You KNOW when a guy is interested in you. You don´t wonder, you aren´t insecure about what they want from you, they make their intentions really clear when they like you
I literally told my partner today "I have no idea why I am mad I'm just mad at you" and he was laughing like "okay babe whatever. When you find a reason to be mad just let me know" and we just laughed about it cause I haven't been able to sleep and we are moving in less than a month so I'm just overly stressed and I know I'm not really mad at him but I feel safe enough to have somewhere that anxious and upset energy can go without being scared of the repercussions. 😅 It's really nice feeling so secure and loved. ❤
THANK YOU MORGANNN 👏 I was literally just saying something like that, that you can’t open up to everyone because it shows a standard of what you’re willing to handle. I realized that’s the correlation between people who have the same problems happen again and again I’ve been hesitant to say it though because I don’t want to seem like I’m victim blaming but I’m literally talking about myself and from my own experiences with cheating and abuse
In regards to talking about past relationships with a potential partner, I did the whole “he was great, treated me amazingly” thing and I still got treated like shit by the next one 💀 I don’t think it really matters. They’re gonna treat you how they wanna treat you.
I totally agree. If your partner tells you they were treated badly wouldn’t you want to protect them and make sure that doesn’t happen again instead of wanting to hurt them if you already know they were hurt in the past
Great podcast! I just subscribed. :) I won’t forget the line my husband used that won me over. I had recently broken up with my 6 year bf and I worked at the bank. My now hubby walks in and by now we are familiar from bank transactions. I tell him that a guy from high school dm’d me saying he wants to date me now that I’m single, and when I said that, my now husband says without a beat “I’m already at the front of that line”. The rest is history ❤
The opening segment came right when I needed it. Recently ended a situationship even though we had an amazing time on every date, he would leave me on delivered for DAYS despite being active on messenger daily. He tried to say that we just have “different communication styles” which I just know is BS at this point. It’s so frustrating because I gave him multiple outs and said it was okay if he wasn’t interested but he insisted he was. We had only been seeing each other for under two months and I already found myself going through this emotional cycle with him so I finally cut it off. It’s not easy but at least I can use the situation as fuel for the gym 🙃
He insisted he was interested because he wanted to keep u around so he can still benefit from having you. A fu*kboy for you smh. Been there a few times myself. I stopped dealing with them 2 years ago. Still single myself.
If there's anything I've learned about closure it's that anyone who tells you that you need to sit down with the ex-partner(s) and talk to them to get it, they're wrong. Closure comes from within! It's acceptance that the relationship is over & moving on, self-healing from the pain, relying on your community, and then growing from it on your own. Closure cannot be found by moving backward and going back to the people who caused it, even if you may never have all the answers. Even if you were to talk to them you'd never get all the answers anyway, you'd just cause yourself more pain.
The only thing I’ll add with the “if he wanted to, he would”, be clear to him about what you want and expect from him rather than hoping he’ll read your mind. Sounds obvious, but I’ve been guilty of it in the past. Now, if he knows your expectations and needs and is still low effort, you shouldn’t have to nag, perhaps have a calm talk about it first, but be ready to leave.
Anyone who disagrees with the "If he wanted to he would" thing are people who want a 5 star relationship with 2 star effort. If he wanted to surprise you he would. If he wanted to learn what makes you feel loved he would. If he wanted to get therapy for trauma in order to be a better partner because he truly cares about you HE WOULD! Don't settle for someone who isn't showing they want you.
I'm a 100% believer of "if he wanted to he would". I never realized how shitty I was treated and what I put up with from my ex (who I thought I was going to marry of course) until I met my current fiancé. I've NEVER had to question if I'm loved or felt bad about being myself around him. My ex on the other hand, I was constantly walking on eggshells because I never knew what mood he would be in and how I would get yelled at for the dumbest things. He would always make me feel stupid and insecure, and I just put up with it because I "loved" him. And I CAN confirm that the asshole exes DO come crawling back. Don't fall for it. Like you girls were talking about, when I met my fiancé I was super confused like, "is this how I'm supposed to be treated!?". I NEVER not once felt unloved or unwanted by my fiancé. I can 100% be myself around him and he makes me so damn happy. Again ladies, IF HE WANTED TO HE WOULD. Actions speak louder than words. Don't settle or make excuses for dumb dudes, you deserve better. psssst...get yourself a nerd. The nerds are the best lol
A huge example of what not to do is Carrie Bradshaw in Sex and the City, she was so stuck in the fog of a toxic relationship with a guy that didnt care about her to the point she even convinced herself it was a fairytale😵💫😵💫😵💫
I wish I would have found your channels when I was younger. Maybe I wouldn't have gone through so many hard times and found my self respect sooner. Thank you for sharing how people should be treated.
