15 Signs That you Have Toxic Parents 

Very interesting theory. Not to forget, the saas bahu serials, where the perfect 'bahu' is usually one who will take all the abuse and insults from the elders in the family. And you are so correct...esp the 'iillogical baoji' bit. Oh God!! Was watching the movie after years sometime back, and exactly my thought of the whole drama...

@@SmileWithPrachi thanks Prachi, sometimes the internet and youtube can become so rewarding.

Parents are smart: It was taught to the early parents that they should take the responsibility of a child like a God protects and guides a devotee. But few idiots in society used it to control kids by saying parents are equal to God and that mothers break bones almost dies while giving birth so they are our Gods. They will never agree they have not given us this life to live for our own, they gave us birth like an investment for their old age controlling us as per their needs.

@@rajlaxmibehera6370 you are 💯 percent right.we are not born in this world just to satisfy them only.

Yeah my father wants me to work in particular job particular location marry particular person even though my choice of work or guy will be good only .since I disobeyed I am considered the worst human in the family and was verbally abused all the time and considered a useless child and I was cursed by both of my parents .

That is so true ❤️

Now it has become, I owe you nothing and you owe me everything..

Sadly if we say this in brown households we all know what will happen 😭

Wow !! Excellent !!! 👌👌👌

Golden words.. but very rare to find parents with this understanding.

Best of luck bestie

u go girl🥳🥳

All the best 💕

Me too moving out soon

@@rubinarai680 all the best bestie

So so so true , people call us bad child even if we speak something about our parents bad behavior towards us ,

True

True

I am not agree with you at all I mean both are equal

I understand ruby

I understand it

100 percent true

it's sad to see that even home isn't a safe place to live

Not always. These truly are exceptional cases, but much needed to be talked about since the society hardly allows healthy, validating conversations around these subjects.

Both, Superwowstyle and smile withprachi Are managed by the same person. RIGHTT?

@@maalinihema_ I was also thinking the same

@@maalinihema_ Yes😅

you are not alone...i am a 31 year old guy.....my mom ruined my life....she destroyed me...emotionally and psycologically. she didnot let me mix with other kids and friends right from my preschool days to my 12th. The result is that i could never connect with anyone. i have no friends to speak of...i dont have someone to share my feelings with....i dont why people dont become my friend....maybe she ruined me so much that my nature itself or the way i talk and interact doesn't please anyone....i dont know...i trymy best...even wanna ask a girl why is that they dont wanna talk to me.....i feel miserable...i am not ugly or unattractive....you know she literally stopped me from going to friends places and interact with them, a childhood video of my birthday made me get shocked!!!...she was proudly proclaiming to one of my aunty's how she is dominating my life and she tends to keep me in control, lest i dont care for her after my marriage.....me too depressed.....and crying my heart out....yes men cry too!!....i work and try to keep myself aloof in my job......but weekends feel painful, after work feels painful....i go to theaters and sit alone, i see happy couples...smiling and enjoying their life....i feel depressed..i wonder why did god bring me to this world....i have not caused anyone any misery....i always helped others....why should i suffer.....sometimes i wanna ask a girl what is wrong with me.....i will work my best to improve myself....just dont know why am i alone....cant take it anymore...it hurts!!....

@@zion3335 and you are also not alone my mother has done what I can't even explain by typing my father is also narcissistic

@@zion3335 hey Zion I'm a stranger just going through comments and saw yours I don't know how to react in this situation I am also alone don't know what is happening in my life but we can try to be friends I'm also not much friendly but we can try ... I also need a friend ... You can reply with any of your social media handle I will surely contact you my friend...

you are strong. you will come out of this.

I understand your feelings. This might start your spiritual journey. You're all alone in this endeavor.

*Cptsd

I completely understand.

@@niti470 i hope you are fine now. But this is life unless we move out from their house. I was about to go to college this year but Corona stopped it. So we just need to find ways to keep ourselves safe. Thats just what we can do.

@@niti470 thank you and i hope you are safe and happy mentally and physically ❤️

Amulya Sahoo ♥️🙏🏻🤗

Hey, I'm younger than you and my parents never listen to me and my problems, they just want me to study 24/7. They're quite a lot conservative...Everytime I share my opinions and thoughts to them, they always judge me, criticize me and scold me just because I've different views than theirs. I can't concentrate on anything now. They always vent on me. I'm so sick of crying all the time in my room now...Any advice ?

