5 Signs You Have ADHD and Autism

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🔍 Exploring ADHD and Autism | 5 Common Signs and Symptoms 🧠
Before I was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism, I often wondered why certain things were challenging for me and why I thought so differently from others. Like what the heck is going on with my brain? Do you ever have similar thoughts?
Maybe you're watching this video wondering, "Do I have ADHD or autism?" I can't diagnose you, but I can share with you five common signs that might resonate with your experiences.
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📌 Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
00:43 - Distractibility and Structure
02:15 - School Challenges
02:56 - Sensory Sensitivities
03:59 - My favorite scent
05:24 - Social Interaction Challenges
06:24 - Reading Emotional Cues
08:02 - Challenges in Expressing Emotions
09:18 - Emotional Escalation and Seeking Comfort
11:15 - Struggles with Routine
12:26 - Recognizing traits
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@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

🚫 🎶 Prefer no background noise? Watch the NO MUSIC Edition (same awesome content, without the music): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-g2O4r5iFLXA.html

@judithvorster2515 7 месяцев назад

Snap! lol

@stebrahan 7 месяцев назад

I JUST scrolled down to ask you why on earth you put music in the background, in a video about how difficult you/we can have with ambient noices...! Thanks for this option!

@RetroHoo 7 месяцев назад

😅 thank you for this!

@SylviaRustyFae 7 месяцев назад

OMG THANK YOU! I am so glad i got quickly distracted and wanted to make a comment so i cud see this That bg music is just too much distraction for my ears to process speech easily from; but i was gonna power thru by just followin the captions very closely... But thats nvr a good way to watch smth for my brain

@mobydickii8407 7 месяцев назад

I just saw this after watching the full video!

@clayjug4893 7 месяцев назад

I liked the video but would be better without the background music, it's too distracting :/

@joeofoysterbay7197 7 месяцев назад

I really appreciate the effort but, I absolutely hate that music. Can't hear anything else. Wanted to listen to all of it but that background is hideous and hugely distracting.

@brucemangan3807 7 месяцев назад

The irony of making a video for adhd and asd that those people will see … and making it a sensory mess

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Glad you liked the video! My editors are aware of the background music issue. Future videos will not have this problem and we are going to upload versions with no background music at all.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

It's not a sensory mess

@brucemangan3807 7 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby for those of us that have a hard time picking conversations out from background noise.. it can be. Gaslight all you want 🤷🏻‍♂️

@eliseintheattic9697 7 месяцев назад

The problem with interrupting people so you won't forget what you were going to say is that the other person might forget what they were saying because they were interrupted. Then you end up having hours of incomplete conversation. 😂

@ShelleyHannaArt 7 месяцев назад

This happens between me and one of my friends all the time. We just laugh about it because we're so weird.

@lorisiccia5914 2 месяца назад

me and my mom having difficult conversations cuz she keeps interrupting me...then i forget what im saying.. then she says well guess it wasnt that important. every convo her talking at me if she gets excited or i try saying anything..she turns her volume up and just comes out yelling. sorry i gotta go now. stop yelling

@camellia8625 Месяц назад

Very true. I find in formal meetings it helps to write down ideas when I cannot get a word in edgewise, so I do not interrupt people. I then may draw it to people’s attention there when appropriate.

@terryg4415 2 дня назад

🤣🤣🤣 thank you, I needed this! It’s so true!

@jeaniedelaney4711 7 месяцев назад

I am definitely a constant interrupter, and even though I’m aware of it, I can’t stop.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Yes, especially when I’m tired, it’s so much harder to regulate myself

@isue55 2 месяца назад

Me too. I am aware and try so hard not to do it but it still happens. I know I've alienated people because of it.

@carollizc 7 месяцев назад

I got into trouble all the way from first grade to twelfth. Either I was gazing off into into the distance or I was doodling or drawing. It helped me to focus. My peers thought I was the "weird one" and the bullying was physical and emotional. Luckily, in high school, my friend Jennifer introduced me to her friend and neighbour Dawn. Fifty years later, Dawn is still my friend. "You're different," she told me back then, "but that's not a bad thing." She has two neurodivergent daughters, and I like to think that being my friend all those years has helped her deal with them. Yeah. They're a little different, but that's not a bad thing.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

It makes me angry when I hear stories of all the neurodiverse individuals who needlessly suffered in school. It still happens and it’s unacceptable. I got so angry and tired of it, I started my own schools. All students are accepted for who they are and I’m so proud of it. Having a Dawn in your life makes all the difference. My Dawn is my wife Debby. Thank you so much for sharing!

@wildernessisland2573 7 месяцев назад

I was mercilessly bullied until the day after i graduated high school. I never understood why until I started to realize that I'm different and bullies understand that difference as weakness.

@Andrea.Cardenas 7 месяцев назад

Yay! I thought I was weird because I used to draw while the teacher was explaining the subject but somehow it helped me pay attention, until one day a teacher thought I wasn’t interested in what she was saying and tipped the ink I was using over my drawing. I remember I couldn’t hold back tears even though I didn’t want to cry as I was also bullied quite often for being “weird”. It was quite a hard time being in school: I either hyperfocused or didn’t pay any attention at all (unless I doodled something).

@magnifisweets 7 месяцев назад

I doodled up ALL the margins in my notebooks in school. Maybe it’s unusual, but I was good at school. All my doodles were extrapolations of what the teacher was saying. So if she was talking about “the right to bear arms” I would draw a cartoon off to the side of my notes, of a person with the arms of a grizzly bear. It actually helped me during exams.

@wildernessisland2573 7 месяцев назад

@@magnifisweets i did the same thing! I didn't even notice that the doodling was helping me focus until I tried to "get serious" in college and not doodle in class anymore, but when I started doing it again my grades improved. Funny 😄

@rosariccardo3529 7 месяцев назад

I'm late diagnosed and self diagnosed. I used to struggle with emotions - being "flooded" by them (my own and other people's) and being able to identify them. Over a few years I taught myself to name them specifically because I like words (and I used to read dictionaries). So I'd think about the emotion - ponder it - see how my body experienced it. Then once I'd found a category (e.g., sadness) then I'd narrow it down further to melancholy, despair, grief, gloom, depression, etc.

@iiiiiiiv 7 месяцев назад

Sign #6: RU-vid keeps recommending videos about signs of ADHD and autism 😅

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

HAHAHAHAHA!!!

@mandarinadreux9572 7 месяцев назад

Oooh I felt that xD

@klpuhelin2816 2 месяца назад

Haha, happened to me too, and now I wonder whether I have those or not. 😂 I had made a self diagnosis of maybe add, but it never ever even occurred to my mind there could be something else, but now that I've learnt more... It's actually quite scary if youtube is already capable of making diagnosis based on what videos we are watching. 😮 In my case I blame those infj videos that I watched a lot. Maybe there's a correlation. 😅

@mandarinadreux9572 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for always using the phrasing "some of us". I've lately been feeling more of my austistic side and almost doubted the existence of my adhd but i resonate with almost everything you put on the list, especially the noise, light and crowd sensitivity - basically the sensory overload. I do not struggle with facial expression and social or verbal cues much though, which is untypical for people with autism - it's almost made out to be THE symptom. I think it's because my adhd always made me extremely drawn to people and I learnt how to read them well over time. Also because "people" is kinda one of my special interests as I write and draw, so yeah. I never fully resonated with "just asd" or "just adhd" . I know both worlds. And it's comorbid extremely often, so it makes sense. Yeah, we're all individuals still and express different challenges. My friend for example struggles with crowds and spacing out but she doesn't mind noises at all that would make me feel like i'm being stabbed in the brain.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Thanks for the feedback and for sharing your experiences a bit - I also find that one of the two sides seems more dominant on a pretty consistent basis, but especially my autistic side when I'm not sleeping well, feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated, too much socializing, etc. The ADHD side really pushes me to do things but the autistic side reminds me that I need to slow down sometimes. It can be so challenging, and you're absolutely right that we all experience things very differently. So interesting to learn that too - the spectrum looks very different for everyone, and very individualized.

