2 Be Better Podcast Episode #02 

I just deep cleaned my whole kitchen while listening to this & time went by SO FAST. I was completely engaged in the conversation. I found myself replying as if I were an active participant, laughing at your jokes & gasping at the audacity written in the letter sent to you by the listener. Thank you for doing this. I get so much from your content. Not only am I learning so much about a healthy dynamic in relationships, but I'm also decompressing from work & I'm being productive because I'm cleaning things I've been putting off for a while. To put the cherry on top, I use the last 5 minutes of your podcast to stretch & do some light breathing exercises. You are both excellent. Please keep the podcasts coming!

Thank you for normalizing being with your partner 24/7. It’s so common to hear “oh I don’t care if he/she goes out I need a break sometimes” and here I am looking crazy for wanting to do everything with my partner

im single right now and choosing to do alot of work on myself cause iv hurt myself and partners in the past. im starting the podcast series from the beginning and taking what can help me grow and learn.

Came from tik tok and watch #1 and #2 podcasts all in one day. My wife and i are a year and a half passed the day she found out i cheated, i thank god and her every single day for her staying, we had to have some seriously deep and painful conversations and we still continue those deep conversations and im very primal and i have went back to chasing her and spending my energy on her and us. Listening to you two talk and recieving your message really shows that my wife and i are on the right path and gives me some other things to soul search on and work on myself while recieving her critiques and working on them. There are not enough words that i know that can express my gratitude for what you two have been doing and are doing. Will be a watcher of every single video that yall come out with. And i will be implementing some of your ideas and thoughts into the marriage to make sure we keep an open and honest dialog, thank you again

I want this relationship so bad, where I can openly talk and it's not going to come across as anything but a genuine response. Being patient is so hard.

One thing that helped me move on from my trauma was apologizing to myself. Letting myself know, I’m sorry to my soul for holding onto like it would help. It helped me allow myself grace.

As a 19 year old, I got so lost in what to expect in a future relationship. Traditional was demonized. God does this help. Thank you.

You guys both swone over each other and it's just great to see how you both act like teenagers in love with each other it's great

I'm currently working on my Masters in counseling and just had to create a social change portfolio for class based on a problem in my community. I picked my whole state. I live in Wyoming and we are ranked 5th for number of suicide in the state with men being the highest. I was shocked to find that in the nation per 100,000 people 22.9 were male while in Wyoming it was 53.9 and Wyoming does not have a large population. Hearing you both advocate for men being open about sharing their feelings is amazing to hear and it is appreciated.

I feel so *necessarily* called out. This is like a class I didn't know I needed but asked the universe for and I'm grateful but holy fuck lol. I never take notes but feel this is most certainly one of those things worth documenting the things that pop in while the convo goes on.

Kris being toasty and putting on her Snuggie is a fat mood 😂 love the content you two!

I came from TikTok during a time of self healing and learning what I actually want/need in a relationship and setting my boundaries ❤️

I came from tik tok and you guys made me realize how I want my relationship to be like because you guys just have so much compassion and respect for each other

I love how you touched on "work spouses" I have a few co-workers who have that type of relationships at work. They see nothing wrong with it or how it could be negatively impacting their relationship with their spouse. Sometimes people have issues without even realizing what the root of the issue is. Maybe you mentioning it will make someone take notice and do better!

To hear you as a traditional man say porn is cheating is so validating for me. I love your content. Thank you.

I been watching y'all's TikTok here and there the last few weeks,the wife and I of 18 yr have been having some troubles I think I'm gonna talk to her tonight about us sitting down and watching y'all's stuff together this is the first RU-vid I've listened to I think this is what we need..

I need that”what is expected of a gentleman” video

Me and my wife are at 3 years together 1.5 married, I recently was in the hospital for some health complications with my lungs and my wife and I haven’t been apart for more then a day or 2 since we got together (moved in 2 weeks into dating) and the amount we missed each others annoying things made us realize we have a wonderful marriage as I missed her for the annoyance not for the happy, i just have to say this podcast has made me feel amazing and I want to thank you both for speaking your truths and I will now binge all available podcasts

