44-Year-Old Virgin Answers Your Questions | Honesty Box

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We kick off season 2 of Honesty Box with the wonderful Stephen Kinnard, a business owner who opens up on his experience of being a virgin aged 44. Stephen discusses his views on sex and relationships, reveals his dream celebrity crush, and gives advice to others who might be in a similar situation.
00:00 - 00:41 - intro
00:41 - 01:30 - Why are you a virgin?
01:30 - 02:17 - Why have you chosen to speak about this publicly?
02:17 - 02:50 - Have you ever considered using a sex worker?
02:50 - 03:32 - Do you struggle with confidence?
03:32 - 03:49 - How far have you gone with a girl?
03:49 - 04:14 - How do you feel about the word virgin?
04:14 - 05:00 - Are you an incel?
05:00 - 05:27 - Will you have sex when you find the right partner?
05:27 - 5:30 - Have you ever watched porn?
5:30 - 06:16 - Are there more middle aged virgins out there than we think?
06:16 - 06:51 - How do you view women?
06.51 - 07:24 - Do you use dating apps?
07:24 - 07:43 - Are you just asexual?
07:43 - 8:14 - What is the lowest point you've had?
08:14 - 08:48 - Which celebrity would you lose your virginity to?
08.48 - 09:54 - are you coming on LADbible to find a woman?
09:54 -10:23 - Would you be happy to go your whole life without sex?
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@LADbible 5 месяцев назад

Thank you to Stephen for sharing his story. He would like to pass on a message - '"If you lose hope, you lose a chance."

@evilrooster9960 5 месяцев назад

Hey Stephen, try going bald!! I shaved my head and have gotten WAY more attention!

@Digitalhunny 5 месяцев назад

Society puts far too much importance on sex! Do it, don't do it it truly is all up to the individual & nobody else. We've got to stop making such a huge deal over nothing, especially the very 1st time. THAT is usually award af the 1st time. Seriously just imagine if we treated _any_ other physical activity like we do sex. Ie: Did you hear? Jimmy & Susan have never ever jumped rope before?! You mean they've _never_ jumped rope together or ever? Jenny has been jumping rope since she was 16?! She's _such_ a good jumper, a real professional. I hear she enters to do it in competitions & has won money for her skills! 😂😂😂😂

@evilrooster9960 5 месяцев назад

@@Digitalhunny then take this man ^ on a damn date lol

@Digitalhunny 5 месяцев назад

@@evilrooster9960 I would actually but, he lives far across the ocean in another frickin' country!

@evilrooster9960 5 месяцев назад

LADbible , you know what to do lol

@Toffees1878 5 месяцев назад

Fair play to him for speaking out, takes balls to admit something like that at 44.

@buttieboy666 5 месяцев назад

Now if we can direct the energy it takes to speak like this and put it in to pulling😂

@LordLOC 5 месяцев назад

I'm 47, and a virgin. I have zero problems telling people or talking about it. No balls involved because it shouldn't be an issue that's maligned as much as it apparently is in society.

@nyxzgaming 5 месяцев назад

It’s an issue only for teenagers, grown adults down really care.

@LordLOC 5 месяцев назад

@@nyxzgaming Indeed. When you are a teenager or in your 20s hormones alone make it a huge deal breaker for many. And yeah, I get it, sex is a huge thing for people these days for various reasons. But once you get past a certain age (and not just being a virgin mind you) it's just not that big a deal anymore. Though I assume it's still awesome if you have sex lol

@martyhowie75 5 месяцев назад

Big ball after 44 years of no sex!

@paulroper1729 5 месяцев назад

Love his answer to "Have you ever watched porn?". Seems like a thoroughly decent, interesting, intelligent gentleman with a great sense of humour. Good for him.

@oxonomy2372 5 месяцев назад

Where’s that question in the video?

@spartanguitarist6579 5 месяцев назад

it's clear that he is an addict

@archie7218 5 месяцев назад

@@spartanguitarist6579 No it isn't. Obviously not impossible but nothing from this video gave me that impression.

@DarkOne7777 5 месяцев назад

and so are you @@spartanguitarist6579

@Hooga89 5 месяцев назад

@@archie7218 I sincerely doubt a 44 year old man who owns his own businesses even has time to be a p*rn addict without it ruining his bottom line.

@The_Unborn_Soul 5 месяцев назад

The balls on this man to speak out and try to comfort others who may be feeling a certain way about their own situations. This is brave. Kudos, sir. Mad respect. 🤘

@SmokingLaddy 5 месяцев назад

He’s got massive balls, huge blue ones, 44 years is a lot of backlog.

@BonShula 5 месяцев назад

It is just cringe. He can sleep whenever he wants. Stop acting like it is a feat to sleep with women

@SmokingLaddy 5 месяцев назад

@@BonShula Yeah man, respect to him for speaking out. I hope he finds himself a nice woman, seems like a good man.

@BonShula 5 месяцев назад

@@SmokingLaddy But still, it is not a feat to sleep with women. Anyone can do it. It just takes some effort and 0 education

@chunkylilpeanut 5 месяцев назад

@@BonShula You seem personally offended by another person being a virgin for some reason. Is this some sort of projection or something?

@Coco21212 5 месяцев назад

I know I said his message was for men and teenage boys but as a 29 y/o woman who's a virgin, it really inspired me.

@Bruh-rp5vk 5 месяцев назад

really bringing out the copium smokers in the comments

@lm86531 5 месяцев назад

Ignore the comment above me, I'm aroace and a virgin woman in my late 20s too! Nothing wrong with it

@ne3371 5 месяцев назад

@@lm86531Same here! Woman, late 20s. No rush for me tbh

@PaulTC777 5 месяцев назад

no woman is a virgin

@thesoul2sqeeze 5 месяцев назад

@@PaulTC777 yeah just make that absolutely normal comment with no explanation, that'll make you look intelligent 😀

@ihateunicorns867 5 месяцев назад

Best comeback I ever heard for the 'virgin' teasing is: "I'm not a virgin. Ask your sister." "I don't have a sister." "You will in 9 months"

@therearenoshortcuts9868 5 месяцев назад

epic! LOL

@travisworden8841 5 месяцев назад

Oh, crap, that's terrible! Can't stop laughing.

