10 Lessons from 5 Years as a Minimalist » How EXTREME DECLUTTERING Changed My Life (95% is GONE!)

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This week I am sharing ten big lessons that I learned after five years of minimalist. These are the things I WISH I would have known before I started extreme decluttering my entire home and got rid of 95% of everything we owned. While this messy to minimal decluttering transformation took a little longer than "expected" we are still very happy with the results! No matter if you are a minimalism beginner or looking for more advanced minimalism tips, there's info for every level here.
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00:00 - 5 years of minimalism
02:10 - 1) respect & Matt D'Avella
03:29 - 2) the definition of minimalism
04:43 - 3) decluttering fast vs slow
06:22 - 4) what to keep vs what to get rid of
07:16 - 5) can minimalism make you happy?
08:20 - 6) be grateful
09:37 - 7) minimalism is good for kids
10:22 - 8) compassion over criticism
11:31 - 9) don't force it
12: 32 - 10) the end of minimalism...
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@bearpancakes 2 года назад

Some people seem to think minimalism is just about decluttering. It’s not. It’s a whole mindset and lifestyle change, and that takes a LOT of time.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

I agree 👏

@Sgarcia2864 2 года назад

TY 👏🏻🙌🏻👊🏻👍🏻

@jeongachang4153 2 года назад

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@jeongachang4153 2 года назад

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@mrsgonzalez6490 Год назад

It does 😭 So far I have donated over 30bags of clothes and counting I just want to get there already lol

@denisecarter5117 2 года назад

I’ve decluttered for 8 years. Now I live with my husband in 320 square feet. I decluttered two cabinets today. It never ends. Don’t listen to haters.

@evaj5937 2 года назад

Seriously..do not listen to haters. If they think they can do it better, go do it.

@kreiselsina 2 года назад

I love this!!!

@samanthafreeman4315 2 года назад

I have extremely decluttered years ago. Each year I still go through and declutter. I keep onto things because I don't want to buy something again down the road.

@samanthafreeman4315 2 года назад

This weekend I am gonna go through the toolbox I organized years ago because its now so full its not easy to access the tools we do need.

@mariaboulukos2736 2 года назад

It has taken me 3 years and counting. I'm the only one doing it cuz my family is not on board.

@SugarMamma 2 года назад

Can't believe people believe a proper minimalism journey can be done in just a week! I'm still not done with mine and I'm sure so many others in the community would say the same. So inspiring for you to lay everything out like this, I know I'm gonna be taking home some of these tips!

@janehilliard4265 2 года назад

Ditto, I'm doing mine gradually, and when I'm in the mood, but I know I'll get rid of things I can't now eventually

@popovka 2 года назад

I think it's exactly that they don't believe it can be done but they WISH it could be done. "discouraging" sounds like they haven't started and don't dare to, hearing it takes years.

@jerikropp6394 2 года назад

Started my minimalist journey by accident. Was going to move to another town (didn't) but before the move didn't pan out I had rented a storage locker for things I wanted to keep, started packing kept coming across things hadn't used in years so started getting rid of them. That's been roughly 4 years ago and still finding things to get rid of.

@jochenkraus7016 2 года назад

@EarthatWork You mean like getting rid of overweight? I agree. It's your life so declutter where you think it helps and adjust to that. That's no competition or speed run. And it might even be a misconception that people try to reach the aesthetics ASAP instead of taking time to get an overview of the stuff you have.

@NatalieJ22 2 года назад

I started over a year ago and it’s gotten way better but I still have a long way to go. A week is insanely unrealistic.

@jackiemartin7276 10 месяцев назад

The "haste makes waste" section is so true! I found myself decluttering aggressively with a "just get it done" mindset and ended up getting rid of things that I actively use and regularly miss! I'm now on a slow and gentle decluttering journey that is more right for me. So glad I found your channel!

@rowenabisschoff 2 года назад

Only 5 years? Well done! 10 years and counting. Each of our journeys is different. No judgement just applause and encouragement for everyone who is applying effort to better their life. 😘

@Betterialist 2 года назад

Lots of people judging the declutter process (of others) often forget that declutter is not just "get rid of stuff". It's much much deeper, it's reviewing personal values, priorities, memories... Getting rid of stuff is just scratching the surface. You are a gem to share you story with us. Love from Italy 🤩🇮🇹

@misslanguage 2 года назад

I actually find it more encouraging to know I do not have to rush into decluttering. The more I thought I had to do it all at once, the more I procrastinated. Now I am inspired to get it going. Thank you for that! (door emoji)

@erikasolgos2066 2 года назад

I so agree about not trying to declutter too quickly. It is a process. It's good to feel all the feelings as you go through this process. If you don't, you'll likely just fill your house right back up. Great video- thanks!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks for watching, Erika!

@ash32458 2 года назад

I would actually think that it would be discouraging to see someone declutter their entire house in a week. That’s a very high expectation to set for the average person. I love how you emphasize that everyone’s journey is different and to not let the judgment of others influence that journey ❤️

@liz409 2 года назад

well said!!!

@simplynej 2 года назад

🚪 My starting point was when I had to clean out the houses of three different grandmothers (two of my own, and one of my husbands) within the same 12 months. The sheer amount of STUFF...... seeing (and feeling) the stress it caused the loved ones left behind. I did NOT want to cause that kind of unnecessary stress on anyone I love. And now I see how much better it makes ME feel as well. Win/win/win/win/win. :-) :-)

@Sgarcia2864 2 года назад

I agree, I did not want my kids to have to do this for me. I realized how much stuff my mom put away for “just in case” or “someday I may need this” and never used most of it.

