Traits I find attractive in a man: Stoic but kind! Discipline, self control and decisiveness- because it's a bonus if hes able to decide for me on where to eat😂
I find really attractive a man that is confident, and have a sense of humor 🤤 I also find attractive a man who can express himself and choose the right word for it. A man that find solutions to problems, a man that is responsible and not a victim of his life of course, and a man who know how to listen to others and doesn’t cut anybody off who’s talking. 🙏🏻
I appreciate your videos so much Mark, thank you for the positive and easy to practice advice. I practice a ton but I’m no expert and have adhd so I’m a big fan of watching your content and I’ve noticed a bug improvement in my romantic life, the struggle is when I get insecure and don’t follow what I’ve learned lol.
What I most love in men is exclusivity, showing his woman respect all the time regardless of whether she is there or not. There is nothing more attractive in a man than when he is really in love of 1 woman.
An attractive masculine trait is when a man can see that I'm feeling vulnerable or that I'm about to be feeling vulnerable. And right at that moment he puts his arms around me and makes me feel safe without me ever having to tell him to do it.
Masculine traits that are irresistible: 1. The man keeps his word. 2. The man has discipline. 3. He creates intense polarity with his masculine energy. 4. He is loyal.
Being playful is hard when you’re nervous or shy. So I really love when a man can bring the playfulness out of me and then I’m more confident and extroverted with him than I am with strangers. And that feels like a certain level of intimacy too.
As someone who struggled with shyness for years and years, I can relate! I'll only say shyness is an adaption, not a personality trait, and pushing your comfort zone through it, finding fun and play whereever and whenever YOU can (instead of waiting for the external world to line up so you can) is a great personal growth and internal strengthening exercise. You ARE fun! You ARE playful. Shyness and anxiety simply covers it.
Lots of the best women (the non manipulative ones) have been beaten into not showing any of this by the world. Men can't ask for vulnerability with how irresponsible they are. Women have learned to be strong the hard way.
Literally beaten. I started a new job at an all female workplace and the only woman there, out of 6 or 7, who hadn't experienced some form of (sexual) assault was the youngest one who is still in high school. :(
@@Chahlie yup..... these fucking barbarians. BUT... us women need to do a better job at being good friends and not catty back stabby bitches. Because men do beat women at the friendship department. My best friends have been men. They just suck in the relationship department often.
True! Isn’t it ironic how showing emotions was labeled as being hysterical or unbalanced, so we assimilated to the world and expectations around us and NOW that women took a more masculine role, regulating their emotions the masculine world is craving our emotions 🫡🫡🫡 for fucks sake.
@candycrushrr Not true for women from Russia. I was born there but have lived in the US. There is a marked difference between American and Russian women, and many of these traits. Somehow, Russian women have been able to retain femininity yet independence at the same time. Hmm
@@candycrushrr they "crave it" to see that they can control your emotions. It is an ego high for narcicists of both genders to prove to themselves that they can get reactions out of people.
A man who is not afraid to be vulnerable and open up emotionally and can make me laugh. Down to earth and honest Romantic , loyal and smart , loving, kind,etc etc.
You sound like a great person, unfortunately, there are tons of men that say these are pure lies and that women do in fact only care about looks and are devoid of sympathy or empathy
It hits sooo different when one guy you date says "I hope you won't get emotional NOW" right after breaking your heart and making you cry, and then you meet someone who genuinely cares about your feelings and says "I love how emotional you are" - with this man you glow different😍😌☝️
Being able to feel your feelings doesn’t mean you don’t self regulate. I can self regulate and I still need a hug sometimes and I ask for it. Thats what he’s saying. Trusting a man with your feelings… they really feel honored by that
@@small11989 not a moody bitch…but knowing how to express yourself in a healthy vulnerable way without fear. A woman who can make the mind body connection is the woman he is talking about here. Most women, all people for that matter can’t do this
Haha, same. I'm very much an 'I'll deal with these emotions internally by myself later' type. I can probably win with playfulness though ;) Maybe lean into your other feminine traits that come more natural.
Mens traits that I love, Sense of humor, quiet confidence, strength in adversity, sensitivity/ability to demonstrate their love, sexual confidence and adventure, and much more.