i relate so much with chris saying he can't speak when he's emotional (crying) because he'll go full-on ugly cry. i don't know what it is or what has caused this in me, but i avoid crying so much because my brain literally shuts off as soon as i start crying. i go to therapy, and i've cried in therapy. my therapist knows that when i start crying, she has to hand me a piece of paper and a pencil because i have thoughts and feelings but i cannot speak them out loud for whatever reason. i also do not believe crying is weak, it's a normal expression of emotion (and not just sadness: people cry from frustration and happiness too). but my body won't let me continue talking if the tears start flowing i also relate to both sides of the protection topic, because i feel it is my duty to protect my girlfriend, but i also like the feeling of being protected as well. of course i can stand up for myself, but shes a serious badass and i know she would protect me too, and that makes me feel safe and strong just as much as i want her to feel. when we walk on the sidewalk next to a street, busy or not, i make it a point that i walk closest to the road so there's a higher chance that she would not get as seriously hurt if a car lost control and drove onto the sidewalk. i also make it a point to hold her hand and keep her close in public so she knows if anything happens, ill know and be right there to keep her safe. however, she does other things that make me feel protected in times where my anxiety is going crazy as well. my personal belief in my relationship is that we are equally protective, and i personally wouldn't want to be the main protector or have her be the main protector, but i love the idea of protection, being on the receiving and giving end

I am new to your podcast and I am loving it. My husband and have a traditional marriage and are going on 18yrs of marriage. Our marriage has been through it and I will say that it was rough and D papers were filed. We were both unhappy when I let others influence me and allowed it to make me feel wrong for the traditional aspects of our marriage. Now that I have gone back to the basics and gave him back the respect and trust in leading our family we have been happier than ever. I needed to go back to me being the wife I wanted and all it fell back into place. I did it without expecting him to do anything first. I just allowed myself to be who I wanted to be for him even if it meant he wouldn't reciprocate. When I submitted to my role as his wife..... HE STEPPED INTO THE ROLE OF THE HUSBAND I CRAVED...again! Watching you two and seeing the mutual love, respect and honesty is the best. Love that I found you two.

I just came here to say, I go to my local gas station and the men there have like kinda grown to be good buds with me as like a customer and I just went and was talking about my relationship and he mentioned you guys and I’m so thankful to know and be here! ❤❤❤❤

Found you on Facebook and I take what I love and leave what I don't! I've loved a majority and sent it to my husband. You guys are awesome! Thank you for what you do!

Just watching y’all for fifteen minutes made me realize my communication is absolutely horrible and I’m most likely the reason my relationship is going so bad

Just started listening to this podcast and I’m here for the long haul now. This has already helped me become aware of all my short-comings and things I should be doing and haven’t been. Thank you.

Just got into this podcast! The idea of traditional values is something Ive wanted to bring up to my man and things I want to do with him. First episode she said something about one of the jobs she does is keeping the house nice for the whole family, but also herself. And taking care of herself for herself and for him. That hit me so hard. I got up and started cleaning since Ive been in a funk recently and my space has been a mess. (My man is moving in with me in a few months and Im in the process of getting the house ready for him.) This podcast is something I want to binge while I prep this space for our future life together. This is the man I want to marry and dedicate my life to. And Im ready to learn. Thank you guys so much for this content!

I like the idea of the report card. I have been trashed when I attempted to have this kind of conversation with all relationships I have had before my current one. I could and can do this with my current relationship. Great idea!!!

I LOVE YALL!! I came home on my lunch break listening to this episode, cleaned the house while my husband went to immunotherapy treatment. Him and I have five kids together we are 35 years old and very busy to say the least. We found ourselves lacking in some ways and are looking for ways to work on each other and work on ourselves to be better for each other! I have followed you guys on TikTok for a while and now that I found you on RU-vid, our 40+ hour drive coming up for spring break and the Vegas date is going to be a great time to listen, talk and absorb information! Thanks you both are amazing. I find myself nodding and answering out loud when you guys are discussing, I'm happy to see that majority of things you do for your wife my husband as well does for me. I am definitely lacking in giving up control, not being bossy.

I’m halfway through this after listening to all of episode 1 and cleaning my whole house while waiting for my amazing husband to come home. Our daughter is asleep, it was just me and her all day because my husband has had a crazy hard day at work. Listening to episode 1 and now this, I’m becoming so aware of my faults and shortcomings in our relationship, and I’m proactively thinking of so many healthier ways of handling/addressing his shortcomings. I’m taking notes on my bad behaviors and his good behaviors while listening to you two talk, and I’m so grateful to have been made aware of this podcast. Thank you both. I can’t wait to hear more of this.

