Learn what makes you lonely. I would get distracted on a phone call or movie and my house would get dark in the evening. The dark made me super sad and lonely. I got in the habit of turn my lamps on really early so my house never gets dark. The warm lamp light is so cozy and safe. Sometimes you can’t fight the lonely feel but sometimes you can.
I can relate to above comment: I love this big flickering candle I have with a timer that comes on at the same time every night and indicates to me, "Ok, now it's time to mellow out and wind down for bedtime."🌛
I have a calendar on my fridge that only has fun things on it. I don't put anything related to work, paying bills, etc. That's for my online calendar. I love to look at my Fun Calendar. It keeps me focused on that area of my life so I don't just work...ha
I've been divorced for 26 years after being married for 18 years. I truly love living on my own and sharing my house with 2 cats. I tell people, "The best part of being on my own is that everything's up to me. The worst part of being on my own is that everything's up to me." I have become so independent and capable and have learned to do so many things, mostly out of necessity. Big tip: don't be aftaid to eat out on your own or go to the movies on your own. Sure, it'll feel awkward the first few times, but it's so freeing.
Respected ladies and gentlemen; Born in 1973....All my childhood, teenage yrs. I've seen my parents 💥argue, 💥squabble, 💥fight over the pettiest of things. Now they're dead. But the aftermath of their marriage is such that I chose to live alone ; in peace { with my books, my hobbies, my thoughts and above all with my dear Ol'God almighty}. God sent me on Earth; alone, I choose to stay; alone, I'll die & travel to other dimensions ; alone.
I am living alone with my mom and a brother. I have a challenging job and don't want to put my life in a stranger hands. With God's help I will make it 🙏
@@nadiragangapersaud of course you will. With good intentions & a strong belief in yourself. {That's exactly what † God † intends U 2 do }.....☝🏽Remember; "Less Emotions = More life; More Emotions = Less life"
I started crying within 3 minutes of watching this video. I thought I was doing a bad job. I thought I was failing. I thought because I am hungry that I'm not doing this right. But you helped me understand how big of a deal the first few months of moving out alone will be, you helped me feel so much better and cleared the guilt about being lonely or a little rocky with priorities. I cannot say thank you enough. Thank you for saying it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling. I don't feel alone anymore.. I feel like I'm doing just fine..
I'm going through a divorce currently and soon I'll be living on my own. I got married right out of highschool so I've never been on my own. As much as I'm excited,I'm also nervous cause it's gonna be a whole new experience. I really appreciate the tips, they're very helpful 💚
As a highschool student who's gonna graduate this year I kinda feel u cos I really wanna experience bunch of stuff but I didn't had the chance so all I wanna say to you is you gotta be so happy on your own and appreciate your time with yourself, no matter what try to experience all the things you wanted to do but you didn't have the chance to, you still young so you don't have to feel nervous I know it's a whole new experience for you but remember you're gonna live your best life forget the past and think about NOW, good luck and I'm so happy for you
I am already alone and single life wait a woman save me my life as a life partner? My life is alone and single 33?My education is graduate? My life is need a woman accepted me my life as a life partner? My life is need a woman as a wife? My feature life is dark to save me
Just stumbled upon your channel and thought these tips were for young people and almost moved on to another channel but quickly realized that as a 69 year old widow, these tips still apply. In fact, I practice most of them and love living alone Thank you.
Oh my gosh. Wow this comment has warmed my heart so so much!! Thank you for giving my channel a chance!! I am so glad it Can be helpful to people at any age and stage in life!! I’m cheering you on!🤎🫶🏼 I hope you’ll stick around and subscribe 😊
I am 65 and got some great tips from you. thanks! I do think it is ok to allow ourselves to feel lonely for short periods knowing it is ok and it is not something we need to judge or change as bad or scary, this is what makes us all human and it will pass❤
@@sharonbeers4621thank you for saying that. I'm not looking forward to being alone, but my husband sleeps more and more these days, and my parents are both gone now. I had to spend all my time caring for family, and soon it will just be me, with no friends or family. So I need to find a way to change that sooner than later. I'm pretty scared, but this video helped!
