Which body language mistake do you make more? checking your phone or bad posture? Another great video? 21 Eye Contact Mistakes - ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-XfVc6Dv_jB0.html Video Summary: 0:31 - Always checking your phone 1:17 - Bad posture 2:17 - Crossing your arms 2:38 - Weak/strong handshakes 3:08 - Not gesturing enough 4:33 - Fidgeting 4:48 - Feet in the wrong direction 5:38 - Pointing your finger 6:05 - Invading someone's personal space 6:31 - Not mirroring others 7:00 - Learning the wrong way 7:24 - Physical obstructions 7:45 - Checking time on your watch 7:59 - Eye contact 8:30 - Bonus tip! 9:12 - Notification squad
I always remember what my grandfather would say: stand up straight! Face the world head on without fear, and reflect that through your body! Make it known that you are unstoppable!
"Face the world without fear": seems like inherent optimism bias and terror management theory will always help regardless of ideologies such as antinatalism based on consent and efilism.
@@uvwuvw-ol3fg Don't take it literally. I believe the actual message when given that advice is to stay aware of your surroundings, and you do that by not staring at the ground. "Walk with purpose" is the long and short of it. You don't wanna shamble about or appear like a kicked puppy, look sharp.
Stand up straight with your shoulders back is the first rule for Jordan Peterson's book: 12 Rules for Life. Trust me, it involves so many psychological and physiological elements. Don't be weak.
A lot of it boils down to not looking like you're "protecting your core". When you're nervous, your body triggers a fight or flight response, and a lot of times it manifests in trying to guard your vitals (the area around your heart). This is why people cross their arms in front of their chest, they hold objects like drinks in front of their chest, they fidget with their hands in front of their chest, with bad posture they slouch/curl up in a ball around their chest, etc. You're contracting in an effort to protect yourself. A lot of times you can tell what is proper body language and what isn't by paying attention to what is going on around your heart.
Thank you so much, Antonio, my life has been completely changed in the last few months just from watching your content, I've learned many great things from you and Raphael Schneider and I've received many compliments from people because of the way I dress and the way my attitude has changed. I've learned and I continue to learn more from you, we need more legends like you.
Classic RMRS! Knew pretty much all of these things before, but was still good to get a refresher, especially when the information was presented so nicely!
Very important social tips were presented in this video. Some may think that they are old school, but today's society demands more than just those. Antonio, as always understands that! Great content!
Judging the character of others by their neurologically normative body language (especially eye contact, which is really difficult for a lot of neurologically diverse people) is something that I hope kind of goes out of style. You can't actually tell how intelligent or capable somebody is by the amount of eye contact they make with you, or how far back their shoulders are. Having said that, there are lots of good etiquette tips here, and especially when it comes to using phones while you're talking to somebody, a good thing for all of us to remember. If I were to add anything... two things come to mind; if you're in a room with a lot of people you are acquainted with, an effort should be made to greet everybody that you know in that room, even if you've only met them one time. You don't want people thinking you've intentionally ignored them. If it's super busy and your time is limited, try to make a mental note to check in with those people you missed later, just to say "I saw you across the room, I'm sorry we didn't get a chance to chat, my time was really limited tonight. Looking forward to the next time we can cross paths" or something like that. It makes people feel included. Another tip to make people feel included is to look for the people in the room that nobody is talking to, maybe even the people who look like they don't want to be there, and engage them in conversation for some time. It will make your energy more magnetic to others because you're acting in a gracious manner towards everybody at a given event. Don't be one of these people who just looks for the most popular or successful person in the room and then crowds around them looking for your "moment" with them. Create your own personal magnetism by having the confidence to talk to everybody and engage with them on the same level.
Antonio, physical therapists are among the best health care professionals to seek out for back pain and postural issues and definitely deserve a mention. Otherwise, great video!
Just starting watching to your site I have to say "I love your list". The only thing I would add is turning away from someone for whatever reason without saying why. Like being called by Jerry your buddy from college. Always communicate to whoever you are engaged with before losing the connection with the person.
The one thing this channel does and not many people props for is the amazing music! It feels modern, smart and masculine all at the same time! Just wanted to give my gratitude for all the time I enjoy listening to them
As a speaker, "thank you" for this video as I see so many of these mistakes from audiences as they arrive, interact, and even listen to programs and presenters. For that matter, I've seen mistakes from presenters as well (typically not paid speakers, but those simply "presenting"). Spot-on video!
