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I think this is the best advice you've put out! A lot of these hit home, especially having grown up and currently living in a smaller town. #4 for sure!
I have to say , This is the best genuine channel i came across which is really very helpful 🙏🏻. You feel like a BIG brother talking to us & guiding us 🙏🏻
Man, I gotta say; Found out about you just this morning. And the experiences from your 20s till now, struggles, nearly goddarn anything, is almost exactly the same path I’m walking right now. You’ve given me discpline and motivational boost which I needed lately, ‘cause I was off-track a bit. Thanks and subscribed!
yah its crazy sometiems when you see the hate come out of your friends over nothing or just when you start doing good for yourself, its like some just dont wanna see you happier or doing better then them or the perception of that in their head.
Thanks for the great content brother. Much appreciated. Learned about the convenient GF/wife the hard way. Feeling stuck with the steady income. Never really had a long-term set of good friends, so that's given me freedom.
The friends part is a really hard one for me because over the past 2 years I've been trying to find someone in my school that is in the same path as me but none of the people seem to be in the self improvement journey. Also love your videos David.
This video is by far the most impactful one I've watched in a long time. I first saw it five months ago, and fast forward to today, I've broken up with my "convenient" girlfriend after almost 2 years together. I want to move to another city to start a new life, but she wants to stay here because of her career and family. This video was in the back of my mind when I made the decision to break up. Now, I’m excited to move and live up to my fullest potential. The other three points in the video also helped me a lot. To show my support for this channel, I'll definitely pick something from Edge and join Beast Nation. Thanks, bro, and stay beastly!
This video really hits the mark. I've avoided #1 as soon as I've realized what David is describing multiple times and moved from a safe job to a risky startup when I became too comfortable, so I can certainly feel these two. #3 and #4 are also very smart advice that everyone should consider (coming from a guy who bought his first apartment at the age of 28)
The worst part of dropping the convenience friends or the convenience girlfriend is if your friends like her they won't understand it and it will make you feel like you're making a huge mistake but that voice in your head will just get louder and louder until you have to change something.
Absolute facts with the mortgage point. One caveat would be that it’s wise to invest the difference between what you would be paying with the mortgage and what you’re paying in rent. since you won’t have an “asset” in the home you should be putting your money to work elsewhere ie the stock market.
agree with 3 of the 4 points, good friends will support you and guide you when you need some course correction, if the "friend" isn't supportive of your actions and decisions (valid supportive points of suggestion of course) then they're not really "good friends".... i have 2 circles of buddies, a close knit of 10 that i've known for 2 decades and everyones always been helpful/supportive/resourceful, and then the 2nd group, fun people to hangout with, get's ya out here and there, willing to join up but not 100% in the same lane so to speak, 2nd group is great for parties and hangouts but not more personnal interaction
My current girlfriend won't let me go the gym as "I will be looking at others girls" Sounds crazy right. What shall I do? Go to the gym anyways. Break up with her because of her controlling behavior? Let me know thanks
Go to the gym if you want to bro. But before you do that just try to understand the perspective she putting out if you want to keep the relationship going with her if not just break up. But if you want to keep it going find out why it is that she thinks you will go to look at girls, or find a gym where there is not much to look at lol. Just seek to understand before understood in that type of situation. May be her past experience or own insecurities getting in her way but I don't want to assume because I don't have all the details. But this is my recommendation. And also was she always controlling? And have you talked to her about her behavior? And have you had a posturing talk about that controlling behavior?
@@malik32345 She is controlling my life to the point where all the things I enjoyed doing like going gym keeping in shape, seeing my friends and watching football she will not allow me to. This is bringing me down and Im not as happy as I once was. I've talked to her many times and she just won't have it. I do love her as she is the most loyal girlfriend I could have and we have good times. There's also a lot of arguing though over silly stuff like the gym and seeing my friends. And advice?
A dream home is the biggest trap , been there done that, rent something and invest the rest you will definitely be a millionaire when you retire, I learned this too late, women’s worth is attached to their homes, men’s worth is attached to his purpose in life ! Great video and so true
What about buying a flat/house and when you wanna move somewhere you can just rent it? Not sure how it works in the USA, but sounds like a good option in my country.
That 60k/y is important because it lets you get on your feet and have some capital to start your biz and make some personal investments. That's where Im at. I've been the brokie living in a shack eating rice and beans with nothing but dreams. Blessed to be where I am and can't wait to scale side hustles.
It's funny but when you have a girlfriend you think your life is sorted. All those things you did before you had a girlfriend such as going to the gym, it stops. I was dating a girl in 2012 and I'd go to the gym everyday and suddenly I stopped. I thought, I have a girlfriend so I don't need to bother. I soon started piling on the pounds and I didn't need to try so hard. That's just as worse as being single, all alone, eating fatty foods, not taking care of yourself.
I am 35 and I never had any gf or friends. I only chose success. I was so lazy in my school days that I decided to go back to school in my mid 20s and cought up to all the degrees you can get. And this mindset stuck. I only care about becoming better at my skills even though nobody will ever care or know about it. I am not sure if that complete isolation is good or bad but it certainly does not matter for my career.
This scenario currently sounds like me right now , if you can be extremely honest and answer this question it would help out plenty. Would you say that spending all that time from ur mid 20s to now totally worth it? Life right now just seems so boring all I do is work gym and school, no gf or friends just straight up grind.
