5 REASONS WHY I WILL NEVER GO BACK TO NATURAL HAIR | KAIZEN TSHEGO 

Which products would you say are the holy grails from the ones you've tried out?

As someone who doesn't give af about their hair and has had relaxed, natural and shaved it off many times. Everyone should just do what they want. Relax it if you want. Be natural if you want. Simple. Some people struggle with their natural hair, some people struggle with relaxed hair. Who cares?!??🤣Just do you.

You know, it never fails to amaze me how the strongest opposition to hair relaxers are those who have the finest grade of hair. Mighty funny how the “Rock it natural girls” are often half white. God blessed you with fine wavy natural hair. Great for you. Leave people alone to do whatever gives them confidence.

I have a serious knot problem and I’m watching this because I’m considering relaxing my hair. I’m honestly so over all the work natural hair comes with.

Interesting, I think some of your reasons are the exact same reasons I went natural. After being relaxed my whole life, I decided to go natural three years ago and it’s the best thing for me. The convenience of wash day. Now that I’m natural I can wash my hair whenever I feel like it during a shower. Whereas with relaxed hair I used to make sure I avoid any contact with water because straightening my hair again would be a hustle. I don’t know how people think relaxed hair is more versatile than natural hair. I have bleached, coloured my hair more than I did when I was relaxed. The difference this time is my hair is more resilient to the chemicals. My wash days are 45 minutes max (including deep conditioning). I have one or two spur of the moment washes during the week. These can be co-washes or simple shampooing. They don’t add much time to my shower time. The only time I really get knots and have to intensely detangle my hair is when I’ve been rocking the shrinkage look for a week. That’s not often plus using a detangling brush makes that achievable in my 45 minutes wash days. Let’s not act like we don’t need to detangle relaxed hair after every wash. I know I did because my hair would have knots after drying it with a towel. Having natural hair is not as much of an inconvenience as influencers make it out to be. And relaxers are not the answer to avoiding wash days.

I stopped relaxing my hair back in 2008, because of the chemicals. If the chemicals ONLY touched the hair, I might still be relaxing, but because those poisons touch the scalp, I had to let it go. I still, predominately, wear my her straight tho. Modern flat irons work straitening magic, and my hair is longer than I was ever able to get it back when I relaxed.

I agree with all of these! I recently texturised my 4c hair after being natural since 2014 and have found all of these to be true. Something funny is that I often hear people say a pro of being natural is that you no longer have to run from the rain or worry about your hair reverting, but I found it was the COMPLETE OPPOSITE when I was natural! The only way to keep my hair from knotting up horribly when I was natural was to keep it stretched with a twist out/braid out, but at even the slightest hint of humidity, my stretched style would be a bird's nest. I remember taking out a twist out on a particularly hot day, and by the time I'd taken out all my twists, my hair had already started reverting and knotting. Simply put, A MESS. Now with texturised hair, twist outs stay defined for way longer. I truly admire women who can make coily, dense, fine-stranded 4C hair work as a natural, but it just wasn't for me.

It’s hilarious how many naturals are upset that people struggled more with natural hair than relaxed. Y’all have to realize that everyone’s hair is not the same even if you have the same curl type. Y’all are saying she’s being ridiculous that it took her hours to wash her hair, but it’s her experience and many others’. Who are y’all to shame her for preferring relaxed hair? Stop being miserable, start being considerate.

Your relaxed hair looks beautiful & healthy. A lot of big natural hair influencers are relaxing their hair now which is completely fine. What's weird is how everyone whose relaxing now is making it seem like natural hair is the hardest to take care of & maintain...it's been drilled so much into our heads how our natural hair is so difficult to deal with, which I understand. We might possibly never unlearn the centuries of eurocentric influence on our hair which is sad.

Your hair looks healthy and beautiful. Keep taking care of it. I wore my hair relaxed for most of my adult life and now I just appreciate the way my hair grows out of my scalp. I am grateful to all the women who wore their own natural hair so that a space was created for me to be comfortable wearing my natural hair in any setting. Relaxed or natural is really a personal choice and I glad we are all free to make those choices.

