One of my favourite quotes is "My solitude doesn't depend on the presence or absence of people; on the contrary, I hate who steals my solitude without, in exchange, offering me true company"-Friedrich Nietzsche
Being a lone wolf gives me time, space and freedom to do what I like and want. Yes, sometimes it's hard to not be part of a group and be left out, but I rather be free and true to myself than 'selling out'.
@@Shaolin91z Some groups of people want you to be like them to be accepted, it's like the toxic relations that they mention in the video, and if you have to change to be accepted, it kinda is a sell out
There is a sticker at my workplace that perfectly sums up me, and what you said about the lone wolf personality. “ I’m not antisocial, I’m selectively social”
i’ve been called an anti social once when i was in college at that time i don’t really know how to respond 😂 i have friends to talk when i have to, yes i feel comfy with myself not talking too much and i got called anti social by this guy haha (my classmate) but that doesn't mean i don't want a friend, talking is great :D (english hard lul)
@@kenzeeatomaybe he was just salty that you didn't like him. Like women think guys won't faq them must be gay. Naw we are just clean raised around aids scare days. Preferably die alone an without any sluts virus infection. Lil lone the worst std baby's to a child that's 30yrs old! I'll keep my money an all not just half my stuff.
Solitude is bliss, I am so happy being alone ❤ Nothing beats a nice book on a cozy couch, observing and criticizing my behavior and doing my best to be a better person.
That sounds like true peace! Solitude really can be such a gift, offering space to reflect, grow, and enjoy the simple pleasures like a good book on a cozy couch. It’s beautiful that you’re using that time to work on becoming the best version of yourself. There's something powerful about finding happiness in your own company. ❤
૮ ˶ᵔ ᵕ ᵔ˶ ა TABS! 1. You Prefer Independent Solitude 0:42 2. You're Introspective and Aware 1:23 3. You Think Outside the Box 2:06 4. You're a Good Observant Listener 2:53 5. You Value Quality Over Quantity 3:36
I wasn't always a lone wolf and wanted to fit in. As time went on I only got disappointments from others so I began keeping to myself more and more. It was the only way I could process the pain I felt from being unwanted or otherwise seemingly unwelcome by others without doing something I'd regret for the rest of my life. Its certainly helped me avoid further pain by accepting that I'm a lone wolf and doing things that add value and improvement in my life. At least I don't have distractions and have to hear the opinions of others.
I’m definitely an lonely wolf and yes. I do self analysis both good and negative. Try to improve on both sides. Don’t care about making friends at all. I choose to isolate myself when I need quality recovery. I don’t like anything to disrupt my recovery time.
@@Psych2go hmm, very good question. right now, I’m no 100% sure of isolator since I have two most precious people in the world living with me. That’s my parents. Surprisingly, I do need isolate myself even with my precious people due to self recovery. it’s like self Mediation. I was also surprised how much I can’t function without self isolation even with my parents. When I choose to isolate myself, I even ask my parents I need some time alone. Not from depression or etc but to self reflect, self charging as well as self management. Like catching with my self hobbies. Reading or doing something to relax since I can’t focus on myself when I’m too busy worrying about other things. I’m that kind of person who worries about future generations, future educations etc. especially now. I don’t feel lonely yet. But I choose myself to be isolated from chaos. I have strong emotions like empathy or sympathy sometimes it’s too much, I have cover my ears from all the chaos. I also very sensitive to psychology perspective changes where it gets so real, I have hard time coming out. But the comment on the first one saying “ don’t care about making friends at all.” This is 100% truth. Even my psychiatrist really rubbed me the wrong way saying “ how are you going to live alone without your parents? When you don’t make any friends. ” That’s when that person draw the line. I’m very self independent when it comes to these types of things. Too self independent that it took me years to open to my parents about how I truly feel.
I wasn't always a lone wolf, but being a natural outcast made me more self-isolating and quiet. And I'm okay with that. This video perfectly describes me. For the longest time, I wasn't okay with who I am, but through therapy, I've started to come to realize that being a lone wolf is actually pretty cool.
@@Well...Whatever lol, my id has been my id since the day my RU-vid channel was created(13 years ago). As much as it would make sense, I kinda have a strange fondness for the cringe.
I am lone wolf. First, I like to go cinema alone, I don't have to care whether others like the movie I watch or understand the movie I watch. Second, I often go shopping alone, I don't have to care people rushing me or my plan get into their way. Third, I have tendency of impulsive behavior, I can suddenly go for drinks/dine/sports without the need to ask for friend to join me.