I'm going through a very difficult time in my life. I came across a video on tik tok and instantly subscribed on RU-vid. I just wanted to let you both know that your words, your communication with each other, and your energies are helping me more than anything else ever has. Thank you.

I am so glad I came across your tiktoks. I have been following both tiktoks for awhile now and have yet to come across anything you've posted that I didn't love. I have started watching the podcasts from the beginning. I absolutely love watching the two of you for many reasons but I love how absolutely wholesome the moments you guys share - the genuine love and laughter is just amazing to me. 💛 Just wanted to share some love. Thank you guys so much for everything you do!

I want both of you to know since I started watching and listening to your podcast both of you have made a drastic impact on my life, especially when it comes to my way of thinking and seeing things not just towards myself but my partner as well. Accountability for our actions alone is one of the hardest things any of us can do, especially myself... But listening and watching you guys and the way you are with each other, the way you both accept each other is absolutely amazing, and something I wish for my relationship...

I just very recently found your channel and I am ever so grateful I have. I am not currently in a relationship but I am still listening to your podcasts and taking mental notes in hopes to better my chances at a successful marriage in the future should that opportunity come my way. I fully believe that had your channel existed a few years back it may have helped with my previous marriage had we both been willing to do the work. Thank you for being here. Thank you for being blunt when necessary. I love how the two of you work together and that kind of relationship is my relationship goal. 💗🕊️💗

the camera switch to peaches half way through Chris talking and she’s got the fuzzy hoodie on got me so good

Hey, I found your channel trough a short I watched, intrigued I tried a couple more and I've got to say that it's refreshing to see two grounded people sharing their honest opinion on relationships presumably from experience. I believe the tide is turning on the era of social media and I think you two are one of the front runners of this well needed change.

I have been watching your podcasts for about two weeks now, and have already shifted my perspective on how I handle my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 5 years, and in that time he has "done the work" internally to grow into a man I admire daily. Now I feel like it is my turn to do the work and hold myself accountable, to be a better wife for him. You two are helping me so much. Right now I am working two jobs on top of being a mother. So it is critical that I fortify my marriage as much as possible during the time I get with my husband and family. I work in a tattoo shop, as an apprentice, and I can already see some pitfalls for relationships in this industry. Your content really feels like a godsend during this critical time in my life. Thank you so much for doing what you do, and helping people like me.

I am only in the early days of watching your content, but I'm already grateful that I've found you, and shared you with my partner. I'm already learning new things about myself, and finding things that I need to do the work on. I like how practical the advice is that you give, very actionable and I can't wait to absorb more information from you both 🌹

I just want to say that I didn't realize how bad I was about throwing my boyfriends emotions in his face. And because of yalls podcast and the advise you give I'm working on that. I'm taking accountability for what I have done. And trying to do better moving forward. Thank you and please keep doing these podcasts because it's making a huge impact on my life and the way I see things.

I've been seeing clips on TikTok, finally decided to come to the full podcasts. Wanted to let you know I love this content and I hope it never stops. I'm much younger but I've only watched relationships fall apart either mine, or others within my life and this podcast helps me think about improving and give me a framework to do so, so thank you! 😊

This is my new obsession. My husband and I have been together for almost 5 years and there’s a 9 year age gap. The points you guys make about communication has blown my mind . These podcasts are shifting my perspective on my relationship. Thank you both

Absolutely love you guys. You’re setting the example for traditional relationships and so many men and women out there are benefiting from your level of maturity and understanding. Keep rocking y’all.

I have started watching you both from tik tok and now on youtube; I'm only on episode 2, and I thought I knew what a man was..I was wrong and I'll admit that. I am eager to continue watching and learning how to be better, because my fiancee deserves better than what I have been giving her. I'm not saying it's going to be a fast and be like a dream starting this road, but I want to be better and I want better for her.

