Indian Daughters, It's Time to Stop Living for Your Parents 

The most important point is indian parents would never believe that depression exists!

“We have sacrificed so much for you” This is the iconic dialogue

I want to be free ....make mistakes.... learn ..move forward ....spend some time alone...share some happy moments with friends and family....and dedicate my life to become an artist😊😊

there should be a trend in india, that girls/boys leave their parental homes once their age is 18+ !! it is the only solution to end caste system, misogyny & patriarchy !!

I hate controling parents 😭😭😭😭

u can never change selfish,cruel, narcissistic parents for their lifetime, narcissism is not at all curable, "no contact" with parents is only the remedy !!

(between parents & children) "no contact" should be allowed socially & legally !! society should stop shaming n making d child feel guilty for going away from parents !!

I sometimes feel like I need to disappear from this world because of my parents This is 2021 ,but parents never think how we children's get hurt

I respect my parents and i love them very much, but sometimes their old mindset and ways of doing stuff it gets to a point where it makes me deeply sad and i can only think of wanting to leave and live by myself, im 22.

Me: i m going to share this video with my parents Me: no..its better to avoid conflict again 🤣🤣

It is so sick to even say that i can't even smile simply or while watching a funny video. My parents think it in a bad way and ask "whom are you talking in the phone"? . This feeling is the worst. Update: Guys moving out is the best decision you could ever take. It has helped me so much.

Hey, just wants know all the people in the comment section. Can we all be wrong about our parents behavior? No right. As a single child, I feel like I am manipulated all the time and even if I share my emotion to them, according to them it's nothing. It's just a glitch.

in USA, children can legally give divorce to their parents, in india also we should be able to do the same !! anyone should be allowed to be "orphan" legally !!

As a male who is the oldest I was expected to head the family business & be this ambassador type figure behind the dad. I had my own plans which i fulfilled but at a gigantic cost. I was singled out humiliated time and again in their environment. The parents created sibling divisions which were crippling. Eventually I left & never returned. It has been more than five years since I last saw the parents & I’ve never been happier. I went for my Sovereignty & got it. Reinvent myself. The parents tried to get in contact but I refused to play their toxic game knowing from experience where this was going. I cut myself of completely from everyone family cousins. It was absolutely worth it. They are toxic narcissistic people who trade love.

I can’t believe someone dared to talk about the most sensitive issue here. You can’t point out any mistakes south Asian parents make. You get guilt tripped if you try to live for yourself. Kudos to you for bringing this up.

I came back here again to listen to this after 6 months. Thanks for your message, value it!. I turned 35 and am unmarried. You hit the nail on the head when you said all we experience through our life is conditional love. As a woman, I am condemned, criticised, belittled and have to bear with my parents' rage every other week because I am not able to land a husband yet. Otherwise, they love me. Sometimes they go to the length of saying We are showing you the mirror (basically stating I am pathetic because I am unmarried) because they love me. It's a huge psychological struggle for me to get back to normal and get back up from being verbally hit after those calls from home. I would love to hear your thoughts on surviving as a single Indian woman in her 30s! The other aspect to this equation is Indian men. Since I turned 33, Indian men aren't pursuing me for marriage anymore (may be something related to producing kids) but I still get offers for going with the flow, casual relationships, hook ups from them, which pains me. I wish I wasn't born to be judged or stereotyped by everyone. It's just a struggle at every level.

You just described toxic parenting without putting a label on it. I relate to this so much and I'm not even Indian; I'm just the daughter of immigrant parents with the same mindset as yours.

Note: This video was only for those who have really controlling parents.

I just heard today that ''As long as you're living under my roof you have to stay under my feet and do whatever i tell you to'' Sometimes i just wanna run away because i cant stay in this toxic place anymore

When we meet our parents expectations, we get love but when don't, we get recommended, that line actually hit me hard. Till now I thought that my loved me unconditionally and there are things that they the right to disagree on but still they should give their child the freedom and still be happy and that's what you call unconditional love

I am 23, working as a software engineer , financially independent and love my parents more than anything. But they always wanted me to do a govt job rather than doing a private job. And i am not at all interested. Even though i always tried by best to meet their expectation they are never happy enough. i almost broke up with my bf, bcoz they did not liked that guy, i always ended up canceling my trips just bocz they didn't felt it safe, although it was safe. But the only thing i love is my Work but they r not at all happy about it. They always demotivate me. even today we had a huge discussion/argument and i am in a very bad mood now.

