when she said something along the lines of “one day you’re going to be gone and Im going to miss picking your clothes up”…. my boyfriend and i both looked at each other in shock. that’s so true and we take these “annoying” little things for granted so often. thank you for this. i’m so excited for this podcast.
As someone who DID lose their partner, I’m glad you guys had that moment together. You absolutely will miss his little things, even if they bug you. I miss picking up his towels, or starting the dryer because he always forgot.
But that also can be emotional abuse to use it as a weapon to say you should do all things for me because I won’t be here one day and take advantage of the situation, just depends on the person/people.
His role is definitely above hers simply because he is in charge of all finances. She is at his mercy should anything happen, and that's not mutually equal.
@@annangel1005 that's what works for them, back in the fifties it was common for the housewife to manage the finances. He doesn't manage the money because he is above her, it's likely just because that's what they found worked
Although a traditional marriage would not work for my marriage, I think this is the first traditional relationship i’ve seen where it’s super healthy and respectful to both genders. kudos to you both
@@anjeliicamoniique I think both people have talked out what they want and understand their roles. Once that’s settled then the marriage has a strong foundation and understanding.
Yeah I think it's because a lot of people especially anyone under age 40 or so the only conservative or traditional marriages they have seen, are ones from Hollywood and media, and those are never positive, so when people try to follow them... They follow a toxic blueprint
The last email where she looked for the whys of her reactions struck me. As soon as I was done watching, I got up to get ready for bed. My husband came up behind me in the closet and playfully did something that has always bothered me. Up to that point, I've always held him responsible for doing that sort of thing even though I don't like it. He sent the message "I love my wife & I'm attracted to her" but because of the history of abuse in my childhood, I received the message as "I don't care what you like, I wanna do this to you." In turn, my reaction was received as me rejecting him. Then I got annoyed because he was upset that I didn't want to be touched that way after decades together. He says he loves me, why won't he stop doing this thing that upsets me? I. Never. Stopped. To. Examine. Why. I. Respond. That. Way. Fresh off the podcast, I started thinking and unpacking what led to my reaction that I always have. When the realization illuminated, I immediately went to him to tell him, apologize for my reaction causing him to feel rejected all these years and hug him. He said because it was important to me, he wouldn't do it. I countered that understanding the root of why I react as I do may actually reduce the intensity of my response. Today, I was working in the kitchen and he came up behind me and only nuzzled my neck and stepped back. The happy-fuzzy feeling I had was so good I smiled. As I type out that part of the story, I smile. He sent the message "I love my wife and I'm attracted to her" and I received it as he intended it to be. He didn't get a rejection. He got a smile. Please thank the email writer for sharing her lesson and allowing you to share it with me. I have been doing the grungy work of digging through the mental archives & my parenting style has become what I call cycle breaking because I am doing for my youngest 4 kids what I lacked the understanding to do with my eldest 3 kids. Yes, I have apologized to them. It plus the efforts we make may never be enough but we have to try.
I’m so happy to hear that, your story was bringing a tear to my eye! 😭💕 and I’m so happy for you, ur husband. You are setting your children up for success and they will never settle for bad partners!
Adding an update: He has periodically come up to nuzzle and the ability to relax into feeling the affection intended versus getting tripped up into my defenses activating is nice.
ME TOO! My husband walked into our bedroom to me soooooooobbing - it all started right after she said that. I am so thankful for my husband. This podcast helps me to keep myself in check. I want "2 be better" and they've helped SO MUCH.
NEVER LISTENED TO A PODCAST. NEVER EVEN CONSIDERED LISTENING TO ONE. COULDNT BE MORE IMPRESSED.!!❤ I was doing my "morning tiktok scroll" before waking up my daughter, and he quoted a Bible verse. Looked farther into y'all's tiktok and here I am now on RU-vid. It's an understatement to say that traditional marriage is "hard" today's society. I'm 23 my husband is 25, with 6 year old daughter. We have been together for 8 years, married for 3 years. Some of the things your husband says I hear my husband saying the same thing, similar personalities and men perception so to speak. Can't wait to listen to all of your episodes. ❤
I follow you both on TT, and it's funny because I'm so divided on "traditional" marriages, but I LOVE listening to you. You also give amazing advice on communication and accountability, which really helps!!
