10 Signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome 

How's everyone Sunday going so far? Also, we decided to keep the last two videos up actually.

“When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.” - Jill Blakeway

Caring for a narcissist is the worst thing you can do to yourself, they will capitalise on that, emotionally exploit you and leave you feeling chronically stressed and miserable. And yes, I'm talking from experience.

The worst thing about narcissists, in my opinion, is how they will NEVER stop blaming others for things, or stop completely running away from accountability. This video hit so close to home, it's heartbreaking 😢

In my 21 years of being with a covert narcissist I see these traits. 1. Incapable and unwilling to take any accountability for the chaos, dramas and mind manipulating confusion they create. 2. Always blame others for their problems. 3. Can't take the slightest criticism however we'll intentioned or kindly expressed. They see it as a massive ego attack. 4. Harbour resentments and grudges, loving to remind you of something that you said or did decades ago ( even if it never happened the way they recall it) 5. Cannot regulate their emotions and use you as their scapegoat and emotional waste bin. 6. Chronically bored Always seeking the next thing to find some thrill or distraction. 7. Like to bring you down to their low vibe Misery seeking level. 8. Highly jealous and envious of other but always denying it. 9. They feel entitled to having control of you and their needs met but don't genuinely appreciate what you do for them. 10. Create stress upsets and arguments then attack and blame you for being upset with them, like kicking a dog and saying it's crazy for bark ing at them. 11. Make their own rules about what you should think do and say while they follow no rules at all. 12. Talk about others behind their back and smear you to their family and friends to gain sympathy . In short the traits of childlike behaviour before a healthy fully functioning self aware and socially developed grown up appears. What they seek is a parent figure who will accept them as if still a child in an adult body. To love such a person requires a true Saint. A mere mortal will suffer and become ill physically mentally and emotionally abandoning themselves trying to rescue someone from their own self Sabotaging behaviours. .

1. 1:07 you felt like you had a perfect relationship 2. 2:03 you feel like you're walking on eggshells 3. 2:34 you may have experienced smear campaigns 4. 3:14 you feel isolated and vulnerable 5. 3:50 you've developed a pervasive sense of mistrust 6. 4:15 you may engage in self destructive behavior 7. 5:03 you may experience unexplained physical symptoms 8. 5:33 you may have issues setting boundaries 9. 6:24 you may be questioning your own identity 10. 7:15 you may find it hard to make decisions edit: to everyone saying thanks, y'all are so sweet. i generally do this when noone has yet for myself but im happy it helps others as well :)

Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

Whenever I have an emotional breakdown due to the heaviness of prolonged narcissistic treatment from my husband, everyone in my life looks at ME like I'm a freak! No one cares what brought me to that state. Thank you for the informational with a calm, empathetic voice.

The little leaf guy is so cute, seeing him upset is so sad lol

The rumination is the worst thing ever. I can't stop ruminating about previous/future interactions. The thoughts and overall feeling of apprehension about the next interaction keep piercing through like sharp knives.

I used to be in a relationship with a narcissist. He mentally abused me to the point I had a mental breakdown. I've been in and out of the mental hospital for 10 years and I'm still healing. I can relate to a lot of the points you mentioned in this video. To whomever is reading this just remember you are not alone, nothing stays the same and you will get better. Sending my love x

As the scapegoat of a narcissistic family, I was extremely traumatized by the time I left home. My life has been a shit show, but it is getting better with ongoing space between myself and those who abused me - and still would, given the opportunity.

Who else grew up with a narcissistic mom and is dealing with their trauma now🙋🏽‍♀️ Edit: seeing all of the replies really breaks my heart because I can relate SO MUCH to all of you, just know you are loved and if someone ever needs to talk just ask me for my number and I’m here!!💗 we can get through this together

Me: *identifies with every single symptom* Also me: "nah I must be exaggerating"

My dad was a narcissistic abuser. Beat me and emotionally/verbally abused me for 20 years growing up. Finally confronted him yesterday. He laughed in my face and said that it was all a lie that my mum (who is a psychologist) put in my head to steal me away from him. He is fucking insane. Thank you for making this video. I love my mother, more than anything in the world. But 3 hours with this man made me begin questioning that and everything I experienced as a kid. This video helped me understand how he is twisting my mind. I'm done with him. Moving on. Trusting my body and my experiences. Good luck to anyone out there experiencing this. TRUST. YOUR. BODY. Trust facts, not stories. I love you all!❤

My abuser has literally asked me if I am “getting worn down yet” and am I “ready to stop fighting and let them have their way.” You hit the nail on the head!!! 🤦🏾‍♀️

I feel like my abuser took everything that I had in me. The identity crisis is real. I don’t even remember who I was before.

