15 Signs You Have an Intimidating Personality 

1. You are good at observing 2. You are assertive 3. People remain silent and take note when you speak 4. You get straight to the point 5. You don't hesitate to speak your mind 6. You don't tolerate any attempt for people to manipulate you 7. You don't do small talk 8. You are focused in problem solving instead of playing the blame game 9. You project an image of a successful person 10. You are not a conformist 11. You don't apologize for having unconventional opinions 12. You are goal driven 13. People want to argue with you but are scared with you 14. You don't tolerate willful ignorance 15. You can't stand people who constantly complain

Status is an illusion. The more that you know about people the more you realize that nobody is worth idolizing or being intimidated by.

People hate honesty, truthfulness, integrity, they dont like uneasy conversations.

15 reasons why I have very few friends.

That's not intimidating...that's being a grown up and a respectful human being. I met a ton of people like that they are very honourable people and I do respect them.

A narcissists worst nightmare!

People who are intimated by your pureness to be real and make things work means you need to surround yourself with better people. If you got any of these traits, you's popping.

These are manly traits that keep narcissists and vampires away. It's a beautiful social filter.

I was a RN at a hospital for 35 years and often told by my boss that I was " intimidating." I was experienced and spoke my mind. Thanks for this explanation.

People will find you intimidating if they cannot get you into a heightened suggestibility

I look people dead in the eyes and read them at the same time. They can sense I see thru them

I’m exactly all these traits. Got to have a no BS mentality

I am a non-conformist. Peer pressure never meant anything to me.

I can look straight through people , do not beat around the bush , straight to point honesty and positivity not negativity,

Regarding 13, I’ve found they don’t start respecting you so much as they start engaging in passive aggressive attacks. They know they can’t win in a stand up argument, so they go around you and find any way they can get you behind your back.

Wierd how throughout telling the truth and upholding the truth are intimidating to most people. It says a lot

I have zero tolerance for people that constantly complain. Venting is one thing.

These are just good boundaries, ethics, morals and standards to have. It took me half my life to learn this. Glad I learned before it's too late.

I'm in a bit of a conundrum myself, I can't stand when people constantly complain then Ill slowly find myself complaining so I'll distance myself from the ones who do it.. but that's pretty much everyone I know or the friends of a loved one so I now have to feel utterly isolated just to avoid the constant barrage of toxicity.

Fuck that. If people are intimidated by my personality, that is their problem, not mine.

So basically, ppl are initiated by ppl have a substantial amount of integrity.

I’ve been told by multiple people that I intimidate folks. I don’t try to, but apparently I do. I’m told that the way I carry myself and the confidence with which I speak makes some people feel intimidated. I’m a Marine combat veteran, a technician with certification and experience with Mercedes Benz, Maserati and Ferrari, and I’m in college now to become a nuclear physicist, and I’m getting straight A’s. OF COURSE I’m confident! Accomplish some shit and you will be too!

Im very good at knowing when people are being fake. If you just watch and observe its quite easy to know when someone is being genuine. You learn the most when you stop talking and listen.

Being an intimidating bad boy is more respected than a weak and soft nice guy. People only respect what they fear. 😂

This accurately explains me but I wouldn’t categorize with being intimidating, I just don’t like beating around the bush, and telling people what they want to hear, because everything ends up showing at the surface at the end

Im trying to understand why it is people don’t like me being direct and to the point. In any profession I’ve ever had my only goal was problem solving but for whatever reason this severely triggers upper management. I’ve also been told i straight up don’t like you when i pull facts out of a "feeling” based argument, I’ve tried to understand where people are coming from and for whatever reason i just can’t and it makes life more complicated then it really has to be. Makes me not even wanna work anymore.

I am 100% of this, but none of it is meant to harm, exactly the opposite! I had a close encounter of the third kind tonight. I focused, actively prayed/spoke to God and knew he was protecting me.

So sick of weak people. They literally ruined my life. Excuse me for being honest and goal oriented. Type A who is competitive only with him self and never had a jealous bone in his body. Thanks for video.

