1) When God leads you to the one, there is often an awkward season of expressing interest and guaging interest 2) Before the relationship can get 'serious' there needs to be a DTR(Define The Relationship talk), which often can be awkward 3)When you meet the one, relevant past relationship information needs to be shared along with relevant future goals 4) When you meet the one, eventually you need to discuss your philosophy of marriage 5) When you meet the one, you two will need to make sure you are actually spiritually compatible Thanks again Mark! :)
This is my favorite kind of comment for videos like this! It lets me watch the video and focus on it, and then lets me go forward remembering the topics easier 😄
Listen to God, I was in high school when I meant my now wife she was 14 I was 16, 33 years married 41 years together yes we do believe in Jesus Christ is our savior very blessed 4 kids 16 grandkids and one great grandchild God is Almighty good faithful to us Amen 🙏 thanks and praises in Jesus.
There was a time when i almost started idolizing marriage. But praise God.. i do have a desire to marry but I'm 100% sure if Jesus comes now.. i won't regret evn a little bit because i didn't marry or wasn't in a relationship 😁 praise the Lord.
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Most relationships break up temporarily allowing you to step back and decide if this is the person who is right for you..never marry the one you think you can live with....marry the one you don't want to live without..and let God choose the right one......I met my husband in Young Christians Bible study..we've been married 24 years...he is my friend ..partner and soul mate
Plz pray for my mom...her left eye is hurting like a lot!!! It might be retinal detachment..i don't know...but plz pray for her!!! Pls pray for her plzzzz!!!🙏
Thanks Mark, this was right on time. I just finally mustered up the courage to call the guy I was interested in to let him know that I would like to get to know him on a more personal level. This was after observing him for 9 months not knowing how to strike up a conversation other than saying Good morning, Happy Sabbath. He is an elder at my church and I am glad that I took the initiative without over doing it. His response was ok we will have to have a conversation, we did after church this past week talking for 3 hours. We are both introverts so it was akward but nice and plan on taking the friend route first of course. So glad I signed up for your courses......extremely helpful. Thanks
May our father God continues to bless everyone out there who reads this and trust in our fathers timing he is always on time don't give up on him because he want give up on you 🙏🏽
Some great points here so thanks, Mark. I think it’s difficult to find Biblically based world views among Western women nowadays so I urge men to be careful and discerning. You want a spouse, not a competitor, a mother not a money hole. A woman who will let you lead the home in a Godly manner. If we reflect Christ as men we should also be able to find women who reflect the Church. Still, consider those Eastern geographic regions because God, marriage and children are more respected there and they’re not as infected by the academic, political and media cultural Marxism we Westerners are force-fed daily.
I would say that a lot of us Christisn women feel the same about the difficulty of finding a Godly man. And on the other hand I DO know some great brothers in the Lord, they just aren't the right one for me.
Your videos helped prepare me, in a Godly way, to prepare for my “one”. Thank you for helping me to turn toward the Lord and lean on him more in this way! My bf now is “the one” God has for me. He also encourages me to grow in my relationship with God first and foremost! We aren’t perfect people, but we are perfect for one another ❤️
You know when you give you get. Once me and my mother was walking and we found 20$ I do not remember were but when we got in the car we drove past a lady walking around with a sign saying she can’t afford to pay her bills and she needed help. So me and my mom have her 5 bucks and another day my mother texted me saying she found another 20. Then when we where walking my dog we turned the corner and my mother found a 50$ bill. Few weeks later we say a old homeless lady and gave her 5 bucks to help. When you are good God rewards you 🙏🏾
Well number one is hitting home That makes me feel a tiny bit better but I overthink everything and I hate to admit it but I want attention all the time and it’s hard for me to be left alone long. Idk how to deal with that
It's great that you are self aware though, that's always the first step. Keep brining it to the Lord. Also, having other types of relationships can help offset the loneliness. The book called Boundaries in Dating is helpful
Find a good church and start making friends. Pray and build your relationship with God. Study the Bible with the women's group. These things will fulfill a good amount of your social needs, and you prepare yourself by deepening your faith, wisdom, readiness for marriage.
Mark.. Do you have a video that brings light to why does God bring two people (man & woman) to connect and fall in love in a relationship but not together in marriage yet but puts physical distance between them along with other personal circumstances? i.e. parenting/custody and career struggles.