After four years of narcissistic abuse, I finally got a divorce from my abuser, and I ran into them at Walmart the other day. I handled it very well, and am realizing now that they do not have any control on me now. I’m finally finding myself again.

This is part of what led me to addiction. To anyone struggling with abuse and this syndrome who might be escaping these feelings of self doubt or hypervigilance by using drugs or alcohol, know that recovery is possible. I respect you for reaching this part of your life -- you've made it this far, and you can survive and thrive with support and guidance!

I am a broken person. Recently I started seeing a professional about my childhood trauma and it's way worse than I ever imagined. If I had not had my son I may never have pursued the help I needed. With the birth of my son I started trying to change myself to be the best father I can for him. In doing so, I realized how hard my father was on me, to the point that I've had to cut him out of my life completely. It's terrifying realizing that all my anger was born through pain, abuse, and mental torture. Luckily I have a chance to grow to be the best man I can be, and be the father my son deserves. Please don't hide behind your anger, it will only leave you lonely and empty.

When you come from a family origin of narcissistic abuse, you’re more susceptible to fall into narcissistic relationships in adult life. Whether with a partner or friend. We seek familiarity unfortunately, it’s just how we were programmed to function during childhood. There is hope, you’re not alone and continue to seek help! These informative videos help a bunch. Dr. Ramani’s videos are very helpful when it comes down to toxic and narcissistic abuse!

This is your sign to leave!!!!! Dealing with a narc is like a road leading no where. The longer you stay the more you lose yourself, and after you leave make sure you start your healing process asap. The longer you prolong, and mask how you feel the more painful the healing process will be. Be patient, and gentle with yourself ❤️

There are many different signs. These include spending time on phone that was not spent previously, withholding sex from you, withdrawing in communication with you, agitation or anger over Petty stuff or making up situations to get angry or agitated over, lying, being secretive in any way, randomly spending more time caring for and pampering oneself such as putting on makeup or wearing cologne or coloring hair etc. Any type of changed behavior that is not aimed at pleasing or benefiting your relationship. With all of that though, follow your gut. your gut is telling you that something isn't right and it's telling you that this could or is happening, therefore listen to it. Just Free yourself from all of it! Run and don't look back. Go 100% no contact. The mental and emotional abuse is not okay at all! Do not bring anything up to her. Don't try to rationalize or have a conversation about anything. Don't let her know that you know she's in narcissist. All of that can cause a narcissistic rage. If you have not yet witnessed one of those just trust me that you don't want to! A narcissistic rage is beyond any rage I have ever seen or witnessed in my entire life. I am an army combat veteran and served front lines for a year and afghanistan. I have abuse going back from as long as I can remember, the first time in my personal memory is 2 years old. With everything I have been involved in, and my rape, other sexual abuse, their physical abuse, etc in narcissistic rage is by far the worst! If you need to contact your local police department and start a new contact order. No one can protect you like you can! free yourself from it all and move forward in your life. The minute you run and go no contact is the minute your life begins again. If need be seek out professional help. Therapy is the best thing I did for myself. The best gift I gave to me! The abuse is so deep and overwhelming that having a professional guide you through the steps of the healing process is extremely beneficial! Just remember, there is great strength in asking for help. There is great lack and strength or no strength at all in putting on a mask and hiding behind the opinions of society and pretending that you are okay! As human beings we all witness A Time In our lives where we are not okay! Those that heal, move past, and move forward, and have a brighter future are those who ask for help and do the work that is needed through the help! I'm so sorry you are going through this and I wish you the very best! Good luck! Always remember that you are stronger than you believe you are, you are worthy and deserving of better and always, and you are enough just the way you are and who you are today! Take this time for you! Get yourself again. Fix that meal that you're all time favorite, rent that movie you've been wanting to see, have a guys night out with your best friends, remodel a room in your home, go purchase that item you've been wanting to for so long, just do for yourself! Self-acceptance, self-love, and being able to forgive yourself is far more important than what anyone else can give to you! Believe in who you are! You deserve nothing less than that! You're not alone! Feel free to tag me in any other questions that you have! I'll help if I can. Additionally you can hire a cyber expert to help you get remote access to their phone so you can track them and monitor all of their activities without them knowing. You may locate the top cyber specialists locally at Digitalinvestigate@gmail. com, where you can engage a well-trained professional to assist you..........

you can get away from these relationships, i promise. it’s hard, and tiring, but once you make it, you’re walking on air. take it from someone who’s been through it and made it out the other end. remember, i love you and you’re valid 💜

I'm queen of dissociation and it's better to be alone, for me anyway, more control that way.