@miriamroxana Год назад

@@Sgarcia2864 same here

@sidneybales9062 Год назад

My mom died and wanted everyone to get a certain special (to her) something for all her children. The trouble is no one wanted what she thought was special. We gave EVERYTHING to goodwill. Desks , dressers, three refrigerators, 3 sewing machines. It was harrowing. Tbh

@grumylynn 2 года назад

Good job! Very inspiring. And five years can go by pretty quickly to change any behavior. For instance, smoking, drinking, gossiping, drug use, impulsive buying, negative self talk, laziness, fears. Things take time. Why would anyone judge you for taking 5 years to overcome your struggle? You’re amazing! ❤️

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks so much for the support! 🤗

@gypsywoman9140 2 года назад

Its also harder to find the time and energy to sort through things when raising children. Especially young children, but really every age seems to have its struggles. Even just normal, everyday things like leaving the home to go anywhere can become an ordeal (some days) with kids. Also, as she says, you can't force minimalism on others. This includes the ones we're raising. We can plant seeds, but we must respect their choices or we can create future hoarders. I realized this when watching an episode of Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners where a cleaner was paired up with a hoarder to help them get their place in order (the general premise of the show, tbh) and the woman explained she starting hoarding after she moved out on her own for the first time. She'd been raised by a minimalist mother who thought nothing of purging her daughters toys, so she (the daughter-turned-hoarder) never felt like anything was really hers. She didn't want to get rid of anything, and it escalated from there and then she felt overwhelmed with this problem. What really drove home her message was I'd recently went on a purge of the place and thought my then-2 year old wouldn't miss these toys that hadn't been played with in months. I was wrong. Soon after donating these things, my then-toddler asked where specifc toys were and taught me two year olds remember more than we may think. I sometimes feel like I'm drowning in "crap" (the joys of small apartments with no closets or storage) but don't want to create a future hoarder. If its not okay with them to get rid of something, I respect that. Maybe in the future I'll find a place I can afford with closets and storage space; it would make a HUGE difference having a proper place for coats, shoes, and extra bedding.

@alatielinara 2 года назад

Agree! I've done some extreme decluttering but it only lead to another clutter

@daisye3655 2 года назад

Also decluttering is constant. We’ve gotten rid of a lot, but still have more. Felt so good to drop off paint cans etc on our city’s toxic waste drop off day. They we’re sitting in the basement for a long time

@yvonnebonner-holley3628 2 года назад

The journey to becoming a true minimalist is a change in mindset, and that never happens in one week. You can remove visual clutter in one week, but from what I see from most homeowners, the clutter will return. Kudos to you for taking the time to set new habits, profit from the sale of certain items, and for making really tough decisions to let go of certain items. You are a true inspiration for all of us on this journey.

@JillianItaas 2 года назад

💯💯💯

@daphnehashimoto5126 2 года назад

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@TheRoseAnthology 2 года назад

I would also like to add that the journey can be a lifelong journey with no finish line. Its a change in mindset in the kind of lifestyle you value. Eating healthy for me isn't a fad or temporary thing, it's something I plan on doing the rest of my life to maintain a higher quality of life, a lifestyle. I look at minimalism the same way. Throughout my life interests will change, things that bring joy will change but my goal to only keep what serves me or brings me joy will help maintain the quality of life I value, which to me is what minimalism is. Its never been a one size fits all concept. Anyone who has any negative opinions or judgements on the harmless way someone chooses to live their life, a life that doesn't hurt them in any way shape or form could greatly benefit from a higher threshold of offense and a new hobby.

@EmtiMT 2 года назад

I think you actually show the journey to get to some level of minimalism more realisticly than many other channels. Accordingly this realism actually encourages me. Greetings!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks for your kind words! ☺️

@lizzjohnston6960 2 года назад

It’s extremely difficult to change a lifetime of habits in a few days. Decluttering (for many) needs to be a process that takes time but leads to a real lifestyle change. Doing things too quickly can cause a sense of panic until you have time to really see you don’t need all of the stuff to thrive.

@kimbrubaker9064 Год назад

🚪on year 3... With two kids and changing seasons of life,... It actually never ends! You're an inspiration!

@Asolares75 2 года назад

It truly takes time. I wish it could be done faster but it’s a process. I’ve already donated a lot of my stuff and I find myself being stuck with things I want to sell. It is so time consuming and now I have boxes sitting there taking up space. It’s a struggle but it also encourages me not to want to ever buy or accumulate unnecessary items.

@lydiaderhake7400 2 года назад

I got stuck on things I wanted to sell for a long time. Truthfully, I still do! If you are frustrated because you want to sell something but can't seem to find a buyer, consider donating it specifically to a person or organization who needs it. It's a way of reclaiming the value without having to worry about the dollars involved. Good luck!

@rebeccahenkins1697 2 года назад

I have piles of donation stuff but I also have to work through the emotional issues I have tied up in a few things. Zi am making progress but I am naturally a hoarder of certain things - always a just in case mindset I have worked hard to move forward from! I love your sharing here - it does help! And I have realized how far I have come! 🚪

@micheleohmer4117 2 года назад

I have had success selling stuff on Facebook Marketplace and local Facebook garage sale sites. I give a boundary of 2 weeks, if it doesn't sell. I lower the price. If it doesn't sell for at least $5 I donate it. You have already spent the money. You are no worse off if you donate it. Feels so great to live with less!