@SylviaRustyFae 6 месяцев назад

I feel similar to your friend you mention; as theres many a sound that doesnt bug me at home as long as its not otherwise loud/noisy... But that twig my meta and fiance (both he/they) rly hard to the pt where they have to get out of there and wud no doubt describe it as like a brain stab. Tho if they crush up a paper bag or a receipt, then the roles quickly are reversed and i just wanna get out of there to protect from the brain stabbin What i find rly absurd is that noise isnt all that diff than the noise of clinkin ice, the noise that twigs both them, but for some reason one twigs me but not the other; and vice versa for both those hims :3

@chocoboasylum 7 месяцев назад

I've been masking from a very young age and trying to be as independent as possible because the environment pushed me to do so. I think a lot of these behaviors are under at least a few layers of masks or workarounds with me. At least when I'm around other people. What usually does show in public is my lack of emotions (heavily controlled) and my tendency to organize the chaos around me, including that of other people

@j-rocgeo7499 8 месяцев назад

Blue car lights at night are painful! Loud noises are painful! I don't think people actually understand there is actual physical pain in our brains, at least for me. I've even vomited from sounds and lights; ridiculous. Eye contact is brutal and I will remember literally nothing that was said. Growing up in the 80's with ASD in Canada was terrible and is where I picked up most of my trauma/PTSD. I am currently coming out of burnout and dealing with anxiety waves every day. Slowly improving!

@ChrisandDebby 8 месяцев назад

Exactly! And we didn’t know what we were doing wrong, so we developed tons of anxiety. And the anxiety gave us all kinds of ridiculous symptoms. I grew up in the 80s in Alaska and it was also terrible. School sucked, but the one benefit was access to nature. Living in Taipei now is actually worse in many ways, but my wife and I are working hard to make adjustments that help. I’m excited to share about the journey! Thanks for your comments! Deb and I love reading them and I imagine so do a lot of others!!!

@j-rocgeo7499 8 месяцев назад

My favourite new channel easily. You have a gift, keep sharing.

@user-he6rs8xi7u 7 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebbyI'm in Alaska now. 40 years wasted in Philly. Was diagnosed ADHD a couple of weeks ago and it all made sense. After I get my assessment and medication, I'll be trying to go for ASD diagnosis and treatment. Turns out, I'm not just lazy and aloof or creepy. I think my life is about to start at 44. Bring on the pharmacy grade speed!😮

@Truerealism747 7 месяцев назад

@@user-he6rs8xi7uany pain from your adhd for me fybromyalgia

@mandarinadreux9572 7 месяцев назад

You're right. I wonder if it's some kind of synesthesia like feeling noises and lights. I totally agree, blue carlights are painful and loud noises can feel like being stabbed in the brain. I especially struggle with motor noises. They make me feel like I'm being tortured and I can't concentrate on anything anymore, I can't think, I kinda even *see* the noise in front of my eyes like grey concrete slabs

@computerlove87 8 месяцев назад

I'm 33 years old, and I started my AuDHD research hole only a tiny bit before you guys started as a channel a couple months ago ❤ Love your content, I think I'm totally on the same wavelength as you on most things 🤣 PS, also, I dig your visuals and production quality!

@ChrisandDebby 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for the nice feedback! And hope the content is helpful - let us know if you have suggestions for content based on your research and experiences. We are enjoying the comments where this is all resonating with other AuDHDers too

@TheJediRyguy 6 месяцев назад

Dude... I don't know what to say. I see so much of myself and you and your actions that it brought me to tears. Laughing, not crying which is a nice change, also its meant as the biggest compliment I can give because I LOVE funny! I'm 49 and just recently diagnosed.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

It’s tricky business getting diagnosed so late in life. It becomes a roller coaster because of all the replays in your mind- why nobody caught it sooner and provided the support needed. Being autistic can get pretty lonely and frustrating, that’s why I wanted to make these videos. To help others struggling with the same things I am. I’m so glad you resonated with my video(s). That really makes me happy! I’m currently going through some bad asd burnout so the timing of your comment was extremely helpful. More funny videos coming!! Thanks again for the wonderful comment.

@birnamagnusdottir5189 7 месяцев назад

OMG! This is so me. My life story. I also dont have no friends, because I got so burned out from being screwed ower and snuffed, that I excluded everyone, I have one that I occasionally communicate with from my old life. The others are dead to me. I go out and do things but I dont bond, I just try to be nice and then Im out as fast as I can. And say as little as I possibly can. My academic situations can be problematic as I have no sense of social clues but I have to say something and weigh in on the subjects and I tend to freeze. And this is my field of passion. Im also a part of a group that performs once a week and I sing, and I love it, I can stand on a stage and sing my heart out. But sometimes the infighting and the inconsistencies get too much for me and I just quietly take a break for a day or two. Or zone out. My focus is sometimes non existent and Im so easily distracted, I physically feel it in my head when my brain goes array. I have just learned to live with it and sometimes I find it funny how my reactions can be all over the place. But you are basically describing me in this video.

@jenavevesnowolf13 7 месяцев назад

I feel that way about a grove of Aspen trees at a local park. Never heard of another person having that sort of experience.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Probably more people do this than we realize - it just hasn’t been talked about much!

@Gr1pp717 6 месяцев назад

Hyper-focus is also an ADHD thing. It's said that ADHD is a misnomer. That there is no deficit, just dysregulation. Anything that feeds our dopamine needs becomes a temporary addiction. And that thing, whatever it is, hijacks our attention.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Yes, I think a lot of it for ADHD is how you manage it (or don't manage it, based on the situation and all the variables around you). It's definitely a challenge but also is what usually pushes me to do a lot of things where my ASD brain might say a big NO. Do you struggle with anything in particular with your ADHD?

@bluepheonix2234 7 месяцев назад

Hey, so ..does anybody do this? When patience is called for I can be patient, but I go in this trance-like state where I almost suppress any physiological need and become like a statue. And on the inside I feel this slow burning. And I can do this if I have an expected amount of time to wait, like If I know I have to be patient for three hours, but if waiting goes beyond that oooh boy do I BURN and become anxious and fidgety and irritable. And the whole thing takes A LOT out of me, I almost always need to sleep afterwards in the very near future and the sleep is coma-like.... Please tell me this is not just me...

@HappyHoney41 7 месяцев назад

I'm going to have to get business cards made with my name and all the letters I have following... ASD, PDA, ADHD... And 12 days is minimal for eating the same thing. ;) I ate home made mac and cheese every day for about 3 months before I was able to get off of it. Your videos are calming and affirming. Thank you.

@amandakinneard1225 7 месяцев назад

I ate the same lunch every day for a school year.

@joe-mama6451 7 месяцев назад

Difference is that he got the meal from a Thai restaurant for nearly 2 weeks straight. Home made food is a little more available.

@TrepidDestiny 7 месяцев назад

I was recently this year diagnosed with ADHD well into my thirties. I also struggled heavily in school, but particularly in math subjects, and I learned only a few weeks ago the term "Dyscalculia" which is essentially just dyslexia, but for math and numbers instead of words. My whole childhood started to make so much more sense. I also: become very uncomfortable looking at people's eyes. Not sick to my stomach like Chris, but more like anxious and I want to leave the room. I also become incredibly frustrated when things don't go as I predicted they would or thought they should. Very quickly. I also have difficulty coming down off of strong negative emotions. If I get angry at something it can take me hours to normalize, even when logically I know I shouldn't be mad anymore. That also manifests as hyperfixating on the conversation/event that made me angry and involuntarily replaying it over and over and over and over again for said hours.

@TrepidDestiny 7 месяцев назад

And a strange one is when I play video games from my childhood, I need to play them exactly in the routes I played them back then. Like Halo:CE for example. There is a set course of actions I feel I need to take, and if I deviate, I almost feel a sense of dread. Morrowind, when making a new character, there is a set path I take to get early game gear and gold, and to deviate from it again gives me a sense of dread and/or directionless.

@user-qf4hy8if1p 7 месяцев назад

DYSCALCULIA!!! Where has this word been all my life??!! After years and years of embarrassment in situations requiring me to fill out forms with strings of numbers, I finally started just asking the person helping me to fill that part out for me, like deposit or withdrawal slips at the bank. Now I simply ask politely,and explain I have 'number dyslexia'. Being open about it, letting that person know they are actually helping me, more often than not takes the situation from negative/neutral to neutral/positive. 👍

@TrepidDestiny 7 месяцев назад

@@user-qf4hy8if1p Exactly! Now rather than poke fun at me for "being bad at math" my gf now actively helps me do things like calculate tips and things like that. My whole childhood I had to go to summer school every year to make up for bad math grades. My mother would always gaslight me telling me "it's because you're not paying attention." or "You're not listening, because you're not interested, just get interested and you'll do better!" "You don't like math because you're not applying yourself!". NAH WOMAN, I STRAIGHT UP CANT DO MATH WTF.