I’ve been diagnosed with this. This video hit me right in the feels, because it’s exactly everything I’m suffering from. It made me feel heard and like I’m not delusional

You can be 100 percent accountable and still be accused of not changing or caring. It's spooky how they hear nothing but their own diatribe.

This is exactly the story of my life. It's hard to recognize being a victim. A relationship of 4 years of abuse drained my life to the point that I thought I was dead. Just recently I started to live again but it's so hard, I never do comments for videos but this time I feel 100% identified cause I feel this video was made for me and as I'm writing this comment I have tiers. Don't mean to look petty or nothing. For whoever reading this comment right now and had a situation like this I want to tell you that even in the darkest moments you are never alone, just reaching to someone and saying something will make you feel a bit better. Even writing a comment. Sending tons of good vibes to everyone here.

When your narcissistic abuser is your own parent

Sending a hug to anyone from a toxic family dynamic. 🫂

I care so much that I am terrified to leave. I'm scared that something may happen if I'm not there...though I am the one being destroyed emotionally.

WOW I wish I found this video sooner... A year ago I was struggling so bad with these symptoms it drove me crazy. Post-abuse isolation is real and it's important that you acknowledge your worth above other's views of you.

I was dying in my last relationship. My body was shutting down from the stress and anguish. I thought I was crazy and all of my symptoms were a consequence from the abuse.I am so grateful to have gotten out. Thank you for creating this video.

My ex husband went to extremes to convince me I was losing my mind. Shortly after our marriage I found out he had been sleeping with at least four of my (so called) friends. I informed him I was divorcing him. Firstly, he accused me of jealousy and paranoia. Ha! After determining He was found out he set about a gaslighting scheme. I must also add…We tried counseling but when that was a bust he got vicious. Told family and friends I was losing my mind. Told everyone I was seeing a therapist (our marriage counselor) because I was unbalanced. Hide things from me. Starting conversations with me and act like I was delusional when I countered in conversation, by saying we were never talking about that. He would sit next to me and whisper my name and when I responded he would fake concern while saying “you are hearing things again.” Another exampleI recently sold my car and saw someone driving it. I exclaimed “Hey look there is my old car!” He said, “You never owned that car. What is wrong with you?” There were so many things similar to this that he pulled but my all time favorite…he put his arm around me and whispered in my ear, “If you promise not to divorce me I will stop telling everyone you are crazy.” I was done done done with this freak. Shortly after filing for divorce I ran into his business partner in a very crowded gathering. His business partner loudly proclaimed, “I am so happy to hear you are getting mental health care.” Of course several people are now staring at me. I was shocked but quickly countered, “It’s too bad the people who truly are mentally ill don’t seek help.” He responded with, “I figured you would have a come back.” I never looked back in regret when I divorced that narcissistic mess. How ironic that a person who gaslights try’s to convince a victim they are losing their mind. Who is the really sick person in this scenario? Additionally, Here's a clue for anyone of you that think your spouse might be cheating, but you think they are just too clever to be caught, your feelings of being cheated on are not facts and your intuitions are bullshit unless you find out for sure. So before you bring your sickness and blame into the relationship get some fucking proof and some mental help consult a private investigator today Metaspyhub@gmail. com for the purpose know where you stand in your relationship...

If you've had expectations set really high for you by a narcissistic. Remember that expectations are just pre meditated resentments. Edit: thanks for the likes.

It's so sad how easily we can propagate trauma and abuse before we are even capable of knowing what we're doing. I could see as a child my parents' sincerity, hypocrisy and cruelty side by side, and it terrified me. That fear has not failed to run my life since, in spite of all my efforts. I relate to every single point. Great video as always 💫

#7 is so true for me. My health overall has improved. Lost weigh, blood pressure and glucose significantly improved. But a “smaller” health improvement I almost didn’t realize is my allergies haven’t bothered me since I’ve been away from him as strange as that may sound. When I was around him I would go through SO many bottles and packets of allergy pills. But I have rarely needed an allergy pill since I’ve been gone. I’m just not having allergy flare ups left and right like I was before. I can’t help but laugh. I guess I was allergic to him.

These signs in isolation deserve therapy. Whether you identify with the label or just experience these symptoms, they warrant professional help.

Had a narcissistic friend like this. She ended up ghosting me. Was super painful, but looking back it was an easy ticket out of that toxic friendship.