When I relaxed my hair 10 years ago, I regretted it tremendously. I’ve had sister locks to traditional locs then big chopped since then, and now my 4c natural hair is thriving with the right techniques. To each his own, just saying

I relaxed my hair yesterday!!!! It’s been 7 years since I’ve been relaxed and I absolutely love that I came back home!!!💜💜 I’ve always had long healthy relaxed hair. While being in cosmetology back in 2013/2014 I started going natural cause it’s healthy! And it was nice! My curl was beautiful but when it dried it wasn’t what I wanted 🤷🏽‍♀️ I got tired of the styles and not being able to feel how I wanted 😢 I find beauty in myself with long straight hair. And the puff was just a bit much for me managing it.

😂😂😂 glad you’re enjoying your relaxed hair. We’ve really over complicated natural hair. But I’ve normalised wearing my natural hair out and washing it, I’ve never even viewed it as a chore. But I get why people are tired I suppose.

I love being natural and will never relax my hair again and not considering flat ironing. My natural hair takes about 1 1/2hr including drying. I also workout and I sweat in my scalp so it doesn’t suit my lifestyle.

I enjoy my hair more now. I cut see through ends and do not fuss about holding on to damaged end, now love wearing my U AND V part wigs without worry about heat damage. I stretch my relaxer for longer like 6 and 8 months. I am not afraid of frizz, and yes most importantly I have time for other things. My hair is thriving, fuller and growing

Why do naturals always feel the urge to always come on these types of relaxed hair videos with a superiority complex and state how wonderful it is to be natural? Like...ok...no one asked though. Adding NOTHING to the conversation. There are other channels for that. I'm natural with no desire to relax I just enjoy all types of hair videos. I don't understand why something as simple as how someone chooses to wear their hair always has to be an issue with us. I never see this phenomenon on the white girls' hair channels. Smh.

Natural hair is very simple and easy to care for. We make everything so hard.

Been wanting to relax since the year began. Relaxed my hair about a week ago and NO REGRETS!!! 9 years of not using product or heat?? I think I'd been committed long enough😂😂

Even though I'm natural for almost 5 years, I love watching videos about ladies who have gone back to relaxers! I have thick 4c hair, bra strap length, and a blow dryer is a necessity to avoid too many single stand knots and to speed it wash day. It takes me a little over 2 hours to wash, detangle, condition, blow dry, and twist, but I don't mind. I definitely understand the convenience factor of relaxed hair, but it's been so long that I wouldn't even know how to do my hair if I went back to relaxers lol. I wasn't that great at maintaining it back then!

Honestly I used to relax my hair when I was in middle/high school and now as an adult I do keratin treatments which is as natural as I can go. But honestly this is refreshing to hear about. I probably would never go back to relaxed hair but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I think about doing it often. There’s just such a convenience to it. No shame in whatever you decide to do with your hair. Get the relaxer if you want it! Or be natural or somewhere in between like me. No shame!! You’re the one that has to deal with it everyday, so do what fits your lifestyle best

Being a heat trained natural is a happy medium for me my hair texture has loosened which makes my hair easier to manage but i don't encounter the bad chemicals in relaxers

I mean if you wanna change it, if you don't, don't. White or Asian people get perms to make their hair curly as well. Choice is a great thing guys. Freedom to do whatever you want is beautiful.

Got the exact same 4c textured hair (saw your relaxer vid), I was relaxing my hair myself then went to have it done professionally and it all went down hill after that. Fast forward from 2018 with me cutting my hair into a taper and learned about proper moisturing (my hair wasn't as tough as first thought) and then loc'ing up in 2019 till now. Reason I stopped relaxing is to get used to my natural hair and the endocrine issues it can cause (I already have a hormonal condition) my hair is now thriving being loc'd. Feel ppl should do what they feel for themselves 👌🏾

I’ve been relaxed (childhood), gone natural then relaxed again, then back to natural and have been for the past 6 years. I had healthy relaxed hair but I love my hair natural, especially since there’s more products available than when I first went natural. Other than the harsh chemicals in relaxers I’m all for experimenting with what works for you, at the end of the day it’s your hair and I’m not coming to your house to give you touch ups or detangling on wash day lol, so do you!