@user-qf4hy8if1p 7 месяцев назад

😎@@TrepidDestiny

@chrispetersen4863 6 месяцев назад

I need to look into dyscalculia.... I was never horrible (but not great either) with basic math (addition/subtraction/multiplication/division) but anything beyond that and I was listening to a foreign language that I could never make any sense out of. Don't know if that's a part of it, has anything to do with it, or is something else entirely but I am now curious. Words on the other hand... Give me a dictionary and I could get lost for hours flipping from one word to learn about it, and it's etymology (where it came from and from what root words or phrases) and I would almost forget to "come up for air."

@Damocoburn Месяц назад

Love this channel - you really explain the AuDHD experience well. Especially how in a more recent video your spouse mentions the fun and the sense of humour, but this video notes the social difficulties you experience. It really is that contradictory and can be confusing to live with, and difficult for others to spot.

@cowsonzambonis6 2 месяца назад

You’re the first person I’ve heard talk about dizziness being connected to Autism. I have been confused for so long about this seemingly random symptom.

@kainaris 6 месяцев назад

Sometimes I watch some youtube shorts and think to myself "Yeah I probably have ADHD" but then I watch very specific videos like this one and I get confirmed that I definitely don't. I wish I knew what I have / how I am.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

This one is about having both, so it’s possible to not have these exact examples and still have adhd - I just happen to have both and was discussing that here. I am also working on one specific for ADHD, which I was diagnosed with long before autism. But ultimately, if you think you could have adhd, pay attention to how the symptoms impact your life and keep track of them, and then (if you can), speak to a medical professional. This information can help them with a possible diagnosis or also figuring out what else could be going on with you specifically - every person is different, so symptoms present differently too

@thegracklepeck 7 месяцев назад

Yeah that sounds right. I have an official autism diagnosis but I also self identify as an ADHDer. It's the other piece to the same puzzle of why I've always struggled with socializing growing up as well as staying on task and having so much sensitivity to certain stimuli yet huge affinity to others.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Yes, the pull of both of these is so strong in different ways, and I am pretty sure it’s part of why the exhaustion is so extreme at times. It’s like an internal battle pulling me in different directions all the time - and it’s been hard to find a lot of information on the combination of the two, which is part of how this channel started. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and being here!

@frenchfryjetpack 7 месяцев назад

great video. thanks for reviewing the segments after explaining. i watched the entire thing and i would’ve forgotten everything said without the recap.

@ryanmahaffie329 2 месяца назад

I notice the more I'm focused, or if I'm having to keep my brain on many things at once (hard!), the slightest break in my attention makes me jump out of my skin. My coworkers hate coming up and asking me things because they feel bad every time I jump. Sometimes yelp. I also find that combined interests are sort of, bleeding together. While I'm trying to engage in illustration, I find my brain wanders to the psychological impact of our art on both artist and audience. Then I get in my head about THAT whole mess. I feel like the most succinct way I can describe my experience with these conditions, is like having a wild bronco in your head. The more time you spend with horses, I think the more apt this simile gets. Farts a lot, screams, panics at butterflies, occasionally wants to eat a passing baby bird (that's a joke).

@nerudaad 7 месяцев назад

Your visualizations are helpful and delightful

@NinjaWolf87 2 месяца назад

Your content is some of my favorite. It seems somewhat difficult to find a late ASD & ADHD diagnosed male. I've been struggling with this for the last several years. I also didn't realize that I could have both which is probably the main reason that I have gone undiagnosed for so long. I finally have an appointment to see a professional. It took having meltdowns over work and truly, my work is easy, I just have a habit of sabotaging myself. Plus, I have re-entered school and I want to be successful this time. I'm coming to realize that my thinking that I was "lazy" dealt more with traits in ADHD. I did amazing in the classes I loved, and I never went to more than 3 lectures on classes I didn't care for.

@harevalkyrie5373 7 месяцев назад

For me, I did work in school. But i did not touch anything outside school, that was my self-curriculum. I would nap in class often, but find the page and sniff out the details. Group project, i want to do it myself. No pace, no memory. Powerpoint? Structured but nervous. Lectures, want people to 'stfu'. I let the overstim build up til i have to do somthing. My home is a disorganized pile of continuously developing projects i manage to come back to

@NeurodiverJENNt 7 месяцев назад

This video isn't sponsored by devilwood 😆 Totally feel you on the iPad frustration. I struggle to read instructions, So when trying to figure out how to do something on a computer or an iPad that requires a lot of mental effort can bring out the hulk in me. Awesome video! Very entertaining Thank you

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I like the phrase of bringing out the Hulk - and glad you liked the video!

@1997Jeep 7 месяцев назад

Hello, I just found your channel. As a Dyslexic AuDHD I like your work, thank you for making these videos.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

You are very welcome!!

@TheVOLTAGEVIDEOS 2 месяца назад

Thank you! This was quite informative an interesting. I am going to my GP tomorrow to seek the ADHD diagnosis first, to get the ball rolling. The music this time was okay. On a different video, it was quieter, like most people wouldnt have heard it at my volume. It was so subtle that it kept distracting me. I love that you have ones without music. I will beeline right to them.

@MosaicLotus 7 месяцев назад

Yay!! This encapsulates my life experience. I am going to offer this video for family members who ask about details about my ADHD/ASD. I really love the information, presentation, and style. My spouse, they have so many challenges with my audhd. My late diagnosis opened my mind and this beautiful creation validates, describes, and expresses so much of my life. Thank you!

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Thanks so much for your comment and for sharing with family and friends! That was one of the reasons why we wanted to start this channel - to help build better understanding and a community of support for autistics and those who want to better support them. Let us know if you have suggestions for topics that you think would be most helpful, and thanks for being here!

@cheesecake7274 7 месяцев назад

@csmatthew 2 месяца назад

I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, and awaiting assessment for ASD. Your video prompted a memory of mine from the last job I had (two years ago, yay for ND employability). I was working in a food delivery place and as a driver, it was my duty to ensure the orders were properly arranged. Well, I would check the order before leaving the store each and every time. It would add maybe 1-2 minutes to the process, but avoided a whole lot of difficulty explaining to the customer why their order was incomplete/wrong, and having to drive back and return with the correction. Well, the people I worked with grew tired of me checking the orders, they got outright angry at me doing so, making it seem like I was insulting their competence. A check, is not an insult, it is a check, and besides, errors were made from time to time, maybe as much as 5% of orders would be incorrect if not checked first. I left the job feeling burned out and isolated. My employer asked why I resigned (via text), so I gave an explanation, and all I received back was a 'thumbs up' emoji. I have learned since how NTs use techniques to remove NDs from their group. This is not always conscious on their part. It is part of our sociocultural evolutionary adaptation as a species. But it is precisely this sort of non-inclusivity of neurotypes in the workplace that prejudices against us.

@davidstoneking5768 7 месяцев назад

Great video! So much of this resonates with me. I can’t tell you the number of computers, laptops, keyboards, phones, etc… I have destroyed over the past 35 years due to frustration, and yes it sucks. By the way, I didn’t mind the background jazz music, it was soothing.

@KingDoug 7 месяцев назад

I totally get you with the being able to eat something day after day and still being excited about it each time. I've never entirely understood people's need for variety simply for the sake of variety. I have the same meals every week, and it takes so much stress out of life. I can then perfect those few meals so that it's a joy to eat them every time. And I can make sure that throughout the week, I'm getting enough healthy stuff. I've been having tuna sandwiches for my lunch every day for the past 20 years, and I still look forward to eating them because I've absolutely perfected them.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Absolutely! If you love it, why change? And it does make life so much easier. I do this with my clothes too. I have 30 of the same tshirts. 3-4 of each color. I know what I’m wearing without thinking about it and I’m always comfortable.

@melindashultz3052 3 дня назад

I recently found your videos, and I really like how you present so much relevant information while still being silly and vulnerable with your personal experiences. I especially like your outtakes at the end. I laugh for real.

