Psych2Go i am an introvert but i was wondering if you guys could make one about a crush that is an extrovert(you may have already but i haven’t seen it)
Yes,he's an introvert and I am too He's a guy from my class and is even more shy than me,that's complicated enough but there's more:he's a boy and I'm too but I don't have a clue in who he's into,I don't know if he's gay,bi or straight,he never talks about those things I would love a video about figuring out if someone's gay\bi\whatever without asking them directly Love all of your videos though (I'm from Argentina so my english is kinda crappy)
I wish some of my friends understood that. At least my closest ones understand me by now, so they don’t put too much pressure on me to do things out of my comfort zone (sometimes they’ll push me a little, which isn’t always a bad thing).
1) They won't be reserved forever 2) Hang out at less crowded places 3) They need time alone 4) Find out how they prefer to communicate 5) You don't have to be an introvert, too
*When ur both introverts so it's gonna take a lot of patience and thinking how to make it work* Edit: ight so 1 year has passed so here's an update. We dated and then broke up after 2 months. Things ended badly, its been a year since our breakup and I recently apologized to him for the stuff that happened after the breakup and he kinda apologized too. Anyways, just because things ended badly I don't regret not going for it when I had the chance, the joy that came with it has outweighed the heartbreak that came after. So I encourage y'all to just go and shoot ur shot with that person u admire because u never know how things will go. 😎
Not sure if I'm the only one: but as an introvert, I much prefer my romantic interest revealing more about himself to me so I don't have to ask that often, it feels less awkward this way and I can reveal myself much more naturally as well
Yeah, me too. I hate when people just ask shallow questions like "How´s the weather?" Seriously, just look around. The weather is literally all around us. One time I legit spent half an hour reciting a Wikipedia page about weather just to see how long the other person would listen to me before leaving. Anyway, I guess if I was more popular on the internet, I would connect with other introverts and find out how to put a different spin on classic extrovert smalltalk questions to make them more introvert-friendly. Like, "How do you feel about the current weather?" or something along those lines. Extroverts seem obsessed with weather, so this kinda seems like a good middle ground. At least to me.
Same.. my crush would js blab on abt herself and when she noticed i'm a little too quiet then usual, she's roll out a question. Yet doesn't push it when i take over 5 seconds to answer. We all introverts need a group y'all. For our discussion
@@winterknightstorm My ex was an extrovert who rushes through everything, including arguments He kept talking about his points non-stop and wouldn't give me time to calm down and think before talking When I tried to bring up the matter the following day, he would just dismiss me with an 'nvm' Pissed me off royally coz I couldn't collect myself in that moment to respond to him at all and I felt like he was forcing me to follow his pace
@@Kartoffelkamm Thank God here in Hong Kong, we just rant about the weather only when it's actually bothering us, not as a conversation starter, or the awkwardness would kill me ._.
Just deal with it, i was thinking that i am strange but when i saw that im introvert i accepted it, just do what you want and don't change yourself for anybody
I'm an extrovert and my crush is the most introvert guy I've ever known. He reads books and never watch movies, doesn't have any social media, and be stay-at-home person. We only communicate through chat and it's rarely to meet him face-to-face. This video helps me a lot to understand an introvert behavior and what they need :)
Mine is the same and it sucks. It makes me cry to see this video given that WE are the ones that have to put all the efforts there or no chance to make it work. It sucks
My crush is an introvert, she is very simple and whenever i am around she always go to my side and asking me what i am doing. I frequently catch her eyes on me when one time she stared long enough that I noticed her I tried to smile and she laughed 😍
When me and my sweetheart (both introverts) had dinner together on our first date, we did some talking at first but the conversation more or less ceased by the time we got to dessert -- but she would often look at me and give me her little wan smile, and I would notice and smile back! And then out in the parking lot, I reached out to her with my arms for a hug, and she literally threw herself at me -- she hugged me so tightly that she could only breathe in when I breathed out, and vice versa (and we stayed like that for maybe two whole minutes, just squeezing and rocking each other from side to side -- she's tiny, but she's VERY strong for her size)!
