It's actually not. My wife is a therapist and sometimes her recommendation is that people just need to be separated or they fundamentally differ or they both need their own separate therapist instead of only couples counseling. Could be any number of reasons.
Candace did give a great No 10 answer! If you look back at why you got together in the first place, and your love for each other then it reminds you that what ever you have gone through, you done it together! I would add, when you know what pushes the buttons on your partner, don't push them again if at all possible.....🔘 x
That's probably what they are together right? very nice what you brought. I loved what you said not for trying to judge their relationship, but i think i related my relationship to theirs hahaha thank god my girl brings me to the ground
Candice radiates authenticity in your vlogs. It's refreshing to see her genuine approach to life, especially when many women portray an unrealistically "perfect" family life online. She stands as a beacon for those women hesitant to share their genuine experiences, given society's tendency to suppress such raw truths.
The key takeaways from this video: 1. Find time to be alone with one another 2. Don’t get annoyed by things about them that used to amuse you 3. Be patient when things aren’t going well 4. Put in the work - it’s worth it 5. Don’t sacrifice a sense of ‘you’ and ‘me’ for the sake of an ‘us’ 6. Listen to them and respect their wishes, opinions and peeves 7. End fights constructively 8. Life is short, let the little things go 9. Don’t lose track of what attracted you to them in the first place 10. Have fun with them! A relationship shouldn’t be a constant struggle.
I honestly really appreciate that Casey is open about this. Most influencers will make their relationships look perfect until a divorce is settled, but you’re showing us the real side behind it.
And most importantly, sticking together despite imperfections! I mean, this is not necessarily the one truth for all relationships (some couples were never meant to stay together for long, so it might indeed be best if they part ways), but in a world where people simply give up on each other at the first sign of trouble (as nearly everything nowadays is a "red flag"), making a conscious decision to work WITH each other to build a resilient relationship and overcome each other's imperfections is almost an act of rebellion.
I’ve been watching you both for the past decade. There has always been (and hopefully will always be) a certain quality to your videos that is so special and I’ve never fully been able to pinpoint exactly what that is. I deeply admire your artistic skills, creativity and your work ethic. I’m just writing this to let you know how much I appreciate your content. Thank you for always staying true to yourself and thank you for the Candice content! Always sending lots of love to the both of you!!
Casey continues to prove video after video why he is one of the most talented filmmakers across all media, social and traditional. The stories he tells in less than 20 minutes capture a beauty and honesty of life that's unmatched. The journeys he continues to take us through as his audience are simply amazing and I'm sure we'll all be here for the ride for as long as he decides to do so.
Mr beast is where you find entertainment but here you get entertained and you learn about little things that matters in life. I am 24 and I get to learn this from a couple that has been through it all 🔥
Completely agree! The shot of the video and the placement of that shot ...wow! He is an incredible storyteller. Having happily been on this planet for 72 years, I did want to add--guys, you are STILL young and beautiful.
Dude, I'm here after like 6-7 years, and watching Casey and Candace still "working" out things just makes me happy! Love your work and personal life balance dude, seriously.❤
Watching Casey videos is like you are just involved so deeply that you started feeling it. Love you man. The only creator's video I never miss. Candace is like icing on the cake. I just love your old days videos.
Casey is one of the top storytellers of our time. Its crazy how he can take simple idea that seems stupid for a video and make it into something like this.
Haha I love Candace’s secret one. I feel like when kids come into the picture your relationship changes drastically because your new focus is these little humans you worry about 24/7. Making time to still focus on just each other always seems like so much effort but worth it.
Watching your relationship and family grow over the years is such a wonderful joy, and knowing the secret to putting in the work has been just as inspiring. You’re a gifted filmmaker but more importantly, a present husband & father. Love you Casey ❤❤❤❤
As someone who's only been married for a year and a half, I really appreciate how open you are about your relationship with Candice. And how you've made it work all these years while still maintaining your sense of self. Marriage is work, but it's so worth it.
@@banme2784 if they get divorced or not, at least they're aware that they're enjoying themselves as much as possible right now, they're alive, loved and loving. Keep hating.
