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Journaling, reading, doing my yoga stretches. Also, focusing on the little things help a lot. For example, this year I've taken more time to enjoy the beautiful autumn. The leaves, nature walks. Always makes me feel so much better and more grounded l🍁🙏🏻
I practice writing out 5 things I’m thankful for this particular day. With COVID taking away so many lives around I came to realize that life is too short. Every moment has to be enjoyed. I have goals that I move towards, but this day has to be the most happy day, just because it’s part of my journey. The practice mentioned earlier helped me pause and see many awesome people and beautiful things around me. I’m actually a really happy person and really know how to enjoy little everyday life moments!:)
Being poor for most of my life, especially during childhood, I can honestly tell you that having enough money that you don’t need to stress out to pay the electricity bill or buy food is absolutely the difference between sadness and happiness.
i think you're saying this because you're sorry for yourself- victim mentality. believe me, you have a wrong perception. I've been there, done that. please, if you want to change your life do something you love, what's your passion and give it to people. it'll change everything. blessings to you🙌🏻💝
In Brazil we have a saying: “money doesn’t buy happiness but allows you to be sad in Paris”. Just something I always thought it was funny, but you are right: that is nothing without health and love.
I remember seeing Jim Carrey say “Everybody should get rich and famous so they can see that it's not the answer.” It stuck with me. So important to work on getting to know yourself. I'm sure we've all experienced that moment where we think once I get X y z I'm going to feel happy and fulfilled. However, very often that's not the case.
@@duedate2811 very true.. But I also think that once you reach a certain level of wealth, it doesn't add to your level of happiness. And as the time goes by you very soon realise that the most valuable things in life can't be bought. Trust, true love, care, honesty, ability to notice the little things in life 💕
Anna, I partnered up with a so-called wealthy man for ten years; he was a user. I let him use my knowledge experience and worked five years side by side in the hospitality business; he promised after five years, we would split the profits. He kept ignoring my request to get that in a written contract. I had all the red flags staring me in the face, which I ignored. There's more to my story; I won't go into now. But ladies, please don't go into business with anyone without a written contract. At first, I felt ashamed, but I'm a firm believer what goes around comes around. Thank you for your honesty, Anna. A woman like yourself is scarce. 💞
I've experienced this in my work. I've worked for some of the wealthiest people in the world for over 25 years and honestly I've seen so much misery, trauma, boredom, abuse and addiction. Everyone thinks they would be diferent if they had money but the truth it, you just need enough and you need to be able to know when enough really is enough. Gratitude and a passion for something that is meaningful or a hobby that isn't shopping is what makes people happy. And enough money to care for our health and some spare time to pursue our interests. 'I have enough' is something I've learnt to focus on.
About secret 1#: I guess money doesn't equal happiness, but it makes "shortcuts", helps solving problems easier and is a main tool to achieve goals. Some examples like private healthcare, more transportation options, being able to get better education on variety of subjects, being able to invest more in hobbies, worrying less about retierment time, being able to pay for external work such as a weekly house cleaner so you can have extra time for yourself... I mean, in my country at least there are professions that you can't actually work at them and thrive without enough financial support from others or yourself such as arts, some healthcare professions(!) or most of sports. So money is not a direct happiness provider, but when you don't have enough you have much more things that would make you more anxious or regretfull.
I understand what you say, but these are problems that money can solve, it can't solve everything tho. Having money is much better than not having it, but some people are just so rotten inside that no matter how much money they have they will always feel like they don't have enough to be happy. That's how I see, money is a problem solver, not happiness itself.
Also money gives you chance to help others, relatives, and be happy out of making others happy. IMO if you do not know how to be happy, money do not really play role how you feel.
I used to work for a cleaning company and the biggest thing I noticed was when I dealt with someone wealthy they never tipped, when I dealt with someone lower income they never tipped and when I dealt with someone mid range they almost always tipped especially if they worked at a job that receives tips as well!
You don't have to be a millionaire, but having a small nest egg and being able to see something you like, a coat, a small trip away etc and think, 'I can afford to buy that' goes a long way when I think back to the days where we could not even use too much milk as we could not afford to buy any the next day. Security for me is more important than being rich.