@RobinsMusic 5 месяцев назад

unless they ask their sister

@grilledcheese9297 4 месяца назад

Hahaha Boom Boom 🦊

@umelaila1036 50 минут назад

Response: mother is dead

@a32tl 5 месяцев назад

I’m 55 and have never shared a genuine romantic moment with another living soul. Have never even kissed a girl, much less had sex. It is profoundly embarrassing. Honestly, once I turned 40, I kind of knew it wasn’t going to happen. I hate it and would really have loved being involved with someone but I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things. The worst is when people put me on the spot and ask specific questions about being single that I don’t want to answer. Doesn’t happen often but it will occasionally.

@ElCazador66 5 месяцев назад

That's one of the greatests issues indeed, virgininity itself is not a big deal for most people (unless you are a sex addict or something like that). One could live their entire life without ever having sex and don't give a damn about it (me included). Honestly I had sex for the first time at 28 yo and it wasn't a big deal at all. The big problem is the social and psychological stigma that comes with it, society and your subconsciousness will judge you for being a virgin. We shouldn't let others (society) make us feel bad...

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

Another angry reminder that cases like this are male dominated and it should be obvious and that is because due to how nature and reality dictates that men have to do the pursuing and be the ones to actively seek the woman out

@europeansovietunion7372 5 месяцев назад

@@ElCazador66 I think the real issue is we forgot how to be silly, to embrasse ridicule, and to accept our failures. Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself. We live in an egocentric society, people are afraid their ego could be hurt, and they're even more afraid to hurt someone else's ego. It's a vicious circle. @a32tl The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both... "I am blessed in other areas of my life and try to focus on the good things" Look at you, trying to protect your little ego at your own expense, focusing on your successes to hide your failures from yourself... Go talk to women, ask them out, do it wrong, be awkward, get rejected most of the time, get your ego crushed, laugh about it and be happier.

@JohnL9013 5 месяцев назад

I'm 35 and have also never kissed or had a relationship with anyone. Out of curiosity, why do you feel it's embarassing?

@HyperMario64 5 месяцев назад

@@europeansovietunion7372 "Shame is a state that you and only you can inflict upon yourself", then you state "The reasons you're still a virgin are either tragic or laughable; and mostly likely both...". I will skip over the personal attacks in the rest of the comment.. My brother, this is some peak irony. Couldn't make this shit up. This is exactly why people don't feel comfortable talking about this stuff. You will always have this lovable individual making these out of pocket comments and patronizing blanket advice. Honestly it's disgusting. Who are you to talk to strangers like that? Do you even have a successful and long-lasting marriage before coming at people like that ? Actually, scratch that. I wouldn't even entertain the idea that anyone could put up with this kind of bullshit for any amount of time.

@8882keithio 5 месяцев назад

massive respect to Stephen! Very brave and honest! I pray he finds a wonderful wife in the future! God bless you Stephen 🙂

@davidz3879 5 месяцев назад

Who says he's looking to marry?

@srccde 5 месяцев назад

@@davidz3879 Many people aren't until they find the right person.

@davidz3879 5 месяцев назад

@@srccde Yes, but millions of others never marry or want to even if they meet the right person.

@GhostOfThisHouse 5 месяцев назад

@@davidz3879 a girlfriend then, or a one time sexual partner. it's not that deep

@davidz3879 5 месяцев назад

@@GhostOfThisHouse How can he? What's appealing about him?

@bionicnichola9251 5 месяцев назад

Saw him on the dozen podcast. It's sad society has made him feel like that. A legend for speaking out.

@JohnHausser 5 месяцев назад

Virgin “legend” 🤭

@fazeverdansk9276 5 месяцев назад

@@JohnHausser The fact that you hold someone back the title of legend purely because they haven't "tango'd" is crazyyyy

@sideshowbrowny4595 5 месяцев назад

depends how you look at it mate, think he was meaning being a virgin is as good as a legend@@fazeverdansk9276

@lukeporter6503 5 месяцев назад

@@JohnHausser🔔end

@Joriszx 5 месяцев назад

@@JohnHausser you must be the playboy surley

@mirandareed8592 5 месяцев назад

What a sweetheart! I'm actually quite surprised he hasn't found a wife, seems very genuine and lovely.

@Brambrew 5 месяцев назад

I'm not surprised at all And I agree, he seems lovely His situation says much less about his character and more about society as a whole

@kenoir01 5 месяцев назад

@@Brambrewcompletely agree

@j31b 5 месяцев назад

Being lovely and genuine doesn't help it when you are shy, inexperienced and lack persistence. Most women don't openly express their affection and expect men to figure it out and take action. But this requires certain degree of courage and experience from man. So when the man is shy and inexperienced, it's easy to start acting creepy and thus quickly become repulsive to a woman (most people learn these things during their teen years, so one is expected to know all this when being an adult, which is not the case when one is an old virgin). And the more he gets rejected, the more he is negatively reinforced to avoid taking any action, including just showing affection. Also, the fact that woman's way of showing affection is usually indistinguishable from "just trying to be nice" doesn't make it easier. I am a 40 year old virgin myself, and I also heard similar things quite a few times (while I was still living in my country, where asking personal questions is more common than in the west).

@General_Alek 5 месяцев назад

Maybe he would like to be with Miranda Reed 😂

@scoon2117 5 месяцев назад

50 years ago he could, our culture is too crazy now.