Beautiful traits I find very alluring about men are, (1) A great sense of self, don't mistake this for selfishness. A man that is very self assured is breathtaking. (2) A sense of humor and playfulness. (3) A man who can make you feel like you are the only person in a crowded room! (4) A man that, when around his friends doesn't treat you like you are not there. (5) A man that can give a compliment and receive one as well. (6) A man that is respectful of your personal space and not all over you like a cheap cologne. (6) A real man that has a sensitive side about something, be it animals, children, elderly. Men who can share their sensitivities are very self revealing. These men will make excellent family men. (7) Chivalry is not dead! Being a gentleman makes a woman feel like he can be nurturing. He will care about your likes and dislikes. (8) A man that can be seen with a woman and not show jealousy! This is huge for me. A real man needs to be the kind of man that is so self assured in his finding this woman, that he can show that he is the luckiest man alive without knuckle dragging neanderthal ism. (8) A man that doesn't make the entire conversation about his ex's, nor does he wish to pry into your past relationships. (9) A man that likes to take you on adventure filled dates, not the same old boring take you to a movie and dinner date. (10) A real man that is interested should ask you at the end of the date when he can see you again. Men know that when you don't do this we know, we will more than likely never see you again. So if you believe you want to see us again be sure to ask this question. As women we are not stupid and will gladly move on to the next man who asks us out.
The masculine traits I love in a man are he holds door opens, he keeps his woman safe, he is clean/groomed, he has good oral health, and he looks at the woman he is interested in, in the eyes.
What I find most attractive in a man mostly is that he is a genuinely nice guy. A real prince of a guy who is respectful towards others, kind, considerate, compassionate and sincere. Those qualities are what last through the ages when looks fade, health declines, and many trials and tribulations. What melts my heart are the little gestures and the look in his eyes that say “I’m your man!”😊💗💖
What is attractive in a masculine man, is his comfort in his own skin. His ability to laugh at himself, his mischievous nature. His comfort and self confidence in pleasuring his woman over himself.
A man that takes initiative so sexy. To take charge like that. A man that’s thoughtful. A man that stands on his word and does what he says. A man that goes out of his way to make sure I’m protected 😍
I love it when my boyfriend wraps his arms around me protectively, and I become small in his arms. Especially if I am feeling vulnerable or if I've just told him something that troubles me. It makes me feel safe. Love it when he tells me that I am beautiful or wonderful, because it makes me feel cherished.
Men who are gentlemen and show their attraction to us in a respectful way. Men who are mentally strong and intelligent and kind. Men who have purpose and connection to a higher calling and Gd …
I am a pretty serious person unless I trust someone. Then I can be silly, playful, and vulnerable. But that takes time. I protect that side of myself carefully. Happily I found my husband. Love of my life for 25 years.
@Littlerobin-cl1nm I am honest about how I think and feel. I go out of my way to admit my mistakes and failings (often to my detriment) If I can be honest about that I can be honest about my joy also. It is always in the little things. If I want to walk a hallway trailing my fingers along the paneling I do. If I am curious about something I ask. If I like a stranger’s shirt or haircut I will tell them. I put little toys in my purse and when I see a child who looks sad or is fussing I will give one to them. I indulge my innocent impulses. I look for opportunities to help others. If I can help someone I see in need it brings me joy.
The admitting to mistakes and wanting to take feedback thing is what I really appreciate about my current boyfriend. I've never met someone who was so genuine and willing to fix what is not working. It's always bringing my guard down and I feel so grateful and safe.
I love my husband because he is a strong Godly man with morales, he respects me and my opinion, he tells me he is genuinely sorry if I tell him something that he did that I felt wasn’t quite right, he has manners and I always feel safe with him and he has my back and I have his and I know when he says “l love you” he means it!!
Im colorful as far emotions & attire goes. Most people comment on how animated I am when talking or expressing my anger, disgust or joy! My then bf (now hubby of 16 yrs) was so engrossed. I actually thought I was too much but he always found me amusing. Thanks! I did not realize that emoting is actually a good thing. ❤😊
If a woman talks about something emotional, the guy runs away faster than Usain Bolt. Basically, you can't be independent. I don't know why I am receiving these videos or look at them lol. I am never going to be this thirsty.
3:17 this thing is changing for my generation. All my girlfriends are into "soft boy" type, tge guys who do show emotions, even cry. Jungkook from bts is a good example. He cries very often yet girls find him charming and very manly. Because he really is😅 and that beautiful combination of being healthy emotionally open and not histeric or weak is kinda rare in real life, at least for now. Showing emotions in a healthy way is a sign of closeness and trust not a weakness.