@@khushi8130 hye pretty soul ❤️ don't worry i totally get how you must be feeling. So what you can do is share all your thoughts with a close friend of yours whom you trust completely and you know that he/she wont judge you for your thoughts rather guide you in where you are going wrong. You can do this and if you don't have any such friend, then be your own friend my love.. write love letters to yourself, encourage yourself, talk to yourself (make sure you dont do this Infront of people). Be your own company in every way possible. I urge you to try this letter technique and let me know if it helped you or not. Pour out everything in those letters and don't write anything lie in these letters. Be true to yourself. And after you feel better burn those letters ok honey ❤️. Keeping those will remind you of the bad times to write and burn... I hope this helps you. Please let me know ❤️

Please make this in Hindi tooo

I agree...ur videos are damn helpful Prachi and it shud also be made in hindi 🙏 it's a request pls

yes please make this video in hindi too.. please

Yes we need Hindi version of it too.. So many parents needs to hear this.

Agreed

I m also planning same

Even im going though this, so only started working online, and blessed to be finincially independent now 💶

@@myra3992 can you help me too for online jobs pls?

@@Ruby-ps9bo you can serch it in RU-vid ....

@@shock-t3768 yess exactly, you can do freelancing.. even i do the same 🏅

This is not funny...

Actually u r much better than them. Keep going dear 💕💕

your skin tone is pretty. everyone loves milk chocolate so do i. 😉❤️

They even label us as battameez if we tell them they are wrong

@@shilpachaudhary5930 easy way of ignoring them, is that they project mtlb they say about themselves but blame us, so just think they are just talking about themselves and ofcourse when they are just talking about themselves i just backfire and they keep quiet 😏🤝

The older generations didn’t know any better and always want to project their ways and belief systems onto the younger generations regardless of living in a different culture and expect others to drop their own views/belief systems and pleasing other people.

I am so sorry. Hope you are doing well now

😔

And my 20 years of life so far🙂

well said...I am also trying very hard

Me too !

This is soo true

Exactly! I'm having such an experience. Always being blamed for everything I do. My dad insults me in front of my husband and his family too. So I don't get any respect from anyone. Society is always with parents 😔

This is soo true .....

@@rachurachu2994 sorry for you

My heart goes with you all😍

No bro we can't they'll beat us until death yeah I'm talking about my parents and relatives but relatives now haven't that control on me but yeah my dad have

Relatable

It happens with many I can feel u girl

Same

I too felt that

stay strong

Hi

Lavender it happens with me as well. There is an elder cousin of mine who is that so called cultured homely girl like indians imagine and my mom criticises me of being extrovert and outspoken she is domestic and docile on the other side and that typical good daughter and sanskari bahu she could be future

Same here.. My mother would often tell me that getting full A plus is not a big deed. You should learn to live..many times before relatives neighbours almost everyone.Its like she belitting my efforts and sacrifices 🤐 As you said it is disrespect The funny part is that my parents were the sole reason for many of my social insecurities Iam trying to get over it but this lockdown phase is eventually haunting me from inside ☹️

@@aparnaakumar9270 I totally get what you're saying... And yes Lockdown making it worse... But at least we have this platform to feel like there are many people like us n we aren't alone.

Agree

Dear Snusha Gupta, I am so sorry for what you have been thought. Remember that you are not less worthy if you don't fit this body standards. The standards are toxic and sexist. Don't let these things lower your self- esteem. You are beautiful as you are♥️

Why r u harming yourself? Don't do that.respect and love yourself.

This exact same thing has happened to me and I am also the same age, but I hope someday I will move out of this toxic environment and live a happy life ☺️

M 14 and my mom always say that I have a dark skin tone and an ugly face. whereas my bestie say me that m really fair. May be m just too broken now to even care to listen and believe these criticism...

you are beautiful. don't ever feel bad about yourself. every shape is pretty.