So true for so many....like selling their soul to the devil, a Faustian bargain. Anyone can make a mistake and choose unwisely, but what keeps them there is the money esp if they signed a prenup...Sybil Francis PhD clinical psychologist
As a daughter of a Narcissist, I can tell yo this: socipaths and narcissist gravitate towards this circles, so there is a lot of trauma and pain amongst them.
Money does not guarantee health and love, but being poor or average is an even bigger obstacle to those things. In the USA, proper health maintenance is unaffordable to most- you have to be at least upper middle class to have everything you need for optimal health (regular doctor appointments, therapy, gym memberships, nutritious fresh food, the time and space to de-stress). Same thing with love- couples experiencing financial stress are far more likely to divorce. Families without financial means have to work long shifts away from their kids and never see friends. Money doesn’t guarantee those things but it does increase your chances of having them by a lot
Financial stress does not always mean there isn't enough income. If one partner has a gambling problem and hogs all the resources that can cause a lot of financial stress. If one partner earns enough or both partners earn enough but one person is taking all financial decisions and not including the other partner in financial decisions even that causes a lot of financial stress. Many women are expected to unconditionally surrender their income to their husband and treated as work mules.
Not a true statement. I am far from being upper class, I’m considered low middle class, and I have great health insurance, access to therapy through my job, and good food and gym membership. And I’m not alone. In the grand scheme of things, less than 50 million people in this country don’t have access to insurance, and while that’s one too many, it’s not even 1/3 of the US population. To say that you have to be upper class to have those things is just simply not true. It’s only true for a small percentage of people in a country that has about 330,000,000 people. It’s about 15% of the general population, and again, it shouldn’t be that way in the first place for anyone, but stats tell a different story.
I really like how you talk about "difficult topics" in a very diplomatic and lady like way. you should do a video about this too! it's so rare these days and I really enjoy listening to your opinions and advice. Thank you for your content, showing us how we could elevate ourselves. I think you have a good type of humor too.
I don't have a boyfriend, and I am not looking for one. But having elegance, grace and wisdom is my new goal. Not because I want to attract a man, but to be a better me.
My dad told me ones you don’t need to be rich to have class always treat every person around you with kindness and respect we are not worth less or more than any human being god made us all equal :)
Respecting others is good and we are equal in accord to law..other than than we all are in our own..so make sure you develop some appreciation for money since is the fuel to survival..and it makes a difference to have options and choices in our lives...it does it even for people who have no class or intelligence.
I'm agree..I know some rich people from my family who don't have manners and they are arrogant just because they have more money and cars then others. Money are coming and going, but their bad mannered character remain.
My guy learned something from his wealthy Godmother back in the day that he taught to me. "It's not what you make, it's what your bills are." Buy quality and live below your means. Minimize your debts as much as possible. (That last part was mine.) 😁
I love how balanced you are in this video! Affluent or not it's all about surrounding yourself with quality people who help you be the best version of yourself! Spirituality is such a key component to feeling peace too!
Socioeconomic background does not matter when it comes to character. There are unsavory, selfish, narcissistic, abusive, etc. people across each and every spectrum of existence. The key is achieving independence, discernment and taking your time.
I agree with you Ana! I only have high quality people in my life now. They all might not be wealthy, however, they are super supportive of me doing things in my life that make me happy, help me level up and become a better version of myself and they never make me feel bad for doing it either. Thats what I look for in a husband, high quality mindset who lives in his beautiful madculine purpose 🥰 Thank you for this video! X
I love Marie Kondo~ her book and the Japanese way of buying less is something that really resonated with me :) I don’t want to be rich if it means I only buy things I don’t appreciate. The dopamine always wears off, but I find myself still admiring and loving things I have that I really put thought into and I’m grateful for in my life. I think Anna also thinks this way, which is a big reason I watch her :) After watching this video it’s absolutely confirmed it.
That is exactly right ,if you don’t have your health you don’t have anything. I just had my 5 th spine surgery so I know that all I want is a pain free day ! Money helps to help you have comfort and it is really nice not have to worry about bills , but I am always recovering from pain.
A man I dated who is wealthy admitted to being a psycho, etc etc and told about several disturbing things he has done for “jobs”. He also used his money to manipulate others into believing he is kind and confident, yet he is wildly insecure and scary dangerous.