I just recently started watching your talks and have found many similarities in my current relationship as what I see between you two. There is also alot of baggage with my current partner and myself that we are both working on. Our pasts made us feel like we had to put all of our negatives that we acknowledged or were told about on the table before we even went out on a date. I believe it has made us stronger. We are still new in our relationship, but it did move faster than either of us expected. In the past year, I got divorced, moved out, moved into an apartment that he moved into with me, got preg, had a miscarriage, went on a family vacation for a week, moved out of state together to be close to my family, work together in the same store, etc... I don't think all of these changes would have allowed us to be continue to be successful in our relationship if we didn't have talks like this. I am inspired by you both and have discussed with him about implementing some of your practices in with what we already do. Thank you so very much for everything you do! You are wonderful and it is amazing to be back of your group now.

"Your perception is not my reality " -- that hit . So . Deep.

1:16:54 it’s probably pretty rare to find someone with traditional values at mine and my boyfriends age I’m 25, and He’s 22. But I am thinking I hit the jackpot to find someone around my age that Works his butt off at a blue collar job, and had traditional Values. He makes me feel very safe, he’s very emotionally mature. We aren’t married yet, nor do we live together yet. But I would like to say that once we do and once we are. We are going to have a very healthy traditional Marriage. 🥰 I love listening so far and I’m only two episodes in, but I’m hoping that from listening I will learn more for when we are ready to take those steps.

I have seen your tiktoks so many times. Just started at episode 1 on RU-vid. I have so much respect for the work you are doing together to create the life you both want and to be an example that others can build the same. Keep that shit up 👍👍👍

You guys may feel this episode was a miss, as mentioned, but I found this one to be really awesome. It touched on a lot of things that my fiance and I (10 years) have had miscommunication and issues with and we actually went over some of it together and I intend on going over the whole thing. We actually had a little moment talking about why he doesn't like marriage (yes we are still getting married in September so that's a good sign, he's been doing work for a year). So thank you for this one. Embrace the "near win" on this one. Because this may not have met YOUR mark but it met plenty of marks for others

I love how he is always apologizing to his mother. He is such a gentleman. I need one of those in my life not just for myself but also for my children.

my husband I are working through the content, & planning our 1st check in this coming week. things are a bit tight financially at the moment, but one of the things on the list is paying the patreon as soon as it's possible, y'all literally popped up when we really needed to hear a lot of the things you had to say. Thank you.

Really wish I knew about yalls podcast a year ago. Might of helped save my marriage. It's better late than never i suppose to learn about how to be better in a relationship. Yall are definitely better than therapy.

Adore you both. Until recently I had only watched your videos on TikTok. I’m so happy I am taking the time to really sit down and listen to you both! Watching/listening to your podcast I get the entire conversation from a snippet. I’ve asked many of the questions you’ve addressed and I’m learning more about myself as well as my fiancé since I’ve started watching. Thank you both

I found you all on TikTok and started listening to your podcasts here. There is so much I want to do and try with my husband because of you. I am going to be a better wife, partner, parent, and person because you all are in my pocket with great advice and have given me hope. My relationship is not stale, beginning, or falling apart, but I am ready to make it even better because you all make me want to! Thank you!!!

lol, I like that! Seeing two different times and realizing what you’re looking at is called being human; I like the realization that happened

Pineapple!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣 y’all called me out! 😂

💛 “ anything that is not constantly growing or changing is stagnant or dead”

The email with the 25yos really hit close to home! I got with my hubs at 14 and him 15. We had our 1st at 20 and him 21. We got married at 21 and 22. We now have 5, oldest is 10 and youngest is 1.5. It took him till literally this last year (the end of 22 to now) to really grow into the man I've seen glimpses of over the years. We've had plenty of growing pains, bumps in the road, and rough patches. We're still learning and growing but coming across your tik toks were so helpful!!! I've been a SAHM for going on 7yrs and he's always been amazing about providing financially for our family but struggled with the other parts. And we would yo-yo, we’d have a fight it'd get better for a bit then fall into old ways. Over and over. I started with holding myself more accountable and he took that lead and really seen how much better things were! And has actively been making more effort himself. Being home with the kids and I (he'd go to his mom's alot), actively spending more time with me, working on his view of him needing to be more then just a financial provider, and actually planning dates and such.

I think one way a woman can get that reassurance of whether or not he’s capable of defending you is by communicating “in these scenarios I get anxious and I don’t feel safe, if we were together what would you do in those scenarios if something to happen?” Then let him talk out the scenarios and hopefully put your mind at ease. An added benefit to doing it this way is you’ll be on the same page should any of these situations arise.

The amount of times that I have looked at a screen shot and read the wrong time then immediately panicked are too many to be proud of.