@sct4040 2 года назад

You can sell clothes, shoes, handbags on ThredUP, information is on their website.

@Girlaftermarriage 2 года назад

Whoever said it should take just a week, I'd love to see them come out and discuss how they did it, cause I'm 2 years into my decluttering journey, and personally, doing it in 1 week, all in one go, doesn't sound reasonable, as much as I'd love to get it over it., But, if someone has actually accomplished that, good for them, let's hear about it!

@veganryori 2 года назад

I think they just have no soul and burnt all their stuff 😂 how else is it possible??! 🤣

@TheDriftwoodlover 2 года назад

They must have gotten a dumpster and just tossed large blocks of items without looking at them. Or they didn’t own much

@gasdorficmuncher9943 2 года назад

ya takes one day to order a bin clean out ? i guess depends the size of a horder you are

@angelferbbify 2 года назад

I did it in a week but I had just gotten married and had only one child and didn't have much sentimental things other than pictures. I loved how it felt! But now as a family of 6 .woah one week seems extreme

@I_know_it_I_sew_it_I_grow_it 2 года назад

It took me two weeks, but each to their own.

@TheRozylass 2 года назад

To go too fast will cause mistakes and regret! Going slower allows for grace and practicality for letting go of those sentimental and emotional items. The time it takes to declutter is dependent on how much you have to get rid of. Your story gives support to many who struggle with beginning, continuing and then finishing. Keep up the good work.

@anoekbreeden7486 2 года назад

🚪yes, I live in the Netherlands and am a minimalist since 2012. I experience minimalism as a journey and an ongoing proces. I love the respect and individual approach here. And how we treat our stuff and minimalistic differences. Thank you for sharing your life here on youtube.😘✨

@IntentionalWellness_Michelle 2 года назад

You are my favorite “Minimalist” RU-vidr! I just relate to you and your journey and appreciate your approach. I began the 🚪 journey about 8 months ago and have made a small dent. Some days I’m pleased with the progress and other days discouraged but have confidence I will eventually get there. What I don’t understand is why people would waste their time watching and commenting on what they don’t like about YOUR journey . I only have time to watch or listen to things that are helpful or edifying! Keep it up because I need your ideas and encouragement as I keep pressing on.

@marthasalter405 2 года назад

I’m like you, it took me years. And in the end, that was healthy for me to take that time to process the items and the emotions.

@bumbygrl 2 года назад

I agree....if you don't sort the feelings out that are attached to the items/ or why we keep so many items (hoarding) it's so easy to repeat and RE-clutter.

@swillou2 2 года назад

No one can fix these things in one week. It is a looooong process

@totalyodel 2 года назад

On the contrary, I find it very encouraging that it took 5 years! Understanding that it can take years to get where I want to be helps me not feel like I've failed when I couldn't declutter in a week and get it to stay that way.

@lorrihayes7089 2 года назад

🚪ready yet terrified! Finding your video at just the right time, I realize that’s why the other declutter videos haven’t worked for me! People that don’t experience this cannot understand. It’s easy for them to get rid of stuff! Thank you so much for making your videos. I have felt like a failure for decades because I can’t get rid of or organize the stuff and your video has helped me see a way.

@ElBoyoElectronico 2 года назад

It's a classic example of the Pareto-Effect! You can easily get rid of 80% in a short amount of time. But the last 20% of clutter will take a long time and multiple tries. Also, like you said, with kids (when they are growing up) there always will be a constant flow of things coming into your life and out of your life. We are still getting rid of stuff even after 4 years of getting into minimalism. It's a journey and everyone will have their own pace.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

The Pareto Principle has so many applications in minimalism and life in general. We are on the same page 🤗

@jerushacarlson 2 года назад

🚪 One year in and I feel like decluttering in 5 years to be a “true” minimalist is impossible! You did amazingly!!!

@carolyndymond5521 2 года назад

It's been 4 years and I'm still decluttering stuff.

@lydiaderhake7400 2 года назад

It's been over 10 years and I'm still decluttering. Truthfully, you will find a point where you have things you can let go of, but it doesn't weigh on you. You can push past that if you want to, or you can identify that point as the state where you're happy. It doesn't make you "less" of a minimalist, human, valuable person, or anything else. Everyone has a comfort point. Keep working toward yours and don't be discouraged. Learning to identify gems (what is valuable) is a learning process and takes time. You are getting there.

@CB-jh1pt 2 года назад

1 year for me too! I still feel like I have more stuff than the average person, but to me I can see the progress (just about haha) and have a bit more space to breathe in the day🚪 Let’s keep going! 😁

@anicouni2070 2 года назад

Took me 6 years and I'm not done yet. I thought something was wrong with me but now I'm so glad your video was in my suggestions. I don't feel guilty anymore towards myself for taking so long... Thank you.

@candicecrawford2996 2 года назад

I love your slow and steady approach to minimalism. It is definitely a learned skill. We are taught to just buy buy buy… we need to slow down.

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks Candice. 👍 Slowing down is harder than it sounds but so worth it!

