girls, and he will think you're amazing for always want to have sex. My favorite relationship I've had was with the girl that was most willing and most upfront about her sexuality and sex drive. She would actively ask me to have sex at the drop of a hat, and it was perfect.

Why be with a woman who doesn't even find him physically attractive. He'd have to work extremely hard to create attraction. Then she's liable to dump him after the first mistake he makes.