Thanks so much for this. I’m about to go to youth camp with the girl I like so I’m hoping I can ask her deeper questions and figure her out a little more
Another very good video Mark. Two thoughts though. 1. Regarding the "philosophy of marriage" that you spoke about pertaining to the future, that will become clear in the dating and engagement phase. 2. The part about the "past" is the real issue. It's critically important to be very honest with your potential partner about your past if they ask. If they want to know details, give details. The reason this is important is because what we have done with our bodies, minds and hearts in the past DOES come with an effect on our present and future. The manner in which we have been redeemed by Christ plays a tune to what we have been redeemed from, and this affects the totality of who we are as a person for the one we love, and who they truly are for us. It's also important because it's reflective of the nature of Christ with the church, which is what real marriage is to be modeled after. Christ knows ALL about us, took our entirety upon Himself, and upon THAT reality, builds a foundation with us. It should be no different with us in an earthly sense. If my potential spouse is bi or has been engaged in bi behavior in the past, I want to understand this part of her. If she has potentially harmful fetishes or kinks, I need to know this about her. If she has had an OF (OnlyFans) account, I want to know this about her. You cannot marry someone if you don't know them. And you can't know them if they are unwilling to tell the truth - even truth about stuff that is "under the blood" from the past. You give three good points on this issue, but it would have been good to be a bit more objective about this point. There is no grey zone here. The reason the Bible is not "specific" on this issue is because back in the day no one had a "past" in Hebrew culture for the most part. God never expected or wanted that. In the NT however, our model is Christ with the church, and we are to be fully open with Christ in our relationship with Him. Hence, a woman is to be FULLY honest from every angle and about every detail of an aspect of her past if the man wants to know. And likewise, a man is to be FULLY honest with his potential bride. There is no grey zone on this issue.
God knows what is best. Praying that I don't get distracted and follow His path for my life. When you marry someone else, you are marrying into that mission that God has for both of you. I try to keep this in mind.
Did most of it… Could it be? Have to wait for one and half a year though plus gaining my mom’s (maybe dad’s too) approval (no prob from his side of family) Anyway, thanks Mark! God bless you
How do you really know if you meet the one though? Getting to know someone is always awkward at first. I’ve never dated much and when I have, things ended quickly for one reason or another. Recently I have been slowly getting to know someone, but I’m not sure how I feel about him. I’ve enjoyed building a friendship but I keep wondering if I’m just scared of moving forward, or the possibility of it or if it isn’t right somehow and I just haven’t caught onto that yet. I’m trying to not read into things or overthink it, but it is so hard. I don’t want to end up In a bad relationship or if it is a good one, ruining it with my insecurities and fears.
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Good video.. Giving it time to see if a Female is right for Me...We have People at a job that seem to be challenging Us in talking or staying in contact..Will have to pray on this.
@It’s Jonathan Galatians 5:22-23 if she is in a bad position now I can really understand this. Dont you think that God cares for our needs? Sometimes it looks like he does nothing. And those times are hard. Maybe she is in such a time. So why is it selfish to ask God for something? Is it selfish to ask him for a home? Or a husband? Don't you think it is better to ask God about the things you desire than to just take them? She wants it from God's hands. Not from the devil. So I belive there is nothing selfish in here. Yeah I understand, God is not a genie but still he is our loving father. And a child can ask her/his father for things she/he wants. And the father will decide if it will happen or not or when it will happen.
I wish He is now the one 😍🤩praying that God will grant our request that "someday somehow we will be together again.." 😍🤩 our friendship is 13yrs since we met
I’m pretty sure I’ve “dreamed up” the one.. I guess it means I’ll never be available.. I thought God showed me.. but doing my best to convince myself it was a lie..
God loves you all that he died for our sins because we ALL are not perfect! We need to repent to be saved and keep repenting to stay saved. This is not only about repenting but this is also about creating a relationship with Jesus. God Bless
Negative statements often become self-fulfilling prophecies. Point 2 of this video may help:ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-3lRYl8tDgas.html
One day I got an audible instruction about #3. "You have to tell your future spouse about what you've been through." Not going to lie, it scared me a bit; but , I can see where the reason for such will be needed.
Unfortunatelly, you are wrong, Mark. I met someone who can read my mind. Really, upon my word! It's a rare gift, I know, but such people really exist. And it's the most confusing thing, I should say, to feel like you can't conceal anything from such a person...
For every successful relationship that is created without any serious problems there is one about a bad breakup and painful consequences. Life is what it is! Things work out for some people and don't workout for others.