@becci8099 2 года назад

Yes exactly I started with controlling purchases before decluttering anything, because otherwise it would be an endless wasteful cycle. I am at the stage where that has become my new normal and I am ready to do the first decluttering steps. Though I see many rounds ahead

@IndigoAwakener 2 года назад

All our lives will be extra sweet once folks learn that One Size Fits All is NOT a thing, and folks do what's best for themselves and stop judging other people's journeys. It's MATURITY Folks... maturity. 💖💖🚪

@heidibonjour 2 года назад

I tried to declutter 25 years ago, and did some decluttering, then I found Marie Kondo a few years ago, but it was too hard. Then I discovered you tubers like Marissa, who have helped me actually get to a point where I'm 80% minimalist. I still have the hardest category, Sentimental..... Thank you Marissa for this video , I would say that minimalism is a gradual transformation of the mind, and then of the home. Thank you for what you do !

@melynieklunk8867 2 года назад

🚪I'm one year into this journey, but already I'm feeling the benefits of this (more relaxed and less anxious in my home, plus less to clean up!)

@12cowwoman 2 года назад

When I left my husband 11 years ago, I took ALL MY BELONGINGS with me that were in our four story house.. I incoorporated everything in my tiny studio apartment, neatly on shelves and in cupboards, in under bed boxes and in my small cellar room - and then started to sort out what I really want to keep. Today, I am still living in such a tiny studio and have only about 1/4 left of what I owned before - and I am super happy with owning less! I have more room for the things that really bring me joy, for example my re-discovered love for lego, space on the floor for yoga even with my laundry stand in the room, and know that I am on my own journey! There are still a few things & areas that need my attention, but overall, I am less stressed, feel less dragged down by my belongings and enjoy the things that I have so much more, now that they can get my full attention! So yes, this journey takes as individually long as there are the different people tackling it - just like love stories, we can not really compare, nor judge one to another... 🚪

@kristiLB93 2 года назад

I love that you addressed that viewer's comment with such grace and truth! We all are all quick to judge these days, I'm no exception. I read a great quote the other day that humbled me and it was this, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle." --Plato. Your battle was hard and those five years are what you needed. No one should judge that. Sentimental hoarding is something I relate to. It really is a shackle that is very hard to break free of. Keep on sharing, Marissa. I love your channel and it has helped me! 😘

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

And your quote makes me think about a story that I read after Chadwick Bozeman (Black Panther) passed away, by an older actor that worked with him on another movie. He basically had judged Chadwick because he felt like he was getting special treatment, massages, and his wife was always there with him holding his hand - and then he felt bad later, because he realized he was dying of cancer and he wished he hadn’t judged him. 😞 sorry if that’s a long rambling story, but basically I agree you never know what someone is going through behind the scenes! Thanks for watching Kristin. 🤗

@kristiLB93 2 года назад

@@AtoZenLife Not rambling at all - it's so great to gently remind each other of this kind of thing. It's so true, that we just don't know what some people have been through.

@EricaLucasLoves 2 года назад

“Respect the point you are starting from.” ❤️❤️❤️

@SoulInspiredSeller 2 года назад

Omg. I love you so much for your transparency and vulnerability. I am always working to declutter my home, as clutter and excess brings me high anxiety. Also, I lost my parents when I was in my early 30’s, 4 months apart. This journey is nothing to be rushed, just like you can’t rush grief. Thank you for doing this video. ❤️❤️❤️

@LisaSimplified 2 года назад

Congratulations! I find the 5 year timeline encouraging. I'm still decluttering and yes, it's 30 years of stuff. It's hard to tell what you're going to need and not have to repurchase.

@kimhr1069 2 года назад

How dare anyone tell another how long it takes to do anything! Decluttering and the ongoing process to become a minimalist 🚪takes time. I've been working toward minimalism for over a year...and still have a long way to go. Changing the way you've been taught to think about your possessions is an ongoing process. Thank you for sharing your insight and your inspiration.

@dianajones2441 2 года назад

Thank you all for sharing!!! I am struggling to declutter, not sure a "Jones"(my real last name) can be a minimalist LOL. My lack of room is due to a few weeks housing family members running into about 5 yrs and counting. I am done making sacrifices, I am 69 and I intend to actually USE & ENJOY my vast collection of crafting items. Time may be short; my fantasy self still thinks I should keep most until I determin It isn't serving me to keep it.

@dianajones2441 2 года назад

@kaylamorse769 2 года назад

My minimalism journey started in 2017 and after 4 years I have finally gotten "there". I have nothing on my walls until I find exactly what I want because I want to be more intentional with my purchases, rather than buying things and putting holes in my freshly painted walls. I need intentionality!

@carmeninthehouse4032 2 года назад

I think it's great you answered this comment in your video. Decluttering is a life thing, anda life changing thing as well. In German we say: Was lange währt, wird endlich gut.

@jamicalopez 2 года назад

Your story is an inspiration to me. I can relate to what you went through. No one will understand what you're going through emotionally unless if they've been there. Like you've said. A journey of a thousand miles always begins with a single step. I have lost almost over 20 family members and I can totally relate to your story. I've just started my minimalism journey and I know one-day I'll be completely free Thank you for sharing your story with us. God bless you and your family. 🙏🥺🚪

@by_sha 2 года назад

Dear Marissa (and anyone reading this), I really appreciate that you brought this *realistic* progress of minimalism to public attention, because in my humble opinion whatever people expect to achieve short term would be, well, short-term and therefore unsustainable. I realised through about 4 years of journey on minimalism, this is really about changing one’s mindset, which is not a light task for anyone. I have read Marie Kondo’s books before I embarked on the decluttering journey in 2017, and even with her books in mind, I still found it quite hard to do. In the next 4 years, I moved to a different country, quit a job, and started a master degree, and moved several flats in the meanwhile. With every move, my minimalism game got a bit better. In every new space, I think of what is it that serves me in my life. This has kept my mind off of clutter and now I can sort of say that I have a minimalistic mindset. So yes, in order for it to really work and serve your life, it does take time, years it may be. But like Marissa said, everyone has a different starting line. So don’t let this discourage you. Because every little progress is very fulfilling on its own. X

@andreawales1938 Год назад

Congrats on starting your master’s degree journey whether you will earn a Master of Arts, Master of Business Administration, etc.