Yes! It is like walking on eggshells around your abuser but it lasts inside you and in other relationships to be hypervigilant and rejecting of others too who you become mad at.. Thank you soooo much for your super-empathic voice and information. I feel like you side with me as the "original" and real victim in this situation. You even include the conditioning idea which really grounds me in the truth of what is going on, when I see that "training" has happened over time and that is why it is soooo hard to SEE!!! ... and it is also scary to see the unsafety of it all.

This video really hit the bullseye- I was in an abusive friend group with multiple narcissists in it and was friends with them for 3-5 years. They would often invalidate my experiences/feelings, hide things from me, and manipulate other friends and family that I was in the wrong. They still do it. I can’t even get away from them since I go to a small school and they participate in most of the activities I’m in. I even feel like I’ve picked up some of their bad habits and unintentionally hurt other people using their tactics, which makes me feel awful. I wish nobody has to experience these things. Because of a few manipulative people, I will struggle to make meaningful relationships for the rest of my life. Stay safe out there-

This made me cry a lot. I don’t feel so alone hearing this, at least. I’m scared and I’m trying to undo some of my collapsed boundaries, but I’m really really struggling. This is real. I deal with this every day. And if you’re out there and you deal with this too, I’m so sorry. You are strong. I believe in you.

I always thought narcissism was just someone extremely vain and overly focused on appearance. Until I realized my wife of 21 years was incredibly toxic and narcissistic. Its probably the worst feeling in the world when you realize that the person who is supposed to be your partner, spouse, confidant, lover, etc has been lying to you the entire time. It feels soul crushing

I relate to ALL of them!!! because she was a malignant Narc. I truly feel for all the victims that have gone through Nacisistic abuse of Any kind! It is truly the most difficult thing that a human being could go through.

The emotional support from others in a community can help victims of this type of abuse recover and is so appreciated.✌🏼

U most definitely gotta be a psychic or sumn she always dropping a video about something i have or went thru other therapists need to take notes and get on this level fr

I hate the feeling of walking on egg shell, really exhausting

Victim of lifetime narcissistic abuse. All ten perfectly described me, I hope to one day get back on track with life. It’s hard to have any trust for other people now which doesn’t give me much optimism.

AAK.... this is too much truth. Even knowing that I have had several narcissists in my family and in past relationships, it's still a punch in the heart to hear how this can play out and what long term effects can happen. I think a lot of people who have narcissistic parents or siblings end up in relationships with narcissists because it's familiar and they may not even realize what is happening. I was certainly programmed as a child to support a narcissist and ended up doing so.... that relationship almost destroyed me. it took a lot of work and therapy to work through the long term effects.... I'm still working on them many years later. Thanks for making this video, it was a great reminder of all the ways I'm stronger now and how much healthier my relationships are. And a good reminder that when I struggle with people, it's probably because of past experiences and to be gentle and kind to myself.

I always notice that I dissociate whenever my father is around. He's definitely a narcissistic parent. I think me and my siblings all have some kinda problem/might be mentally troubled because of how he treats us and how he shows us how he treats other people. He always show up as a good and decent person whenever he face other people but when it comes to us. Nahhhh.

Had a "friend" whose behaviour correlates with many of these points. Been about a year or so since I cut ties with him, and I'm glad I did. I still feel like they've left some marks on me in the way I interact with other people, my bad anxiety or even my indecisiveness, but I'm working on it. I'm glad I found this channel. If you're stuck in the grip of a narcissist, get away from them as fast as you can. Whether they're your friend or your significant other, relationships with them are damaging and the effects can be long-lasting. You have the power to change anything, and just know you can do it :)

