@@yvonnek4980 I don't think Shea meant to offend and didn't really. It's easy to get swept up in the media and marketing 'look young' barrage but not everyone can step back from it. I don't dye my hair and at 62 am definitely greying. But it's a choice (made mostly out of laziness, tbh) but I have friends and colleagues who don't feel as comfortable. The point is not to judge, which pushing the 'youthfulness' angle does implicitly. Shea's channel is about looking your best and it's most appreciated.
Absolutely! She seems to equate being off trend with appearing old, as if they're synonymous. There is a huge percentage of people who NEVER follow trends, it doesn't mean they look old! Wearing shapes that don't flatter your body type and choosing hairstyles that drag your face down and other broad strokes like that have the capacity to age someone, but the purse you carry having too many pockets?? Wearing a cardigan?? She was definitely projecting with the tips she gave!
@@lblincoe2094 To add a bit of humor, I'd say the opposite about purses: the older I get, the fewer pockets I want (makes it easier to find things!). She's also a fan of cardigans, so I think she was referring to the style. I don't think Shea meant to upset or offend anyone, which is why I pointed this out. Appearance, especially when it comes to age, is very subjective. Mood or frame of mind can change even how we see ourselves when we look in the mirror, so I wouldn't dwell on this too much. To paraphrase a cliche, age-appearance is in the eye of the beholder.
I’m 69 and I have seen every one of these styles come and go, it is an infinite circuit. After a while you find what works for you despite the trends. Classic never goes out of style. And I don’t deny my age no matter how good I look because I’ve earned the right to talk about all my lived experiences and I want to share those with others. It’s all a matter of perspective
right, I'm in my 30's and prefer classics. I don't go for the trends. Give it a few months and you now have "outdated" items. I'll stick with classics.
I’m the same age…. Seen all styles come and go, then come back again. (Peddle Pushers in the 50s)! I am happy about my age…. and just want to look good, not necessarily a lot younger.
@@ellbarrow22 Amen sis! i am only 40 and I have seen my teen clothing come back TWICE! ..lol... I just stick with classic and add a few chic items for pop :) Xo
I disagree with so much of this. The hair thing tho, it all depends on the person. After a certain age, skin tends to fade and lighter hair can make your hair look transparent, dry, and give you an all over sort of beige look which can look older. Darker hair can look more youthful. For some, too dark can be harsh and even accentuate wrinkles. However, it's all on an individual basis. I had an older French woman client who loved her dyed black hair and her total look was iconic. Now I'm going to put on my Mary Jane Doc Martens and my oversized aviator frames and look my fabulous arty self.
AH!! That's close to what I said. Too many women fool themselves into thinking that blonde disguises gray. Then they look washed out. That's why I think dark hair very, very often looks more youthful! I'm 68 and I'm sticking with my brown.
Shea, I really appreciate all your tips and your insight but why is the end-goal to look younger? More stylish, sure. More figure-flattering, totally agree! I’m pushing 50 and I for one don’t aim to “dress younger” than my age, I just want to look good regardless. And looking younger does not always mean looking better.
I think that the more appropriate term would be to aim to look modern. Not trendy, not trying too hard, just looking like your best, current self. Age 67 here.
I normally love your tips but implying that older is wrong and something that should be avoided at all costs is what’s wrong with society and adds to the continual pressure women feel to look forever 25. Maybe next time, you could just talk about outdated styles without constantly implying looking younger is better.
To a degree I think you are right. The pressure to stay looking young is wrong. But on the other hand: you feel better looking fresh and ‘hip n groovy’. Do people still say that? Guess I’m prehistorian 😂
I am in my 60's, and I agree with everything you said. I have hated the look of capris since I was in my 30's. Post menopausal women traditionally gain more weight around their middle, and capri pants give a diamond shape to the body which emphasizes this. My solution? Casual dresses in summer!
Ageism. Old and “ugly” are not synonymous. The fashion tips are spot on,however the word old was used as an insult...not cool. I’m 68 and so very proud.
Hopefully Shea lives long enough to be old. This video confuses “old” with “frumpy, unflattering, or outdated.” To use the term “old” as something to desperately be avoided merely supports the very real discrimination of ageism that exists in our culture. This video is very superficial.
Find me one video on this channel that is not superficial... I think Shea hasn't realized it yet but her idea of an influencer is quickly going out of style just like the capris she is bashing here. Promoting lots and lots of cheap fashion hauls, flaunting your wealth (all the jewelry), promoting Amazon... or the ageism you mentioned here. Current zeitgeist is moving away from everything she represents and I'm really curious when she will realize it. I keep watching as a thought experiment, we shall see.
Lol, well, yeah, it's superficial. It'd a fashion video. I take it with a grain of salt. Shea tends to push the boundaries of fashion and while I like some of her tips, sometimes she looks ridiculous. But I was a young girl once and got away with looking ridiculous too. Mature women are wiser and tend to be more classic
Ageism is the only -ism that is ok as far as society goes. I agree. Not old but frumpy, outdated, no style. I’ve seen women much younger than myself dressing like this.
Is fashion something you should worry about? NO it doesn't matter in the bigger picture but it is fun to look your best and make yourself feel good. And there most certainly is NOTHING wrong with that. There are a lot of things in life that do not matter but we care about. If you are doing it for yourself and you enjoy it, it matters because it gives you that sweet sweet serotonin. Making yourself happy has all kinds of health benefits. And if fashion is your thing, don't let anyone tell you that it is pointless. Nothing is pointless if you enjoy it and you aren't hurting others, of course.
I watched this video this morning and I thought about it sporadically throughout the day. I feel that I must share my thoughts. I have enjoyed your videos for a number of years. You present enjoyable and relatable content about fashion. However, this video feels different to me. Your expressing that there are studies that show that glasses age you by five years and that gray hair does as well seems a bit unfair, in my opinion. One does not understand the grieving cycle that women undergo when they age until one ages. This video makes you seem…I am sorry to say this… a bit ageist.