@ChrisandDebby 3 дня назад

I appreciate your comment and it helps keep me motivated. It can get a little exhausting sometimes to share so much, so thanks for this! Glad you found us!!

@stolenzephyr 7 месяцев назад

Not sure if I have ADHD. But I've eaten the same breakfast for 15 years, and still enjoy it. So definitely have traits of asd

@ozelhassan8576 7 месяцев назад

This was excellent and the attempt at rap at the end was just much fun.

@anjachan 7 месяцев назад

I really really never thought I could have one of them or both ... first when I learned about autism I really felt familar with that. After some time when I learned more about adhd I really begin to think I could have that too ... Im an adult, already physically disabled and I really don´t know if a doctor would check this out. All my life my physically disability didn´t explain everything I experience.

@MarleyDay 7 месяцев назад

At 28 I began to feel like my batteries needed changing. At 30 I was diagnosed ASD/ADHD and hid it. At 36 I was in a wheelchair because my legs wouldn't move but a few inches at a time. I hurt more than words can express and was told I would never improve so they approved me to go on disability. My mousing arm would twitch hard and they said it was mini-strokes. I decided to do the opposite of what I was being told. I thought, "I was fine for 28 years... something else is going on." So I studied microbiology, removed all toxins from food and body products and anything that had a smell. I crawled around the house instead of using my wheelchair and got a vibration plate exerciser from Amazon. I call it The Wiggle Machine. It improved my circulation, lymphatic system and balance enough that I could do other things to improve more. I did isometric exercise and weights in hands and bands on legs... Now I'm 55 and can walk 10K steps a day. I stopped masking and my energy improved more. I'm still fatigued from sensory and still have Autistic shutdown and burnout cyclically because I'm stubborn and a wild donkey. Our community frequently self-diagnosis because the NT doctor isn't able to understand the ASD/ADHD experience. Yesterday my colleague said he saw a prior colleague who is on the spectrum. He told her he used to think all the issues she had were just in her mind. Then he worked with me and I'm very communicative with images speaking for me and I go WAAAY outside of my comfort zone and give presentations and fire side chats at my International employer and speak openly about my story. I counsel parents with ASD children helping them understand textures and smells and resistant behaviors. Don't check out. Don't depend on doctors. Do your research. Immerse yourself in solutions for you, and take them one at a time. You are the Captain of your ship.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing this, and you are spot on when you say that you’re the captain of your own ship. My own diagnosis came about after a lifetime of wondering what was going on but then Debby putting a lot of pieces together from other experiences to guide me towards getting a diagnosis. (I actually have a video in the works on my diagnosis story.) It made me realize how important it is to advocate for yourself and also to remember always that you know yourself best. Doctors of course can help bur ultimately, they don’t always have all the answers, partly because it’s hard for them to have all the info and to really understand. Really inspirational to hear how your life is improving!

@chrispetersen4863 6 месяцев назад

@@MarleyDay - Very interesting Marley. Now you have my own gears whirling. In my late 20's early 30's I began to have serious painful sensory and autonomic neuropathic issues that progressed and have left me disabled physically with an implanted morphine infusion pump to lower the chronic pain levels and unable to work. Thankfully it has not yet progressed to the point of needing a wheelchair, though I think if I hadn't had the intra-thecal pump implanted I would likely be there. I have also, throughout my 52 years, displayed signs and symptoms of what I am sure would/could be diagnosed as ADHD, as well as some signs that I may also be partially on "the spectrum." I am constantly trying to push through and outside my comfort zone, and am always "masking" and hiding my pain levels from family and fiends. It has gotten to the frustrating point of me even when I open up and tell them I am having a rough day and feeling like crap that they dismiss it with "You're always feeling like crap" and the like. I too have had "mini-stroke" like symptoms on occasions. I also have noticed that changing up my diet has made significant changes as well, as a year ago I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and completely changed to a carnivore and then transitioned to a ketovore type diet and noticed marked improvement in how I felt, in my cognition, and also completely reversed my type 2 diabetes (A1C was 10.1 when diagnosed, took it to 5.3 within 3 month of the changed diet, and am currently at 5.2) with the changes. On the rare occasions that I have something outside my diet I definitely notice a difference in how I feel and how I think, brain fog, etc. So now you have me wondering if all of these things can in some way be related. Thank you.

@ozwaldmosis3603 7 месяцев назад

regrading your stuggle to not interupt some one jump in mid sentence. I found that learning about the principles of active listening really helped me. the whole don't thing about a response until the other person has finished speaking. Its still a challenge but it really helped.

@chrispetersen4863 6 месяцев назад

I always heard "Chris is such a bright and intelligent student. If only he'd apply himself..." and also " He can't sit still, Chris is so disruptive I don't know what we can do with him." ( I also was bullied quite a bit because of both when younger) I am absolutely positive that I have spent my 52 years with undiagnosed ADHD, I do notice some ASD signs, but not very many so I am not so sure about that. I find myself constantly interrupting people so I don't forget my thought that I have to get out at that moment. As far as friends, I have tons of acquaintances, but only a handful of friends. I absolutely sympathize with the impatience and frustration actions you mentioned. I also struggle with rejection (rsd), and definitely have intense reactions to certain situations. Another thing, and I am not sure it is related to either is the inability and not being handle the state that many meds put me into that I refer to as the "fuck it" state, where I just do not care about anything. I absolutely loathe being in a state where I do not care about things. Anyhow, thank you for putting this vid out and discussing these topics.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Thanks for watching and also sharing your own experiences, especially with late diagnosed ADHD. I can connect well with those exact comments from teachers - which is part of why I think it’s important to share too. Lots of kids are told this as they grow up and it leads to a negative self image, but I was the same when I was in elementary school and in those days, I was also just told I was smart but disruptive/unfocused etc. I had to learn how to adapt to not get into trouble as often. It’s also interesting how much overlap can occur with ADHD and ASD - I’m still learning now that I know I have both!

@nycchislc 3 месяца назад

I'm a 35 year old man who was recently diagnosed with ASD & ADHD by a psychologist and am still facing extreme imposter syndrome. This video helped a lot.

@ChrisandDebby 3 месяца назад

Really happy to hear this for you - I felt the same way when I was first diagnosed at 41. I have a lot about that in our videos so hope you’ll continue to follow my journey but also keep us posted on how yours goes too. You’re not alone with those feelings

@AlfUckhamHall Месяц назад

Oh wow, after watching your video and considering my conditions, I'm now thinking I'm more affected by ADHD than I am ASD. Another thing I've realised is that time and time again I tried to explain how I was feeling to my ex-girlfriend, but she thought and said that I was "playing on it" or "making excuses because I couldn't put into words my current situation and how it was affecting me". I realised that for years "I've masked" my feelings in order to seem normal and fit in, not anymore, I'm just going to be me, it's wearing me down trying to act normal.

@BenDover-cm5mo 7 месяцев назад

Herr, your Channel is superb!

@hardcoreherbivore4730 7 месяцев назад

Soooo, I’m pretty much exactly what you described. It’s been pretty debilitating for my personal relationships. Tragically, I stopped trying to be “normal” many years ago. Which resulted in almost 2 decades of being alone. Never been happier, but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m missing out. In the best physical shape of my life, so there have been opportunities. Been considering wearing a ring just so nobody gets hurt. It’s kinda devastating for a person to hear that I am single, but not interested. They take it personally, no matter how I try explaining. 😑

@warp.routine 7 месяцев назад

Coming from someone with confirmed ADHD, suspected ASD, and journeying through discovery with my young children's unique combinations of both, this video is fascinating. Thank you for sharing.

@Tilly850 7 месяцев назад

Yup, I have both. At 65 no childhood recognition of either. The music is fine OR the talking, but my brain is really struggling to focus on your talk because of the music. I am taking a break in the video for the second time due to this. I'm heading to the no music version! LOL Just noticed the link.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Glad you found it!! We're planning to include these options more often in the future - we appreciate the feedback and you being here!

@tulleuchen 7 месяцев назад

Wow! I can totally feel you on the eating the same thing over and over. I could actually eat PBJ sandwiches for the rest of my life for lunch and maybe dinner (but not breakfast). As long as they are using unsweetened PB, and strawberry preserves. I could vary it, but then it's just not as good. I always expect that around my birthday I'll have Cheesecake as well. Especially good if it has fresh strawberries on it, and even better if they have no sugar added. I never really thought about it much. See I must have developed techniques to deal with change and variations in food. I can eat just about anything that people throw at me. Though inside I'm quietly disappointed by the problems with the flavors and textures. But if someone point blank asks me to honestly say if something is good or not, I'm going to tell them. Well I'm just eating it because I need food, or I'm just eating it, because so N so made it and I didn't want to be rude.