I have a question (not 'quite' related to this vid) I hope you might consider for a future video. Is it ok for Christian singles to have close companions of the opposite gender? I am referring to a woman and a man spending significant alone time together (in public settings) as platonic friends. Neither currently want to date each other but the friendship fulfills a need in both for companionship; is this inappropriate in any way/s?
I don't think it's wrong, but it could be harmful as you're developing an emotional connection with someone that you don't want to date. If either of you end of dating someone else, it could be hard to break away.
You two could just be asexual, or just not have a romantic relationship in the cards, later. You two might as well take what’s in front of you; there’s nothing Biblically sinful or otherwise immoral about it.
Mark ive been getting a lot of your videos recommended to me about meeting the one, having hope for someone, relationship advice and other channels saying I should pray for my future husband. I’m really shy and not sure why all these videos are popping up all of a sudden lol not sure if it’s God telling me to prepare 😅
To my special partner I await are union to because as one in getting to know each other in having a faithful relationship as things unfold in align ..❤🦋💖
I would almost say that taking the AGW courses would be fantastic for me, instead of the counseling I am currently doing. However, and this is HUGE, I would want to be able to get a question answered here and there from Mark himself, as I know I would come across situations, and events in my dating life that would necessitate a good communication with Mark to get clarity. Would this be possible?
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger and one more thing lol, she asked if I "have a girlfriend to pray about," do you think this could be a sign she's interested? Really appreciate it!
@@PadawanPrice I’d say she’s trying to see if you’re available. Most girls who are just friendly won’t bring that specific thing up. They’ll usually say “What can I pray for you about?”
Can you make a video on how to express your new faith to your current partner? I don't know what to do... im praying that God will open his heart like He did mine. Breaking up feels too extreme because i see so much potential in him, he just wasn't raised around the church. I was, fell away, im making my way back but i dont feel like i know enough to explain it...
It says in the bible to not me unequally yoked, I know it’s hard but your current boyfriend can become an obstacle in your relationship with God, I was in a unequally yoked relationship when I found Christ and my ex boyfriend told me I am never going to be the guy to pray for you or go to church with you. I’m not saying your situation is the same as my experience but I didn’t even leave that relationship after he was so rude I stayed because I thought I could convert him. No one can ever convert someone to becoming a Christian that’s only God. I would leave the relationship trust me it hurts but I look back at my past relationship and thank God because he had someone so much better and respectful for me then my ex boyfriend.
Could your presence in a relationship push him towards God? Is he already generally moral in a Christian way, just he is not a Christian? Any Biblical Scriptures having to do with marrying only believers primarily had largely to do with some of the vile practices committed by people of other religions of the time of the Old Testament. Presence in their company could lead God’s followers into doing horrible things, or at least being complicit (Ahab marrying Jezebel being a prime example). But if the man on your mind is more morally upright than most people, then him being an unbeliever may not be a dealbreaker in God’s eyes. Maybe he’s an unbeliever through logic and science, and God can’t provide absolute, quantifiable proof of existence. While that’s not my situation, my relationship with God is messy and complicated, and if I had a devout Christian wife, I’d probably roll my eyes at a lot of her shtick, but I’d want to stick around if she were effortlessly easy to talk to and a pleasant, morally upright woman. Plus, despite how messy my relationship is with God, I still occasionally get outside (I believe on behalf of God; it’s too dignified in tone) guidance beyond my own understanding. Nancy Rynes was an atheist when she appears to have been chosen by God to, via a traffic accident, face mortality and receive life lessons to bring back to Earth (and I believe her “NDE” story). So could God be hoping you don’t wait to snap up your close friend? You should pray about it. The best, longest-lasting marriages are built on a foundation of deep, rich, yet calm friendship. The couple from Life Uncontained should be life goals, even though they don’t disclose their religious beliefs.
@@jynxtwin3966 turns out i was wrong and should have known from the start :/ it’s terrible bro cause it won’t go away. My desire for her but it’s getting better especially after accepting the fact. But idk why god is keeping this desire I asked him a while ago and he told me it’s not his plan. Still don’t know what he means
I’m in this season right now I’m in a long distance relationship I believe she is the one we had a very rough couple months and are still in it yet we are still in love only bye the grace of God
Praise the lord sir 🙏 When the man fromwhom i got a marriage proposal is going to church and his whole family is good but if he is not baptised then what to do ???? Sir ??? I am spiritual and I want realtionship with god and the person also should have a relation with god so is that match good for me or not ????? I would say NO ???? Many times your videos are helpful for my spiritual growth sir god is using you mightly ...but now I am so confused about my marriage will you plz guide me ????
