10 Subtle Signs of Narcissism Exposure 

Feeling like you are always walking on eggshells around them -exhausting to say the least.

"..the narcissist... expends very little energy to cause damage. but you expend a great deal to prevent damage.." i likely the BEST, most accurate, succinctly stated description of that dynamic. thank you Dr.Grande.

I have been exposed to a lifetime of narcissistic abuse by a parent and an elder sibling and I approve this message. I dearly hope that many people will see this *before* being harmed (or harmed further) by narcissists. Thankyou Dr Grande.

I find that a lot of people that's never been around a narcissist have a hard time grasping how someone like that behaves. It's almost like you have to see it to believe it

"You feel better or relief when they're not around"....My wife went away overseas for 3 months to house sit for a friend. It was the happiest and most peaceful I had felt in 38 yrs of marriage.

These are the signs that the individuals exposed to a narcissist will detectect in themselves. 3:45: nervousness and perfectionism 5:00: reluctance to say anything that indicates weakness 5:40: distorded view of relationships... the new standard is that relationships cause suffering 6:18: feeling as yours goals are too small 6:50: feeling as your goals don’t matter... you have no right to be happy 7:15: feelings as though you are completely at fault... inappropriate guilt caused by manipulation or gaslighting 7:41: elevated level of distrust... reasonable when dealing with a narcissist 8:13: continual fatigue... you are on the defensive side 8:37: suspicious of others... narcissist recruits agents 9:00: no expectation of hearing the truth or hold the narcissist accountable

5:20 This reminds me of my Dad. I remember one summer I came home from jury duty and told my Dad that I had jury duty with Laura Bush. As I was blabbering away about how interesting it was in our long car ride back home he ignored me. Once we got home he was in a bad mood and started yelling at everybody over small things. My sister asked me what I did because he was fine when he left to come and get me and I told her I didn't do anything. In hindsight, that is a consistent pattern I noticed throughout my life. Every accomplishment I ever had was met with either dismissal, anger, or both. I couldn't even graduate college without my dad getting mad. I graduated with honors and made the Dean's list, but my dad was more concerned with being mad at small things that had nothing to do with graduation and then complaining and yelling once we got home from the ceremony. Narcissists really are toxic people.

YOO THE TIREDNESSS The suspicion of others because of the flying monkeys oh LAWD. It feels so great to be away from it all

sanity looks insane in an insane world. saying my daughter told me that I often use to remind myself. Great video. On point.

Love how you took the statement of narcissists flashing red seriously and answered accordingly

I also appreciate your giving the sign of feeling nervous all the time, knowing that nothing i did would ever be good enough. My top grades were never good enough. My looks were never good enough. My existence was never good enough. He even told me that I was the ugliest baby he had ever seen, and I was his baby. ..... I am no longer under the influence of that person, but does still hurt a little when I write it out like this. Thank you for all you do!

The best protection you have against toxic people are clear boundaries.

Unfortunately, if you've made it this far into a narcissistic relationship, that you're actually seeing these signs, you're already way too far in...

Feeling like I didn’t get to express myself properly, it’s always in hindsight Detour in my plans and realizing it too late

One other thing - the reason you feel exhausted after being with a narcissist must be the constant stress/alert (cortisol level). It also may lead to a number of medical conditions. I wonder if this has been assessed in any studies.

Lol your deadpan humour is refreshing 🙃 My experience: They move in fast and don’t give you an opportunity to say no, to negotiate arrangements, to have a day to yourself to determine what is happening. It sweeps you off your feet then drop you once you’ve forgotten who you are.

The subtle signs are spot on. Its interesting to look at the practical ways in which you 'feel' the Narc. The most obvious for me, is the "everything you say will be used in evidence against you". I lived that for years. I once tested it, by telling him I thought I was drinking too much. It was a throw away remark, not a fill blown conversation. Within hours, literally, he was telling me I made no sense at all as I was blatantly drunk. I wasn't drunk, I was testing a theory. 🤢

Over explaining from narcissistic abuse, a trauma response.

You are spot on with these points! They never take responsibility for their actions. As a matter of fact they are masters at arguing and switching around the entire conversation so that you alone stand "guilty" Their competitive style of conflict resolution is pretty exhausting.

I went from.. being abused by a narcissist growing up, to becoming covert myself to dating malignant narcissists.. now I just educate myself and focus on self love..