@Buddy1530 5 месяцев назад

He's got a good sense of humour 😂, he should just be himself, he seems like a great guy

@aussiejubes 5 месяцев назад

All signs indicate he is always "just being himself". He's shy he said. It's being himself that seems to be the issue & I in no way mean that to be derogatory. Shyness can be a real issue when trying to date.

@aussiejubes 5 месяцев назад

@user-yc3mq2wm3v apps are a complete wasteland for women too, men aren't more hard done by. The messages we get are 99% foul. But yes, on apps they're all based on looks. We need more avenues for people to mix and mingle in person.

@Gino_567 5 месяцев назад

@@aussiejubesyou can be yourself and fix the element that's not winning you a women (being shy)

@aussiejubes 5 месяцев назад

@@Gino_567 exactly.

@Buddy1530 5 месяцев назад

@@aussiejubes someone women like shy guys, I'm shy and my girlfriend is very energetic and an extrovert and we balance each other out, I really hope he finds someone like that

@melonsushipan 5 месяцев назад

35 and in the same situation as Stephen. Dealing with this is not easy. This shit can lower your self worth and self esteem. They become worse if you try to find someone so many times but still fail. But you have no choice but to keep on trying, cope and try to find fulfillment in other aspects of life.

@cain2548 5 месяцев назад

Sex for joy is overrated. Creates more stress than it relieves.

@captainquagmire859 5 месяцев назад

My advice is look into looksmaxxing, but not too far because those the extremes in that community are far too obsessed

@ShadyLurker16 5 месяцев назад

What cringy advice. @@captainquagmire859

@pm3705 5 месяцев назад

no omg dont go into looksmaxxing lmao@@captainquagmire859

@userdeutschenteir 5 месяцев назад

@@cain2548no, it does not.

@pipedream690 5 месяцев назад

My brother's 45 and a virgin. Never even had a girlfriend. He's happy, that's all that matters

@BobbyWolf1 5 месяцев назад

Are you sure he's happy?

@datanerd6935 5 месяцев назад

Coping well and being happy are two different things...

@Gino_567 5 месяцев назад

@@datanerd6935how would you know if he's happy or not?

@datanerd6935 5 месяцев назад

@@Gino_567 I'm saying he might look "happy" outside but you never know if he's truly happy. Relationships and sex are two of the biggest things that fulfill us after all. Also define "happy". You might look happy outside but be suicidal inside.

@Jabberwocky_McScrugel 5 месяцев назад

@@datanerd6935I understand what you're saying, because I myself project joy to hide anguish.

@walkourwoofers853 5 месяцев назад

This guy deserves to find love and finally pop his cherry with the right lady. He's interesting, funny, charismatic, and best of all thoroughly decent. Being a virgin is the least interesting or significant thing about him, it really doesn't matter. Good luck Stephen, i hope you find the woman of your dreams very soon 😊

@Sureshots. 5 месяцев назад

Wtf is this comment “pop his cherry” like wtf that’s not how it works.

@user-vz9ko1ih3z 5 месяцев назад

@@Sureshots. That's how it works in Britain. (=

@longjonwhite 5 месяцев назад

@walkourwoofers. Yeah, but he should maybe stop dreaming about Darcy bloody Bussel and set his sights a little lower…

@walkourwoofers853 5 месяцев назад

@@longjonwhite I think they'd asked him for an example of the sort of women he likes. There's no point him saying Sandra from down the road as nobody would know who he meant! He's got good taste, Darcy Bussell is bloody lovely 😍

@walkourwoofers853 5 месяцев назад

@@Sureshots. It's a figure of speech in the UK for blokes losing their virginity.

@srichey444 5 месяцев назад

Bless his heart. Not bad looking, great sense of humor, has 2 successful businesses. He's a catch! I hope he gets Therapy and meets a Wonderful person he can Marry. 🙏🏾💜

@AdamTravelsTheWorld 5 месяцев назад

He doesn't need therapy, he claimed that he wants sex to be a private and special thing. Sounds like he is saving himself.

@DaysAreForgottenBaby 5 месяцев назад

He definitely needs therapy, he’s idealising the idea of the first moment, (which it’s usually s***) and I think he’s connecting it with “the ideal person” to such a point that nobody has matched his criteria in 44 years. He seems to be very nice btw

@PaulTC777 5 месяцев назад

canthal tilt

@Justin-td4bb 5 месяцев назад

@@AdamTravelsTheWorld therapy would definitely help. He struggles with confidence and is also on a never ending search for an ideal partner

@davidz3879 5 месяцев назад

Who says he's looking to marry?

@adcrane 5 месяцев назад

Respect. More proud masculinty in this video than any sports jock on TV. Being a virgin is not necessarily something to be proud or ashamed of however conducting yourself as Stephen has, being the person that Stephen is is comendable beyond words.

@silvermoonuk 5 месяцев назад

He's a proper, decent bloke - they are rare these days. ❤

@ViolentxStrike 5 месяцев назад

This takes a lot of balls to come out and say this. Good on you buddy.

@user-bk9fk2tq2z 2 месяца назад

It doesn't really, lots of virgin men would have been open to taking LadBible's offer. It takes more balls to join the military or fight a fire as a firefighter.

@ViolentxStrike 2 месяца назад

@@user-bk9fk2tq2z And you know that for a fact do you? I for one wouldn’t, as people I know would know that fact about me, and may be joking behind my back. Notice how you said “more balls”. So it does take some balls to come out and say you’re are a virgin at 44 years old?

@sebastianrubio928 5 месяцев назад

My dad is 67, he looks better than this guy. I don't mean, to offend this guy, I really don't, but he doesn't look healthy at all, I would at least try to change my look and try some new stuff.

@MunterPunter 5 месяцев назад

What a nice bloke. I hope he finds the woman he deserves. Going on the telly and speaking up shows immense character. I also liked the way he spoke about women, not an ounce of misogyny in him. That's a really good quality.

@keithkarvelis82 23 дня назад

Why would he be misogynist?