It's amazing how I've witnessed your own personal growth in this channel. It's great to see you talking about these topics because ultimately the goal for anybody looking for affluence is to get happiness and stability.
The number one most valuable thing we have as humans is our ability to have a relationship with God. You are right though, health and love is so vital. I have been poor and affluent and all in-between, love, attention and health have made the seasons ☀️ or 🌧
Believing in God makes all the difference. When you have no money.. Believing in God helps because we know he will take care of us.. We just have to do our best. Having all the money in the world and not believing in God must be so scary. When someone has money and can get everything but still feels this emptiness.. It's even scarier with money than without.. Because ppl who have no money can always hope.. "if I had money I could..xy and be happy".. People with money csn do so many things and know.. That's not enough
About 23 years ago, I went to this seminar where a very wealthy man was speaking. He was describing that one day he was looking at his marble floors and marble walls of his mansion and he was feeling so empty and lost, he had it all, multiple cars, a wife, children, everything that money could buy but he couldn't be more empty and lost. This is why we must cultivate our mind and heart first ladies and be fulfilled within ourselves, because when we do this, we'll attract a man who has done the same.
This is so true. Due to the environment I lived in, I ended up going out with men (boys lol) who were way wealthier than myself. It caused a lot of discomfort on both sides, and once it was even the reason we broke up. My current partner apparently noticed my dislike for wealth (beyond my own) and pretended to be from a modest family. It was only once we had been together for many months that I slowly started to find inconsistencies and he admitted it. Safe to say, it really isn't the wealth (or lack thereof!) but about a person who is willing understand me and do sth like this for me.
Right? I think her hair color is a cooler blonde color! I definitely listened to and loved the honest information in this video but definitely noticed her hair too
Thank you Anna for revealing the other side of the coin. My biggest take from this is to Stay true to thyself and be responsible for your own happiness.
Work hard (studying/working) and build yourself a good job/business and you would get security and peace of mind, but always remember to enjoy your hard work in the best way.
Health is the most important of course and the last point is absolutely true! I also had to found out that when having not much to spend on, things become way more value because they are no certainty.
Money certainly doesn’t buy happiness but without it life is bladdy miserable!!!!! A little money helps to lighten the load. Agreed, health and love first but just a comfortable amount of money helps put a smile on everyone’s face.
Perhaps it's easy to equate money with happiness, because money worries creates anxiety and unhappiness. Money security lessens the anxiety and unhappiness, but on its own Doesn't Create Happiness. Minimal anxiety and worry, and nurturing your soul is what creates happiness.
It’s true that many rich men have serious faults. However, women who are attracted to these types of men, may lack an awareness of the vulnerabilities that caused them to overlook these faults. ☕️
I choose my friends and close ones based on their core values which lets me know how long a relationship will last with them. But first, you’ve to know your own values.
Always great content, especially in touching on the part about wealth being essentially meaningless if one is mentally or spiritually unbalanced. The difference is that the wealthy person likely has the time and resources to seek help in whichever way they choose (therapy, rehab, retreats, etc.) while someone without means or a support system typically has to fend for themselves.
I have been watching and observing your videos a lot, but I must say honestly..I see your videos this year filled with beautiful wisdom! A true elegance lady, the higher the class is, the more wisdom they have!. You inspire me a lot big sis 👍 One more thing to add, love does not always come from external factors. We will stop chasing external love when we love ourselves. 👍
Thanks you for this video. I used to chase material things but then I became a born again Christian. I still enjoy my luxury moments but appreciate simple things at the same time.
In my opinion, Treating like a queen 👸🏻 only happens in dating phase of life. Love bombing. After that, the man changes into a narcissist. So I feel, best to rely on ourselves. Never leave your job ( which gives you your ‘own ‘ money ) irrespective of how wealthy your partner/ husband is. This way, incase you want to leave then you are not penniless and you are not living with a jerk only because you can’t afford anywhere else to go! Also have a life of your own- socialise with like minded friends/ talk to people/ keep busy with a project of your own. Never let your life revolve around the man. This will keep your core value of happiness in your own control and nobody else will ever have power over you or can manipulate you in anyway.