@tirzagreen796 7 месяцев назад

oof! I feel you! I have a sensitivity to the brand though... Kraft brand original kd vs the nasty bargain versions... certain sauces and types of processed foods too. I go through cycles with food..pia pizzas for a month two out of every 5 meals, pogo's every lunch time, same with KD... ate a box of it for dinner every day for a couple months and was totally happy about it. Now... I haven't eaten any of those things in the last few months and probably won't because now I'm fixated on hot dogs and pancakes... sigh

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I've recently been going through a PBJ binge (on gluten free bread these days) so I hear you on that. I just shared a video about a binge on sweet and sour pork that reminds me of what you're saying too. You can watch it here (and let me know what you think): ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-xp9tg5R1H-s.html I also can't get enough of the cheesecake too, especially Bailey's cheesecake! I find what you said about dealing with change and food variations to be really interesting. We all find ways to adapt and it sounds like you've developed some good ones!

@cjposing 7 месяцев назад

I know this is completely different from a lot of people in the comments, but thank you for having the music in the background. I saw some people comment about it and tried the no background music video and found it incredibly hard to concentrate.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Haha! I don’t mind the background music in the videos some of the times. I’m trying my best to accommodate my fellow autistics. I think I’ll continue doing two versions. Thanks a bunch for sharing your thoughts. Really appreciate it!

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Thanks for letting us know! We are realizing that there is a huge range of preferences, so we'll plan to keep both options coming.

@nekobat1962 13 дней назад

I have the symptoms of both. I've never been diagnosed but this describes me perfectly.

@Ninzip 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for this clear, humorous and structured video! Thanks especially for summarizing each section. It helps immensely! Immediately had to subscribe to your channel. 😀 I also see a lot of people are distracted by the background music, but I actually like it to help me focus. I really appreciate you gave your viewers two options, though! Awesome! BTW during your video I kept thinking no but I am way more ASD, but now that I reread my reaction it looks very ADHD hahahah

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

You might have both!!

@j.b.4340 7 месяцев назад

Thank you for the video. Most of the things you listed, are also symptoms of Klinefelter Syndrome(xxy), and Jacobs Syndrome(xyy). The struggle is real. 🙂

@JerrTheHooman 4 месяца назад

Story of my life! I NEED routine but I regularly crave novalty and spontaneity. Ive been called "cold, nonchalant, self contained, dead inside, " etc because of my lack of outward emotional expression. Only now at 26, I'm realizing that I'm high masking. I remember having VERY BIG reactions as a child and being told that I was inappropriate and embarrassing and shouldn't behave that way(squealing with joy, meltdowns with frustration, crying over something seemingly irrelevant). As a teen to young adult, I moved to the opposite extreme and suppress everything until 2020, the year we all hated... I experienced my first bout of burnout and it took a year and a half to recover. I see now that even if I suppress the outward reactions, I still feel inner turmoil. I get tension headaches and chest pain, restless legs, jaw aches and other body aches, nausea and vomiting, diarrhea, etc. I literally got a stress ulcer in 2020 😅

@ChrisandDebby 4 месяца назад

Same with the major stomach issues because of anxiety and stress! But I am the same with the need for routine but also spontaneity. I’m working on it a lot because otherwise I did into periods of autistic burnout more and more. (And I also have always masked a lot! Covid was also what brought about my diagnosis ultimately - so lots of parallels.) Thanks for sharing your experiences!

@TheAdhdGardener 7 месяцев назад

I had to speed u up 1.5x(i talk fast n listen just as fast🤷‍♀️) I dont have autism(just adhd combined type) but i was told by many people that my sis n i do due to our sensory issues, directness no sugar coat approach n we also appreciate people as direct as us. Im more of a black n white thinker at times. 🤔 eye contact is 50/50 i dont mind but dont gaze into my eyes for too long

@sandraharris8978 7 месяцев назад

Things I am working on right now are: Noticing when I am masking and why I am masking right then, noticing the times and situations when I am impuslive, saying no, shame and negative associations when it comes to Emotional Dysregulation.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

How are things going? Do you track your observations down in a notebook and look for patterns? It also helps to get someone who knows you and loves you to help collect data and provide you with support. Good for you though to take steps to improve your life! You should be extremely proud of yourself. Working through what you are is not easy. It takes a lot of strength and courage.

@sandraharris8978 6 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby It's been really interesting and very insightful. I've been able to recognize why I do it and what situations it happens the most. I record what I can remember in my journal but my goal for the month is to put together my Support/Behavioral plan so that I can have everything related to both my ADHD and ASD accessible to me and therapists/doctors. Sadly, I live on my own and don't come into contact with many of my friends as often anymore. They know I am kinda being a hermit right now but are understanding whenever I need the support.

@carutherswillaby7592 7 месяцев назад

It's always been weird to me how OTHER people think it's weird to eat the same thing every day.

@deathtouchltd 7 месяцев назад

I struggle the most with my emotional regulation and responses. It’s either zero or one hundred percent. No in between. I have spent many years working on it, and I have gotten better but some days are harder than others. I also hate when my path is interrupted or I have to change it. It drives me crazy

@molchmolchmolchmolch 7 месяцев назад

I really like your energy but THE MUSIC ohgawd it's driving me insane 😂 It literally hurts my ears and brain Anyone who wants or needs the music - I'd be interested to understand why you prefer it with the music if you feel like explaining 😊 EDIT: oh, just saw your pinned comment about the no music version. 😂 Thanks for that.

@danwilhite 7 месяцев назад

Great video! This editing style helps me pay attention. Now I want some sweet and sour pork!

@IaneHowe 7 месяцев назад

Everything you mentioned on ASD I thought was symptoms of my ADHD so more and more I'm starting to think I actually have both. Just because I don't have massive meltdowns doesn't mean I don't have ASD. It's just that I have more constant, smaller hidden ones. I am very easily anger with interruption because it irritates me specially when Im super ultra hyper focused. BTW I always called the H in adhd as interchanging hyperactive to hyper focused.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Yeah, not everyone with ADHD has the hyperactivity component. I can’t say for sure whether you’ve got asd or not, but if you think you might, I’d recommend researching it hard. Knowing is important because it can give you a framework with where to start figuring out what you do and don’t need. And it’ll help you to better understand why you are the way you are.

@dimpsthealien333 25 дней назад

It's literally maddening having both. 😢

@playmusic8056 6 месяцев назад

Eye contact hack: look at the top of the nose, between the eyes, but look a couple inches past the nose, like inside the skull. No anxiety when i do that.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Great tip! I also look a bit above one eye sometimes - but I get easily distracted if there's something else on the face to look at. I'll try your way next time I'm having a conversation like this

@Chris-wj6pn 6 месяцев назад

Oh my, that obsession with a single meal... I've run into that many times throughout my life, but I force myself to vary my food so the people around me don't think I'm insane. Yes, I'm ASD. ;)

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

I know what you mean!!… But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to eat what I like, even if it’s the same meal for a month straight. If the people around you think you’re insane and disrupt your natural tendencies, it might be time to surround yourself with some different people. You deserve to be you!!

@Elodie_N_INTJ_Analyzes 7 месяцев назад

Great video ! I am caught in 4 worlds : Gifted, Asperger (diagnosed in 2022 and 2023) ADHD (surely inattentive type), and my personality types/functioning : INTJ, enneagram 5w6, tritype 583. So.. yeah.. a lot of issues. 💙

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

So awesome! You’re in your own world and I wanna come visit!!