You are so right about the "grieving" that comes with the aging process. I'll be 50 this year and its hitting me reeally hard. We need to be made to feel like our lives aren't over just because we aren't 20 anymore. We're still the same fun, loving, beautiful people we used to be, just a lot wiser. ❤
I think I'm fortunate that in my job looking older gets you more respect. I wear glasses at work to look older, I'm 57 and work with men who are 50+. I dont mind my age at all. I dress nicely and have laser work done, work out, and think I look good for my age. But I am older and look it and I'm fine with it. If young people have a problem with older people, I don't care. My best advice is to embrace your age, take care of yourself, find meaningful work or volunteer and be around people who make you happy. Everyone ages. My goal is to do it with grace
I agree, I am going through this phase, I feel so much older all of a sudden, I dont think 2 lots of having covid helped and lo m down too. I feel society is becoming ageist in general. It is a bit frightening really. Life experience is everything, and an older adult has so much to offer. I dont normally take offence, but this one took the biscuit really xx
@@rach5516 Shea is a kid. I like dressed for my day with Kay. She has good ideas and is very positive. I think we just need to surround ourselves with more inspiring people. Shea has been pushing styles at a rapid pace and all I can think of is all the landfill she generates from buying and discarding things monthly. I thought young people cared about the environment. These videos are starting to feel very superficial to me.
I'm sixty, and guess what ... I'm completely ok with being my age. I've earned my right to dress however I chose. I have grown to the point that I don't give a crap what's in style. Eventually, you'll grow up beyond this need to be a style slave.. Folks, wear what ya want. Embrace your age, be grateful for your age. Stop listening to people's opinions. Oh gosh, your a genius, your spent 2 hours researching something! You are too funny! Oh and by the way... STOP AGE SHAMING!
Wow. Terrible advice about aging from someone too young to give it. Choosing styles that make you look older is quite different from avoiding growing older. Which are you addressing in this video? If you feel the need to apologize for things you are saying then you may need to re-think them. Started off okay, but went bad quickly. Aging is a privilege denied many.
I am also 60. I like to keep up with the times with clothes, hair and makeup. It is hard to find comfortable shoes that are flattering. I think she is right about the aging fashions. If you want to look old, go for it. I am not ready for that. I take after my mother.
@@minwells1069I’m 60 and last time I went shopping with my husband he started picking clothes for me exactly what my mother in law would buy for her self and she is a fun 85 year old lady but no thank I seriously don’t want to look older than my age I end up laughing at my husband and two customers standing next to me were laughing too.
I agree with you.Been there done that, what's next? Nothing...I do not know who made these people an authority on fashion.I tend to believe if they do not like a particular style you shouldn't also.Every influencer has a different opinion.I say wear what looks good and feels comfortable on you.
I disagree about brunettes going lighter as they age. Not all brunettes look good with blonde hair. I've seen brunettes go blonde and look much older than they really are.
Did she actually say to go blond? Anyway, older women dying their hair black look older and harsh, but a nice brown can be more flattering on the face. I've noticed that on my Italian relatives 🤌
Small floral patterns can end up looking like granny style pj’s too. Wear what you like, what makes you feel good and never give a shit what anyone thinks. Live your best life and count every single day as if it were your last. In the end, your family, health and how you show kindness daily are really all that matters. I’m 60 and soon to be 61 in a few weeks and intend to wear my age like a badge! Wait till you are older. You’ll soon realize all those purses, shoes and boutique closet you have don’t matter at all. What matters is within 15 feet of you!
Agree! One will realize it when it’s not valuable any longer. Health, happiness and family is more important then things and what you’re wearing/not wearing. Goodness.
I think your biggest mistake was making the focus on looking younger when it really just should've been out of date fashion. As you can see a lot of people don't care about looking younger but may not want to look super out of date and those tips are always helpful.
Shea... It's because when you get "older" you realize that a lot of these items are Practical! So, You get to an age that you really don't give a $h!t what people think! If somethings practical, Comfortable & you think looks cute, you really don't care! You'll get there one day!😉
Well her main purpose making these videos is to sell people stuff. And actually lots of these practical items she names „out“ are becoming very trendy in high fashion again.
Yes she will, I had foot surgeries from always wearing high heels until my feet wer numb and now I’m paying for it. Tons of cute flattering shoes out there.
I think we need to break the stigma of having gray hair as women. Why is it considered 'bad' or 'old' to have gray hair when alot of us get grays in our 20s-30s. When I hear someone complain about grays, I just cringe. Someone said our family has the 'curse of the early gray hair' and I'm just like.... is it really a curse though??!! come on people just embrace it! Not to mention, when a guy has gray hair we think it looks handsome and distinguished. hmmmm 🤔
Agree, gray hair can be very attractive. I think she meant women dye their hair way to dark and in a week gray is showing. Not cool. As we age we should go either gray or lighter much more flattering.
Grey hair is a descendant trait of a descendant body. It is a curse of being a stolen soul. All humans are descendant stolen souls with short lived lives. All humans are the descendants of the son of perdition. The reason humans are in a fallen world with descendant minds and bodies is because they are descendants of the son of perdition of original sin. When human's die they return to the son of perdition's soul. All humans are a part of the son of perdition's stolen soul.