I'm actually a lone wolf, I could do everything on my own, no need for others. I think the others just help me do things faster than I could. I find myself in every statement you made. Great vid!
@@janellegiromus5972 If you want to be like me, try to practise being alone and doing stuff you like. This could be being alone and listening to your favourite music. Or maybe something on your personal taste. When you're alone only 2 things are important when you are trying to be a lone wolf. 1st thing is that you shouldn't feel "lonely" and 2nd You must be enjoying the activity. If you feel lonely then try to get comftrable, it was hard for me at the start and I think it's going to be the same for you. While if you aren't enjoying the activity you're doing, you're back to square one. You wouldn't be doing anything except doing something you hate alone. Feels bad, right? Anyways, thoose are my tips on how to get started
It's me... People labeled me many ways (antisocial, loner, weird, psycho, silent creep and so on). I stopped caring about that at some point and went my own way. Thank you for reassuring me there's nothing wrong with being a lonewolf
The term 'Asocial' applies better to me than introvert or even lone wolf, but it is very much what this video seems to describe. A as in apathetic or sometimes absent, meaning an Asocial person can tolerate social things but has little to no desire for them. Asocial people just don't feel much draw for social contact, and can be very particular about how they do interact with others.
Our whole family are lone wolves. My husband and I have always been and our three kids are too. We have our few friends and a couple of close friends. We always want to be with each other, but not always with everyone else in our families. The school our kids go to tried to tell me our two youngest (at different times) weren't playing with anyone at recess very much and that it wasn't normal. Now that I have seen this video, if they ever try to tell me it's not normal again, I will tell them it certainly is and find sources from my own coursework (I'm finishing my Bachelor's degree in Psychology with a Concentration in Child and Adolescence). We don't like being the center of attention at all and hate it when our kids grandparents or aunts and uncles won't respect that which just one reason we don't see them if we don't have to.
Describes me very well. I always knew I was more of an introvert than an extrovert, but the older I become, the more I feel like the term 'Lone Wolf' fits my personality best. I can be social if I want, but I don't need social interaction to be happy or to enjoy my time, and I definitely don't need all the drama people cause nowadays. Thank you very much for this video!
I work with the public, and I've always been told I have an outgoing personality, and I find it easy to strike up conversations with anyone. However, in my personal time, I find solitude backpacking the wilderness. Sometimes, being away from people and things helps me to truly focus on what is really important. I've been critiqued for not having a lot of friends, but I find friendships with like-minded people.
Me my whole life. I’m a social enough guy when I want to be but when I don’t it always throws people through a loop. Parents never really understood that so that led to a lot of issues on their end. Always have, and always will be a Lonewolf and I’m proud of it!
same, since i was 15 my mother wanted me to go out with friends just like she did at my age. When i told her No, i dont want to, she sarted assuming it was because of videogames. Now i am 17 and they kinda give up finally. So good luck with your parents people. :)
@@fusionstrike8118 Yes it is, lmao. No one around to break my heart or stab me in the back or throw a loop over nothing. Most people are disappointing. I am safe and at peace alone, unlike them.
"We live in a world where people love to talk about themsleves" that is certaintly true. I've tried to make friends with people, but they usually just spill their lifestory and go, yet I don't feel any closer or personal afterwards.
It's exhausting, isn't it? A former roommate of mine never misses an opportunity to latch onto something you say, interrupt you mid sentence and make it all about her. The only times I ever got full sentences out was when she fell asleep in her recliner.
@@Dargonhuman yep, aside from trying to meet new people and they dump all their info on you like there's a test tomorrow. Then I had a talk with someome about my problems, right away they misunderstood what I was trying to say and started a 20 minute monologe about it. Clearly projecting what they were going through instead
my tactic in those moment is to mirror them and talk about myself (not that it was more interesting) - usually shuts them up and makes them leave and go find another victim
Welllll, I like more personal talks. I actually really don't need an audience. Like 1 on 1s. Not crowds. Ppl make me feel claustrophobic. Maybe that's my extra. Or possibly PTSD. But I must just not like ppl in my space that much. Especially when I know they don't hafta b. Or it is bc they're slow
I am certainly one. I tried doing the dating thing, because that's what you are "supposed" to do. I broke off every relationship. I don't dislike them, I just like me more. I prefer close friends over live-in relationships.