This podcast has helped in my own relationship. We had a situation and I snapped, reacted totally wrong, got triggered. I saw this episode and I thought; I did that wrong. I basically abused the man into behaving the way I want to. So I had an open conversation with him. Firstly I recognized, worded and apologized for my behavior. I explained to him why I thought my behavior was wrong. He gave me his opinion, hesitant at first and I thanked him for sharing it. We had a calm conversation about how he felt and at the end of it he told me our conversation made him feel safe about opening up (he has a history of his feelings being dismissed). Now every night before we go to bed I ask; what did you think of today? And we have a conversation about our time together, our conversations and the needs we have that are met and not met.
These podcast shorts started showing up on me feed at a time where I am realizing what I want in life is to be a good girlfriend and I’m so glad to get this information while I’m healing in my personal life to be a good girlfriend.
I resonate so much with this comment. This podcast makes me really self reflect and want to be better and take accountability for my healing. When people are traumatized or hurt, it is still not okay to project that onto my partner and I need to have more compassion for my man and for myself.
I get SO MUCH out of your guys podcast. I listen to them while I deep clean my apartment on my headphones. I'm not sure why you wanna keep them less than 1 hour but me personally, I would LOVE them to be longer than 1 hour! You both do a great job of keeping the momentum & flow going. Love your guys' content!
I legit wanted to cry listening to them. Their communications skills are on point. I've been married for 10 years and I just ask my husband to take the kids outside so I can just relax and not hear crying and it seems like I'm asking too much. So now I just keep it to myself.
I don't know anything about how you're relationship goes so take this with a grain of salt. Don't ever feel bad for needing to take a second or asking your husband for help. It's a marriage and a partnership, you're not a slave their to take care of the kids or anything, you're a person with your own needs. Don't ever feel bad about being overwhelmed, its not your fault ❤
From someone who was in an abusive relationship and is now in a stable/happy relationship - you hit the nail on the head. It took me years to get over my trauma. I was stuck in time for 4 years, even though my (now) husband loved me through it, I dragged us both through the mud. If I could go back and do it differently I would - but it worked out and Im so grateful for him. Work on yourself before you seek after someone.
This. I experienced the same with my now husband. I just got back into therapy. Healing and working on yourself is so important before diving back into dating. Good on you for being able to heal. That is so incredibly awesome and shows great strength on your end. Your husband is a lucky man!
When I first met my partner there was a moment I apologized for doing something "girly". His immediate response was "I'm a straight dude so why would you apologize for being feminine? I love femininity". It was the first time I felt free to be exactly who I am. 12 years later I still think about how grateful I am to him for giving me the freedom to be comfortable in myself and my femininity. I still love the smile he gets when we talk about it too. The letter at the end made me remember how freeing it is to just be able to be yourself with someone. ❤
I didn’t have stellar parents to look up to. Nor did anybody in my family growing up have stellar relationships. I appreciate how you both value eachother and work for your relationship and communicate and understand eachother. Alla dat. I’m so glad tiktok led me to y’all.
I NEVER listen to podcasts, I can never just sit and listen to these things for hours on end. I have FULLY watched 10 full podcast for far plus the side shows! I’m now doing my work on myself for myself so when I get married I can do it correctly and ensure I’m not creating silly unimportant problems. THANKYOU ❤ seriously life is hard and you two are making a map for us to follow and go on our own adventures with 🎉
You two are a platinum podcast, this is my therapy on my way to work and have learned a lot, this puts me in a zen mindset for my whole day and haven’t been this stressed relieved from a podcast ever. Thank you guys 😌
It's so beautiful listening to another couple speak on traditional values. My fiancé and I live a very similar lifestyle, including participating in healthy growth and communication. While we all knows it's a learning and commitment process that comes every single day it's wonderful knowing other people value the same relationship standards. Keep it up guys! Your life coaching adventure is going to help so many people on so many different levels. The world needs more of this. ❤️
I totally agree. Even if you don't have a completely traditional lifestyle, the core values are the same. Being a team, communicating and trying to make each other's life better each day.
