The sad thing about having a kind heart nowadays is that others around you more see it as manipulation, like you want to use them, but I just help others because they need it, I don't care if I get something in return or not, as long as they are happy by the end, I am happy
Same honestly I've spoken to people before who would say things like "you're just saying that to be nice. You don't really mean it." Or genuinely can't bring themselves to trust anyone even if they think u are being genuine. And it hurts, I hate seeing people in that state. I just want them to be happy, I don't want anything else.
Yes, and also being kind hearted tends to make you a target of manipulation from some opportunists since you go extra miles sometimes to make people happy :( Been there for years, finally I'm self- aware and learning that saying NO is okay and doesn't make you a bad person.
So true. Before I got married , of all the qualities that I would look for in a man, kindness would usually be the first. I always loved a gentle man . I find kindness and a sense of humor are the best assets a person can have..
@@sunnydaze2359 Don't take it personally but many angry BlT℃H€$ prefer kind and gentle persons so thats in times of need they can use their gentleman as a punching bag🃏🃏 Hope u are nt one of em
1. you value life more than material things 0:44 2. you don't pick sides 1:27 3. you are kind to everyone 1:52 4. you go the extra mile 2:24 5. you always want to understand others 2:51 6. you don't pass judgement 3:19 7. you treat others with respect 3:50 8. you value yourself 4:15 9. you compliment others when deserved 4:43 10. you are trustworthy 5:11 I hope I could help!
things i have learned watching this channel: 1. I am not burnt out, I'm just lazy 2. I am not attractive 3. I am not genuinely kind hearted incredible.
I am sure you are a wonderful person and don’t feel bad about being lazy, Just try to bring yourself to doing more things I was extremely disappointed when I realized I’m not genuinely kind-hearted either I want to make others feel good and I want to just be a good person who helps others. My advice is remember you are a human and try to practice kindness around others. Be yourself because that’s who you were made to be
u *are* burnt out, not lazy omg context matters y;knw in this video they're talking about just people when they're at a normal state but everyone gets burnt out sometimes
I've been hurt but somehow I turned worse. I admire y'all kind-hearted people and wish to be one, but I know for a fact that im not one since I'm too blunt and irritable
Being kind-hearted is underrated. If everyone was nice to everyone else, this may would be a better place to live. Please, stay happy and don't forget to smile.
It's nice being kind, but it can be hard when there are people who will try to take advantage of your kindness. So you gotta be a good judge of character and tell who deserves your kindness or not. Doubt them because not everyone is who they seem to be. And don't always stick to the "They'll eventually change" mindset because there are people who are just beyond redemption, beyond change. You think being kind will help them feel awful about themselves and try to be better but that's not always the case. :(
"If u have been brutally broken but still u have the courage to be gentle to other living beings, then u re a badass with a heart of an angel" -Keanu Reeves
Yep.dont want to be taken for granted anymore so I stopped going out of my way for everyone.Now people have to earn their place in my life.I do get the urge to help out but then I remember past experiences and realise nah, this person doesnt deserve it.
It hurts so much knowing that you always care for others and do anything you can to help them out or make them feel better and yet no one ever shows you that kind of care or love. No one would care if you disappeared. I've always been like this growing up, and yet I've been always shown by the human race that people only care about their selves.
