How to Deal With Loneliness 

"I used to think the worst thing in life is to end up all alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel all alone." ~ Robin Williams

"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you." Love this.

As a young man I can listen to this guy forever. Nobody is speaking like this to us no more.

The “being comfortable with yourself like a friend” part is beautiful

True: Until you get comfortable with being alone, you'll never know if you're choosing someone out of love or loneliness

We don't need more people like this man, we need to be like this man.

"You're never lonely, if you like who you're alone with." I carry this thought with me every day. A very powerful mindset that I believe every man should cultivate.

I’m a young woman watching this, and I’m so sorry. Every single guy watching this, you deserve good people to be around. You deserve a partner, life, friends and happiness. Please don’t give up on this world yet.

"Nobody will destroy you, if you won't let them!" Well said.

"You be a strong man, you be a good man, and you let the world rage around you." That's wisdom.

A friend of mine once said, “If the person you’re with isn’t lifting you up, they’re dragging you down.” This made me realize that statement applies to how you treat yourself also.

I was about to complete my life tonight (6/1/24) but looked for one last sign not to and I found this video. I've never seen your videos before. I'm grateful I found this one tonight. 🙏

I turned to alcohol heavily for 3+ years to deal with being lonely. All my family is 2,000 miles away. I'm 5 days sober which isn't a lot, but I'm trying to learn to deal with it in healthier ways. Thanks for your video

I'm 17 year old boy from Russia and just doesn't know where to put my energy to talk to somebody. After watching this video i cried for a couple minutes and realised how I need to treat and bring myself up. Thank you a lot sir.

Nothing is more lonely than having people around you that make you feel that way.

You will never understand what a real loneliness means untill you will be so lonely that you will go to the supermarket just to see people...

I am alone & got a dog, we go hiking and camping & go to parks , I don't feel alone anymore & my dog shows true love & loyalty. So much happier than I ever was .

this doesn't feel like a video, this feels like a conversation

I’m 21 and never really had a father, so thank you much sir for this talk, felt needed and I appreciate these words…

“If I am sitting outside by myself by the fire in the evening and I am constantly beating myself up over my failures in the past, I am not someone I want to be alone with”… damn.

"You don't want to be alone with you because you beat yourself" drove me to tears. This realization drove me to tears.

Never felt alone ever in my life, until I lost the 2 people who loved me most, my Mom and Dad. God Bless you sir and all you folks

I’m 66 years old and buried my mother 12/26/22 and week later I lost my wife 01/02/23 to pancreatic cancer at 58 years old. I needed to hear this, this afternoon. Thank you for your time and video.

Many people label themselves "lonely" but most of them don't have the slightest idea about what true loneliness feels like. That feeling of utter hopelessness you get every single day you wake up, knowing that you have no plans, no place to be, no one to meet, no one to talk to. Even your own family don't know how morbidly lonely you are and you can't even tell them. And you slowly start getting consumed by your mind that has been starved of human interaction for soooo long. Imagine repeating this scenario every single waking hour.

I'm 76 years old and still learning. This is some of the best advise that I have ever heard. Thank you sir.

One of the best antidotes to loneliness is volunteer work. Eventually you start to make friends with your fellow volunteers, who are frequently good people

We must protect this man at all costs

Good talk, Dewayne! I like your straight talk. I'm a 70-year-old widow; my children are grown and own their own. I live alone, and I don't feel lonely. I enjoy my company. I'm an interesting person with lots of interests. I live in the country and see wildlife in my yard. I budget my social security and my late husband's pension. God promised me food, clothing, and shelter, and I have all those. I haven't dated since my husband died, and I don't want to. Since I'm a widow without a husband and children to care for, I can minister to others in need using my gifts of service and hospitality. I feel content and blessed.

I've lost almost everyone and everything in my life recently. Both parents died,lost my job and my wife separated from me. It's really hard to keep hanging on. Thanks for the advice.

"The hell that you go through with these relationships just in order to have someone to sleep with from time to time is not worth the destruction that it is doing to your soul and your spirit, to your life, it's not worth it." Amen to that, brother.

Sir, I am in Asia, and You have saved me from suicide tonight. Thank you and God bless you always!

I needed this very much. I’ve been alone since I was 14 (now 22) and have been brainwashed from social media. Ty for your time in making this video and may God bless you and your family ❤️

The internet, and especially social media, has absolutely torn the fabric of society asunder. I'm still a young man by most definitions but am old enough to remember back pre-Facebook when you could disagree on politics/policy with someone and still break bread with them or enjoy a beer over a game. Nowadays, forget it, just hate all the way down at the first whiff of disagreement. I used to feel lonely and alienated, but now just learned that doing my own thing away from everyone else is the best path to peace in the modern world. Improvise, adapt, overcome.