Timestamps~ 0:43- 1. you prefer independent solitude 1:23- 2. you're introspective and aware 2:07- 3. you think outside the box 2:53- 4. you're a good, observant listener 3:36- 5. you value quality over quantity Hope this helps! btw my fav animal is a 🐺too ^.^
The older I get, the more annoyed I become at others assuming I'm a lonely guy. I value my small social circle a lot, but sometimes it drives me up a wall when they think my solitude isn't a choice, or that I need help 'putting myself out there.' I haven't dated since highschool, almost a decade ago, and my friends and family are getting increasingly concerned that I'm repressed or something. It's a conscious decision I've made to wait as I get my own life and priorities in order, and I'm not in any rush lol. I don't feel lonely at all, and If I did I would be looking for somebody already 😅
@@BrENna215 yeah, I assume I’m going to meet many people who say that to me down the line of my life. I hope that someday everyone will be able to think outside the box
I’m similar too (: I’ve had several times where I dormed in college, and sharing a room with others always affected me negatively. I’ve never initiated hang outs with others either, but I always try to give quality time when we do see each other and try other ways to show I care. Being social kind of shuts my brain off, and I really enjoy being around my mind - ends up with me feeling disingenuous if I were to initiate doing things when I seem to always prefer doing something else. (This will probably be a problem once I grow lonely, old and feeble though…)
I thought I was a solid introvert, but I feel I can be a bit social when I need to. This topic is much more relatable. Thank you for the video and explanation, as always! 🙏🐺
I have the same thing, I'll be social when I want to be or need to be. It sometimes feels like not many people think this way, but there could be way more people than I think.
43 years old, and I have only just learnt about this personality after the separation of a very long marriage. For so long I thought I was an introvert, but so much of a lone wolf personality makes sense to me. It's amazing that even at this age I am still learning so much about myself. Thank you Psi.
We're in the same age group. I've always identified with the phrase "Lone Wolf", but never fully realized that it was actually a thing. I've always had a thing for actual wolves, too. Not sure if the two are related, subconsciously. The thing about minimal friends is particularly applicable to me. My friends are small in number, but I know that I can count on them, and they know the same of me. At any rate, it's cool to see Lone Wolf-ism recognized, even if I didn't need to see it.
Even at This age? Hah! Hey there's a lot of kids on the internet and they THINK 30+ is "too old" or "too late" but NO! you are Still young and we are all still learning, we never stop learning
This rings true with me. I have a small circle of good friends, I don't experience loneliness or boredom, and I prefer to be alone most of the time. I'm not sure I'm that good of a listener, but maybe I am and didn't realize it. That would explain why people keep coming to me to talk about their problems and ask for my advice (which honestly is exhausting sometimes). I've had to establish some clear boundaries for people, so they don't treat me like I'm their therapist.
@@goldencreepersthesecondAs far as I understand, an extrovert who would enter your comfort zone but wouldn't make the introvert feel bad about it. Like the classic quiet and the cheerful pair?
I'm introvert & have low self esteem. Not a lone wolf. Hard to be close to people but if I start to open up & feel comfortable to someone, i get attached 🥲
Yes I’m a lone wolf but I think there is more to that because sometimes I’m still battling depression. I go to therapy on a regular basis and it kinda helps. It’s hard to see the positive things and easier for me to distain from the negative. Yesterday I was approached as my job requires a badge for access but they are taking their time as the administrator is upset with me and saying I’m making up excuses it’s frustrating and discouraging when no one cares. I’m angry and done with humanity I wish I lived in a world without people. I am ok with animals but I can do without humanity. I’m not violent but frustrated.
I understand. Generally speaking, many people have just assumed that I am lazy or don't care, but put me in a good work situation where I can focus completely on what needs to be done and I am a "marathon worker"! Also, being a perfectionist can be a plus and minus in so many ways. Just keep knowing you are not alone. FYI, I love animals better too! ❤
Explore further. People who are altruistic or overly emphatic are less likely to want a job where they have(?) to boss people around or be strict. Right? You may be seeking in the wrong places. I've been a nihilist for over 20 years but don't forget to leave this place better than when you found it. If there's nothing worth fighting for, there's sure as hell nothing worth giving up for. Be true to yourself at least, let your integrity shine yourself up like a beacon, whether people are blind to it or not. Be cognizant that not everyone will be interested in rationalist and humanist ideals. But the vast majority of people will appreciate you at least being nice or overbearing with them. I don't know what I'd said to your admin. If he/she's gonna be an ass, be just utterly pragmatic with them and gather the best resume you can and find another job. Or talk to HR. Undermining real problems is borderline sociopathic. (But you can't say that to any colleagues or your boss, because I've done a similar thing, and let me tell you, even the most gold hearted blue eyed fool will let slip details like that and you'll be in trouble)
Every point mentioned here I agree with. I've never needed a big freind group, in fact, I hate having too many people to talk to. I value deep, true freinships, and I love talking to people that are good at deep thinking too! I also enjoy giving advice to others, and it's satisfying to see my advice help them. I often self reflect on myself aswell. I also have a strong belief in my dreams and aspirations
This Definitely Explains How I Am. My Mother Was Confused For The Longest Time, Now I Am Able To Show This Video To Her. Thank You Very Much For Shedding Much Needed Light On This Situation.
