Thanks a lot mam😌❣️ Hi i am a 16yr old student from india.i have bpd,severe adhd and ocd and im just a bored loner studyin at home all day or wasting time due to my severe mental health issues and i❤studyin but these are killing my studies ive just ended up with an inefficent yr and a ton of backlogs and again many of days are alredy wasted this year 😭and i live for that dream. i dont have any frens at skool and i dont even like to go there They always mistreatreated me even teachers and going there is just a waste of most productive time of my day currently im prepearing for a natinol lvl med entrence exam which is realllyyy harderr then skool exams but its a way towards my dream and im just into that but ive to go that hideous buidling from july to nov to complete my last years attndence😞 My parents do not understand my mental health issues and say it would be a waste of time to go to a councellor . I tried bunking school or going to a councellor afterschool myself but i have to have a accompnying guardian for a checkup before im 18 if these 1mon(june) is wasted im destroyed and shatterd time is precious for me this is the best i got (summer vacs) For my prep what do i do im confused and loosing hope breaking down with every precious day wasted😔 I thought if everybody around me is 🐍why not tell a stranger my story ❣️
I'm so grateful for finding your channel. I was diagnosed with ROCD like seven years ago and rejected the diagnosis. But I've recently entered a new relationship (with an incredible person), and I'm realizing that I am in fact really dealing with this. Your videos have helped me start dealing with it and putting things in place while I try to find a therapist instead of helplessly waiting till I find one to get better. Thank you so much for sharing all of your expertise and experience, it really is making a huge difference in my life!
You're welcome! I'm glad they've helped and please let me know if you don't find someone locally. I specialize in ROCD and help my clients recover every day!!
Can i have your opinion in that please? Btw thank you so much for your videos. I had someone who made me feel amazing in the first months. I experienced love. After 5-6 months i started to have a mess inside of me with these thoughts. Came depression, anxiety attacks etc. The first thing i was thinking about was about my feelings for her. The theme gradually changed and sometimes i had many times at once (SO OCD, loss of feelings , scared that i cheat on her etc).I spent hours to find a therapist but when he was available (after 3 weeks) my mind changed. I idealized the past moments we had. I don't know why my girlfriend seemed less interesting, the relationship was getting bored and I was finding people attractive outside without any guilt. I didn't have that feeling the whole day about thinking of this relationship (as in the beginning). So I made a conclusion that I actually didn't have ROCD. Sometimes I was making scenarios in my head about if she was breaking up , and I was crying. We already broke up but not definitely and i was really sad but it has changed when we actually broke up for sure. Then comes the break up. We both found the relationship a bit bored and I kinda forced her to break up. Now i'm still inside of the break up and i feel better , i think? We left each other with (I love you (name)) because we know love isn't the issue here (at least for her). I cried a bit when we broke up. But I truly thought i would react in another way. Maybe with more feelings? That's what also makes me believe I probably didn't have ROCD. Now I sometimes think I did the right decision and that i don't care but i still think about it a lot and sometimes I'm crying when I think about her. I have moments when i don't care and just after that i can cry because i remembered past moments. I go from one to the other. I can't even realize that we actually broke up definitely. It seemed impossible for me. I want to miss her but rn I can't.Since the beginning, I just wanted to love her as much as before.. But now I don't know what I want. Now i went to her again and she gave me a chance to think about everything to make a choice. Bearing in mind that we are in a long distance relationship and that she is often busy. At first it was annoying me and i wanted her with me always but since a week or two weeks i started to not care as i said. Should I stay with her?
First of all you need to stop analyzing. feelings are fickle. they come and go like waves. you just simply need to choose if you want to commit to her or not. the truth is love is not just feelings, it is continuous actions of care and support. it is a solid commitment. so just make a decision and stick to it. And God-willing, every thing will fall into place and it will all work out. God Bless.
This all sounds like ROCD and breaking up would be a compulsion. I would have to talk to you more to know for sure, but I do offer a free call with me (as time allows) on my website! www.myocdcoach.com
This is an incredibly well thought out, well presented video. Thank you! I just sent you a message on instagram, i am so excited to have found your content!
Is physically avoiding your partner one of the compulsions? How do we know if we are avoiding them because it's a compulsion or because we just don't want to be around them, in other words that they are not right for us?
If you didn't want to be around them, no OCD, you would just choose to break up like everyone else. No doubt, confusion, anxiety, etc. Those without OCD naturally use ERP, they accept imperfection and uncertainty, make decisions, and then move on to see what happens.