Develop your hobby: book reading, painting, drawing, writing, photography, outdoor walking, day trips to nearby towns , fun shopping ( no spending required), baking classes, pottery, learn a new language online, plan a short vacation to a national or state park. Invite a friend.
Thank you so much for the tips, I (34 M)got dumped by my gf 2 months ago from a 6 year relationship. I had to live with my ex for those 2 months because I was struggling to find a place for myself. Today, I was finally able to move out. I moved everything, and after everything was done, I just bawled my eyes out, like ugly crying, I probably didn't cry like that since I was a child, also a day before moving out I found out that she started dating with others about half a month ago. It hit me pretty bad and since I was living with her and other roomies for the good part of a decade and I'm suddenly living alone and the fact that she's seeing other people just joined forces and danced the polka on my psyche. Now I'm in my new bed that I built in 4 hours and watching your videos, and they really help. So thank you again I will follow your advice.
Ha ha. I talk to myself all the time. Well also the cats as well. I’m kind of a “living alone” veteran (and a former latch key kid lol) but lately I’ve just been feeling like interesting and intelligent convo is hard to find. And sometimes you can just feel like I should have more friends. People might say you need to be more “social” but also solitude can become one of the best friends you’ve ever had. But my background was fleeing toxic relationships tho and it’s truly better to be “alone” than with bad people…for the sake of just not being alone.
Took some getting used to, but now I love it. I love being able to eat whatever I want every single day, and I *LOVE* being able to clean my house and it just...stays that way. I'm just now starting to adjust to the fact that I can decorate my house however I want now.
Monday 25th December 2023. 17.42pm. "Dear Madam. Good-evening. How are you? I trust you are well." "I, have lived on my OWN for many years 14yrs+. The thing is .. I do better on my own. I am MORE successful. I get less headaches. Less arguments etc. I am Afro-carribean and England, is not my Country so therefore, I struggle day-to-day, with RACISM etc. Living alone is fine. I encourage MORE PEOPLE to do it. Do not be afraid. Life Is unfair. Life favours the rich and well to do." Yours Respectfully. Sir Francesca Kray.
This video is so helpful and comforting. I am currently going through a breakup with my live-in partner. I have so much anxiety about moving into my own place, but I am also excited to really make it my own without having to run everything by my partner and get approvals to make the space the way I want it. I know this season of anxiety will pass with time, looking forward to finding peace with living alone. Will be using these tips! Especially the preparation. So thank you thank you!
Excellent tips. I'm not sure I could have come up with half of those at your age. I'm decades older than you, and many of those tips still apply. I didn't hear you mention books, but those have been a lifesaver for me. Not only do I learn (I read non-fiction), but I can get into a discussion with the authors through journaling.
I am almost 63 and have lived in a special care home for 6 years, and am preparing to move out into assisted living, so these tips are very useful, Tanh You!
Thank you Lauren, another great video. I appreciate you putting out so much great content. Some of these things I would have never thought of on my own. Thanks for sharing.
Going through the first rough breakup of my life i have a few months to live with my ex partner before i have to for the first time in my life as a 24 year old living on my own and someone who also struggles with abandonment issues, chronic loneliness, and severe anxiety. This process is really hard already and im trying to make this transition as easy and comfortable as possible.
And don't forget to put God in the middle of your life. With God in your life you will never truly be alone and your life will have real meaning and you will make a difference in the world.
Dear Lauren, I have been living on my own for years and these tips you gave are just excellent, most I hadn't known! So even after years, these tips are great!!! Thank you for your warm, heart-felt video. You are special. May everyone who listens to you and yourself have peaceful, cozy, safe-feeling goodnights.🌛⭐
Oh my goodness. This comment means SO SO Much to me 🥺✨🫶🏼 thank you for taking the time to watch this video and leave such a sweet comment. I hope you will stick around and subscribe!