I’m really here for your relaxed hair content. Love it ❤️

After being natural for 12 years, am enjoying my relaxed hair, so versatile and easy to manipulate...however I believe the Relaxer technology has changed positively since our last encounter, recent past

I have been relaxed since August of last year, so this makes me one year being back relaxed. I love it! The only thing I forget at times is that wash day isn’t long anymore. So I shy to washing my hair which is not good for my scalp which then leaves me with a lot of breakage. Sometimes I have to remind myself that I am not natural anymore so I could wash my hair and deep condition within minutes. Which I absolutely love! It’s still a process that I have to get better at. Nevertheless me being natural has definitely taught me how to take better care of my hair. I just need to take what I’ve learned and bring it over to this side of my hair journey. Thanks as always for your inspiring videos!❣️

Your hair is amazing💕I’m still natural but still enjoy your content☺️it’s all love here sis

I understand why natural is liberating. Natural is well, natural! It does however require a LOT of work, love and effort and let's face the truth. Peoples lives are going faster than normal, time is moving much more quicker and sometimes we ain't no time to braid out, wash n go, and so on. Sometimes you want to give your arms a REST! Wakeup and goooo. I understand!!

im so obbessed with relaxed hair, i feel feminine and im so in love with my hair

if it makes your life easier I say go for it, from a natural hair woman

Going back to relaxed hair is a struggle also. You got to deal with new growth which is another visit to the salon. Then the whole blow dryer or roller setting, curling iron process as a headache. I want to go back to relaxing but the thought scares me away.

Your hair is goal, Period!!!. I honestly feel like brands are sleeping on you, You deserve sponsors. I have seen transitioning from natural to relaxed but of all, you have really impressed me, you are managing it soooo well. I remember the first time when i saw you relaxed your hair and i was like whhhhhhy no!!! But now i understand. For me, its the consistency, be it natural or relaxed, you are just good when it comes to hair😄😄

Tu es trop belle 🥰 I came to watch just because I wanted to go back natural because of people judgments, but watching your old videos I find that relaxed hair suits you better. And honestly thanks for your advice, whenever these demons will come tell me to do the big chop, I'll watch this video 😂😂😂🙏🏽🙏🏽 Merci ❤️❤️

You convinced me and I enjoy my hair again❤

I’ve had natural since birth and yep, you convinced me to have it relaxed a week ago after watching your videos for a month. I love it.

I love how I can put my relaxed hair in two bantu knots at night, and wake up with beautiful wavey hair

You still have to be just as careful with relaxed hair....chemical relaxers are just that so now your breaking down your hairs integrity...still will need a lot of care to keep away from breakage also routine trims..but ofcourse wash day should be a breeze...and I definitely wouldn't recommend color..never seen a girl with nice hair after relaxing and coloring ..it's too much and eventually may cause damage...I've never been relaxed my entire 27yrs and don't plan to but I respect the ones that do ..natural hair is bigger chore and sometimes I be over my 3-5 hour wash day routine lmaoo 🤣😭 ... but the dedication is worth it for me especially wanting a texturizer back in the day and always straightened my hair ...at this point I already took the route of hair color so that is more than enough damage I wanna do lol to each is own at the end of the day.. honestly just gotta do what's best for you

I stop relax my hair since 11 year's now,for me I will never go back for nothing.

Those are exactly the five things bothering me right now and I'm just tired especially with a toddler, I just can't eish.. Thanks for the video I'm now considering a relaxer too 🥰

I've been wanting to relax my hair since March but didn't. I completely understand this vid and many others of ppl going back to relaxers. Natural hair is a lot of work. I've been natural for 7 years and I still don't know what truly would make my hair its best. Wash day sucks because of detangeling and knots. I love the way my hair looks afterwards but I don't love the carpal tunnel I have after.

I like everything about you! Very thoughtful and Inspirational. You look absolutley stunning with the bun on relaxed hair and Iam happy for you to find your way, it suits you very well🤗

Can we also talk about how time consuming natural hair is for work😫 I relaxed my hair 2 years ago and I have no regrets.