I am 76 years old and I get what you are saying. I read and did not agree with some of the other comments from ladies. I totally agree with everything you said. I look much younger than my age because I pay attention to style advice and I take the time to present the best me to the world just as I did when I was your age. It makes me very sad to look around at so many women (most of who are younger than me) and see them looking frumpy and aged beyound their years. Your advice is to help us to not be invisible, not to be frumpy and to care about how we look. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. We can be beautiful at any age. I wish more older women would get that. Thank you!!! :)
Hi Shea! I appreciate your attempt to point out ways to look more attractive, but it kind of comes off as shaming, which I know you would never do intentionally. Perhaps you could frame your videos in a different light; say “how to look chic or modern at any age” instead of “you look OLD AND OUTDATED!” or “how to look classy and well-dressed on a budget” instead of “things you’re wearing that make you look CHEAP!” Please don’t insult your viewers by talking down to them. Keep it positive, upbeat and helpful, not shame-based. 💕🌷👍
@@alanaaguillera6366 🙄maybe people could toughen up a tad bit🤷🏻♀️ Everything nowadays is considered shaming, insulting, etc etc. I watch a lot of her videos & she isn't doing this is a shaming sort of way. Use common sense & know that some of her advice is good & usable & could help you improve yourself, some is advice you wouldn't/can't use & ignore. I don't understand why advice, something most people used to just take or leave, is now something to get up in arms about. Wow🤦🏻♀️
@@westie430 Probably her advice is or not applicable to you but it sounds very insensitive to some bcuz the comment we read off surely highlighted more subtle ways she can communicate her message . I think you are the one who is getting up in arms defending "insulting & shaming".
What is the alternative to "older?” And, you know I’ve been through a lot to get here, alive. I’m am also dead sick of endless "advice" urging older women to be ashamed of growing older.
Don’t hate her bc she is saying the truth. I am 61 years old and like the fact that cares enough to help us look our best. You don’t have to follow her advice.
Liked this video! I’m 67 & have been making the “better” fashion choices by instinct for years now. 💯agree with all you mentioned! Not only makes you look younger but IMHO more classic &fashionable 😀
Come on Shea, take this post down. It is offensive to people of all ages. Glasses, hair, shoes? you don’t know what conditions people suffer from at any given age. I’ll give you clothing items, but I think you went too far this time on the other things. Maybe next time make a video showing different eyeglass frame types you think are more youthful. People with dry eyes or other eye conditions can’t wear contacts. Show different shoe types that would look good on people who have swollen ankles or bunions, hammer toes, etc, or show grey hair styles and cuts that you think are youthful to women who have decided to let their hair go natural because they are allergic to dyes, etc.
I’m 61 years old with bunions and I wear glasses. I know it’s hard but there are a lot of choices out there of shoes that look nice and are comfortable. She said to buy whatever glasses you feel good on you. There are a lot of people like me that like her advice and you shouldn’t asked to be taken down. She is not putting older people down, we don’t need to take things so personally. We need to be appreciative of others when they are trying to help.
I don’t think she’s age shaming, I just think there’s better options out there for women my age (50’s ) and older than to dress like our grandmas did. If you don’t appreciate the helpful hints, then why watch this RU-vid channel ? 🤷🏼♀️
This is the way of all fashion advice. It's an endless cycle. It's fun for seeing what's in now. Don't take it so seriously. Many women regardless of their ages are dressing "old". It's a comment on current style and not about ones age necessarily. Swap "old" out with frumpy or unstylish, or "in need of tweaking"
Nope. "Boomer chic" is finally out! Yay! This is more than about style. This is about mindsets, politics, food, entertainment, society, business - every effing thing! Time to put the past out to die and to let the future in to live!
HI SHEA! I am new to your videos and am loving them. I'm in my 60's and modeled in my younger years, so I keep current with fashion and makeup trends, but I am acquiring all kinds of new knowledge from you! I know I'm getting older, but I don't want to be older AND frumpy, so thank you for providing youthful and fun ideas I can incorporate into my personal style. I also live in the Pittsburgh area and absolutely love your quirky sense of humor. So happy I am a subscriber 🙂
Bermudas are AWESOME!! They are modest shorts, that are short enough to be cooling on a hot day, but still long enough to be modest and comfortable. I also love cardigans and shrugs over tanks and sundresses to preserve modesty. I will never give up these modest, comfy styles. I have short legs and truth be told, there aren’t any pant / short styles that look good or “magically” make my legs appear long. Lol (No, not even flowing linen pants!) I am opting for comfort. 😊😊😊
Wear what ever makes you feel good and happy. What ever age you are. I gave up doing the fashion thing in my 20's. In fact I tried to go against it to show my own personal taste. Being happy in your own skin is way more important than doing what is in fashion. Be a unique individual that others look at and say hay I want to be that confident to wear what ever makes me happy.
I agree with almost everything you said, but I also agree very much with some of the comments below : cardigans are not only for little girls (just like trench coats, they are classics), lighter hair or dainty prints don't suit everyone (even while you age, being aware of what flatters you in terms of color and design remains very important to be stylish) and using the words "old" and "ugly" as if they were synonymous is indeed quite disrespectful, and something youtubers should more be aware of. I hope my comment makes sense, English is not my first language ! ;)
I agree with you so so much!! Quite frankly, I think people should wear whatever makes them feel like their best selves. We’re all unique; and as much as I love fashion, I love to see a person’s unique expression. ♥️
Agree with your comments. I wear cardigans all the time, different colours and lengths. They are so much more comfy than a jacket and more casual, but still stylish. I don't agree with what this woman said in many respects. She comes across as judgemental and full of herself.
Bermuda shorts are literally on trend for this summer, as they are every summer. The difference is that whites, beiges and creams in high quality fabrics are the thing now versus the traditional denim. It all depends on how you style it.
I am 5’1 with a small torso. Wearing oversized anything makes me look bulky and frumpy. I can’t just wear an oversized cardigan or blazer 😱 And the smaller dainty print patterns scream “little girl” to me more than other stuff here.
A lot of the “out of date” items are what make summer clothes modest for those of us needing to cover shoulders and to the knees (especially in summer) by choice or religious readons. I would love to see a video with modest summer fashion alternatives.