Better yet - 3d glasses where the red lens detects narcissists and the blue psychopaths

Dr. Grande, can you please make a video talking about the most effective ways to recover from narcissistic abuse?

Thank you for this, doctor. 🌹 One example how NPD-people estrange you from relationships I'd like to add to this, in this case it's about NPD in males: Once one complains about their abusive verbal style, they tell their partners, siblings, kids etc., that you can consider yourself lucky, since the other men beat their wifes, sisters, kids etc instead of talking. I think they expect an answer like "Thank you oh so much, that you don't beat me up, I'm endlessly grateful for that." I've actually heard this male statement a few times in my life myself. Clearly not one of the best experiences I've had so far. I wish a healthy day without physical and emotional bruises to everyone. 🧡

Thanks for this, my mum is a narcissist and she's done a lot of bad things. I like that you spread awareness to people, in case they get into a relationship with one.

There needs to be a narc offenders registry where people can be warned about these people! LOL! But, no, really. We also need narc alerts like tornado warnings on our cell phones, on news broadcasts and on highway signs!

Thanks, Dr. Grande 1. Nervousness & Perfectionism 3:50 2. Reluctant to Vulnerable 5:03 3. Distorted view of relationships 5:43 4. Feeling as your goals are too small 6:20 5. Feeling like your goals don't matter 6:55 6. Feeling as though you are completely at fault 7:18 7. An elevated level of distrust 7:44 8. Continual Fatigue 8:15 9. Suspicious of others 8:37 10. No expectation of hearing the truth 9:02 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-MXp9amsiMyY.html

Guilty! You characterized me to a T. Sure wish I were as aware THEN, as I am NOW. But, it will be difficult to play the Narc card on me ever again! When my former best tennis buddy told ME, what had happened at the tennis lesson, two days before that,(he was not present), I had with a professional instructor, I literally gasped! and took a step backwards! The light went on! this was a few years ago. All of your videos and comments about NPD are spot-on about these disgusting emotional vampires that I used to associate with. Thank you so much, Dr. G., for contributing to my awareness and enlightenment.

My husband was raised by a nariccistic mother. It’s been sad! He is very hard to deal with sometimes. From all the abuse. He was the black sheep all his life. His sister is the golden child. Sad.. thank you for this Doctor ❤️❤️❤️❤️

“when i thought about it, i realized it might have some unexpected consequences... like what about driving...?” 😂

Re: Headaches from "narcissist-detection glasses" (in the film the Doc referenced from 1988).... 🎵"Doctor, my eyes have seen the years...I have done all that I could to see the evil and the good without hiding...Doctor my eyes -- tell me what is wrong; was I unwise to leave them open for so long?"🎶 -- Jackson Browne, 1972* *I'm a little older than Dr. G -- but it's a classic....😉

Any form of egg-shell walking and I’m out of there. That’s my first sign outside of just intuition.

On a negative note, some counselors aren’t familiar with Narcissism and some might even be Narcissists. It’s good to screen them. On a positive note, there is so much good info out there to help you especially here on RU-vid. My last counselor wasn’t very helpful but I will be looking for a better one in the future! Wish me luck!

They think everything you have belongs to them even your sanity

Do you think the whole "crying over spilled milk" thing is a sign of narcissism exposure? You know what I mean? Like the cliché they show in so many movies about abused children, where the kid spills a glass of milk or something and then they immediately start crying because they think the adult they're with is going to freak out on them, but they don't and the kid is surprised and learns that abuse is not normal? Do you think there are many adult versions of this type of behavior and it's an indicator that the person has become used to dealing with a narcissist?

Well, Dr. Grande, you have done it again. I checked off everything single thing you listed today as being absolutely accurate. Having been raised by a narcissistic mother, I was easy prey for my narcissistic ex husband. Abusive behavior was all I had ever known. I finally divorced him after 20 years. By then, I was so drained and exhausted that I didn't even care. You are the first professional I have ever seen describe the profound exhaustion they will cause you. Thank you so very much for you amazing videos. I also loved the reference to the movie They Live. Best. Analogy. Ever. Thank you, thank you.

I always said that my narc spouse turned me into someone I didn't want to be. I barely recognized myself after years of exposure to him, and find myself trying to rediscover the real me.