It is actually becoming a loop. Where the controlling mindset is being passed from one generation to another.

Its actually getting tougher as being a girl teen in India's middle family , I'm a girl teen , I want to pursue my dreams as a singer and now tell me one thing doesn't a bird pushes her child away so that he can learn to fly ,,,,,,,, if animals can do that why can't my parents ?.......they are having a mindset of how a girl would live her life even before she is born , oh gawdddd being graduate , getting a job then getting married and then taking care of the household , oh wow this is the best life a girl can live , according to my family . Wow ,,,,,,, Education is a base not everything !!!!!!!!

Upto age 25 Indian women live for their parents and after 25, Indian women live for their husband parents ! This is true story of every south Asian girl!

This was heavy. I lost too many opportunities just so that I don’t lose the bare minimum love I get from them.

That's the best anybody could ever tell a girl.. More and more power to you 💓💓💓💓

Can you make a video about indian parent's obsession with marriage?

it should be illegal to write/speak "ALL mothers/fathers love their children".

Actually, Indian parents main expectation that their daughter get married and have children. Please don't get affected because it is reality(I am a boy).

I think parents really need some training before having a child . They must know that child is an individual and has right to make his/her decisions.

The reason I want to be separated is because they always control me in every thing even they don't let me go outside, they don't allow me to ride bicycle and I need to ask for their approval to buy or wear something. I want to move out, I know I would face financial problems but atleast I could be happier stronger, independent, productive, and most important thing I can have freedom

This must be shown in schools.

I am in a relationship and told my parents without hiding. It's been an year I'm waiting for their decision. I'm 25 now and they are still arguing with me that this relationship won't work out because my bf doesn't have a govt job and he isn't handsome enough to them. Scolded me a lot and blamed themselves for sending me to NIT. 1 yr I tried convincing them. Now it's more than an year and things got worsened last month as they discovered some of my chats. My dad verbally abused me which led me to complete depression and a stage of utter hopelessness. I shut myself inside my room. Today it's been 43 days, still in my room without speaking to anyone, without getting out and my poor mom brings me breakfast and lunch to my room (no dinner 😑). I'm that drained and devastated. It's true that Indian parents doesn't even know that that depression exists.

Hi Ritu. Great video ! As an indian man yes the challenges are different but trust me it isn’t any better . We are actually prevented from being men instead expected to be boys for the rest of our lives . The damage it does is immeasurable in my opinion . I’m happy you showed the courage to speak about it . I’m actually doing everything u just mentioned in your video and life is much better now . More power to u 👍

I am not an Indian but married to an Indian man. I very much understand what you are talking about here and about how collectivist culture is. I also understand the awesome courage it takes to speak this kind of truth. You rock! Keep on the path. The world needs people to dare to cultivate such self awareness and courage to face reality.

I’m from India and I’m 14, living with my parents is a nightmare. My Mom yells at me so much she makes me cry almost 24/7. What can I do? I dont anyone to talk to.

It’s so annoying how we’re expected to do all the chores and dress nicely in our own homes because “it’s preparing us for life after marriage” and boys could just sit and chill and don’t have to do a thing😒like wtf this isn’t the 16th century! Someone needs to give all desi parents a big wake up call🙄

This is such an important issue. Parent pleasing creates behaviour patterns that define the rest of your life...and the results can be devastating.

I had been dating a girl for quite some time now, and her mother is not okay with me a being her daughter's choice. They have not even met me once but they somehow think that I am not suitable to their daughter. Today my girl said we have to split because her mother is not okay with me. My heart breaks, but I feel so powerless that I can't control what's outside of me. I can only cry and heal.

It's true...I didn't know I could have a separate identity that isn't validated by my parents, or generally by the society...it feels criminal to disobey parents, because they spend their entire careers and lives living for us...but at the same time, it doesn't feel right logically to waste everything I've done up till now either, you know...We're taught about truth seeking, Buddha, and feminine by education and movies but society is just the opposite...I wonder why when so many people are able to change, parents are the only ones who refuse to see the change, or even look for it?

If I ever have kids,I'm going to make sure my daughters never feel the insecurities that I feel as a teen girl and my sons don't have the typical Indian mindset that a woman needs to give up her identity if she gets married!