This video is confirming because I am the only one I know that do this. I have lived alone for many years and I have meticulously scheduled everything. This is something I have been doing since middle school. Even though I only follow through with half of what I write down, having a schedule keeps me productive. I even schedule little things like washing my hair or picking out my clothes for the next five days. I've sometimes been late to work because I had to make a decision before work on what clothes to wear that I did not pre set. I also agree with the content creator about chores. I only do chores for one hour.. Then I recontinue cleaning the nexy day. Like the content creator I'm least likely to get overwhelmed when I break down things I don't like into small segments one at a time.When I was in school I hated studying so I would only study each subject for one hour then come back to that subject later. If I didn't do that I would day dream and not focus intently on my subject of study. I didn't have Focus Mate in the 1990's but I did have the Library for studying. If people around me were studying then it was easy for me to study. Same thing for working out: If I saw other people at the gym working out then it was easy for me to work out. The gym was better then working out at home. This is a good video weather you live alone or with roommates or live with your family. Some parts of this video is good advice for having order and structure in your day to day life.
I just loooooooved so much this video. I¿m 22 and thinking of living alone, but my family isn't really accepting it (I have already graduated, have a job, etc) but I think they just see mee as a really young person hahaha which makes me scared of it sometimes, listening to this advices was really helpful and make me feel calm,
Hey love! I’m sorry to hear you don’t have your family’s support. That can be really hard. Do you have a friend or councilor who can encourage and support you in your decision? Remember, your life is YOUR LIFE!!! We only have one!
Hey, finally, you have an actual Dresser! And choosing a Girly things. On my own anniversary day( like it ). And cooking for one, instead of my family. Enjoy my own company... Thanks for the tips.
Have been walking this journey and it's taken a little longer for me getting through the uncomfortable zone, but I'm starting to see the light. This is a very funny and inspirational video. Wishing you all the best!
meal prepping is my way to go about food, i don't particularly enjoy cooking so that works for me. i loved your video and learning from your perspective after a divorce. i moved out of my parents in need of peace and quiet so it's interesting learning from your seeking of community. i just subscribed :)
I'm new here, just found this video, so helpful. I have been on my own since my son moved out a couple years ago. I wish I had seen this video then! Great tips! ❤
What I did for me was to reach out to a therapist to help me through my emotions and being alone for the first time. Thank you for this beautiful video, it made me very positive and hopeful ❤
I was on my own for about 18 years before being married for a good stretch and am back on my own again . Your advice is good and your have such a friendly manner that anyone would be happy to be your neighbor 👍 (cookies or not)
I was the oldest of 9 children...never alone! I had 3 Daughters and once my oldest was 11 and the other 2 followed our house was always filled with girls!! I'm alone now and don't think I'll ever get used to being lonely! 😢
Im so sorry to hear this. I know how that feels, we are not meant to be isolated. Humans crave and need connection. I encourage you to get involved in your community or church! Lean on friends around you and try new things!! You can do this! Also there is a community for you here! My videos are for people who need an internet bestie to hang with + we have a fb support group!
I think if you have something that gives your life purpose and meaning and makes you glad to get up in the morning, living alone is fine. But if you’re lost in the world or have a mental illness without a strong support system, god it’s brutal
I will be on my own so scared of The budget and the loneliness, especially since I grew up in a big family, and my biggest fear is that the apartment is not beautiful. I hope i can read my comment after while and laugh on my self that it was much easier then i have imagined
There are library books and RU-vid resources on budgeting and home decorating, plus other topics. An apartment can be made beautiful with art and photography on the walls, plants, comfy pillows, and other personal touches. Thrift stores , yard sales, IKEA , keepsakes from family and friends are good sources. To counteract feeling alone, I play FM radio background music, featuring jazz, classical, and world music. You will come up with ideas that suit you. You've got this!
