This explains why guys I’m not interested in are always interested in me. The men I truly like, I shut down and become super self conscious. And I’m more myself and open to men I don’t feel a risk with
Feminity is feeling of safety, and also offering safe space for other partner. Masculinity is about pursuing and action. Feminity is about accepting love and action from men. Feminity isnt about action, but acceptance. But the thing is women also take a lot of action... because being still may too often cause an anxiety or depression action creates a motivation in women as well...because it is oposition of anxiety. But women like to pursue also feminine hobbies, or sports. People think women are so active and taking action, because they want to be masculine. Actually they take action, because they feel discomfort of anxiety, therefore they love sports and hobbies. She feels like she builds her own confidence, health etc, it has nothing to do with men but her own confidence. The skills she learns help her to abe also feminine.
Woman is here 🙋🏻♀️. If I am talking to you it doesn’t mean that I like you, it means that I don’t think you are some weird guy; therefore I am engaging in conversation with you. Also 3 glances mean nothing, but if woman looks at you at smiles that might be a welcoming gesture.
@@pamestesduggin3488Me too -- which explains why a woman's smile is ambiguous to men who are trying to interpret whether a woman is flirting. (It also explains why I -- a 7.5 on my best day -- get hit on regularly at events, supermarkets and the like.)
OK guys. Here’s the deal. In public spaces, the men in the “engineering” department control the temperature settings. Men run warmer due to two things: generally more physical, less sedentary jobs in the workplaces, and greater muscle mass. So they make the temp too cold for the ladies. At work, women will take sweaters, knowing this. At social gatherings, they will wear their festive, social clothes trying to look cute and sexy. Meanwhile, the guy will have the temp set to frigid yet again. We would rather look cute than be warm, in a social setting. We suffer for you men. Well, not me. I’m older and I am bringing the damn sweater.
I can talk to anybody and everybody- I'm a social butterfly. But there is a guy who I'm crushin on, and I'm almost certain he likes me too, but I can't say a word to him because the one time I spoke to him, I froze in an eye lock for like 10 seconds and I couldn't even remember what I had to say. I was like a teenager, and I'm 46! Why can't he be the one to talk to me? I've caught him staring at me, and peacocking in front of me.
Same! Then I for some reason ignore the one I REALLY want to talk to because I don’t want to come across as needy. Ugh. The old tapes in my head are strong!
The tilt of head, a slight smile, a glance…that’s what I do naturally since I was a teenager…explains why I was always approached. Hmmm…now it’s science 😄
@@lesliemaki888 just personal hygiene being on point then. Good oral healthcare, clean skin that's not greasy looking, Chapstick, using a eyelash curler doesn't require putting in makeup but can make your eyes more open/feminine looking
Listened to this podcast before a meet up and was intentional to use most of them as the conversation flowed. It was so much fun and helped me feel flirty and playful 😊. That little meet up for coffee ended up lasting 3 1/2 hours and the conversation never lagged
I am always cold. I carry a jacket and coat in my vehicle. There have been times I wasn’t planning to stay inside the ac, I ran into a couple I hadn’t seen in 26 years. I stayed there talking with them at least 40 minutes. As soon as we said our goodbyes I was out the door to warm up. Being cold is Not an excuse. Actual Fact. I do enjoy listening to your channel. Thank you.
Great tips!! Thank you. For the bonus tip: for me it's not that I'm afraid of being promiscuous, I'm afraid about my safety and making sure he not some kind of psycho killer. LOL
Ya 🥺😬. I’ve had a psycho in my life before and it took me years to actually get out in public and not be terrified. Every time a man glanced my way. I’m doing way better now.
Great advice. My sister is more attractive than me but I was always approachable and comfortable with men, so I typically had no issues attracting them. Unfortunately, it’s always the ones that I’m not typically interested in. With the great looking men I get very shy and too self aware, which looks less confident. Women fear rejection too. Will work on the three glances. Thanks!
I haven’t been out in years… like years. I think I’m washed up getting ready for this dance thing. I do put on mascara, blush and lipstick only bc who the heck is going to be interested in me I thought. I wasn’t looking for anyone since I’d given up. I was dancing with friends and talking away with friends. I was shocked to find men giving me the eye throughout the night. Shocked. Who knew? So the only thing I didn’t do was flirt/ touch back. I could see that I inadvertently did all the other things you talked about. So you men are definitely onto something there 👍
*Once we recognize what it is we are feeling, once we recognize we can feel deeply, love deeply, can feel joy, then we will demand that all parts of our lives produce that kind of joy.*
The wig says it all and the need to “find one” by Gary was hysterical. As an older single lady you are both spot on about your suggestions. One can never be too guarded for their safety with someone they are just meeting, but a smile never hurt anyone. It is all in how you practice. Now to find that mirror!? Lol Thank you for all your research and experience.
