Hello Beautiful People! Today we will be talking about 17 questions to ask your Christian partner before Doing The Do in Marriage. Hope you enjoy watching! #aboutowedonly #weddingnight
Never thought there will be any Christian channel that will bluntly speak about sex in this manner. Many times, youth engage in sex before marriage because of "exploration" and end up getting pregnant and the worst follows many times. I believe and I think, this is what some Christian youth meetings should be all about. Although such conversations like this should be limited to some set of persons just like you also said in this video. By the way, I still wonder what most marriage counseling is all about when people still come out of marriages almost immediately they go in. Yes, the bed rock of marriage is God but this little little things are what makes it exciting and last almost forever. Thank you Victoria. These are sincere and well spoken words. No pretense and no lies.
This is one of the biggest reasons I do these videos regardless of how comfortable it makes me sometimes. If one person is saved by this. I am blessed Thanks so much for your kind words
The way I see it, if people are this openminded in communication this way so many homes would not have had the kind of problems we see today. Good job.
Omo, that "I'm just doing it for you," it sounds sweet and romantic on paper. In real life, premium tears is usually the outcome. Also, some people are evil, they act like they're willing to wait until they know you're attached then they start making threats. And at that time, it becomes harder to just walk away.
I don't often type a response/feedback on videos.....but on this in particular, it's beautiful, realistic and highly necessary. I didn't expect this much details....... I'm glad you gave it all!! Thank you.
It’s refreshing to see how open and very knowledgeable you are. Have you considered being an official Christian relationship counselor ? People will gladly pay for one-on-one sessions with you, especially single or engaged ladies. Thanks for always sharing!
It's everything for me😍😍 the content, the vibes, the smile, the beauty, the outfit.....First time been here and just had to subscribe straight up. Keep doing the good work ma'am. God's blessings
It’s my first time here and I absolutely LOVED everything about this video. Great content, good sense of humour, everything was just on point. You’ve reminded me how important these questions are and how generally, communication is good for healthy relationships. Thank you❤️ And oh, you’re beautiful too😍. Keep up the good work, hun. Can’t wait to watch your other videos.
Thank you for this. The emphasis on keeping ourselves pure should not be for another person but for God because we have been called to keep ourselves holy for him and of course we would be pure for the man/woman we would be marrying
Never you be fooled by a positive affirmations to all your answers🙂👍 To get married, marry the Holy Spirit First and He will other your steps beyond what the physical signs bears rather go for God's green light 💡. You won't miss your bone. Bones came to bones #Ezekiel37. Thanks and Shalom 🙏❤️🔥✝️
Well done. I see some persons don't understand that a lot go wrong people and settling down with someone even when go has given a go ahead does not remove what they had grown with except God has helped them to overcome them. Every question is important either oral or not. Ask. The devil is still out there!
Saw the #aboutowedonly I'm not about to wed and this video is really educative for me coz it teaches, u can get to know Ur partner "sexually" without actually doing it. It kinda calms my fears of not knowing nothing cause let's be frank most youths and teenagers already know a lot sex. And a number of acquitances always advice u had beta start doing it so you know your partner.
This video did one thing: one can know one's partner sexually through conversation without doing the act. But that's hoping the person tells you all the truth, though. God bless you for this one... Really eases off some worries
This is the first Christian video that is actually informative and not sugar coating sex and saying when you're married it'll be magical and it'll fall into place. thank you for being realistic. I never thought to ask some of these questions because I had never done it before. But I would make sure you ask these questions in the morning and preferably in public because late-night chats on the phone have got me in trouble before lol.
A friend shared a link to your video on "Sexual Compatibility" I originally planned on watching that video then zoom off but here am I, on the 3rd video 😁😁 I'm glad I did click on the link. Thank God you discovered this assignment in God. I'm so going to check in always for updates 😊
Thank you for this Victoria Very helpful for later 😁 But I think some questions should be asked before getting closed to marriage because some of these knowledge are deal breakers for some people. I think.
3 sums and watching P0rn ? That should be something a man dealt with prior to being married or pursuing a relationship. I preferably wouldn't wait until the wedding night to ask those types of questions. What a man thinks with his mind comes from his heart. It's one thing to have sexual desires; however, there's a boundary between sexual desires and battling sinful thoughts. The woman I was before Christ can answer those questions if asked. The woman I am now would feel out of place to have that mindset. When God washes us and renews our heart, mind, soul, and spirit there's some thoughts we wouldn't have. I'm assuming everyone has different experiences as far as I can see with asking about a 3 sum.
Very bold step because a lot of people don't talk about it but my confusion was where you said the conversation should happen when he proposes or when you're engaged. I beg to disagree , especially on the first question, two intending people who already know their intentions and have prayed over each other should ask the first question before getting serious. Many times people get together and then the pressure to have sex from one partner comes up and you're now saying ohhhh, I would love us to wait. For the no one question, please let your intending partner know before you get serious that these are your values and if they can't stay with you, it's also fine but I can't compromise. But other questions can come up much later.
Thanks for this information. Everything should be communicated whether sex related or not. Definitely, it takes alot of maturity to swallow some answers of this question but I feel it should be discussed
As a Christian, the first question you need to ask is a question you ask yourself. You need to ask yourself whether the person you are considering is a Christian. And I am not talking about people who just go to Church or people who have been in Christian circles for sometime. You need to ask whether the person in question is willing to literally die for Jesus Christ because they've known the love of God. If the answer is no, as a true Christian, you should not even take another step forward.
@@VictoriaFash I appreciate that you are willing to talk about this. Not many people talk about this especially in Christian circles. So I think what you do is important. Having said this, I believe what I posted is very important especially for the our current times. Desire to be like Jesus and taking steps to ensure that is not emphasized enough in most Christian circles I have been in. A lot of marital issues will be solved if this was emphasized as it ought to be.