Yes this!!! I too am a Christian and was drawn several years ago to shea’s wholesome spirit and lightheartedness which is missing in a lot of super worldly fashion bloggers. But recently her tips are for items that I wouldn’t ever be able to wear as a Christian and I too would love some tips for being trendy and classy while being modest. I know that there’s a way to marry the two and I would love to see her do it.
Go for linen and cotton material! There are tons of beautiful modest dresses, tops, pants and shorts made in these fabrics that are very loose and flowy. I actually feel cooler being more covered since I am more protected from the sun, but in a breathable fabric. Try Madewell and Everlane for some more affordable options.
I have so many thoughts, but my main one is this: Why am I, a 51 year old, listening to fashion advice from someone in her 30s? Especially when there are fabulous RU-vidrs in their 40s, 50s, and 60s+?
When did being older become something so terrible that we need a video about not looking it. I feel offended by this video and I’m not they type of person offended by pretty much anything. I feel disappointed now
Wow talk about being judgmental. People age and wear and do some of these things. Getting older is a privilege that a lot of people don’t get to do. I love short cardigans and floral dresses. I have a vintage LV bag that has pockets on the outside. I have decorative glasses. I wear capris. I also wear a barrette in my hair at work. Not to be rude but you could go with people in their thirties should not have very long hair like children do. This is such a snooty video. BTW I am 63 years old.
Agree with everything said here. This woman Shea is so full of herself (check out the bling and makeup). She is so judgemental. Perhaps she is terrified of aging. I am not going to take any notice of anything she says, not watching any more of her videos and am going to continue to wear whatever I want to. I have grey hair, wear glasses, wear cardigans in all colours, etc...
Shea appears very shallow in her knowledge of fashion. I’m younger than her and follow a lot of history bounding and vintage fashion RU-vidrs. Shea just insulted some classic staples as “a little girl’s style.” I wouldn’t take what she says seriously. She seems more like a trend chaser who believes her own marketing than someone who looks at the bigger picture to see how different body types pull off different styles. To call her a “fashion guru” is laughable.
Hi, It’s not about the age, it’s the tailoring (i.e construction of the outfit to fit your natural body proportions and silhouette. It’s your body, tailor all your clothes to fit you instead of trying to fit into the clothes) and styling (I.e steaming your outfit from the inside out to remove creases, choosing color combinations in your skin undertone, mixing textures, shapes, wearing proper underwear etc). With those two things done correctly you can make any outfit work whether you’re young or old. Works for any age group! Also, I have these tips that I think you guys might like: 1. Peplum. Peplum skirts, gown or tops can look good on anyone especially if you’re trying to hide your tummy lol. 2. Florals (large florals/dainty florals)/busy prints/shiny textures like sequins or shimmer/brocade/lace (doesn’t matter the age, the key is to make sure the floral patterns/busy prints are in strategic places you want to emphasize on your body. That’s what tailoring is for). 3.Matte textures( plain denim, plain jerseys, felt, pretty much anything you can use to deemphasize parts of your body or to complement the shiny/glossy textures). 4. You can also mix a flowy top or a light cardigan with a more structured pieces like a structured bag, trousers etc to create visual interest. If you’d like more tips please like this comment.
Pedalpushers for someone with good legs are very flattering. Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe and Grace Kelly etcwore them and it is a classic with a fitted top or button down shirt knotted in the front and a little scarf
Agree I have terrific legs from writing peloton and they look great on me. They show off all the work on my legs. White House Black market sells really stylish ones for us old people
That's what I was thinking while watching her advice about capris. They are classic and can be flattering. Like any type of pant, what matters is the quality, cut and how you style it.
Capri pants and bermuda shorts , help cover legs that have been through carrying babies, excess weight coming and going. Talk to us when you get older😂
Me, too! I’ll keep the grey hair, the cardigans, and the comments from my college students who think I’m a decade younger than my actual age! Confidence and attitude with a sprinkle of Retin A are my anti-aging secrets!
I don’t follow fashion trends or home decorating trends. Our house is decorated the way my husband and I like it. It’s cozy and comfortable. Ever since menopause, my weight has changed. I’m not 125 pounds anymore so I can’t dress like thinner people do, it’s just not flattering. I wear what makes me feel good about myself. If someone has the nerve to say something to me about what I wear or how my house is decorated, then maybe they aren’t really my friend. This life is too short and I’m going to do what makes me happy. It’s as simple as that. Trends come and go every day. I know this because I’ve been seeing young girls in bell bottoms! 😁
Wow, so many passionate comments about this video! My two cents is no disrespect to older women (like me at age 62) was intended BUT it still did come off as somewhat ageist. So, it wasn't the messenger but rather the message! Influencers need to learn to stop calling dowdy, out-of-style clothing "OLD!" And NO, we're not being overly "sensitive" but rather assertive enough to call out ageism whenever we encounter it whether it's intentional or not! Peace my pretties!
I agree with you Shea on everything but the cardigans. You said you see everyone of all ages wearing them. Well, yes, because they are classic. I have cardigan sweaters and will continue to wear them along with everyone else. The oversize ones make me look like a child that raided my mother's closet
I would just look ridiculous wearing a blazer on a casual walk in a park and sometimes just need a more airy option… cardigans are becoming extra trendy with the whole „preppy style“ thing besides
I actually think cardigans can be one of the most polished/classy/complimentary pieces to wear. Nothing more unflattering than the huge/oversize sweaters(recently trending)... they look like something I'd find after raiding my grandpa's closet.
@@blakelevi4006 There are alternatives to cardigans.The preppy style is not in style right now. If you are cold at the park then wear a light jacket from Lululemon or a nice activewear set that suits the weather.