@rebeckajarl3934 7 месяцев назад

I definitely relating to the ASD part and I'm also recently diagnosed with this I'm still on the fence for if I also might have non hyperactive ADHD or not. I am dyslexic. This is a great video. I have struggles sticking to a routine I want sameness and change at the same time... and me and time well let say time disappears from my consciousness most of the time and I get really stressed if I have to remember time exists unfortunately one can not live in a continuous fairy circle and still connect to others. Light and sound are extremely hard for me, and social meals who thought it was a good idea to eat and be social at the same time.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Love the line "who thought it was a good idea to eat and be social at the same time" - true in many situations for me. Thanks for sharing your experiences a bit - I connect with many of the things you're mentioning too

@rebeckajarl3934 6 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby That is the grate thing with the neurodivergent community when we share our experiences and see others share theirs we find words for our own experiences, or new ways of seeing them. That type of recognition the neurotypical takes for granted since the neurotypical experiences are shared in so many ways and voices that they are not starved for that type of recognition in the same way as neurodivergent people are in a neurotypical society. Our experiences differs in lot of ways just like for the neurotypical individuals. But so much resonates with so many others that's why I'm so grateful for you and other neurodivergent RU-vidrs that are willing to share your voices and experiences.

@MysteryGrey 7 месяцев назад

I like your voice, popping sounds, jazz music....I haven't really heard what you've said yet. Okay, I settled, I hear ya, you're funny, I subbed, thank you.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Appreciate it! Glad you enjoyed the video!!

@Nethezbet 7 месяцев назад

I rarely got in trouble, per se, but I was often marked as the "wasted potential" kid. ASD, ADHD, and high IQ. I was always in the gifted/honors programs, but graduated HS with a 2.5 gpa, lol. There is nothing worse than being in a classroom. I did, however, graduate as the first student to complete an online program for a major University. The University president even flew out to meet me, they put me in their magazine, it was neat. But I also didn't have to be in a classroom =P

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I did well in school, but what a struggle. I hated it. I don’t like most structured learning environments. I prefer to learn by myself, with a mentor, or in small groups… and I learn best by doing. Congrats on being the first student to complete an online degree at a major university!!! Good for you!!

@magnifisweets 7 месяцев назад

Oh, wow! I was about to comment that I strongly related to your “favorite scent” experience with devilwood, but that my favorite scent was a different flowering tree, sweet olive. Then I went and googled a bit… and found out they are close to the same tree. I imagine they have similar scents. I also have a combination of ADHD and ASD, and did also relate to most of the other points you made, as well.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I’m going to find out more about this sweet olive. It sounds like something I would love!

@weaselkish9188 7 месяцев назад

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 4 years of age which I know is uncommon given I'm female but now that I'm older I feel that I may have Autism too.

@MarleyDay 7 месяцев назад

Having both ASD/ADHD for me means not knowing which behavior belongs to which. So, if it is something I can spin to advantage me/others, it is a SUPER POWER and if it hurts me, it makes me Spectrum Sick... lights, smells, sounds, routine changes la la la Using the term Spectrum Sick has really helped me at work. I no longer need to give all this information to my manager which is really justification. I'm open to my team and just tell them I'm Spectrum Sick. They know that could be many things in a bucket. They don't need specifics... they just need to know that I'm likely unable to speak and can barely just stare at the TV. I used to "go liquid" when I had change in my life, but now that I'm on the Carnivore Diet, it is sooo much better. IBS is poopy hahaha literally and figuratively hahaha I made a funny :=) One thing I've found is that I get ennui (becoming wearied/dissatisfied/bored) when I am not challenging myself cognitively. I'm there right now. My ennui leads to negative Spectrum responses and really impacts my life. I'm more concrete in my thinking and detest going outside. My self-care is minimal and I may pout excessively ;=) Learning or creating or anything that challenges me to use more skills than I have been recently will get me into a better place slowly... with a lot of pouting hahaha I communicate my emotions by finding images online of animals in a state which seem to match how I feel. Today my friend asked how I am, so I sent a puppy who fell asleep in their food dish. I just get so fatigued lately. I've begun writing a white paper at work, so I'll be digging myself out soon. I really like your videos. Everything about them is calming. I like the graphics and words together, and the summary. Well done! Go forth and be AMAZING!

@taoist32 7 месяцев назад

I have found the carnivore diet also keeps me more calm and less likely to overreact to my usual sensory triggers. I still have an issue with bright light at night, especially in my bedroom. With fall and winter season, it gets easier as I can get under the covers without getting too hot. Unfortunately, I still overheat fairly easily, and any type of light at the point keeps me awake. My alarm clock, the router or modem, my Apple Watch, the porch light next to my window. I need to get rid of everything electronic.

@MarleyDay 7 месяцев назад

@@taoist32 Totally agree with the lights. I've been using the Manta Sleep mask with blue tooth with success. They have detachable cups and can get cups that go into microwave a few seconds or in the freezer for an hour and NICE ♥ I use the heat ones when my eyes are burning from sensory and just sit with them on my face and a permasmile :=) I also have to sleep under a weighted blanket and for some reason I am immediately hotter when I lay down than the seconds before. I've gotten a room air conditioner and am able to control a small portion of my place instead of all of it. When I had vaulted ceilings, I had a privacy pop bed and put the AC right at the opening and it was glorious!

@Gorgonzeye 7 месяцев назад

The only reason I didn't used to eat the same meal every day was to appease some sense of normalism that I had internalized at some point.

@fireblade295 6 месяцев назад

So I have both. I kinda figured it. I need my browser up or play a show while gaming, because I can't focus unless something is constant in the background, like shows or a playlist I made. I can't handle loud, constant sounds. "Lived" in a house (that I will NEVER EVER return to) where the land[censored] would constantly slam things, constantly have people over. It was nearly constant noise in the background. Do something wrong? The [censored] yells, despite it being an easy thing the [censored] to do. I also can't handle crowds or busy places. If there are kids, I need to wear headphones with one ear uncovered to pay attention to my surroundings (something that creature didn't get) and play music. I am attracted to very soft things, pumpkin scent, watermeleon, and other pleasant scents. If its soft, I have to fight the urge to rub it on my face. Its not something in my control, I MUST rub it on my face, but when buying it, its in public and I got into the habit of making it hard to 'unmask'. I feel like I am interrupted more, unless they pause first. I can't tell what their body language conveys, unless it is obvious. I am exhausted after holding eye contact. I need to interact with you a lot before I can initiate conversation. Otherwise, you need to start, ask, and engage me in conversations that can hold my attention. So small talk is a no. Instead my tablet or phone, my computer and/or internet makes me frustrated. I have broken a mouse or two by throwing it. I can tell that I am upset, but I can't tell if its annoyance or frustration. I know to stop what is making me angry, but I continue. Have gotten better at stopping, but I still do it. (I wanted a character in a gacha game, but didn't get her. My response? Uninstalling and forgetting it existed for almost a year) I have a routine when I first wake up, vitamin, bathroom, computer. If I remember before I get TOO hungry, I eat. Any disruption, my day is ruined and never actually starts.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

We have a lot of the same traits. I'm reading through your comments and nodding my head all over the place. And I'm with you, I never go back to a place that really disrupted my life - loud noises, horrible environment, etc. And yes, the morning routine is so important. If I don't follow mine, or something disrupts it..... oh boy. My entire morning and possibly the whole day is done.

@andi56837ykvk 2 месяца назад

Having watched this video I’m surprised I didn’t know about either adhd or autism til recently lol 😂 I can definitely relate to adhd but autism it’s been a lot of “definitely” and “ah no can’t relate”. However I can relate to a lot of what you’ve shared here. As I’ve become more aware of both conditions (yes it’s become my intense interest), I recognise a lot of things that I thought were random querks, stubbornness, and a wide variety of health conditions- all linked to ASD. I’ve come to realise that I didn’t previously pick up on how I subconsciously stimm and how I suppress my emotions, but still struggle to understand and regulate my emotions - they can go from 0 -> 100 in seconds 🙈 I’m on a learning journey and my body’s deciding to gradually expose me to more and more of the stuff it’s been suppressing for over 35 years 🙈😅 Also I agree, the music was a bit distracting. So I’m glad you’ve redone this video without music.

@csmatthew 2 месяца назад

Same food for weeks on end. Yes! Also outfits! (Ideally I would just have a wardrobe of identical outfits, but society expects us to alternate daily...if I'm wearing the same clothes, that is not to suggest I am wearing *the same* [unwashed] clothes...just that I have identical ones. But yeah, sometimes I am wearing the same ones :D ) Listen to the same album on repeat for years at a time? Yup. Especially with classical music, how can one possibly appreciate each melodic line, each turn of phrase, in a single listening? If I lived in an age before recorded music, I would be bankrupt from constantly going to the concert hall every day.