As a 26 year old I feel so much older than I should. I compare my life to all my peers, they all seem to be settling down, getting married, having kids, making 6 figures. I just moved back home to my dads house to take care of him as his health is declining. I’m looking at is as a beautiful thing, spending time with my old man while he’s still here. However, I want to be successful, find love, own a home, have children, but it all seems so impossible. These videos you make really help me get through these hard times, I feel so isolated and alone every single day, but when I watch clips like this, it makes me feel less alone. Thank you.

I'm a 17 year old guy who's been considering suicide. I've been feeling extremely lonely and afraid of the world and I know that it's time i pick myself back up. This video really inspired me to get my life together and start liking myself again. This is all really good advice and I have a lot of respect for you sir. I hope this video can reach even more people and help them too.

The wisdom of treating yourself as a companion to yourself-and not beating yourself up over past failures-is profound.

Im barely 20 and I’ve struggled with crippling lonlieness. I sat back and just listened and it was the best 20 minutes of advice I’ve ever gotten. Thank you so much

Very wise comments. Thank you sir. I am 65 years old and my wife passed away last year. I have never really been alone. But I feel awfully alone now. I am struggling with moving forward with my life. I retired a couple years early to take care of her as her health declined. Now I find myself sitting at home for weeks at a time, only to leave the house to get a few groceries. Your words and Wisdom is encouraging. I only Pray that I can wake up tomorrow and apply those words of Wisdom . Thank You Sir... God Bless .

Thank you for this. When I was 27, I got out of an engagement with an unfaithful woman. I sold most of my possessions, left my old job behind, threw what I had left in my vehicle, and hit the road. Ended up in the sticks in Oklahoma working as a steelworker with the best quality of life I've ever had, my own small humble home, and the best damn dog a man could ask for. It's like you said, it truly takes courage to leave everything that you know and makes you comfortable behind to go into the unknown. It's unsettling and its uncomfortable sometimes. The loneliness was hard to deal with at first. It would keep me up at night, it was a bad feeling I couldn't chase away. But it turned into peace. Genuine peace. It turned into self-reflection and growing as a man. Everyday, every task is an accomplishment that I achieved. You're a wise man, sir, thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's always good to have more tools for the mental toolkit. Continue to be a good man.

It’s easy to give guidance on loneliness when you’re not lonely. And I would argue that to a degree a person will feel contentment within themselves when there’s someone that loves them and nurtures that at home even if they can enjoy being alone for ‘several days’ sometimes. In my experience loneliness is the most difficult feeling/emotion to live with. It’s crippling and makes every day feel frightening and hopeless. We are a tribe animal - it’s in our very nature to be with others. Yes, toxicity is not the companion we need including within ourselves, but regardless of how mature we are, how well we cope alone and how it is better to be alone than in relationship with unkind/unsupportive others, the fact remains that as humans we need healthy, strong connection with other humans to be happy and contented. I send deepest love to anyone who needs to feel it today. ❤

I’m 26 and am a widower, my wife died 9/9/21. I have two little daughters, which has helped. Loneliness has been rough. Now a days females are hard to even talk to. Thanks for the content!

Protect this man at all costs. That's all I can say.

There's only one thing worse then feeling lonely and alone and that's feeling lonely and alone with the wrong person.

I'm an 18 year old boy from Iran and it has been a while since I was watching your videos and I really like you sir My Father is an Iranian- American and when I showed him this video He said that this man is a real American Thank you for your kind words ❤️

“Be a good, strong man and let the world rage around you.” Great life advise. Love your cool, calm and collected videos, thank you !

Grew up without a father, just got out of a toxic relationship. This helped more than you could ever know, thank you.

I can't believe I came across your shows just when I needed help the most. My wife of 42 years passed away a year ago. I am so lonely and messed up. Your words have made a lot of sense. You have a gift. Keep up the good work. Thank you.

