38: Dating Rules with Eli Rallo | The BCC Club Podcast 

Sarah and Kendahl’s synchronized yeah’s throughout this episode is so funny

I haven't seen Eli before, but I am loving her. Her talking speed is chefs kiss.

I love how Eli fit the vibe of the show so perfectly

Eli comes off as so knowledgeable!! She is so well-versed and confident!

"self care is community care" -Eli Rallo really resonated with me as someone who struggles feeling guilty at times for self care, when in reality, it benefits everyone when you take care of yourself. you cannot give if you don't allow yourself to recieve

I’ve never heard of Eli before but I love her perspectives and the conversations she provoked this was a great episode!

“i just hate them u started to describe them and i just got so pissed” LITERALLY MEEE this is why i love sarah

This is all so incredibly validating, thank god. I didn’t know how to verbalize these feeling about dating and this is perfect ❤

sooo true about the therapist analogy, my current therapists are very honest about that using the skills they give you will not cure you or fix you immediately, and might only help just a little bit or not at all, but the point is to try and see what happens. and honestly thats helped me a lot even with them saying that because i feel like it gives me realistic expectations and I don't feel disappointment when things don't work.

Eli gives me so much hope for the future. Very intelligent, confident, and well spoken 👏

!!!! This truly feels like every conversation my girlfriend and I have with someone else about dating, communication, relationships, whatever. I can’t wait to listen to it again with her! Y’all crushed it, Eli rocks & i can’t wait to check out her content

hey uhh i just want to say thanks because this video helped send a text about clarification. to sarah's point, i have a ton of emotional trauma with abandonment, so when i don't hear from people i immediately go to "they hate me and don't want to hear from me" so the idea of sending follow up texts gives me anxiety. and it's this nasty downward spiral. but like, i'm allowed to ask for clarification while also knowing i need to work on myself. idk i'm like crying right now. also, eli is so well-spoken at 25. i wish i knew what you know when i was 25. thank you all.

1:22:47 Kendahl, please pitch that! I would watch it

this episode was so fun, it felt like a girls night in, just asking your friends questions about their dating life

I’m Sarah at the beginning when my friends talk about movies and shows LMAOO

The way I fucking screamed when Scorpio Rising by soccer mommy was mentioned

love this conversation, everyone is dialed in for the entire time and I'm living for it. As someone who has a partner who is a theater kid (I am not, and never got into that until I met my partner), I vibing with this so hard T.T

I love that Kendahl finally got her extensions ✨

About calling audio books "reading" or "listening" - I get where Eli is coming from, but holding other people to that would require them to disclose whether or not they have a disability so that we can judge whether it's "valid" for them to say they read a book. Some people have undiagnosed learning disabilities and just know that it's easier for them to comprehend when they listen. When you have to put so many disclaimers on something to avoid possibly hurting/invalidating disabled people, it's best to just let people say what they want. Personally, I have ADHD but I am able to visually read a book, though it can be easier for me to understand/not get distracted when I listen. I've consumed many books through both methods, and if I don't have a physical copy of a book, I often forget if I even visually read it or listened to it. So, yeah, I just say I read it 😅 Eli was a fantastic guest though!!! Just wanted to try to explain that from my point of view 🩷

going through a break up for “selfish” reasons. hearing you guys talk about how being intentionally selfish is self care was so great to hear. loved the episode!!

This is so good!! And also makes me want to give my bf a big hug bc I’m so lucky

I needed this wholesome and enlightening conversation with girlfriends so bad 🥺❤

Oufff I definitely needed to listen this ep❤ love you guys

It's definitely wrong to generalise like that about men with dogs being caring. It can be every bit as likely that they love their dog because it worships and idolises them unconditionally and they probably want that in a woman too - it cuts both ways, maybe don't make that one a rule.

ahhh this episode is so good!! i love hearing you guys just talk and have fun❤️❤️

my dad is a golfer and will miss anything if it lands on his golfing day. including a wedding. anyways, i’m in therapy for prolonged parental neglect haha

this episode was so incredible, i love this topic

I loved this episode!! wasn’t familiar with Eli before this, but I really enjoyed hearing her perspective

What a fantastic episode! Such great insights into all types of relationships and giving yourself grace.

Such a good episode Sarah and Kendahl! You guys always pick the best guests :)

Thanks for introducing me to Eli! I just got out of a long term relationship and it has been rough. I really look forward to reading her essays

absolutely loved this episode!! thank you for introducing us to eli definitely gonna check their stuff out, loved everything they had to say!! :) 💕💕

Slay loved the guest Xx get her on more1!

really good guest!

I thought Eli was wearing a karate uniform for half the video, ngl

On the topic of doing things thinking more about how other people perceive you. I have a question to anyone who can relate. So i am autistic (not diagnosed just very obvious to me now) and i think i don't know how other people perceive me. It adds to my discomfort of being perceived and when doing anything i cannot think of what would they think of me if i do this. it's not like i don't care what they think it's like i don't know at all what they think of me when they look at me. I have been seeing some ND people talk about being perceived and how it is emotionally draining etc but i feel like for me it is a bit different. Like can people gauge or imagine how someone perceives them? Like for the life of me i cannot imagine how i look in my friend's eyes let alone a stranger. and like okay my friend had told me i am cool and she loves to talk to me etc so i have her word... but like i don't know what i look like as a person walking down the street. I don't know if this makes sense at all. but just answer me this if you can, do you know how people around you see you?

eli coming for rupaul lol

You can say twink 🧝‍♀️💀

Eli was a great guest ! Great convo overall. Going to have to disagree slightly with the love is blind reference - yes having disposable plastic isn't great, but Stacy was clearly approaching it from a more classist perspective. I also disagree that Izzy is a nice guy, he genuinely scared me at certain points throughout the show lmao... Johnie and Aaliyah were the best off the season

U guys newd to put your names on somewhere so people know its u

I vote keep her as the third co host tbh

The astrology conversation begins me: oh god the lesbians are at it again

Im starting to wish this show had no guests

Lol my bf doesn’t even do flowers or gifts on special days where do y’all find these menn

i love kendal and sarah but can ya’ll PLEASE have more guests that aren’t white/white passing?