"If you have been brutally broken but still you have the courage to be gentle to other living beings, then you're a badass with a heart of an angel." -Keanu Reeves
Ikrrr actions speak louder than words after all otherwise they r just empty words. It has to be shown thru action not thru words cuz anyone can claim to be something they r not so its vital to assess someone based on their behaviour
1. you value life more than material things ~check 2. you don't pick sides ~check 3. you are kind to everyone ~check 4. you go the extra mile ~check 5. you always want to understand others ~check 6. you don't pass judgement ~check 7. you treat others with respect ~check 8. you value yourself ~check... well, half check. Y'alls videos are helping me find value in what I have to give. :) 9. you compliment others when deserved ~check 10. you are trustworthy ~check
"You value yourself" *Low self esteem has entered the chat* And while my heart sort of can be called strong as I was battling those thoughts for YEARS without little to no help cause my mom thinks that I'm fine and doesn't wanna get me to psychotherapist, I am easily getting walked on just because I'm afraid to hurt others... and I genuinely trust everyone and tend to see good in people
My mom is the same. She doesn't belive in mental health just like her family,so anytime I say how I feel,she just turns me down because I'm not experienced in life enough to feel this way. I hope you can get the help you need in the future. Be strong. :)
I know how you feel... It's going to be alright just stay strong ☺️ I've been through those things too but all in all it's better to be just yourself and try to gather some confidence from psych2go videos or maybe talk to people or friends that'll listen to you and understand your feelings. You've been a strong person and you were even able to speak out your thoughts in this comment section so don't doubt yourself, believe in yourself. Each and everyone has a difference that they can make and we are all unique in our own way and we were always strong we just need to recognize it, if you understand what I'm saying hehe 😚 also I think that you're a really kind person 😊
@@csokissuti7343 I know how you feel too... I always talk to them how I feel when I was younger but they always just joke about it, they just say that I'm too dramatic or something, but I'm alright since I always believed that I can go through this challenge and stayed strong even if I experienced some hesitations and low self esteem here and there. I hope someone will listen to your feelings too and even help you about it in the future ☺️ stay strong and don't give up on anything 😚 it's going to be alright 😊
Sometimes being kind-hearted gets to the point where everyone starts to want something from you. Don't be so kind that you start to resent others. Don't say yes so often that people start using your good nature to get what they want from you. I made that mistake in my childhood and adolescence. Although I was willing to help my classmates out with whatever they needed, it eventually got to the point where they started to take advantage of my kind-hearted nature, ranging from wanting to copy off my homework to making me buy things for them. My inability to reject their favors caused me to resent them.
"Treat others as you would treat yourself", morals that I’ve lived by my entire life. Every time I do something that makes someone uncomfortable, I envision it being done to me so I understand that I shouldn’t have treated them like that, and apologize.
I highly recommend holding doors for others. I've been doing it almost nonstop since middle school (I'm in 10th grade as of writing this) and it's incredible how simple yet meaningful and inspirational to others that is. I've had teachers let dress code violations slide and watched others hold nearby doors for people when they see me doing the same, all while getting "thank you"s faster than I can respond to. Whenever I lose my faith in humanity, this simple interaction always brings it back. On another note, being deaf and having high functioning autism and ADHD, I practically owe my life to my parents and the army of people they raised (at their weakest financial state, no less) to help me become who I am today. I've been trying my hardest to return the favor, and am ecstatic that I matched most of the signs :)
Glad to know someone does this. My parents taught my brother and I a long time ago to do this to everyone. Its a small gesture that means a lot to people and thats important.
I like holding the doors for others! But somehow I get weird looks especially from boys/men. I wonder if they think that I actually flirt/interested with them :/ why can a girl/woman help too as well?
Well done! That’s a great comment, it’s refreshing to here how grateful you are for the life lessons you received from others. Although give yourself credit, you can explain and install these ideas into your children but not all people do this or understand how important it is. I have raised my boys to be polite and respectful, to always help others, say thank you and express their appreciation. They are such wonderful young men and I’m incredibly proud of them. As little boys they would always say thank you to the people serving us in stores etc and they would respond in shock at how impressed and greatful they were to hear that coming from a little kid kindness catches the same way rudeness and disrespect does. A smile and kind gesture goes a long way and I’m so very proud of you. Well done x
Two years ago, I met someone who became one of my role model for kindness, and after that I discovered more about kindness from many sources. And now this video served as a reminder of how far I've reached in practicing the virtue of kindness, how timely.
