This week, Deepti and Natalie kick off the new year with dating life updates, love life insights, and answer your burning questions about the Love Is Blind universe.
A perspective from someone who's 32, 36 weeks pregnant and happily married almost 5 years -- it's not always a hell yes. But the thought of living without him is a hell no. He is imperfect, and sometimes I'm really put off, but the idea of trying to find someone "better" makes me physically ill because he is my person.
congrats on your pregnancy! the way i interpreted what they were saying was more dating-centered. if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no. don’t spend your valuable time dating someone who makes you feel lukewarm. who seems to be playing games. who makes you feel anxious and on edge. who gives mixed signals. who, maybe, YOU don’t even like that much, etc.. which i totally agree with! especially in the beginning of dating or a relationship, i think it has to be a hell yes, at least for me. why walk into a life with someone you aren’t excited about? being alone is better than being with someone to fill the void and ignoring red or yellow flags is only going to last for so long. a different perspective:)
You’re definitely right…it’s not always a hell yes now for you. Because you have known this person for so long. And definitely when you can look and think back surely at the beginning it was a hell yes for you too.
I think it’s good for you ladies to get clear on some things and have goals for how you’re going to approach relationships this year! I feel funny watching these sometimes, as I have been married for 12 years, and so I feel like things are so different now and as a result can’t really relate to how difficult dating would be today, particularly online. But I do think that if you have values you want to share with someone and you have those conversations up front and early on, it will alleviate a lot of the back and forth and hesitation. There is no need to try and play a game just to keep a non-committal/flaky guy in proximity. Just say you’re looking for someone to marry and build a life with, and if they are hesitant then it’s a “see ya, good luck.”
You guys just found yourself some merch ideas from this episode!! “Boat Mama” and “that rooftop life” 😂😂😂 you’re welcome. I hope I get royalties from this 😂
Okay Pisces does NOT mean skiddish or "fishy". Just because its the sign represented by two fish, it really doesn't have much relevance to euphemisms as being "fishy". Pisces people express themselves through compassion and many to their detriment because they are emotional sponges. They are the most prone to embodying traits of other people so who they are can become a bit foggy depending on who they surround themselves with. Basically, if their friend is feeling something without mentioning it, Pisces will know because they feel it themselves. This is usually where the compassion comes from because most will in effort to alleviate others will also help themselves feel better at the same time. The "wishy washy" stereotype comes from those who just don't want to deal with negative vibes so they're more likely to just dip out of situations or people altogether in efforts to protect themselves. They can be subject to trying to see the best in others which can perpetuate rose colored glasses but usually (and hopefully) that veil drops. Natalie's experience on the show was definitely very Pisces from the sounds of the end of their relationship and definitely with her intial connection. It was mostly pushing through with an idea of how things were until she was finally confronted with something she couldn't ignore and the true colors were revealed. But in turn, she's grown so much from it and has become way more intelligent involving her emotional security. But honestly, this is only one piece of the puzzle as this is only how she expresses her energy. This doesn't involve how she communicates, how she expresses her love, what motivates her, etc. Astrology is as complicated and complex as human beings are so it's definitely disheartening to have people say misleading things and immediately label and box people into archetypes. What you're born as dosen't stay 100% the same just like actual life where you grow and change.
therapists are reallyyy good at pointing out patterns to you-- and I guarantee you there are some you don't know about. like sometimes all my therapist says to me is "did you know you never smile as big as you do as when you talk about __" -- so sometimes they point out "good" patterns!
Can you please please please review Love Is Blind Sverige? We are a bunch of Canadians and Americans living in Sweden and would love to hear your take on the Swedish dating nuances
I need Deepti to date or at least “talk” to Sam from Locked on Cubs. I’ve been telling my husband this for ages! They could go to Cubs games, both are podcasters, same city 💕
You'd get a different perspective if you'd move internationally - it may still be hard to spend lots of time in a row with family but most of it comes from being outside of your routine (and theirs). You still do adjust when it's really hard to go back home after a day or too (like if you need to fly for 12+ h)
That’s def crazy that your ex partners let you pay for most things. My partner pays for most date nights and he’s not a millionaire. I think if you earn much more than him it’s nice to take care of some dates and things but he should also pay for other stuff and dates.