My parents fight everyday continuously I cannot tolerate this anymore please can u help me I cannot handle the toxicity and mentally abuse and verbal abuse please do something please

Like many other women in the comments mentioned,even I feel that financial independence is extremely important for any woman because that's the only way that's left for us to breathe freely. But what I feel is that emotional independence should always come first. I've been a quite emotionally independent girl since my early teens which is why I was never trapped in guilt or shame and whatever the world tried to put me through just for existing as a female. I have always been a very focused lady and I know most women aren't able to do this because of all the social conditioning ‐ but we can have independent minds if we push ourselves into doing it. It does come with a lot of pain but I'm ready to face it for my freedom,mental peace and happiness. Some nights I do wish that I had someone's support but I guess my fight has to continue - alone.. More power to all the strong women struggling every second but still having a smile on their faces.

Well said. We need UNCONDITIONAL LOVE from our parents otherwise what will be the difference b/w our parents and any other random person ???

I know that this is an old video but I just cannot take the emotional torture, demands, threats from my parents (Indian) anymore. My life has been pure hell for as long as I remember. I cannot take it anymore. Now it is ‘death bed’ threats ... we are dying so you must do this before we die. Pure torture😣

As I watched the video, I could observe how uncomfortable and exhaustive it is to approach this topic. Even in daily life, it is very difficult to make people understand our side of story without giving long drawn explanations. We feel guilty about owning our story when we open up to others. There is constant shaming for speaking up about toxicity and abuse within family. I am so thankful for this video and calling a spade a spade. ❤️

I misread it and thought the title said "Stop living with your parents".

We have dominating parental society..where parents think whatever they r thinking nd doing with our lyf it's perfect nad we have to do all that as parent wishes otherwise they will be mentally torture u and at the end if u fail after the hard work then also u failed not they bcs they r always perfect...all r human all have mind why indian parents forces us their thoughts...

What a beautiful message! I am an Indian son but I really benefitted greatly by watching this, thank you so much for sharing 🙏🏾

People are conditioned from their childhood to believe what's wrong and what's right. They don't even get to decide their own rights and wrongs. And when somebody finally questions the misogyny and all that shit in society, people are like conditioned to turn towards them. Almost making the other person feel like they did something wrong even when what they did was absolutely right. It sucks honestly. As an Indian girl from middle class family, I try to express my views and opinions in most of the stuff even if the stuff doens't include me. And I think that's best for me. I make my stand clear in my family. And express my true dreams and how I want my life to be with my parents. it's hard I know but hang in there everyone, let's put an end to this whole thing. It's eating us all alive.. Always please express your stand clearly guys.. I avoid some really controversial topics like religion to prevent them turning against me. I wish you all good luck. Follow your heart always and quoting BTS- "Don't be trapped in someone else's dream"

An issue many Indians are facing is the financial and conditional dependency on their parents. We aren't used to staying alone or standing on our ground.

My parents have an old mindset but still they take every effort to sit down and understand my explanations, about this generation's things and all. They eagerly listen and give out solutions !

I was born in a typical middle class indian family.. they told me that my birth was accidental and they thought i was a boy before birth. after my birth, when i turned out as a girl, my family was very disappointed with me(especially my dad). I also have an elder brother whom they love so much.. they take very good care of him ignoring me and my needs meanwhile. My father used to care my brother so much and ignore me like im invisible or something. when i was 10, we invited our relatives and friends to our place to have fun and then one uncle asked my dad who's more intelligent among both of us(me and my brother) and my dad undoubtedly told that his son is intelligent and i'm dim.. i was so embarrassed.. i used to study well and they never recognized what i was capable of doing.. all my relatives preached me how i should be more like my brother.. my parents never used to allow me to talk to my friends, go to their places... my brother used to go out and have fun.. they never allowed me to go on school/college tours.. i used to cry all alone everyday at nights.. they invested so much on my brothers studies.. they used to buy him branded clothes and for me, they never used to buy me anything even on my birthdays or festivals.. today, im a working women still staying with my parents, tranfering all the money that i recieve every month while my brother spends money lavishly

Thank you so much for speaking out about this! I've been recently sharing this message informally with others as well. I'm a 30 year old Indian male, and as you mentioned it certainly applies to men as well. I had so much stress and anxiety in my career in Finance and quit without a plan. During that self reflection process I realized how much my career was dictated by the wishes of my parents, and the realized how much they were focused on family image and their children being an extension of themselves. As you said, there are many great things to celebrate about Indian culture, but I believe in every word you said and you've inspired me to continue to be vocal about this!