Find yourself a woman.. Who is confident enough to be with a man.a real man.who embraces his masculine energy Bts.. Is just effeminate and manufactured to fit the narrative being sold
You know what? I actually don't understand why some men look so serious. It come across to me as not approachable, not sexy or charming or protective. And I do prefer guys that show emotions. Showing emotion, being a living creature, not childish. There's a difference. If a loved one died and they want to cry, why not?! 🙂
I love it when a guy comments on my physique or look. It is such a nice feeling when he does, and I feel more in my feminine energy. :) Thanks for posting this!
I'm sorry to tell you but the reason that makes you feel good, is because you (and the rest of us ladies) have been conditioned to seek male validation. When men give you compliments it makes you feel validated. Try to find that confidence in yourself, you are beautiful and valuable regardless of what those horny dudes say :) They're just giving compliments since they think it will make you want to sleep with them. Your feminine energy is so much higher than theirs. You are close to life itself, to nature and to animals. You have true power. What dudes lie about to get you to sleep with them is irrelevant. Don't listen to them and avoid them :) Also, I'd advise you to listen to Princella the Queen Maker (The High Powered Podcast) here on RU-vid. She will teach you about male nature and how to stay safe as a woman :)
Thanks for the positive video. There are some gray areas I’ve found. Such as, I was born with hearing problems. I missed a lot of conversations growing up, therefore I feel I missed out of learning how to be playful possibly. I couldn’t fit in when the social things were being said. I saw people laughing but didn’t know why. I got tired of saying what or huh? It was painful being left out.
@@DanielKoch-kw6fw first of all, not to mislead you. I am married. And where I live are many animals. I wrote because I thought that you had something to say in response to my first comment. Love pets too🙂
After some reflecting on this subject of playfulness, I'd have to agree with the person who said that some people seem to be good at bringing out this in me in the past. It's rare though. It helps to get in the mood for romance. Maybe that's what foreplay is for. Well, I miss it.
I really loved this video, because I feel very identified with it. I do all 4 things, I am a bit scared sometimes, because I recently started a new relationship, and I see a lot of videos in my feed that feel totally the opposite, like, not having sex in X dates, or don’t do this, don’t do that if you want respect, be like this, be like that… this video really resonates with me because I’m a giver, and my new partner says he also is a giver. I will just try to be my self, otherwise I feel like I have my feelings and my true self amputated. He told me he’s looking for commitment, love and affection and I want the same. I will give a try and open my heart.
😳 Indeed it is a thing! So many men take on the emotions as an attack, expressing emotion intimidating their emotional handicapp. Instead of seeing it as am invitation to open up, most just feel under pressure, overwhelmed, blamed, controlled....and get defensive... So where are these emotion loving men?? and any man here who has been like that and now learnt to feel less afraid and threatened by a womans emotions??? I find it attractive when a man understands he is just as emotional and feeling and vulnerable as a woman and it is only social conditioning and survival that creates that... ...a VERY outdated concept being expressed here that men are not naturally emotional. Some of the most wounded souls are men who have felt they need to shoulder their sensitivity and emotionality alone and hidden.
Men have been less emotionally expressive and able to compartmentalize their emotions better than women since the dawn of time. It's what has kept our species alive!
@@Markrosenfeld More like women kept our species alive by giving birth to and raising new humans through extreme pain, personal sacrifice and efforts, often while being slaves in horrible marriages where their husbands were legally allowed to beat and rape them.
As a woman trying to become more feminine this was very enlightening. The masculine things I love about my man is his tone of voice in the morning, the way he walks, his natural smell, the way his beard and mustache looks there are other things too but these are the most obvious
1. Integrity 2. Consistency 3. Loyalty 4. Embracing their masculinity while supporting our femininity. 5. Willing to initiate/have uncomfortable conversations 6. Men who love God far more than us.
Vulnerability at the right moment 😊❤️‼️wow ….. but I am really impressed by man who stands up for me ! Not Thad I can’t defend myself but it is sweet ….. to feel safe ! 😊❤ 8:27
Please can you do a video on the second point of projection I feel I’ve been doing this with my husband but still don’t quite understand it. We are a bit on the rocks so it would be of great help ☮️ 🤍 🙌🏼
I had a boyfriend recently who any time I would share what I was feeling about something would assume that I wanted him to fix my emotions. This was not something I ever asked for or expected, all I wanted was to have him listen and to know he loved and supported me. He started to resent me and withdraw all empathy because he hated how his assumptions had made him feel. I was hurt by his coolness and asked about it, which is when I was able to tell him that I didn't want any of the things he had assumed and just wanted him to listen. The relationship didn't last because the assumptions about all sorts of things became to damaging and it got to the point where I was walking on eggshells trying not to make him mad and not having feelings or my own thoughts and opinions.