Along with not pointing is the general rule to keep your palms up or out. If palms are down, you can "point" with your whole hand, and it is just as bad. The exposing of the palm must be a throw-back to the whole "no weapon in my hand" thing, which makes perfect sense. I still walk street side of a woman, even though there are no horses I can control.
Great list Antonio. Bad posture is a massive problem today with so many people, I myself struggle to keep a good posture at times, but your tip on building back muscles is great advice.
If I'm with someone I never check my phone unless I'm looking for an excuse to get away. Same goes if I'm in my office talking to someone - the caller can leave a message and I'll call them back in the same way that if they came to the door they would wait until the previous visitor had finished their business before interrupting.
When you're talking to someone who's sat down and they listen to you why having their fingers on their chin or one of their cheeks. It clearly sends the message that they are judging and/or analysing you and not truly listening.
i'm 15 years old and in the high school , in the break , i usually talk to my friend with military terms , like ' Novemer Alpha Mike Echo ''Name of the person'' is leaving the AO , or target is on your six o'clock ...
Thanks for the great video Antonio. The bad posture is certainly a difficult thing to correct as we spend a lot of time sitting. I'd say your quite right with the workout advice. Pullups are the best and help tremendously with remembering to straighten up. The other thing that is tough for me is the fidgeting. I do it a lot and have to focus to catch myself. It's a nervous energy. I'd say maintaining a good and consistent workout routine helps me spend that extra energy in a productive way. If I'm fidgeting, I gotta slam out some pushups, pullups, or bodyweight squats.
Thank you! This helps. I needed to be reminded about many of these ideas. I'm heading to a very large networking function this evening, and it's a big deal for my friend who created and is hosting this event and its organization. In addition, I'm rebuilding my career after numerous setbacks. My body language affects my confidence.
When it comes to the handshake, the key is to provide a firm hand without squeezing the others persons hand. This goes a long way especially with women. It shows that you are strong without being overbearing. When one shakes your hand and it doesn't give under their pressure. It signals that you can take it and are confident that you could crush them if you choose to.
Honestly, your pocket square looks amazing. I get fashion ideas from your videos at which point, I take a screenshot and email it to myself and view them when I need color combo ideas for dressing up 😉
I would appreciate your thoughts on this one. The watch issue. I fully agree with everything you say on the subject, but I have another theory trying to speak its mind. LOL I call this one Old School Theory, and I think you will like it. It goes along with the idea of using Timeless Classics to build a powerful look. Old School Theory would lobby for the idea of going without a watch -- as a purposeful decision. It could say I am not ruled by time, which, in my case, is true. It says, I am here with you, and nothing in the world matters at this time. I have nothing scheduled after you -- you are that important! I do not like loosing a place to put a small splash of color and shine, but cuff links could fill in that gap nicely, I think.
This biggest mistake I have done is not subscribe to this channel years ago, thanks a lot I have been obsessed with it for a week now and started to spread the word about it to my friends
Yeah, not going to mirror my best friends body language. Maybe after he sees this video. But my god after watching this, I understand proper body language.
When Antonio mention the looking at the watch it reminded me of President Bush Sr. debate with Bill Clinton. During the debate Bush looked at his watch. That gave the perception that he didn’t want to be there or was uncomfortable by the questions been asked.
Antonio I agree with your video but what do you do with your hands when you are standing up talking to people or being photographed and looks very silly having them hang down. Equally when you walk or coming down stairs is also very awkward moving your arms.
When it comes to the phone, there is a simple solutions. Set up different ring tones for different groups of contacts. This way you know when to excuse yourself when your family calls. As oppose to allowing your phone to kill the moment because your buddy wants to see what's up.
Great tips, man :') simple but makes real impact. Most of these mistakes can be described in one word: "awkward", and I have been like that most of my life. It's usually due to lack of confidence or being too self-conscious in a negative way.
I am Italian and I AGREE! I make all kinds of hands gestures and sometimes I am not even aware that I do this. LOL. Antonio, also I have looked at your website before and I still need help with something. I have jeans that fit me great in the waist, but since I am heavyset, the legs on the jeans are so freaking baggy. In the back of the legs, on the side of the legs, in the crotch area a little. I need to take them to a tailor but I am not sure what to tell the tailor to get these issues fixed.
