3 rules for better work-life balance | The Way We Work, a TED series

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Have you answered a work email during an important family event? Or taken a call from your boss while on vacation? According to behavioral scientist and Harvard Business School professor Ashley Whillans, "always-on" work culture is not only ruining our personal well-being - but our work, as well. She shares which bad habits are stopping us from getting what we need out of our free time and three practical steps for setting boundaries that stick.
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@lifeeun1180 3 года назад

I've been working with my dad for 3 years. My dad is literally my boss. We always talked about work AFTER work. I was getting stressed out without noticing. At some point, i started smoking and staying outside of home during weekend. We started having a really bad relationship due to disagreements. I decided to move out from my parents home and things sorted out. I was able to run away from 24 hours working enviroment and now im good and we are good. Im happy that i have my own time and space even though im spending a lot of money for renting.

@emilylyons5608 3 года назад

1) find an employer that values you as a human being

@takomozzarella 3 года назад

Michael Scott

@knock-knockwhosthere9933 2 года назад

Slackers: Where do I sign up?

@ghdhfgh6125 2 года назад

@@knock-knockwhosthere9933 that word took me back almost 12 years

@ThanosSofroniou 2 года назад

There's a better chance for an asteroid to fall

@Jim-ri7jx 2 года назад

@@ThanosSofroniou εξαρτάται τη χώρα φίλε μου

@serene9532 2 года назад

1) reframe rest 2) set team goals for personal time 3) negotiate for more time

@vegetossgss1114 Год назад

Your third point is really important. Work is important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

@War-Jac 3 года назад

I love how "work culture" is strictly defined as office work. Almost none of this applys to service or manual labor jobs.

@SugarRushan 3 года назад

Sadly yes. But if you’re in school this applies !

@peterrhines1516 3 года назад

Interesting point

@AhmedAbdullah-me5xb 3 года назад

And we all know who does the real work 💪

@Nuzjal 2 года назад

And the usefulness of these recommendations depends not only on your occupation but, even more, on the social-politic environment, in which you live.

@ashleyrossgoingmerrily 2 года назад

Have you written down your lifestyle goals so you know what your ideal boundaries are for your home life while either building your business or looking for work?

@crylikeachild92 3 года назад

I have been burned out since starting WFH. Colleagues have set call meeting or contacted on my weekends, the managers have given the deadlines to work throughout the weekends. My private life has been interrupted by work. This video encourages me to be stronger to take back my time. Thanks much.

@oeillade 3 года назад

These are all great tips if you already work in a place that's pretty reasonable and values you highly as a worker. Many people would be labelled as "slow" or "lazy" or be told they need to "say yes more" if they did this. Great if you can do this without threatening your job though, but I wouldn't say typical.

@ianrobert6073 3 года назад

That's great, Sometimes we need to get our minds off negativity and just motivate ourselves, If you dwell on your failures you will end up not achieving your dreams, take a chance and try something new.

@bartonjeffs9439 3 года назад

Markets are constantly in a state of uncertainity and flux and money is made by discounting the obvious and betting the unexpected"-George Soros

@ellajackson.2125 3 года назад

I use to take money from the bank for survival but after trading with her my financial status changed for real

@francoadonis3802 3 года назад

The pandemic is far from over and a second market crash is inevitable. Proper consultation in these troubled times is in order, the best time to invest was 2008-2010 the second best time is now.

@debbiegerrard8115 3 года назад

Yep!!! I agree 100%

@debbiegerrard8115 3 года назад

2021 online stock is just difficult and unbelievable, I'll rather invest my money on crypto

@DemetriPanici 3 года назад

Even though I work from home, something I often do is force myself to stop working to take a "water cooler break". Or I'll just drop to the floor and start doing pushups

@gabrielle6706 3 года назад

I do the same except squats! Helps stay energized 😊

@vegetossgss1114 Год назад

Excellent haha!

