Let's see… this year, my short stories have amassed 83 rejections, 13 of which were personalized (which is better than a form rejection). None of them has been accepted for publication, but the one that I self-published has a 4.2 star rating on Amazon. Just keep swimming!
one of my favorite quotes that I live my life by is 'every accomplishment starts with the decision to try.' so the next time you think of giving up after failing many times just remember that if all the great people you love stopped doing what they do they wouldn't be where they are today.
I find this channel to be encouraging. I think like it took me about 8 years of being out of college (I'm 30 now) to begin to come to terms with the idea that if I feel like I'm not good enough at something, it's not an inherent quality, and it's not something I have to feel ashamed about because I can always learn more and improve myself on my own. I feel like when I was in school, I was rewarded for being naturally talented at something and punished for not being good at it, which didn't really inspire me to learn things I didn't have much of a natural talent for already.
These tips sure sound good on the surface, but what about when you're 26 and have never had a girlfriend, despite going on so many dates you can't keep track of how many? What if you still cry yourself to sleep sometimes over the girl you met six months ago, who was the first girl to ever go on a third date with you, who was the first one in seven years who made you feel alive again? What if that third date was the last one, and all she says when you ask why is that she "just wasn't feeling it"? How can it be so easy for her to say that, when it makes you hurt so deeply you feel like throwing up? What if you know that you're the problem, so you try and try to figure out what's wrong with you and ask all your family members and they all insist you're completely normal? Do you know how frustrating it is it to work hard, get an education and a good job, work out and stay healthy, follow the law and be a good citizen, and then go home to an empty apartment every night while knowing that stupid, lazy, fat criminals have girlfriends and you don't? How do you deal with that kind of rejection?
im really glad you did the thing again when you talk about your personal experiences at the end! that was one of my favorite parts of the earlier videos! please keep doing it!
Man I appreciate the advice, it helps a lot. Although sometimes I feel as though when it comes to relationships, there's a particular part of me that I feel drives a lot of people away that I can't change. I wish I knew how to get past that emotionally; I'll be dealing with the ripples of it the rest of my life regardless of what i think of it now. Maybe someday, I guess. Heh.
Thank you for this video. I won't get into details but I have been rejected on a smaller scale recently and it does hurt. This video makes me feel better.
Ha I got a rejection letter from an agent today. It doesn't bother me too much (the letters are always so nice). My family refuses to read my books and that rejection hurts a lot more but it just motivates me to keep plugging away.
One thing about rejection that I am feeling at the moment is rejection you predict but cannot do anything about... I am nearing the completion of my BA in human services, and I am currently volunteering most of my time at an agency, and I have just now got up the courage to apply for a position... The job does not require an college degree, but I know my transcript it will look good on the application... the only thing is my GPA is horrible. My grades in my AA degree took a plummet, and I've tried so hard in my BA courses to raise it as much as I can... but I am going to finish with a less then desired average... I feel like they are going to it see it and automatically reject me regardless of how good I am with the clients. I suppose that is why I am volunteering so much... so they cannot say I lack experience. Yet... the fear of rejection is still there...
Harry wasn't specifically marked for greatness at birth, it was when Voldemort chose to attempt to kill Harry instead of Neville that Harry became the chosen one. If Voldemort had chosen to try to kill Neville, Neville would have been the chosen one.
You say that people aren't born marked for success, but what about people born marked for constant failure and rejection? Do those exist, either by circumstance, or by unforgivable mistakes of the past?
What about a non-response rejection? Where you send in an email at the potential employer's request and they don't even respond? Where you don't even know if they saw the email? Is it appropriate to send a follow-up email?
I don't know about harry, but the books were rejected sooooo many times before they got published! This video comes right on time for me! I'm graduating soon, so I will be applying (and getting rejected) for jobs really soon. On a (sort of) side note, I thought I wanted to get a PhD the whole time I was studying, but I am no longer sure. I can't tell if it's because of scoring slightly lower than what I'm used to on the last few tests (which sort of felt like rejection?) or because I'm realizing that it's just not right for me... any tips on how I can figure this out?
OK could there be a correlation in the choice of the topic of rejection and the fact Mike isn't wearing a wedding ring? Some of us look for continuity stuff like that in videos.
Tip #4: know the person who rejects you. Sometimes people don't have the authority to criticize other people but they do it anyway. If a very complaining person talks about you, maybe you should not pay attention to what he/she said.
+GapYearGrrrrl Throwback to classic Elmify! (I once bought a pack of t-shirts and a red marker, and then completely chickened out on actually filming them...)