PERSONAL SPACE COMMENT: When I ring the bell on a bid appointment, I am aware of the fact that I am on someone's private property, and only inches away from their living room -- a highly personal place -- so, I ring, turn my back on the door, take a couple steps away, looking at the sky and their yard, and when I hear them opening their door, I turn to greet them at a very comfortable distance. It draws them out, and toward me, two very good things! It is a little thing, but that is where the differences are made.
I do not carry my cell phone like people do. Right now, at my desk, my phone is on a dry erase board eraser in front of my monitor. That is its "place" when I am at home. Exception: at night it is by my bed, so I can be reached in case of emergency. But, those are its two places. If I go out, it is in the vehicle. If I go to a meeting, or on a bid appointment, the phone stays right there in the truck. P.S. I used to be on Facebook. Now, I am social media free! I use RU-vid educationally, and for music when friends are over.
I leave my phone in the truck when I go on a yardwork bid appointment. They become my whole world. That is one of many reasons nobody pays more for yardwork than our customers. We charge enough to spoil our customers, right from the very first call.
Your videos rock dude! A lot of good points. It's interesting how some of the traits get, how to articulate this, "installed as permanent mods" on those who've been in the military. Especially if you were in for any length of time (8 years active Army), you just carry yourself differently. Great stuff!
funny you mention posture. I have actually had my manager attempt to dress me down saying that I am "a big intimidating guy". My response was, "do you want me to slouch and hunch over? or stand up straight?" Sadly my response went over his head
I need to work on my posture, as you mentioned cellphones and computers make us lean foward subconsciously to an extreme. On a side note, on your description list it says 7:00 "learning" instead of "leaning the wrong way" just FYI so people don't get confused.
Bad posture's real issue with phones, staying with face and neck towards down, ehnance develop submissive thoughts that impedes to stand-up for your rights, other that looks like the tool owns you, instead of being used by you Speaking about body-language and sub-communication towards others, another topic to approach is breathing: breathing with diafragm instead of upper body, warmens the voice and communication assume more authoritative trait
Hey Antonio, really like your video on this topic because it touched on psychology. Do you think you can do another one just like this and add about hand position when you are sitting at the same table with important people or hand position in general, and also what to do to stop fidgeting. Thanks.
Very nice suit dude(extremely well cut). But Most of what you advised should have been covered in high school. But I just turned 60. In my HS days, folks that weren't corporate material were channeled into high paid vocational skills. Now I guess they have to adapt.
I'm pretty bad about crossing my arms. I can be somewhat standoffish, however thanks to you Antonio as well as other videos I watch I'm changing that in order to be the better man. By the loved the pocket square thought it looked real good and yeah I noticed it ran down on you. Lol.
While you were talking, I remembered talking with a man one time. He reeked of body odor. It was so strong, l wanted to hold my nose. I kept backing up, and he would follow me to come into my space again. He was much to close. I was turning my body away and doing whatever I could to put some space between me and this terrible odor. Lol He is a friend, so I didn't want to be rude. But, he wasn't reading any of my cues. He had something he wanted to talk to me about. Eventually, I managed to escape. Lol 😂 Your pocket scarf is gorgeous! Even though it kept slipping down. Ha
The pocket square should be darker, so it doesn't destract from giving attention to your speaking. (So I guess it was hiding... It knew everyone was looking at it! LoL)
Use a microphone... your voice has alternating very high & very low pitch. A calmer voice is more persuasive. Shouting is not necessary to get your message across unless you have no microphone. A microphone will help you. You will not have to shout in bursts if you have a good microphone next to your neck.
@@ph.d.r3334 so also, (non-essential) are the following: Wearing clothes to work or to a friend's party, brushing those bedazzling muti-colored teeth, combing those raggedy hair, & trimming that bewildering beard. My point is - it is not necessary in modern times to listen to an old transitor radio in which, as you listen, the voice (coming from the radio) goes bleak; if you have a better sound delivery system (a mouse click away from you) - Get a microphone!!! It makes life easier for everyone. Better sound systems bring better communication & better comprehension. Imagine listening to a speaker who speaks loudly & then mumbles words randomly & intermittently; that's the sound effect I'm getting from this video. Let's try to be 'men' at something else instead of practising Opera while speaking to each other.