Honestly I try not to let it bother but when it happens the whole day I can’t help but let it get to me. I try to smile and ask questions about themselves because more than anything I just want them to feel comfatble around me.

I do prefer solving the problem vs hashing it out over & over. I’m like, so shat is step 1? What are you going to do about your issue?

Yes I am sometimes intimidated by high status people. I will stay silent & let them take the lead.

Its great seeing everyone embrace themselves. I beat myself up all my life.

People have always told me im stubborn.but i reguse to believe them

Even if we've got the best argument to win a debate even if its the truth ,doesn't mean im right ,everyone's different

Nicely broken down! This is ME UNAPOLOGETICALLY!!! 👍🏾

I subscribed, not because it is free, but because you provide value through teaching.

As it is quote in Sicilia, they should fear you. The respect comes from its own.

Goodness I have the 15 of them. But listen this is horrible most of the time people do not want to spent time with me and that’s horrible . Now I think I understand why

This was great! This describes me in and out. I am unintentionally intimidating and I realized this a while back. I laughed at the part about wanting to argue with us but also afraid to do so 😂 I have experienced this so many times.

Wow, clicked on this out of curiosity. I scored 15. Uncanny how accurate this described myself.

LOL...a few years back my wife and I went to a state agency, in conversation with the employee, she remarked I am intimidating, a strong personality. now I read these 15 signs and I have them all but often temper some depending on the circumstances, it is not worth my time to debate or argue a point when the outcome will bear little fruit worth consuming.

Wow this explains why no one talks to me 🤦‍♀️

I love staring people down to intimidate them.

It’s not about pleasing other people for the rest of your fucking lives, but being who you are and allowing people to come up with their own opinions because that’s what they were going to do anyway. We all interpret things differently, that’s the beauty of humans, so it doesn’t matter how you come off to others we all 😅nterpret things differently anyway. BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE

All expect last one. Also Heyoka empath. It's all about truth baby. Being true. And not giving fuck what someone might think of that. 😁🌻

Great for business, hard on personal.

Fine line between being intimidating, or being an angry little girl.

"ramp up the 'excitement' and drama that many people seek to fill in the endless voids inside their empty emotional lives" What a professional burn.

3:20 weird to see my beliefs exactly spoken in a video...truth may be cold but gah damn do I love it when its cold

I am paralyzed by the fear of failure. What a mixed bag I am.🤨🧐

I considered these some of the most common traits that any eloquent, intelligent and confident person should possess.

Ohhh thank god, men are just intimidated by me.. I GUESS!? I just speak my mind, I don’t let people who are less intelligent then me sway my opinions and beliefs

I simply just don’t put up with people shit anymore. It’s a good trade I have because no one bothers me at the end of the day or at least people try to, and I constantly slapped them down.

All of these describe me to a t. I think this is the reason most of my relationships with others don’t go very deep because they think I’m cold and don’t like them.

Yep that’s me, only because after being bullied from childhood, I worked on loving my inner hurt self. Now I’m no pushover. Decide for myself, what I will or won’t tolerate. I’d rather have been shot than have someone insert a needle in my arm that had not been tested over years. I am not a gullible person anymore. I do what I love, spend time alone, am my own best friend, and if people can’t tolerate me that’s their problem not mine.

I've always punctured the idea of how someone who properly carries themselves with dignity & integrity is somehow deemed a social threat to a select percentage of those who fear what they can't bother to comprehend. It's weak & more so surface pinching, I'm only 21 & I've began to recognize patterns in peoples facial expressions towards me when we both take a short glance at each other, most are respectful, but some may even seem to look a bit intimidated simply due to the fact that I choose not to have a smile on my face out of the fondness of pure authenticity on how I really feel, but I'll never let that pour over into me treating someone else as if they're the source of catastrophe. I honestly think that some people purposely decline to engage in higher-order thinking because it's such a heavy load for them to bear the potential weight of having to use their brain more often than not, so it results in a one track way of viewing the world & the people within it which in turn throws the apparatus of all possibilities down the drain solely to be glued down permanently to a single fixture dealt from the lack of deeper cognition. If we keep moving down this avenue I wholeheartedly do think that we'll get ourselves caught up in a frogs pot for the worse without any scraps of hope left for any of us. Nothing is more dangerous than giving up on your innate curiosity to question the unfathomable with pure reason & unbiased intent.