@darranporter4637 3 года назад

This is ideal and the science is sound. But do be aware that you can easily be replaced by someone who IS prepared to do the extra hours, because there's a million people for your corporation to choose from to step right into your shoes. This is the reality. The culture of fear and insecurity instilled in us by our leaders of commerce/industry needs to be addressed to feel safe enough to put in boundaries on our personal time.

@eunjichoi8406 Год назад

I totally agree with this! well said

@gorgeousredheadedlawyer 6 месяцев назад

Just because someone else has no self-worth and doesn’t care about working off the clock doesn’t mean employers ought to be enabled in that. Eventually word will spread about that abusive workplace and no one will work there so then the business will collapse. The job itself and customer satisfaction doesn’t happen without happy employees. See Wal-Mart as a prime example.

@t41l 3 года назад

"Won't check email between 6 and 8 pm". How about I won't check email between 5 pm and 8 am?

@ko1129 3 года назад

They add up to people quitting their jobs

@gigarevazashvili1167 3 года назад

Oh my Lord!!!! I am really grateful to this Ma'am for the video about optimizing the working process. While I was watching this video, I found the answer to why Russians are so sad and aggressive. It is very simple - merely they don't know what means to relax in their day-offs and vacations - their minds are always stuck in the issues of regulating their everyday activities, handling everything just in time (with yellings, swearing, and nervosity). In brief, the ability to relax and distract yourself in your spare time - is one of the real guarantees of your success. And hello to Adam Grant with his "languishing" and his tips about changing mindset))))

@andrewaupositivepsychology 3 года назад

Simple yet profound words of wisdom. Now onto applying them.

@maymm4563 Год назад

Exactly I like it applying them👍🏻

@aduad 3 года назад

Once I clock out I NEVER answer any emails period...don't even have work email on my phone...yes I've worked some weekends to meet a deadline but that's the exception not the rule...maybe it's just me but this is non negotiable unless the company gonna pay me extra for my off hours service.

@tiresamercruy8206 4 месяца назад

Thank you for this. Some helpful tools to use. When you're passionate about your work you find it more hard to switch off. But now I realize the importance of resting and valuing time to reduce stress and a more balanced lifestyle.

@AdventureTimeLoui Год назад

I had a boss that expected me to answer instantly to text messages at ALL hours. If I didn't respond instantaneously they'd proceed to spam text and call me multiple times. One day I had awful cramps on a day off and was taking a nap for two hours. I woke up to ten texts and multiple calls. Needless to say I put my two weeks in the next day. I can't think of anything that is that urgent in a non-emergency that can't be left until work hours. I think in the hiring process we need to be interviewing the supervisor as well. Find out if they implement any of these rules in their own lives. If not, the job is not worth it imo.

@buikhanhlinh1145 3 года назад

So this is the voice i have listened everyday in Ted-ed ?!

@Itsyourhoneysharma 2 года назад

I have seen better days. Sometimes life is hard to take and it gets harder to take it all alone. But I am not alone! I have dreams to chase and melodies to surpass the dark days. I have limitless space to unfold my true potential. I'm the one who needs no one to fire up. 'Cause I'm strong and I have a mind which is positively wired up.

@abcd-fy1di 2 года назад

Just started a new job and after come back home. All I could think is the things that I need to complete tomorrow. Though I feel well rested during the weekends, by once Monday comes, the cycle repeats.

@zatiemohd01 11 месяцев назад

I wholeheartedly agree with the importance of maintaining a healthy work-life balance. Work-life balance is of paramount importance in today's fast-paced world. Employers must recognize that it directly impacts their employees' well-being and overall job satisfaction. Striking a balance between work and personal life is crucial for mental and physical health, productivity, and job retention. Employers should actively support their workforce in achieving this equilibrium by implementing flexible schedules, promoting remote work options, and encouraging time-off policies. When employees can maintain a healthy work-life balance, they are more motivated, engaged, and better equipped to contribute to their organizations' success.

