Yes I wish people at my school would understand this. Instead of thinking I dislike them. Update- I never thought so many people would relate to how I felt, but now it's not anxiety. I just don't like people lol.
But if they think you dislike them, doesn’t that mean they are struggling with their own problems? The video even states people like this worry people don’t like them. Put yourself in their mind, they could be dealing with the same problems you are.
1. Struggling to make eye contact 2. Not eating food because they’re afraid it may get stuck in their teeth 3. Canceling plans last minute 4. Shutting down in a group setting 5. Having an outburst over something others consider small 6. Being glued to the phone or social media 7. Struggling to open up and have a deeper conversation 8. Leaving a party early 9. Appearing tense in group settings 10. Creating a false time constraint I hope whoever is facing any of these knows they’ll get through it, and the only people who matter are the ones who will understand ❤️
This anxiety is horrible to have. In a world of extroverts who expect others to find joy in being surrounded by people all the time, it can feel very isolating. Wish I didn’t have it, but, this disorder is often accompanied by talents and intelligence. Blessing and curse.
people with social anxiety would love to make friends, go out and have fun, be with their loved ones, chat with new people, and more, but anxiety prevents them from that, so no, they are not rude, they just cannot fight the feeling no matter how much they want to!
As someone with (very likely) social anxiety, I relate to this so much. I dream of having fun with a group of awesome friends, but on the very rare occasion that a person like this approaches me, I shy away and avoid eye contact. Inner me screams to get better with people but I just can't.
@@SN-vn6wb i fully understand you, it's really difficult and frustrating, you are not alone, but still i hope everything improves and one day you can have fun with that great group of friends, all in your own time and way, of course... maybe achieving that will be a long process or even short and it may be very difficult or easy but you can and i believe in you!
Sometimes when I stranger says "hi" or tries to initiate a conversation with me, sometimes I won't respond. I hate this because I feel that people think I'm rude and unfriendly. I actually enjoy being kind to people, yet my social anxiety will often get in the way of that. I don't want to be looked at as a stuck-up snob.
I have the same issue, unfortunately. Even those in my family often distance themselves from me or become angry with me because they think I'm rude and don't want to be associated with me. I truly want to be kind to others but social interactions cause me so much anxiety.
My family needs to see this. I was always considered as "shy" and "quite" since my childhood. But now as I'm in my teens, I've come to know about social anxiety and I literally find myself in it. The fact that my relatives don't even have any idea on what social anxiety is. My dad always forces me to socialize which takes a really bad toll on me. I just hope people will be educated about this illness and will hopefully understand us well.
Sounds harsh, but you gotta realize most of these random people dont care about you at all, and you shouldn't care about them, they will forget anything you do in a minute. They got better stuff to do then talk about how you were acting shy in a group. It helps me a bit, mainly in school ❤
Fr like my parents make me play sports. I’m not trying to self-diagnose, because I don’t believe in that kinda thing. But it’s hard because I don’t want to mess up and I’m afraid I will or I’m afraid to try because I don’t want people to think that I’m not good enough. So I just don’t try. Sometimes I do without telling people but it’s hard to put effort into something you don’t wanna do and my parents think that making me play more is going to force me to like it. I hate it even more over the years. And my mother makes me socialize too, and whenever I don’t feel like hanging out with my friends she just says “Why are you so pissed off?! Did you guys fight?!” Or “why are you so weird! When I was a kid I would actually talk to people and make friends!”
@@Acelyn_11 That sounds absolutely rough :( I don't get why people think if they force someone to like something, they will start to like it. Like what kinda logic is that? Humans won't enjoy doing stuff what they DON'T like. And I get why you think that people will think you're not good enough. There's always that judgmental tension inside your head that people will judge you. I have that too. It's hard to speak up about it to our parents. And yeah just because you were good at something when you were a kid doesn't necessarily mean your kid will be good at it too. I think your mom should learn more about social anxiety. I wish the best for you. Good luck. And remember that you ARE good enough :)
My dad needs to see this. In my opinion, he probably cannot tell the difference between anxiety and rudeness, or he doesn't sometimes even know anxiety even exists.