I'm 17 yo form iraq and I just got a notification from my friends that they'll left me and I'm alone now and nobody with me so I watched this video and realized that I need to pick up myself I need to be the man who is called a man and make decisions that I won't regret on it , sometimes we get hurt we do because we have feelings. But we should love ourselves. Thank you sir 🙏

There are some days where I just feel unwanted, forgotten and alone but then I go back to this video to brighten my day up. Goodluck gents

New sub here. Got married when I was 30 and my wife and I had two boys. In 2006 my wife passed away suddenly from a brain aneurysm at age 40. My two sons were 10 and 7 at the time. I worked full time ( self employed construction) full time and raised my two sons with the help of family on both sides. I spent ALL of my free time with my two boys. They came first, no exceptions. Had absolutely no desire to date or form a relationship while my boys were young. My Dad wasn’t able to spend as much time with me as I wanted so I wasn’t going to make the same mistake. My two sons went to church and belonged to the youth group while growing up. Now my sons are 26 and 23 and are both pursuing their goals and working hard. I have not dated since my wife passed away. Sometimes I feel lonely for companionship but after 16 years of being single I am set in my ways and I enjoy being able to come and go as I please. I retired 2 years ago at age 56 and have found some interests to keep me busy and mostly content. It’s hard to know what to do ( relationship or stay single) because today you don’t know who you can trust and too many people are all about themselves.

I do not have a dad. You are the first person I've ever felt that I can sit and listen to your words of wisdom, as a father figure. Thank you for your time and truth. These are the conversations I've always longed for that I never got.

That's really well said!! I'm a mom of six kids, dairy farming family. I got three boys. And 3 girls. We raised them with hard work ethics, morals and values. My 24 year old and 22 year old sons are alone trying to cope. They want to find nice girls, but so far neither of them have dated anyone yet. We are not rushing them, but I am seeing what's going on out there and so are they and they are gun shy. The feminists have done great damage. One of my girls dated a little but sees guys are withdrawing and hesitant to even ask her out and she's looking for a strong man who's got some morals and is a hard worker and wants to take the lead. Tough times all around, I really am sad to see what is happening to our young men in this country. You are right when you say that you have to become comfortable with yourself. I am encouraging that for my boys and girls. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart!

im 18 years old female, and i would like to thank this man for this great advice, i felt this and it comforted me, and to the hardworking guys out there, be safe, you're doing great and i hope you will never let your handsome power die stay strong

I'm 64, was very happily married for 40 years, she was 14 yrs older than me, we hit it off from day one, I lost her to Alzheimer's 3 years ago, life isn't the same without her, I feel my age and being disabled make me undesirable so I pretty much keep to myself. Such a nice show and very sound advice, you made my day, please keep up the good work !!

24 year old male who really needed to hear this. Appreciate the honesty and reinforcement, Dwayne.

Mr. Dwayne thank you so much, I lost my father when I was 16. I'm 28 now and I feel like I just listened heart to heart with him through you. Thank you

Just dealt with my mom's passing at 27 she was my best friend... I feel immensely alone. Feel like she led me here.. I love you ma! Thanks for always looking after me

"Make the unpopular decisions." really can't stress how important that one is. Trust your self and do what you know is right.

I'm a 44 YO black woman. I just found your channel, and I am happy I did. Your messages are applicable to a spectrum of ages and lifestyles. Thank you Sir for sharing your wisdom with the world.

Thank you for a fresh perspective. I’m a 72 year old man in good shape. But I’ve been lonely all my life. I was trapped in a horrible marriage fo 35 years. But I’m separated since 6 years. The pain of loneliness has morphed into the joy of solitude

First step to beat loneliness is to accept that you are lonely. Second step is to allow yourself to feel all thousand colours of loneliness. Third step is to refocus on something that you are putting value in(running with dog, painting, making music, meditation, breath work, etc.) Dont forget that no one can save you from this feelings, only yourself. It will pass...

I’m 61 years old and have been single now for 10 years, no dating, no one night stands, I haven’t even touched a woman since my divorce and it was and still is hard at times to cope with the loneliness, but it passes. I mean this sincerely, everything he mentioned in this video I have already learned or I’m working on now. What I can say is thanks Dude you nailed it exactly. Sincerely, Oklahoma Cowboy

When I get really lonely I'll go out & hang around with people & it almost always reminds me why I spend so much time alone

thanks Dewayne, these videos help me feel like I'm not so alone with my bad thoughts, this world feels so backwards and its hard for me to keep going in it everyday

This is the second video I've watched of this man. In today's society a legend could be considered a celebrity, rapper, or a politician. But this man is a legend in my book. He's like an uncle we all never had but always wanted. Something about this man just seems so heartwarming and delightful to be around with. Thank you for all that you do Mr. Cowboy sir. And apologies for my inappropriate profile.

Yep , I'm 65 and this gentleman speaks from the heart. He speaks the truth.