@Universal_.entity_. 5 месяцев назад

I wish him the best and I hope he finds a partner he will be happy with

@saoooooful 5 месяцев назад

as a 42 year old female virgin this was so validating, thank you

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

A woman who is a virgin in her 40s? How is that possible? Saving sex for marriage? Just asking because most Society will never expect something like this for women unless the woman is choosing to wait until marriage

@amyhardwood 5 месяцев назад

@@nobodysperfect06 It’s much more common than you’d ever imagine. I’m a 34 yr old female virgin. I kissed a couple of guys at university, but other than that nothing. I’m not waiting for marriage or anything, it’s just never happened for me. It’s never really bothered me, and on the occasions when it has, I just think ‘ehh, it’s only hormones, just chemicals in my body.’

@RA-wp6th 5 месяцев назад

@@amyhardwoodWhy hasn’t it happened, you never met the right guy?

@amyhardwood 5 месяцев назад

@@RA-wp6th Well nobody has ever been interested in me, other than the odd drunken kiss at uni, and I’ve always been too shy of rejection to tell those guys I’ve liked how I feel. I once bought a valentines card to send anonymously to a guy but chickened out in posting it!

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

@@amyhardwood most people and most of society don't expect cases like this for women and the reason why is because of how for all time men have always been expected to make the first move and ask the woman out and be the initiators

@nogardamai5684 5 месяцев назад

Major props to this guy for being so open about this. He seems very emotionally mature and would probably be a better partner than many men. I didn't have sex until I was 26 and I definitely had a sense of shame about it, but I bet it's more common than people think. I had a lot of fear about letting anyone get too close to me (either physically or emotionally!) so I barely even attempted dating until I was mid 20s, and then it took a while before the right man came along with enough patience to slowly prove himself trustworthy! 😂

@stevehadfield1164 5 месяцев назад

The dude is funny as F. He will find his mate when the time for him is right. Maximum respect for him. 👊

@liamm-c1287 5 месяцев назад

This guys calm demeanor and deadpan humor are really special. Good man stephen!

@bescientific69 5 месяцев назад

He’s totally adorable and a great catch. I can tell he will cherish and make a lucky lady very happy one day! All the best to him!

@nukethenukes2319 5 месяцев назад

When he said he’s kissed and cuddled I died a little inside. I’m 32 and never kissed or have had any sort of affection experience. I kind of hoped I could relate but even this man has had a little window into what it feels like to be wanted. But good for him!

@walkourwoofers853 5 месяцев назад

You'll find it too bud, just don't give up. There's a girl out there for you, guaranteed 😊

@MrNoName7474 5 месяцев назад

If you want to hear a funny story, I only ever had one girlfriend. The furthest we ever got was holding hands. She said something like “your hands are so cold!” 💀 Then summer ended and we went back to different colleges and broke up before Christmas break. And that was 6 years ago 💀 I’ve got time though 😅

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

Why do I get the feeling you're a guy and male

@Patriarcarabioso. 5 месяцев назад

X2. Aunque realmente es entendible, quizás era demasiado que no hubiese besado nunca a los 44 años

@keithkarvelis82 23 дня назад

@@walkourwoofers853 How do you know? Hopefully you're right for his sake.

@antp637 5 месяцев назад

He's actually a lovely, funny guy.

@balooko31 5 месяцев назад

This reminds me of the guy who posted a video about being ugly ("Being Ugly, MY EXPERIENCE") and then a very attractive girl commented that he was cute, they met up, and a few years later they got married. I'm sure a woman or two will find this guy charming and handsome, so he better check his DMs and hidden messages on social media (and he should post those on here). Good luck, dude!

@adamg6711 5 месяцев назад

They are currently on a "break" she moved back to her home country. He said they will be apart for several years. Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship💀💀

@ANM21985 5 месяцев назад

that guy went viral and had many MILLIONS of views achieving internet fame. This guy in this current video only has 40k views so I don't think he's gonna be inundated with much offers....

@ne3371 5 месяцев назад

@@ANM21985Omg give him time it hasn’t even been 24 hours

@natscat4752 5 месяцев назад

@@ANM21985Nearly 67,000 now.

@dw4525 5 месяцев назад

@@adamg6711what country was she from?

@MrDimitrisfromathens 5 месяцев назад

"Life is too precious..." The man said it all. Thank you, I think a lot of us needed to hear this today.

@caliinthevalley24681 5 месяцев назад

I really appreciate this video. It takes extreme courage to speak about this. The irony is that this guy seems really sweet, intelligent, and kind and is someone I would personally be happy to get to know but his shyness would prevent me from meeting someone like this. Unfortunately, it seems like it is always the gross, unpleasant, confident guys that get the girls.

@Sandra_HereToSeeTheDuctTape 5 месяцев назад

Exactly the same thoughts I had while watching the video... 😊

@magsman448 5 месяцев назад

Being shy and quiet around the ladies is an almost impossible hurdle. Most suffer in silence.

@Bruh-rp5vk 5 месяцев назад

probs because animal instincs, the more "alpha" (to use incel speak) get the women because they are more confident, stronger, better offspring etc. so kind of makes sense if you dont fit that description

@Gino_567 5 месяцев назад

@@Bruh-rp5vk"alpha energy" is a delusion sold on the internet to gullible people. There are shy girls out there too that have never had a boyfriend. There a people of all walks of life that are perfect for each other, shy or confident.

@jas_bataille 5 месяцев назад

@@Bruh-rp5vk "Better offspring" leaves a bad taste in my mouth

@Jo-Anna4654 5 месяцев назад

Such a lovely guy! Great sense of humour too. I'm surprised no one asked about his religious upbringing though, this would have been my first question

@walkourwoofers853 5 месяцев назад

Good point.