@Lea Levi Totally agreed. Cardigans are classic and versatile. Blazers have their place, but can't replace the casual, soft, femininize feel cardigans bring. To be honest, I can't care less whether it is trendy or not. I have tons of cardigans in different length, design, and will wear them forever.
So Shea what is someone supposed to wear when you have varicose veins and not flattering! I appreciate your probably appealing to the younger crowd! But making others feel bad isn't cool!?
Agree! Spotted my first varicose/spider vein behind my knee at 16 years old, I'm 50. I saved all my money from my after-school job to afford a derm visit out of pocket because insurance considers it "cosmetic" ... fast forward, they escalated, multiple ablations, sclerotherapy etc and now I also have lymphedema :-(. I stopped wearing shorts in my early 20s because I was so embarrassed by them. I"m 5ft 2, so most "capri fit ankle length" and I feel cooler. Mid-life menopause is hard enough :-(
Shea - Challenge video: Please show us examples of comfortable shoes that look updated & stylish to wear with casual to dressy dresses and also with flowy long wide leg dress pants. I’m talking really comfortable shoes for those of us whose feet are trash &/or who must walk distances while dressed up (campus graduations for example.) Those of us with the miserable feet can’t wear those strappy high heeled shoes or even wedges that have much height. 👉🏼Thank you for your videos!🙌🏼 You help me be the cool & hip mom💃🏼🤣
Crocs make some really cute and SUPER comfortable wedge sandals. They're not too high, and I find them to be supportive and comfortable for achy feet :) and no, they don't look like the clog crocs!
I too like Vionic. David Tate make good looking extra wide shoes. Someone mentioned Croc’s they used to have a line that made dress shoes with high heels that looked like leather and stacked heels but felt like Crocs. They actually looked pretty good but were not designed for wide feet.
I loved her observations about capri pants - I have long had the same thoughts. And I also thumbs up her other great tips about dated and unbecoming styles. As for hair - for me, getting/being old (I am turning 77) is not about trying to make your face look younger, though, it is more about looking good - to yourself. So that you feel most comfortable about yourself. Grey can actually, as Shea says, happen at any teen-age to adult age. I barely have any grey strands, so acquaintances keep asking me if I color my hair. And I don't like that they think I do; the reality is I actually would like to be grey. I think, as said in this video, lighter shades are more complimentary to an older face.(And it happens that I can't lighten any more because for some reason that now turns my hair to orange.Which I do not want. ) But I think people who have grey should revel in the becoming aspect of the beautiful light silvery grey (or white) frame to their faces, without worrying about whether they look older or younger. Because they might just happen to look their age AND look Lovely.
@@Jonaontheradio To me the aim in this area has, for most of my adult life, been to be healthy, fit, and as pleasant as possible to look at. Those three are in no way synonyms to "young" and, sadly, many who are young are none of those (though it is mostly , but definitely not entirely, up to them). Fortunately, inner radiance, which is the most beautiful attribute of all, is also the most available by choice - by one's own will and effort to be strong, positive and consistently kind - for all the ages, from 3 to 103 and plus. I begin with 3 because I've seen little 3 year-olds begin to make such choices.
It got to 115 degrees where I live this summer. So the youngsters have decided that, if I’m not comfortable showing mid thigh on down, I have to wear long pants? Yeah, that doesn’t work for me. I see these young people producing video after video about what older women should & shouldn’t wear. Frankly, it’s tiresome. I doubt they’d respond favorably if we started doing videos about how some of their fashion choices are extremely unflattering, e,g. shapeless dresses & ruffles formerly reserved for 5-yr olds.
After watching this, I feel like setting fire to my closet. If you live long enough, you, too, will get old. You are what you are. You can't outrun yourself. Better just to wear what we want and stop making us feel ashamed of what happens naturally.
No one can make you feel anything. That's your own internal dialogue. She's just sharing tips to enhance Beauty. Deal with it. I'm over 60 and I appreciate her tips! And no, I don't feel bad about anything in my closet. My choices are my own.
I’ve been a subscriber and generally like your content. I’m 35 (maybe considered “old” to younger people and “young” to older ones). I do not do a thing mentioned in this video but even I’m a bit offended by the way this is presented. If I must have a comeback comment, I’d say the “older” and wiser you get, the sooner you would stop wearing fast fashion because we would start understanding quality over quantity. But I understand that’s where you get your sponsorships… I am Asian with black hair (and some grey now) with warm undertone and turning blonde will not make me or the general population “younger” but inappropriate. I hope the next idea to look “younger” after turning blonde is not wearing blue contact lenses even with no prescription. Wanna look like you have “long and lean legs”? No, but just wanna look proportional with the upper body. If you naturally have a very short torso and long legs, does it automatically make you look like a supermodel? Nope! I don’t have a problem with fashion preferences but I definitely have no interest to dress or look like a 25. Again, I think I just disagree with the way it’s presented, not necessarily the content itself.
100% agree with you... I'm the same age as you and I felt so uncomfortable watching this video. It's possible to talk about items that make one look frumpy or outdated without insulting the whole generation of women or making it sound like "old" equates to "ugly". Erin Busbee is a perfect example; she makes uplifting videos for women aged 40+ (although I think her tips are great for anyone!), with great advice on how to look modern, stylish, AND age-appropriate. I guess I'm no longer the target audience of Shea's channel; I ditched fast fashion years ago and I cringe each time I see rich influencers surrounded by tons of stuff giving overgeneralized fashion advice that is SO out of touch with reality for the majority of women... Again, I do agree with most of her points, but I just think it comes across as a bit insensitive.