Sure, I'm a lone wolf. I thoroughly enjoy my time alone. But the other wolves seem to like my presence more. Some other wolves are even becoming new friends. Yes, I'm still alone for most of the time. But I feel far from lonely. It's good to open your heart to welcome some new people in your life. So yeah, I do agree with that statement.
@@Psych2go Thanks for asking. Choosing to live the lone wolf lifestyle as an adult can be get emotionally heavy at times, especially when i know what i'm missing - the emotional and physical comfort that comes with being in a relationship built with love, respect, trust. The warmth of waking up next to your partner in bed, the cuddles, the debate of whose turn is it to be spooned, the morning breath and fart(s) (wasn't me)🤗, and much much more. I do physically feel the tightness in my chess. Then i get out of bed, wash my face, look at myself in the mirror and tell myself - it happened, i cherish those member berries, if it happens again i'll welcome, if not, well i've got me which is very ok as well. and for now move on with your day.
I never knew about the lone wolf personality until now, and now that I think about it, I definitely have this personality considering I like to be in solitude and have little to no friends which I am fine with :D I always appreciate your videos since they help me and others to learn about Psychology and help them understand themselves as well :D
Been a lone wolf for a very long time. I've noticed that others like me are having a hard time finding partners, and no matter how appealing these would be partners are to others, doesnt mean we'll be swayed into having them as partners. I also noticed that we have different amazing traits -a jack of all trades (or somewhere close to that). We also like to meet up with other lone wolves to catch up once a month maybe. We like observing others but stays away from the pack, that's why we see angles that others dont, hence we have a wider view of things. We dont like associating too much with others, but we will intervene when we see the pack going down a path that could mean jeopardy. So, to put that into perspective, we are like Ghosts. Nowhere but everywhere. Because we like exploring things that others dont dable into. We go into places to see how fitting it is for onself and everyone. If an Alpha wolf leads the pack, we are the Alpha in the shadows. So, yeah... a jack of all trades, master of none. We can also lead if the situation deems necessary, though we would rather not. We can blend in any crowd like a chameleon, but we can never be like others. We can also work with Alphas, but most of the time, it's annoying so we tend to stay away from the pack.
Exactly. We are the observers. "Hiding" in the shadows, watching closely. Because of that, we have enough time for ourselves to learn a skill or 2 and fill ourselves with information. That gives us the ability that, even though we're not the type to be leaders of a pack, we can guide the pack in the right direction, if necessary.
@@martinbasten192 We mark people too, like oh, this guy is needy, and this guy has overinflated ego. Or this guy is cool, but likes things others don't. This girl or that guy... And we don't tell them frankly, so we just let things slide and only come up when things are going downhill. Most of the time, we get downplayed by others, belittled or cast out, until they discover something totally unexpected. Like, oh hey i didn't know you could do that.
And then we sort them out like: "They're cool. They are too, but wouldn't necessarily want to be friends with. They are a hell no. They are good for a few hours." And then we keep our distance (or not) accordingly. I always have the tendency to not even engage with the people I find "a hell no", when they talk to me. I don't mean to be be rude, but to them it of course does come across that way. But I hate to have to say no to people, only having to explain myself afterwards, risking a possible discussion, or argument, I don't want to have
@@martinbasten192 Nah, dealing with people's daily whatevers are just.. too bothersome. Yeah, we still keep in touch but only when it really matters do we engage ourselves. I mean, i used to love parties when i was a teen, but i couldn't figure out why i dont feel satisfied, or rather, i feel like i dont belong there. Even now that im old enough to be a father, things just dont click. I have tons of friends, yet im alone most of the time except when im at work. We are the type of friends that dont hang out much... A few lines a day is fine, we could hang out once a week but only for a few hours. I dont like taking vacations at cities, i like places that i can spend time alone and be with nature in general. A cabin atop a snowy mountain, overlooking a town for example.
@@martinbasten192 yeah, i get ya. It's hard to say no for me too. Because, like i said in the OP, we are like chameleons. We blend, or in otherwords, we adjust.