@by_sha Год назад

@@andreawales1938 Thank you 😊I have actually just completed it! it's a MSc in psych research, tough journey but great fun.

@Mel_ski 2 года назад

This makes me feel so much better, the thought of getting rid of all excess in a week would make me run! 🚪

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

That would definitely be an overwhelming expectation. ❤️

@destinyway9949 2 года назад

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@PilgrimKat 2 года назад

You got me from the first minute - I've been decluttering for the last 5-6 years and am finally coming to a good "clicking point" with my stuff after all that time. And then I recently watched a video where someone got rid of about 90% of their possessions in 8 days...it was inspiring but also got me thinking "why has it taken me so long?" when they could do it so quickly. After thinking about it though, I realised that everyone is different and has different levels of sentimentality and different emotional baggage along with the clutter. For myself, I was forced to leave my home for political reasons as a kid and my family had 2 weeks to minimise our possessions down to a suitcase each. Needless to say, it was traumatic - and has made decluttering years later an intensely emotional journey (at least to begin with). I've needed that time because a sledgehammer 1 week declutter could have been re-traumatising. This video was a good reminder that sometimes our souls need time to catch up with our new reality and that's okay 💛

@daisye3655 2 года назад

I don’t think you’re boring. You’re very real and practical and give a lot of good applicable tips. I think that being grateful for the things that served you and you’re giving away brings blessings. Don’t know why people need to say mean things

@LunnaySol 2 года назад

We just never learn to respect and not judge other people. We all are in different situations, process things and adjust differently. I have just decided I will do it and there's no way I could do it on a week. Thank you for the videos, the are helping me a lot and I appreciate it.

@melissaneugebauer113 2 года назад

🚪 I am thankful for your honest, real life encouragement and advice! I’ve never watched one of your videos and not found something helpful 🥰 today I’m especially grateful for the reminder that it takes time and is sometimes an emotional process. I want so badly to be done sometimes I get frustrated that it’s taking longer than I would like and frustrated that my own emotions and energy levels slow me down sometimes. But my husband keeps cheering me on and praising the progress and YOU say all these wonderful things that make me smile and feel proud of how far I’ve come and of my determination to keep going ! Thank you 👏💓

@suzm3751 2 года назад

🚪you are spot on! To keep you on the right track of having less you have to do it at your pace, or you won't maintain it.

@kc3122 2 года назад

This process takes time. I’ve been on this journey now for 4 years. Each person’s journey is their own and there is no right way or wrong way. Keep going, ignore the negative comments and wish you all the very best 😊

@suleyilmaz82 2 года назад

It’s certainly a process, I’ve been decluttering for several years and feel like only beginning to make a dent. It’s a personal journey, and while someone. might be able to declutter in a week, others might take years. The person who declutters in a week has a different journey and probably emotionally and mentally were ready to take on that challenge. If you take longer, who is to judge, go figure out your own path and what works for you! You can watch minimalism videos all you want but unless you are ready within you will not be able to begin or make any progress in this journey!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Definitely, and the more hands on you want to be with getting rid of stuff also plays a part in how long it takes! Everyone is walking 🚶 their own path.

@suetaniaemmanuel8107 2 года назад

I've been working on this for the past 5 years. I was finally able to make progress the pass 3 months when the biggest items began living the house. It's a liberating journey

@lovepilie 2 года назад

You just spoke my mind! My decluttering process began so many years ago, and despite making significant progresses every year, it is still going on because of what life has thrown my way in the meantime... and it is OK!! I don't seek true minimalism but a simpler life, centered on what truly matters to me.

@sandysmom100 2 года назад

I'm on like year three. I'm still decluttering and still on my minalmaism journey. I couldn't agree more Marissa. Decluttering slowly is the best way to do it .I have given brand new curtains and a runner that matches our big area rug in our family room .A big mistake .oh well someome else must've enjoyed them .I have more peace and less stress. Interestingly enough I found so much about myself that I never knew .Very interesting journey .I have had trauma with my ex - husband and two kids with severe anxiety and adhd , mood disorders ect . Now they're all adults and I'm a grandmother, and I can see a clearer path to what makes more sense in this world and what is the most important.

@sandrac8770 2 года назад

🚪it's been a few years when my mom and I started decluttering along with starting our first yard sale with family friends, we hadn't realized how much fun we had in the process. I no longer have my mom with me and the decluttering has become overwhelming, seeing that lots of her belongings hold sentimental value. For me it's been over 5 years. I finally gave some of her remaining clothing to close friends, which i asked beforehand if they were interested in. I saw them wearing one of her summer dresses in a Zoom conference and it brought me such happiness seeing it worn by a close friend. It does take effort and work, and for those who feel hopeless : Don't give up! It is possible 🤗 find RU-vidrs who inspire you. Even if it takes years, you are doing great progress 🌸 🥰🌻

@eveliina1438 2 года назад

It took 5 years for me too and I did it on a constant basis. It wasn't a quick purge, but a lifestyle change. The time doesn't matter, the results do. I admire how you processed your emotions through the process and I understand that can be overwhelming to some. But you did the right thing there. Also, your home is gorgeous!