I just wanted to share something so that my heart doesn't hurt. Today my dad said that I don't have common sense and I don't know how to talk to people. I try everything in my power. I try to cook dinner at night and like do all the work and also study but it's just hurtful when I hear those words. I just want him to talk not so hurtful things. ps:- I'm just 18

I wanted to live in Chennai , wanted to learn tamil language , generate relations with local people , wanted to have a small 2BHK with my small dog and cat , wanted to earn more money , wanted to join a yoga class for my fitness, wanted to decorate my own bought home with furnitures and decor items , wanted to witness the marina beach evey weekend , wanted to learn more skills , arts , and technologies , wanted to have my own saving, investment accounts, wanted to have my health insurance, driving license, and after 10-15 years wanted to get retired with huge amount of money in my bank account, and start teaching in a school , wanted to visit rameshwaram every third month, wanted to marry a tamil person , have single child girl, wanted to journal my life, wanted to have a peaceful beautiful happy family, and wanted to deliver all my life experiences with my girl child. At the end stage of my life I wanted to die with satisfaction and peace.

whos all got emotionally blackmailed , got beaten up , and threatened by parents for marriage and career , i literally scared to get even get married , 😔😑😔😟

Oh well said Ritu! you’re among the first to speak profoundly and openly about this! We need more women like yourself to speak up and then we should all come together to create A MOVEMENT to shift some ways of thinking, so rooted in some of our south East Asian cultures, still to this day. We need to do this NOW so the future generations will have a different story. Rise up, Speak up and let’s live our lives authentically!

My parents’ toxicity has made me toxic. I don’t want my little brother to go through the same crap.

I think it's high time that people of every gender, age, religion, caste or ethnicity should understand the importance of human being whether men or women, since in case of women, they have to face a lot of things due to the conservative mindset of our country's people and I think 🤔, everyone should consider the other person as a normal human being and should allow them to do whatever they want and also don't control anyone unless he/she is hurting someone, rest just take care of yourself and be brave, strong and I wish all of you to have a GREAT MENTAL HEALTH & HAPPINESS.

The who we be friends with bit was so relatable to me. My mom hates my friends. And this has been for all these years. I am 20. Imagine how many friends i've changed? How many people I've met. She thinks i should be friends with "nice" girls. I want out of this jail goddamn it. At this point? I can just comment here. I can do nothing else. Yep i know you're thinking that these are "negative" words. But trust me, i've done ALL the positive thinking. Nothing worked out. Toxic parents all the way.

Nothing else comforted me other than these comments here. I'm so frustrated and depressed right now I can't explain it in words. I'm relieved I'm not the only one suffering from this toxicity. My parents tell me to get married next year according to my so-called astrology and I'm 23 now but I want to fulfill my dream I want to go to the Canada for MS. And my astrology says I'm arrogant and needs to humble myself why?! Why!? Why!? "because being arrogant is being rude to others where as being humble is being rude to yourself" stop telling woman that she needs to humble herself, are men so insecure of empowering women's? Anyways Im not like them and I don't want to be like them. It's my life it's my choice. I have the right, who are they to control me and my actions just because they've given birth doesn't mean they have the right to do anything they wish with me. Im human not a thing. Even a dog and cat get's to live their life as they want why not me? I'll do what I want no matter what and prove them and that astrology, wrong. I get's to make decisions of my life I get to make me happy no matter what.

Thank you Ritu! This is such an important conversation and we need more voices!

There's no denying the bias when you have a brother 😒

My parents don’t let me go out with friends or sisters alone. They are still living in 90s.

Hi guys I am 15 years old and from India and my parents are abusive they always tell u can't be successful in life 🥺 help me guys I am in depression . I feel like leaving my house now 😭

You do not look 42! I could never have guessed. Thank you for this empowering video! ✨

In latino's families, it's the same struggle. My solution was to leave the country and move another one very far away. But thanks to the technology, they keep trying to control me. Thanks for the video

It's even worse when you have a disability and they don't even understand how hard it is for you to do things. They will constantly compare you to other kids and make you feel worthless. No matter how much you try to do for them, they will never be proud of you. For them nothing is ever enough.