I'm an extrovert, my fiance is an introvert. The last five years I go to less parties and started wandering in in the forests with him. But when I really wanna party he let me go and does things alone at home. This is really great. I and everyone around me just had to except that he don't like being in groups. And he had to learn that I need it from time to time and that he can trust my loyalty. We are really happy now :D
It's nice to read this... I have been crying a lot lately because it feels so hard to be with an introvert person, but I like him. He explained me eeeeverything, and I am forced to adapt. It sucks for me, I wish I could deal with it better
My boyfriend and i are both introverts, but i'm quite forward and open, and he is very reserved but slowly opening up. He is a big softy deep down, and loves my kindness with him. I try to be the best i can be, for him
I like this boy and he likes me, we're both introverts and we talk a lot everyday online, all day but in person when we see each other around school we look away or both try to hide 😂
Heyyo! Just wanted to share a long story, but ya'll don't have to read it if you don't want to. 2 years ago, in 6th grade, I had a new classmate who was a boy. His name is Harry (not his real name, this is just a substitute), and he was pretty smart. I'm an introvert btw and I'm also considered the smartest kid in class (not tryna brag I swear). I don't remember exactly how I found out but a few months into the school year, it's become the talk of the classroom that he had a crush on me. Obviously I was flattered cuz not a lot of boys have had a crush on me in my life, but I wasn't interested in him or dating in general. In November 2017, he asked to dance w/ me at the Xmas Ball our school had every year. I accepted, becuz I thought "Eh, why not? This thing has never happened to be before.", and we did dance (it was super awkward). A few days into Xmas Break, he started messaging me, telling me that he loved me and all that jazz. I was ignoring the fact that he kept saying stuff like that and just played it off w/ humor, subtly rejecting his feelings for me. He then suddenly just asked me if I wasn't interested in him and if so, why? I told him I didn't like him *that* way cuz dating wasn't a priority of mine and even if it was, I wasn't interested in him. He then went on this rant of how emotionless I was, to which I replied that that was becuz I was introverted and not really that social and emotionally open (unless I feel like it). But, instead of understanding my reason like I was expecting him cuz he was a usually nice person, he fvckin insulted me becuz of my introversion! Even saying that I was "An amphibian, cuz your cold-blooded." BISH EXCUSE YOU?! That's one thing introverts are often called, since we reserve our emotions most if the time, AND IT PISSES ME OFF! Everything he said deeply offended me. I couldn't believe he was insulting me for exhibiting my natural behavior! Majority of my extroverted classmates were understanding of my personality, becuz even if I was quiet and sometimes unintentionally grumpy, they knew I wasn't trying to be rude and can be a really good friend. They would welcome me to hang out with them ONLY if I felt like it. But I didn't aggresively told Harry off (despite wanting to roast his ass whenever he talked to me) becuz his mom is the textbook example of an overprotective parent, and would probably whoop my bum all the way to France if I showed ANY sign of disdain for her son. So moral of the story, if someone has a crush on you yet they insult you and degrade you for being yourself and/or rejecting them, don't put up w/ their bs. You don't deserve that honey, cuz you're perfect the way you are 😘💖. And yes, I liked my own comment. Gotta get the ball rolling somehow 😂
I don't really understand everything on your side of view, but maybe he got aggressive because you tried humoring him when he said that he "loved" you? [ Regardless, he acted very badly loool. What a guy. ]
when you start actually dating the introvert, let them know you watched a video to try to get to know them. a tutorial, if you will. laugh it off. idk in my head, it seems really sweet to know someone really tried to get to know me
I kinda have a crush on an introvert, and I feel bad that I don't know how to talk to her. She makes me nervous and it's hard for me to think straight which makes holding a conversation twice as hard. I don't want to seem too forward, but I think I act uninterested unintentionally because I'm scared of overwhelming them.