@mwi8743 5 месяцев назад

I'm 36. I spent my early to late 20s really giving relationships and dating a go. And I just always failed at it. Despite trying, I failed every time. Not just failing at having sex, but failing at actually having relationships. Then one day, and I couldn't recall when, I just stopped trying. I lost hope. Went years not even realizing until now that I'm 36 and basically a functioning recluse. The recovery from here is near impossible. Stephen's message about hope is very real. Never lose it. I lost it, trust me, his message is real.

@grrr3500 5 месяцев назад

Im a little bit younger than you and lost hope already, thinking about end.

@TheDarkXn 5 месяцев назад

Hanging in there, guys - try a little harder - don't give up! You'd be surprised at how many great girls are out there, feeling just as lonely and hopeless

@grrr3500 5 месяцев назад

@@TheDarkXn It's not true, besides that I have too many personal problems to even be accepted.

@konrad1916 5 месяцев назад

@@grrr3500 Do not lose hope. Im 33 next month. Im waiting for my wife to meet in paradise after I die. I hope she is waiting for me. Life is coplicated but one simple truth is that God loves us. For I handed on to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the scriptures; that he was buried; that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the scriptures 1 Corinthians 15:3

@Samuel-vw2wy 5 месяцев назад

get ifs therapy and read happiness beyond thought by Gary weber

@vernonhedge4530 5 месяцев назад

I don't understand how he is not married; independent businessman, funny, confident. I guess it will happen soon. Good man. Fair play to him!

@HenriZwols 3 месяца назад

If it hasn't happened for all this time, I see no reason why it will happen soon. Unless something has drastically changed in his life.

@icastfist 5 месяцев назад

I'm nearly 43 and still a virgin. Never been in a relationship or even kissed anyone lol. This used to bother me when i was younger but I've now accepted that it will never happen for me.

@natscat4752 5 месяцев назад

Never say never! I think try and find someone nice if possible even if it doesn’t work out in the end, then you’ll know if having a partner might be worth pursuing. I lived in Cornwall for a few years after a breakup and it was super easy to stay single if I didn’t socialise!

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

Your case makes me mad because it reminds me that they are male-dominated

@guillaumegiroux9425 5 месяцев назад

There’s a dude named Nick Notas who runs a website. Helped me a lot. You made the first step by being open. Authenticity is a looked after skill for women. There are men without limbs who get married. You seem honest, idk why you should let a life failure be permanent.

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

@@guillaumegiroux9425 any notable cases of Men Without Limbs?

@MattHanr 5 месяцев назад

No one asked the guy in the video, so I’m curious whether you ever tried to meet someone or just don’t know how / too shy? It sounds like lately you’ve given up on it entirely, but was it different in the past?

@thomasdilley9445 5 месяцев назад

Fair play to him

@mmcmc3476 5 месяцев назад

Hi Stephen! Takes great courage to speak out publicly about this. Big respect! 👍👍

@andyjohnson4907 5 месяцев назад

What a brave, honest, and sweet guy. Good luck to you, Stephen. I hope you find a special woman to grow old with.

@Grandmotherof3 5 месяцев назад

Being alone (and not having sex) is not the end of the world! Much better than being in a bad relationship (with sex). Now that can ruin one’s self esteem for sure. Best of life wishes for you Stephen. ❤❤

@TheDarkXn 5 месяцев назад

Having had plenty personal experience with both of these scenarios, I can say that you are 100% correct!

@ShockResistor 5 месяцев назад

True and hes not alone in life. Hes got friends and is social.

@treeforged9097 5 месяцев назад

I disagree with you. If you are in a bad relationship you have an option to end it. If you cannot find anyone who wants you then the feeling of powerlessness and lack of freedom is totally crippling. It is a totally different experience never having found anyone then it is if you are in between relationships and are just waiting to find your next.

@garethmorgan3665 5 месяцев назад

John Callahan once said ' Sex is like air, it's not important unless you aren't getting any.'

@HenriZwols 3 месяца назад

There is a big difference between being alone after a breakup and having memories of love you felt versus being alone and never have experienced love. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I've had a very long dry spell recently. It didn't feel nearly as bad as in my twenties being a virgin.

@ADadasadasdadw 5 месяцев назад

Best of luck to Stephen for his future. Being a bit more then 10 years younger, but heading down the same path, I know how frustrating and mood destroying it can be. Especially since the older you get the less likely it feels to ever find someone. Not to mention all the years of lonelyness and lost time that you could've spent with that special someone.

@MinorMotionPicture 5 месяцев назад

10 yrs younger than this guy and also haven't "done it" haven't been in any relationship, haven't kissed anyone, haven't even held hands... and it hurts, oh it hurts so badly... the hollow emptiness in my chest that pierces like a blade. I hate myself, I blame myself, it seems that this is just the way my life is written. But it was very comforting watching this video, and feeling like someone understands.

@Mk18_40mm 5 месяцев назад

I understand and know there will be hope

@brianfox771 5 месяцев назад

Hmm, I'm 2 years older than that guy but am in the same predicament as you. And yet I do not feel that level or depth of pain, nor hollowness or self hate. I don't know why my feelings turned out differently than yours; so I'm at a loss of what advice to give you. I have Asperger's so that probably helps. I think having a career and hobbies that occupy my time well keep the loneliness at bay. I had a dog for 17 years that kept me company; he passed away last April, so I have felt a bit more lonely recently than in the past. I think I've just adapted to my solitude and enjoy it. I'm fulfilled by my own company. Nietzsche, for me, said it best: "My solitude doesn’t depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company."

@Samuel-vw2wy 5 месяцев назад

try invincible from aura university and ace formula from Adam Lyons

@lowwprofile 5 месяцев назад

Never hate yourself. Know that your life is in your hands and you can change things for the better the second you decide to do so. God bless

@bubblewrapfred 4 месяца назад

Also ten years younger and also found this comforting 😅 (Btw, I’m considering film school so your username intrigued me… just checked out your channel!)