You all came across my FYP at the exact moment I needed it. Thank you for creating this platform. It probably doesn't mean much to you coming from me, someone you don't know, but I value and appreciate you both.
My man and Ive listened to this pod cast every night for a week and touched on topics from it every single night and he and I have addressed somethings from the rough start of our relationship. When he first went through the roughest part of his depression I explained that I would sit in bed while he slept so he didnt feel alone in that depression and he understood that i wasnt going anywhere even when it was hard. He said at that time I felt a lone even in a room full of people and NOW I dont feel that way I feel full. That hit me different. Because for the first time my whole life I am his peace from even his trauma!! Especially losing his wife at such a young age!!!
What a breath of fresh air. I don’t think I’ve ever sat through an hour plus video on RU-vid in my 33 years of being alive but this was it for me. I’m so excited you’re starting a business where you can offer one on ones with people. I really think it’s going to make a difference and thank you both for the time and the effort. Here’s to helping to heal relationships and make ourselves better instead of quitting, never changing and being miserable for the little time that we have on this earth. Looking forward to more of these!
I balled my eyes out during this video. Bc I felt a lot of what was talked about and the need to fix and repair so much damage even on my part more I can be working on. You guys are so amazing and the world need this work and needs yall.
Starting on the first episode on this podcast and I’ve Already started rethinking situations between me and my partner. Thank y’all so much. I’m also going to talk to my partner about watching y’all with me ❤❤we definitely need this in our life.
I’m not even going to lie when my girlfriend mentioned this I was kinda curious but out of it but I decided to try it and watch it more little by little as the day went on and this helped improve in a lot of ways , I’m still working on it but we’re getting there so good shit to y’all! & shout out to my girl for putting me on to this channel !
When you said “your going to miss picking up their clothes” I sobbed hugging my husband. Y’all are changing us for the better. Please keep doing what you do ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That email is such a reflection of my marriage that is in process of being legally dissolved. He said, in front of our youngest, that he regrets me, my older children and EVER meeting me or them. He also created that power dynamic. Made me stay home but kept us in poverty and in homelessness (even months living in a vehicle). But now is making well over 100,000$ and does not want me to see a Penny of "HIs" money. At this point, I only want to get my life together. I've been working on myself for over 2 years now but he is still trapped in the past and holding onto anger and whatever injustices he perceives (real or reactive) continually blaming me and poisoning our youngest mind with his beliefs about me. I LOVE seeing you BOTH working together!!! Showing it IS possible to achieve and MAINTAIN. Thank You for sharing ❤️
As someone who left an abusive relationship, I specifically went to therapy before diving into another serious relationship to ensure I was ready and qualified to enter another. A big part is taking ownership of your trauma - it’s yours, no one else’s. That being said, trauma response can be a reflex and unavoidable. Because of that, communication is huge. Even something as simple as, “Hey, love, I’m in a weird headspace today and I’m sorry I’m in a bad mood. It’s not you or anything I did. I could really use some extra love and patience today.” It lets him know that I’m not being bitchy for no reason and that it’s not his responsibility to fix me.
I used to get so offended at the "common denominator" conversation but the more therapy ive had and the more self reflection I've done, I realize that I was taking offense out of shame and refusal to accept that I really was the issue in that I'm bad at picking men. But since taking that hard look in the mirror I've noticed my self respect has risen. I think it's important to take that look in the mirror because then you can begin to identify and rectify why you are picking subpar men. Honor the reasons you have the behaviors you have but also use it as a place to begin processing and working through those issues. You guys are great and are helping me recognize what kind of man I want and quite frankly what kind of man I deserve. I'm a badass, multiskilled, kind and loyal woman and I deserve a man who will protect me and love me and grow with me.