@Yakamatsup 11 месяцев назад

This so simple, but brilliant. I'm implementing boundaries, blocking my calendar and increasing healthier habits. BTW, read the study on taking your phone to the bathroom. Yeah, you are shortening your life with that habit, worried about being prompt to emails and texts. BS! and you maybe causing digestive issues. OK, off to set boundaries. Thank you for this talk!

@xyzv8640 3 года назад

I really like her mimic and gestures. Greetings fellow humans 🙋‍♂️🇩🇪

@pilouuuu 3 года назад

Very good tips! It's great that Allison Mack finally found balance.

@internetandlifehacks 3 года назад

Valuable advice, thanks a lot!

@DrRebeccaHeiss 3 года назад

Great video! Creating, communicating, and upholding boundaries are SO important to not only this, but other areas of our lives as well.

@aname8864 3 года назад

Naro Naro...moiki najaribi...Naro Naro...hotel to Momo Chow khabo ahibi...moi naja bo...moi naja bo

@NinaNaculangga 3 года назад

I love this talk. Thanks.

@Mratta911 3 года назад

Great subject matter!

@renewii 2 года назад

😢😰It's so sad to watch this clip because it validates the point Byung Chul-Han said in his book The Burnout Society something like "Even the rest hours are seen as part of the work and free time should be productive in this perfomance society".

@lakep7798 2 года назад

So off-topic, but her voice is so soothing!

@JogBird 3 года назад

2:24 youre welcome

@itzbianca347 3 года назад

Wonderful! TED always surprise us with quality content!!

@alparslankorkmaz2964 3 года назад

Nice video.

@maymm4563 Год назад

Wonderful information on how we can be more productive in work and manage your time also how to deal with your time in order to be happy and rest if you take time off.I loved how she said not only reframe rest also reclaim it👍🏻

@faydulaksono 2 года назад

1. reframe rest 2. set team goal 3. negotiate your time 👍🏻

@جلالمرعي-ف1ت 10 месяцев назад

يااااليلاه اجل الكلام هذه اجله اجله

@giftxpress2795 3 года назад

Great tips, thank you.

@anthonytan6707 3 года назад

Most of the management team don't care as long as their bonus is there every year.

@elianasmith6330 2 года назад

Marvelous work! The video is brilliant and provides all the necessary information. I like this site. Thanks for sharing this useful post. Thanks for the effective information.

@hienho320 3 года назад

It's such a difficult task to have a work-life balance for a long time. I tried it, but it lasted just a few days and back to the way it was then. How can I maintain it everyday?

@vegetossgss1114 Год назад

Work is important for us and for the overall society. However, working 5 days a week during 40 years or more is too much. 2 centuries ago, life span was much lower, so the comparison to old times is not relevant. I'll definitely say that youngsters want a better work/personal balance and more free time to enjoy life (and participate to the economy through consumption, as stores, cinemas and restaurants usually make most of their sales during the week end). That's why the best answer, in my humble opinion, is to propose to all workers the possibility to switch toward a 4 days week work, as some European countries are currently experimenting. This should concern blue collar jobs as well as white collar jobs, even in prestigious industries such as consulting and finance. This 4 days a week schedule can take different forms, and result in a reduction of the monthly salary, or not. Personally, I would easily accept a stimulating and challenging job with a 4 days per week schedule, even if I have a 20% lower compensation. It is worth it, and I'll be highly motivated in the long run.

@brianstone4459 3 месяца назад

Maintaining a work life balance for a long time is accomplished similar to setting any other new goal, you develop a new habit by practice and self discipline. You cannot rely on doing it when you feel motivate, because motivation is inconsistent, but discipline is steady. Build the habits of balance by practice. What you will realize after some time with being consistent is that your new habits are getting you consistent results. Stick with it, or you might quit just before you win.

@alifz2223 3 года назад

Idk how time works. Sometimes it's so fast, I didnt accomplish more task. Few things like period cramp, stomachache. I dont understand why I took longer time to finish simple things.