we're both introverted and hes very shy. we met a few months ago but recently i feel like he's been able to open up a little more and joke and feel more comfortable and im so happy about it :)
Introvert here. I came to say to some of the extroverts here, never try to change one from an introvert to an extrovert. It's flat out rude. Sure, you want to do it "for the better". But if you really like someone, your not going to try too change them, you like them for who they are. In a past relationship the person tried to make me an extrovert. I felt like they didn't like me for me. It hurts to think someone would try to change me to their liking. It's kind of selfish.... (no hate. ). As for some introverts in relationships, they are shy (as of myself too). You always just agree with them and feel like a doormat, and get forced into stuff that you don't want to do (as in socializing cases. ). Please, respect introvert's space, and respect them for who they are
From what I've experienced you should treat an introvert like a perfectly normal human being and accept him/her the way he/she is. That's basically all it takes. Being an introvert is not an obstacle to showing feelings openly. Just takes more time here and there.
from experience, most introverts are really nice people and it’s nice hanging out with them. I have a crush with an introvert and she’s quiet in school but when we go to church it’s sooo different since she’s comfortable around her close friends
Introverts can floor you with how observant they are. They're in their own world and suddenly BAM they make a sweet comment about something you didn't even think they noticed
I think the hardest thing that comes with dating an introvert is the amount of time they can go without texting back. I really, really like my boyfriend but I also want to leave him space. However I can't help but wanting to text him. I keep it up to 2-3 texts a day, just asking how he's doing and if he has anything coming up, or when could be the next time we hang out again. And sometimes I have no answers for up to 2 days. However when I get to see him I know he also has feelings for me. It's just hard wanting to be with someone so bad and them not even texting. I totally get why he doesn't like it, however I often feel anxious. I'm always afraid I've said or done something wrong and that that's why he doesn't want to talk to me.. Woops sorry for the vent, I guess I needed to let this out somewhere...i hope you have a great day anyway, take care!
@@kaustubhkadam7860 hey! All I can say is trust your instincts and communicate. My boyfriend and I are still together and we manage to fix this issue when I brought it up and find some common grounds to make us both happier ☺️ I wish you the best!
@@kaustubhkadam7860 it can be! Some people are just like that and are more comfortable staying in their bubble. However, when in a relationship they have to understand that their significant other can be hurt by their silence. If they know they hurt their significant other and do nothing to change, or dismiss it, then it's not worth it.
Would really love to hear your part of side, where you dealt with your partners bubble. No offense, just trying to understand introverts more better. Hate to ask this question on public forum, but you can understand the amount of patience needed especially pleasing an introvert..
An extrovert likes me, and recently she confessed. I told her I didn't like talking to people, especially small talk. She told me to overcome my fears and talk to a friend of hers at school to get started. No. I appreciate the feelings, but no.
As an introvert , I'm ok with crowded settings although I would rather somewhere not very noisy and packed but don't leave me alone in a crowded setting as I may panic a bit
I love that you guys are now includeing some personal stories in these videos. It would be awesome to have some videos like "How I overcame *personal struggle*" I think these would engage the viewers more and make you seem less like a company :) Great video like always~
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The best tip from my point of view as introvert 1. be sweet😊 2. See if u have the same interest(if u do then it's great!!)👍 3. like books (my opinion)🤚😌 4. talk in an calm tone (a must)😶 5. don,t come too close so suddenly😳 6. Go slow.. 7. Don,t force her to do anything(like going out in public) 8. Make her feel comfortable😄 9. Try to ask her about her interests😁(I love talking about my interests) 10. DON'T be intimidating 😠 11. Look cute and sweet 😂 12. Movie in home and be comfy 13. Don,t call too much at start text at the start Edit: this is MY opinion
14. And when you touch her, do it slowly and gently -- be sweet (maybe even bittersweet, if she also has a low cheerfulness level -- which is completely normal for many introverts, myself included), not playful!