I can relate to having a role model for kindness. For a few years I had an amazing friend who was the kindest person I’ve ever met. He sadly passed away unexpectedly in 2018 at age 30. I’ll never forget him and can only aspire to be as kind as he was 😢❤️
I’m genuinely kind-hearted, because I’ve seen how it’s like to be hurt so I don’t want others to feel that way or think of themselves that they are not enough. It’s tough to be like this sometimes and keep your head up in painful situations, but at the end of the day at least I know who I am and the good intentions that I have... so I’m proud of myself that what happened to me hasn’t turned me into a different person and that I still stay true to myself.
I am genuinely kind But finding something genuine also feels impossible. Sometimes it feels lonely but seeing others happy does put a smile on my face.🙂
Im sorta glad to hear someone say that not wanting want to pick a side isnt just being selfish or what ever. I hate picking sides and would try to help people come to compromises (unless of course one side is just straight up immoral)
The kindness in me is very aggressive.. it doesn't let anyone be helpless. When someone needs help, I always make time for it... Sometimes my kindness is just too much but at times, it really helps.
This cruel world cud def use more of ur kindness so never hesitate spreading it wherever u go😉people will thank u for it and u will get rewarded in return so never underestimate a simple act of kindness, it always makes its way back to u and gives purpose and happiness to ur life🙏
Lets see if you have the element of kindness like fluttershy 🐥💜 🐥1. you value life more than material things 0:44 🐥2. you don't pick sides 1:2 🐥3. you are kind to everyone 1:52 🐥4. you go the extra mile 2:24 🐥5. you always want to understand others 2:51 🐥6. you don't pass judgement 3:19 🐥7. you treat others with respect 3:50 🐥8. you value yourself 4:15 🐥9. you compliment others when deserved 4:43 🐥10. you are trustworthy 5:11 i actually wrote All off this in a paper and type it it took my forever 💀
People tell me I’m kind hearted, I believe I am and care a lot about people, even ones who may not deserve it…..this also hurts me because people take advantage and use it against me, but I try to see things from everyone’s point of view.
It’s nice to be or be with a kind-hearted person. Certain aspects of them are quite desirable, like being objective. However, as for doing things not for personal gain, I don’t think such a thing always applies. Constantly working to earn money for others, for example, somewhat removes the privilege of enjoying the hard-earned money for oneself (such as buying a new video game).
"Constantly working to earn money for others" sounds like a person just surviving in a predominantly capitalist society...or a parent working to provide for their family but maybe I misunderstood your comment.
@Adrian Castañeda Oh yeah, now I remember what I meant. It’s like a worker that needs to send money to their family (probably like overseas Filipino workers) in order to help it survive, so they can’t just keep the money for themselves lest they be seen as cold-hearted. (Also, I don’t know what capitalist really is. I’ll search it, I guess.) What I meant is like this: a person who always does things for others but never for themselves (the idea of which is how I understood the section in the video) would not allow the person to enjoy life for themselves. I am also realizing that the video mentions later on that kind-hearted people still value themselves, so they won’t always be doing things for others (in the sense that I pointed out).
I didn’t realize how kind I really am. Some people will shame you into being mean like them, but it’s not your true core. Give love and be love. It’s the tougher road but it’s the best one♥️
Kind-hearted is the perfect description of me. Even though I sometimes say or do the most stupidest things, I'm a really good guy deep inside. I always have been. I don't need religion to make me a nice person. I know there's goodness inside me. I always treat people with respect, and I am unafraid to compliment them every now and then. That's just who I really am.
Being kind- hearted is a good thing … however sometimes people take advantage of your good nature ..so then you have to deal with letting them know that they may find themselves behind themselves and that is not a pretty sight!
you don't need religion to make you a nice person bc religion doesn't make people nice (in my experience) lol it's good that your trying your best to be a good person on your own. kudos
I relate to all of this except 3 (I find it hard to be kind to everyone), 8 (I do value myself but I can't really stand up to people bigger and stronger than me) and 9 (I'm too shy to compliment people I don't have a close bond with) All the kind people out there, just be careful in case unkind people want to take advantage
What's ironic is how I try everyday to be kind, but I think I'm hurt to the point where it's incredibly difficult to do so. What makes matters worse is that I hate myself so much that I end up convincing myself that I'll never be able to be kind, and that I'll always be some sort of monster and end up hurting everyone around me no matter how hard I try
I was taught that kindness is greatness, but turning a thank you into a no problem shows that you don't value yourself as much or time. Which can also lead to people taking advantage of your kindness, try to say your welcome more often!