@honeyyork1337 2 года назад

Hysterical, I’m moving and trying to declutter 20 years, 10 years post divorce. Omg it’s rugged. Even when done I will have to redo it again. You’re so right about it being different with kids…those little things are so big. Marie Kondo talks about gratitude. It’s a good thing.

@SF-ru3lp Год назад

Hi Marissa I fully understand how unpacking and reviewing your whole life, experiences and emotions took 5 years to work through as you decluttered. You had to 'park' everything as you were coping with survival andcthe changing phases (as you grew up). When you were married for a few years was God first time you had stability, support and maturity to take on the task. The one thing your other viewer needed to hear was probably how soon you registered an improvement in your life. One doesn't start into decluttering by committing to a 5-year project, but it can indeed be a few years till one realises that "Yes... I think it's all gone through and I have what we need and when serves us. " Thank you for your honesty and transparency. Very best regards. G Ire

@jennifermcrae3705 2 года назад

Glad I found your channel. I am a year and a half into my minimalism journey. Still sorting and organizing every day. It makes me happy!

@debsmith7460 2 года назад

So proud of you! You have done so great. I love that your after picture was your family together- not just a clean minimalist house. That is so meaningful!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Thanks, Deb, definitely worth making it happen for them! ❤️

@TheDriftwoodlover 2 года назад

I’ve been at it several years (lots of inherited items) and think doing it in stages makes it easier to change my lifestyle and thinking. If I had just dumped lots of things in short order, I think it would have left me in shock.

@Vicatoli 2 года назад

Some people mistakenly think that minimalism it’s a lack of style - but no! You can have Scandinavian, Country, Boho, Classic …you can have frames on the wall, if you are an artist or your kid -- I am a huge fan of minimalism and clean spaces - thanks for a motivation!🙌🏼❤️

@respectfullymama Год назад

Discouraging?? It was a relief to hear this. I’ve felt like a failure because I haven’t ever been able to purge in one swoop.

@Huggible11 2 года назад

It took me atleast 2 years to even look at the things boxed up after my mother's death. At the time the decisions made on items to keep made sense, but when I looked at them again now later I thought they were silly some of the things kept. It takes time and not a one and done situation.

@VAghahe1985 2 года назад

I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I had the same feeling about holding on the materials that reminded me of my mother. Now I am holding on to her memories and kept only one of her scarves. God bless you.

@syndey7 2 года назад

I'm sooo...happy I found your channel today. You are a breath of fresh air and we have a similar mindset towards material possessions. I have been minimizing for at least two years. I feel so free!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Wonderful, welcome to the family. 🤗

@Reenomeano 2 года назад

30years to build up, 5years to declutter it. Sounds like a win to me 😊 also I feel like it highlights the point of how overwhelming clutter can be! And how long it can stay with you for! I recently started trying to declutter some items I'd been hoarding. Not many things but stuff I don't need or use but kept for sentimental value. I managed to declutter alot of it and feel so much more free 😊 now I'm trying to not buy stuff unless I need it or have nearly finished something as well so I don't build up multiple of the same item. I also decided that if something is really special to me that I should display it. So many times I see horders on tblv who have alot of items they wanna keep hold of for sentimental value but they don't take care of them. I realised I had some items the same. So I decided to put them in a box I xan see into so I can still keep them but they don't get forgotten and makes it easier to clean rather than having a shelf with lots of small items on, I have a display case with them all inside. Looks nicer saves space easier to clean the shelf :) Good luck to anyone starting to de-clutter 😊

@Es24688 Год назад

I was a minimalist before having children. Now that my youngest is almost 5, we’ve began pursuing family minimalism. It takes a lot longer to work through all of that while respecting my family’s feelings and ways of thinking. For me personally, I’m using the onion method on decluttering but also am simply changing my habits about buying things. By combining those 2 things, I’m hoping to see a real tangible difference in a year.

@frojatakashima179 2 года назад

I have done my minimalism journey two years and i'm not finished yet. It takes time to discover every thing on the journey. take it slow and be true to your self. I love your videos and how you bring your journey closer to us. we are all diffrent and have our own diffrent minimalism journey. ❤

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

💯 agree and wishing you the best, Froja!

@Siures 2 года назад

Yeah, also 5 years. And I am still not „there“. My life situation also changed a lot in this time (kids, jobs…) so it is really work in progress. My „but“ are books, like a lot of people. At the beginning of the year I wanted to change my shelf situation and decluttered too many books. I will repurchase them one day (second hand), but this showed me that I really love rereading and therefore I will be more cautious with my books. In other areas I learned that I have to be braver in decluttering sometimes.

@myname7303 Год назад

I on the other hand find your channel to be super inspiring. I struggle with being consistent with my decluttering journey. My plan is to fix it in 2023. I’ve had enough. Stuff doesn’t define me! I’m planning no buy 2023 and just started to watch your old video over again to stay motivated have define goals and stay on track. Thank you Marissa for all what you share on this channel.