Yes. All of the above. I made it out once.This last summer I went 2 short & homeless, liberating, peaceful, healing, optimistic months without letting him in. While my son was temporarily staying w/family because things were so rough I wanted him to be in a stable, healthy, happy environment. Even though they think I’m the anti-Christ. Even my severe health problems, diseases, & mental health issues started improving. While homeless & very little medical availability at that. It was wonderful. I was working on temporary housing, medical transportation & more. Then my husband texted me, saying there’s a emergency w/our 12 yr old son & him.(it was a lie). I had blood poisoning at the time & (temporary minor brain damage & needing a couple weeks of 24/7 care w/very little medical resource for that. Thank God I at least had antibiotics). In SOME 🤷🏼‍♀️, under the radar very convincing way. He compassionately & repently told me he knew exactly how I felt & why I left. And for the first time in 17 years told me he understands. He took 100% blame. Deeply apologized. Promised “all of that abuse is over”. God showed him how he was horrible to me & promised me that’s not gonna happen anymore. He EVEN said he’ll take me back to the shelter after I’m better & get to spend time w/our son. So I can continue to do what I needed. All while he was doing the most successful “smear campaign” yet. I didn’t even know what that was. 🥺💔After 17 years of complete isolation, mental, emotional & physical violent abuse. Those 2 months were very hard & scary. But easier & I had hope & oxygen for the first time in a while. I had such a huge, clear unpolluted view of everything he’s been doing. All my mistakes & failures. Ways to change my ways of thinking. That I was valuable, needed & wanted. Especially by my son. That everything WASN'T my fault. What was & wasn’t my fault. That I CAN succeed. My faith was nearly gone. But I started thinking “maybe God DOESN'T hate me. I wanted to work on my faith. It’s been almost 3 months back at “home”. I failed. Myself and everyone that helped me. I’ve only seen my son 3 times. I’m sicker than I’ve ever been. I’m burned out. He’s NEVER been so continuously cruel. Screaming. Violent. Daily punishment. He blames me for his health problems. Our son’s need to be with HIS mom & dad. Just everything. He says he NEVER said he’d change or promised anything. That I left because I had no choice. NOT because of him. He always says I lie and make up things he says. Maybe I am crazy. Horrible. I feel like I’m in hell. He takes most of my medication, puts them in his many safes. I don’t have the codes. He Takes what he “needs”. Tells me it’s “the least” I can do. I can’t understand WHY ANYONE would want to be & want to fight & compete to be sicker, suffering & in more pain than anyone else in the world. It’s beyond me. There is no winning. I’m out of strength and will. I have never felt so defeated. TYSM for the educational posts. Helps me understand my flaws & weaknesses. The comments are encouraging. I appreciate everyone here barring their own hearts too. Be safe, have a wonderful Christmas and new year. 🙏🏻💜

The end made me cry, I have a narcissistic parent and have been really going through it lately but this video made me feel a little bit better. Thank you for the video you guys make great content

I wonder how many videos I will need to see that perfectly describe my situation before I will actually believe it’s happening and stop blaming myself.

I literally started crying from the start until the end because I was a victim of abuse by a narcisstic parent and I am really struggling by all of these things the last several years after leaving the abusive habitat. :(( And your voice is very calming and nice, you were really good at this. Thank you for educating and supporting people.

This is 100%. IThank you, I needed this. I have to hear these things every so often because I find that I fall back into shaming myself over time. It’s a reminder that it wasn’t my fault, that I need to be gentle with myself and some self care is needed because I have relapsed in a sense back into assuming responsibility and shame. I was with a person who has NPD and antisocial disorder for 12 years and it really damaged me. God bless you for putting this content out for us survivors and the rest of the world that; even those the cases are so textbook, just don’t seem to get it.

Amanda? From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much! I've been listening to psych2go videos for a very long time, and always thoroughly enjoyed the knowledge it had to share. But I always especially enjoyed and felt in many ways comforted, understood, supported and not alone when hearing your voice. But hearing you address yourself and in such a way that it very much felt like you were speaking directly to me; it hit me in such a way emotionally, that I just had to say something. I desperately feel that I need to express my deepest gratitude and beg you to keep doing what you're doing! For if one person can truly be touched and have their lives altered for the better just by hearing your voice and your acknowledgement, there's no telling what you can do, how many lives you can affect and ultimately save, just by continuing to do this! To which you bless us all with & are so genuinely gifted ♡

I cried watching this, dealing with a narcissistic mother has always been so hard.

When you need therapy but because of trust issues and anxiety, you avoid it like the plague 😅

Thanks Psych. Just recovered from one of the worst panic attacks of my life and I'm definitely seeing some things crop up here and there. My friends only seek how others view them and not my feelings. And so when I was left out and mocked for certain things I felt my world crumble. It felt like I was having a heart attack and had to be taken to the ER. I still have a lot of recovering to do, but I'm just so glad other people such as myself can see a video like this to spot the signs before it is too late.

I think it's harder to recognize this abuse when you grew up with it. I tried to start my own life without dealing with what I'd experienced and it ended up following me around like a shadow. Every step in understanding what I went through has begun to free my mind. It's painful for sure but I'm tired of it's role in my life!

My mother's biggest flag that I see so clearly now is how she throws a pity party for herself almost every time I or my other family members/friends try to talk about our own painful experiences/traumas. It's always a competition and it's so exhausting.

When I tried to set boundaries growing up, I wish my mother would have given me the silent treatment rather than the verbal beatings she would give me.