My (introvert) girlfriend and I (extrovert) have been texting almost every night for the past 2-3 years. ( seeing as her most comfortable form of communication is text) She was my first gay crush and just a few weeks ago, SHE actually asked me to be her gf. I had liked her for so long and I’m so happy that she felt the same way. I never thought things would happen this way but I’m so glad they did.
It’s possible, it just might take a really long time to develop. I didn’t develop a crush until I really got to know my best friend over a long period of time.
@@leeliville9678 Really? That's a thing? Sorry, I don't want to sound rude at all, I just assumed that most people were like that. Or maybe that's just me being ignorant. Is there other ways that people fall in love? (I'm sure there are, I've just never seen it happen any other way)
That was my past now i just don't care anymore and things go fine but yea still had a bad time chilling with girls not just that the point is i don't start conversation and always go straight to the point.
you should read "the subtle art of not giving a fuck" from mark manson. it explains "trying to have a positive mindset" very clearly !! seriously it's an amazing book
I’m a introverted girl and I agree with all of these. My crush is an extrovert and we get along great. And a lot of my friends are extroverts and a lot are introverts as well. I think these work very well. I just wanted to confirm it.
@@Francisco.M. oh my I forgot about this completely 😂 idk where to start, but basically I didn't make a move on them, they like to take things really slow (they need time to build trust) and back then I didn't know much about them. As for now we're good friends and we hang out quite a bit and I don't mind if things stay this way, but tbf recently they've been kinda flirt-ish? I'm not really sure, all I can say is I'm ok with wherever this relationship goes. I hope this helps, but just remember that this is just my experience, and I'd love to hear yours as well if you're willing to share ☺️
@@Francisco.M. well to be frank, I kinda started moving on from the whole thing, I'm still friends with them and all, but they just don't seem that interested honestly, and if they are, I don't think I'm gonna be satisfied with them in a relationship with the type of attention they give. I hope this doesn't disappoint you, but again it's different for everyone, and again I'd love to hear your updates with the girl you told me about, it was quite interesting to read last time. ☺️
@@Francisco.M. OMG congrats!! I was hoping nothing bad happened since you took a little bit longer to reply (which is totally fine), and I hope you have the greatest time together ❤️. I've been focusing more on myself recently, and focusing more on studies, friends, etc, since it's my junior year in uni now, getting pretty difficult tbh but I'm hoping it ends on a good note. As always I'd love to hear more updates from you, and I wish you all the best ❤️
The largest problem for me has been getting to speak to them in person. It can be hard sometimes to find a Non-awkward moment to approach them and talk about something and vice versa
It really helped for a new perspective! Thank you so much! I have a crush on an introvert as well and the hardest part was to 'read' them. Like as an extrovert I don't know whether I'm annoying or too loud, and etc. That makes me kinda insecure 😂 and how I tried to give him the space they need but got hit by a big insecurities bcs I thought he doesn't like me enough to actually have a conversation with me. But watching it gave me a perspective that what I thought wasn't always true. So thank you for this and I love your videos 💕
Me and my “crush” ( i’ve never like that word, but I use it ) are both introverts although I’m definitely less of one. This can make it very hard to talk and make plans. But when they say patience is the key, they are absolutely right. I’ve known and liked this girl for almost three years and I can tell you that the last month we have gotten a lot closer. We are not dating yet but I feel like all my patients has been rewarded, and from this point, I’m glad to wait as long as it takes.
Omgg I always used to feel bad when I say I don’t like phone calls but now watching this video I never really thought it was because I’m an introvert. Like I always knew I was an introvert but I didn’t even think it would effect the way I communicate with people. Thank you for this video I feel more in place now.
My crush is an introvert and he only speaks when called on by a teacher. For students he will usually shake his head no or shrug, sometimes nod. My friend introduced me to him last week and told him what I thought about him and he smiled and accepts me as a friend. I asked if we could talk Monday and he nodded his head yes. I really don’t want to mess this up
Lol as an ambivert I have a crush on an introvert and he’s really open/engaged whenever we text (I’d say we text a lot), but whenever we see each other in real life he doesn’t talk to me and panics whenever I initiate conversation with him. It’s funny bc we actually used to talk in real life when we first met in class; I honestly don’t know what to do except try to leave him alone whenever I see him😌🤝
Thank you so much! This helped so much since I'm extremely extroverted and thought I was annoying my crush. I also didn't understand them but now I can go in with more confidence!