I am the girl, who put the hair in a messy bun and is fine for days... But I am natural 😅. I think a lot of people are doing the natural hair journey wrong. Since my hair is natural, it is so much easier to handle. Buuut I don't know why, but there are almost no good natural hair videos in english and in German. If you see a RU-vid video of a Spanish speaking RU-vidr, she wash her hair and put a cream on it and is ready and do not have to take care for a hole week! And their hair look better! I changed my hair care routine and copied the one from frizzy desi... What could I say, suddenly my hair looks super, I need less products and it is quicker 😅. I am ready after about 30 minutes 😅.

Ive been natural since 2010 with a few chops in between. I'm now considering relaxing my natural hair purely for convenience, but don't really know where to start, especially in terms of prepping my virgin hair for it? And girl. You hit the nail on the head when talking about jeopardising the health of our hair.. my hair is super thick and honestly takes way too much time and energy to maintain. Like you, I too have had to mentally prepare myself for wash day etc. Its a lot! 😅😅

your hair looks so soft and healthy!!😍

I'm lazy, I don't have any time, or patience to be playing with my hair all day.. I don't want to protective style. I don't want to go to the salon. I don't want to relax my hair myself because my arms would hurt. I really am grateful that I can do a 10-15 min wash n go on my natural hair every few days and be done with it. I love my curls too.

After going natural in 2015, I began wearing my hair flat ironed straight in 2019. The main reason why I wear my hair straight was because of the freakin single strand knots 🙄.

Good for you. It's your hair and it looks beautiful. I've been natural ten years and my hair resembles fluff no matter what I do so I'm over it all! Lol

You are beautiful, your hair looks super cute in the bun, however relaxed hair still needs to be cared for, it can fall out from dying bleaching and heat. A lot of those single strand knots when natural comes from not keeping up with trims. Keeping up with trims are still necessary with relaxed hair in order to keep it healthy.

what is going on with this natural hair movement hate? there are so many videos right now about hating natural hair. i cannot believe people are going back to relaxers! is this a gen z thing?! i am so confused.

4c hair short and loving it 😃

I find my natural hair easier to manage than my relaxed hair. For example, my natural hair can withstand a hot, humid day at an outdoor wine festival with ease. My relaxed hair could not. I don't get knots either. Not sure why. Bottom line...people should do what works for their hair and their lifestyle. I agree, we should focus on things that give the most value in our lives.

Hey girl hey, your hair is gooooooals, you really taking good care of it, love to see it ❤. Can you please do a video on the hairdo you currently have if possible, that hairstyle is the one 😊.

I'm reading the comments and watching the video and I'm seeing people complain about 4c hair so much. Here people get a certain type of dreadlocks that u can stay with it for upto 2yrs with retouch once per month because they're busy and don't want to relax their hair. Stop making 4c hair care like a big chore. Just relax and we have no issue with that

I'm natural but plan on wearing my hair blow dried/Stretched. I'm tired of the Shrinkage and single stand knots

You make me want to go get a snack. You make it look so good lol and you look great girl!

Hii Tshego, Happy Saturday to you. Wow you definitely made my Saturday by posting a video 😃👍🏾 By the way you look so gorgeous in today's video 🥰🙌🏾 and the hair is just beautiful 😍 Sending love always ❣️❣️❣️

First, Your hair is AMAZING!! I can tell you are really enjoying it which in my opinion is the point of hair, to have fun with it. Personally, I have been natural since I was like 10 years old. For 5 or six years, I had locks. For me, finding Black Gurl Curls has been a life saver. I am still shocked to hear that people spend 5 hours washing their natural hair. Black Gurl Curls has taught me that that's not normal. Your experience with natural hair is what I would call "old-school" approach to natural hair. Today, there are experts/hair stylists that are certified that make natural hair the easy way. I spend about an hour an half to wash, style, and dry my hair. I do this every 5 days or so and my hair has been loving it. I am curious to know your thoughts on Black Girl Curls compared to what you knew about natural hair. (For example, thinking that braids are a protective style and that having our hair out is "damaging" in a way)

Can I ask you what is the lipstick you are wearing? Looks amazing

People can do what they want with their hair, but let’s not say black hair is hard to maintain or hard to deal with.

