I'm watching this at 4.28am NZT after getting up like the 100 times already cos baby keeps waking up... I'm amaze this is actually achievable and some babies do go to sleep without a fuss.
I completely agree. Even his head control and interest in books he is a very calm baby so his behaviour is different. This creates a unrealistic expectation for most mothers because our baby's are very different
Looks like a dream😀 My baby girl is 7 months old. If I leave the room before she sleeps, she cries and yells alot😬 it is hard to believe that there are babies who soothe themselves:)
It was a constant battle for a few days. He would wake up and fuss, I would soothe him put him down, he would wake up and fuss and we repeat this cycke untill he fell asleep. Some nights we would do this for hours but the hard work pulled off as he eventually would relax and sleep on his own.
@@togetheradventure9399 How many nights of wake up-fuss-soothe-repeat did it take? And would you rock him to a full sleep during this cycle for any of the nights or just until he was drowsy? My 4 month old wakes every 2-3 hours at night. I'm very lucky if he sleeps over 3 hours, EXTREMELY lucky if I get 4 hours... Also, i don't use a pacifier... do you think that is what makes the difference? Any moms out there that had success without a pacifier? Finally, did you ever swaddle him and if so, how did you transition out?
All these youtube moms are so annoying with their perfect kids and their perfect routine. Urgh 10 hrs? Like howwww making me feel so inferior. Everyone youtube seems to have their shit together
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@@stephaniechou2727 She is 4 month old. During day she sleeps only on hand or carrier. Night starting at 7/8pm sleeping until 5/6 am feeding every 2/3 hours. But its very difficult to fall a sleep for her.
Thanks so much! Very helpful. My son turns four months in three days and I need to start a routine. My other son's didn't start sleeping all night til they started full time school so I want to be more persistent with this tinker. I've always got into the habit of feeding them to sleep. He's currently in the bath with me right now at 10pm! Can you tell me what Benjamin's day time routine is please. Nap times etc x
I think it just depends on the child. One of my sister's child (she has 4) was sleeping for like 10 hrs straight. Mine isn't anything close to it. It's just depends on the baby, you cant train everyone the same.
Cngratulations, 10 hour stretches at this age are amazing! My 4 month old has never slept more than 3,5 hour stretches. I'm doing everything by the book with routines and a schedule but I just can't get him to fall asleep on his own! He nurses to sleep for 30-40 minutes every night... after 10-15 min he doesn't eat anymore, it's just sucking but he doesn't take a pacifier... When you started sleep training you said in another comment you would nurse him to sleep and then slightly wake him and soothe him again (rocking him in your arms I suppose?). Did he cry in the beginning? Did you put him in the bed fully asleep again after soothing him or was he still slightly awake? Would really appreciate your answer! Thank you and take care
I started by replacing the nursing to sleep with the rocking to sleep, after a few days of rocking to sleep, I would then rock him but put him down before he fell asleep. He would fuss as soon as I put him down so I would have to pick him up and start again. I would continue repeating these steps untill he fell asleep. It does require a lot of patience, but after 2/3 days of this he eventually would just stay calm as I put him down.
Hi.. really loved your video.. it must have taken a lot of patience and hardwork to get to this level.. its really relaxing to get to see this routine. Wanted to know if your baby had colic or periods of crying during the evening? My girl is crying every evening since 6 weeks and now she is going to ve 4 in a week. I have tried all possible methods but nothing seems to work?
Somewhere between 4 - 6 months babies should be getting enough calories during the day that they don't need milk at night. Of course, even if a baby doesn't need to eat in the middle of the night they might still wake up wanting to and its then up to the carer to decide how they would like to proceed. Each baby will be different, my son didn't need a full feed at night, so we cut them out as soon as we could in order to make sleeping easier for both him and us. Although I would never leave him hungry if he was showing me that he was hungry. I always fed on demand.