First off I can’t believe she was 40 in this video lol. She looks amazing!! Next.... I can imagine my dad watching this, not taking in a single word she just said, and thinking it’s such a selfish and bad mindset when most decisions that he’s made in his life were of his own accord. And the thing is MANY of those decisions put our family in worse places but he’s still satisfied because he had the freedom to make those decisions and learn for himself. My mom is another story. She would also disagree with this video but that’s because she has years and years of unprocessed feelings and trauma, she’s internalized the sexist aspects of our society, and she never learned the skills to stand up for herself.

This is true for Indian Sons also, not just indian daughters.

Thank you for this message! It was really the right time for me to hear it today. I am highly pressurised by my parents to marry. Needed to get centred and stronger.

Ur video is totally relatable to my life as am Muslim women and wanting to be independent in my life I wana move out life my life on my terms.. Hopefully... Soon enough il be my own and will achieve my dream

I just learned of a young Indian woman who took her own life. She was SO depressed and no one in the family "recognized" it. Her mother, a psychiatrist, remarked..."How did I NOT see this." Sometimes, culture makes one blind to reality.

INDIAN GIRLS DESERVE TO DO EVERYTHING THEY WANT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! full support from Pakistan !!!!

It's 2023, and it's more prevalent than ever! Leaving the nest to live by oneself really changes a lot of dynamics in life, I got to do that only for 6 to 7 months and it changed, empowered a lot in me, even gave confidence to my parents in me but due to covid coming back home now I can see that the more you live with your parents even if you socially have higher abilities and earning power than them, you're still in the binds and chained to their expectations and mindset, really hope I can leave again to live my life my way!

This video helped me get some clarity. This is probably the 3rd or 4th time going back to it and I even showed my mother and she still felt the same after and which was disappointing. Maybe she didn’t understand all the words but anyways I’ve been struggling my entire life and I’m currently 23 and I’m the only daughter out of 4. My parents have used emotional blackmail on me whenever I want to do something for myself like eventually move out and get my own place or choose who I want to marry and ofcourse what type of job I should be working. I feel like after all the arguments im just fed up. It’s impossible for them to accept me for who I am and that’s what hurts me the most.

The fact that we are watching this is such a big sign but also the fact I m watching this not for my parents but I live in joint family so it's for someone else and I m like in such a way that it gets me so much effected that I cry but don't show because .............

I loved everything you said here thank you! Even though I'm not Indian, I'm married to an Indian man and living in India so I've experienced this same mentality of being pressured to conform to the family's and society's expectations. The expectations people put on me as a sister in law and what they determine my role is I find it exhausting. Yes, I also grew up similarly with my parents putting their expectations on me to the point I developed a lot of depression and anxiety because they were impossible to please. I decided I'm no longer going to be a "people pleaser" because frankly, it's not worth it and it's impossible to make everyone happy. The hard part is learning how not to care so much about other people's opinions, while knowing that people are always judging you and it becomes the topic of gossip with these people. Don't listen to them. Remember, people who spend so much time talking about other people's lives don't have a happy life themselves, and so they want to drag you down with them because missery loves company. Just live your life the way you want and ignore the negativity. You deserve to be happy and healthy always. ❤️

Nobody can match the level of the verbal abuse your parents put you through. 6 years and this video is more relatable than ever 💔

These things also happen to guys, but sadly too many guys oblivious simps. My father died just before I turn 20, and in a matter of few years, I started to living separately, despite 87 thousand counts of guilt trip.

I’m not Indian but I’m Mexican. This spoke to me. ❤

I'm a Muslim and my age is 22. I work at an mnc . I have a lot of aspirations in my life. My mother yet controls me ,she won't let me meet my friends, can't even get a haircut, decides my wardrobe, always blabbers religious stuff,only for a reason that she can find good alliance for me. The society in here india,most of them ,Muslims families expect a daughter in law whose work is to take care of in laws and husband and children. They must do the work without uttering a word,not allowed to meet their parents or friends or can't even go to shopping alone.The teaching given to a male is to control his better half if she raises her voice over a topic. My question to them is do you want a daughter in law or a maid? What is the use of all that education and hardwork if at last have to compromise everything.Why is everyone controlling us ? Parents prior to marriage, then inlaws after marriage. Why is there no value to our lives as a woman? I did raise my voice against this ,I got a resounding answer that it is not in our culture. It is a basic freedom that we deserve is my point. There are people who still say that a women's place is confined to the four walls of kitchen. My opinion is that there is no fixed place for anyone. Responsibilities must be dealt equally between two partners.