I have like 8 out of 10. I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years, and it ended in me going to jail for a year. Long story, but I'm still dealing with a lot of this. If you think you are involved with a narcissist, get out, cut all ties and don't look back.

This channel is what helped me realize that this is what I went through for 2 and a half years. One morning 8 signs you're dealing with narcissistic abuse popped up on my feed. I watched it and everything just clicked.

1: you felt like you had the perfect relationship in the beginning 2: you feel like you are walking on eggshells 3: you may have experience severe campaigns 4: you feel isolated and vulnerable (hovering) 5: you develop a pervasive sense of mistrust 6: you may engage in self sabotage and self destructive behavior 7: unexplained physical symptoms 8: you may have issues setting boundaries 9: you may question your own self identity 10: you may find it hard to make decisions

"When you get too lost by the pain, you confuse what is right and wrong anymore, thus making your actions go unnoticed while you focus on being the victim"

Went through a total of 12 years in relationships with two different narcissists. I've lost my sense of self a long time ago and have been feeling tired and exhausted for the last ~4 years. Glad to say I'm finally out of those relationships - for good. I'm still exhausted all the time, still trying to rediscover who I am as a person and still struggling with making decisions. But I'm confident that I will get better again. To all of my fellow survivors of narc abuse: you got this! We can heal again and we are so much better off without the narcs in our lives! ✊🏽

I've put up with this for 27+ yrs, not knowing what to do, i blamed myself. Just recently (about 6 months) I started realizing it wasn't me. I learned alot as I listened & read about the "Silent Treatment" which I experienced many times, I would beg him & blame myself in order to keep peace btwn us. I might add the longest silent treatment i suffered was 4 1/2 yrs. I've got health problems due to this relationship. I'm a work in progress but thank God I've come to realize that I will be better off without this self centered so called christian man of God. My family & of course his family adore him..never did it dawn on me what this person IS. No wonder he'd say i was NAIVE!!! Thank you for this opportunity ❤️

When you mentioned the silent treatment as a form of abuse i knew this was for me. My abuser would DEMAND silence (like weeks of zero contact) over the smallest inconvenience on their part (let me tell you about the final straw with them). And when they finally would speak to me, they wouldn’t address the issue or have a healthy conversation about the thing that led to the silent treatment. Just be like yeah we’re cool and then be fine until the next thing i did wrong. It was always something different. I made sooo much of an effort to give them what they wanted but that was never good enough and the cycle would repeat itself. They also accused me on multiple occasions that I was gaslighting them that by the time i realized what gaslighting was, i became very aware that it was them gaslighting me and gaslighting me by accusing me of doing it to them.

My mom used the be worst when i was younger. I'm not the type of child that would shut up if i got mistreated. As i grow up her argument become more unclear and weaker, she always tries to change the topic to edge me and make me feel I'm the worst but since i started standing up for myself (literally using logical argument) she stopped since last year and changing slowly. I thought I'm the only one noticing but my sister too.

You have no idea how much this video just helped me with past traumas that I never even knew about myself that still effect me today 😵‍💫

I Am Definitely a Victim of this Abuse. His favorite is the Silent Treatment. These People are Evil and selfish self centered Losers. I have healed and he is no longer someone I need in my life!! Thank You God!!

I really relate to all the points. I can’t tell you how many times I have questioned my sanity. These people are crazy.

I honestly cried watching this video. I’m experiencing this with my parents, for years it felt like i was never going to find an answer or some type of clue that i could discuss with a therapist. This video is literally explaining my whole entire life. Now as an adult, i have multiple mental health issues to the point, i can’t even function on some days. Thank you for making these videos, they honestly give me the hope and courage i need. You guys are just beyond amazing💕

I started crying about midway through the video. I literally dropped out of art school after one semester because I progressively found out over the span of a couple months that my roommate was very much a narcissist. We got along real well and literally spent every day together, along with a friend of mine from high school and his roommate. About two months in she pulled me aside to tell me I was putting her down - I talk openly about the things I've been through in my life and how far I've come, and she claimed that was making her upset. I literally went to another floor in the dorm building that was empty and called my mom while crying my eyes out. I felt horrible and I had no idea what to say or do. I began to question everything I wanted to say and I still have trouble with not believing everyone will be mad at me for talking. After that, she gave me another day or so before she stopped talking to me out of nowhere. And then she randomly moved out of our dorm one night. I found out she was moving out as she was doing so. Apparently my friends knew that we were supposedly having problems with each other (which I was very much not aware of - it had supposedly been taking place for two months) and said we had been talking about it. She was speaking behind my back about me to my friends and no one ever thought to ask me about how I felt or if what she said was actually true. Not even the school said anything about her switching dorms to me. I ended up losing my friend from high school because he sided with her, and I ended up dropping out because I didn't feel comfortable around others. I was stuck to my room a lot for the rest of the semester and I felt like everyone was looking at me and judging me, even though they may not have been. I had a couple friends, but I couldn't get over it all and I got to see her in my classes acting as if she did nothing wrong. She even smirked at me one day as if saying "I win". I dropped out and I only just now (after four years) have started going to college again - not art school this time.