i love the video :) any recommendation on starting to do youtube even on a low budget on iphone 😂 i’m trying my best to get a camera lol but in the mean time i’d like to be creative
saluditos suena muy bonito pero yo no confiaría tanto en los vecinos menos con mis llaves no se puede ser tan inocente eres muy confiada alicia en el país de las maravillas wow 😊
Hi, I'm 23 and started living on my own. I feel quite lonely, especially at night. And for some reason, talking to friends or family over the phone makes me even more lonely ?? Anyway, thank you for this video it was quite helpful ! And you're beautiful
Oh my gosh. I relate so so much to the night time and talking to friends and family sometimes making that feeling worse. You’re not alone in feeling that. And you’re not alone, period. I hope you know how incredibly brave you are!🤍
I enjoy living alone for the most part. As a social introvert, I realise I only get scared when I feel helpless and feel, if I can't be self sufficient then life is hell. One, become lonely because one can't make many social friends so it is a habit. But also, one starts enjoying the independence of alone space, but what gets to you is when u feel helpless. That's the scary part. And then the problem is u just cannot become social and when u try u feel uncomfortable or bored. Then u come back home and are happy....but suddenly a bug or pest is in the house, or a life situation that involves getting out and dealing with people and situations u don't know how to tackle and suddenly you feel HELPLESS AND LONELY and invisible with no support group. So now my conclusion is...if living alone was without fear or stress....most people will enjoy living alone. But fear and helplessness drives a lot of people to be around people. It's just a safety in numbers. Being with someone who doesn't really pay attention to u can also be very lonely and worst... isolating.
@@LaurenJuarezI am 18 and moving out for college for the first time and it is 178 km far from my home town... I am so afraid and nervous and tense....idk how to explain this thing
Excellent advice--very practical. One variation on giving a key to a neighbor is to get a padlock-type key box (where you have to line up a dial or type a code to open it). Give that to the neighbor and if there's an emergency, you can give them the code. I'm sure the boxes can be broken into, but it's just a little more secure if you're unsure who comes and goes from their apartment, or if the neighbor might be a little too eager to check on you. :)
@@stacyjaye6350 My question would be, even if the neighbor is nice, who visits them? Does the super-cool gal next door whom you think you can rely on have a sketchy boyfriend? What about her cousin Joe who just got out of jail, does he drop by?
Some cities have a professional private security service that can keep a copy of your key and go in to do what's needed. These firms are bonded and insured, often staffed by retired police officers or veterans. My security service provides a record of visits, which can be useful if an insurance claim or police report is needed. Worth considering!
The problem is bigger when you get out of a bad relationship too late and get philosophically damaged. I am alone for 2 years and there’s no day without crying. Yes, I asked for professional help and take the pills but many times I cannot solve my problems alone. Work, money, moving out from my old house all alone. 😢
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I hope that there is an Employee Assistance Program at work (if you work) or a free or low-cost professional counseling service to help you with your problems. Financial, home care, relationship concerns are often too much for a person to tackle alone. Best wishes for better days ahead!
I just recently started pursuing a divorce, which means I’ll be moving across the country to be closer to family. I’m excited for it but also feel so clueless. Glad I found your channel!
Im moving out on my own this month. I am so excited! I am defintely already a very introverted person and i think itll be a good transition. I found yoir tips around to reach out/ be more social treat. I think the ones about knowing your neighbors and your "get good at knowing less".