I remember the constant dragging frustration, just never really being able to shake that feeling off properly. I became so so self conscious, as they’d even get angry and made out I was odd when I showed caring towards anything, even an animal in distress. Found myself always waiting..waiting around for crumbs of whatever..anything...even a bit of eye contact would’ve been something. Jeez, looking back I can’t believe I fell into that state. Thank you Dr Grande, that was a valuable little clip! 😊

You will at times see the narcissist take pleasure in your pain. They are good actors. But they cannot hide their pathology all the time. Also, the casual lying is a true sign. They use manipulative language to mislead you about what they knew or what they said.

So accurate, once again! I checked off every single box a couple of years ago. Kinda made me feel dissapointed in myself, I should've not allowed such manipulation, and the weird thing is I noticed the manipulation in many ways yet was blinded by my codependency. Dr Grande, I just want to thank you, I'm learning a great deal because of this channel, and I'm becoming better and better at observing possible personality pathology in the hospital. I just got a nice compliment about that from my colleague today. You're making a real difference!

This is true, but unfortunately, some of these signs make the target look like the narc to outsiders (it looks like the target is the one who is distrustful, highly sensitive to criticism, doesn't get along with anyone, and so on...). Could you make a video as to how the reactions to being a target of narcissism actually make the target look like the narcissist to outsiders? They turn the situations completely around. And if the person is not careful, they may indeed turn into a narc themselves, isn't that true?

They Live is such a good movie. It's running on cable again. I was raised by narcissistic parents. I don't miss my deceased mother one bit and some people who never knew her are heartbroken over this. Please...

I love your videos...keep 'em coming! I was married to a narcissist for 10 very long years. It was miserable! It took me a long time to feel worthy of being happy. Shortly after separating, (the divorce took 4 years), I have been with an amazing man who has taught me how happy I can be. We have been together now for 6 years. Every bit of your video, I agree with whole heartedly. He turned my own family against me, I wasn't allowed access to the bank account, so I had no means to get away. It wasn't until he stole from my mom, that she finally started to see the light and helped me leave. I am now seeing a Psychologist weekly to help me overcome narcissist abuse. Along with MDD from losing my dad in the line of duty at age 12, and then PTSD from also working as a deputy sheriff. It is crazy that I, as a deputy sheriff, ended up in an abusive relationship. Too long of a story to type....I just wanted to say THANK YOU for making videos. 💞🧠👨‍⚕️

Really interesting list. I think I’m most afraid of gaslighting.

I would like to see Dr grande design glasses which could be used to detect narcissists, murderers, and the green alien lizard people!

816 views - even listening to this expert, I never go away feeling my goals are not big enough. The small stuff matters, THANK YOU DR. GRANDE. 😂👋😂

THIS is your best ever....the ten tips are wonderful...i was raised like that....had relationships with women like that, friends , bosses....you name it. If you dont KNOW this stuff, you fall victim immediately....HARD... you think, because of the false charm and hoovering, that you HAVE found the ONE....and then one day you inquire about them infringing on your boundaries, and what can be done to solve these issues, and they lose their minds.... THATS when you go NO contact. before THAT...., they will be the BEST sexual partner, financial provider .....girlfriend wife or mother youve ever seen.... Till they realize theyve GOT you and they dont HAVE to work so hard anymore. then its a nightmmare.everything turns 180 degrees and you have to figure out what YOU did wrong.

No matter how much love you give them it's never enough, you're always on guard and while they enjoy your praise for a time they enjoy just as much twisting a knife in you and seeing you squirm. Your assessment is spot on.

I think this is the second time I have heard Dr Grande reference "They Live". Outstanding!

Great video! Narcissist would definitely spin "flashing red" as a way to get attention and feel special, lol.

Thumbnail "They Live" 🤣👍

Yes on all of these points. One major thing I experienced when living with my ex narcissist is that nothing was ever settled or concluded within our relationship. Every conversation I would try to have with him about a problem in our relationship or concern that I had, no matter my approach to the conversation ended up with him gaslighting, deflecting and projecting. Nothing ever got settled therefore our relationship was in a constant state of limbo for 8 very long years! I was on anti-depressants and anxiety meds when I finally took my sons and left him. And after a month or two of being away from him, just like magic, I didn’t need those meds anymore! That was 6 yrs ago. I didn’t realize until later how much that toxic relationship effected my confidence and sense of well being. There is no winning ever in a relationship with a narcissist!