I just want to chime in, I'm a single mom and just landed myself a GOOD man. A Godly man. HE actually introduced me to your podcast!! I'm so excited to have your knowledge on how to have a healthy relationship while going into this new chapter. I'm excited for my girls to have such an amazing male figure in the home. Because like one of your snippets says, kids need a father figure IN the home. 100% Thank you for sharing yourselves in order to help others, you are absolutely helping more people then you know!!!

Just wanna say started seeing y'all on tiktok last night I've only watched episode one so far started this one but I'm not even married nor in a relationship at all but I've loved everything that I've heard so far and feel like might be getting a headstart on things on top of learning from past things to work on better so thank you guys keep it up

I'm not in a relationship and haven't been for 10 years. But if and when I am in another relationship, it will be no less than like y'all's. I admire you both!!

Thank you for the honest conversations. Because of you guys I realized that my boyfriend is everything that you guys tell a real man is, and I need to put in the work to be his peace. I had therapie for my trauma but there is still a lot of dirty work needed to be done. Thanks to you all, I found the courage and strength to go the those lenghts for me and him.

I am new to the podcast. Coming from TikTok! I love it. You guys are amazing!!! I wish more people understood not going out without your partner so much

You guys truly are making my life better. This podcast is helping me reflect on things I learned in college as a communications major. It’s helping me in my personal relationships. It’s helping me be accountable for myself and my actions but also help me learn more about my partner. I sent this podcast to him, I’m excited for him to listen to you guys as well! Thank you for all that you do! Y’all are truly amazing 💖 stay blessed

Being demasculized by showing emotion is one the hardest indoctrinations I've fought to overcome in my life. The impact of that reaches not only in himself but also in his reaction to your emotional states. (Projecting) I find it very difficult in "reactive emotion" and it always comes across as uncaring. "it's not that i'm not giving care to the fact you were caught in the rain for 3 hours because of my choices, it's that I feel 20× worse because after the realization that I failed you, I now have the thought, "I failed myself in my role as protector, and I'm fighting myself in that. To show that, it not only falls into the propagation of "He's a quitter, he's not a man if he's not got over it by now" but now I come to you with my issue on the subject of you getting caught in the rain, and suddenly I'm saying, "it didn't happen to you it happen to me."

I know that this is just an old very old episode of the podcast, but I just wanted to say, that you can just turn off the notifications for the emails on your watch, so you can still have the watch function and not have to take it off to speak with your wife... Turning off notifications for certain maps is very useful sometimes for mental health etc just turning off email notifications for hours a day as amazing.... Sorry for the edit and the weird words I'm kind of sick and I'm stuck also using voice to text and my eyesight's a little blurry I didn't catch that first goof

A work wife/husband needs its own clip. 👌🏻 it’s not said enough.. people find me crazy when I mention that its not okay. I’ve been called jealous, crazy, controlling before. Which is interesting enough to me. I’d love to send them the clip of just what y’all said about it.

Omg when yall talk about being a gentleman I get so many emotions. I'm seeing why my man of 7 years does this kind of stuff, it makes me so thankful. He doesn't get super deep with his emotions but he likes telling me in his gentleman actions. I definitely asked him to chill on opening doors for me but there are times that he will get to the door first to still open it for me. Thank you for doing this podcast it's so helpful ❤

Eye contact, is so important, too. Theres nothing worse than trying to have a vulnerable or difficult concersation with your partner's back!

In regards to getting over trauma and holding yourself accountable. Something that I heard (on TikTok) that really clicked for me and allowed me to understand being accountable for your actions and your triggers due to trauma is thinking of trauma as a physical wound; a cut. You did not ask to be cut open by another person, it is not "fair" that that happened to you. However, now that it has happened and you are bleeding it is your responsibility to take care of that cut and not let yourself bleed on other people. Some cuts are really bad and require stitches (aka therapy) some cuts can be taken care of with a little first aid at home. It does not matter the severity of the cut, it is your responsibility to do what you have to do to stop that cut from bleeding so that you do not bleed on other people. Especially a new partner who has never cut you. This is still something I struggle with, but if you are someone being held up on "well how else besides accountability?" Accountability really just means taking ownership of your responsibility to heal yourself after a trauma. In my opinion.