hi there! I've stumbled across your video, and i found it really touching :) I'm usually the quiet viewer, but this video made me think for a while I'm scared for whatever is going to happen in the future, I'll move abroad when i finish high school and I'll be on my own. although i really love to be alone, I'm afraid of what is going to happen, because my family or friends will not be there with me, so I'm feeling a little bit lost thank you so much for your advices, I'll do my best to apply them in the future
Hi there!! You are so sweet, I know it’s so scary, it is and you’re already doing a great job acknowledging that! But guess what! You are going to do such a great job in this new chapter, you might even love it!!!!💙
Amazing- I was just eating and flipping through RU-vid suggestions and this video was one - my former spouse divorced me in 2015 and announced her engagement via Fakebook right after divorce court. It was a very hard transition - my guy friends from church ⛪️ supported me with prayer 🙏 and understanding. I’m 59 now and still living alone with anxiety, some depression and trust issues (especially concerning women). After scrolling, I see that there are three other guys that have commented - wonder how many others would if they weren’t afraid of what others would think about them. Thanks for ideas - I came home thinking about how can I make life more than just work, food, shower and sleep- repeat every day… like the main character in the movie “Nobody” 😕
Here's a few things that work for me: 1. Picking up a hobby or interest (maybe something you used to do and would like to get back to doing). Also gives you something to connect about with others. 2. Doing volunteer work, (I do a few short-term things, like box office shift at local comedy festival, helping out at co-op shop's summer fair. I don't get tied down into a regular or long term commitment with this, and have the enjoyment of meeting new people, having fun, and helping). 3. Inviting a friend/family member for a meal/snack in my home on the regular (for me, it's once every 2 weeks or so. ) This ensures that you maintain pride in your home by keeping it up nicely for visitors, and you keep up the experience of hosting. It is easy to get into a rut of going out to meet friends or always going to their places. Best wishes for livening up your life! You are a "Somebody"!
@@barbarakelly1916 Thank you Barbara for taking the time to reply to my musings this evening (8:17pm EST now) No. 1 is the one I’ve been thinking about since I commented… I used to draw for fun and it’s something I want to return to. Bless for caring enough to write me. 😊
It seems to me being single is harder for men as discussing feelings isn't encouraged. Here are a few things that keep me sane: 1. Having a pet. 2. Focusing on things that bring me joy like sailing. 3. Learning new skills. I'm studying Swedish. 4. Reaching out to friends via text and phone. 5. Making myself special foods. 6. Having a cozy place to read complete with a throw, a variety of tea and scented candles. 7. Scheduling workout time. 8. Practice gratitude journaling before bed. There are many options. I hope you find some things which bring you joy. 🙏🕉
@@aliciab4236 Thank you for caring enough to reply to my comments with really good ideas. I agree that some men don’t share what’s going on with them because a lot of men think doing so makes them appear weak. I was a part of men’s integrity group two years ago where this wasn’t a problem- all of us need to share on our path to healing ❤️🩹 it was the most accepting and honest group I have ever been in. Guys that are married won’t share about their struggles because their wives will lose confidence in them and their security will be compromised - I know because I’ve been there. Thank you aliciab4236 and bless you.
Just watched this video. I am impressed with the good ideas expressed here. Having trouble locating the Facebook page you referenced. Can you supply a link here please?
I was an only child, so living alone, never bothered me. I always kept written, audio and video journals. I love the RU-vid, and I made videos for free from age 70 to age 75. Help others, who are not beggars, Use wired notebooks and both sides of the legal pads.
I'm probably your oldest viewer in distress! I'm 57 and have never been alone but heading there QUICKLY. My mom is gone now. We lived with her for 6 years after our special needs daughter moved out of state. My husband is mostly bedridden. We moved into a small apartment complex (4 units) and have nothing to do with any of them. (After thinking about what you said, holidays are coming. So I think I'll make some Italian treats and use the opportunity to hand them out. Hopefully it will help.) I don't know how much longer I'll have my husband, but after that I'm on my own, so I'm trying to figure out how to navigate my life. So, thank you for sharing your thoughts, experiences and encouragement to all of us. Praying you have a lovely rest of your life!
All are welcome here no matter what age and your feelings are just as valid. I am so sorry to hear you’re having to face this but I know you are incredibly strong and resilient and you will get through this just like everything else you have overcome before 🤎 I’m praying over you as well, lean on the Lord!