I’m in the middle of a divorce after 10 years and I’ve been really feeling guilty about it (mainly because of my kids) and only remembering the happy times… after listening to this though it was so affirming. That relationship had a small bit of almost every red flag or horseman that y’all spoke of.. it’s so hard to change your mindset but this did help hearing it in different ways than I have or to see it through other peoples eyes.. Thank you guys for this pod episode!
If he wanted to he would: My now husband would text me from the McD in town "up north" to get on the wifi - when he would go to the cabin and I didn't have that weekend off.
this just made single me very happy…24 feeling like i’m missing out but honestly i’m taking this time AND new year to focus on me and what I deserve..🥳 thank you both, ladies!!!!❤️
I never take my ring off, ever, not even to wash my hands, or cook, or anything. Everytime I take it off, I can’t remember where I left it. I don’t care if that makes me gross, NO THANK YOU :)
Loved this❤youre chemistry with Morgan is awesome....you seem so chilled and compftorble with each other!!!! Really great episode..thanks ladies🦋✌️💜🔥⚘️
Going through a messy break up right now, my ex is telling me I’ll always be alone and no one would ever be able to put up with me. This video gives me hope for the future, here’s hoping my ex is wrong 🤞
I've heard this once from a cheating ex. His exact words were "you'll never find someone as great as me". I don't know why but something clicked and I took it as a challenge and found MANY more people light-years better. This is your challenge era, babes - I suggest you accept the challenge because there will be so many people who won't just "put up with you" but help build you up to be the queen you are 🖤
I'm so excited to see this episode! I wish one of these gals would see my marriage story and give me their thoughts, but the likelihood of that is so incredibly low, but I'm such a fan of both these girls!
Oh...I just realized the terrible termoil I'm going to go through if I ever get engaged (Lmaooooo). I put stuff down and it's immediately forget where it is. If I do get a ring (idk I'm not a ring fan tbh)....I will lose it and then I'll lose my effing marbles. Glad this was brought up...I've never considered this before lol.
That firm of gaslighting is so gross… I’ve seen it a few times and I call them out for what they are doing and exacting why they are doing it. It’s interesting to see the outcome, they don’t win!
Hi, it's okay to talk about an ex. Especially if you were with that ex for a long time. That was your life for the last, however many years. If you're insecure, then just say that and communicate those feelings. Normalize talking about exes. 🎉
This video was literally made for me. I could say so many things right now lol. Anyway I came here because of the Two Hot Takes podcast and I am happy to say I am now following you now! :D
I came here because I saw Morgan and I love Two Hot Takes! I’ve never seen you before Syd but Hi 👋 😊 this is the first video I’ve seen from you and I just gotta say; LOVED IT 🩵 along with your You and your Vibe, you seem so chill. You totally won me over; Subscribed! 😊 Oh, also, know your from MN too (as am I) made me love you even more! 🙂 You don’t see a lot of Minnesotans on here! Anywaysss, with all that being said, I’m happy to start watching ALL of your videos! Keep up the Good work/Content 😊
55:11 I feel like a lot of girls leave their good guys because those guys can often be seen as stable and boring and so many girls and women can seek toxicity!!
The if he wanted to he would about how you feel calm, safe etc is so so true but you have to be careful of the conmen who are excellent of manipulation and lying through their teeth as that was my last relationship which was all a lie due to his real truth coming out and it crushed me like damn rebound and used again😢
1:15:00 I beg to differ. Unless the ex is making moves on your bf, I think the person who has "things to unpack" are the ppl bothered by something like that. I'm on the "close friends" list of ppl I'm no longer even close to anymore. It's not a big deal, honestly. Earlier in the pod, you guyd mentioned that becoming exes doesn't need to involve animosity. If that's the case, then why would something like being a close friend on ig be an issue? Exes CAN be friends and so long as people stay respectful of boundaries and new relationships, it should be fine.