@jacobanderson9530 7 месяцев назад

Great video 100% subscribing :)

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Awesome thank you!

@melanielloyd812 2 месяца назад

I've become so engrossed in painting art work for hours that sometimes when i look up from it, I find everything look like an an oil painting with lots of light and shade and texture and then sometimes objects can appear flat , one tone in colour and blocky looking with black outlines , almost cartoon looking. It can last a few hours and gets on my nerves

@cailleanmccain 7 месяцев назад

You know, I had to listen to that part about your favourite scent several times to catch the name of the plant, but I guess you called it devilwood, so it might be osmanthus mexicanus/americanus, I guess. Funnily enough, we do have an osmanthus fragrans in our garden, which is supposed to smell really good, and I have never smelled it really, it is not intense or intoxicating for me at all. It cannot be unpleasant, but I am not drawn to it. I have other scents I really like, coffee would be a pretty normal one, but also the scent of warm bitumen felt, that one makes me happy. ;)

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Now I want to try to smell the ones you mentioned!!! If it’s anything like devilwood, it would stop me in my tracks so I could just stand and inhale 😌

@echoc7213 7 месяцев назад

Crowds are definitely the worst. Unless I can choose the crowd. Like a party at someone's house or a busy bar I lose my mind and just kind of shut down and draw unless I can hang out and chat with the same one or two people all night. Costco's the devil, and even at the mall I just keep my headphones on w/ loud music. But a metal/rock concert with tons of people where I can go crazy and bounce around a mosh pit? Totally cool. It's kind of weird. I definitely felt that bit about getting super engrossed in a project, to the detriment of everything else. I remember as a kid sitting on a foot rest in the middle of a crazy family get together in a tiny San Francisco apartment and just reading the new Harry Potter book. Initially it was both a) I had the new Harry Potter book and *needed* to read it immediately and b) I did not want to figure out how to interact with everyone. But I just got so engrossed that I didn't even hear the people around me. And with projects, books, writing, games, etc- once I get into it time becomes meaningless. I think that's why I don't let myself play videogames as much or read books like I used to. I have to adult and with two jobs I can't afford to lose all track of time or have my head stuck in a story all day because I can't change tasks.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

Yes!!! The task switching just drives my brain crazy - Debby can do it and I don’t get it. I’m also the same with some books and games, so I can understand. I have learned after my diagnosis that time blindness is very common for autistics (also for ADHDers but kind of lumped into hyper focus) - Debby did a video that we uploaded recently and something she mentioned from her POV was how surprising it was to understand the full extent of time blindness for me 😂 so you’re definitely not alone! Do you have both ADHD and ASD?

@bhutjolokia6990 7 месяцев назад

When you start masking at the age of 5 you stay out of trouble for the most part. Because of this 52 years later I am unleashed went through a week of unregulated emotions and it was not easy. The upside I have learned really quick to adjust but struggle with my speach now. I talk faster and don't think before speaking so it's got me almost stuttering for words to come out but I don't care lol. I do care that my girlfriend is the only one who points it out to me and her daughter is on the spectrum🤔😳🤭 I think someone is not so accepting.👻🌶️

@mirandelf 7 месяцев назад

Thanks for the interesting video. I’d like to understand more about the distinction between these two syndromes. You talked about ADHD and ASD as if they are all one bundle. What does ADHD or ASD look like without the other.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Thanks for the feedback! We have a couple videos in the works where we will discuss both ADHD and ASD separately because they are unique - but since Chris has the combination of them, we wanted to talk about them together here. So we appreciate your suggestion!

@spoons2075 7 месяцев назад

You are dope! We have a lot in common!😎

@StrategicCastle 7 месяцев назад

I take notes during conversations. So I don't need to say it or forget it. Well, when I can and not seem weird - phone calls and business-ish stuff.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I used to do that (and still do sometimes), but then I’d forget where I took my notes. My phone is too small for that. What do you use to take notes?

@StrategicCastle 7 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby I would lose notes too. I buy packets of small, threaded-spined (so no loose pages) notebooks. Fits easy in a pocket. Also prefer no lines, just blank paper. Always disliked lined paper. This is the last ones I bought from Amazon: TWONE Pocket Notebook, 12 Pack Softcover Small Notebook for Taking Notes, Plain Paper, 30 Sheets, 3-1/2” x 5-1/2”, Kraft Brown Cover

@barbyoungberg 7 месяцев назад

Great video! I can relate to ALL of it. But at my age I am satisfied with self diagnoses. BTW - the background music is too loud and detracts from your awesome content.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Glad you liked the video! I've spoken to my video editors and the background music won't be a problem in the future. I'm also going to upload versions with no background music.

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Here's the version with no background music! ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-g2O4r5iFLXA.html

@redhotsupernintendo 7 месяцев назад

Dude, I have that same hoodie! I wear it all the time! Instant like, gonna continue to watch the video now 😅

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Oh man, I love these hoodies! I’ve got 2 of every color. And yeah, I wear them all the time!

@kianabrown6631 7 месяцев назад

I sometimes also eat the same EXACT thing for 3 weeks straight 😅. My husband also found that funny and strange. 😊

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

It is kind of funny. But it’s also pretty awesome

@lorisiccia5914 2 месяца назад

I have never smelled devilwood but My fav smell is Plumeria flowers...smelled when walking in oahu past s plumeria tree..then picked up a fallen flower...amazing so i put one in my hair..held with bobbie pin so it didn't fall out... and kept on in a journal to smell later...unfortunately not found here in canada even in tropical floral sections at rona.

@emilbirb 7 месяцев назад

I suspect my autism may be masking potential undiagnosed ADD (I definitely do not fit enough hyperactive type symptoms for that diagnosis, which I think makes it even harder to spot). The autism symptoms are definitely a lot more severe and obvious than the ADD ones. I love your description of your sensory seeking of certain scents, I'm exactly the same, don't make a single noise or ever touch me, but find me SNIFFING DRAMATICALLY when I catch a good smell (usually food smells, which is ironic because ARFID, I hate food). SMELLS ARE SO GOOD. When I was in elementary school there was this big trend of this eraser that was like playdough; never again will I find a stim toy as satisfying as that was. Interrupting people, talking over them, finishing their sentences, and getting impatient listening to them talk and feeling an almost compulsive need to butt in… This is actually one of the biggest reasons why I think I may have ADD. Your description is so spot on for me, I feel like I have to bookmark it...

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

I loved reading your comment! I get so excited and calm at the same time when I’m around an amazing smell. For me it’s certain flowers like the devil wood I mentioned but also lilacs. We had a huge lilac bush (it was the size of a tree) in our backyard and I’d just sit near it and smell. I also love pumpkin, apple, mulled wine type smells. Love to the point where I don’t want to leave a room that has these smells. As I’m learning more and more about asd and ADHD, I’m starting to better understand why women slip under diagnosis detection more frequently than men. Their symptoms are sometimes different and they mask really well. Also, quietly getting distracted is a lot harder to notice than the fidgeting and movement related symptoms of someone who has the hyperactive component. I think it’s really important to learn about your behaviors and figure out what works best for you.

@nancyholter5646 7 месяцев назад

ADHD in women often is the "distracted" type, not the "hyperactive " type , which is why for decades only boys were said to have ADD/ADHD. The "good girls" who stared out the windows at school, and often missed what was actually going on - they WERE ADHD, but teachers just thought they were lazy or not trying to pay attention. No idea why both are called ADHD now, but that's medical terms for you.

@Dancestar1981 7 месяцев назад

It absolutely can do that’s why I didn’t get diagnosed until really late adulthood and only just got confirmation at age 42 of dual diagnosis

@Dancestar1981 7 месяцев назад

@@nancyholter5646or its combined type but the hyperactivity is internalised

@Catlily5 7 месяцев назад

@@nancyholter5646 I was accused of daydreaming.

@ShelleyHannaArt 7 месяцев назад

Only 12 days with the same food? I can go for MONTHS. Right now it's half a tuna fish sandwich on toasted hearty rye bread. That's been for the past 8 weeks and I get excited about it every single day. Before that was pork dumplings crisped in the air fryer with really hot sauce. That was for at least 5 months. I get curious about what new food thing will become my next obsession since it seems impossible that it will change anytime soon, but it always does eventually. I have a huge problem with light sensitivity and love the cold weather. I have a lot of food texture issues. I tend to stay away from people because I think I have to be pretty annoying to be around. I've never been diagnosed with either ADHD or ASD, but not really sure what good that would do for me anyway. Thanks for the video.