Me after learning more about myself: “Wait how do I be nice to people again?” Because when it’s not something you think about you just do. Then you try to think about it, it all crumbles.
I'm genuinely a kind hearted person. To me most of them are true. And yet even if I wanted to be cold to some people I still can't. I love you vids!~❤✨
Videos about kindness always remind me of this guy in high school who said I was selfish. Why? Because being kind makes *me* feel good, so my kindness is a means for selfish gains lol Needless to say I discovered soon after he was using me for my knowledge of things he was trash at :) I'm glad I learnt that lesson in high school and not later in life~
lol that's what I used to tell myself when I was really young, that me being nice to people was only for selfish gain. so I'd feel so guilty whenever I made someone happy.
I'm trying to learn how to be a very kind hearted person. I'm struggling to work past my flaws, but I have hope for what the future holds for me. I love people and want to do better for people. For now though I have things to work past. Have a great day all!
I believe I am genuinely kind hearted but I just discovered as I was watching this! I have not been treated with the same kindness though, I feel it's because I haven't set boundaries. Thanks for this video! You may just have saved my life. Xoxo! I believe the universe sent me to your channel been really down and confused lately as people just want to hurt and take advantage of me. Don't know how long I would have lasted but it is well. Love your channel and your vibes
I relate to some of these signs, but I don’t think I’m genuinely kind hearted since I usually don’t act nice to people, it’s probably because I’m in a bad mood, people are rude to me first, etc. I guess I could say I am kind-hearted but I only show it to people who deserve it. Then again, before I was very genuinely kind hearted, though I never showed anyone this kindness and no one thought I had it since I was very lonely. As I grew older, people kept using my kindness and shyness to their advantage aka being a pushover and I had enough of that. So I started acting rude, it’s probably because I don’t want to get used and mistreated. But sometimes my rudeness gets too extreme even I am aware of that. So, I guess I could say I am just nice to people who treat me well and deserve it. I don’t know why I typed this all out, but if you read this all then I thank you,
Some people should really try to internalize, what saying "What goes around, comes around" might mean when they are rude to others. Rudeness will bite back sooner or later. Being kind at least should result in getting kindness back, though it does seem like two hardest words to say between people are "thank you". And I guess it's boundary of sorts to not let people be total ass at you for being kind. Some people just doesn't deserve kindness back at them. I can't really say that I am truly kindhearted person because of seeing one too many times that kindness is seen as weakness for some reason and people trying to abuse that. And one reason for typing would be that sometimes its best to let out thoughts, put them into words and all that, giving fresh air and time to think on those thoughts instead of bottling them up can result in some sort of realization or enlightment even.
Kind hearted people are hard to find because people too often abuse their kindness, they walk an extra mile to make sure people are happy and satisfied to the point that people start taking them for granted. Kind people are actually the saddest people on earth because they don't get treated the same way they treat people and one of the reasons they treat people with kindness because they know how it feels like to be treated poorly. I wish every kind people there to hold on a little bit longer, u will get what u deserve. ❤️
I am a kind hearted person all my life. Still am, it’s a shame so many people see me as toxic or a bad person..😢 When I suggest helpful advice or suggestion to help those in their sticky situation.. support them, encourage them and they drain me of my own self worth… and abandon me. But this video here shows, I’m still kind regardless of how much pain I’ve been through. Thank you ❤ for this video
let’s just say my parents have described me as kind-hearted my friend at school even though so I always help someone out at school. if something falls or a teacher needed help sometimes whenever drama happens I don’t pick sides. I just go my way. but they try to drag me to the side but I just walk away without any hesitation. with judgments, I just keep opinions, and thoughts to myself. I always treat others with respect even if it’s at school. I always like to understand others even when they are venting. I am trustworthy so a lot of people count on me I try to value you myself. I try to value my life other than material things
Here's a fun fact: people often confuse personality with attitude. My attitude depends on you. My personality doesn't. If I'm an asshole, and I am, proudly, it's because you deserve it. I'm also the best friend you might have.