This video actually explained a major point of contention in my relationship. Me and my partner are both introverts, but she never understands why I have to have a certain amount of alone time on a regular basis. Meanwhile she is lonely when im not with her. She also hates doing anything alone whereas I love doing things by myself. She thinks it's because of her, like i want to get away from her.
hey, just talk to her about this, or show her this comment and video. If you think she is the one, don't leave room for any misunderstandings. Love is rare these days.
hug her, like a bear, firmly but gentle, like a tactile sensation... and with every breath, harder, closer, especially from all sides in order to "change" her shape 😊😇
This year I graduated from middle school. And of course, everyone goes their own ways and since I had been sick and depressed most of the final year, I didn't make it to high school where my best friend was. So I ended up in vocational college as a car mechanic. As you would expect, the majority there are just no-lives who vape, do wheelies and other stupid stuff for attention. So I developed a lone wolf personality. I have always been following someone else or looking out for them but rarely anyone for me so it was time to follow myself. It's lonely, sure, but I at least don't have to fall to the pit of hell that is our nowaday "cool kid." I will never understand what's cool about killing your lungs or poisoning yourself with alcohol or bringing you to the edge of death. Guess people fall and they want to take you with them or pin you down so you don't succeed. Remember, their failure is your success. It's easy to climb to the top when the majority is tripping down the hill.
Timestamps 1). You prefer independent solitude 0:41 2). You're introspective and aware 1:22 3). You think outside the box 2:05 4). You're a good. Observant listener 2:52 5). You value quality over quantity 3:36 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Yeah, perfect confirmation of my social life. I always had a hunch that I am a lone wolf, but this video kind of confirms it. I can’t confidently say that it’s 100% confirmed, but it’s so spot on it might as well be.
Everything mentioned in this video perfectly describes me don't need many friends working on myself especially on my weaknesses and always listening very closely. Great video and I just realized how nice it is to be a lone wolf ☺️
I always felt kind of strange being who I am, and I found it somewhat disheartening how people would judge my choice to be mostly independent when I was growing up, like I was doing something wrong for wanting alone time and quality friendships. This video is one of the rare occasions where I’ve seen my personality actually presented in a positive light. Thank you for that!
This video portrays me accurately. Honestly, being a lone wolf isn't always easy, but I'm content with being myself. Sometimes, I do get tired and discouraged, but I recognize that these feelings are only temporary. The best motivation I consistently provide myself with is that I'm living a meaningful life each day, and I firmly believe that all of you here are too, regardless of how small that meaning may seem-it's still something worth cherishing and important
Yeah people often tell me that I'm lonely and probably need friends....like I'm not, I'm enjoying solitude and i don't put efforts to make friends, that comes in a natural way
I love having alone time(I'm mostly just be with myself) for me, solitude means everything to me it brings so much positivity, productivity and gives a clear views on my deep thinking thoughts being around people talking is not bad but it feels draining very soon and I personally think people who are mostly surrounded by people are the one who don't spend much time in self-awareness or viewing their thoughts Because their minds are constantly filled with other people thoughts, I've always been misunderstood that I'm lonely which is not true I'm just in love with my solitude and it is so hard to make people understand this, in conclusion I'm definitely a lone wolf.
I am introverted and a lone wolf. I am a mixture of the two. I choose to be alone, and I also need to be alone (Socializing also exhausts me -- I also prefer small groups of people, when socializing -- I am also very selective on who I let into my friend group/group of friends). There are many reasons why I like being alone and in solitude. I have been that way all of my life. I am currently twenty-one. I was diagnosed as autistic (high-functioning) since I was two. I was diagnosed with O.C.D. at age two, as well. I was diagnosed with anxiety at age seven, and depression around age sixteen. I think I am dyslexic and I think I have A.D.H.D., as well. I love being different!
I'm definitely a lone wolf. I prefer isolation and am extremely picky as to whom I'll even consider labeling a friend. I also think and reflect on my own thoughts and opinions constantly as well as events outside of my own mind. Which can at times, be a burden when becoming over encumbered with excessive, and unnecessary information.
I think I also reflect on my thoughts outside my mind talking to myself and trying to be more confident in my ability to think and communicate with others.
Thank you for this video! It's an important explanation because this type of personality is so misunderstood, to the extend that even people who have the personality don't fully understand and appreciate it.
Honestly, I never realized If I was ever a good or bad person due to having this personality. I am glad you clarified this trait to me, It really helps.
I'm a lone wolf for sure! I always felt like I was one, but wasn't fully sure (as I can force myself to blend in when I have to for work but it's not my favorite thing to do). I deeply related to each of these points and I'm really comforted by that. I feel more comfortable in myself now knowing that I am very much a lone wolf, and that's just how I am. Thank you for what y'all do!