Try to share some video of Psych2Go to your parents, it helped a lot for me. The mental health is important 💚 My own mother and many people think depression, anxiety and other trouble of mental health don't exist, it's hurt. Take care of yourself, of your mental health 💚
Gonna go with Richard Jones up there... "He's a Dad. He knows what anxiety is." I've got good money on him being sorta like "I reject your anxiety and substitute my own." from the infamous line from Adam Savage (of the Mythbusters Savages) about "reality" along the same vein... ;o)
@@richardjones2455 but they don't think thier Kids can have these, like they literally questioned my depression like "how you can have what you're thinking recently it's cause of the Mobile don't use that mobile why don't you talk to others he is your friend talk with him if you will act like this you won't get successful how you can be a Man if you will get shy in those simple situations see that Electrician was asking why you were just looking into phones when you should check if he's doing the correct thing why do you buffer while talking to others" *WE DO THIS FOR YOUR OWN GOOD* and many other things,
love how in childhood everyone pronounced me as "shy" and now they just straight up say i'm rude and stuck up. i just can't combat this queasy feeling inside me no matter how much i want to be nice and meet people and just be normal.
@@teaganeaston5342 naurr i'm so sorry you have to go through this too. i sincerely hope you have someone to talk over your feelings with it's just so much more worse when you don't have someone you trust enough to share this kind of stuff with
Im so sorry someone or something did this to you. Keep going i know how ot feels your not alone. I wish for you to meet understanding and loving people, you deserve it. (You sounds like a very sweet person)
I still can't get over how adorable these cartoons are. I hate that I missed out on the Plushie sale. Anyway, the only time that I felt social anxiety was whenever I had a date with a man I was very attracted to. I was afraid that I would ruin the date, but would ruin it anyway by canceling at the last minute. My 'flakiness' ruined a lot of dates. I just wish that I had more confidence.
@@josueordonez4303 My anxiety was very bad. The butterflies 🦋 in my stomach would be overwhelming 😩 and I would panic. These guys were not ugly. I always felt very comfortable and confident with guys I didn't find attractive.
I did something similar but with a woman. She thought I stood her up(more than once) and was pissed about it, and the sad part was I liked her as much as she liked me. Now my mind plays those memories over and over again to torment me.
Used to have social anxiety as a teenager (would even have panic attacks at the thought of going outside to meet people). So glad to have overcome it totally now!
@@protocolindao975 what @M_Ron said. I eventually went off to medical school where I HAD to give public presentations & interact with loads of people/patients. Slowly but surely, I overcame it. It was when I became a doctor I realised I had inadvertently done something we call Systemic Desensitisation - when you gradually expose yourself to that situation in small doses only to build tolerance.
Is there anyone else who doesn’t take out their phones when talking to people you’re unsure of DUE to anxiety because you don’t want to come off as rude but instead you just trail off the conversation or do your best to nicely cut it off so you can relax alone? Bc I struggle with talking a lot but I don’t just jump on my phone mid conversation…?
yess! I always never wanna come off as rude, and I learned that taking out ur phone when someone is talking to you is terribly disrespectful. So I either just get too anxious to go anywhere, or I try to nicely cut it off without beating myself too much up about it 😊❤️ #socialanxietysucks. btw you’re so beautiful! 😁
I started seeing a therapist for social anxiety disorder this year, and this video rings especially true. I spent my whole life thinking there was something wrong with me that no one understood. For that reason, I hope the people who need this video see it, I definitely wish I did when I was younger. Thank you for spreading awareness! Love your channel!
As a person with social anxiety these are well put. To put it simply: Social anxiety is anxiety put mainly on social things rather than everything. It sucks to have both anxiety and social anxiety at the same time.
1. Eye contact can be pretty scary for me because it just makes me uncomfortable. But I can force myself to do it. 2. I eat by myself because I'm afraid to make a mess or come off as a messy eater with bad table manners. I do go out of my way to try and have good etiquette at a table, but I always get worried I get some food on the corner of my lip or I'm struggling to bite a piece off my food or something falls off my fork (or spoon or chopsticks) and makes me come off as a clumsy or messy eater. 4. I do this a lot. At gatherings or whatever, I will just isolate myself and lay down because I feel so mentally exhausted. 6. *Yes!* 7. Yeah. Sometimes, when I vent, I kinda feel a bit of regret about it and wish I just kept it to myself. 9. I'm the quiet one in groups and always try to blend into the background so no one notices me and it makes me feel a bit comfortable.