togetheradventure ohhh okay I get it ,my son is now 3 months old and I want him to sleep through the night but he wakes for every 3 hours for milk , some times he wakes up for every one hour and I’m sleep deprived now 😭 I want this miracle to happen with me too ♥️and thanku for this video it is really helpful for me 🙏🏻
Hang in there mama! Your just giving your baby what he needs. 3 months is still young, when your baby is getting a bit bigger and older it will get easier. At this age we have to give them what they want as they know best! Once baby is older then you can make changes to feeding at night. 💕
Does he just sleeps through the night without waking up for feeding at all? Mine always waking up for feeding. That's why we still co-sleeping. I wanna try to train him to sleep in crib but it's not easy ☹️ It doesn't work until now..hufff
TRY the crying out method ! During the day : Playtime, change /feed. AT NIGHT 8:00pm: shower, swaddle, feed , pacifier. AND MAGIC. After 2-3 days of habbit, they will go to sleep for 10 hrs! As much as this method hurt me, it worked. For the best. I made sure to watch over him while he cried. Best of luck! (:
He does yes. I never co-slept so I can't really comment on that. He always slept in his own bed from birth. I would nurse him and put him back in his bed. Around 4 months I stopped nursing him at night as he would never take a full feed, just suck for a minute and then go back to sleep. I took that as a sign he was no longer hungry. So instead of lifting him from his bed to nurse I would leave him in his bed and soothe him back to sleep by stroking his face or belly and singing songs. He eventually stopped waking up, and if he did he would quickly go back to sleep.
Heya I have a 4 month old now. How did you train him/what method did you use to train him to fall asleep by himself? My little boy wakes up every 1.5 hours and I ave to pick him up to soothe him back to sleep as it seems like he can’t soothe himself. He also cries when I put him in the crib unless I time it exactly right. 😩
May I ask if u sleep train for the naps first or bedtime first? During the one mth sleep train, does this mean that the sleep hours for day nap n bedtime are very short? Since it can take hours to soothe baby to sleep. Maybe even missing a nap?
Did you put your baby to sleep at the same hour? And how about naps? How many naps he sleeps Before bed time? ... you are amazing btw! And your baby is beautiful!
Hello 👋! He goes to bed at the same time every day between 6-7pm . At this age he was napping 3 times a day, for around 1.5hr each time. Morning, after lunch and late afternoon. I do belive that sleep promotes sleep, and a baby who doesn't nap well will struggle to sleep at night. 💕
Great video; thanks for sharing! Does your little one ever (or did ever) wake in the night for a feeding? If so, how did you wean him from it and encourage him to sleep the full 10 hours? My little one is 1-week shy of 4 months and the longest she sleeps for is 6 hours before she wakes up hungry. Then once she's back asleep, it's 2-3 hour sleeps after that (twice, back to back) before she's up for the day. I'd love to get her sleeping a full 10-12 hours
I'm amazed when moms can get their baby to sleep past 5-6 hrs at night WITHOUT them waking up to feed, because most articles I read say that a 5hr stretch is already considered sleeping through the night 😂 I would love 10hrs though.
Love it! How did you sleep train? My daughter will only nap in my arms and only sleep at night around 10pm after long time of rocking or holding ! ARGH. im exhausted and so is she. Shes 3.5 months
Hi ! Thanks for making this video.. I have a few questions regarding routines that I hope you can answer to help another momma out! I see that your little man then was very alert and calm right before bath time to when you placed him in his crib to fall asleep by himself. The entire routine seemed very RELAXED..Is that because he knew what to expect and/or he isn’t tired yet to fall asleep until bedtime ? I’m struggling with day naps and My boy (4 months old) is crying loudly, when I try to lay him in the position to sleep. It’s like he’s overtired and wants to sleep but can’t get in the right mood. I end up having to rock and nurse after calming him as he can’t self settle yet and then he will fall asleep in my arms before putting him down (this is the only way for now!). I feel like I’m missing all the tired cues. he only cat naps, which makes him super tired. His longest stretch at night is almost 8 hours but it’s rare. Most day’s it’s closer to 4-5 hours. Then its every 1-2 hours after that 🥱😧. Im wondering: am I feeding enough during the day for him to sustain about 10 hours straight? Are his naps not long enough? Would love to know what your day routine is, in terms of naps, feeds etc.. and how you manage to stop nursing him to sleep. What kind of sleep training did you do, and how did you do it! Also with the pacifier, do you think that helps him sleep, and the toys in his crib also, does that help him self-settle? Thank you In advance!