I have developed the ability to observe behaviour and intention, in other words I am very sensitive to people behaviour around me and I can tell about their behaviour. This is mostly developed because I have bullied alot and I needed a way to avoid getting bullied. Ofcourse, this is something I realized after the fact, after reflected why my school life was such a miserable life. I am very honest with people because I find it very uncomfortable to lie. I would rather not saying anything or just disengage from the group conversation if I get the feeling that people do not like me being honest. I do not belive I am smart, it is just how I turned out based on my experience. Alot of the signs are secondary and branch out of being observant, being straight to the point and honest.

Honesty is underrated.

When during your job review, your boss says, "You might not realize it, but you are very demanding".....instead of the other way around.

My actions and words are not implemented without thought. I say and do things with purpose and meaning. No time too waste on meaningless situations etc.

The majority of this world, is compensators. You, the reader, bear a 99% chance of insecurity, of some sort, with some need to shine or stand above.

Grew up in Italian neighborhood in the 80's, everyone was assertive to say the least.

Omg! I’ve never considered that individuals could be perceiving me, me, as intimidating. But this makes a lot of sense actually.

Wow....eye opening. I've been told I am intimidating. After seeing this, I now understand .

Thanks for the post 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Well I have every one of these 15 traits😂 I will never change I love that about me .

I've had some say I'm intimidating. Just a confident secure nature.

When I was 17-25, I would make friends and be told by many of them that they were very intimidated by me when they were first meeting me, which would always make me annoyed at myself because I would always believe that I was just being friendly when meeting these people. Information like in this video has helped me alot in the past few years with "softening" many of the rougher edges outlined in this video (I can even blunder my way through water-cooler talk now), though my lack of time for the bullshit of others can still be difficult to get around in my personal relationships.

This describes my boyfriend so much like wow he’s so harmless though he’s just hisself

My honesty is very intimidating. A good person would not find that a problem.

1:31 I'm tolerating others to bully someone or making a bad mouth but I make them think of their actions towards others.

5:24 Flattering people is my work of art to boost there confidence maybe ill limit my self doing that. Im doing this so they can make them self belong and appreciated. This content is useful to limit my self and thank you.

I have been trying for so long to correctly word the way people are around me... This is where I was lead, finally, an answer. Thx

This explains me entirely!! ❤

I realized this some years ago. It's sad 😔 because sometimes I feel like people in general wants me to fail or not have good intentions for myself just so they could feel better about themselves. I've noticed often if you do well, good, etc at something. People are jealous or instantly feel down on themselves. To be honest I don't get it. I'm happy to see people doing well. I feel safe and good in a environment where people are fulfilled, happy, improving, and content, etc. Never in my mind I look down on myself or become jealous. I know two things it I want it I'll have to earn it or if I don't want to earn it I don't. I just enjoy the sight of ours happiness. I don't have much worries with happy people. I worry about sad, envious, jealous, revengeful people. Those are the people who would kill, steal, hurt, our people to get what they want.