@AtoZenLife Год назад

Thank YOU for being here ☺️

@choosetoshine2610 2 года назад

This is your journey, there is no time assigned to purge and detox emotional struggle. It's a journey, not a destination. Love your vids!! You're a superstar! ❤

@saraniedzwiecki1276 2 года назад

If we aren't grateful for the things we have now, what makes us think we'll be grateful if we have more? SO POWERFUL! Thanks Marissa!

@kianae514 2 года назад

5 years is absolutely normal. I can’t just throw things out, since I am emotionally attached to a few things I own. So using them well is my way too. I am 3 years into this journey 💚

@llbianca 2 года назад

Go girl!!!!!!!! I am super proud of you, not just you completed your decluttering. Also, you found the courage to film this video in a kind and loving way of sharing your lessons to the persons, who commented you were discouraging (To them: if you resist Marissa's videos, find another Minimalist who speaks to you instead of giving silly comments). I am still in the process of decluttering when I started 3 years ago. For me, I have inconsistent work hours during a week (Each week is different. 3 years ago, I was even a full-time return student plus 50-60 work hours for 5 years [so I could pay tuitions, rents and living expenses...]). At work I lift heavy boxes, walk and stand during a 8 to 10-hour shift (used to be 7 days/wk, now cut down to 5/wk and decided to postpone school to deal with my EMOTIONAL CLUTTER I grew up in my childhood.). All I want to do when I get home is sit, eat and/or rest. So it does take time depending on the circumstances in the moment of each person's life journey. Can't judge by the cover of the book!! Those people must wake up - It is not an overnight task (Be gentle with yourselves going through the clutter = Self-Love...so who in the world would wants to rush this process?!. Even our Mother Earth takes her time to evolve and adjust in the polluted environments we had created.). I am super grateful we have you and other minimalists take time to share the experiences - Continue to spread love and light. Namaste ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@emmamendez6230 2 года назад

🚪 I’ve been working on minimalizing for almost my whole marriage, less than 7 years, and cutting down on clothes and sentimental cards has been slow for me. My hubby and I are at different stages so patience has been very important for me to learn. Your videos have helped me tackle some ares that I struggled with. I’m happy to finally say that I can sit in my bedroom and smile. No junk, no excess, no stress! Still working on my closet, but I should be done in about 6 months or less. Thank you for your videos!

@clairepaley6735 2 года назад

For me it’s a constant journey. I have needed different amounts of “stuff” at different points of life, but generally I’m distilling everything down and learning what I truly want and need. I just feel it’s important for me to keep evaluating my relationship with materialism and practise impulse control with any new items.

@LibbyRoseEmbroidery 2 года назад

Very well said. That's exactly what I'm experiencing.

@toomuchwinn 2 года назад

I love that I found your channel, I've been binge watching since this morning. I've recently been battling negative emotions because I can't buy a house yet. Me and my husband have been living in this small apartment for 8 years and we have two boys 7 & 3. I've been convincing myself that we need more space and your videos are making rationalize that infact we actually just need to get rid of all our junk first, and adapt a simple lifestyle to prepare us for our house ! this just made me have so much more gratitude for the space we are living in right now, and motivated me to start a minimalism journey

@silviacristina6680 2 года назад

And I thought I was a slow decluttering person, thank you. Every one has it's time

@cheykath 2 года назад

This was an immensely comforting video, as I frequently berate myself for not going faster and have also gotten the "I could do this in a weekend" comment. Thanks

@godjortall7177 2 года назад

Good on you! I'm de-cluttering gradually as well. After all - it's not a race!

@patirving705 2 года назад

All I can say is "THANK YOU!!!" My husband and I are seniors and have accumulated 35 years worth of our things and our sons things in this house. We just bought a new home to be close to my son and his family. (he is now disabled and can no longer come to see us) We have about a year...as the permit has just been filed :) We both want to move and to be in a much more orderly home. Everything you have said reads true. I expect much emotion along the way...but will do everything with gratitude. I am just walking through the door

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Wishing you lots of success with the declutter ahead of you and your hubby - you’ll feel lighter when you get done. ❤️

@ninilovenana 2 года назад

I love what you said about keeping the valuable things. When I declutter an area, I remove everything and then I pick what I want to absolutely need first then what I want. And let the rest go. It’s so much easier than questioning every item about how I’ll use it or if I’ll need it later or if there is space for it.

@kokoluwell5823 2 года назад

🚪 I am at the end of a two week purge. It’s been harder than I thought it would be. Yesterday, I cried at getting rid of my late grandmother’s pajama pants that I’ve worn since she passed. It was so strange to me how emotional I got over pajama pants.

@lemons6407 2 года назад

Sorry, for being nosy but you can take a picture of it. Or simply keep it.

@Jabezgirl57 2 года назад

You are an inspiration to me. I have tried to "organize" for so many years. Now, I am on a minimalist journey. Thanks for your encouragement.

@mzcaramel 2 года назад

Your videos have encouraged me and your candidates about your losses as a child resonated with me even as an only child who lost my mom 3 years ago when I was 34. Keep up the great work and thank you for being so pragmatic even when addressing haters!

@Dakota-Rose 2 года назад

No one understands that emotionally detaching from your stuff is a huge journey emotionally and mentally unless they go through themselves. It's not just throwing clutter away. Memories are valuable to me. I need to adjust and be ready to 'let go' so doing this in stages helps and reduce the anxiety that comes with it. It does take years from starting point to end. ❤️

@akontilis1792 Год назад

I like your informative style! I think I am about 4/5 to the complete process of decluttering, not only for myself, but for the belongings my mom left me (including all rhe mementos HER family left to her). It is a process, and no matter how many YEARS it may take, it will have been worth it. My mantra is, there is a finite amount of stuff, so everything I deal with now amounts to fewer decisions I will need to deal with later. Bless you, Marissa, and your sweet family too!