So many people just think I’m some stuck up bitch or something- no! I’m just really really anxious and from a toxic household where showing vulnerability was forbidden! That’s how I end up expressing myself. My dad always scolds me for my anxiety symptoms - for example eye contact.
I understand, I don't like it when my dad makes me maintain eye contact when he's scolding me or talking to him, it makes me get lost for words or more nervous.
Had the same issue with my prior work place. I had a girl come up to me and tell me the first year I was there a lot of people thought I was rude, I told her I just stick to myself and don’t talk much
when I was younger, I would get FURIOUS over the smallest things, like a balloon was filling my chest. I thought I was going insane, but it turns out it's just social anxiety. You're not alone, I feel your pain in this!
I get angry at small things too, and I'm not really sure why. I just brush it off as hormones because "women are overly emotional". How do you know when it's excessive? How can you tell when it's a problem?
@@blueflare3848 well, reading a lot of psychology books helped a lot for me personally, and even more so when I was finally able to het a therapist ...
my best friend has social anxiety disorder and she said I'm one of the only people who understand when she wants people to be around or not, when she wants to be touched (like receiving hugs or even shaking hands) or not guess since I'm ambivert and observe people a lot while talking to them, I end up understanding some signals that end up going unnoticed by others
I’ve never told anyone about my interests because of how afraid I am that they’ll judge me. It’s horrible not being able to talk to people about these things and hold it all in. You don’t understand how good it feels to find out someone you know has a similar interest as you.
I have diagnosed social anxiety and all of these signs are so true. My social anxiety had been getting better, but recently, I had a stressful encounter with one of my friends and it caused me to be so anxious that after we finished the phone call my heart rate sped way up and I was hyperventilating and crying. I was not only upset by the call, but by the fact that I thought I'd finally overcome my problem, then it came back to kick me in the rear.
I have social anxiety and all of what was listed affects me. But, I feel more outgoing when my friends are with me and when i’m dressed in my favourite outfit. Like if i wanna make friends with someone new and my other friends are with me, it’s easier. But when all the attention is focused on me and i’m with a large group of strangers i get anxiety really bad and don’t know what to say, and then when i do it’s been too long and i feel really bad. (also many people assume i’m an introvert and it makes me a little mad but oh well, i understand why.)
I’m happy this video was uploaded. It talks about a more ugly side of mental illness that doesn’t get covered a lot. Many people struggling with different mental illnesses feel like they’re doing something wrong because of their symptoms, but this stigma really needs to go away. Does anyone have any similar experiences they wanna share about anxiety or anything else? It doesn’t even have to be a hard diagnosis, but I wanna help eliminate the stigma around the symptoms of different conditions, so your input will be valuable. Please do your best to take care of yourself. ❤️
Yeah, social anxiety is something i rlly struggle with. Like ordering in a restaurant, i talk a little too quiet and i don’t look at the waiter, just at my lap. Even with my close friends i can’t make good eye contact, it just feels so weird and makes me nervous. And another thing….. presentations in class/putting spotlight on a student is the absolute worst. It doesn’t help me at all personally, it just makes me have a small panic attack and overthink the whole way to it and wonder if anyone judged me. With some distant friends idk what to always say, sometimes in a convo i just say “oh, mhm, ooooh okaaay” and i feel like it sounds rude but i just don’t know what to do:( I really love being around people, but it takes me a while to warm up. I’ve been called an introvert for soooo long when i’m not at all, i wouldn’t say i’m an extrovert tho, bc sometimes i even get nervous on the internet like voicing my opinion to someone. (That was really long, im sorry!!)