The last email y’all read had me emotional!!! Y’all are making a change in this world on a SPIRITUAL level. Y’all are beyond influencers, you both are Yahs chosen, I feel it
I spent an afternoon pissed about a doctor’s choice about my husband’s medical care after a night in the ICU with him and no sleep. About 9 pm, he made me a snack, tucked me into bed and watched an episode of my show, one he didn’t like, in bed with me until I was almost asleep. We held each other and talked about how blessed we are that God gave us to each other and how, through communication, we knew what we each needed from each other that night as many other times before. He made sure I was comfy and went into the living room to watch TV so I could sleep good. I’m SO thankful that I let him take care of me, he’s an acts of service love language guy. He let me vent and call to complain about his treatment that I didn’t agree with because I’m a natural caregiver/protector. He never woke up the next morning. I know he knew how much I loved, trusted and respected him. He knew I know how much he loved, trusted and respected me. If we’d let the petty stuff become major, like the mess he ALWAYS 😊 made in the kitchen preparing my snack, our last hours together would be full of regret.
my partner and i have amazing communication skills but then i stumbled upon this podcast, and while we spend quality time together we will listen and pause and discuss. We hope to have even better communication after watching these. And the way all look at eachother with so much love and passion sometimes makes me emotional. Cheers!
I have been following you guys on TikTok for a while now. I am just now getting to your guys podcast. I am a housewife while my husband supports me and 5 boys. This episode made me appreciate my husband even more for being that supporter and seeing me and how hard I work at home keeping the ship afloat. And I texted him while at work saying thank you to him for doing the things that he does. The reaction I got from him made my heart just I don’t know, smile. So thank you for that.
What an informative first podcast. This has set the foundation for upcoming conversations and questions. I love the communication, transparency, accountability and most importantly love that exudes from a relationship like this. Looking forward to the next!
The entire crux of feminism originally was that women had the choice to do what it is they chose to do, without being derided or punished for doing so. What has happened is that those who choose to live in those traditional roles are getting derided and punished for that by several facets of society. I have worked full time, part time, stay-at-home, in whatever was supportive to the overall survival and goals of the household. Ultimately, it did not matter to other people which path I walked, I was wrong or being wronged by my husband. Life got so much less tennis-match-spectator when I stepped back from listening to anyone else and looked at what my efforts brought to our OWN household. My job is not to placate strangers. My job is to shape my people into kind humans who are good people and prepare them for the world outside this small microcosm of this address we call home.
The last email you read has me realizing things about myself. I have trouble being vulnerable too . Realizing it's time to do some work to heal myself so I can give my husband my vulnerability and emotional intimacy.
This is huge. This is a huge step. You’ve recognized it. You’re now taking accountability and in doing so I hope it changes your life and makes your marriage that much better.
I came from TikTok and am going to be slowly watching through this podcast because I’ve found that the clips I’ve seen from the 2bebetter account have helped me figure out a bit more of what I want out of any future relationship. You two have helped me raise my standards (before my standards were way below the bare minimum) and I just want to thank you, because honestly I found you two probably when I needed to most. My plan is to try to watch an episode of this podcast either every day or every other day until I’ve caught up because you two are very wise in your words and advice.
You’re helping more people than you know. Some of us listen and don’t comment. Please keep going. Keep helping us. You’re literally saving marriages/relationships and helping people better themselves. ❤
I LOVE when he said "if you want to find a guy like me, get yourself together". THANK YOU!!! Never be searching for someone when you are not ready yourself for a relationship.