@rebel.taylord 5 месяцев назад

As a sex repulsed asexual, everytime I have sex is to please my partner. I understand most people need/want sex but it always feels like a chore and tried my best to avoid it. Thanks for this video. I wish our society normalize not having sex as an option, if you want sex great, if you hate it great too. I've been told so many times you haven't meet the right guy, it's so annoying.

@mjn213 5 месяцев назад

To never want sex isn’t normal. I’m not saying it makes u a weirdo, I’m sure you’re not at all. But to never want sex is some kind of chemical imbalance

@lordprotector3367 5 месяцев назад

Just out of interest, why do you have a partner if you are repulsed by sex?

@rsk6929 5 месяцев назад

@@lordprotector3367 Just because someone doesn't like sex doesn't mean they don't want kids or someone to share their life with. Sex does not equal love PERIOD

@nobodysperfect06 5 месяцев назад

Are you saying you never enjoyed having sex?

@Iotuseater 5 месяцев назад

@@lordprotector3367Love ≠ Sex

@AC-mr7om 5 месяцев назад

Wishing you all the best mate! Fair play for talking about it, you’ve probably helped a lot of other people with this interview. You seem like a decent fella, hope your dreams come true!

@Paul9 5 месяцев назад

What a genuine, down to earth guy, and genuinely witty. I think he’ll make someone very happy one day.

@veduci22 5 месяцев назад

The virtue signaling in this comments section is off the charts... Yes, we are definitely not superficial, physical attractiveness doesn't matter to us, we only care about what's inside and most importantly we managed to get sex and start romantic relationships because we're genuinely good people.

@Fightookaishii 5 месяцев назад

@veduci22 Right? 😂 So many ppl virtue signalling to kingdom come. It's his LOOKS! He hasn't got the genuine attractiveness that would have women all over him. It's so silly how ppl will deny this, call him brave and good-looking. Get outta here with all that nonsense

@jamesb8619 3 месяца назад

He’s 44 years old he’s done. There’s no turning the clock around lol.

@Whatisthiseh 5 месяцев назад

So happy to see the majority of comments are so nice n supportive n fair play to bro for sharing 🥰

@reedi30 5 месяцев назад

Oh mate, totally relate, and I'm 47, so no, you're not alone, well done on doing this and thanks.

@atillaozturk7075 4 месяца назад

So you are a 47 year old virgin?? My mate is 54 and still a virgin.

@MsNZgal 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Stephen for being so moral and kind. I admire you for your stance on not using women just for sex.

@Sureshots. 5 месяцев назад

Why not?? At this point he don’t have nothing.

@MsNZgal 5 месяцев назад

He has his dignity to not lower his standards. He is a strong person in that reagrd@@Sureshots.

@Calumbo 5 месяцев назад

Being a decent all round person is more important than anything else. We live in a society that can stigmatise anybody for such things like this. I’m learning to drive at the moment and I’m terrified at times. I feel somehow less of a person because i don’t drive so it’s been hard. Your honesty is very much refreshing to hear and I hope this video helps to spread awareness and help anyone who may be struggling.Thank you.

@TheDarkXn 5 месяцев назад

I'm 44 and also currently working on getting my driver's license - it sucks 😂

@hertor8803 5 месяцев назад

Amazing respect for coming out like this. I'm sure there are many people in the same boat who think they are alone. Shyness may seem cute or attractive bur trust me it is a curse and can make life very difficult and lonely at times. It's something you have to try and overcome every day just to get on in society. There is always someone out there for you, you just need a bit of luck finding them and it often happens when you're not even trying.

@JohnDavidSullivan 5 месяцев назад

Much respect to this guy. I can relate to a lot of what he said. What a nice guy too. Hope he finds someone.

@mulderitsmee 5 месяцев назад

I hope Stephen finds fulfilment in his life, whatever that looks like for him. I'm really happy for him that he is in a better place with confidence and mental health, and I hope that continues with or without a partner

@Jabberwocky_McScrugel 5 месяцев назад

I like the guy, and he's so honest. You're not gonna find many men like this guy.

@boahnation9932 5 месяцев назад

Nothing but respect for you Steve.

@jasminelee1234 5 месяцев назад

Aww hope he finds someone. He seems comfortable with himself, not at all creepy or weird and has a great dry sense of humour. Hope he finds the right lady soon ❤

@LRaine73 5 месяцев назад

Very endearing man. Quite brave to open up publicly about this subject. Society over sexualizes women, relationships, men, with expectations that often are delusional. Just because one man maybe experienced doesn’t mean he is of quality. Often times those who have overtly played, are missing true connections, intimacy or even respect to their partners. There’s very little honor, or genuine respect to building relationships these days. There’s even less intimacy, where people have become disposable at whim. I think that commonality is not necessarily the act of, but the emotional connection we all crave, that can be thwarted. One can feel these same emotions even when they are sexual. In that, you’re not less than anyone, nor are others more than because of experience. I feel you will find that person that makes you comfortable enough to be vulnerable, relaxed, and have fun. Don’t over think it. Don’t have high expectations of self or others, just be in the moment and allow it to flow. And if you choose not to, the loss isn’t the actual act but more of true intimacy which we all deserve.

@ChicagoJoe94 5 месяцев назад

It’s always the kindest people that never find affection. You never see lonely assholes. Anyone else notice this?

@cseptember6562 5 месяцев назад

Exactly lol. Women say they like guys like this yet almost every women has a toxic ex. Toxic guys are never single and always have girls around them yet women expect guys to believe that they actually prefer kind guys

@HenriZwols 3 месяца назад

@@cseptember6562 Women want those toxic guys to be kind to them. They want to tame the horse instead of being handed a tame horse.

@cosmo588 5 месяцев назад

He’s a good man. I wish him all the best in this life.