Hi!!! As we started this routine soon after birth by this point he knew what to expect and is used to all the steps we take before bedtime. He is now 16 months and is still the same, will now give a kiss and say 'night night' before putting himself to bed. In the early days when he was nursing almost every hour or two we made sure to make a clear distinction between night and day. During the day I kept all lights on, windows open, lots of singing, dancing and playing. But at night I would nurse him and change his nappy in the dark, no music, no playtime. Once that was established he starting sleeping longer stretches at night. Once he started sleeping over 8 hrs at night, during the day he was fed on demand and took 3 naps. I find that sleep promotes sleep, and the less a baby sleeps the harder it is to fall asleep. In terms of 'sleep training', I would just gently wake him up after he fell asleep on the breast and soothe him back to sleep before putting him down. We did this for a few days untill I eventually didn't need to soothe him, I would just gently wake him up, say goodnight and put him down. With nursing at night, every baby will be different. Somewhere between 4-6 months babies stop needing to feed at night as they should be getting enough calories during the day to sustain them. We must follow their lead as they will tell us what they need. So I can't tell you when you should stop feeding at night as each baby will have different needs. Please feel free to send me a message on Instagram or facebook @togetheradventure if you want more details on sleep/hunger signs or have more questions as it's hard to get into detail on a YT comment! :)
My daughter doesn’t go to bed till 10 we were doing bath time starting at 8 but now I get her stuff ready at 8:30 get her bath ran clean up some while the bath is getting ready and than I’ll do yoga till 9:30 than a bath and some snuggles I was thinking of doing a 4 month old routine as well but RU-vid would bash me bc of how late she goes to bed lol 😂😂 but if she goes to bed to early she will not sleep thru the night she will take a hour nap and wake up and stay awake till 12-1am and she was also started taking later naps from staying up later she would take hour long nap at 5:30 and just be waking up at 8:30pm 9:00pm sometimes so we stopped that and started bedtime at 8:30-9:30 and she sleeps thru the night and wakes up at 8
Hi! What method did you use to sleep train? My little one is 4 months and I am looking to start sleep training as he wakes every 1-2 hours in the night still. Thanks in advance 💕
Looks like this is your first child. Update us (if) after you have another. Some kids sleep easy, others don’t. There isn’t a “follow this routine” for success unfortunately.
Thank you for the concern! No worries though, as the toys are all removed once he falls asleep! As he used them as sleep aids. Can I ask why you think it's cruel? He is happy and I never leave him to cry/fuss or go hungry.
My son had always slept in his own cot from birth. I used a next to me cot from 0-4 months then eventually moved him to the normal cot (I slept in his room till he was over 6 months). I now have a second newborn and she isn't a fan of sleeping on her own, but I just persevere. I will comfort/feed her and put her down, keep repeating this untill she eventually settles. Its tiring but I know it will pay off in the end. Good luck 💕
@@preciouss917 yes! That's exactly what I did, slept in his room and then when I felt he was ready/old enough to sleep in there alone I slowly "moved out" to sleeping back in my room. Thank you 😊! We're all just trying to do our best, I hope if anything that some of my information was useful to you.
He started sleeping through the night at around 3.5 months. From around 12 weeks or so he started sleeping longer stretches like 6-8 hrs at night. By 4 months it was 10-12 hours. From the moment we brought him home we tried to teach the difference between night and day. So everytime he woke during the night we made sure to keep the house dark and quiet, no walks, no excitement, singing/talking/playing. I would change his nappy and feed him in the dark and just sit silently with him till he slept. During the day we were noisy and playful. Kept windows open, radio on, lots of playtime and singing/dancing, curtains drawn and such. I believe this helped us with getting him to sleep at night. Also I fed on demand and never let him go hungry. He would lead the way when it came to nursing.
Thanks for this. I now know this is where sm going wrong. My baby is 3.5months and he likes to play at night alot and so I entertain him since he isn't crying until when he feels asleep. Because of that, we are awake almost all night and asleep daytime.( Ofcoz the baby only). I done put the curtains down for his room because of the winter season and of I do, just a little for fresh air. I guess that has confuses us since our day is high time and night is daytime.
By this age he had stopped nursing at night, and sleeps straight through and has done ever since. I did responsive feeding during the day and nursed on demand, feeding when ever he 'asked'.
Hello, Thank you for your video, i was wondering, does he wet his diapers within that long night of sleep??? If so, how many times do you change his diapers and then let him fall back asleep? Or does he sleep sound even with wet diapers on the whole night through?!?!?!
They are dry enough to not disturb his sleep, I will change first thing in the morning. He does still wet his nappy during the night even now at 16 months, but his nappy isn't full enough to soak through as he isn't drinking/nursing at night. :)
That's great! If baby sleep 12hrs, how often do you feed him during the day? I'm just wondering cause I usually wake mine up at around 10-11pm to feed and he goes back to sleep easily and just wakes up at 7am.