Summed me up pretty well, in a world with emphasis on friendship togetherness and family it can feel alienating. I think we are viewed by others as almost problematic.
Oh my gosh this almost made me cry...I've always beaten myself up about being so different and awkward socially. It's been pretty rough not knowing why I am the way I am. I see and try all these personality tests that just don't quite work so I was starting to look for mental illnesses that fit me. Gave up on that realizing that simply wasn't it. Then tonight I came across this, literally everything matches me perfectly. I will definitely be researching this more :) Cool personality type name too. The fun thing is that, girls are typically associated with cats, but I'm very much a dog person. And my name means "innocent lamb", so I guess I'm a wolf in sheep's clothing with innocent intentions 🤷♀️😊 Thank you very much for this, and sorry I went on and on like that 😅
Each of these points is personally relatable, especially that last point about “quality over quantity,” which also applies to my aesthetic preferences (my fashion sense and decorative style are mainly minimalist, as is my focus on an optimal balance between practicality and appeal when choosing… well, anything, really). 🤔 I also align with personality traits associated with the Sigma Male archetype, though with a few latent “Alpha-ish” qualities that could be beneficial if/when I choose to hone them. Of course, self-development is a constant process anyway, so it feels better when those qualities develop naturally rather than being driven by external influence or sheer force of will; I learnt that lesson the hard way during the obligatory “strive to fit in” phase, aka adolescence… 😅
I relate to that except for the quality over quantity thing. I actually made an exposition in high school explain how, in general, quantity is better. But I still have a small close friend group. But I also try to stay in touch and be positive with a wide range of people, just so that I can overcome the bad things about introversion, and become a better person
this is totally true. i can always listen to others and can feel when something is going on. like a spider i can feel fear from others. i always love to be alone and when i choose a friend i am always looking for the sweetest one. this is completely my character, it seems according to science i am a lone wolf. my boyfriend is a lone wolf too.🍀♥️🤠
Wow! This 99 percent accurately describe me! With the exception of communication. I am an excellent listener, and I am great at communicating, which is why I teach it. I also do very well in social settings with strangers and acquaintances even though I go out of my way to avoid them. I prefer social settings with my closest friends or being by myself. Lol
I have always naturally described my nature as a 'lone wolf'. I had not realized this was actually considered a personality type in the psychology world. This video was interesting and really on par with my experience. An important point that was repeated throughout, lonewolfs aren't the 'big bad', quite the opposite.
Same here. I expect that, like me, while you found this to be cool and interesting, and found it nice that Lone Wolf-ism is actually a thing, you probably didn't actually NEED the validation. You know, I never equated "Lone Wolf" and "Big Bad Wolf". "Lone" has a completely different definition than the phrase "Big Bad". It never occurred to me that some folks might conflate the two. Although, I imagine that Lone, Big Bad Wolves DO exist. Indeed, I'm quite certain that I've encountered a few, over the past few decades, just as I've met plenty of Big Bad Wolf types who are the total opposite of "Lone". Out of curiosity, do you have a deep appreciation for actual wolves, as in, you know, the animal?
@@magnificenthonky I relate and agree with your statement. Furthermore, regarding your question, I do have a fond appreciation for wolves - so much so that I have viewed parts of my psyche as such in dreams and lucid dreams that I've had since I was young. Bears would be another animal that I have a strong affinity with due to not only how integral I consider physical strength to be to my view of myself, but also their innate solitary lives, ponderous nature, and generally laid back attitude to life punctuated by bursts of activity.
I have only commented on what is mentioned in this video. However, I imagine that not everything there is to know or learn about human psychology can be found in a text book. I honestly believe that there are still outdated systems in practice. It's up to the people to challenge and test these theories and practices to ensure that they are still relevant and to help bring a fresh perspective contributing to the evolving approach to psychology. All the best with your studies ☺ @@Topolino256 a
This makes a lot of sense to me. I always feel drained after 30 minutes at social events. I knew I was an introvert from a young age. Just now finding out about LWP
I can last a bit longer at social events, but I totally get the drained feeling. What drains me more, is house guests. Even people I love; parents, snivelings, and my closest friends (of which there are very few), will drain me, if they are in my house. I've always just accepted this as a personal quirk, but it's nice to see the quirk recognized and validated, even though it isn't necessary for personal fulfillment.
Me too i feel drained at social events i feel like there's butterfly in my stomach or have thoughts like i wanna go home or lose interest on speaking on others i prefer silent places
I still don’t get the difference between an introvert and a lone wolf… I know for are I am an introvert, but when I saw this video I am a lone wolf maybe? I need a lot of alone time.