Hi Mark, thank for these videos, I would like your input on this situation for me, please, long story in a short way, I met this gentleman 4 years ago on fb and we like each other, and it was going very well we talk almost every day then after a while that stopped, i have stopped talking to him do many times, i prayed very hard but when we stopped talking he always popped up again but then nothing changed, he takes hours yo respond yo my messages and sometimes the next day ir the day after, he doesn't take my calls either, everytime no stop talking after months he comes back and it starts all over again, he is a chtistian and so am i, i text him from yesterday and the messages are still unread even though he comes on line a lot, honestly I'm done , no more if this frustration, am i going the right thing here, your feedback is mist welcome, another thing he lives in the US I'm in Jamai he came here 3 times in the 4 years that i know of and he never told me until he returns uo the US, he is also Jamaican
@Beverline Francis This guy is a waste of time. He is not really interested in you. He probably knows you like him, and thus plays subtle games with you. I find it cruel that he visited Jamaica several times, then told you about it AFTER he got back home to the U.S. He sounds like a flaky friend, not a friend at all, and DEFINITELY not someone serious about having a romantic relationship. Block him on social media, block him on your phone, find someone Godly that you can trust to share your heartbreak with and get on the path of healing. So sorry you went through this!
I think its okay to meet people through online but I don't believe in online relationships. If it doesn't turn into a face to face relatively quick I recommend moving on. So for you I would move on.
I like this guy but he’s an atheist. I’m wondering if god wants me in his life becuase I can help him. I’m not sure. That happened with my last relationship.
Probably not, especially since you like him as more than a friend, meaning you might be swayed to be unequally yoked since you have feelings for him. This may help: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-pRZS01pUyX0.html
@@faithcantrell1545 you can definitely share your faith or point him to some godly resources in order to help him find Christ, but dating him is definitely not necessary to do this. If you’re not careful, dating someone like this could lead you down a slippery slope filled with compromises. Maybe God has allowed your paths to cross because you may be the one who leads him to Christ, but that doesn’t mean you need to jump into a relationship with him or start dating him for this to happen. Keep God first and DO NOT let your flesh lead you in this, sis! I speak from experience. I’ll be praying that God gives you wisdom in this situation, in Jesus’ name 🙌🏼
@@faithcantrell1545 You can do whatever you want, I have no right to tell you not to, but you can witness to him without dating him. From my personal experience, I can tell you its not a good idea emotionally or spirituality. Satan will use your flesh to temp you into distancing yourself from God. If you want I can share with you a little bit of my testimony. I've been through the same thing.
Another wonderful video... Please mark, what is the name of that special emphasis/highlight/underlining element you use from canva..... You used it to underline awkward and the one in this videos thumbnail... I want to find it on canva but I don't know the name/keyword to search for Thank You... Sorry I had to send the message multiple x....
My ex kept non biblical holidays that i believe are pagan based. Namely Christmas, and Easter. At first I compromised for her, but eventually I was convicted and had no parts of it. Eventually this would have been an issue. We were spiritually incompatible
Should you tell everything about yourself to the one God has for me? Like things I prefer to keep secret or is very personal to me. I don't mind telling her the secrets. Just wondering so I know IM NOT referring to sexual past sins
What if you're 40 years old and you're a virgin because you do not believe in sex before marriage what do you tell a SINFUL WORLD ?... This is a rhetorical question.
Sorry, but why would God start off a relationship with confusion when he said in the word of God He's not the author of confusion? 1 Corinthians 14:33 😒
Not confusion, awkwardness. I asked God to put a man in my path, and He did, quite literally. We're getting to know each other, sometimes it's awkward. However the desire to develop our relationship remains and we're progressing. I have no confusion, I prayed for this be it God's will. Learning a dance is awkward the first time... But when you keep practicing, it becomes easier, less jerky jerky.
I'm not trying to be rude I'm just curious but do you check all of your videos before making another one so you'll know not to duplicate a video you've already done?
He obviously allows confusion though since it happens and nothing can happen unless God allows it. God can use anything even if he doesn’t cause it, even sin. Crucifying Jesus was murder by the Romans but God used it sovereignly