I can relate totally with you

True to that.....I tell her I wanna go out with so and so guy or say I have a friend and he's a guy and I laugh alot loud..She keeps saying u can't laugh loud with guy friends ..They think u differently. Not letting me buy whatever I want and if I keep buying she will tell ding spend much

🙂🙂

I can relate to u

Please take a job. It's your career, you want to be a respected independent individual right?

Yea, I really need to be independent now, I just stay in this home. I'm preparing for sm exams and hopefully I will clear exam in this attempt.

I dnt even have any frnds, she won't even let me have any frnds . Constantly check my phone and delete all the numbers. She thinks all people in world are bad fr me

@@anushreep8318 same here sister.

Exactly please prachi di more on this

Yes plz

Instead of breaking them. Try to do things you can do that they open up the doors for you. BTW, I'm also in my early twenties. I'm saying this from experience. We do think bad about people who don't go our way. But we don't see the picture from their shoes.

@@hiteshsharma5698 lmao as expected a extremely sanskari indian guy who thinks toxic parents doesn't exist

@@gracysingh9983 I don't think they don't exist. I know they exist. It's just that you can't do anything about it. I can only say that it's a privilege in life to have good parents. But good parents can have toxic children too. What can one do about it? It takes a long time to judge someone. It's all about the situations that things happen in. Only when you truly see your own positives and negatives, and can say them out loud. You know you can say sorry when you are wrong, and try not to repeat that in future. That's when I can say that one is ready to judge people. All I can say about you is - You are a diamond. And you know where they are created, right? Just prove it that you are a diamond or one in the process of making. Bad experiences can either make us wise or feel tortured for rest of the life. We have the choice. BTW, I am also a diamond with a privilege to have someone polish it before I started to do it myself.

Thank you for your encouraging comments :)

Hii! Can we be friends?

@@raunak840 Sure.

@@khushi8130 Tele? Snap? Insta?

Same lol ;)

I understand bro true that .... We gotta be strong n independent

Thats not true at all. Good parents usually raise happier, well adjusted kids than not.

Such a generalisation 😒

@@SmileWithPrachi parents who are real strict mostly ends up raising a bad kid, and then they start disliking them not knowing that it’s their fault. And parents who are not toxic and respect or trust their child, mostly ends up raising a really good child. So somewhere its parents who are responsible for their child’s behaviour. Child’s behaviour depends or their parent’s Not completely but 90% it does!

This is what I want to tell parents but can't ...sometimes we have to accept the situation as it is unfortunately we can't always change there mindset at all and it really hurts....the harsh reality...I just wanted to be independent financially and help my parents but without living with them

@@saizsayshi704 I totally disagree with you. I have strict parents and i am so so sensitive that by hearing to someone's pain , my eyes go numb . No, I am definitely not a bad kid because I didn't allow their behaviour impact me.

So who manages your abroad education expenses ??

@@harijha7560 my father has managed to pay for my education and the rest of the expenses, I am taking care of them. I am mentioned at the end that now we have the healthiest relationship :)

@@riasabharwal24 you said in your comment that you barely received any attention from parents but don't they supported your abroad education which is very difficult to receive from any parents as it is very expensive and not affordable so you can't deny that fact

@@harijha7560 okay. I appreciate everything they’ve done for me. I didn’t talk about love. I talked about not receiving attention from them. Also, this was the time when I was in 9th standard like 10 years back ? Yeah. That was a hard time and things are much better now.

@ria sorry to know you have been through this. It's hard to be the neglected child and esp when your parents are using all that time and energy for your sibling...it makes you realise how much you have missed out on. Glad that you are away from them now, so you can heal

Same here

My mom is monster dude

Same here

My mom made my life hell when i was young. But now i fight back

@@bishakhadas9436 yeah

Same. Hi army. and I cried on the thing that my mental health is becoming worse day by day and m just 15 I need to study tho my dad never got agreed with my career they had always been criticising it and that I can't ever achieve that

There still ways to achieve

same it just made me tear out. I'm still confused if I should leave them or forgive them

@@raunak840 hi friend

Same🙃

Love should not be forced ayushi, it should come from within. But as they are your family just respect them and be grateful for the good things they did to you.

@@swecchaaparajitha6283 🙄

You give me too much credit, but thanks :)

How do you tolerate

Be strong,live for your self