It's always a blessing watching each of your videos; every bit of it is so informative and detailed... Great job always ma'am❣️ can't wait to ask these questions.
Learnt a lot from this eg d.on't ask promiscuous questions in a relationship until it gets to courtship. Many Christian marriages are suffering in silence because of inadequate info on this "food" and self righteousness has enslaved many in church not to be open. I pity African conservative attitude towards this topic.😍
I can ask questions ehhhh to the extent my hubby will just be laughing at me all through,I need to know everything and also I tell him how I want it to be done,communication👌👌
Thank you so much for this💓. I learned a lot. But I have a question and it is, what if your partner is a novice or both parties are notice and have had no experience in past and have also decided not to have s3x until marriage. How will they really know how their body works? You talked about asking how often he/she would like to "do the do", the level of exploration he/ she would like to experience etc. I think some of these ones one can't really tell until he or she have had experiences in the past. For such a couple without experience how will they go about this?
But you can always say these words you are pronouncing on RU-vid because I watch other videos on RU-vid a lot..... Buts nice to see a Christian ask these question because I thought of it and what one gets when you finally enter the marriage might be beyond your expectations... Thank you
Very interesting/ important topic... Me I ask ooo even the ones that I end up laughing at myself as though it's nothing but I must say you never can find out except you talk about it.... Thanks for always sharing! ♥️
Ok ma'am vicky you are amazing my first time doh.. I think with this so many marriages can really workout thats if they work on this little but absolute truth...cheers
Some of these questions that u said should be asked later. I think they should be asked early. Because u dnt want to be far advanced in wedding plans n find out z answer to any of these questions is a deal breaker. Then u would of wasted all this time for nothing.
But this "how often do you think of it" part. Is it OK to have a particular amount of time it is thought of. Or should the question instead be how often do you think it's OK for it to happen in a Day, or a week.
Nice video as usual Victoria. Just wanted to help you with some words to say on your videos without fear of demonitization. Instead of do the do, call it s3x. Pronounced s three x. Instead of porn, call it corn as in agbado. Hope these help
Masturbation is wrong oh!!!, sexual experiences ought to be between a man and his wife. The Bible is clear on what is acceptable, sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
A woman can't satisfy a man's urge especially if they are doing long distance. A man needs to release his sperm and make new sperm regularly so he needs either sex or masturbation to release and make fresh sperm. Non fresh sperm is weak and not healthy
Thank you sister! I do have a few questions. What if the world has been deceived about sex, and followers of Christ consequently (2Corinthians 5;17)? I also wonder what can inspire "virgins" to ask such questions. And the answer is because of porn. With all due respect, we need wisdom not to seek for a porn actor in a husband or wife because a Christ based marriage is more than sex. Sex is simple and sweet, to the point that most women, though they don't know how to cook, they excel in sex. Thank you.
Educative video! Thank you. Meanwhile, I dont't think there is any issue mentioning the 'S' word (sex) on RU-vid, besides, you mentioned it a couple of times in the last video you did with your husband and some other videos you have done. Please feel free sis.
These questions can really be sexual arousing. Good approach and also remember some of these questions change over time and one my want to ask them even as one assess the development of the sexual experience
For Christian couples, some questions can't be asked directly they may want to be dishonest in answering. Like the "do you watch pornography?" question. You may have to ask indirectly.
Why ask these quests after you’ve accepted his proposal. His answers wouldn’t make a lot of difference. I’d rather ask when we are in a committed relationship, that way there’s room to make the necessary decisions
Because she is trying to address Christians. For Christians, decision to marry someone is not based on these question. The decision is a function of your conviction about who your future partner should be.
@@TA-nr1kr lol, so your future husband’s sexual history makes no difference to you. If it makes no difference then why are you even asking? You could as well go in and handle whatever you face together
Hey, this is medan ashebir, from Ethiopia. The video is informative. you are amazing. I have added something in my mind. But I wanna ask you something about kissing. In my country, as a Christian, kissing is one of sin. If I kiss my gf and when my pastor watches, I will be in denger. what do you think about kissing my gf before marriage??
Legit questions really though I feel some could questions would serve someone who has some experience. Then again, if answers are provided today but as one begins to experience the act, some responses would be adjusted. Eg, if I haven’t tasted amala, I might not know how it is until I taste it. So I believe couples should endeavour to receive and get feedback on this area & others as well because as humans, we could change
Very very good work done. But I think you should be straightforward in mentioning those words you don't want to. RU-vid is an open place. Since you are a Christian, I think it's better to call what is wrong wrong and not to massage it. Thanks and keep it up
I went to a senior collègue party and met his niece who I'm interested in, I had a chat with her and everything was cool but the party was dismissed cos of some other issues. Since that day I've been trying to get the number but failed. I've been thinking telling my senior collègue about how i like his niece and my interest of having a serious relationship with her. Please kindly advise me
I don't think so. They are valid questions. However, I am of the opinion that these questions for Christians should be asked during honeymoon. The questions are to help know your partner better and and adjust or reach a compromise and not to form decisions to or not to marry the person.
Questions like toys, questions like masturbation?. Such a person is not a Christian. Well maybe what defines a christain to you is different from the scriptures
All she said should be asked once you are human. You are human first before a believer. Have you seen a struggling Christian before? Toys and masturbation are things they genuinely struggle with and not that they enjoy them so it's important you ask. That you are a believer doesn't mean the devil won't come after you., Peter had his share Blessings.
....and this is exactly where many divorces and separations in Christian marriages started. The questions are valid. She gave the relevant thresholds and qualifications for asking the questions.