Woah, I didn't know that I was genuinely kind-hearted I mean, I can relate to probably every sign, probably because of that my goal in life is to make everyone around me happy even if they won't but I don't really care about others bad opinion about me, I'm trying to focus on their good opinion I'm always this kind and helpful person in my friend group, that is always here to cheer someone up or even talk at almost every hour
I can see myself in this video that I am kind hearted. Its from working as a customer service representative for 12 years and counting. I am taught to listen before speaking, understanding rather than just hearing what other people tell, empathy over sympathy, being sincere in your solutions and going the extra miles to resolve the issue, and a HUGE HEAP of patience as well! With these in mind, I keep myself on judging people based on first hand experience. Also, to think that both sides needs to be heard first before judging. If my order in a fast food restaurant is a bit wrong, I pass on complaining because that person my get fired If I complain (unless its really, really messed up order). Kindness is a great trait but a lot of people severely abuse it. That's why kindness should not be shown so easily. Also, I care more about cats rather than people. Great video as well!
In my opinion when you boil it down true kindness is about despising cruelty and wanting the make the world a kinder fairer place in micro and macro ways
3:38 "You keep all your thoughts and opinions aside and listen attentively" This is indeed a good trait, but on some occasions, I've heard that this can be interpreted as having low self-esteem and -confidence. I have a hard time disproving this point and I think there is somewhat of a balancing act when sharing each others' perspectives during a conversation. But putting others before yourself is rarely a bad thing.
Ngl, i might be kind-hearted...But i keep my kindness for people whom i love and trust. And since iv'e been betrayed quite a few times.. im kind eo that others dont feel the way i did in the past...
i believe my kindness was manifested unconsciously mostly due to the video games i've played while growing up. Majora's mask, Mother 3, and now recently, Omori. Not only from those games, but also from the amount of times I had to reconcile with my first best friend. I'm Very lucky to have had such positive influences in my life to keep my spirit of kindness alive after several traumatic experiences in my school life. My Best friend had to move away, and due to some unfortunate misinterpretations, our past school buddies all ganged up on me when i couldn't articulate my feelings properly. which followed me all the way tell the starting of highschool. Not to mention i've been lied to in a multitude of relationships. It's amazing I was able to relearn to trust others so quickly without needing much help from professionals. But despite everything, I still follow my heart throughout life and be as kind and respectful as i can to others. Life does get better, and as you yourself gets better. You'll be impressed just how much your heart has flourished.
I feel as though I'm a kind hearted person. I related to most of these, the only one I don't is valuing your self-worth. While I look for the best in others and do my best for others, I look for the worst traits in myself and rip myself apart based on them
I am generally kind to many people, which is why I have many friends. But if someone continually abuses my trust, annoys me intentionally or takes advantage of my qualities, I will happily become a monster and ignore them!
I had watched a video once, and learnt an important lesson that all of you should be aware of, that kindness and niceness are different things. You might be always nice to other people, but sometimes while doing that you are not nice to yourself. Being kind would mean you don't hurt anyone including yourself, and confront people if you feel they are hurting you in some way. So, be kind people, not nice! Btw I'm myself not the best advice-giver as I've not had much experience, but at least knowing this is better than knowing nothing!
I'm questioning myself whether or not I'm also kind-hearted. I mean, I don't really talk too much to other people and maybe they see me as intimidating or whatever, but I'm treating everyone properly, even if I'm kinda struggling to maintain that posture. I don't know...like sometimes I'd be this 'sponge' and soak up other people's secrets and whatnot just because they trust me that I wouldn't spill the beans impulsively. So yeah, I guess I'm a good person...I hope...