Confidence-YES! I’ve been in a funk/ slump for a couple months. Tuesday I got up the courage again to sing at the open jam at the local jazz club. I did my home work & was prepared musically. Decided to get a little more dressed up than usual. My musician buddy said, “sell the hell out of it” (songs are stories). I sang well, with confidence & had fun. 4 guys asked me for my business card after the show. 😂 The game changer for me was walking in the door with confidence & letting my confidence grow throughout the night. The song, “You Don’t Know Me” made famous by Ray Charles & more recently Michael Bublé. (I changed the reference as singing from a woman about a man. )
Why all the suspicion? Many indoor spaces are cold, and many women stand that way when cold. It’s a reason not an excuse, unless a woman is saying there’s no solution and they have to keep doing it.
I’m going to respectfully disagree with your opinions about the being cold as an excuse comments. Women often dress provocatively, or think that they ought to in order to attract a man- putting on a parka to keep our temp regulated does not create sexiness. Cold hands and feet can accompany auto immune conditions, which are super common in women these days. The body language of being cold v. closed off can be distinguished if subtle attention is paid
It’s not because we don’t want to appear promiscuous, but we don’t want to appear desperate or ridiculous. Also, we women are just as afraid of being rejected, although maybe the gorgeous ones aren’t.
The wig 🤣 👏🏻 soooo flirty! 💋 Love the sharing of the meaning of touch. As a massage therapist & Reiki energy master this is of foundational importance. 🙏 Human psychology is fascinating ❤ Thank you for your insightful offering.
Love this but totally disagree about women being cold - it’s hard to know how cold a venue will be and we usually run colder than men (and are usually in lighter clothes like a dress vs a guy will have on a blazer). I am cold all the time and will cross my arms to stay warm. Please don’t be offended by this! Offer your jacket if you have one and if she says no, then you know 😂
So interesting hearing men discuss men & women this way. Ran into someone who was working, thought wow I'm feeling something, didnt know what to do with that. Regret i didn't show i noticed him. Assumed he was married anyway. But will always want to replay that time.
I’m 5’10 with blonde hair and green eyes. I definitely don’t have any issues getting “noticed”. It’s always the men that I don’t want the attention from that approach. Though I do appreciate their willingness! Lol
I am on a dating site and had someone comment on one photo said you know how to tilt you head just right for a photo and I had not listened to this, but I’m glad to hear how to flirt. Embarrassing to say.
Adam and Gary really committed here on play-acting the research-backed tactics. You gotta few chuckles out of me as well! You continue to embody your brand: STRATEGIES. Listeners can adopt what you espouse or not; you are simply presenting ideas and strategies, mapping out why you find them particularly worthy of consideration. Nice job, Gents!
Micro expression= Olivia Newton John as Sandy in Grease looks up down , up again with eyes and bites her lip....it drove John Travolta " Danny" crazy nuts for her!
The number one thing be friendly and honest And don't be so picky on both sides because sometimes looks don't count you could pass up a real good person because of what you think you're idea is of a mate.
Hello, Adam and Gary. I’m a first time listener. Not sure why it appeared on my feed. I found your podcast hilarious but equally practical. Will try to remember and implement. Thanks for the tips. Incidentally, women have it just as hard. Remember the book / movie, “He’s Just Not That Into You”? Women do put themselves out there only to discover that the guy isn’t interested. Basically, rejection is a two way street.
Iv learned in the past 5 years. A woman must I repeat must Have something of value, or material possession, and money in the bank are the only things U need now days to get a husband. At 58 I was always the family member that stepped in as only care giver to a family member who was dying or had chronic medical problems. Iv keept many family members from nursing homes before their death and I was a full time stay at home Mother. I received no pay for my self in 30 years. I have no personal materials , no possession, I have nothing but myself to offer Men. I'm finding out time after time Men don't want a woman who has nothing but herself to offer bring in to a marriage or relationships. I'm not looked or thought of ever again by a Man.
Great tips except for the touching part. I would never touch someone I hardly know. I also do not want someone to touch me that I hardly know. For my own situation, I locked eyes with someone around Christmas time, in a workplace setting, and it took him to the end of March to speak to me and have a conversation with me. Since then, there is smiling and small talk between us, but he has not asked me out on a date. I feel like he is interested because his face lights up when he sees me. Maybe he just thinks I'm cute and that's as far as it goes. It's so hard to read people. Oh well. 😮💨 Also, do not send notes. He will think you are childish, or a stalker or desperate.