I think you were reading more into it and she meant. You don’t have to be tall or blonde to be beautiful. I’m Italian decent and I like blond on me to cover the grey but it doesn’t have to be blonde.it could be copper or mahogany
Shea just insulted the whole vintage fashion community with her hate for barrettes, Mary Jane shoes, and cardigans over dresses. It’s fine to not personally like something, but she’s doing a lot more than that. Although vintage fashion is very diverse, insulting even a small part of it shows a great ignorance for how alive and vibrant fashion is. It’s stupid to hate on something just because it’s not trending. She shows how shallow in her knowledge she is by labelling it “a little girl’s style.” It makes you wonder how shallow her other areas of “expertise” are. I’ve seen some pieces pulled of flawlessly by woman of all ages, but they had a specific body type, while the same piece on another body type didn’t work.
I think if you had used the word unflattering instead of old, you would have received less backlash. No one wants to be called old not even those of us that are! There’s a stigma to being and looking old in our youth obsessed culture. I think we can all agree that our most comfortable clothing may not the the most complimentary. It’s easy to get in a rut and we all are conditioned to begin wearing the clothes that manufacturers make without checking to see if they actually say nice thing about us. Many just phone it in and their look is merely “covered up” because you can’t go out in public naked. I’m pear shaped and skinny jeans with spandex do not flatter me. I feel like a piece of bratwurst because they hug every curve. I do not wear them. Straight leg and boot cut are my jam. Oh and high waisted ones are good for me so I won’t have the dreaded plumbers butt. I don’t care what is “in style” or on trend if it doesn’t say nice things about me. Dressing to flatter or compliment your body type, accentuating the positive and toning down the negative, being purposeful in how you present yourself not just being clothed and having a positive attitude is the way to go. I agree nothing wrong with aging just want to look great doing it.
Hi, Shea! One note about capris. I am short waisted so wearing capris can help balance out my leg to torso ratio. The key, I have found, is finding the sweet spot for them hemline so they shorten the leg without the stumpy effect. If I wear capris, I roll them up so they end below the knee and above the widest portion of my calf. That usually gives me a solid 1/3 torso (with the right shirt), 1/3 pants, 1/3 bare legs with nude shoes. This is much better (for me) than 1/4 torso and 3/4 legs, especially since I am large chested. Or, as you mentioned, 7/8 or ankle length pants can work as long as your shoes contrast with the pants (for us short torso ladies). Love your videos. :)
I agree that capri length is unflattering on everyone. But I also think ankle and pedal pusher length ( just as you described -below the knee but above the calf) is flattering for everyone. But it has to be fitted at the bottom of the knee, not wide or loose.
It's funny because growing up if your pants were to high up the ankle they were called "Highwaters" and you got made fun of. So girl wear what looks good on you period. Capris and Bermuda shorts look really good on me but pants that are above my ankle or shorts too close to the knee or below them are really uncomfortable and look horrible on me too me so I don't wear them. (The Bermudas I have are not touching my knees)
EMBRACE YOUR SILVER LADIES!!! I stopped dying my hair when my first grandchild was born. I'm totally OBSESSED with making my SILVER (not grey!) Hair as bright and white as possible!!! AND I ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT!!!!
But she was in high school when she started graying. I'm sorry but no 17 year old from the early/mid 2000s is going to "embrace their grays". I get what you're saying, but if she wants to dye her hair, she can do whatever she wants!🤷🏻♀️
@@westie430 ofcourse she can die her hair!!! But a woman doesn't have to and shouldn't feel she has too, high school or not! That's my point. And I had a patch of "grey hair" in High school too, lots of people do
I just found your page! I love your suggestions and I LOVE that you get right to it. I’ve been trying to find good fashion vids and most ppl are just too fond of the sound of their own voice. If I’m 3 minutes in and you’re still talking about other stuff like the specifics of your links beneath, I’m instantly impatient lol. It just feels like these ppl don’t realize that most of us are busy and don’t enjoy watching ppl talking about themselves or their other vids they are trying to promote, we want you to get to the point! You are quick witted and you even talk fast and I really appreciate that!
I’m 60 and agree with all of the above. I hear what you’re saying on the hair color but I’m not ready to get rid of my fake dark hair yet. I’m naturally an ash blonde but went dark plum red years ago and love how it looks on me. Im also 5’10” so if my sparkles start to show most people can’t see it. I use the root cover up when needed. Im also blessed to have a daughter who’s a hair stylist so I probably get my roots touched up a little more often than if I had to pay full price for it. I often get mistaken for being in my early 50’s and sometimes 40’s. I do dress fashionably but I’ve strived to do that all of my life. I don’t wear stilettos anymore but I do wear cute shoes and there are so many cute sneakers out there that are very comfortable without looking like you’ve given up. Love your videos and you! 💕
Oh, I forgot! I do have older friends that have gone blonde as they’ve gotten older, I don’t think it’s a win for everyone. It is lower maintenance but a lot of times it just really washes out your face.
While I agree with most of your thoughts, I don’t agree with dying your hair to make you look younger. If you want to look your best your hair color should flatter your skin tone. You also just scared young girls with glasses into never wearing them. Looking young and sexy is important for your self esteem but being able to see is important for your health. Nothing attractive about a woman walking into a door.
I can't believe she said that. There's so much wrong with this video. I've been wearing glasses since I was a little girl. And she is wrong it does matter what shape you wear because it can one harm your eye sight if your lenses don't match up to your eye level. Two when I actually figured out what type of style looks good on me it made a huge difference in how thick my lenses were and how they looked on me. At 28 I got my first grays and they are silver and I have never touched them never will ❣️
Glasses are so much fun and such a great way to accessorize your outfit. My favorite glasses are my red ones. I always get so many compliments on them.
Thanks for sharing your opinion. Keep in mind that some people have no options on what to wear and have no wardrobes. The important thing is to wear whatever is available and thank God for it. Grey hair is a blessing and gift from God. 🙏
Let's stop stigmatizing aging--it perpetuates the idea that young = valuable and old = not so valuable. People should be concerned about aging in terms of sustaining their health and financial stability--not worrying about society discarding them as irrelevant. I dye my hair dark red to lessen the grays--you don't have to go blonde.