I'm recently getting therapy after getting PTSD from a narcissistic abusive relationship. Thank you so much for these videos they help a lot and make me realize that I ignored a lot and let a lot of my boundaries get violated. I can't tell you how much these videos have been a benefit to the recovery. The sad part is that I will always love her and forgive her for everything

THIS EXPLAINS EVERYTHING

I'm an introvert and an empath. I've been living with "family" for the past 4 months now. This house is full of extroverts and narcissists. There is not a single introvert. These 4 months have changed me in so many ways. I laugh less, smile less, feel more lonely, I'm feel more exhausted, stressed and the list goes on. Can't wait to get out of here.

Ouch. Absolutely every part was relatable. I was in a 14 year relationship with someone I thought was perfect, even though I was always walking on eggshells. When she'd have a meltdown screaming at me, chasing me into the bathroom when I was trying to take a shower (I think she'd re-bring up fights there because it forced me to be vulnerable), and saying she was contemplating suicide and storming out of the house over and over with me chasing after her... I thought it was just her own trauma and PTSD and to be a good partner I should be understanding and tolerate it until she'd calm down. I'm against name calling, yelling, or degrading but she would do both freely during arguments and apologize after saying that it was not ok... before doing it all over again. I started out with a quiet, chubby (300+), and romantic boyfriend in highschool that wrote me poetry, shared music with me, and read books to me... and ended up with a hot-headed, controlling, and anti-social (except with her own separate friends) trans woman partner. She started flirting relentlessly with others, tried to talk me into polyamory (it was a disaster), got angry if I asked her to tone down her flirting and constant ERP (she said it wasn't cheating but it started to feel like it when they kept up the same kind of sexual talk OOC), and then told me how depressed she suddenly was because I wasn't ok with more people in our relationship (she wanted me to date the people too and I wasn't ok with that). We discussed several times that if that is the life she wants she should be honest with me and let me go. She kept refusing, saying she didn't want to let me go, and then cheated on me. I caught her but only after she hurt herself so badly she was in the hospital so I forgave her. She read to me again, bought me dinners, and less than a year later cheated again. Not just cheated, but messages upon messages where she was telling every person she was flirting with that I was horribly negligent and toxic. We were engaged. I'd taken her on a vacation in a cabin in the mountains with horseback riding. I bought her flowers. I painted her picture often. We cuddled every night and I was always going down on her when she wanted it. I still feel like "what if she was right and I was actually horrible for not doing enough?" Now honestly I don't think I want a relationship. Ever. I never ever want someone to have that level of power over me. So many friends wouldn't even come over anymore but started popping back up after she left. I may just stick with good friends.

All I can say is that; these videos weren't around back in the day 1981-1982. When I first encounter a relationship with a narcissist I had no clue/knowledge about NPD , and I was very young 16 -17 years old, that relationship last one year, I had no support from my family they would team up with the narc boyfriend against me, I prayed for away out, God heard my cry and freed me from that toxic hell (thank you Jesus), and thank you for sharing your videos they're educational and informative.

My dad’s a narcissist I have a lot of commonalities with him, and quite frankly I really wish I wasn’t one as well. I’ve been refusing it for so long but my dad took a huge toll on my life and I don’t want to do all he did to me to my future children. But now having watched the video and realize I relate to all of these, I see that yes, I have narcissistic victims syndromes, and I’m pissed off about it.

"once you know, you can grow; acknowledging the effects of being in a narcissistic relationship is the first step to healing from one" (8:20)

Yes. I realate to this video. Since the beginning of this year I've been following videos from this channel and other channels. It's such a relief to discover I'm not dumb or crazy😰💜. Thanks again for this support💓

I feel so upset I didn't know all this at the age of 20! It's never too late, but the narcissists in my life, were a negative influence in my decision making. Sucks, as you can't turn back the clock. I'm most saddened by the hurt I caused my late mother and grandparents.