I wasn't going to comment but I love your dark red nails with that powder blue dress. The combination is absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for all your good work.
Rich people have rich people's problems trust me ...lawsuits; betrayals; jalousy ....how Can you sleep at night when you have 12 lawsuits ? Or there is a strike in your Factory and your losing money or your biggest client found a breach in your contrat and wont pay you millions ; or you have tax people against you ...ihave met rich people my entire life they are either stressed or addicted or lonely
WELL my perspective is somewhat skewed hav ing treated hundreds of wealthy people in my career for a myriad of problems...of course the healthy happy ones dont need psychologists...Sybil Francis PhD
Anna, your messages are well received this morning. Thank you! Balance of mental status is a must for ourselves and our partner's, in all realms and areas of our life. Additionally, your look today is very fresh, healthy, and as inspiring as your message.
If you're not wealthy doesn't mean you have love, either. I've been on both ends of the wealth spectrum, and rich is better; generally, the richer you are, the healthier you are.
Thank you for this video Anna. I am a mental health therapist and work with people from all walks of life. I couldn't agree more, that spiritual connection, staying in the present moment, and doing what you can with what you have (I would also argue gratitude can be quite helpful), is the way to find that inner peace and happiness. Money can help people acquire resources but without these insights of what's actually important in life, many people find themselves lost and searching for other things to fill that void. Really important video!
Health is very important, but I love what you said about the importance of being fully present and mindset. Spirituality is so important for me and keeps me grounded. Love these! Thanks 💗
This video is spot on. You touched on so many key topics. We cannot find love and balance in others without first finding love, joy, and balance within ourselves.
Anna I can honestly say you saved lives with this one, and it is not the first time either.... the BAD APPLES...... GOLDEN CAGES.... BAD CHARACTER TRAITS..... CRIMINAL AFFLUENT MEN..... More absolutely sterling content for those who want to pay attention to their lives long term and short term.
I agree wth you Anna; I feel that one does not live with the money, one lives with the man and it's important to have the same hobbies and politics and so forth. Also, no abusive guy is worth any amount of money and, yes, some rich men are simply crooks!
Wealth comes with nightmarish responsibility. Your time will never be your own, neither will your home... your houses. Shopping and self maintenance will become boring chores. With wealth comes the loss of carefree days that used to nourish your spirit...And constant daydreams of escaping the rat race.. and laying in the grass in 2nd hand clothes, eating a take out burger and joining a drum circle
I came across Bey’s channel by chance. I find her to be absolutely lovely and right on point always. I also appreciate that she’s honest about having gone for some cosmetic work herself and having learned her beautiful manners later in life. Refreshing.
So true anna about #4. Not all wealthy are having the time of their loves during expensive vacations. Most of them family members fight a lot during vacations which others think of as ideal but actually not.
I've been watching your videos for years and I think this is your best. Excellent down to earth information. I'd add for #2 - that a lot of rich men, by default are going to have personality defects. To spend that time and be that competitive isn't "normal" so a lot of rich men have a higher percentage of different psychological pathologies. #3 Hanging out with other wealthy people won't ground you in the way that hanging out with your pre-affluent "normal" friend group will. The normal friend group will be happy having a BBQ where you bring some salad compared to the affluent crowd who will want to rent a yacht and go jet boating. You'll be spending a lot of money with the affluent crowd. #5 Ties it all in. I knew someone who spent six figures over a weekend and was the most miserable person ever. Nothing truly made that person happy. They had deep personality issues (see #2) and hung out with the wrong crowd (see #3) that they felt they had to spend excessive amounts of money to outdo the rest of the crowd. Incredibly toxic environment and not something you should be around unless you sincerely only want to live in a beautiful and ornate golden cage.
Great video, Anna! A little closer to our hearts! I love your teachings from the other videos and learned a lot from them, but this one hit differently. Thank you! Hope to see more like this video in the future! Wish you all the best! Sabina
I believe money is not the end goal but definitely an upgrade from a place of poverty. I've also learned from some rich people, that if you spend too much time investing in material wealth, you could feel trapped with those things. So imo, don't think wealth is the biggest thing you can achieve. It's just a tool only to be used to improve psychological and physical health
The first thing mentioned is the most important, from my own experience I can tell you how empty I feel right now that I have many of the things that in the past I just could dream to have. I'm trying with therapy and is starting to help. Money can't buy you the love of other people, and most importantly, it can't buy you self love, respect and self steem. You most cultivate those things in your life since the very beginning so you can enjoy the future abundance coming, otherwise is just empty...