I think one of the tips they don't specifically mention, but instead demonstrate is the ability to be silly with your loved one. I have found that relationships need a balance of serious and silly, and I see that reflected in the last few scenes here. It's one of the things that always makes me feel very connected and loved by my husband, when we're laughing about an old joke between us or chuckling over a new one. Another great video casey! Thanks for sharing it with us.
I think the point at 6:45 really resonated with me. Because, I remember when I was a teenager I asked my parents, "How do you keep your relationship together?" - something along those lines because so many of my friends growing up had divorced parents. What Casey explained is EXACTLY what my parents explained to me. They told me I need to have my own life, my own interests, hobbies, passions, and plans, as does the other person. At the end of the day, we only have ourselves, so what makes a relationship successful is when each person is strong and happy with themselves, and you can share your happy lives together. It just shows that WORK on a relationship often relates to working on yourself. Great video Casey, thank you.
Hearing you guys talk about the relationship and your memories that you look back on really made me happy. It led me to reflect on my memories with my SO and literally brought me to the brink of tears for all the memories I'm happy to have shared with them. Thank you for the video.
This is a level of insight into relationships that we are by no means entitled to, but that I find so important for people to hear. Tip 10 resonated most with me almost as a fail-safe for relationships in a bad place. And if I had to reword it, I would say "remind yourself why you fell in love." Sometimes we can forget the core reasons why we chose to be with someone in the first place, especially as you progress in a relationship and change as individuals. Taking a moment to think back to the person that you found so amazing that you knew you wanted to be with them is one of the healthiest things I think you can do in a long term relationship
This was sweet Casey. Being a child of divorce I never really got a template of what a happy relationship looked like. I'm 29 today and have only been in one myself and have been single than longer than I'd care to admit. Seeing you guys putting in the work and still so in love gives me hope for myself. Much love to you and Candace. ❤️
This is really inspiring. I am 23, I really don’t feel the need/want to be with someone, because I fear being broken and also being forced to give up everything I know/love. But seeing you draw those 3 simple circles was way more powerful than you first intended. Every relationship has always been the big circle with no time to be myself/ourselves, but just maybe it is worth another shot. Thank you Casey and Candice! This video has really made me think, maybe there is more to life if we can all find that special someone that is also willing to put in the work.
You're still young. They were likely still young too. People are messy for humans are messy. It's finding that one person who mess you can find joy in and who can find joy in your mess. Offer kindness and forgiveness to yourself and to them. I believe you can find that person one day if you want too or not. It's up to you to find joy and happiness in life and I hope you find yours whatever it is.
Also don't take their relationship as an example. They've broken up and gotten back together so many times and fight over the smallest things. That's a toxic relationship and you can do way better than that. If your SO ever says she has to remind herself that your cute traits are cute, maybe it's time to find somebody that actually takes you as you are and that you can take as they are. I used to be in a relationship like them and it's been really bad and tiring. Now I found a partner that fits a lot better to me and we almost never have to fight (unlike my ex with which I fought every time we met) and instead of tiring me, it strengthens me emotionally.
This made me cry!! I love seeing you guys unabashedly share the difficult and uncomfortable parts of a relationship. I hope to have a casey or candice one day
Candice was in her zone when explaining these tips. Lol she definitely showed how she has become so successful in her business life. Love the transparency you two put out in the struggles of life.
Thank you for sharing with us, relationships are hard and nowadays nobody is willing to put in the work. It's so refreshing to see you both grow together. Love you guys, a good relationship is worth every sacrifice.
Brilliantly executed. We all struggle with the same things in relationships, and it’s always so much easier to identify externally, and then apply to your own relationships.
I love when Casey makes real, raw, well edited videos like this. It reminds us, well me anyway, that there are no shortcuts. If you want something, you’re gonna need to make it happen yourself. Both of you, in a marriage context. Lol Thanks Casey and Candace.