@mauveseller5801 5 месяцев назад

I genuinely feel for this chap. Hope he finds someone lovely ❤

@jas_bataille 5 месяцев назад

I lost my virginity at 25 and it's one the things I'm the proudest of. It was with the right person and absolutely amazing. When I hear the stories about all of their first time being awful, I was really happy about my decision. Sex is VERY important.

@lukee.h1471 5 месяцев назад

Actually most people lose it at around 25..alot of people who say they lost it at 17 didn't.

@Delilah_the_cat 5 месяцев назад

Same! I was 26, still with my partner 16 years later.

@feedshank8207 5 месяцев назад

I was 22, strange how its only really a problem because other people make it a big deal

@PeterPepper93 5 месяцев назад

Yes, but those stories are much more entertaining and reveal a form of audacity that I respect

@becky2235 5 месяцев назад

25 all respect to you if that what makes you happy. I was told I was late for waiting until 17!

@stephenoleary5627 5 месяцев назад

He’s a great guy. 14 hrs since this video was uploaded and I bet he’s already sorted.

@numbereightyseven 5 месяцев назад

You didn't listen to what he said.

@renatacastro9909 5 месяцев назад

He's such a gentlemen with sense of humor! I really hope he finds someone!

@user-sz8qo1sp1i 5 месяцев назад

I love this guy's whole outlook, personality, general vibe based on this video. If I met a man like this and was asked out on a date, I'd say yes in a heartbeat.

@silkyhonorablegod 5 месяцев назад

His dm's overflowing right now. what a lad.

@eleanorwalmsley635 5 месяцев назад

I genuinely hope he finds someone special ❤

@joannemates6367 5 месяцев назад

Awwwwwww, he’s handsome, adorable, intelligent and hilarious!! I hope he finds what he is looking for and someone who is worthy!!!! Sending so much love and hope from Country Victoria, Australia ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺🇦🇺

@67psych 5 месяцев назад

Hope he finds someone who he can live his life with and not be lonely anymore. He seems a decent guy.

@waikeekee3831 5 месяцев назад

Bless him, I wish him happiness and good health ❤

@jollofrice3547 5 месяцев назад

The Comment section for the most is as unsurprising as ever. When I first saw this being talked about on Twitter, many women were calling him adorable and sorts of endearing terms, but none of them are offering to be with him, or even set him up with their friends. And the same thing is happening here on RU-vid. Loool

@Sandra_HereToSeeTheDuctTape 5 месяцев назад

What do you imply? That we (as I'm one of these women) are just saying things to be nice but don't really mean it and wouldn't actually date him? Has it ever crossed your mind that most women here are likely not from his area, probably not even from his country, maybe not even from the same continent?

@dantecurry207 4 месяца назад

They’re just virtue signaling. Happens all the time.

@jollofrice3547 4 месяца назад

@Sandra_HereToSeeTheDuctTape ‧ My comment was very clear. I do not need to elaborate. Pretending that you don't understand what I typed isn't going to stop the inevitable. 😘

@jimmygreaves1 5 месяцев назад

Very brave coming on a huge platform to be honest about this. Kudos to you

@Umbrella2 19 дней назад

Shyness is crippling especially when coupled with anxiety, respect to him for speaking about this so openly in a society that can treat someone like a criminal for not having had sex!

@lolly5453 5 месяцев назад

Respect to you Stephen for stepping up to talk about this; Your honesty is so important and much needed when it comes to the destigmatisation of this subject. I very much hope you find what you’re looking for, when it comes to your love life and in life in general. ❤🙏🏼😊

@parmaman8551 5 месяцев назад

Ultimately, life is about happiness so as long as he's happy, good on him.

@katem86 5 месяцев назад

I am team this! However I hope people don't bombard his inbox for the wrong reasons ❤

@peterlonter9053 5 месяцев назад

my salutes to this man .he is brave to bring up such a sencitive subject and treat it with a great wisdom . thank you for the advices.

@JoepHeki 5 месяцев назад

Stephan seems like a chill dude. He says he is shy, but he is talking comfortable on camera about this topic why takes a lot of courage!! If you can do this, you can speak to women as well 🙂 Good luck Stephan, hopefully you find the right gal.

@neomaster007 5 месяцев назад

I lost my virginity at 23-24 but made up for it since. To be honest, sex is hit or miss and entirely depends on your feelings for your partner. Confidence comes from within and not through temporary boosts and one night stands. Good luck to you Sir

@FallenAngel9979 5 месяцев назад

Yeah I was 23 too. It has to be the right person, or there’s just no point.

@kareninkster1831 5 месяцев назад

What a lovely, genuine man. Deep respect for you. I hope you find a lovely, respectful lady ❤

@elsiecheesman1642 5 месяцев назад

I am inspired by these comments, been reading for a while, no horrible comments as usual on social media, gives me hope ♥️

@ashconbeats8414 5 месяцев назад

To be honest being single is better than being with someone you don’t want. It’s not that big of a deal if u are as so many people are.

@naam4769 5 месяцев назад

Thanks for making this video out. I'm an Inc3l virgin, late in life at 33 years old. But in contrast to this guy on video, I never even have had a first Kiss or first handsholding with a girl... It's really deep lonely to know, every single person I've known about in this life, have had Sex or any type of affection excepting me... It's a brave guy, to let his situation being known, despite the fact I've manage to encounter many other men who're virgins at 25 or more... At least on the internet, not around the people I've ever known in life. I'm an Inc3l just to describe as a lonely guy, with very little friends in life, who never have sparked the s3xual desire on any girl in this life... I always have wanted to experience Sex and being loved, aside of loving a girl but just the chance never have came... And the Inc3l social stigma that is referred to in this video, only showcases how terribly undervalued the Male Mental Issues are... Yes, there're misogyn1stic men out there who have grudge over w0men... yet, many guys like me just feel lonely and frustrated because never having the chance to experience this beautiful act on life to feel desire & loved a by a woman.