This may be the most insightful lesson on understanding narcissistic personality and behavior. Have spent decades trying to unravel my emotional responses, with one or possibly two parental units with strong signs of narcissistic personality traits. The most significant sign has been lifelong nervousness, and at times serious anxiety disorders. The other sign has been constant vigilance, second guessing own needs and desires, or feelings of guilt for wanting those needs fulfilled. A big thank you for covering this topic, Dr. Grande!

Sometimes, this is your employer. I don’t think this needs to be a 1:1 relationship. Is there an organizational form of narcissism, does it align with these characteristics? I kept humming ( no clue) “Should I stay or should I go?” By The Clash, terribly upset daily, always ready to be attacked. I finally resigned! With no future prospects, in a way, I feel freed. Yet sad for patients who receive treatment under this strange hierarchy. Great talk! Be Safe!

They make everything your fault. It is so true. I was injured by a very bad sunburn two years ago. I’m much more careful now and these tips are not only warnings but comforting in understanding how the wound occurred.

"Only great people flash red." 😂 very accurate.

One thing I know is I allowed my intuition to be abused in my relationship and I realized that and began the journey of recovery of my super power. Why it was a target for this person. Oh my million dollar lesson PS Dr Grande Thank you for your videos!!!

Welcome to my life...I even thought I was evil and a bad person. Thank you Doctor Grande. In therapy I finally found out it was C-PTSD all along which had become a cluster B party: mainly quiet BPD. Through EMDR I can feel emotions again!!! :D There is hope!

After watching your video, one specific person (I got out of my life three years ago) kept coming to mind. I couldn't believe all the similar behavior this person has with your descriptives. Your analyses is so perfect.... I truly hope people that are dealing with a narcissist find your video. It really will help them! It sure validated a lot for me!! These people can really warp your mind. I've always been generally a very happy person, then this friend came into my life and turned it upside down (I became different and it didn't feel good). Now, I'm my old self again, without this person in my life. Life couldn't be better (with the exception of C-19). Doctor Grande, once again I must thank you for your time and tell you, it's really wonderful I found you....😀

Great video and precise. Narcissists want their 'target' to be believe they don't have a right to be happy or succeed. Lessons learned from the past has taught me to minimise contact with the narcissist.

I’m glad the emotions I have been involved all my life are all scientifically proven and I’m just acting normal. Thank you Dr.Grande 🤗

I remember that movie about the glasses and aliens! It starred a famous wrestler named Roddy Piper. I use the glasses analogy to understand the frustration of trying to explain/warn others about my narc h. They don’t “see it” bc they don’t have the “glasses” (personal experience).

Dr. Grande you have described my life perfectly. I walked around in confusion and unease not really understanding what was happening to me.

Sign #11: when a stranger does something kind, even if it is the smallest act, you feel tears sting your eyes, because when living with a narcissist you come to expect only cruelty-never kindness.

The best aid to have when interpreting the behavior of others: Self-knowledge. I feel X when encountering a narcissist.

I remember this girl who broke up with her boyfriend (because he cheated or was a d*ck or something). After that, they had a big fight and the boyfriend demanded that she forgave him, otherwise "he couldn't continue with his life". Yeah, that was one big narcissist...

One reacts to narcissistic behaviors because of some wound or trauma inside themselves. Responding instead removes the emotional blind spot. Grateful for your clarity, Dr. Grande. 🌷

Great video. As I mental health clinician I see narcissistic exposure in my patients every day. Gaslighting prevents them from seeing that this has happened to them. Such a shame. Boundary work ensues 🙂

I find videos like this very comforting (of course informative as well), having endured a great deal of narcissistic abuse throughout my life. It helps keep the gaslighting from truly getting to me, and reenforces not only that I’m not crazy but also that I’m not overly sensitive when I pick up on patterns like those discussed. Have a hearty stamp of approval from a child with narcissistic parents, and thanks.

gosh. i spent over a decade with someone who was a narc. everything was a tactic. everything was a fight. if the tactics didn't work, a mug smashed over my head would. or the destruction of a prized possession. or a hook up with a stranger off the internet. it was all my fault. what a trip. i still don't trust people, 15 years later and i read a lot into the smallest of things. i'm always trying to predict where things are going. what the possibilities are, and the possibilities are always skewed towards getting a pot of boiling water thrown in my direction. at least in my mind. the worst part is that i knew from day one. first encounter i was like, stay away. but they just force their way in. and aren't without their charms. then they find out your secrets and fears and blackmail you with them if you try to end the relationship. i'm lucky to have escaped with my life. i barely did.