@amuthita9170 2 года назад

When you said it took 5 yrs to declutter, it gives me not only hope but also a long term plan. The big weight on my shoulders was lifted too. I am now allowing myself to take my own time on this journey.

@ginger9475 2 года назад

I appreciate your pace. It’s realistic. You inspire me.

@valeriedoll3980 8 месяцев назад

I really appreciate you acknowledging that minimalism is not an end all to happiness. I've stopped watching certain minimalists because they make me feel discontent and that all my problems are because I'm not minimalist enough. Of course, I know intellectually that it's not true, but it still affects me.

@iammedusa2600 2 года назад

The person who commented your five year journey is discouraging, clearly doesn't have the emotional investment in life, family, love and sentimentality. A very cold, emotionless person. You did an amazing job and have every right to be proud. You are a true inspiration.

@lynnehilton5787 2 года назад

🚪I actually found the fact that it took you five years to be encouraging, and I find the ‘I decluttered my house in a week’ or ‘a month’ or whatever to be extremely discouraging, because I’ve been on this journey for several years now and I still have a ways to go! Also, in this particular video I loved that you pointed out that minimalism is more like a ‘path’ or a ‘practice’. It makes me think of a spiritual practice that you have to keep doing to gain the benefit. Reminding myself that it’s a practice and not a project is also encouraging and helps me to see minimalism in a new light. 😊 Thank you for your insights and for sharing your journey!!

@mmk82758 2 года назад

🚪- started in late 2018, and still working on it. It takes several rounds… we learn and grow and change, and the importance of things changes. An important item in round two might get purged in round four.

@MrElecterik 2 года назад

My minimalism journey will be at least a 5 years process, i think 2022 is the year i declutter the last extra stuff i don't need anymore. I decluttered already 75% of my stuff and it feels great, love my clean and empty house.

@annaburchfield4965 2 года назад

I just want to say that I thoroughly enjoy your channel, and I think that you are logical and down to earth in your minimalist approach. Everyone chooses to live their lives differently and just because someone might disagree with how you choose to live YOUR life isn't an excuse for them to be rude or negative. Keep doing what you do!

@lilc9200 2 года назад

🚪 Marissa you are an inspiration! 5 years seems so little when talking about shedding 30 years. I’ve been at this for past 6 years and I always start and stop. But when I discovered your channel this summer, you’ve helped me stay on course. I don’t purge everyday but I do have that at the forefront of my mind everyday now. I no longer push aside the thoughts that I need to get to it but don’t or stop for months at a time. It’s not an easy process but I know I can do it and get there one day when I no longer see a piled up mess in every corner of my home. Or am strong enough no longer add (excessive new purchases) to my piles. Thank you! I appreciate all your videos and it’s great to be able to relate and know I’m not alone in this. 謝謝 🙏🏽

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

That’s wonderful to hear, great progress 👏👏👏 Keep it up!

@Katlyn_Duncan 2 года назад

I feel like minimilism is a lifetime journey. You do you! 💜🚪

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

I am in full agreement 💯

@mmulligan7360 2 года назад

I love your videos. I love your wisdom. I love your emotion. Your show the realness of this journey. Your house is peaceful and inviting and something I’m striving to make my home more like. I agree your never “done” decluttering. It’s not an event that you do in a week and then your done forever. It’s like peeling back the layers of an onion…. A little farther every time as you build your decluttering muscles and give your self grace to work through the emotions of each space in your home. Keep up the amazing work lady. You are valued 💕 much love

@cmarie-artique 2 года назад

I have been on my journey for three years. Moving into an apartment after having a house for four years.....it was an adjustment. But, decluttering and purging the things we don't need is so refreshing. I feel it is going to take me at least five years to get where I want to be. Keep inspiring others. There will always be someone that hers your story and may change their life for the better because of your journey. Right now.....I am purging my son's clothes. So needed. Thanks for your story.

@gabriellafaithmckenzie 2 года назад

It has taken me 5 years as well… it is a really tough journey. It’s not the same for all though. I was a semi-hoarder so I had a lot to go through. There is so emotionally that you go through while decluttering. You can do a lot but I know we’ve all been there and it ends up becoming overwhelming or it all comes back quickly. 5 years and I have been able to maintain.

@kiwikim5163 2 года назад

It’s a journey without end, so you me might as well enjoy it.

@deannabanana9344 2 года назад

So sad anyone would bash you or call you names. I’m very happy that those comments seem to not have gotten you down. I love your channel and you’ve really inspired me to keep going with decluttering for our move to Oregon and adopting a minimalist mindset!

@AtoZenLife 2 года назад

Wonderful to hear about your move, Deanna! Yes, I think that the negative comments got to me at the beginning, but I’m over it now and it’s just a way to open up important conversations that need to be had at times. 🤗 Cheers!

@Aliciabpd 2 года назад

A week to declutter is insane. Leave that for people who don't care about your struggle or they just like to put people down because they wish they were doing what you're doing. Keep it up! You're very inspiring and sad people will be jealous!

@brendagrant9133 2 года назад

🚪30 plus years of stuff, I did 2 Totes of Christmas today and that was it that was all I could do today, I have so enjoyed your videos and especially this one, decluttering is not easy