I am a male and this actually opened my eyes to the fact that I have been, in the past in a narcissistic abusive relationship towards me. I did not realize it until listening to this podcast. My lady friend at the time would give me silent treatments over perhaps something I said even though it wasn’t mean or nasty I had to watch what I say and she would give me a silent treatment for days if not a week or more. She would also twist my words of things I said. One day and she was giving me the silent treatment I told her when she’s done playing games let me know and we’ll talk. She never did that to me again. I always felt that I was walking on eggshells and I had to watch what I said around her because she would twist it or go off in a rage. She kept wanting me to sell my house and move to another state and I told her that I was not willing to do that and I told her that I was tired of her pushing me to do things that I did not want to do. That angered her and she moved out of our bedroom into another room and she played the silent game again walking around me and not saying a word for over a week until she got over it. We are no longer in a relationship.

It took me 7 years to almost be over it. I started to disassociate 4 years after I walked away. And somehow on the 7 years I couldn't understand what was happening to me, regression in speech, extreme memory loss, seeing things, and so on. I got so scared one night, I think it made me snapped out of it. Although Im still fragile. I'm here to listen if someone needs to vent or talk.

I have NPD, and I used to be an extreme emotional manipulator in 2020, untill I was groomed and abused myself and finally found out that who I was was awful. I'm happy to say I'm getting better as a person, and I love this video, I wish I had seen it when I was younger. It would've respected and loved people around me so much more😔

Thanks Amanda for your gentle voice and the good word at the end

I definitely feeling like I’m stuck in a healing trauma loop. I am definitely really happy to be free now. I see all the abuse I endured and it’s hard to believe how it happened. But sometimes I feel like I can’t get beyond the treatment, it was so life-altering and feeling like so few around me really understand is futher isolating. Not to mention the trigger of all that still support a person so evil after you reach out for help. It’s further invalidating and makes you feel worthless as a human that people don’t care enough to help.

Being in a narcissistic relationship is a lot more than it seems. It happens and you won’t even realize it. Here’s what happened to me: Apparently, I didn’t even realize how much my partner manipulated me. I felt like shit and felt like I’m the one that’s not understanding, toxic and manipulating. Its like I felt only that person in the world will want me because I’m so bad. That led me to submit to them. I completely ignored myself and became what pleased them. My mental health was getting worse. And somehow they made me feel that they were helping me go through tough times, when they were the reason my state got worse. I broke down in front of them one day. And then I realized that it’s all just a lie. They called me stupid for being so weak and completely shut me off. Ignoring me for days, and asking for an apology for being a weak worthless piece of shit. They didn’t give a shit about me, just wanted me to submit to them, and that made me question what I was doing. Fortunately, I gathered up all my courage and decided to leave. They shed tears and told me that they didn’t mean it. It was hard, I almost submitted, but I didn’t stay. Then, they got mad at me and said that I won’t find anyone as good as them and no one will want to be with me. I’m glad I left. That relationship gave me trauma and I adapted self-harming behaviors. I wasted 2 years of my life with a narcissist and didn’t even realize it. It’s very important to love yourself. Never choose others before you. You matter the most and don’t ever leave yourself for someone else. A healthy relationship is where we find ourselves and learn to love. It’s not submission and self ignorance. You’re precious and important.

This one got me teared up because I have almost all of these. My narcissist (my mom) has a known anger problem, but she almost had me convinced I was the narcissistic sociopath between the two of us. I'm not saying I've been perfect but this video gave me clarity that I really needed, thank you!

« In you taking the time to learn about narcissistic victim syndrome, you’re empowering yourself. Once you know, you can grow. » Gosh ! You hit me on that one. 😭😭😭😭😭 I need to write this down and will read it every day. Thank you ! 🙏

Went from having narcissistic parents to being on a 5 year abusive relationship with another narcissist. I finally just got out less than a year ago. He stalks me, harasses me, etc even after all this time. I’m still trying to heal from it all and I’m working on finding myself, but I feel every single symptom that was listed. Cried from the beginning to the end. Thank you for this video.

Thank you. The points were spot on, and the music was beautifully relaxing.

Im still suffering ptsd from a narcissistic abusive relationship I left over 10 years ago. Many symptoms listed in your videos. Please keep up this content so other victims can understand what's happening and gain validation.

*“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”* ―Dale Carnegie Love from a small channel💙

“Once you know, you can grow” ~~ Powerful.

Thank you for this! Both my parents specially my dad, but my mom's was more hurtful (rip)... I'm in therapy now, and in a nontoxic serious relationship. It takes time, I'm grateful for this channel, super helpful. 🙏🏻😊

This is such an important video. I've lived with abuse from childhood that followed me throughout my life to now. It's too late for me but others younger than me, seek help asap. That will be the only way to recover.