At first there are times I can't understand her that she's so silent but now i understand her, whats important is how much i love her and im very willing to understand her because i love her so much
So, me, as an introvert myself in a relationship with somewhat of an extrovert can say, that the things said in this video are surprisingly close to what I experienced. For example, I thought I'm just a weirdo because I don't like to do audio-messages or phone calls ;D. But every point of the Video is really good. Not to be meant for every introvert, but that's just completely normal. Not everyone's the same, am I right?
@@neko_doll5122 Well, for me personally it ain't a problem, thus I can't quite see why this should make somebody uncomfortable. But it ain't my part to judge people for their own behavior. In fact, I respect it.
there’s one thing though, what if they keep on staring at you? tries to initiate convo with you first? yet they act weirdly like, after talking to you they ignore you? but still keeps looking/staring at you
I do the looking/staring part. I tend to look at the person I think is attractive but immediately bolt away when he looks back at me (usually because they are probably homophobic or straight). We try to initiate conversations but if it seems like we're all of a sudden ignoring you it's because we probably felt a little embarrassed or like we messed up on that conversation, or we just don't know how to start it back up again. That's me anyways.
Bàmboo - I agree with that, sometimes we look intensely in the eyes and when we feel like we fucked something up and become self-conscious then we won’t really look our crush in the eye anymore
My crush is an introvert. He likes someone else though, which is hard because I know a few people who like him as well but he doesn’t know because he has a crush on someone else who doesn’t like him back. Even though he knows that she doesn’t like him, he continues to have a crush on her. I wish he would realize that there are other people who actually care about him, the same way he cares about that girl.
I knew I was dating a fellow introvert when my boyfriend would cancel his birthday plans with friends and would stay home to have me come over and hang out with him 🥰 I love this about him because I'm also an introvert. I message him once a day to day good morning, and tell him to have a good day. He is an introvert that likes to connect in person.
This is so nice. I am an extrovert guy but i always have patient when it comes to my crush who is an introvert. She always denies but i dont give up and we wemt out one time and we had fun but patient is a virtue she is too beautiful 😊
What if you and your introverted crush have rarely talked before? I go to school with my introverted crush and we have one class together, and have only talked to each other twice. But because I'm able to see their subscriptions, I know a few things that they like. Do you have any advice to how I can get the confidence to talk to them or how I can even start a conversation?
I remember my ex inviting me to hang out and I freaked out a lot when she ended up inviting friends that I never talked to...I think that’s either social anxiety or just anxiety on general...
I have a crush on an introvert. He's super handsome and yet rarely talk. He just stares at you when you talk and nod once in a while. Sometimes he does talk but then it ended awkward when he finish. After some time, i gradually become close to him and we actually talk a lot more and i really enjoy his company. The silence and the awkwardness, i actually like them. He just listen to me and offer a curt answer. However he doesn't really like to chat over the phone. He likes to play games alone and does everything alone. He just love the space. I tried pushing my way to reach his comfort zone, and i did reach it. It only lasted a while tho because i moved to another state and we lost contact... buti still have feelings for him and miss him..