Best wishes to you! I remember the thrill I got walking through the grocery store and knowing I could buy whatever I wanted at the grocery store :). After a while you just quit wanting to buy things.
A girl in my town, was dating a very affluent, popular man (the owner of several „it“ restaurants and Bars). She was envied by her friends for the gifts and lavish vacations. Turned out he brutally murdered his female business partner with a knife, had several romantic affairs, was generally violent and had a drug problem. Our local lifestyle magazines even reported on the beautiful, glamorous dream couple…
I went to an "affluent" school, where most kids had "wealthy" (politicians, CEOs, landowners) parents... and the horrors I listened as a child and teen of seemingly "good" men of our community, from their own kids, made me literally ran away from there when I turned 18.
In nursing school we learn Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, which states what needs must be met by priority to be happy. This starts with health and safety just like you say. Poor health very much overshadows a person’s happiness. The saddest part for me was to realize that, as humans, we do not have absolute control over our health like society likes to assume. You can ‘do everything right’ and still become sick/unhealthy.
Dave Hunt talked about how Maslow basically inverted what Christ said, which was that first we need to seek the kingdom of God and his righteousness and then our needs will be provided.
I know a millionair who lost his wife and 9nly child in a car crash in their luxury car. Not only he is grieving them but his misery is multiplied by blaming himself for driving them in a convertible sport car on holidays in Italy. His mental and physical health is in decline, he's miserable and al the money in the world won't bring his loved ones back. 😢 it's truly heart breaking. The only thing his money is buying him these days is grief counseling sessions. So yeah money is nothing compared to our health and the health of our loved ones
I agree with everything you say Anna. I have so many clothes and purses that I felt “isnt stylish” anymore. I had big busts my entire teenage and adult years that I had to get surgery to make them smaller. I treated myself to new shoes, lingerie and dresses but I decided to make the best out of my old clothes and enjoy them because I can fit in them. It brought me happiness ❤
I think having money, good health makes you happy. You don't have to have billions but having 1 million and live on the interests does help to be happy. Coz you can afford to travel and enjoy life.
I remember being obsessed with becoming rich. I knew a rich girl and getting to know her I would say hmm rich people aren't necessarily nice people. They are quite snobbish and really regard good looks and money as being very important in their circle :) she wanted to marry a rich man and ended up with a guy who wasn't rich. But good for her -love is more important and money can come along later x
@@cheery-hex No, but I know they're not very nice people. I used to work in a building full of entrepreneurs (it was start up companies and some of the men/ladies had good money) and they regard good looks and youth as important (I was in early 20s) and I know they werent nice people deep down. I would prefer to be poor and humble and a good person than being super rich. Try it yourself go to designer shops mix with them and you will find theyre not nice.
I think love comes before health. I know so many people with impaired or sick loved ones who yet appreciate every second with each other. Being unhealthy is not an obstacle to love. On my wedding day, my husband and I promised to love each other through health and sickness - and I truly believe that through love, we can handle all these challenges. Even if one of us - or one of our children - gets sick, we'll have each other and all the effort that comes with it will be worth it. We can't promise each other to stay healthy and independent until the end of our lives, but we can promise to commit to each other in acts of self-giving love. I think, this is the greatest gift.
I absolutely agree with your points! Having met different types of men with money, I can attest that there are scumbags, criminals and down right scheme making, weasels out there that we need to be extremely vigilant to stay away from. If caught in their world, it could just create a world of undeserved misery and stress for us. I also agree that there are nice, balanced ones who are generous and will care for you like the queen you are :)
This was an excellent video, Anna. Wisdom that’s much needed in the level up/femininity/hypergamous community. Very insightful and this gives a reality check!!!
I think this episode is one of THE MOST IMPORTANT messages you have ever imparted on your audience. It made me like and respect your channel even more! You shared WISDOM dear. ❤️