This is the most helpful video I’ve seen regarding figuring out if I’m dealing with a narcissist or just an asshole. I’ve gone back and forth like most victims do… “am I the narcissist or is he?”. The gaslighting really screws with your head, but after watching this video, I know 100% I’m dealing with a narcissist.

Wow, this is right on target. When I discovered the narcissists in my life were not normal it was so easy to move on and generate new friendships that are not anything like the ones I had before, that were agonizing. The family structure of narcissism that I grew up in had all these elements you describe. I will never get over the shock of realizing how awful these people are and that they are in their 70's and have not changed in all those years.

God I needed to hear this today. I’ve been in a right state. Post trauma. Feeling a little better. Thank you.x

“They Live” is my favorite Carpenter movie so that just gives me more reason to love you 😊

Oh, yes. The relief I felt after moving away from home. I was 19, and spent many years putting myself back together.

Please keep making more videos like this. Every one of the 10 subtle signs would make for a great in depth video.

I have come here to chew bubblegum, and provide a scientifically informed, insider look at mental health topics. And I'm all out of bubblegum.

And again Dr Grande goes next level with this subject. Thank you... Can you also shed some light about why vulnerable narcissists are socially awkward? What is that link?

This is why my years of chronic fatigue could not be diagnosed or founded by a blood test by doctors, this explains a lot, the continual fatigue of having to protect myself and my mind from the emotional abuse. Thank you for this insight. Also it's miraculous that when I was able to substantially reduce my contact with the narc, the fatigue slowly started to fade away.

Feeling like everything is your fault - man, I've been there. The last narc I was in a relation-shit with made me out to be the only one at fault, when I knew deep down that he made four years of my life a living hell. He was always the heroic victim, and made it out like if only I surrendered and gave him everything he wanted, things would be better. And even then, it wasn't certain, because then he said by the time I would give him everything he wanted from me, he would be "too old and too bitter." Out of all the narcissists I've known in my life, they've all done this one to me, but I now look back on the last narc I knew as one of the most evil. Feeling as though your goals are too small - yep, I've still been struggling with this one. From day one, I've been made to feel like my goals are nothing compared to my narc family, and several ex-boyfriends. All their goals are bigger and better and badder, and mine are nothing, not even acknowledged, and if they are acknowledged, they hacked them to pieces, of course. This has been one of the hardest signs of narcissism exposure for me to overcome, since I was fed this bullshit sandwich from day one of my life. For anyone out there struggling with these signs, relationships are never 100% your fault, and the goals you have for your life are just as important as anyone else's. Don't let these vampires take your humanity away from you, and when they try, hold onto it. Your life is worth holding onto and too precious to be stolen.

Dr. Grande, is it normal to “forget” how bad a relationship with a narcissist was when you are away from them, only to be quickly reminded the moment you are back around them? Why do we forget so quickly? This happened with my mom to the point where, regardless of her abuse, I missed her. I would forget how horrible she was and I would try to fix the relationship only to immediately start getting abused again. This went on for many years. I finally cut her off two years ago. My life has never been better but I do still get those feelings of forgetting how bad she was even though I know she’s basically the devil.

Thank you confirming something for me! My narcissistic cousin, among millions of acts, violated social distancing guidelines and took one of her neighbor friends to my 86-year-old mother's house. I was livid when I learned of this. I KNEW that she had done it in order to go twist my mothers mind the way she has done for years. Mother is a soft touch for that narc, and I just wanted to call my cousin, with whom I have cut all ties for over a year, and tell her to leave my mother alone, ESPECIALLY during quarantine! I rethought it, though, as I imagined the conversation that would follow; she would turn it around and blame ME for being uncaring. Omg I'm feeling the narcissistic abuse and manipulation as I write this. ... I ended up talking with my mother about it and left the rest to the Univrse. Both my psycho cousin and I are over 60, and I have no expectations of her changing because she has learned where she can get her ego fix.

i was just thinking to myself, “gee, i have been watching a lot of the doc’s videos on celebrities but haven’t watched anything regarding MY health in awhile.” It was refreshing to watch this vid and think about my own experiences again. (dated a grandiose N last year and a vulnerable N this year. Still very tired)

As someone who grew up with narcissistic parents, I could never ever be good enough. My parents had no reaction or a bad reaction to any good news I had.