I see you often in the comments section. You are a great ! Thanks to you, for your understanding, empathy, and benevolence. 4 months ago, diagnosed depression and anxiety, I don't know if I have it again actually, it depend of the situations, I still have anxiety sometimes. Heart and breath faster and stronger every morning when wake up/come back to reality, actually theses symptoms are softer than there were the monts before, it's still better ^^ I can't know or predict if it will disappear totally one day, I can't predict the situations which will make me anxiety, this is the life with some randoms things and events ^^ I learned to life with when it appears, and it's ok, it's not often. I discovered nice channels which help me a lot like this one. People on the comments section of this one, are adorable. You too, take care of yourself, take care of your mental health 💚 Just an INFJ French girl Remember : We are all différents ^^ 💚
most of the time I don’t even know why I’m scared . I can’t even sleep at night without being fearful . I suddenly jump out of bed after an hour of sleeping in the middle of the night ,afraid but for no apparent reason it’s frustrating
~IM gonna make this hella short as the deets....yea no thats Trilogy~ Essentially: I grew up (since preteen) with anxiety, NEVER KNOWING i had it. Being naturally inclined to intraspection + selfimprovement i created workarounds to "fix" how bad I was. Forcing myself thru idk how many scenarios I couldnt actually handle; suffering stubbornly w/ after-effects. Now? im in late 20s, had *too many* a horrid exp., + officially diagnosed. And I...rly want that good connection - but honestly terrified of the outcomes. I truely think, from all my endeavors, I gave myself AvPD X_X
@@user-jp1zr1qw7j The reason is n your unconscious. Maybe anxiety, maybe cause events in the past, maybe worry about futur.. Only you can know it. Have to work/search with yourself inside, maybe someone can help you, to bring out the cause. Or consult a health professional.
As a person with anxiety and highly sensitive, I wish my friends and family would understand how I'm trying to overcome This makes me to be alone so that I won't hurt anyone or get hurt
I relate to all these things but I don’t want to seem like I’m self diagnosing , I want to tell someone, but I feel they might think I’m joking. I can never look someone in the eye because I think they’re judging me, when I look away I always think they notice I never look at them. I also get so upset about the smallest things. :) thank you!
Exactly! I've been misunderstood all my life whenever I do these things. They just think I'm rude, unsociable and whatever name-calling they could think of. Also, I always have to think of a way out whenever there's a teambuilding or something. So when they ask me why I can't be there, I can't answer them honestly.
I can’t even keep a job for more than 3 months because it usually involves talking to random people throughout the day and then snarky co-workers on top of that. It’s made me a bit depressed. I have accepted the fact that I have to find a job where I work alone or with as few people as possible or online…. I recently moved to Sweden from the US and was pleasantly surprised to find that it’s way easier here for me as an introvert with massive social anxiety. I have hope for the first time in forever. I love how I can go about my business and no one really talks to me. I have not once had to endure small talk from someone I don’t know. People are usually blunt and to the point. No beating around the bush. It’s wonderful. I think most people from the US might perceive the average range of mannerisms I’ve experienced here as rude, but to me it’s completely fine! And everyone is so laid back. This one guy even told me to take it easy bc I’m being too hard on myself. I can check off every single box in this video, but I have had an easier time of it since the move.
I try to be nice to everyone, even strangers. I let people be rude to me and won't usually say anything back. I like hidding away. Sometimes when I talk to someone, even those younger than me, I feel I can't look into their eyes as I feel inferior. I will try some of the times, but then look away when I talk or look down
ive had anxiety for a while now, about 2-3-4 years, but my mother just thinks im rude but i suspect i have social anxiety amd have for a long time, however she wont believe me
I relate 100% I have severe anxiety with my mom knows abt but I’m rlly bad with ppl. I always come out rude and stuck up but that’s not it it’s just nerves and my social issues...
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The comments makes me feel less lonely... Im not alone in this world. Im not the only one who is frequently misunderstood because of my social anxiety.