He was fed on demand during the day. Whenever he wanted. I didn't express any milk so it's hard to know exactly how much he drank but on an average day every 2-3 hours for 10 mins, 6-8 times in total, some days more, some days less.
Are you for real????? This is a dream 😍😍😍 my life is soooo different 😂😂😂😂 super jel right now. We're 9 months in and still have to dream feed. Feel like i have been sleep training for everrrrr lol. But well done, this is awesome. Where did you get the door bouncer from? Could you please send the link? Thanks hun
Hang in there mama! It wasn't always this easy, I had to not only be strict with baby but strict with myself. Once I knew the night feed wasn't needed (for him 10 - 12 weeks old, but I know the recommended is after 6 months). I dropped it. He would wake up in the middle of the night looking to nurse not for hunger but for comfort and I wouldn't give him milk, of course that leaves me with a crying baby at 3 in the morning. I had to find other ways to soothe him, shushing, singing, rocking, but I just wouldn't bring him to bed with me or feed him. Sometimes it was hours before he fell back asleep. This went on for weeks before he stopped waking for the feed. We needed to separate the association with feeding and sleeping, so that he wouldn't need milk to go back to sleep and we wouldn't have ongoing sleep problems. It was hard and tiresome, and sometimes I felt like I was being a bad mum but it has paid off in the long run and he is a very good sleeper now. I will be gradually moving out of his room, so that hopefully by 6 months he sleeps in his own room. Lion door bouncer: amzn.to/2FhpqER
@@togetheradventure9399 wow, you're so brave and strict, I'll definitely give up whenever my baby wakes up whimpering asking for milk 😅 well, he's still 2 and half months so I think it's okay, I'll try to sleep train him after he's over 4 months old, wish me luck
He will sleep right through! For a few weeks before this point he would wake at night but we made an effort to try to teach him that night time is for sleeping, I.e when he woke up, I wouldn't put on any lights, I wouldn't talk or play with him (using similar methods from birth the only difference would be feeding as newborns need milk at night), I would just try to coax him back to sleep, if I could do it while leaving him in his cot I would but if he was crying or too upset I would gently rock him or sing to calm him down and then place him again in his cot. Sometimes this meant picking him up and down for hours on end at 3 in the morning, but the hard work and sleepless nights for a few weeks paid off. He is now 1 and has slept through since.
My baby is now almost 11 weeks old. I’ve been going into the room to start our night routine Around 8/9pm. I brush my teeth/wash my face while she is in her rocker then I change her diaper and put her in sleep sack. I always try rocking her to sleep but I usually end up with a crying overtired baby and have to feed her to sleep. The past few nights she has been very overtired and am wondering if I can change the bedtime to 6/7 instead of 8/9. I would love more time with my husband too. I just don’t want to throw off her schedule.. she usually wakes around 3am to eat after she goes to sleep at 8/9.. Thoughts?? Lol
Personally I think 8/9 PM is too late. And would gradually move the bedtime earlier. You can start by moving it 15 mins earlier every couple of days till you get to 6/7ish. And yes 'Mummy daddy' time is also very important! Another reason why I'm 'strict' with bedtimes. Need some adult only time haha!
Oh by gosh I need to do this... did you use any online website or program to guide you to sleep train? What about his naps during the day - do you nurse him to sleep then and how are you also separating sleep and feeds during naps? Mine refuses to nap all day... I’m always fighting him to sleep, and even then he won’t sleep unless I put him in a sling and go out for a walk. That’s absolutely not sustainable and I don’t know how to get him to sleep in his cot during the day for his naps. Any tips?
Before the arrival of Benji I had read "The no cry sleep solution: gentle ways to help your baby sleep". As it was clear that for us to function as a family good sleep was very important but I also knew I couldn't face leaving my baby to cry or fuss. I had a clear plan from the moment he was born to introduce good sleep habits. In terms of nursing I would gently wake him whenever he fell asleep while feeding and allow him to fall asleep again on his own. Naps during the day were treated the same. At this age he had three naps, morning, early afternoon and early evening. Sometimes those naps were in the pram and in the sling. I am a firm believer that sleep promotes sleep. A baby who doesn't nap well during the day will struggle to sleep well at night. And lastly please don't worry yourself too much. All of this is a guidance but not all babies are the same. Your baby will sleep eventually. Stay strong and good luck!!! Please ask away if there is anything I didn't address.