At 41 I asked out a 26 year old and was a bit hesitant to tell her my age.. 16 years later we are still married... So this video is true.....Yesterday I finally told her my age (just kidding)...
There is not much in the video I agree with. A few thangs: -most American men are hapless slobs and age has nothing to do with it. American men in their 20s, 30s, 40s for the most part are overweight, lackadaisical, and poor dressers. Assuming age automatically portends better more mature fashion and grooming tastes is wrong. -younger women will only date older men if they are in reasonable shape and don’t look their age. White men in particular age rapidly and terribly, most white men in their 40s look like they’re 50 or 60 so if a guy looks older than his age, younger women are less likely to date them. -surveys show that the bigger the age gap, the less likely that the relationship will be successful and long term. -besides being overweight slobs, American men suffer from a tragic almost comical lack of self awareness. Please read this carefully: if you are in your 40s, look older than your age, are overweight, do not know how to dress, and are a solid 5 on a good day, please get with reality and have the maturity and self awareness to know that it extremely unlikely that you will land a 28 year old Victoria’s Secret model who is a 10. One bonus thang - despite his trite contrived histrionics, Aaron Marino’s snake oil skin crème won’t turn you into Brad Pitt. Good skin doesn’t solve a bad jawline.
No, John. The point of being the best you can be is not to attract women. It's for YOU. Women are a by-product of that success, if one is interested. Women are not, and should never be the purpose for a man's goals.
I'm 42 and I feel better than ever, idk why or care but I still prefer women under 30. They still still have that new car smell, the interior isn't ripped up or beaten. 22-27 is my favorite age with women. I know comparing women to cars is ridiculous btw.
Disagree. In my experience, which creates wisdom, women younger than 10 yrs diff, are not emotionally in the same place as me, which creates problems. I did it for 20 yrs, so I know what I'm talking about.
@@leeali4096 do you think a woman in her 20s will be genuinely attracted to a man 20 years older who ISN’T very aesthetically attractive? You’re a clown
Hey John ,it’s also worth mentioning the issues with dating younger women. For example, if your 80’s kid and she’s 90’s or even worse millennial then you don’t have much in common. Next, she might have young children or even want more kids while I’m in completely different phase in my life.my kids are grown and It’s me time. Not into raising more children. To make it even worse , she’s more close to my kids age than to me..awkwardnessss. :). But I do get your point. Thanks for the video..:)
That actually is a point he makes in the video without saying your statement directly, honesty. Its not so much a problem dating younger, but dating in general. You may not find as many older woman wanting kids but they are out there. Thats why it is always better to be upfront and honest with any person you date, if you dont fit together then you dont. You move on to the next.
I do feel sorry for the young men now! Most of the content I see geared towards them about women is pretty aggressive! I'm still convinced being a gentleman is still what decent women still seak! Which is where lots of us older guys come in!
Great video, John. I"m 58 and I just can't let myself think I'm too old for anything, especially for a younger woman. It's helpful hearing you discuss the issue of the older man dating the younger women with this very concise, common sense approach. I'm very comfortable being old school (not too old school) and will always be that way.
In my experience, women are not interested in older men. Or younger men. Or men their own age. Or men who are breathing. At least that’s what my wife tells me. 🥴
This fine gentleman has panache Should be in the movies as He is unique in his ways Moral of this is big inspiration to men And my life is changed forever I'm middle aged and feel woman my age have no pun intended been around the block too many times Personally I have young beautiful woman swarm to me but I've kept them at arms length due to thinking I'm too old and it's not appropriate Know I have seen that way of thinking has cost me dearly Respect
1. When it comes to attracting people to date, we all try to use to our best advantage all the variables we have: looks, charm, manners, grooming and dress, and yes, our financial condition. Our money is just one of those many variables. 2. I have to be brutally honest here: I used to really like your videos; they gave very helpful and practical advice for an often-neglected age group. But lately, too much space is just a commercial for your day's sponsor. I get it - you have to make money but I miss your great content.
This is all ego driven. I have a daughter who is 18 and there is no way in hell I would be okay with her dating a 40 year old man. Both parties in that dynamic have some sort of dysfunction that attracts them. If you are a 40 year old man and have children this is especially disturbing. You want the same dating pool as your son who’s 20. Are you hitting on your daughters friends? Get over yourselves. We all age, your 20’s are gone. Embrace your age and maybe work on your yourself. This is the most superficial bullshit, playing on your fears and insecurities. Want to know what women want ask one!