THANKS! THIS IS VERY HELPFUL ❤️ MY BEST FRIEND IS AN INTROVERT AND HE'S ALSO MY CRUSH BUT HE'S KINDA LESS TALKATIVE BEFORE AND I KEEP TALKING TO HIM BUT NOW I KNOW WHY I THINK HE GET OVERWHELMED... THANKS FOR THIS TIPS❤️
My crush (😍) is one year older than I am and I see him in the hallway in school. I really want to talk to him, or just say hi. I’m a bit shy and nervous to do such things and in those situations, but I’ve heard that he is extreeeemely shy (muuuch more shy than I am) so I don’t really know how to get to know him. Any tips?❤️
Umm.. some advice coming from an extrovert and from all girls school... 1) find ways to get to know him more. What does he like, etc 2) be confident and natural! and yeah be honest! If you suddenly say hi I think it will be kinda creepy.. you can start with something like.." I really admire you" or "can you help me with something (advice for studying) as you are older" or "I like that about you, I want to be friends with you" 3) don't just jump!! Start from little by little everyday. Don't make yourself vulnerable either! Know each other, be comfortable with each other gradually. I hope I could be of any help...
Oh that lovely text "REST WELL" is just awesome...It's so charming when people really care about the ALONE time we need. We do need lots of space and re-charging time.
+Psych2Go Well... erm... Perhaps how we, introverts would best communicate? Or maybe how we would perhaps get their attention? Or perhaps how we'd be able to make the most of our time together?
The main problem with my introverted crush is that I want to be able to talk to him, but it seems like he isn’t interested or too tired for a conversations. I state that I want to talk and he asks “why?” and I don’t really have a reason other than that I want to talk to him. Also, when I am able to start a conversation with him, he doesn’t like it long at all. I can’t tell if he’s just not interested, he’s shy/introverted, or we’re just too different.
the problems I face: I'm an introvert myself and I find it difficult to talk to her when I want to even in texts, dunno why I'm still kinda socially awkward around her but at the same time feel comfortable. I'm an INTJ and am reserved, some people developed crushes on me and I couldn't reciprocate how they felt. This crush story thing is different when I'm the one crushing on someone, I find it a nuisance (well, not really because she did make herself a good influence, etc.-the reason why we're friends and why I'm crushing on her). None of these were a part of my plan and I don't like what's mostly happening as of now because of my pessimistic self. But for now, she's serving as an inspiration to me and it has helped me quite better than I thought.
these vids are giving me some incite cuz recently the girl i have a crush on is an introvert. i knew she was shy but didnt realize there was more to it especially for these past months ive hung with our small group of friends. i thought i annoyed her for awhile but wanted to keep tryin. then i found these and realized if she didnt wanna talk to me i would have known by now. shes slowly opening up. with the knowledge from these vids i know how to better approach her on things.
One of them, especially the one who tends have more extrovert traits as well, has to take the lead and initiate. Perhaps it works out because both of them understand each other's need to have alone time. Good luck :)
"Opposites Attract" is only true when it comes to magnetism (literal magnetism BTW). The more similar two people are, the better the chances they will get along. Don't misunderstand though, that last tip is still true, you don't _have_ to be an introvert too. It would help though. It'll be trickier to make it work, but you can do it if you know what you're doing.
Too bad he always hangs with his friends and never talks to me... I miss our friendship when we used to crack jokes during class and smiling at each other until we get in trouble and the teacher tells us to be quiet...now he never talks to me. Idk what I did wrong because I was always friendly to him....😭💔
Thank you for saying this..I know I'm reserved..I seriously don't like attn.. I wanna say so much to you and still be respectful by not getting to personal on here..all I do know is I really like when we talk..I like when you send funny stuff ..I smile all the time.. I love when you surprise me to let me know your there ☺️. . I pour concrete for a living..I've been doin that for over 30 years now .I've traveled from the Atlantic to the Pacific pouring concrete..one day I decided I wanted to see what's out there. So I took off from Vegas and headed east.. pouring concrete all over the USA. I never made it to Main or Connecticut and the upper states but most of the east and Midwest.. just checking out this big ol world we live in.. it all was a learning lesson for me..I learned a lot about people.. I love being a stranger..there's just something about it..goin to new places all the time..a month here a couple months there and it was so fun and rewarding to me.. I've slowed down now but I seen a lot and learned a lot.. keeping a positive and courageous attitude is so damn badass to me.. there's so much out there and I just had to go and see for myself 💯💪💯..