Dwayne is like the father some never had or he can be the man that’s truthful with everyone and tells you things your daddy was afraid to teach you

Good morning. My name is Hannah from North Carolina. Thank you for making this video... For the past 8 months, I have been feeling this unfamiliar feeling that has been uncomfortable. So, this morning i woke up and jumped on the computer looking for ideas that could help me make a start, and I feel that your video has. Thank you very much for making this video.

"If tearing people down to your level is the only way to achieve equality - that's not equality." This is the message millions of people - young men and women - needed to hear at a younger age.

My ex used to “jokingly” tell me “I gotta keep you down to keep you around”. It was all jokes at first until I started developing anxiety and became self conscious of things about myself I never even noticed. After 6+ years I was an empty shell of a man, I had no concept of myself. I broke up with her a year ago and I’m proud to say I’ve never been more confident in myself in my entire life. You said it best, she was a parasite. Finally I’m growing to be the man I know I can be, and I’ll never settle for anything but the absolute best.

I'm 40 Yr old man, been single for 7 years and live on my own with my dog. I'm use to being alone most my life and to be honest I've learned to love myself and never been happier. The biggest battles are in your mind once you learn to love oneself no person can harm you, also you can't love others if you don't love yourself.

“ You wanna tell yourself the truth but you wanna tell yourself in understanding and forgiveness” thank you for sharing ❤ I’m trying

Almost 3 years ago I lost my wife, my soulmate. The hole in your chest and the emptiness it leaves is almost unbearable. Losing your other half is a loneliness I would never wish on someone.

At 61 and divorced and no kids and my entire small family has passed on. My two horses have died recently......I asked the lord to help me.....I literally feel him and hear him talking to me daily on what to do and its over whelming how much he has helped me.

I am 21 I am exhausted every day. I don’t have many friends I work, these 20 minutes have given me so much advice thank you.

I love this. The set up makes it feel like a personal conversation but motivational and overall positive. Thank you sir ! Definitely needed !

Honestly, I'm just glad to hear an elder man say some kind words instead of telling me how worthless I am for not wanting to work 16-hour work days for the rest of my life.

We need to spread this guy around some more. I feel comforted and inspired.

Im not even that lonely, I just like listening to this guy. He's so chill about everything he's chatting about in this video

I was once told that I expect too much of other people. This was a hidden compliment and a resource for me. Acceptance of others selfishness and limitations is the toughest thing I've had a real hard time understanding. Live and like yourself because most others are a mess in the Head! Codependency is self-destructive! Independence is it's own reward!👍

As a woman in her 30s, my heart goes out to you guys. Please know that there are women out there who notice the hard work you do and appreciate you. I say a prayer of gratitude everytime I see a group of hardworking men working on the roads and sacrificing their bodies. 🙏

One thing to seriously consider is how we see the world through social media. Social media isn’t our life. Deleting most social media and focusing on what’s in front of me, my actual life, has helped me so much. Of course I still feel lonely but at least I don’t have hundreds of people rubbing it in my face how awesome their lives are. We are all on different paths in life, make sure you focus on where your paths going instead of wondering where everyone else is.

41 Years young man here and have found myself alone quite often. Never married and no kids. Parents been gone for over 10 years now and I have to agree 100 % it's all about learning yourself. I've been in good relationships and bad but in the end never lasted over two years. Have learned to be totally self sufficient. Yes, I do get lonely and occasionally bitter but have to remind myself to be constantly working on myself. Thanks for the episode.

20:00 "You be that warrior in a garden. You be a strong man, you be a good man, and let the world rage around you."

“You are not equal……you are a parasite….” Very well said!!!

22 year old man, just getting out of a toxic relationship with a girl that was destroying my sense of self and what I valued and had me a shadow of myself scared of her. Stayed with her for the exact reason I was scared of being alone and being by myself, god forbid. Being alone is 10000x better than the hell of being with the wrong person just for touch. This video hit hard, brother. Thanks for sharing some of your wisdom with us. Stay strong men, times are tough but we got this.

Just lost my father a few days ago. Feel like this is something he would say to me, the way he would say it to me. Thank you for giving me a piece of him tonight.

Such a wise advice. Instead of finding someone else, be a good companion to yourself. I feel peaceful. Thank you sir.