I'm seeing this more commonly now (Some other person was right about this) and I just wanted to comment. I've been a fan of this model as a viewer and she posted some guy (At first I thought it was her father) turned out it was her husband (Looks 46 years old). I don't want to get into further details but umm I guess this is the meta for some guys, wait until they're in their 40s to get with a female who's in her 20's. At least there are people here that have their senses to see why this isn't okay.
I'm 57 and I have daughters the age of younger women your discussing. Would I want my daughters to have a relationship with guys my age? No way. Would I have a relationship with a 27 year old woman? No way.
My wife is 25 years younger than me and we get along great never argue its a great time too be an older gentleman and the younger men don't understand you have too be a man before you can be a gentleman and they just don't get it.
Definitely true as to how women are gravitating toward all of us fellows into our 40s & beyond. I get hits as do my single/divorced/widower male friends who are ready set to make secure homes. Somehow this situation feels different in flavor as did the idea of "gold-diggers" who haunted my father & his friends. My same age first cousin began dating his son's former girlfriend & they began living together over 5 years ago. This young woman is mature & smart & has no qualms about explaining how a seriously committed relationship with her former boyfriend's father makes perfect sense...she says, "We're both ready for real life, not games". ...Will this keep happening? I believe it will.
I'm newly divorced in my early 50's. When I retire in about a decade, I'd want to spend that time with my wife (if I remarry). If she's significantly younger than I, would she want to retire early? Would there be enough in my retirement (and whatever she has) to support her long after I'm dead so she doesn't have to go back to work at a late age? I'm sure these issues can be worked but it's something to consider.
Almost 40. I can squat 500 pounds, i have bitcoin and my career is stable and im well payed. Women over 27 are invisible to me life is great and my prime years are still.ahead of me
You are a Legend your videos are the best. Dating younger woman is definitely the best. More younger women want older men. My partner and I have been together for 5 years I am in my 40,s and she is in her early 30’s.
I’m 44 but look 35, exercise, don’t drink or take drugs. My girlfriend is 21 and we get on really well. I love her to bits. Admittedly I am a self made multimillionaire.
I’m in my 40’s dating a girl in her late 20’s. She was blown away when I opened the door for her. She keeps saying how nice I am and what a gentlemen I am. And it’s not about money (at least not yet).
When you are well off, and just in general, if you tell women what you want... she will start doing that, and thats a problem, you will get in love with her, and get married, and so she got you. Also in general, it will be exhausting for her to always act, so she will go to her natural state, which is usually nasty. Thats why one of the 1st questions they ask you... what type of women you like? Be careful. I personally just tell them that i been with various women, and do not have many preferences.
You should be healthy by following a healthy lifestyle: eating healthy food at the right time of the day, getting enough sleep, and doing physical exercises such brisk walking, jogging, running, cycling, or swimming; hitting gym if required. You should be in shape by ensuring that you weigh right as per your BMI. Take care of your skin by drinking water as per your BMI. Maintain your hygiene and wear clean clothes and accessories. Keep your personal and work stuffs organized everywhere. Form good habits, etiquettes, and manners. Find a purpose for your life. Follow these cardinal principles and I hope that sooner or later the right woman will be drawn to you. And yes, emulate John's sense of styling and dressing. Good luck, gentlemen!
I am a 28 year old woman and my fiance is 45 💘 he is sweet, dreamy, handsome and I am so over the moon. We got engaged in June 🥰 we met last summer at work and connected once I got a new position at the hospital we work at. We are so in love. We can not wait to get married and have a family! I cant wait for him to be a Dad ❤ and for me to be a Mom. Gen X is the last generation that has real men
No not really. 40 is not the new 20 for women and never will be. Women get their lottery winnings, upfront, between ages 18 -29(at best). Men get their winnings on the back 9. Sorry to burst your bubble Ms.
Today's video is full of excellent advice, most men need to hear this information. I know you feel like your constantly barking up a tree but someone has to do it. I've met 19 year old beautiful college girls with head their head on straight and honestly felt I was speaking to a peer and I'm 53!!!!! Today's men dress like overgrown children, they look just like their little kids. Keep up the great work. PS If I was in California, I'd join you for your upcoming social at that winery.
Oh..this channel has definitely help my "how to dress better" situation. I have gone out and redone my wardrobe. It has helped me with my confidence for sure.