A very common complaint and experience. Men are fixers, and in many cases, even more so if we have to "fix" our mothers or ex's. Many men have been trained to feel inadequate if we're not actively DOING something to fix a problem. There's also some biology in this too for me. After all, you don't fix a toilet by listening to it!
@Markrosenfeld I very much understood his desire to fix things, but the pressure he was putting on himself was hurting me, not helping. He accused me of a lot of things that were never said or done, and when I questioned him on them, it often came back to him comparing me to an ex, projecting his insecurities and flaws onto me, or reading things that weren't actually there into situations. In all of these situations he responded with anger, coolness, insults, withdrawing and removal of all feelings or empathy. Often I wouldn't know why these things were happening until after I got him to explain, some times way later. He had done great qualities and I loved him, but in the end he was causing so much heartache and I knew that wasn't a healthy relationship for me.
A beautiful man, wearing a flower covered shirt, with lush hair, is definitely bringing his joy to the world. 🌺💐🌺 Crack cocaine doesn't last, but a relationship with the living God, is eternal. Choose God daily, and seek Him first. Respect others. Love in our Lord Jesus Christ, Princess Holly 🕊🌿🌳🍃
Listening to this makes me think I am with golum not with a men. He never helps me with anything, I can ask many times and in the end I do it myself. He doesn’t care about anything. All he does is play video games while lying in bed and drinking beat and eating pizza. Seriously he does this 23 hours a day. I am not gesturating it’s literally just as I wrote . He was lying to me and then showed his real face 😢
Move on, youve already established a pattern and its unlikely to change at this point. He already knows that you'll end up doing yourself, what you asked him to do so he doesnt need to bother.
These qualities can also be a double -edged sword .James Bond has all the qualities! He can turn them on at the snap of our little fingers. And he doesn't bore us to death as a Monday does! 😂😅🐾🌸🐗👠🌻
I don't know, dude, about that 'he likes your emotions' thingie. Although I have said many times that it's not what you say in anger, it's how you say it to a man. I was dating a guy I really liked that did something I considered awful for the ten-thousandth time. That last time, my talking to him about it came in the form of, "I am gonna come by your house and knock all your windows out!" I scared him but what made me even madder was that he didn't seem to take into consideration that if he hadn't hurt my feelings doing the same thing for the millionth time, NONE of that would've happened in the first place. Look, I'm playful, I'm vulnerable, I laugh at his corny jokes, look him in the eyes and even tell him he looks like 'The Rock', which he does around the toe nails and hairline. He just couldn't get past my showing of honest emotions when I couldn't take the disrespect anymore. AND I LIKED HIM.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
Its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 5 years ended, but i couldn't just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back.
Everything is a give and take. My daughter always puts 100% and then has some guy angry at her. So now, she's shut down. Guys don't know how to date these days. They assume they talk to you for 10 minutes and your hooked on them. I'm like what? She's getting older now, 22, and I'm telling her you just don't have the time anymore for "playing games". The guy needs to put in more and not get so impatient with you. I don't care anymore about the guys' issues???? Either he wants you and puts in 100% or not.
Thanks for sharing Kim. I hope you can coach her through her overgiving tendencies, and make sure to model in your own life what you hope she will become. Xx
actually it is exoected that the man fully provides and pays bills, like mortgage/rent, food, utilities, food and mostly everything, not just small jestrures.
When I'm around a man I like I become playful - I feel happy. I make sure I don't complain about anything, I want him to have a good time so he will keep seeing me.
I think you are making things so technical. Along with that there are different archetype of men and women. There is no context to this video. To me whole content is pretty vague and useless. Just an opinion.
My favorite thing is my husband has never denigrated me. We are careful what we say to each other even at our worst times. He never makes me feel bad for being who I am even when he doesn't agree with me. He is much more logical and cynical than me. I am idealistic and a bit of a dreamer. I value that he gives me a different insight to my life.
I never understans vulnerability. What does it mean? How to show your weak side...someone should elaborate with more in a video with real life examplew
...this video is pubblished one hour ago when I received the notification...but I just noticed some comments left 7 months ago.... HOW IS IT POSSIBLE????
It's a bit of a funny story, but I recently purchased a new time-turned (similar one to the one Hermione Granger owned) and have been playing around with it. This was one of the unintended consequences.
@@Markrosenfeld ..oh thank you so much for your time and attention🙂🙏 by no means I had the intention to put nose in your work, but wondering about RU-vid process stuff only...🤔Good to know about it🤩