This podcast has been showing up on my FYP on tiktok and im so glad for it. I have been struggling with my BPD when it comes to relationships and finding ways to create healthy communication and boundaries with my partner while doing the needed work on myself. I have learned so much just from the short videos in tiktok. Now, my partner and I working to strengthen our relationship and one of the ways we are doing this is by listening to this podcast and discussing what we took away from each episode and what we want to implement into our own relationship. Thank you so much for being real and open and sharing with all of us. ❤
I saw yall first on facebook... my husband will send me clips all the time too... i made the decision to come to the first video and watch all of them... this first one hit so hard... almost every key point yall hit, were things i have been struggling with and after about the first 45min, i went into my husbands office (he works from home) and i said while bawling my eyes out, but trying my best not to, "i am sorry that i have let my insecurities sabatoge our relationship" and we proceeded to have one of the best convos ever about what i said... thank you to both of you... ill continue to watch and heal bc you guys are amazing❤ i cant wait to give my husband the best version of myself❤
My co worker recommend this podcast and it has been an eye opener. I see and understand this SO differently now. I’m so grateful and thankful for you both doing this podcast. Thank you so much.
You two are awesome. I had my husband sit with me and listen to this podcast today. We resemble a lot what you stand for in your relationship. I personally can relate to your wife and the "independent woman" longing for someone to take care of me. I also relate to the lady in the letter - my husband waited while I worked thru past traumas. We were friends for 20+ yrs - knew almost everything about each other - both had prior marriages & now have each other. Happiest lives with each other doing a lot of what you two are doing. :) Be blessed in all you do & everyone you impact!!
Also in Florida and in a "traditional relationship". Just found you guys and enjoy the refreshing take on relationships, most importantly to each their own.
I love these two. You can tell the love and respect they have for each other and are showing Traditional relationships are not always a toxic negative thing ❤
It’s refreshing to hear a couple who has a partnership and not an ownership 🙏🏼 it’s very easy to go with what society sees as a “normal healthy relationship,” but we aren’t cookie cutter people who have the same issues, thoughts or opinions. So thank you for breaking the barrier to how relationships should be 💙 glad I stumbled onto your TikTok
I recently ran across your podcast on YT shorts. What you two do is greatly needed for impressionable social media. But not only that, all relationships who need a different insight or understanding. I know this is late to the party, but it is refreshing to watch you both. Thank you, beautiful souls.
I just started listening to your podcast. And all I can say is Wow! If I learned this in my 20’s I could have saved myself so much pain and trauma. I am 54 and have been married to my childhood sweetheart (known each other since 8&9 yrs old) for 20 years. I have shared your podcast with all of my friends and coworkers.! Thank you for creating this podcast!
My mom and dad partake in a “traditional” marriage it works great for them. They have shown me that it’s completely acceptable to have that type of relationship but have shown me that this sort of relationship requires communication skills and its okay to switch roles and responsibilities if the situation warrants it. They have also taught me that there is nothing wrong with a non traditional relationship. I deserve nothing less than a person who will go all the way and be there for me. They mean the world to me and I admire you all for talking about it.
Because of this video, I wrote a letter to my husband apologizing to him and asking him to help hold me accountable for having given him less than my best in a certain area that I have avoided because of something I learned in childhood. Thank you. 🙏🏼
OMG!!! Congratulations! I’m so happy for you guys and the announcement! I don’t want to spoil it by commenting fully yet… but you guys are amazing and helping so many people! 👏🏻👏🏻 PS… I bawled my eyes out in the end too! 🥰
Here from TikTok and rewatching from the beginning. From what I’ve listened to so far, in my already healthy relationship I have learned so much from you two and I appreciate you putting yourselves out there to help others.
This is my first time listening and discovering your podcast and RU-vid. My gawd. This touched me to my core!!!! Everything about it. I feel and connect with the emails especially the last one on here. And how you both respond. My heart and soul. This gives me so much hope and faith that I can heal and grow and get back what I had with my partner. I feel so lighter. And so aware of the growth and work that I myself need and have ahead in order to move forward and get back what I have with my partner.