@softsophisticate Год назад

Yes, time is funny, when you are having fun it flies by, waiting for a bus for 5 minutes seems to take forever, as does the last 5 minutes at the end of a work day when you want to go home.

@antoniobarrullrodriguez868 7 месяцев назад

Implementing comprehensive wellness initiatives enhances employee well-being, fostering a positive workplace culture that correlates with heightened productivity and work quality. Strategic investments in wellness programs, coupled with the cultivation of a supportive atmosphere and emotional aid, contribute to the establishment of a resilient and sustainable work environment over the long term.

@givergiver8640 2 года назад

Reframe rest 2. Negotiate 3. Set time goals

@ligidaykurin9106 2 года назад

Thanks a lot

@aliahmad070 2 года назад

Control yourself self at relaxing level then you have to see more creatively in yourself 💯

@triyantoprabowo8996 3 года назад

It Will never happened in an Asian company, btw I'm Indonesian, and here employer demands the employee to be available online 24 hours a day.

@samdanieljabaselvan3852 3 года назад

Useful video😃

@sairam332 3 года назад

So when do we get better at what we do? Like Up skilling or indepth study. Is it ok to relax and pass time on weekends and holidays. And just do office work on weekdays? Then how do we achieve mastery in our domain?

@Lizzmorales Год назад

YES! By taking time to reset, you can come back fully energized !

@francishandscomb8108 Месяц назад

I know work 4 days a week best thing I did as I was working about 11.30 hours a inculding travel

@AdeAde0224 Год назад

Great video

@sansgene 3 года назад

I put my phone on airplane mode whenever possible, and I know my boss hates it but it is my day off...

@shamsosman1649 2 года назад

Interesting talk. However, planning your weekends and time off seems too strict for free time and relaxation. How about taking a different approach by changing our mindset? I think if we would view our time off from a different perspective, i.e. deserved relaxation time, quality time for oneself or quality time with friends and family, then we'd go about more relaxed and/or happily with our relaxation time than if we plan it (and worse would be if we don't follow the plans we set for our relaxation time and feel bad due to a job not accomplished!), you know what I mean?

@souravghosh1107 11 месяцев назад

One thing that I hate to say to family members and friends is that I am always swamped under with work. Everyone should spend time with families and friends rather than indulge in work 24 hours.

@hiepkhach789 2 года назад

Thanks help me

@dzecka Год назад

Hello there! Nice video

@dzecka Год назад

Hello there! Nice Channel

@PawSpective_Lee Год назад

When I watched this movie, it was my teacher who said:" We have a class that says 3 rules for better work-life balance" for our next class. So I got this. For me, I think it seems too hard to make it true because if your country's work culture is 996, it is one style of 9:00 am we go to the office, and 21:00 we go home, the worst is people have to work 6 days a week. Totaly 72 hours a week for these people you know. Someone adapts to the situation, the people got the gain thing. People never know they have no money, and they just have time, what a bad life for him. How do you think so?

@j01150126 Год назад

For every hour I work over 9 hours is an hour I don't work during my normal work day. I just peel it off the next work day, and nobody has said a word about it.

@deadboy164 3 года назад

Everyone's urgent has different meaning.

@PixelPioneer176 11 месяцев назад

Fantastic work! If this topic is your jam, consider picking up a book that delves deeper. "Dominating Your Clock: Strategies for Professional and Personal Success" by Anthony Rivers

@MacPhersonHerman 3 дня назад

968 Nathanial Corners

@ecomusichannel 3 года назад

Employees are watching this ted, but where are the employers?

@njott1021 3 года назад

That's cool... But how about professions like teaching, where my girlfriend needs to do some work 7 days a week so she isn't swamped...

@Blue_3rd Год назад

I’ve never heard ‘feel free to slack me’ before. I can guess the meaning but is that a new slang from the US?

@chanbricks4461 3 года назад

Schools after watching this:

@invox9490 3 года назад

Learn to say "No"... Not an agressive "no", but a polite "no".

@motalibhossain1338 2 года назад

I think this is a power stuff.