Conditional Love is what a child receives. So many of us live an incomplete life because our conscience doesn't let us live with peace as we never lived our own life.

I always interested in your conversations. I read a lot of the comments and there are a lot that needed to hear this. I am glad you are helping to shine the light on this. My best friend in high school is Indian and I am aware of some of the issues. She was forced to get married. It only last 6 months because he abused her physically. Her parents felt guilty and allowed her to make her own decision moving forward. Her parents was not supportive of our friendship but later we were like family. She got married later by making her choice and has 3 beautiful children. We still have 27 yrs of friendship to this date. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE INDEED. Shouldn’t be a choice.‼️🙌

I am a Hispanic woman and I totally relate 💯 thank you for this video 😅 this is world wide girl!! Thank you ❤️‍🔥

your struggles matches mine too...and whom i choose to love m parents don't accept him and also rejects me...when i told them that this is your conditional love for me....i trued to choose the career they put me in but i never ever can make them happy...and in my life there is not only rejection from my family because i love someone from other caste or not rich enough to please them....there is physical abuse too....so i decided to ran way from my parents home and get the freedom of loving the man and marry him...but every time i thought about that i feel that i broke their heart but what wrong i did i really don't know.......its really tough......and the irony of my life is....my parents got an inter caste love marriage and my dad was not rich like my mom's family on that point ........m grand parents accept them...well the are no more now....so i am clueless why the hell they are angry with me doing the sme thing they did...my dad say because we are in rural are so...society don't accept these things(love)....although i realize that no one cares...

Thank goodness someone's talking about this. I didnt find any video to move out from india

My abusive dad's 42 and u r a lot mature than him

I moved to US when I was 16. My mother always made it clear she wasn’t happy with having a daughter. I think that created a lot of self doubts and self esteem issues. I had a great education, and as you mentioned conditional love so it wasn’t all bad. But one thing I loved about myself is my stubbornness. I used to think being a woman and being this stubborn is a bad thing, again because I didn’t fit the Indian societal standard for being the perfect woman. Turned 22, moved out, got a job, met a guy at 26 ( not Indian) fell in love, moved in together, bought my own house and at 33 we live together as partners and recently decided to get engaged. Throughout this whole time I have had multiple conversations about how I am still not married and pretty sure few family members don’t talk to me because my life is completely different than the rest of them. But at least I am happy and if things don’t go as planned, I have no regrets. I see so many of my friends living double life and it’s so sad. Anyway, great video and thank you for talking about this important issue.

Indians should speak out!

This information crosses many cultural boundaries. I've always said that women have the toughest life. I support you!

Its like i keep doing stuff that my parents want me to do..they see the point of me doing that stuff,but i just dont :/

What to do if Ur own parents threaten to disown me .if they tell that if my job colleagues bullied me it was my fault ..if they keep on digging my past which I have shared to them coz they asked me to n now m jobless ..if m beaten up at age of 28 for choosing a boy whom I want to marry but need to wait to marry him then what to do ..if I dnt HV financial stability no job now ..I too have dreams but everytime I try to fly m reminded more Iwhat I can't ...

“Best Gift is Unconditional love” I can resonate with that! I am 42 year old man, same south East Asian culture, Married with 3 kids & always strived hard for my mom’s approval. I have lost relationships in the past and friendships to get her acceptance. Seems like after all I done; checking her boxes, I still can’t work my self to be deserving of her approval. My siblings are constantly stood ready as an army behind her to blackmailing/ Disowning me and my wife. If I was still single I would still be the favorite but the fact that I chosen a family life, Dont fit well with mom, she wants her son back and not willing to share at all... I think you should talk about the pains men go thru being in the middle of such situations as a lot of men are not Voicing.

It needs enourmous amount of strength to talk about this, thank you!!

I never get it why Indian parents are so keen to get their daughters married off to some stranger men when their age cross 25, I mean what's wrong if she is trying to just create a life for herself and become stable and in due course choose a partner for herself. Afterall it's her life

Thank you so much for making us feel we matter and our feelings matter and we're not alone...

I moved out at fourteen because my mom and I hated eachother. We are now best friends.

Thank you Ritu for this insightful video. I have Chinese immigrant parents and they have tried to drill these ideas & expectations into my mind since childhood. Now as an adult I have a hard time understanding what I truly want for myself and then feel guilty and shameful for anything short their expectations