A lot of guys are not able to support their women but expect their women to chip in financial 50/50 but still be the main home maker and that's where things mostly go wrong. It ended my engagement and I'm so glad. I felt like I was his mother at the end of it.
@@blackharvest13this. They've actually addressed this situation, not sure what episode, I saw a tiktok clip and Chris was so pissed that men like your fiance pretend that they're being traditional when they're actually just lazy and entitled and don't care about their partners and give traditional partnerships a bad rap.
Marriages should be how 2 people agree it should be. Not everyone wants dependency and inequity with regards to access to resources or designated "jobs" within a household. Not everyone wants traditional roles so, to say all marriage should be a woman who is financially dependent on a man, is absurd.
@@blackharvest13 yes this. This exactly. I don’t mind doing the 50/50 finance but then EVERYTHING is going to be 50/50. I’m not doing all of the cleaning every time while you do none ever, especially if the finances are 50/50 (or in my case, I girl bossed too hard as a single woman, and I pay for most of the bills)
@@briesteiner3062 it’s insane how guys can’t fathom that women would rather be alone than split bills and still carry ALL the traditional roles at the same time
I love peaches voice like how calm and sweet she is and sounds like you can really tell she puts actual thoughts into everything she says very intentional
You guys have beautiful souls. Your content is needed and greatly appreciated. My husband and I weekly discuss our sorrow for ppl who dont "get it". The appreciation, love, and RESPECT we have for each other is somthing we don't see anymore. Thank you for trying and caring enough to bring this to others. ❤
I feel like you both have this higher calling . Doing what you're doing. Finding each other was part of your life's mission. I feel like that initial excitement you both we're feeling is this knowing that you two would set out to do amazing things together.
I am in no way about gender roles myself, but I am huge on living life the way you want to, as long you are loving yourself and others, and not harming anyone else. I am super interested to learn more about you guys!
im so glad ive found your podcast, it has opened my eyes to different point of views and has made me think about things ive done or had done to me. it makes me wonder how i can fix myself and heal things ive gone through, and i thank you both so much for that
I searched for your full podcasts after seeing a ton of your content on other platforms, listening to what you both have to day has made me see more of what I expect from my fiance and understand what he wants from me. Love that you guys are doing this
Hi, so I am new to listening to your channel. I would love to say thank you, your relationship values are very similar to my household. I think that you both are great role models to society and especially to me. It is wonderful to hear other couples who actively try to support and love and provide for each other. I get so much shit from people because I wake up at 4 am to make my husband lunch, pack his lunch and do other things for him. I take care of the home and our children and I work a full time career. I feel joy providing and caring for my family and my husband. Why do people believe that I have no rights in our marriage. My husband is my world and my kids are my soul. I love taking care of my family, I love showing my husband appreciation and devotion. Thank you for making me not feel so crazy. ❤
This is awesome! My husband and I have been married 20 years and we’re always trying to grow and level up. Talking about the protector aspect. The day I met my husband, he went after my ex that was stalking me. He didn’t even know either of us.
I'm going back through your content today just to refresh and that last email hit me differently this time around. I paced my kitchen trying not to cry. I'm realizing just how much work I have left to do to put this anger down. Knowing it's there isn't the end result. Glad I did this today because I was really ready to actually hear it and think on it more than before.
Side note if love an update from this person and how she's doing with her new mindset and how embracing her feminine and letting go of the fear has felt with last year. I know that may not happen but I hope she's doing well regardless
The way you guys communicate, respect and adore eachother is a beautiful things to see. In my opinion trying to understand eachothers perspectives in difference of opinions in a civil manner whilst in a relationship is most of the battle, when ya got that sorted theres nothing that cant be worked through and resolved and in understanding perspectives of others your own perspective is broadened so much more.
I'm so grateful that I came across your podcast through Facebook reels. I'm now binge watching them all on here. I'd give anything to have a relationship like the two of you have. You guys are so synced up together through love and communication and I think you're both incredible for it. Me and the mother of my son split a year ago after a very long relationship there were rough patches but we loved each other and were best friends for the majority of the relationship. She had 2 sons from a previous relationship that I treated and still treat as my own. I could NEVER imagine treating a child the way that guy did. Her youngest was in her belly when we got together and never showed him anything but love. People are fucking monsters man...