Hi which product do you use for yihr relaxed hair.. To relax, mosturis and all.

Hey girl. I’m a new subscriber and love your content!! I’m literally booking a relax soon! I don’t know if Iv missed it - but pls advise on what edge control you use on your relaxed hair. GOALS!!

Omg I have super thick dense 4c hair and I think it's super fun to take care of it. Like 80% of people ik chop off after relaxing. It's not hard to take care of our hair😒. We are that way we have to deal with it and embrace it. Relaxing is not bad but u made kinky hair look evil.

I’m convinced ☺️☺️☺️!

Can you also please recommend hair relaxers for me to use ? I have very sensitive scalp like you and also low porosity hair. Xx

I absolutely agree with you. Loving my relaxed hair so much.

Hi, do you mind sharing what relaxer you used?

Just discovered your channel, and im super impressed, you have such great 'chomie' energy...would love to see a sleep time routine tutorial from you

Thank you so much for your knowledge and research into caring for relaxed hair. I also like the idea of the 30 min hair wash day. 🙏🏾😂xx

I find natural Wash-and-Gos easy and practical. However, straight styles definitely are a job, but they look better on natural hair than relaxed hair.

Been going back and forth for about a month woke up this morning natural going to bed relaxed. Natural six years lots of pros and cons for both. Will miss being natural but I’m going to love being relaxed.

My hair is just a disaster, it has changed a lot due to hormonal issues ,stress and me having lack on vitamins ..so it really changed.. the texture the length.. It's now at the length of my ears.. can u imagine.. and not all of it.. it's not at the same length, beside the scalp issues like dandruffs.. Beside the depression that stopped my whole life.. Am thinking of relaxing it.. but ppl keep saying that am gonna lose what I already have.. Shall I try to fix it before relaxing.. or shall I relax it and maintain a strict routine .. It's just so difficult to see how my hair become like this..this really heart my soul..especially that I used to have a beautiful soft and tall hair.. now ppl keep pointing out that, every time they see me. And this really heart me so much and add to my depression..idk why I wrote all of this.. maybe becuz I wanted to say anything to ppl who won't judge me all know me so I'll feel a little bit of relief ..

But what happens when the inevitable damages too far up and you have to go natural if you wanna get the length back

I agree with Domiiniique, do what you want with your hair, it’s yours. Personally I have been natural for 14 years, but I do t think too much about my hair, I do think about cutting it all off and starting fresh 🤔. I also agree with you on the products! Currently I’m using all in house products once they are finished then I’ll be ready to try more.

What do you use for the growth of your hair?

My natural hair is definitely more stressful, it's stressful for my girls too. It's just so much work. They fall asleep when Im detangling their hair and it's painful. They hate me having to work on their hair for hours and hours every week. There's more to life than hair. I don't want to spend such a huge chunk of my life fussing over our hair.

You have beautiful hair tshego.. Am tempted to relax my natural hair

I love relaxed hair. My hair is healthy and I’m just in love. Slickitypoo!😂

I’ve went natural for years and it was good experience and I’m definitely not as sacred of regrowth or texture anymore butttt I did go back to a relaxer because I just don’t have the energy anymore because of life

I just relaxed my hair3 days ago, but had been natural for 9 years. I never had a problem with my natural hair until I colored it and my ends were a different texture from my roots. But I always did what I wanted to my natural hair. If I wanted to straighten it I did, if I wanted to put it in a messy bun I did, if I wanted to wear it out I did. I think what makes natural hair so difficult for many is they limit themselves to certain hair styles and stick to rigid hair regimens. Maybe we need to stop making natural hair so complicated and just enjoy it. 🤷🏿‍♀️

I am tempted to but hold off relaxing because of my love-hate relationship with shrinkage. I love how it makes my hair look denser than it is but hate how it makes it look shorter than it is! I do wonder if I would be better at maintaining relaxed hair thanks to the knowledge gained from the natural hair community.