My husband left 2 years ago. I'm now trying to come up for air. This was helpful. I don't have any friends or family near. I do know one neighbor. I'm struggling. I will say for the ladies don't garden at night last summer I was watering my plants and got bit by a snake at midnight.... Had to call an ambulance go to the hospital alone stayed alone had the Uber home because I don't know anyone. I don't know how to make friends... I'm 49 and was married for 20 years. My kids are in a different state. I can't just go home and be a burden on them.
This is a great video; so many good suggestions. I think it's a really helpful thing for seniors who fear ending up alone later in life, like a widow. But even though I am scared of being lonely, I think there are a lot of good things about being on your own.
Sometimes I leave the TV on in the background when I go into another room. It makes me think someone else is there. Been on my own for 20 years. Still get lonely though.
As an introvert being a lone wasn’t really my problem what did scare me at first was bill payments so I’d recommend to budget. I had to cut back on buying stuff and only buy things I need. The neighbour tip is good thing because it shows your respectful and in an emergency they can help you.
Hi ive just found your vlog still watching infact, I lost my wife who was also my best friend and its seriously lonely at the moment after 53 yrs together, Hardest part there's no one to even ask if they want a coffee or tea just simple things like that, Dont know how am going to cope being single its awful at moment i crack up at a moments notice.
Now imagine not only living alone, but not having family to call on. None !!!- Friends. A few. However they have their own life..... It's peaceful at times ,, yet tortures as well.....
I have been married for 51 years. My husband and I moved 2 states away to live with our daughter and hew husband. They are constantly busy. Hubby is in poor health (the reason we downsized and moved here). I miss all my old friends …. So I try to catch up with at least one of them each week by email or phone, and have also joined a women’s club that gets together once a month. Just proves you don’t have to be entirely on your own to be lonely.
Thank you. from the bottom of my heart. I am a nearly 20 yo student moving this summer to be closer to the Uni i wanna go to and my girlfriend, I have been TERRIFIED, but how much i know I'll be shouldering on my own for the first time and this advice truly was helpful. Even just seeing you so openly talk about the struggles of it. I'm glad there are people out there like you with a platform, letting people know there's somewhere to go and feel safe, even if its just a channel on the internet
Oh my goodness Terri I am so so glad this video was helpful for you!! You are right and your feelings are SO valid. It is scary and I was also terrified but the crazy thing is I LOVE spending time in my own company now. Day by day, little step by little step I know you will feel that too!💜 I hope you stick around!!!
Thank you for this video. I’m recently separated and getting a divorce. M41 years old and I’ve been living with her for 15 years. We have a seven year old in the mix and they have all left the family home last Friday, including the dog. So far, we are very amicable that I am finding it very difficult to adjust to the big empty house. I really appreciate this video and your outlook on life, I really needed that today.
This is a really helpful video, I got out of a five year relationship and am on my own with no family no gf just me for the first time in my life. A lot of this stuff I really would have never thought of, I’m really glad I went looking for this help Thank you for making this!
Why am I crying through the whole video?? I'm not even living alone. I live with my mom but I stay alone a lot, I'm a student, she goes to work and see her boyfriend, I study all day. Just feel lonely
I'm really happy that I found your channel. My experience is a little different, I used to live independently but not alone (with flatmates), now I am getting a divorce and so far the living alone part is absolutely amazing. I feel so fresh, energized and free. And I hope everyone in this comment section experiences this in such a way. My advice on learning to cook for one is to print out some info on how long can certain foods stay in a freezer, put it on your fridge and freeze any leftover food you have before it goes bad. This way you can learn how much food you need without wasting it and you have backup meals for busy or lazy days.
Found this video at the right time as i am moving out of 3bhk to a studio apartment on my own and at first it was amazing and i was feeling excited but now a little bit anxiety is starting to kick in. But i know this will help me to grow and just trying to look on the bright side and these tips will surely be of great help