Found a clip through a friend of mine,gave your show a shot. I don’t do TikTok,but you got another subscriber here. I love the open mature yet helpful conversations between the two of you. I realize that’s what I want to have more of in my relationships. Thank you
I randomly found you on RU-vid shorts. Now, all I wanna do is listen, learn, and grow for myself. Thank you for the great informative content you have created. I love it so much, I had to start from the beginning ❤
Thank you for sharing this entire conversation. I have felt crazy for so long and like I was asking for too much, but to hear you both articulate the respect you have for each other and how you care for each other and CONCIOUSLY and INTENTIONALLY showing each other. You both give me hope and have inspired me to continue working on myself in hopes to find someone who gives this to me so effortlessly. Was getting a lil discouraged and frustrated.
About the cleaning schedule. I was recently diagnosed with ADHD, but I also have anxiety and depression. Having a schedule is KEY and helps IMMENSELY. Anytime I ask my husband for help, he jumps in. He respects my brain and all that comes with it. I have been sick this entire week with the flu and he has been helping around the house so when I feel better I don't have a lot of catching up to do. Having a clean house and a routine has helped me mentally and physically. It has also improved our relationship so much. Finding a cleaning schedule and writing it down plus having daily tasks spelled out for me has helped me get the jumbled mess in my brain out onto a schedule. Life has been so much easier with a schedule and routine.
You two bring me so much joy to see that I’m not the only man to have such an awesome marriage. My wife treats me like a king, and I treat her like a queen. You two are such a good example!!! MUCH LOVE ❤️
Thank you both for doing this❤. I honestly feel more people need to hear this! My husband and I have been together almost 20 years an married young, an we do a lot of what your saying. Again just thank you again so much for doing this!
1st time viewer and listener, right off the bat thank you for sharing your own struggles in which we all can relate. I have been working on myself for a little bit now, but I'm learning a lot about myself and my new partner. What I feel is undeniable amazing. I want and will become that trusted partner, that I do believe we were brought together by a higher source and I want every minute with her, to learn, to know, to love. Kids are amazing and I'm really looking forward to learning more of them and become part of their life. Again thank you
I have a lot of the same feelings as your second emailer. I've always had this "independent woman" need in my brain. My husband has given me space to have this, but deep down I know he just wants to provide for me and take care of me, and have that in return. He has supported me in many jobs that I ultimately end up hating and has given me space to leave them. I just left an extremely toxic job and have been staying home taking care of him and the house. I have been happy and there have been many less suicidal thoughts and feelings of being miserable. Less stress, less fights, and I feel more productive. But, there is still that voice in my head that is rebelling because "you have to be independent" or thoughts of, "what if he leaves, what then?" So I live in a fear based state of preparing for things that will probably not happen. When I first found your videos today, I was triggered and had the same thoughts. "What did he do to her? She's being manipulated. She can't be happy. I hope he isn't hurting her. But, IS she happy? Or is this just for TikTok views?"I watched videos, I watched videos against your videos, I watched both accounts. I found nothing from my own fears. I found peace and love. Much like what your second emailer said. It's something I've been missing. I definitely have a lot of healing left, and my therapist has been amazing with this, but this is like another form of therapy. This has changed my mindset and views a lot in these few hours since I found you. The shift from fear to acceptance was a lot. This is what I need for my marriage and this is what I want for my marriage. I really appreciate you posting these videos to trigger growth and I really appreciate you for sharing your life with us. I'm excited to see my own growth with this channel. And my marriages growth 💕
Hi guys, I'm not sure if you'll actually see this or not but hopefully yes. I cannot tell you how impressed by your posts I am. I thought common sense, respect and valuing marriage was dead and to watch you guys gives me hope for this world. I love love love your content and even more the respect you two have for each other. My husband and I have been together for 11 years now and when I talk about the value of marriage, for respecting your spouse, submitting to them (aka trusting them), I'm looked at as old fashioned. I've learned a lot watching your posts and I'll be implementing the "removing his shoes" part because I never realized how just that one simple act can show so much respect. Thank you! I look forward to you both daily 🥰. Have a blessed day.