I love your lipstick!! What’s the brand and color of you don’t mind me asking

I’ve been natural for a decade this year. And this time next year I’m relaxing. Speaking into existence I’ll be at waist length again. My journey has been rough I big chopped twice, I struggle combing my thick voluminous hair, and frankly wash day is a chore. Though it’s beautiful it’s healthy thick beautiful relaxed too! My super thick hair will always be here so why am I hiding behind wigs 365 for ten years in a row? No ma’am I stayed loyal and strong long enough. Im wearing wigs and clip ins for one more year and bye-bye to the natural hair life.

Happy Saturday my fave⚘⚘

Love your hair! ❤ Some black women hope that no black woman will relax their hair ever....I think and hope relaxers will *NEVER* go away, despite I'm being natural myself for 24 years 😄

You’re so beautiful. It’s my first time here and wow. ❤ I don’t have hair but I loved the vid!

I love point one, the cutting my hair has given me so much convenience. I also don’t see myself growing long natural hair for a long time cs I just can’t stand hair now. Relaxing for my scalp wouldn’t work for long term because it’s sensitive and I hated the burning when I used to relax my hair. Your hair is beautiful 😍 I wish my hair would look like that when relaxed but ayiii akwenzeki 😂😂😂

There is a middle ground. I TexLax my hair and I love it. I love texture, but my natural hair was too difficult to maintain. So I texlax. That way I am in no danger of over processing my hair. Texlaxing makes my hair more manageable. I still focus on the health and the growth of my hair. I am not into experimenting with hair styles. I just keep my hair in a protective bun. However, now I have discovered drawstring ponytails. I love them because I protect my own bun under the ponytail and it actually protect my own hair better.

Tshego Makoe Some people use texturizer treatment on their hair. I personally use instant straightener I used a Chinese foam straightener which was really convenient cause it’s not a relaxer, perm or texturizer so I was able to use it on bleach hair cause it was plant based. I left it as is with of course conditioner, scalp oil and curl creme. You can also use a German ver called Glatt which you want to use a perm deodorizer and /or keep your windows open because it’s sulfur based but it keeps the hair laid without having to straighten it after. Brazilian Keratin blowout kits are a bit time consuming but the results last a whole month and help keep the natural hair stretched.

Thanks for sharing cc 😊❤

I stopped relaxing my hair because my hair was weak and whenever I would get braids they would eat my hairline. I’ve been natural since 2019 and I am struggling so much with my hair. I have high porosity hair and I struggle with finding good products to keep it moisturised for a long time. I deep condition shampoo pre-poo and the whole lot but my hair will just not retain the moisture. I heavily moisturise my hair but after a day my hair is dry again 😩. I don’t really want to relax my hair again because relaxed hair doesn’t really suit me.

Girl I needed this. I was always relaxed then I let the needy naturalistas convince to try natural. I've hated the whole journey. So much breakage. I dread wash days. I put them off and end up with dry and damaged hair. I needed this to slap me back in to reality. "Click " subscribe *maybe no on the eating though... 🤷🏿‍♀️

The video starts at 3:00.

What color lipstick is that?

I relax my hair after every 2months because it goes back to natural hair 😪, your hair is so healthy and beautiful

I LOVE this video. I don't have hair that takes to relaxer well. It stays curly, gets frizzy and NEVER dries lol. But it is a bit easier to maintain SOME hairstyles, esp if you like your hair down. I like my hair up (plus I work in a lab where it needs to be up away from my face) -so natual hair works for me but please do you! Everyone should respect ppls choices in their OWN damn hair . xo :)

Love your energy! ❤️

Hi , What color and brand lip are you wearing. Love it !

You do you love, all the best. My thing with alot of these people promoting natural hair products. It's not so much as the product itself but the routine. I myself like to use one line so I don't have to think about it now. A lot of women think that they have to find one perfect shampoo, then this perfect conditioner etc. If there isn't any significant damage to the hair, I think it doesn't have to take hours to do natural hair or much of a hassel. That being said, when I was perming my hair, over the years my scalp got badly damaged. I went natural to fix that damage, but it didn't work for me. I will be going to a dermatologist, but I am also going back to simple hair care. Hopefully my issues are fixed, but I digress. If you like your hair perm, rock it girl!