12 minutes gone in a flash with a beautiful message. As I am about to get married and having watched so many of your videos throughout the years I know it is a lot of work and have already experienced that. Thank you for your perspective I think everyone can benefit from it
thanks for sharing Casey, we all trying our best to WORK ours, it's super cool to see other people especially someone like you (I admire) to show their process of making it work, it's important and precious, love you two so much thank you love you. Btw great film to watch , always like the rhythm and mood you create, living master class of sight and sound creation you gave
"We got fired by one of our therapists." 🤣🤣 I absolutely love when Candace has an active part in Casey's videos. Keep working on your marriage, especially for the girls. Kids need to see that healthy relationship between their parents.
this is what true love is about- lots of ups and downs, so thank you both for being so honest and vulnerable about the relationship challenges. btw, the way Candace looks at Casey at 11:34 says it all- she's still very much in love with Casey! thank you guys for being so genuine and authentic. Love you both and wish you all the happiness in the world! Sending you lots of hugs from Romania.
I remember watching Casey's earliest videos about Candace from 13 years ago and getting a sense of hope and relief from the angst of being a teenager. Now I'm the same age as Casey was when he first started making videos on youtube and these old farts are still around. Thank you for the timely and often times unintentional offerings of inspiration Casey. Thank you Casey.
Through the years Casey had shown bits and pieces of what it's like to be in a relationship with Candace from Girlfriend up to wife and through that one thing he always showed was that he was willing to prioritize the relationship over everything else. When they left NYC because he needed to be closer to family and to turn off his workaholic mentality it showed how much he was willing to fight for Candace and in effect kept their marriage intact, whatever it takes to keep the relationship alive. No relationship is perfect by any means but those imperfections make it real and to be together as long as they have, to keep it as real as they have is an amazing accomplishment, may you have many amazing years together Neistat's.
From what I remember, part of the reason why Casey moved to Cali was actually because he wasn’t prioritizing his relationship with Candice. I don’t remember if he said it in a vlog or a podcast he was on. But that just makes the relationship more real. It’s not some fairy tale where you always put your loved one first. It has ups and downs. What matters is that you’re still willing to fight for each other when shit inevitably hits the fan, which is what happened with Casey and Candice time and time again.
Didn't he say that at a certain point he wasn't listening to Candace and would quickly try to solve arguments so that he could show her on camera? I think you have put on rose tinted glasses. What is great about this conversation is that it shows an imperfect marriage where both have to decide what compromises they can make to stay in it.
The whole thing Candice dad said is so ironic because my stepdad was a bachelor until he was 55. He bought fancy cars and beautiful houses etc. But then he met my mum and with that came her adult children. And he says his life finally makes sense. They've been together for 8 years now and he still sometimes cries tears of joy when he tells people the story of how he became a family man. That was his happy ending. So I guess you've got to remember that the grass is always greener.
I got married at 32 and had 4 kids within 5 years. My life was so much easier before that moment but I felt like it was fairly meaningless. When I left bachelorhood, I was actually looking forward to not having my life revolve around me. It’s a growth thing. Don’t try to hang into your life, give it away for that which truly matters. “If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it. If you lose your life for my sake and the Gospel, you’ll find it.” -Jesus
I just paused to say that “not focusing on each other when you are not together” has been an essential learned skill to make my life run smoothly. I'm not sure I’ve ever heard someone else say it, and Candace said it so well.
Hey, @@madelyn2351, you're not crazy. You're just a better listener than me. Around 1:15, Candace mentions, 'There's no focus on each other when we're not alone.' While this might not directly represent what I was thinking, this moment in the video likely resonated with me and could have sparked my comment. They're discussing the importance of being 'alone together,' and I wouldn't want to overlook the significance of this point. However, in my personal experience, learning to 'set a conversation down' when the other person isn't present has been crucial for finding contentment. It often feels like we carry an imaginary version of our friends or family in our minds. We might ask this version questions or assume what they'd think, say, or do, which is usually harmless when we see them regularly. However, when meetings are infrequent, this imaginary version can diverge significantly from who they are. A more significant divergence can make relationships feel like they've suddenly changed, while a smaller one leaves us feeling like they’ve ‘picked up where they left off.' To prevent reality from clashing with our expectations and leading to disappointment, it's essential to let go of these imaginary versions and wait for real people to share their thoughts and feelings. Again, I agree with Casey and Candace about being 'Alone together.' My comment was more a reflection of my own life. Thanks for seeking clarity here, and sorry for any confusion I caused.