For starters this has a great message. Listening to y’all talk about accountability and admitting your short comings. I’m trying to get better at the things I’ve slacked off on in my previous marriage. I want to be the best person for my new relationship and just listening to you guys is helping.
You guys help my mindset so much. I have finally started to watch your RU-vid channel so I can better understand what you guys are saying in your tiktoks. Being a father of 5 is difficult and your words really help me look at specific situations in my life that seem to click the same in different ways. I hope yall have a great day and I want you to keep this up as long as possible
Love u guys stumbled across some reels on Facebook and just started watching your podcast. Has been a real eye opener and super helpful with My relationship with my fiancé. Aspiring and working on having the kind of open communication and relationship u guys have keep it up. It always brightens my days to watch the playful banter and good discussions u guys have.
I found your videos on TikTok at a time when I really needed something to help me. I watched multiple videos over weeks and now started watching your 2BB podcast today. I look forward to learning and growing from you.
I got here because of a RU-vid Short, where Peach said that a woman should never invalidate her mans' emotions. Now I almost finished listening to this podcast, and I have to say, it is golden! I now have some catching up to do
Loving the content. That last email was so emotional for me as my fiancé turned me onto your content because of her owning her past and wanting to do better. She has been following you guys and working on things from her past that she needs to resolve and while I feel like I have done a lot of the work I am still learning things listening to you all. She wants to take off my work boots when i get home now and I am taken aback a little by it but I am letting it happen and enjoying both of us taking on our roles and serving each other.
I too have a traditional home. I feel blessed to be where I’m at in life. We have got some roadblocks but through trust and communication we are figuring it out
Starting at the first episode and slowly making my way through the podcast. I’ve gained so much more respect for not only myself but my marriage also. Not having good role models growing up, you guys are officially the people I look up too, purely just from seeing the respect you both hold for each other.
I love you guys so much! I truly enjoyed the podcast! Me and my husband had a lot of growth needed but we are in a great place now after years of fighting and not taking accountability. I was immature for a long time too and would drink which would make things worse . 10 months sober Now. He cheated 4 years ago. But I got to a place where I took accountability there too. We have been together 11 years, married 6. We have 3 kids together. 6 and under. we have never been happier than we have been the past 3 years. It took 3 years of accountability, lots of growth, learning how to communicate but things are finally in a good place and we are so happy and in love. These tips will truly help us even more so thank youuuu! I’ve learned so much from you all! And yes when she said “one day you are going to be gone and I will miss picking up his laundry” that truly hit me . And another thing I say to myself when we have a heated disagreement is “ I want to be his peace and not his headache “ it has helped me a LOT too. Also good reminder that it’s me and him vs. the problem. :) thank you guys for the podcast and looking forward to more . You are helping more people than you know to be better❤❤
I love that “be his peace” plays in your head. It’s important during heated times to remember this is your person, that both of you remember that. You love one another and you want to solve not argue
You guys have great perception and communication and it really shows me how healthy accountability looks. This feels like a safe and trustworthy podcast
My husband and i just started listening to your podcast/watching your videos. I wanted to drop in and say that, not only do we have the same matching onesies, but its crazy how similar our personalities are. We have connected so well with what you are saying and we appreciate all of the content. You two have provided so many good talking points and we look forward to implementing the check ins.
I appreciate what you both are doing and contributing to a dying society. You guys are Relationship goals for sure! Once i decide to start dating again, i will direct a potential partner to your channel. This will hopefully help to align mindsets and guide me to the best partner for me. Thank you so much! I am now binging your entire channel