I think we need to consider that, for most of us, looking youthful is a goal i.e. not letting ourselves grow frumpy. Caring about keeping a youthful appearance can indeed go hand-in-hand with staying healthy and even financial stability. It's invigorating.
Great video! I'm 49 and embraced my natural grey hair a few years ago. I know it makes me look older and I'm probably mistaken for a grandmother when seen with my eight year old son. But not having to dye my hair anymore is so freeing.
Just keep in mind ladies that these things “really age you” IN HER EYES. She’s saying this as though these are rules and are the opinions of everyone. It is literally just HER opinion
@@Kay-uy4xn There are already more than enough people in this world making bank by preying on the insecurities of middle aged women. Is adding one more insulting "opinion" really productive? I don't think so.
Her goal here is to help anyone to stay in “style” whatever that is and also to help whoever needs a bit of it. The looks she choose to show us as examples are very outdated to me as well and I’m older than most of my friends and most of them dress exactly like this looks. I also have gray hair and I dislike to have it so I color it and it makes me feel better when those grays are “gone” Do whatever makes you feel good 😊 and happy and take the advice or leave it but this lady has good intentions. I believe!
Shae, you make some great points, however, some of us can’t wear contacts because of dry eye. I have worked out my whole life but now have crepey arm and leg skin. It looks better covered. I’m sure these sound like excuses to you, but they are also the reality many of us face when aging. You showed some ankle pants as alternatives. They’re hot. If I looked good in short shorts, I’d be wearing them! I agree with the bedazzled glasses and clunky shoes. Check out why people are wearing the trends that are out dated. It may not just be bad habits.
Me to with crepey skin- and I raise you saggy/wrinkled knees. My solution is skirts instead of unflattering capris or Bermuda shorts. They are cool and comfortable and versatile- dress up or dress down.
Lol...absolutely agree! I'm 57 and teach middle school. I try to keep up with the latest styles and color my hair blonde. Every time the kids try to guess my age the highest they guess is 42. So, when a student with behavior challenges thought that she was going to insult me by calling me an "old lady", I said, "I'm actually thankful that I made to this age...so thanks!" She didn't have a come back :-)
Sorry! It was part of a copy & paste from my clipboard. Lol what I intended to say was, 'as a fellow teacher I know the feeling of being told to go out to pasture. Lol
Did you know that if you color your hair darker it will make you look even younger?! I'm twenty-something and in college and one of my professors who is 50+ had light blondy hair and then she colored it to a nice chocolate brown and she looked a million times younger! I think the science behind this is because blonde is lighter meaning less pigment and gray/white hair is also lighter which has no pigment which makes people look older. But rich dark brown hair is associated with the hair still having great pigment which correlates with youth!
Oh honey...I'm 54 and just spent nearly three years growing out my gray. I was DONE coloring and damaging my hair and opted to go cold turkey. I eventually cut my hair that had grown to my waist to a lob to get rid of what was left of my fried, damaged, old dyed hair. My hair has never been this healthy and I've never gotten compliments like I do now. The thing about gray hair, and you even had Jamie Lee Curtis pictured in this video, is it IS a lighter hair color and it's flattering on every woman who wears it. It is also unique to each of us, as opposed to the table full of blonde haired women drinking chardonnay at Applebee's. I don't want to look like everyone else. I want to be me. Nature has given us the color we should have. If I get bored I can use an Overtone or Arctic Fox in a purple shade, from pastel to bright, to jazz it up a little, and it tones my silvers to a lovely shade while not damaging my hair. I remember going to my mom's birthday party when she was in her 50s and she and all of her friends had the exact same blonde color. A decade earlier they were all brunettes with the most artificial color I've ever seen. Most of them now, pushing 80, have ditched the color and are rocking their own shades of white to silver to salt and pepper and they all look fabulous. Not to mention we're all saving a TON of money and a Saturday spent at the salon. When I was in my 30s I swore I'd need my roots touched up before my funeral. Now, I look in the mirror and can't wait to see how much more silver I'm going to get. It's empowering and freeing, and I encourage anyone who's thinking about going gray to do it. You can always dye it if you don't like it, but I promise you, you will have a color that no one else has. Anywhere. And that's pretty damn awesome.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with Capri pants. As an older woman who isn't comfortable showing my legs in shorts in the summer capris are a life saver. I think they look much better on me than Bermuda shorts. If you have nice legs and can wear shorts that's great but not everyone does. Sometimes comfort beats out style. I just ordered 3 new pairs of capris and I'll wear them proudly. I don't care if I look old because I am and I don't care what others think ...lol
Totally agree !, I'm 69 and people always say I'm smart and casual and very up to date always been young at heart..I had to switch this lady off because she's very patronising! She must be all of 45 ?.. really annoyed me .....😊😅
Unfortunately capric are very frumpy. I got rid of mine a couple of years ago. Every time I see someone in them I'm glad I got rid of them. I'm 69 and try to look well put together.
I have to agree with all your tips except coloring your hair lighter. I see too many middle aged and older women who go blonde and it doesn't flatter them and they end up looking like they are "trying" to look young. I'm a natural dark brunette and lighter hair is not flattering on me at all. I also think a mistake brunettes make is going too dark...it's harsh and aging. Great video! I especially have to agree with Bermuda shorts...I don't think I've ever seen anyone look good in those.
Lighter hair colors don't suit everyone. They tend to look brassy on darker hair, which is an instant aging factor IMO. And you can totally get modern-looking frames these days...