🥹 I'm here from the shorts. Scrolled all the way to episode 1 to soak up every second of this. Yalls conversations are so healing to me ❤❤❤ much respect and love to you both.

So i just want you guys to know (which I am sure you hear all the time) when I am listening to you I feel like I am in a room with friends. My husband (love him to death high school sweethearts) doesn't see things the way you (or I) do. At least not so much anymore. He was raised in a family that the wife was the home maker and the husband did the working. But sadly his dad was one that did it low with no room for growth so they were always put out or not well set. He tired to do the "you should be at home not working" thing with me but I was raised to be strong and no one is going to take care of you if you can't do it yourself. So I worked and I still do. I am working 2 jobs currently. But I see things the way you do. I agree with everything you guys talk about. I have tried to get him to watch and I think that he take offence that I want him to watch. I am trying to learn how 2 Be Better by watching and listening. But I don't feel he cares. We have some issues that I wish not to blast all over the net but I just wish that he would try more like he use to. But if I try to talk to him at all about it some how I am attacking him and he starts a fight then tries to turn the blame on me. Tells me I complain all the time even though I am just trying to tell him how I feel.... I need to stop. I guess maybe I should just email you.... LOL

My boyfriend of 6+ years and I just had the conversation about the bar/nightclub situation recently. I went out to catch up with a gal pal I hadn't seen in a few months. What was meant to be an hour or two tops, turned into 3.5 hours (only one alcoholic beverage and then water). But my boyfriend worried. He knew I didn't do anything while I was out, but he didn't like the environment that I was in. He expressed concern about me being in that environment and basically feels the same way that the two of you do. I had never thought about it in that light, but as soon as he did, I was like yeah, I get it!! And the lightbulb just went off

I came here because of tiktok, I never had the app until my husband asked me so he could send me videos that made him think of me or us, and little did I know I'd find a form of therapy from YOU GUYS. So I'm getting caught up on your full content. Just thank you. Please realize you help so many people. Thank you.

Found you guys on TikTok and watched episode 1 yesterday so now off to this episode 2. You are both phenomenal people. Im single now and working on my own growth and even after episode 1 I already feel that much closer to peace. Love y’all and keep going!!

40:43 I for the longest time could never see a benefit to getting married, I’d only ever seen marriages end poorly and hurt everyone involved, or weaponized. The idea of marrying someone always felt like saying “I don’t think this will actually last and this way you won’t leave because you’ll be punished if you do.” But that was until I saw a post asking if you can have a wedding without a priest. For context, I’m not particularly religious due to past traumas, and someone had replied to the post saying you can have a wedding without a priest and without even getting legally married. And the idea of being with someone and agreeing to be life partners and having a celebration for it without bringing in somebody else’s rules really made everything click into place for me, and I could truly want that. A wedding where we don’t agree to someone else’s rules or promise someone else anything, we just make the choice to be together and celebrate that choice, that sounds worth doing and a memory I would cherish forever, and something I hope I can have one day.

OMG!!! Pineapple is our safe word!!!

I am so happy for y’all!! Keep inspiring us with your loving and intellectual relationship!

Being told that I am not in entitled to half of what we grew together while married because I didn’t make as much as him after being together for almost 18 years was horrible. I always felt like he felt that way about me throughout the relationship and marriage but hoped that it wasn’t true. Hearing that another women had to deal with that makes my heart hurt. Praying that she is happy and thriving and know that she is worth more than she can imagine.

I just absolutely love you two! Thank you so much for starting this podcast! I found you two on tiktok but recently deleted it because I’m tired of the time I’m wasting it. I watched ur most recent video now have been back to pod1 & I’m just so beyond grateful for finding the two of you! I’ve shared with my bff & my husband. It’s so informative yet fun and playful. The love you two have for one another is absolutely beautiful ❤

I found you guys in TikTok I just started listening to the podcasts I'm listening and watching all these I'm only on the #2 and I've all ready learned so many things that I never thought I needed to know. Communication is a key thing for me in a relationship and this hit so close to home. Thank you guys for this it's amazing.