I have a physical disability and I feel I am smiley, friendly and give eye contact. However I feel my disability is the first thing a person sees and after that it seems people don't approach me or continue the eye contact
What do I do when I walk into a room is as soon as I get through the doorway I pause I hold my head up high wiggle my hips a little bit scope around the room as if I'm looking for a friend of mine look in the far back corner add proceeds slowly over to the bar to get a drink in the far back corner
Men don't want you be rejected... Well, some women don't want to be rejected either. It shouldn't matter if I'm not interesting enough to them, there's no excuse for being rude and ghosting, and that's what happens to me 99% of the time these days (since Covid).
I say this because I am new at dating at 65 and divorced for 15 + yrs. I am finding that most men my age are not a match. Some of the body language comes natural, but zI am def open for any help I can get.
Latin women are more direct when it comes to letting a man they are interested, they will flirt....I did it with my husband, I met him at a bar in Bermuda, I flirted with him that's all it took....Latin women and men don't need to learn to flirt, it comes naturally.
I had a note left on my car, one time…on a bank strap…AND I worked for a bank,So I thought I had a stalker!! 😳So NO No…Don’t leave 📝 notes🤦🏻♀️…I was going to go to the police 👮🏼!!
Women are cold because they're wearing tank tops in the winter. Sweaters can be sexy too. Sometimes less (visual) leaves more to the imagination, ladies. Dress accordingly 😂👌
So if a man feels like you’re going to reject him, even if you’re attractive, he’ll ignore you? Lol, women do that too. I guess fear of rejection is REAL!
Women have typically had so many negative experiences out in the world by the age of 40, that the Ice Queen body language and RBF are all that gets us home alive.
Men always approach me after karaoke 😂 it helps I have a sultry voice but that’s how I got my boyfriend 🙂 he loves when I sing for him and do a little shimmy 🥰
This is such a good video!!! So helpful!! I would love to know what makes women flirt with other women's boyfriend? I keep seeing this alot and women seem to have no care what they are doing. As if this is normal behavior!! It cracks me up. Lol
My rbf is my death knell. lol...I did great with dating apps and set up meetings, but NO ONE approaches me cold turkey. Maybe a few bravest of the brave. 🤣🤣
I think it's cute and it's funny helps take the stress out of dating. Because I can tell you that if I when I date I'm going to think of you and that silly wig and it's going to make me feel like my audience is naked so to speak
I’m a woman but I’d really like to know what the male flirty face is…btw…. Great wig….. you are a pro …it was hot…. I do that all the time when I’m with my man… without thinking… great move when it’s natural…
I have gym crushes and I stares/looked at them and they notice me and smiles at me all the and they like me too… but I don’t smiles at them back because I don’t want to date anyone; I like being single and I just admire them from far away… they will be my crushes forever
I have a gym crush and it’s a been a nightmare. I remember the day he showed up at my gym I was infuriated bc he’s perfect for me. I’ve gymmed my whole life, 37 now, no gym crushes. Well he’s German, I am American and I live in Germany. Men here do not approach women. He stared at me for 8 months, and I mean a German stare, not blinking and will look right into your eyes and soul. He’s winked at me said hi to me in passing. I freeze up and want to die. I am confident woman. He makes me feel like a teenager. It’s a nightmare. I have trouble working out next to him I have to completely ignore him or I’ll mess up something. I tried very hard to try to talk to him but I am scared of him not liking me or my German. I have no idea what to do. If he was American he would already have my number, gone on dates and broke up by now. He will ask me how I am doing when I am 50. Lol
@@MrsHicks-it5xj I know how you feel but if you wanna give him a chance… just go up to him and say hi. I personally won’t because I am woman and women aren’t supposed to make the first move. Lol
You two guys may want to explore human Design..Minifastor types have closed off repelling aura, Generators and Manifestor Generators have an open inviting aura. Projectors can access auras of others and have to wait for invitation energetically. ..there is more to it but HD helps! ..Your strategy must be in sync with your type of Human design
What about those women with neurodivergent behavior? I have a friend who gives too much time and attention to men at work then wonders why all the guys are asking her out and giving her shoulder massages! Any tips?
4:58 Can we write a note if we don’t meet this colleague every day at work ? I mean, like we don’t see him again for years because we don’t have the same schedule ? I did send a note to a colleague last year, to tell him he totally turned all my senses upside down. I didn’t invite him to go out though. It was just to get rid of my own emotions. He never answered. It’s been over a year and I didn’t see him again yet. 🤷
I have a challenge right now in terms of friendships. U mention in your video that it looks better when u go out with friends. I agree however I have increased my standards and I am not able to find friends who align with me. I am in transition and working hard on myself. Any suggestions? Can it really look very bad?
I love men because they are interesting and have a lot of knowledge. They are also straight talking......but I'm not looking for a date. I'll have to make sure I don't give wrong signals
Yeah if somebody doesn't have a jacket it's it seems to me like either they went impromptu to to this Gathering or they're hoping that the Amanda trying to flirt with will lend them their coat to show that they're being shivers and or even interested