@HenriZwols 3 месяца назад

Only advise I can give you is: get off the incel forums! They can offer you nothing of value and will drag you down. Go outside, join a club of something you like. At the very least it will keep your mind busy. And might result in friends which will increase your network.

@naam4769 3 месяца назад

@@HenriZwolsThanks for the kind words. I'm not part of Incel forums. I didnt have social media in 10 years till last year. I was told some girl would come up to my life when I was 16, yet I'm 33 heading to 34 and still never have happened. Never have had Sex or a girlfriend. Never a girl has been sexually interested on me. Only rejections through life. I appreciate the good intentions, still.

@HenriZwols 3 месяца назад

@@naam4769 I won't tell you that "you'll meet someone. Just wait", because that's simply not true. A girl won't materialize in your living room while you're playing a computer game. It takes a conscious effort. Not effort as in love-bombing every girl you see, but you *NEED* to go out and meet people. Even if you already do that, do it more. More people means more chances of someone inviting you to an event. "The three of us are going to the standup comedy. Wanna come along?" You could go alone to a standup comedy. But alone you won't meet anyone. You would if you are very socially open, but if you were you wouldn't be a virgin. So I can safely conclude you're not. So find friends to go places.

@tayl0rbr00ks 5 месяцев назад

This guy is great. Fantastic sense of humor and seems really lovely and genuine. Don’t understand why he’s single!

@happyfree23 5 месяцев назад

Kudos for being real and honest. Respect. sending you positive vibes

@biggybrolunch3809 5 месяцев назад

As a male who identifies on the asexual spectrum, I understand much of what you're going through. As much as I have come to take pride in saying, "sex is not something that interests me", it has often been isolating. There is an elevation of sex as some essential milestone accomplishment, and a lack as a failure. I also have trouble expressing myself that aligns with the needs of my intimate partners. And yes, I can be attracted to people romantically, intimately and not want intercourse from them. On the bright side, you're maybe not missing much! You never know until you try, but your life's experience is not defined by knowing.

@maegnificant 5 месяцев назад

Pretty sure he is interested though

@Monicalia 5 месяцев назад

Op is talking about himself.and what he thinks. @@maegnificant

@Khaleesi_Jack 5 месяцев назад

Man, if i could find a partner like you, id marry them. Lol, not interested in it really, but if i liked my partner enough i might be more apt to try it then. I think what i need is a jay and silent bob type life mate, but gender is open. Ah hell, idk what i want anymore.

@gfgfg3227 5 месяцев назад

you udnerdstand almost nothing.you dont feel the need to do it,you dont get rejected or feel undesirable cause you dont give a shit.you are in a completely different position than a person that wants tohave sex but cant find it(at least without sacrificing their value or self-respect)

@lowwprofile 5 месяцев назад

Identifying as asexual is not something to be proud of. Sexuality is a vital part of the human experience.

@simonriley5433 5 месяцев назад

Looks(Face and Height) > Personality

@musicisjustwigglyair4208 5 месяцев назад

He looks like an artist! An actor, and he's funny too man! Keep it up dude, im sure there's someone waiting for you out there

@DS-yz4ro 5 месяцев назад

Yes and so have you 😂 he's funny, seems gentle and is easy on the eye. I'm glad he's still here on earth.

@tierneyfitzgerald1830 5 месяцев назад

What an amazing partner to someone he will be! Complete legend and a one off, I hope he finds a lovely lady soon xx

@kingpuppet5881 5 месяцев назад

I think this video will get him a few dates and then some. He seems like a really cool guy, funny and smart.

@stephen3511 5 месяцев назад

Respect the guy’s honesty and bravery, especially when society is so quick to judge.

@JonathanWrightSA 5 месяцев назад

28, going 29, virgin right here. I also long since got over the negative emotions associated with it. It's an element of life, not all of life, let alone it's purpose unless that's what you make it.

@Celestial_Cryptid 5 месяцев назад

I’ll tell this guy, anything is possible. Don't evėr get up! Keep grinding! Keep hustling! Shoot for your dreams! You can do anything you want, I promise you! You just have to take that first step. Take that hard step of actually doing something.

@jasminebower2305 5 месяцев назад

Nice and honest interview, thanks for sharing!

@westminsterwatcher5152 5 месяцев назад

25 and in the same boat! Best of luck to you Stephen!

@BaracchiL 5 месяцев назад

Must say I'm not anymore in the same situation but I was for quite a big bit of my life and can totally relate to all the bad things it makes you think about yourself. Even after you had sex, it's hard to recover. I've heard many say "sex not the first thing, don't worry". Yeah it's not the first thing, but it makes you worry. It shatters your consideration of yourself. It's something that CAN prevent you from having a meaningful relationship. And more than that, it's something that can make you have feelings more complex than the simple "want sex have sex don't think". so yeah. It's no the most important but fuck yes it can be. And mad respect for speaking up in a world that 50% of the time answers with "ew, weirdo".

@undergrow1 5 месяцев назад

Props to Stephen for doing this. He really is a funny guy. I hope he finds his significant other.😊

@jiminnature3394 5 месяцев назад

Good for you my friend. It’s a slippery slope when you start! Focus on enjoying your hobbies

@Aquarius444K 27 дней назад

This dude seems like such a good guy, from his want to help others, his respect for women, and people, his sense of humor etc etc. In 2024 to go on LADBIBLE and answer these questions takes bravery, confidence and a level of intelligence and understanding that so many people don't have. I bet he'd be a great person to meet, a great friend, and partner. I hope he finds what he's looking for, everyone deserves intimacy, love, companionship etc. (if they want it).

@calec22 5 месяцев назад

I think if I was in Stephen's position this would have helped me greatly to hear this video. I'm sure there would be plenty of ladies delighted to be in a relationship with such a guy. It can be the most nerve racking thing chatting up women, but like all things in life it gets easier with practice. I hope you find someone that brings that confidence out in you. Good luck.