My long term partner of 11yrs this Monday actually just purposed to me this past March he waited til he could afford the ( most beautiful) ring he thought I deserved. But we have been spiritually married Years we have a beautiful 5yr old and home. We are lucky❤

This one made me ugly cry. I am very recently from my husband. We were married for 15 years, together 17. In 2019, he had an affair. He would throw that affair up in my face when he was mad at me. He admitted that he would cry with her talking to her about my and his relationship. The comment about your crying with each other hurt my heart in a way I hadn't expected. In none of the time we were together would he allow himself to be that vulnerable in front of me. We even had a discussion about this a few years into our relationship. I love that you guys have started 2 Be Better! I am learning a lot about myself. It isn't easy but I very much need you guys to continue! Thank you both from every part of me!

I love the check in idea this is brilliant thankyou for sharing. Also your wife's face when you said were the Chris's she beemed her smile was beautiful like so proud and happy I love that.

I absolutely love the fact the the D word is not used my wife and I are the same way that word is an absolute no go!! “Contracts” expectations are a perfect way to lay out a solid platform for a relationship

I really want this with my husband is good communication, accountability and validation.

I always feel better watching your videos bc I feel like I can work on me and do my part to the best of my ability and no matter what happens at the end of the day I can say I did my part, hopefully that anything in life that is going on can be fixed due to me just setting the example of doing my part and inspire whatever whoever to do their part and be able to fix anything. In the event it doesn’t fix the problem there is some peace knowing I’ve done all I can do ❤

I feel the same way, when i die i wanted those you come to see me say, she was a good person and did everything she could to help anyone even when she was down.

One thing I really love about this is your shout out to the less physically strong protector. As a man you don't have to be able to kick someone's ass to protect your partner or family. I feel more secure around someone with a good sense of how to behave in stressful situations, than I ever could with someone who believes their muscles can and will fix everything.

Jordan B Peterson also said something like.... be a monster but have it under voluntary control. He's brilliant.

Bring Jordan Peterson on your podcast! That would be amazing!

To the girl whos partner of 9 years.. been there done that and I ended up hurt badly. Gather yourself and go take care of YOU all its doing is damaging yourself and the kids! His actions speak words he wont! Make an exit strategy and put the actions to it!

Just found this, the predefined words, my hubby and I had different definitions for decompress, and we talked it out and even though we still have different definitions for it we understand what the other is saying when we say it.

I love the side walk rule. I love that nudge, that touch of move over this way and it’s such a protector move. ❤ love y’all’s content

In regard to the 25yr olds..... The young man is not going to change without professional therapy. The young lady has the awareness of his issues or differences that clearly state they are not on the same page. She has the "awareness" of knowing she cannot "fix" him and or can only work on herself. The question to ask herself is: why stay in a relationship that has shown you what it is and what it is not? It is not wise to procreate and bring children into the preexisting issues. Love yourself and him enough to let go.

The moment I knew my relationship would fail was about a year in when I got attacked by a pit bull and he stayed in the vehicle. At first I thought he didn't see what was going on but then we made eye contact and I knew. I needed help and he failed me. Suddenly I realized he wasn't the man I thought he was. About a year later things started going down hill. We moved into a house he owns and began fighting all the time because he was being irresponsible. He wasn't paying bills on time or fixing things around the house. In the first two years of our relationship he was awesome. He would open my door, stick up for me if someone was disrespectful, work, pay bills, play with my kids, etc. He completely changed. It was so sad . Now I'm completely over it and can't wait to get my own place.

I seriously love you guys!!! I was in a 7 year relationship prior to the one I am in now and I’m a very much a traditional wife / partner! My ex was very manipulative and toxic and I wish I could have heard you these videos years ago! I’m literally watching every long video first then when I’m all updated to your newest long episode im gunna go back and watch all the smaller ones! You guys make me want to be a better fiancé to my new partner and god dam you guys speak what I think so many times❤

I stopped commenting on social media because it was stealing my peace, but I really wanted to say that I love you guys and you're awesome.

This video especially about the work wife section has opened my eyes soooo much. Little background i had a boyfriend and a best friend now both ex boyfriend and ex best friend ( im in a great relationship now fyi lol ) but that conversation made me realize how much drama i created going to her about my relationship issues that helped not make the end of that relationship happen. But thank you it was honestly a relief to start noticing those things now and understanding it was also my fault.

In the first podcast she had a cough too and I absolutely love how neither of you apologized. I am an over apologizer. And you said we need to get over it, you are 100% correct. I just lived that part and had to say it

I am so excited to show this podcast to my husband ! we are always looking for new ideas and ways to work towards our best marriage im really enjoying finding this