My mom keeps telling me i need to socialize more, and that i’m not social enough. But i really want to be social and be myself in every single situation, but then when it comes to the point I’m actually in front of a stranger, i freak out and i just shut down... I’m currently learning to becoming an hairdresser and that takes real social skills, and i really enjoy doing peoples hair, but i don’t want to continue because i’m just not social enough. I do have every symptom of social anxiety and body dysmorphia, so I constantly feel like people judge me on my looks and my quietness. With close friends, i’m really social and interactive, but once i’m going out, it just shuts down. And i really want to work on this, but i’m too anxious to go to the psychiatrist. Its weird because i was a very extroverted child, but i think i started to dislike myself since one of my family members told my mom i gained weigh, while i was sitting next to her. And some teacher calling me a one eyed troll one time for having an fringe... I also normally don’t comment stuff like this, so sorry to bother you! Thanks for reading! ^^
Damn, This is what I’m exactly going through for the last months. I don’t go out, don’t date, I don’t even want to wear my contacts sometimes cause I don’t want to see or avoid people when I have to run errands 😳
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Really glad that I found this channel and know that there are alot of people with this issue just like me (I'm not alone 😌). People with social anxiety are often being mistaken as being rude, sometimes even family members don't understand that. Luckily i've outgrown this issue bit by bit (As it takes time).
A lot of these points resonate with me. Not because of social anxiety, but because I just don't like people, humans in general. I'm misanthropic. Can you do a video on being misanthropic??
Can social anxiety come and go? I personally know that I would've related to everything explained in the video if I watched it a while ago. I'm a lot better now. I've never consulted a professional btw. I was also in a whole new country and environment when I felt like I had bad social anxiety. Now I feel more adjusted and comfortable!
Why can’t people at my school understand that as an introvert, I have also social anxiety. (Not saying that all introverts do). But sometimes I don’t, until they reach me to talk to me. And when I tell them that I’m an introvert, they say, ah ok. Then usually leave. Or other times, they tell me “But you *can’t* live without socializing.” Pffft. Says an extrovert. 😒 (No offense). Ofc I can live without socializing. But it doesn’t mean that I don’t want friends. But people usually stop talking to me because I don’t talk to them. I pretty much need to be invited, not auto-invite myself, into their group. And it’s not because of my introversion here, but my social anxiety.
I really love this channel. You help me going through my hard times and make me believe that im not faking everything, well my family thinks im faking everything cause im just a "kid"
I am SO aware of my rude behavior. I cry myself to sleep because of the intense feeling of guilt and regret. I know what's right and what's wrong, but I can't seem to apply it to my life ??
I really agree with the phone one. I try to not use my phone in front of people, but I recently realized that I use my phone to distract myself when I'm alone. Before I had my phone everything was so much worse. I would agonize over mistakes or conversations that happened years ago, and wouldn't be able to let it go. I would also constantly worry about my future and future events. Now that I have a phone, I'm constantly on it, even though I know it's not healthy. I haven't had much worrying about past events. Now it's mainly worrying about the future or how people see me now. Which still sucks. I'm going to try to stop relying on it so much because I know it just distracts from the problem and doesn't make it better in the long run.
I'm 15 and since I was 11 I've noticed possible symptoms of generalized anxiety/social anxiety. So I have a few questions that I want your guys' opinion on, am I being dramatic/is it something else/is it a symptom of social anxiety? Food-related story! (This happened recently) Recently I went to visit my Dad. I had to fly in and stay with my step grandma since his flight was canceled and they had to book a flight a day later (my dad was moving back from being overseas). Therefore, it was me and my older sister with our step-grandma at home alone for a whole day. I didn't eat or drink a single thing that day because I felt like it was dooming to ask for anything. I didn't eat breakfast, lunch, or drank anything that day until my step grandma offered to take us to a restaurant for dinner. I stayed upstairs all day on my phone, and that was that. My stomach hurt like a bull load of crap, I could have thrown up because I was so hungry (but I have emetophobia so I made sure not to do that lol). Party-related story! This happened around 2 months ago. It was my best friend's birthday party and he had this cool game truck. Everyone was inside of the game truck, playing on the PS4's in there, having a fun time. I was too, but I was getting overwhelmed with the amount of people there were and how I barely knew even half of them, and decided to make an excuse to leave. Luckily my other best friend wanted to as well, so we decided to take a walk around the neighborhood. Small examples! Knocking on my parent's door when it's closed is a no-go for me. One time I accidentally cut my finger with a knife and needed some bandages, so I went to ask them, but their door was closed. Why couldn't I knock? I got no clue but I was scared out of my wits if I knocked, so until they opened that door, I sat in the dining room with a bleeding thumb lmfao. Needless to say they were pissed I didn't say anything. Calling people is a no. Face time/House party/zoom/etc. is a no. I get choked up and my eyes started watering, I can only text. And if I don't feel like texting, sorry to say this, but I get hella dry. And this happens often. This story happened just tonight. Going over to my stepdad's friends house tomorrow and my mom was baking a cheesecake. Told me to watch the timer and do something to the cheesecake, then set another timer. Simple right? Well that whole thing got messed up, the timer never set correctly, and so we weren't sure if it was cooked right. Nonetheless my Mom was pissed and I freaked out so bad that I started to cry and mind you, I hate crying cause it hurts my eyes 💀 so I avoid doing that often. My mom ended up apologizing for snapping and I apologized for not noticing, but anyways, that all happened. I'm worried some of these were symptoms of social anxiety, much more has happened as of these past couple of years, but that's just a snippet of what has happened these past couple of weeks/months. I feel like it's nothing, but I also get very agitated if I just brush it off as nothing. Could anyone here please tell me what they think this is? Sorry if this was a lot, this was kinda my way of venting out my concerns ig lol.