Great video, its so important for people to see that they are not alone in this endeavor of love, marriage, and kids. Our generation has so much to deal with. Seeing your past montage hit home for me! im in my early 40's, my wife and I have been together for 24yrs, married 17! two kids and a small business later, its great to look back on all the exciting, scary, and romantic times we have shared. I hope you have many more blessings with your family. the "work" is so worth it. the last one is good too...
This is wonderful. The thing about recognising and accommodating your partner’s pet peeves is so true. My wife and I have survived 22 years and this has been critical. I sure do miss Casey’s daily vlogs.
I agree unless it's to an extreme extent. If someone is constantly nagging over things they need to learn tolerance themselves and pick their battles. I often see one partner in the relationship who can get carried away and express every little thing that annoys them and expect the other person to accommodate them.
Casey and Candice just made me realize I should start filming absolutely every single great event that happen in my life, for me to rewatch decades later.
@CaseyNeistat: In a generation of terrible relationships, lack of effective communication, divorce, breakups, distrust, and dishonesty, this story is a beacon of light and hope that is hard to come by. Thank you for being a shining example of hard work and effort Casey and Candance. Bless you, two!
The bad relationships have been since world war 2 people never seem to be able to grasp that social damage that did to most people. Since then it has been a generational spiral
There have always been terrible relationships. It's just not as taboo to talk about it anymore. People aren't as pressured to stay in a horrible relationship just because that's what is expected. The whole "this generation just doesn't know how to tough it out and stick to one relationship!" thing is ridiculous. I know MULTIPLE boomers that have been divorced 3+ times. One that has 5.
This was so sweet and relatable that it made me cry. I have never watched one of your videos before. I've just heard you referenced by a lot of other RU-vidrs. This seems like a perfect introduction to you and Candice.
This is by far your best video Casey. The advise. The realness. The feelings. The story behind the relationship. The old clips. Just WOW. Gave me goosebumps. You are truly perfect together. She is making you better and you are making her better. Amazing!
@@qwisjx4482 Casey puts all the responsibility on her to come up with these points. He should have done that. He also constantly seeks her approval for everything he says. She is highly irritated with Casey.
This is actually one of my favorite Casey videos ever... because it's so freakin real and relatable. You guys sound exactly like me and my wife, haha. It is all worth it though.
Thank you! I've been married for 20+ years. A lot of this hits home. Very real and true... yet entertaining. I hope you both enjoy and grow ... that is the key. Life changes around a couple... hence the "work". Being single is easy... but having a marriage, kids and responsibility takes WORK! I hope that each of you can prosper in their own. Marriage is designed to being totally different in their experiences, yet together. Give each other recognition. Getting married is easy.... having a marriage is work. The main word that continued to be said throughout you video is Respect. Keep up the "work" and remember that anything worth having is worth the time and effort in finding a balance. Men change, women change. It's the support each has for the other that makes the equation produce a beautiful, natural and meaningful life. Wish you both the very best.
I’ve always appreciated how real you’ve displayed this relationship, you’ve shown the ups and downs but that real connection of being each others best friend is there. Thank both of yous from the bottom of my heart
Can we all just take a moment to appreciate how nice of a transition to those old videos of them? Like so simple yet it made it such a touching moment for their relationship
That was great! Thank you. Just had our 32nd anniversary yesterday and we didn't really acknowledge it. Your tips made me remember what a great thing we have built together. It was a lot of work, but worth it. ❤
Thank you for the video Casey & Candise. Bonus tips for anyone that cares. 1) When arguing never make it personal. 2) Never go to bed or leave the other when angry. 3) Never EVER use the kids as a weapon against the other 4) Respect the others views and opinions even if you don't agree with them. 5) You have to love who you are before you can truly love another. We are all different. We all have different experiences in life. Everything around us shapes us into the person we are. True love knows no colors. We all hurt, we all bleed. Life is short and make the best of it.