Could the "sunburn" by a narcissistic parent followed by a narcissist spouse be severe enough that no sense of self develops? Can a sense of self be acquired in adulthood? How? Because leaving such a marriage requires a belief in oneself, especially when no parental support is available. And leaving requires financial independence, which requires skilled employment, which evades someone who is badly "sunburned." What intervention breaks the catch-22?

The 6 "Dislikes" are from Grandiose Narcissists that don't like their trash being put on display! Xaxa!

Doc! You've just made me understand my marriage better. You just wouldn't believe my story.

I was an academically good student like always among the top five of my class. I even qualified for a national physics selection test for scholarship. My mother has never ever complimented me in my 34 years. I confronted her and she said well "i never praised you so that you never become complacent"

Thanks again for a helpful video, Dr. Grande. I watched with tears in my eyes, as I deal with every one of the 10 signs, and have for a very long time. I know for sure that my ex-husband was a source of a lot of this, but I have a strong feeling he was not the first. Over 12 years later, I am still not recovered, and I know that I am very difficult for my current husband to live with. I wish I had the financial resources to see a therapist.

Donald Trump flashes orange 🤣

I get the idea that Dr. Grande doesn't suffer narcissists gladly, and I love that about him!

Inappropriate guilt! One thing I will say about that - I didn’t even know I was doing this to myself. I did feel responsible for my VN mother but when someone (a teacher) told me directly that I take on responsibility for things that I shouldn’t, I could not even comprehend that statement! It was like explaining a quadratic equation to a second grader. I had no knowledge or skills to make that statement make sense. I spent many years taking care of my mother. For as long as I can remember. I always doted on her. Never the other way around. Unless we were in front of others and I did something that made her look like parent of the century.

I'm a covert narcissist . Being aware of my traits is not helpful because most people hold grudges. I do my best to improve my emotional maturity but it is very hard with out support. The other challenge is that I'm not sure when I'm being selfish and when someone ealse is taking advantage of me. The mistrust people have of narcissists is what the narcissist feel all the time of others.

And you try and try to reach the moving goal post, then if you say anything about feeling like you can't win with them, the narcissist will tell you that YOU are never satisfied!!! Augh!! (a la Charlie Brown)

the issue of physical fatigue is so true and important. I can relate to that.. thanks for flagging this out and validating it.

Thank you so much for this video Dr. Grande. I grew up with a narcissistic parent and these signs all completely apply. It was encouraging to hear them from someone else! The signs that someone is an actual narcissist (not just a bit self-involved or immature) become easier and easier to discern over time if one experiences a couple relationships or friendships with them, and learns to analyze and understand what drew themself and the narcissist together. Narcissistic people are drawn to certain people, and certain people are drawn to them. It’s scary stuff! There is hope though! The power lies with us to know when we’re in trouble and seek help! We can’t save other people. That’s a tough lesson for empaths to learn!

Hi doctor Grande. I'm reading the biography of Johnny Carson by Henry Bushkin. He died alone, estranged from his wives and kids, didn't have a funeral and had mommy issues I was curious what you might think about it about him. (His mother fit all the 10 signs of narcissism for sure!)

Since narcissism exists on a spectrum and isn't a binary disposition (i.e. narcissist or not), would the glasses that detect narcissists cause them to also be displayed on a spectrum? Another out-of-the-box take on mental disorders. Thanks, Dr. Grande!

"THEY (do) LIVE" Interesting choice of a pix to feature...my kids and I enjoyed it. Campy and Creepy both.

Probably not advisable in most circumstances but from experience, once you've had enough of them, I know of one sure way to out and finish a grandiose narcissist: Poke & prod them with condescending criticism. Not too obvious but just enough to let them know your contempt - they will pick up on it right away. It's like pressing the button on an A-bomb. A truly fantastic and disproportionate display of indignant rage. Just sit back and watch - stay cool and don't say anything while it happens. Crucially let there be plenty of others around to see. This was my manager a few years back.

Can you please go once more in depth, between the differences in being in a relationship with a perfectionistic, who has OCPD versus the perfectionistic demands of a grandiose and/or a vulnerable narcissist? I noticed not all people with OCPD are narcissistic, but narcissists are always selfish and (often) do have perfectionistic demands towards the other. Thanks for this fantastic video Dr. Grande 😃🇳🇱