Just from what you said I already think that you are a kind-hearted person don't doubt yourself about that, because it just will show, there's no need for you think negatively about things that doesn't even need to be thought about, just be yourself and don't worry about things that might hinder you from being you ☺️ (Also sorry if I kinda sound rude or something on some words or something I'm not really that good in English yet hehe)
At 5:08 I see that luka and Alberto on the right picture and Giulia and Luka on the second drawing 😉 it’s adorable btw! ^^ I always pay so close attention to the drawings and animations of each Psych2Go video bc the art styles are all so intriguing and beautiful 💕💕💕
The greatest kindness I've ever been shown was during middle school. Where, right after some boys dunked my head into a toilet bowl of my own poop, a girl looked after me and lent me her gym clothes to wash and clean up. She ignored the way I smelled, she ignored what had happened, she didn't ask any questions, and she didn't have any hint of pity in her eyes or body language. She, an absolute stranger at the time, squatted down and took care of me. Real kindness shows. Don't watch the video and check off boxes because you've found yourself in these situations. And calling yourself kind looks a little bit shallow. Many of the worst people I've been around would call themselves many things but they never were.
I've always dome my best to be kind to people. I do tease people I know affectionately but I let them know if they don't like my jokes to let me know, because I always feel terrible if I hurt someone's feelings. I'm known as the girl who never stops smiling, I'm happy and want to spread happiness to others. I always try to listen to and understand people. I'm the kind of person who is playfully competitive but wants to make sure both of us are having fun, like when I play against someone at Mario Kart. I was always confused by people who were mean, I'd ask my parents "why would anyone want to be mean, all it does is hurt others and make you feel bad, why would anyone want to feel bad?" I just assumed that everyone felt bad about being mean, I was shocked and confused to find not everyone felt bad after being mean. The idea of harming others deliberately seems so alien to me, I always assume others are like me, which isn't always true. I do think though 99.9% of people are wonderful and we live in a world full of hope a future of possibilities. I try to make friends with everyone, even if I don't always succeed.
Yes,I am kind (I mean all characteristics matched with me)...I love and respect kind people..they are real treasure of this world I believe..and I think kindness is just not a great virtue , kindness is the greatest virtue
Sometimes my anxiety and overthinking gets in the way and I feel like I don’t have the ability to help others. But lately I’ve been doing better in trying to develop better habits and thoughts of myself and others
Well most of these things are common sense to me. Respect, friendliness, helpful... Isn't that what all people should value and live that way or am I just hopelessly naive?
The world’s full of obnoxious people who hate on all sorts of random people just to be anything other than a kind-hearted person. Some people walk into a room and give the person they don’t know a dirty, weird look for no reason and go on to take that instinctive dislike for them further and further as time goes on (and they’re obviously quick to believe whatever gossip-y dirt someone else has on then). That’s how social dynamics often play out in life and there’s a sense that a lot of people will only help someone (even their mum or a close friend) if there’s something to be gained immediately for them, if they agree to help at all. I’d help out someone struggling financially in a heartbeat if I had the means in that moment but a lot of people have selfish, borderline-narcissistic inner motives that drive them to make all sorts of excuses. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
This quote is probably my favourite Not everytime something bad happens to you is because you're bad. Sometimes it's for you were too kind when you weren't suppose to.
This video just made me realize how much I grew as a person and am so happy I did! ☺️ But there is always room to grow! Thank you so much for this video!
I can relate to at least 3 of these signs. I don’t judge people and try to treat everyone with respect as much as I can. I do value myself and I do compliment others when they deserve it.
Great video, as always.. I really appreciate the work that has been done in this channel, it helped me a lot to control anxiety and enjoy my life. I'm not used to write on youtube, but I really wanted to express my gratitude with a few words.. sincerely, from the bottom of my heart, thank you very much..
I feel like I am kind hearted, but because of the way society is nowadays I never get to be kind anymore because I'm afraid of what people will say about me so I try to be as normal as possible.