Thanks Casey. You always seem to be there when I need you. I just went through the hardest breakup of my life and this video really helped. Your daily vlogs helped me in my darkest days too
Tip number 10 is a huge reason why we started our own RU-vid Channel, to be honest. Making these videos, filming and photographing our trips now have really opened us up to a whole world of digital memories. The messy uncontrollable hair in the wind, the grumpy moments you can recognise in our videos, if you know they're there. The amount of times I (Natalie) have been editing our footage, and Umairs talking about me or about us and is being adorable, but I didn't know he'd said these things at the time - is adorable! Some things make it to RU-vid, some things stay private for u. Honestly agree with every tip you said here. It is all about Work, Respect, giving yourselves time and space, as well as GROWING together. The final montage is so cute, because you've grown together as people AND as a couple
@CalamityTravels Slick pitch for your channel. Slid it right in there. At least you chose a high ranking YTer w/ millions of subscribers + fans for years to ‘comment’
Showing the flashback after Candice suggested to look at older photos of each other in love made me cry! That pause after was also impactful and I’m sure intentional. Kudos on sharing your story.
I really liked this one. Because it’s so recognizable. It’s hard working (I’m in the middle of it). And I love to see you two working! Not throwing the axe. A relationship with kids, is worth fighting = wrong word, working for. It’s never easy.
Love the honesty and vulnerability. I’m engaged and no one really ever spoke about how much work goes into a relationship and I didn’t personally have any successful relationship around me to use as an example! And hats off to Candice’s dad for being honest… it takes a really solid relationship with your child to be willing to admit that. Wishing you both all the best! Thanks for sharing ❤️
Okay but don’t say it to your kids when they’re kids. Growing up, my dad told me this every time he saw me or any time I needed him and it made me very suicidal/ destroyed my self worth. I genuinely hated existing because I knew he hated it too. To this day I struggle with sense of self and self worth.
The vids are soo different from anything else i follow on YT, it's like a never ending movie that doesn't miss to trigger a new emotion in me here and there... Thank you both.
Thanks for letting us into your personal world Casey. Alot of influencers paint a picture of a perfect marriage until the divorce is finalized. Marriage/relationships take alot of work from both people and that ven diagram is a perfect analogy. Cheers Casey and best of luck to you and Candice.
The way you express a thought, show us a memory and put it all together in perspective as a filmed product is never under looked Casey! The lessons you have given throughout your life experiences have educated a whole generation on how to live life, make mistakes and learn along the way.
The second I heard Daniel Johnston the tears welled up. What a great song choice. And the fact that you’ve documented so much over the years inspires me to do the same. I’m mad at myself for not doing that enough. I feel like I’ve left my kids in the past and now they’re all grown.
I have always loved that despite the fact that Candice does not like being on camera she does it for Casey...and the videos with Candice in them are my absolute favorite.
I really appreciate how you all fight for your marriage. In the age where divorce is far too common, it's refreshing to see a couple willing to put in the work.
This is a great video. You guys really seem to be doing it - like reaally doing it. Because its not about keeping it together at all costs - relationships can end. But really working together and not expecting it all to be sunshine, but knowing there can be love in sharing the tough times, definitely the deep stuff. Thanks for sharing.
Independent? Candace is a spoiled woman who's never been independent in her life. She went from a spoiled princess from her dad to her businesses and any success due to her husband who she currently lives off of lol
You two are the true definition of a real couple. Relationships take work and effort and you definitely have shown that over the years. I’ve been in a relationship for over 10 years and you have your ups and downs but if you love each other you work through it all🙋🏻♀️
Never stop communicating. Communicating with each other is something I have found to be invaluable. Communicating the good things but more importantly the things that are hard to talk about. But like Candice said, this too takes work and if you're not willing to work at it then it's just going to lead to more challenges.
This and the love note to Candice videos are two of my favourite ones ever. The love note one inspired me to write a similar one to my wife 5 years ago when we had already been together 12 years. She just said last week that she still reads this letter at least once a month. And I really enjoyed writing it as well. Made me really reflect and remind all the minor details that make me love my wife so much.
I'm getting married to the love of my life this October, and this video came at the perfect time. Thank you Casey. You're right, love is work, but it's work that's worth doing
Hey Casey, I said hi to you at Paloma in Venice. Just wanted to say thanks for the great content. Your stories are like an open diary of love and they for sure help the world to be a better place.