If my parents invite some guests over for lunch or dinner, I always eat somewhere else. The reason is because I don't want to get involved in small-talk I don't want to have right now and I'm chewing a bit louder than other people and I don't want to irritate them ^^
I definitely have social anxiety, I have weird moments when I’m very open and very extroverted. Then the next day I’m back to being quiet. I also find it way easier to be open to strangers rather than people I know, which sound weird, I know, but it’s easier because they don’t know you.
I don't only shut down in group settings, my mind just goes blank. I don't know what to say, what to do. If I actually do try and say something I'll stutter or the words come out in the wrong order. I keep trying to socialize but Every. Damn. Time. I get a reminder why I shouldn't. I have two good friends who kind of understand how I am and that has to be good enough. Seeking help has never worked for me either, because doctors always focus on my depression or think it's a lack of self esteem. I've tried for 20 years to find help.
A problem I used to have before finally overcoming it, was the fear that if my anxiety went away, a part of myself would also go. That's what held me back from recovering for so long. But now I am here to say that it doesn't, I'm still the same person I was back then, just happier. Please get help if you can and feel ready, you deserve better.
I thought it was just me! It's such a good & relieving feeling knowing that other's go through the same things you do. That's partly what I love about the internet... Knowing that people out there are just like you.
As a person who has social anxiety and that social anxiety runs in my family I can relate to struggling to opening up because I feel like I would be judged for what I’m feeling or going through and that I worry people wouldn’t understand or they would say that it’s not a big deal and another one is shutting down in a group setting is what I also relate to so much like one time I was playing the wolf game in a big circle and there was a lot of adults I didn’t know and felt scared cause I felt like even if I said something people will be judging the heck out of me and stuff like how I care about what people think about me and that I just like it when people check up on how I feel and having social anxiety I can barely sleep so everyday I’m always so exhausted and drained and now I try getting enough sleep and try to open up more about deep stuff with a person who I feel comfortable with but the thing that I struggle with the most and that gets in the way with my life is having maladaptive daydreaming which is a behavior where a person spends a excessive amount of time daydreaming and when I looked up why do I daydream constantly I found out that maladaptive daydreaming is a coping mechanism in people who have mental health conditions like anxiety and even tho it’s a coping mechanism it does get in the way with my life and schoolwork and grades which I can’t tell if maladaptive daydreaming is healthy or not
OMG! Thank you for this video 😭😭 I am crying right now because people think that I am rude, and they don’t understand that I am suffering from social anxiety.
My family members needs to see this video, who always say me what do you think of yourself there are more girls who are very talkative why don't you become one like them. And always scold me for being an introvert they doesn't even know how does it feel having a social anxiety, depression and being anxious....😐😐
I swear these videos are the only "person" that understands me. I've never felt more understood. My "friends" never understood me. My "family" never understood me. None of the 5 therapists I've seek help from understood me. Not only that, but they never RESPECTED me.