Thank you so much! I have always felt “different in life” and been picked on for having these qualities. But now I know what I am and not afraid to say so. This has helped a lot, thank you ❤
You're welcome! It's great to hear that the video has been helpful for you. 😊 What are some specific qualities you've embraced since realizing your uniqueness?
@@Psych2go I have embraced introspective and awareness. I have been realising what I am doing wrong and working on it to improve myself, I am currently working out and eating healthier since I didn’t before. Also listening, I have always been good at listening but I have found the moments and people where I don’t. And I choose to help more and listen to them. ❤
I've always been a lone wolf and the people that I've let into my space have always respected that. They know that I often just coop up and isolate myself for a few months at a time with next to no contact. It really is hard to find people that will accept these parts of you, but when you do find them you'll feel so much better than trying to put on airs with people that push your boundaries. It really is such a conflicting personality to have since you do slightly look for affirmation but also seek isolation at the same time.
Having always been an introvert, I think I have developed the "lone wolf" traits only later in life, when I was still an introvert but had altready matured enough confidence not to feel the need for external validation. (on a side note, I find it interesting the the phrase "lone wolf" is commonly used when wolves are notoriously highly social animals 🐺, while felines would be better suited to indicate such personality 🐯)
What you said actually makes the name perfectly appropriate; "lone" is a modifier that tells the reader that this wolf is different from the others, who are dependent on packs.
I hate that I'm a little impulsive, anxious, & paranoid "". / I like that I like challenges and take chances & I'm stand offish when I need to be. I mean, I guess u could say I'm forgiving graceful & kind or wever. But I really must just not register petty & other bs all that well. Bc I prob just let it sink as temporary bs that's not important enough./// But somexs I am fearful of the unknown. Like in that true crime kind of way.
I relate to all of these signs. I respect my fellow introverts who aren't lone wolves, and I wish them the best, but I'm a little bit different from them. That's not a bad thing, though
OMG thanks I’ve been judged in school for setting too many boundaries and being picky with the people I surround myself with now I know more about myself and maybe I just might be a lone wolf have a nice day too whoever is reading this xD 🌺
This helps sooooo much! I have a few introvert friends/family but I've always felt different from them somehow(too hard to elaborate)... And this pretty much helps to explain that for me
I am definitely a lone wolf. The hardest thing to overcome these last few years: my goals are too big for me to achieve alone. I'm still not there but every year I try to inch closer and closer to making that breakthrough step. Bringing others in to share my vision is going to put my creativity but also eccentricity to the forefront for all to see. I've always been surrounded by others that can't see past the end of their nose. Finding others like me that peer into the cosmos and see humanity for what it may become in a millions years seems too much to ask.
The only thing that makes me sad about being an INFJ with lone wolf's traits, is the awareness that I might never have the chance to find some other people like me in my whole life time to estabilish meaningful connections with. But Dreams and Hope are always the last things to die 😅
Thanks for the video. Now I have something that I can show people who don't get me. I don't get how people don't like being alone. Sure it's different when you feel lonely, but I know some people that need to be around people 24/7 and for me it's quality alone time which I improve the most and can reflect on my behavior.
@@Psych2go my Text came out way to long. Short answer: I hold something similar to a therapy session for myself. In my case it's about being alone with my thoughts in silence. It helps to have an inner monologue, but I also talk to myself to sort my thoughts. While doing that I always try to see what I think is good and be grateful for that. After that I think about what I can improve on. When I take my time to think about what I said, did, or what I want for my future. Also the more I am alone, the more I get creative. I try new things, teach myself and try to think about how I want to interact with other people, or how to improve my behavior. If I don't know myself enough, I wouldn't be able to improve or tell people what I want. At the same time I reflect on the behavior of other people around me, so I can better understand, or help them. Plus I can realize why they did or said something, so that I know where I can improve on something, or if they didn't treat me fair, tried to manipulate me and so on.
Hey, that's me, 100%, and it felt glorious to have you acknowledge my best parts in my need for building the best human possible.. It's beautiful, thankyou! 😊💕
Indeed. My toxic traits self isolation and avoidance with self reliance ego turned me into a lone wolf that made me seem introverted. I'm aware that I'm an introvert myself and I know others see me that way too, in an unhealthy way because they think I'm not interested on any of them or socializing itself in general. I see fitting in and asking for help as a sign of weakness which is why I am the way I am and why I agree that I myself have lots of issues that I prefer not to fix.