Spot on, Dwayne. I'm 80 now, but back in my forties I learned that I can't be responsible for somebody else being happy, nor they for me. Happiness is a choice we make for ourselves. Likewise, unhappiness is not because of somebody else. It is a choice we make. Oh, people can disappoint us, but that doesn't mean we have to be unhappy as a result. It simply presents us with another choice to make regarding that relationship. As you said, if we are comfortable in our own skin (hopefully because we have done the requisite homework) nobody can penetrate our happiness without our permission. As another commenter said, there is a difference between solitude and loneliness. Great things can be accomplished in solitude, not so much in loneliness. Your videos have given me a lot of pause to reflect on the days when I had a Buckskin quarter horse, and it always puts a smile on my face. Thank you, brother, much appreciated.

I'm a 65 year old widow and am alone alot, but rarely lonely. I enjoy my own company not only because I like myself but because I've been around enough people to know I'd rather be alone than sorry. I feel for young men in this current world and pray for them. My message to them is don't settle for any woman who berates you, be comfortable with yourself and let the Lord lead you to the right partner.

Sir, what is lacking in this world for most men is having an older man with Godly wisdom who walks with a true “father spirit,” speak into their lives. Well I see you!! Hope you keep encouraging these young guys on many topics. They need you. ❤

Enjoyed your video, some true words spoken. Spent 16 years with the wrong lady, on my own now I’m happy with my own company. Be kind and things will be fine.

Im a 27 year old dude. This actually did help me. Thank you so much for actually acknowledging how horrible the loneliness pandemic is. The media only scoffs and laughs at it, as do many many women. Sometimes I find it really difficult to not be hateful. Your advice is really good. Consider doing a follow up to this video if you think or more things to say. Edit: 7 months later. Forgot I wrote this. I’m glad I did, because some these comments make me want to press the end humanity button. Thanks to those of you who gave kind and thoughtful replies.

You are 100 percent right. I was homeless in 2015 and I made a choice to change that ,and now I have my own place and a van. It wasn't easy and I worked really hard and I didn't give up.

76yo, married man for 54 years. A wonderful message about dealing with being alone. One should recognize that neither your wife, your children, your friends or any of your possessions are yours. You only borrow them for a while. You make a good point about beating yourself up and not liking yourself. You have to be kind to yourself. No one wants to live with or be friends with a downer, someone with a cloud over there head.

Absolutely love the wisdom this man has. You don’t see it anymore on socials, guys like this. Grateful for men like this who have survived the fires and trials of life and come out stronger who can speak to us. Thanks man

I am a 53-year-old currently sitting in my garage smoking a cigar and having a bourbon buy myself as a normally do and came across your video. All I can say is your Insight is spot on. Amen brother, you are a blessing so you young guys listen to the wisdom man this man offers!

I’m almost at adulthood and my teen life has been terrible. Not a single friend. Alone every day with no company and this made me feel slightly better about it all. Edit: thank you everyone for being so supportive. Much love and never let anything bring any of you down. I believe in everyone here. ❤️💪🏽

For men who are lonely I'm 33 years old now. Outside of work and life itself I've found a way to cope with life playing guitar and piano maybe that might not be for you but what I can say is find a hobby or something that drives you to continue doing it and enjoying it in the moment when your alone with yourself. Fishing hunting drawing art and or playing an instrument even having a pet can be a huge help. There was a point in my life where I wanted to end my life. I don't do drugs smoke or drink. I didn't know what to do or where to turn I was coming home from work one night around midnight driving home. I live in the country I was going 50 mph I decided to push it to 110 mph and was shaking ready to yank the wheel sending me into a ditch ending everything.... I slowly stopped and stopped. I made it home woke up the next day and went to work and a coworker was talking about his new guitar he had got. I was curious and got to talking and came to getting my own. It's been 3 years now of playing and nothing makes me feel better like this guitar.... It makes everything go away it melts my feelings away. I got to thinking about it how instant it was and how it all fell into place in that moment and all I can say is to never give up. Keep your circle small, work hard, keep drama away and do what makes you happy. In the end it kinda sorts itself out and don't let anyone tell you that you NEED to be with a woman or in a relationship to live a good life. You can live a good full life even by yourself. Work hard and prosper brother's and God speed. Don't give up.....

Even if no one may ever read this, I want to thank you. Sometimes all it takes to be pulled out of the dark downwards spiral is someone reminding you of who we are. The biggest journey starts with the first step, and every downwards spiral I will use this advice to look back and see that it’s ok. Well be fine. So thank you. It might not be much but often what I and many others look for is just that bit of encouragement, that other person saying it’s ok, that person simply giving you some guidance. That person reminding you it’s yourself fcking with you and that you can tell that person to politely piss off or change for something better. Today you brought me out of my dark spiral, I may probably need it again, but that’s ok.