Before I went to University, I was working in construction. Before that, I was working in a bakery and I had to get up at 2am in the morning. Every day. Depending on your situation and job you are in, it is worth it if you have a better future ahead. I did not want to bury myself in the low paid jobs so I had to do something to get higher education. Now I am a developer. Sitting in front of a screen all day, earning money, going to the gym. Life is good, but its also boring. But in my case it was way worse back then. I could not tell you if it was worth it but I had to make a descision. Also, by becoming older you become more stoic and thus, all the pain and problems just repell. It is a great feeling that once you conquer your own body and mind, the result is not happiness but finally being "sober" from life.
@@eth7928 thank you for sharing, it helped me understand a bigger picture of the whole pie. It sounds like it’s safe to say that you’re in a position to provide, if you wanted to, a family of your own at comfortable strides.
My 4: Four key factors that can silently undermine a man's well-being include unaddressed mental health issues, chronic stress and overwork, neglecting personal relationships, and ignoring physical health.
Really like point number 4. I have been renting for years and will still continue to for a very long time. At least until I’m 40. As someone who owns multiple rental properties in addition to renting my own place, an even better hack to point 4 is to own any property giving you good rental income (i.e. a quadplex, small multifamily or even 2-4 apartments in the same building where you live in 1 and rent the rest out) to offset the expenses of owning that property and renting your residence home from the rental income yield you receive. Also, the biggest reason why I’m hesitant to buy a house is due to having to pay for the mortgage and maintenance expenses associated with homeownership without any way to offset it i.e. via rental income. I’ve done this strategy throughout Texas and Georgia. It’s especially effective and great for single people.
I’m a first year in college right now, and to your point earlier on mentioning like you not fitting in with a lot of people in college. I’m doing school, working 2 jobs, and working to start my own business during college. I’m out all day from 5am-11pm. I’m a very social guy and meet new people everyday, it’s just been super hard to find people who have similar values and interests. An example, lot of people I met want you to fit in with them by getting a fake id and going out and partying all the time. I just don’t have the time and also don’t want to risk my life. Socially, it’s just been hard for me. So my question for you David is that is what are some ways that I could improve myself socially?
I’m nearly bald, I got it from my grandfather. Not all women find me attractive because I don’t have beautiful long hair. It’s ok because the ones that do appreciate me not clogging up their shower drain, taking 45 minutes everyday to get ready and needing 3’ of counter space for all my hair products. Also studies show that men with a receding hairline have higher than average testosterone levels.
For the 4th thing: I would probably want to buy a one bedroom townhouse than a regular house. More and more milennials seem to want to go the townhouse route.
L take on real estate… I agree don’t buy a dream home, but buy something that you can do some cosmetic work on then live in it for a year and rent it out and either buy another or rent
I was in a toxic relationship with my girlfriend. But I accepted it and continued… didn’t want to give up even i knew it wasn’t healthy… later it became a toxic marriage…. With even a child in it… Now since 2023 after 13 years I’m divorced…. And a single dad wirh money problems
My mum passed away I find it unbearable that she’s not here I don’t know if she has gone to better place I do hope that she has gone to better place because her life was very difficult just as mine my life was very difficult I worked as a chef for years I didn’t expect life to be like this iv dated a lot I love women it’s just in my genes I guess 😂😆
Come on dude! Sometimes I feel attracted to my gf, sometimes I don't. She wants to stay in Brazil and I want to move to Canada. She doesn't want to be a mom and I want to be a dad. I don't break up but I feel I should do... IT SEEMS THAT YOU WERE TALKING 100% ABOUT MY SITUATION.
Men: The sooner in life that you STOP focusing on impressing women & the sooner you worry more about family & money than about dating, the better & wealthier you will be
🫠 Do you have any idea what the interest is on a $300k home is per year right now? plus taxes and other expenses? What if you’re only going to stay there 1-3 years? Why be locked into that mess?
7:32 the problem is most guys aren't able to get a woman they are attracted to because they usually don't meet the standards of said woman. This is coming from a guy with the same problem
Let me share my experience. More than once I’ve seen a great deal on a boat I wanted and just bought it and stashed it on my buddy’s acreage. When the time was right I would reveal the purchase and listen to my woman piss and moan for awhile. EVERY time I’ve done this after I took her out and showed her how much fun it was.. she LOVED it and couldn’t wait to do it again. Lesson: don’t ask. Your vision is what counts.
Lol, the only thing most women bring to a marriage nowadays is massive student loans, crazy credit card debt, and a substantial SUV payment. A lot of young women are looking to shed that debt on a “starter husband”
@@RustyZipper Why would you want her then. If you see her only as a liability you need not marry her. She needs to save herself first. Otherwise, you are never going to have a partner but a dependent. The same goes for women who have it together considering marrying a man with debts and fancy stuff. Bad financial habits do not change until one has suffered it. By marrying such a person, you are trying to save a drowning person and he or she will take you under.
@@JudyBarrette - well said! That’s why I’m not married and no children at 40. My g/f makes the same money as me. I see absolutely no benefit in being legally bound together in 2024, except for health insurance.
@@RustyZipper You are the creator of your life. If you do not feel creating a family is worth the trouble, then don't. Having children changes everything for a couple. Best both understand that. Being a mother, looking after a home, being in a relationship, plus maintaining a high paying job is not something all women can juggle. Even if you put in your all, it will be challenging. Something will suffer. And it could very well be your couple life. A man in his late 70's once shared with me how he regretted the decision him and his wife made to not have children, though. Yes, they travelled, and had lots of stuff and money. He envied my parents because I visited them on Mother and Father's Day. Also that it was a priority to get together for birthdays and Holidays. He saw the joy I had with my own children, taking them to hockey, and biking, camping, fishing, etc with them. Even the struggles of teen years were pleasing to him. Not always to me though. The children are all grown and on their own now. They are still a source of joy to us, and now as parents and grand parents.