Am I the only one who has access to peoples “close friends” and it’s like a roommate from college I haven’t spoke to in literally 8 years…and everything in between 😭 Like half these “close friends” I do not speak to or interact with online at all and haven’t in years haha. I’m always more curious like, who they hiding this random, seemingly meaningless photo of a car from that they had to create close stories lol
I loved this episode!!! Love you Morgan! If you read this, I got my colonoscopy and I’m okay! (You told me to do it a while back) Haha 😂 Seriously though- yessss know your worth ladies!!! Syd, amazing podcast! You’re beautiful and intelligent and this is just your reminder from a random ass stranger, but friend ;) I feel like I get my girl chat in and me being a mama to 7 year old boy and with a 40 year old man, it helps! 😅😂
I see what you’re saying but I feel like if someone said my ex treated me like a princess then why are yall broken up and dating someone else? I feel like if I was dating a guy and he told me that his ex girlfriend treated him like a king I would be like ok so why are you not with her still then?
You probably won't see this, but there was a time I was going to move from the UK to MN (I was engaged to a great woman who I'm still friends with, who was Chair of the Bisexual Organising Project). I've retained a huge fondness for the state and the Twin Cities, despite never having visited.😊
Lived in ohio for several years there are just spots there without wifi or service. When i left for vacation someone thought i unalived myself bc it all went out and i was without contact to most people i didnt know the number for to call from the homeline
Love y’all but a Starbucks drinker not knowing the word barista says a lot…As a barista myself, I feel for Starbucks employees (baristas,managers, etc)
I don’t wear my ring all the time I always be forgetting to put it in my box. I left it in my pants pockets, I was looking for my ring, I was so scared, look in the wash before i started the load, oh boy I was scared.😂
1:22:17 WAIT LADIES hear me out. I agree with yall to an extent but in all honesty it depends on the dudes “vibe” for lake of a better words. Where does he live? Does he live in the mountains? Is he a city boy or a “ thug type” or is he the type of guy that’s an outdoorsy guy that would rather live in a cabin in the woods fishing and just chilling in nature? My husband is the outdoorsy guy who if he didn’t have a family with me would literally be in a cabin all day long just chilling, sleeping, fishing and more. The further from cell service the better. Also not everyone spends money on expensive smart phones with expensive packages. Now all that being said I watch ALOT OF TRUE CRIME and I don’t know that I would go off into the woods this soon with someone I only really knew for 3 days. Now this could be because I’m naturally a person who is suspicious of damn near everyone. In the game of clue as far as I was concerned they were all guilty but my ass lol 😂 ok a little joke but either way that part does sound a bit sketch so o would base it off of where he lives and is there someone near by that could save you if he turns out to be a serial killer or someone crazy. Some people are really great at playing pretend. I’ve had trust issues since I was a child. At the same time I know what it feels like to feel your heart pulling you towards someone. Hopefully if she goes things go smoothly for her.
Love the point about it being important to a relationship to show interest and support in your partner's hobbies even if it's not your cup of tea. Shame you couldn't apply that to boyfriend's who like to play video games 😂😂😂 bit hypocritical.
morgan are you wearing a bath robe? where did u get it? its looks confortable, fluffy and also like a jacket, i love it ps: just in case my eyes are deceiving me again, i apologize if it isnt a robe
It might be a version of a snuggy but I do know Amazon has a few rlly comfy ones and I’m going to guess boscovs/target sells them I got a comfy one from Amazon I also got one at this store I can not remember so if I remember to come back to this comment I will lyk if you’re looking for a robe as much as I hate them victorious secret (I got one as a gift) have comfy ones and boscovs or any place like bed bath and beyond have comfy robes!
@@TwoHotTakes it was a blanket!!! 🤣🤣 (and a sweatshirt) there should be sweatshirt + blanket coat or somth like that. thanks!!! if you ever go back to canada, please, invite charlote dobre to read aita posts, cant wait to see you 2 on an episode like that!
I am so glad Icame to the comments to say this and someone already did. Everytime she said it😅 Can still watch it and understand but those are two different phrases that have opposite meanings 😂
Loved seeing Morgan on this!! Now I have another podcast to listen too. All love here, is the "S" in "Said" upside down? I love how clean the aesthetic is but with the small part of the S being on the lower half it looks like it might be upside