@matthewciuccio4973 2 года назад

Hi NCLE!

@davidzaldua 3 года назад

i watch another 3 videos in the mid time of this video :(

@xyzv8640 3 года назад

😅 Try harder next time 😝

@Thomas-1023 7 месяцев назад

I'm absorbed in this content. I had the privilege of reading something similar, and I was absorbed. "Dominating Your Clock: Strategies for Professional and Personal Success" by Anthony Rivers

@larissaoliveira-lp8ok 2 года назад

totally off topic but she looks so much like the singer Marianne Faithfull...

@HitsukiHel 3 года назад

Alright, ignore your boss' urgent messages, say you have a family dinner, get fired, and you'll have all the time there is to spend with your family. You don't really need that money, do you.

@gorgeousredheadedlawyer 6 месяцев назад

Dropping something last minute that could have been handled earlier is NOT an emergency. People don’t need to be rewarded for their failures to plan including clients who didn’t bother to pay for services they knew they needed but waited until the last second to try getting. Unless you’re a medical provider or work in a utility company (where you know the requirements before taking that job), it’s not an urgent matter to get a cup of coffee or be made to act like the owner for zero equity.

@Yassinomari75 3 года назад

She's amazing, anyone has her name or ig pls

@dashen7047 3 года назад

Tell this to any healthcare worker and watch them laugh

@joash4332 3 года назад

You guys have work?

@jackiechan27 2 года назад

Who was this speaker??

@killxAyush 3 года назад

We asked....*Maulana sahib,* who will go to heaven, Hindu or Christian? Maulana -- only *Muslim* he said (angry tone) OK, which Muslim? --- *Shia or Sunni.?* Maulana immediately spoke --- *Sunni of course.* I asked Maulana --- There are 2 classes in Sunni. which of them? *Muqallid*, ya non-muqallid.? Maulana immediately spoke-- *Only mukallid will go!* I asked again ---- Yes, there are *four in Mukallid.* Who among them will go to heaven? Maulana said very leisurely ---- *only Hanafi*, who else? Then I asked Maulana --- Yes, but in *Hanafi there are both Debbandi and Barelvi,* then who among them will go to heaven? Maulana replied----- "Brother, only my *Debabandi* are entitled to go to heaven. I then said --- thank you very much, but Maulana sahib..... even in debbandi there are 2.... *Hayati and Mamati* So who among them will go to heaven? After this Maulana saheb used abusive words and walked away.

@newsmailextra4793 Год назад

Someone said it doesnt apply to manual labour but manual labour doesnt require you to have degree or utilize mind like white collar does

@gorgeousredheadedlawyer 6 месяцев назад

And when they are off the job site, they get to stay off instead of being demanded to do work off the clock when they aren’t owners.

@barbz6423 2 года назад

Says the woman with no kids. Nothing wrong with her suggestions, but better yet, unionize. Support workers. Managers will benefit as well.

@meyercamden 3 года назад

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

@TylerPerry827 3 года назад

Basically none of this is helpful if you work in the service, healthcare, or non-office jobs

@a67tejaskhandale99 2 года назад

This makes no sense for Freelancers, we get messages at any time, even in the middle of the night 🙁

@mrrishiraj88 3 года назад

👍👍

@ronalddancaliva883 3 года назад

That's why in the next generation companies will use robots as their employees

@НастяЮзвак 2 года назад

cognitive video super

@chriscurry2195 Год назад

I really dislike how we have to centre our lives around work. This is so depressing

@OmPatel-ko8ny 3 года назад

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@gavriel6655 3 года назад

pam

@Craigbn981 3 года назад

Top tip for work/life balance: don't work

@daybyday966 2 года назад

I never text anyone at my job after working hours. Nope

@joshuariddensdale2126 2 года назад

I wish that was the case with me. My boss texts me after hours, and at bedtime, and the middle of the night. I can't get away from her. She reminds me of the next day's workload, and it keeps me up at night.