Very true. I didn’t dress well in my late 20’s to early 40’s. I now dress nice every day that I’m 50 and got in shape been lifting weight for 5 years now. I’ve had women in their late 20’s and 30’s wanting to go out and a lot of flirting. Should of done this long time ago. It’s never too late though
Legend. John, As always great video so true and very informative. I have always dated women younger than me between 10:00 and 20 years. One thing that I've done though which Narrows everything as I find women who are successful on their own or on their way to becoming. That way I know they're not looking for a daddy and I have to say it's been quite effective. I almost married somebody and I'm glad I didn't but she was earning seven figures. Much more than me it did not intimidate me however I knew she was with me for me not for what I could provide her. Like everything else in life don't be intimidated by someone that you think is too young or too hot. Just like in business you have to ask for the order!
I notice a lot of older women think it’s not ok for 40 year old man to date a 20 year old woman but a lot of younger women don’t have a problem with it. Also other men of all ages have a problem with it so….it kinda seems like they have a vested interest in this beyond what should be allowed 😂
Nothing wrong with having a preference. Both sides and each individual has their own preferences. Younger, older, tall , short, curvy, thin, it’s all preference. :)
It's definitely a "different strokes" situation. I, unfortunately, became a widower in my early 30s with a toddler. I remarried a woman in my age group. Now at 56, if in the same boat, I know darn well a younger woman is not for me, and honestly, I doubt I would remarry again. I'm not saying I wouldn't date or have a serious relationship again. I'd like to think that we >40 guys are wise enough to know what we are getting into with younger women and accept the positives or negatives that come with any relationship.
Well look, I followed all of this advice well before this video. I'm 22 and very strong for my age, I dress in a very classic style sense and I'm such a perfectionist on getting the right fitting clothes. I'm not talking about slimfit, I'm talking about clothes that are comfy and tailored on ones physique. I do notice women glancing at me a lot through out life. Of course those are oppurtunties for me to advance on it, but then again why should I do this with every women who gives me a glance. Doesn't make sense does it? I personally think it just get easier with age as a man. You get more situations and meet more people through work as you get older which will allow you to build your network. It just doesn't really happen especially if you've never been to University or work from home. It's a tricky time for young people. Especially with Covid when loads of people refused to meet in person. Also as a young man, it's an odd time as well since you're not old enough to really properly go to things like meetup groups or classes, unless you like the fact that everyone is basically older then you.
Bad fitting jeans & hoodies!most I guys I notice when out are wearing joggers t shirts sneakers in fact I’ve thrown clothing in better condition than most wear in the trash I wouldn’t eve wear it around the house never mind in public! I pretty certain most guys & women seem to have/take no pride in themselves especially in there daily lives,poorly groomed poor personal hygiene,ear hair,nose hair,dirty hands & finger nails etc
Im 42 and in the last few months, since a hard break up, I have started dating 4 woman of the ages 26, 27, 34 and 40. Still dating 3 of them. This video is pretty much spot on.
To be honest, I mostly date black women; and they almost always look way younger than they actually are. Best of both worlds; get a woman who looks younger but doesn't act like it. For some reason there seems to be a reluctance amongst quite a few white guys to date black women, and maybe that's to do with media stereotyping; I don't know. All I can tell you is that I find that the 'angry black woman' trope is entirely misleading and almost totally false.
John, another great video reaffirming lessons I've learned in my 57 years. There are generational gaps that take work if you want to make things happen but I think there is a threshold as we age, say 10 to 12 years difference, in my opinion anyway. Money and security: yes, we all work for that, men and women. What I've learned is that it's not how much income you make per se but do you make a living. I've met plenty of women that are happy if you have a regular job aka 40 hr week that you show up for, reliable transportation, and a place of your own, even if you rent/lease! Goes back to self care, self assurance, and being genuine. Keep up the good work!
Older men have the good sense to be over the bar scene/heavy irresponsible drinking. Much better to be around than a sloppy party -boy 20-something....
I agree with all this! I am 33, my boyfriend is 57, and we have been together for almost two and a half years. He is a true gentleman who knows how to treat a lady right.
This is spot on information period. This information also works for younger men that are more focused and mature for their age. I'm a late bloomer and this content gives me the confidence to start getting back into the fold after the last couple of years.
In your 40s you need to be in good shape(not a dad bod) and have confidence.. if you have those two things you will have no problems finding women of all ages..
I’m 38 year old woman. Why so many younger guys like 32 or 35 years old write to me on a dating app? I’m assuming they could easily get a woman in their twenties.