This perfectly describes me. It's very frustrating when your own family member confuses you being a lone wolf with "just being shy"! I was pissed off too many times, by people, in the past; so I carefully choose who I spend time around. This behavior can resonate with some people simply as "being shy" while it can be perceived as being "stuck-up" by others. Those different perceptions are exactly why I'm no longer a "people person".
I don't appreciate this video completely and accurately dissecting my personality!😂 I was surprised literally every point applied to me. Like the point of solitude, that looks just like me on my lunch break
Thank you so much for making this video! I know nobody will see this, but this video is very important to me. It helped me realize that there are other people like me even though I’ve never met one, and that it’s okay to not have a bunch of friends like my two friends do. I just thought something was wrong with me for not having more friends. Thank you for helping me!
I do relate to these all of these signs and I guess the one that relates the most is I prefer independent solitude. If I am a lone wolf well there is no way I was a lone wolf when I was younger because my younger self doesn’t relate to any of these signs. I would prefer and only need a few friends but I’m friends with almost everyone in my year because of how social and dependent I was. It is a good thing I have a lot of friends who actually care but it can get a bit annoying when I want to be alone cause no one ever listens to me no matter how hard I try. If I told my friends I’m a lone wolf they would probably say “There is no way your a lone wolf! Your too social!” Anyway thank you Psycho2go for another amazing video!
I just found out that Im a lone wolf, being alone and not lonely is really beautiful, everything said in the video is so true, observer over talker etc. Thums up
I think fear of rejection plays a huge part in being a lone wolf because you are so afraid of being rejected that you actively reflect on all your personal flaws and are hyper aware of how others may view you, to the point where social interaction becomes exhausting because you're constantly monitoring what you say. This hyper awareness also goes the other way as well; you will notice when someone is being "fake" or only talking about themselves, which leads to us being very selective about who we choose to hang out with. All in all I don't think being a lone wolf is a good thing, like sure introspection can be helpful but speaking to people just becomes so exhausting and you're constantly afraid of disappointing those around you, I'd rather trade this for blissful ignorance and just be happy to speak to someone.
I dont think lone wolfs have fear of rejection though. I think its the opposite, more like confidence in not having to fit into normal societal standards and not deviating too much or settling with those who are just too different from themselves. I think I am a lone wolf, and if I got rejected, after self examination, it wouldnt bother me to even be rejected because we are always self reflecting, plus very confident in knowing who we are despite another's opinion because we have spent so much time with ourselves. It sounds more like social anxiety you are describing.
I feel like that despite not fulfilling every point on 100%, more like 90, I feel like I can maybe be lone wolf. I do not have many friends, I do not like parties in clubs much, but when with my close friends, I gladly talk with them, listen to them, and when I had enough, I isolate myself. Great video! :3
Thank you for making me feel less ackward when people repeatedly say with a pity tone "but will you be alone?"...yes, just because I like it over anything else. I value and want good companion, but only if they can understand and respect that.
I'm a lonewolf and proud. Everyday I sharpen my skills and learn new things I don't need friends because they only slow me down. I achieved so much and so much more yet to come. I'm 33 currently and single because I haven't found anyone that I find worthy. Don't mind to be alone forever anyways. I'm happy with that.
This is literally THE most accurate description of myself I have ever heard ❤🔥 for once I wasn’t able to say I didn’t match with a single thing. But I just wanna say THANK YOU for not making it out to be some kind of mental or personality disorder, IT’S JUST A PERSONALITY and that’s just as okay as being an extrovert 😤😀 but thank you 🤣
TY, Part 1: Being a lone wolf isn't a product of a narcissistic parents or home. It is just a personality trait & personal preference. Don't give your power away to others, people want to get credit whether good or bad because they are miserable & want others to feed into their misery. Part 2: I'm thankful that I'm a foster/adopted child. My EX-FOSTER RELATIVES who aren't my family members are compatible with ME & haven't been in my life for years & won't return. It is always okay to let go of outgrown connections or connections with irreconcilable differences. I don't know my biological family members nor parents & I don't have any family members nor parents nor hometown. Part 3: I don't fear rejection. There is NO 🚫 such thing as rejection. Either a person, place or thing is compatible with ME or they aren't. I enjoy being a lone wolf & spending quality time with myself. I also enjoy spending quality time with others NOT 🚫 quantity of time. Part 4: May you enjoy authentically & Unapologetically AUTHENTICALLY being yourself daily. Practice self care & self love daily. NOT 🚫 practicing self care is selfish. You can't be there for anyone else, if you don't show up for yourself. Practice whatever belief system that works for you. & Live your own individual life NOT 🚫 what is expected nor projected Letting go is a daily process-Melody Beattie Namaste Peace Shalom