This video just autoplayed from whatever I was watching last while cleaning. Halfway through I just came to a dead stop, thinking wtf some of this sounds sort of like me, and rewinded the whole thing to listen to it again with the actual intent of taking in information instead of having ambient background noise. In recent years people have told me I can come as condescending or initimidating in conversation. This confused the fk outta me cause Im a natural introvert that needed to learn how to blend into social situations and initiate and maintain fun and entertaining social interactions. If you lean introvert, doing that is fkn exhausting. If I gotta go to multiple social events, it can literally feel like work. Also Id like to think Im naturally anticonfrontational to begin with. I want everyone to have a good time and enjoy the event. Id like everyone to have a fun and engaging time. Im also not buff, rich or tall so in my head Im especially like "wtf do you mean Im initimidating..." Recently though I learned some shit. A handful of my very good friends and I love to get into long and involved arguments about something someone said or believes. We can spend like a hour pointing out fallacies or weak points in the structure of their logic or point out counter examples or the opposite thing being true and on and on. We find it fun, no one takes it personal, we may or may not alter our opinions, whatever. We're just making conversation and killing time. Turns out my dumbass does not realize the majority of people do not enjoy this. In fact a lot of them will get offended and may take it as a personal attack depending how much I wanna dig into whatever it is theyre saying. One thing that stuck out from what was said in the video was that Im usually pretty solid in what my thoughts and opinions are but I'm open to talk about them if someone really wants to. So I can discuss and argue points with someone over whatever topic, but after some time has passed and Im convinced there is just simply no conciliatory middle ground and we simply believe different things Im cool with just calling it with it is. "We believe different things, thats it. If we were friends / cool before, that hasnt changed to me." I guess that comes off as dismissive and condescending to some people, but the alternative is a longer pointless heated argument over nothing or outright lying just to be done with it. That whole first point about easily predicting or figuring out someone's ultimate or end goal given a initial series of actions always came kinda easily to me for forever for whatever reason, but you learn pretty quickly to not put people on blast about that shit lol. I donno why I be writing these youtube essays. I guess this is maybe cheap male therapy lol. I dont even have a real nugget of wisdom or something to say after you sat and possibly read that except I donno, maybe lie or zip it and dont really say what you really might feel like saying in every situation. Would you rather have a good time or argument 😂

Thanks for telling me why people are afraid of me.

This video accurately explains me.

I'm so glad I'm not an intimidating person, I would be sad knowing that people fears me

Going to the VA activates the super power of everyone there wanting to be argumentative.

I have all these traits and life is not easy. 😢

Don't insult my intelligence, we all know subscribing is free

Excellent video💗💗💗

Society has become so infantilized. You used to have to be physically and/or verbally abusive to be considered intimidating. Now, simply having your own mind will do the trick.

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I'm an INTJ, have a RBF and, according to this video, I definitely have an intimidating personality. People flinch when they face me. Cool. 😛

I was bullied as a kids and saw where the bully is weak don't have time to waste on bullish love y'all love yourselves take care of each other we are life live it well or live in hell your choice

Be mindful of the dark triad who display these claimed traits

All these are my traits but not sure about exactly ambitious and successfull image. Just never thought about it but probably I do

Great & Truth. Thank u.

This is just your average joe before everyone muddied the waters of what men and women are. I got so used to dealing with neurotic and toxic people, that I can see why you'd think this is intimidating smh. People have called me insensitive and mean, but I'm tired of sugar coated lies and half thrown efforts. Those qualities brings the qualities of life down. I'm currently dealing with an emotionally sensitive insecure person who's antagonizing me for a misunderstanding. I'm tired of this world, other people make this world hell on earth

I like my intimidating personality.

I’ve never been popular or in the IN group, so it’s never been important to me.

Leaders keep our eyes on the prize

Nope this is not me. I wish I had a bit more of this. I’m considered extremely diplomatic…in fact overly doiplomatic. Not frank at all.

As a general rule and guiding philosophy, I am utterly unencumbered by the need for popularity or to have people agree with my views. I'm not sure whether that makes me hard, or an asshole, or whatever else, but I tend to sleep fairly well at night.

Checked all boxes plus additional ones 👌

An important thing to keep in mind is that if you have all of these traits, but lack consistency in your beliefs, words and actions then you are just an asshole. Narcissistic individuals are capable displaying these traits Simply having these traits isnt what makes a person intimidating. Its a persons ability to have all these traits AND be a stand up individual. Someone who does right by others and doesnt compromise on their principles to progress. A lot of people have these traits but have no backbone or no consistency in their everyday behavior, so when they meet someone who puts their actions where their mouth is, it reminds them of how weak they truly are.

Sigma infj here…. Nuff said! 🤣

See this explains why all the friends I made at a STEM camp said I’m “intimidating” or “scary” pftttt