I totally agree with you about the bulky shoes, especially when worn with feminine skirts and dresses. Ugh!! However, some of your other choices are debatable, especially the cardigans. Cardigans can actually slim your frame when added to a sleeveless dress-the key is choosing the correct length and color. Just a thought…❤️
I’m 33 and I enjoy seeing my grey hairs coming in. They’re so new and different! I agree that drastically different roots look lazy, but showing grey - especially selected strands around the face is so chic to me.
i don’t normally post comments like this but am still rocking all of these and people still say I am like 19-20 it’s not about the clothes you wear is about how fresh your skin looks NO MAKEUP AND LOTS OF WATER IS THE WAY FORWARD!!
Well, you are exactly right. In your “own” opinion. Until you go through menopause and all that goes with growing older, your “opinion” on these styles is just that. An opinion. Good for those in your age bracket. Not so much for older women.
I agree with you....does she even mention THE jeans with all those HOLES!! She had some on on another video I saw and the knees were totally out! I think they look disgusting and in my opinion you look unkept! 🤪
@@Jonaontheradio You make no sense so everyone’s taste is the same?? Just the same with people, You may not be attractive to some people but yet to someone else you may be the most beautiful thing they’ve ever seen. Do yourself a favor stop being a follower🙄
Agree with all your points. As a petite, capris make me look even shorter so do clunky shoes. I have embraced my salt and pepper hair though. As a busy late 50s person it was too much to keep on top of the roots etc. Now my hair is so much more healthy and shiny without all the processing. Luckily my profession in healthcare doesn’t downgrade a person too much based on their age.
Makes an incredible difference what top you were with capris, like what you wear with chunky shoes, like how you style your hair - Vintage or outdated styles are never out of style - it is how we as women feel when we choose what we want to wear at that moment and if we are feeling sexy, we can rock those capris and if we feel beautiful, we bring any flower dress to life even if worn with chunky shoes. We should not focus on the word old in the title, bcz it's her opinion - we as women of all ages know we can rock any of those looks mentioned, we just have our own ways of styling our moods 😁✌️
I'm 75 and loving it. I don't want to look "younger". No desire at all! BUT I don't want to look FRUMPY. I think that is what you really mean. I wish people would get over the "looking older" thing. It is not about age.We have all seen frumpy females of all ages. I went to elementary school with a frumpy girl... sweet, but frumpy!
while I agree with some of your thoughts I really wish you would stop hitting on us older women. it's like you can't say what we do well. or that other age groups have their shit together. so sad
Aren't you a ray of sunshine. As I sat here shoving double stuff Oreos into my 70 year old mouth I couldn't help but thank God that you're not in charge of my wardrobe.
That’s it! I’m taking your advice about going lighter in hair colour I’m sick of oily ring every 3 weeks! I just spoke to my hairdresser and she loved the idea THANKS you gave me that final boost to go ahead with it 👏👏👏
I dress to make myself happy, not follow what RU-vidrs or fashion trends. Do you always insult your over 40 watchers ? Are you the fashion police? Wow as this video goes on you get more insulting...... amazing that you spent 2 whole hours doing research. As a woman who can't wear contacts but have worn glasses since a third grade , I think finished with your channel.
I will have to disagree with your comments about gray hair. I have very dark hair and have been dying it since I was 20 to cover grays. I am now almost 50 and decided to stop coloring it. I have let it go gray without going lighter. My hair is silvery white and looks fresher and younger than when I was coloring my hair. I think it is more about stying and haircut than color.
Totally agree. How dare she criticise grey hair. She could have said perhaps a shorter hairstyle would look better than long. I'm not going to watch any more of her videos. She's judgemental and has no idea of growing older.
I actually agree with alot of this. I'm 52, and while I love being this age and have no issues with getting older, I also very much want to stay up with the times in my apparel. It just looks like I still care. I think what she's saying is that as we age and become more comfortable in our skin, which is a good thing, sometimes we go a little too far on that spectrum and just adopt an attitude of "this is my age. I don't care anymore." Just my two cents.
Haha, this makes me so glad to be older because I realise how I don’t care whether something makes me look old or not. Your body is your home, your vessel to live your life through (in capri pants and bulky shoes, lol). With age comes wisdom and she’ll enjoy it when it comes to her too. Fashion is so shallow.
Shea, I’m in my 70s and must wear low-heeled shoes. I also have swelling of my feet and legs. I used to wear ballet flats, but now they highlight the swollen skin bulging out from the vamp area. After much searching, I discovered Enzo Angiolini Liberty flats (also by Bandolino). They look narrow-ish, but somehow disguise and accommodate the extra width and thickness of the older foot. The vamp rises to a point that camouflages the swollen top of the foot. These shoes can look quite dressy or casual. When it comes to really being dressed up, Manolo Blahnik’s Listony low-heeled pumps are wonderful. They may be discontinued, but other brands with similar looks are really great. Eileen Fisher and Bellini have similar low pumps with elegant lines.
I've had some Enzo's, most comfortable platforms ever!! I have spurs in my toe joints and other feet issues, 2 hip replacements so stable shoes are a must!!
Who says that longer legs equate to youth?? I am 152cm tall....and 54 years old. People tell me I look 10 years younger... I have short legs but no one has told me that it ages me!!!!! I used to love your videos but recently I find you sound more patronising than funny. Sorry just being honest
I’m 52 with so much cellulite on my thighs now, I have given up wearing shorts. But I haven’t resorted to capris. I am liking wide leg ankle length pants for summer.
Agree with most of these , HOWEVER , barrettes are so in style right now and so are bermudas , and there’s a million cool ways to wear both of those things sooooo I’m gonna do it !
I hate jean bermudas. But right now I see a lot of tailored, linen or other light weave bermudas and those look great. With all her "hip" style Shea proves over and over again that in reality she is really traditional and never thinks outside the box. Oh well.
