A confident man will apologize for banging into someone in the street. It's only immature guys that do not apologize because of their ego and fear of looking weak (ie insecurity).
+Windigo123 hating others for how they were born is probably a reflection of self-worthlessness, because you need to feel in some way that youre born superior to them. if YOU are comfortable with what YOU like, then why the hell does it matter?
i know a lot of confident guys that do more than half of those things. confidence is just not being afraid to be yourself and not giving a fuck what people say or think about you. I think he's getting confidence and popularity mix up.
i never saw "excuse me" as a weakness, but a way of saying "I think you deserve more respect than what I gave you." ...but how you presented it does make sense.
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I think we can all agree that there is nothing inconfident about being cordial because you believe it is the right thing to do. So bumping into a person and apologizing isn't necessarily inconfident. For example, if the person were elderly, I doubt many of us would just behave like a punk. But I understand what you are saying, apologizing for who you are or for things outside of your control, and the apology not being a gesture of general respect (not the type you earn) for your fellow man is completely insecure. That is absolutely correct. Also, we should recognize that there is a type of explaining of oneself that isn't a defensive reaction, but a deeper evaluation of an idea in order to come to an understanding with a peer, and maybe even persuade them. Ideas need to stand up to scrutiny, and scrutinizing ideas and the discourse that follows has to be acceptable. We are forgetting this more and more in the modern world, where technology makes groupthink more possible than ever before. Great content and perspective, keep it up.
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Totally disagree about not apologising for bumping into somebody. Saying either excuse me or sorry are both fine, there's no difference between the two. After all you're the person who has entered another individuals personal space, without their permission. That warrants a quick "sorry". Nothing beta about that.
If someone walked into me and then said excuse me, It would annoy me. In my opinion that's just rude, you should apologize for not paying attention and literally walking into someone.
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you are correct, it's my own personal experience also that, dudes who are by first impression appeared arrogant, like I don't give a shit kind of people, at first they kind of turned me off, but once I got to know them better they were usually more honest, nice, respectful, loyal than people who are very friendly, polite and nice persons
Ha! I had to learn that in England. We screw up the English language. I would bump into people and say "excuse me". People would turn and look at me. London is crowded, always lots of bumping. Excuse me is used to get someone's attention. Like coming up to a person already in a conversation or wanting to get by on a crowd. "Sorry" is the apology for accidentally bumping into someone. For all of those people I bumped into and said excuse me, sorry.
Overall, good advice. One quibble: anyone who doesn't complain about ANYTHING is a bore and a possible cyborg. Problem solution begins with the recognition that there's a problem which is often expressed as complaint. Do it sparingly, in the right context and with humor and no sensible person will perceive you as a weakling.
YOU CAN MAKE THIS DROP DEAD EASY. Not with all these steps. Just remember that people are no damn good and smile on your face mostly. Some people I tell this to say "yeah but you forgot to mention running your mouth" no I didn't, when you realize people are no damn good, you're automatically Clint Eastwood in The Good/Bad/Ugly. You are not wanting to talk to people, they are no damn good. Except he doesn't even smile in that film. No yapping, no smile. He just knows people are no damn good and BAM hit movie. All that other crap is not important. 1) "People are no damn good." 2) "Smile." Easy to remember, easy to execute, when with a lady smile, if she questions why you don't flap your jaw frown and she'll shut the hell up.
That's not what he was saying.. what he meant is that if you do suggest something like that, such as something you like, and it's not as well thought of by others as you would have liked, then further justifying your point is a sign of weakness because you're insecure about your own opinions. It makes you seem needy for approval
probably the way someone says it. lets say the conversation is going as normal and you say you like this place to eat, or you work at this job, but you are staring at their face looking for approval and the approval is not met, and then the tone of your voice drops and your body language becomes more of a sulk as you explain yourself then that makes you look weak / unattractive, the person you are talking to will be like "what is wrong with this person?" and they will pick up weird energy from you. but if you say you like this restaurant because they have great burgers and you keep the conversation going then i dont see anything wrong with that
And suddenly, the most confident guy I’ve ever met turns out to be the most insecure one. Number 2 (explaining yourself) and Number 5 (bragging) are such hideous forms of insecurity.
What sucks is that I would mention masculinity to my therapist and they seemed to be taken aback... Like all I want to do is get over my limitations and become a man lol.
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You are a fucking boss! I'll still get mine started one day. PS , the streets of Boston had so many hotties just like NYC . But it's probably much cleaner there
Nick - No simple answer. But first accept this fact about explaining: your friends don't need it, your enemies won't believe you anyhow, and to both you look weak.
Seem like the behavior of inscure immature man this video proof what they do wrong in behavior or overreact or bad attitude towards women and they see what they do wrong watch the video and see if if helpful for themselves.
Haha, on #5 Bragging I thought before you mentioned it "this guy probably read How to Win Friends & Influence People" and guess what? Right as I - oh wait
Wow lol. I literally do all of these except maybe the last one. For me I don't brag due to insecurity I would argue, of course not that that makes it a good thing.
You're wrong! You have to show your insecurities and weaknesses to show that you're vulnerable! Then people will open up to you. That's how women connect to each other! That's how men control women - by listening to them.
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I thought #3 was interesting. Like saying sorry instead of excuse me- I do that all the time. I've done all of these actually! I think this is useful for women as well. I'm Someone who gets burned because I'm too nice. This was a great video for getting past that.
Lauren Malloy Except there's no such thing as being " too nice ". If people burn you for it or judge you as being weak for it, then they are the ones with the real issues.