@rafsandomierz5313 2 месяца назад

Same though, my body will remind me when it's tired of the same food by causing gastric issues so I have to switch more often not by choice but necessity.

@SB_McCollum 2 месяца назад

@4:00 scents - Nest Candles have a scent called Moroccan Amber, when I burn it I can't remember much of anything. I know I'm thinking, but in 20 seconds I forget what I was thinking 30 seconds ago. It does not put me to sleep, however. But, intense immediate forgetfulness is a good thing for an overwhelmed brain, if you know what I mean.

@silverwurm 7 месяцев назад

Just diagnosed with both at age 40 😓. Yeah, a lot of things are making more sense now

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

It’s a relief at first to be able to connect the dots and have a better understanding of your behavior. Sometimes after diagnosis, it can be a roller coaster ride though. Anger rumination may come in and make things a bit bumpy. I’m currently working through this and trying to shift my thinking.

@PlanetZhooZhoo 7 месяцев назад

I really know what you mean about forgetting basic needs when you're video editing! I can ignore one to the point where to take the 6 steps the bathroom is excruciating! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Yes sometimes I just need timers (silent timers) to help with reminders, but I still forget often when I’m focused in on something

@robertabarnhart6240 7 месяцев назад

I have literally peed myself because I was so involved in something on the computer that I didn't register that my bladder was full.

@mindymac_does_stuff 7 месяцев назад

42 and recently diagnosed ADHD, which explains a whole host of things in my life but not all of them, so I do wonder about mild ASD. Eye contact is hell for me, even with people I deeply care for, I've got the food obsession, I ate the same breakfast for more than 10 years, and more or less I've got 10 go to meals that I'll eat. Your smell love, I've got that but I also am obsessed with the quality of natural light, like if you asked me about Winter sunshine I could talk to you for 30 minutes about the feelings it brings me (Joy). And I love love love my routines. But there's lots of stuff that doesn't land for me so I'm not entirely sure if it's mild ASD or just strong preferences working in tandem with 42 years of untreated ADHD 🤷

@MadEmm 6 месяцев назад

WINTER SUNSHINE❤❤❤❤. If it helps, I am AuDHD diagnosed, and I don't identify with many points on the list. Our modern understanding of ASD allows that not all signs will be present -- every autist will be a bit different, just like every nuerotypical. And the signs you noted are "more autistic" than mine, eg I hate repeating meals outside of a few breakfast items. (I assume this is the ADHD "winning" in this department 😅 ) No matter what, though, you are you and probably wonderful. ☮

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

You are absolutely correct! ASD looks different in all of us. I just read your comment and smiled at the timing. Earlier today I finished reading a great article talking about how no two autistic brains are alike. Ties perfectly with what you were saying! Thanks for sharing

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

ASD looks different in all of us! The spectrum is quite complicated with the combinations of possibilities. It’s really quite exciting! You are truly unique! And thank you very much for sharing!

@mindymac_does_stuff 6 месяцев назад

@@MadEmm This is such a kind comment, thank you. I don't know if I'll ever pursue diagnosis on the ASD, but (and I'm not sure if I'll be able t word this right, so know my intentions are coming from kindness), but having someone who's diagnosed tell me it sounds like ASD is helpful for me to frame my experiences. Wishing you happiness for the Holiday Season. Hopefully you're getting the winter sunshine in your neck of the woods 🩵

@mindymac_does_stuff 6 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby I also feel like this tracks for a lot of ADHD too. I have family and friends who also are diagnosed and none of us presents exactly the same, even with the same sub type diagnosis.

@rafsandomierz5313 2 месяца назад

I have had similar problems still have them when it comes to patience it's pretty hard but not as hard as during childhood. Though in my case it might be caused by PTSD and childhood abuse and other stuff not sure yet.

@lsmith992 2 месяца назад

That final one when you threw the ipad down is where i would admit defeat and beg someone else who can do it , please do it for me.

@ChrisandDebby 2 месяца назад

I should have admitted defeat before I threw it down.

@nikht0 7 месяцев назад

Before you finally said you smashed the ipad, I was totally anticipating it: "Here it comes...it's gonna get smashed...and...YES!!!" haha aw hell, been there many times

@ChrisandDebby 7 месяцев назад

Haha...It's pretty ridiculous. I've ruined an ipad, laptop, iphone, and most of my kitchen.

@nikht0 7 месяцев назад

@@ChrisandDebby It's like living with a petulant child, as in the famous line from Pogo, a vintage comic strip: “"We have met the enemy and he is us."”

@GhostIntoTheFog 7 месяцев назад

@nikht0 Viewing oneself or one’s neurotype(s) as “the enemy” is both pathologizing and self-defeating. No matter how well we prepare or how much we learn, we’re always going to have meltdowns, hit societal barriers or just simply have bad days. Ask yourself what supports or accommodations might make your life easier. Approaching life by seeing yourself as the problem is a recipe for failure.

@nikht0 7 месяцев назад

@@GhostIntoTheFog First of all, it was meant to be a joke. When there is an aspect of yourself that refuses to do what you ask it, it is natural to talk about it in terms of conflict, hence the enemy quip. In other words, it’s a form of dark humour intended to lighten what would otherwise be a stressful, dark subject. (Do I really have to explain this?) Second, I have no supports nor accommodations. And not for lack of looking or trying. So if I appear to somehow be “doing it wrong”, keep in mind I’m doing my best with what little I have to work with, including a petulant inner child and the peanut gallery giving me unsolicited advice.😉 ;) Thanks.

@oliviachipperfield6029 7 месяцев назад

😂 💯

@InfinitegardenbyBethK 7 месяцев назад

Devilwood might also be known as Osmanthus, which is a niche but not uncommon perfume ingredient. I have a bottle of “Love Osmanthus” by Atelier Cologne that is perfection in the hot summer months. I wonder if it’s similar to what you’re smelling on your walks.

@ChrisandDebby 6 месяцев назад

I’m not sure, but I’m going to track down the perfume you mentioned and if it is similar, I’m buying 30 bottles for my wife

@zheoferyth 7 месяцев назад

I'm diagnosed witb adhd but have been told that I have autistic traits before.... And I could relate to most of the ASD things on here... I guess I could be on the spectrum.

@Stormbrise 7 месяцев назад

I like y our video, for me it is Lilac bushes that can intoxicate me. I am hypersensitive to smell, but if I smell Lilac from afar, it over powers all other smells. However, your traits which I also have many of, are not just ADHD or ASD, they are traits in both diagnosis. However, I understand that for you it is easier for you to compartmentalize them into either ADD/ADHD and ASD. I have a trifecta diagnosis. ASD, ADD/ADD and OCD. Dyslexia is missed because of skills I learned from Head Start and my brother’s intervention with my hyperlexia, so Dyslexia only rears its ugly head when I am really tired. I started reading at 3 years of age. I noticed when I started to write that I had difficulty with the problem letters, and quickly overcame them, not with left and right, but some other thing I cooked up in my pre-school aged brain. Not left or right because I am dyslexic in that and struggle with that more. In a car people know to follow if I am hitting the window of the passenger seat, or waving my arm in the other direction. If they insist on left and right, they end up making the wrong turn. The ASD stubborn sticks in and ADHD gets agitated trying to remember left from right, that they have to give in. I do use the trick of making Ls with left and right hand, the one that is an L is your left, but remembering that beyond five minutes, forget it. I also was in band growing up, and I have had drumsticks thrown at me for starting off on the wrong foot when marching. Though that is easier and became reflexive, and once marching it is one foot then the other. Sorry for the overshare, another common trait for ADHD and ASD.

@Catlily5 7 месяцев назад

Lilac and Spanish broom smell so good. I don't think I have smelled devilwood. I cannot tell left from right while giving instructions. It makes for a lot of wrong turns. I gesture but I have been told it is a distraction while driving. I do use the "L" finger shapes when I remember.

@ishitaswaroop8779 7 месяцев назад

ooh i like the music

@Kittypaws90 2 месяца назад

i do that huffing thing with lilacs... also jasmine. and common milkweed. especially lilacs tho. i just wanna touch them, hug them, rub my face all up in the flowers and everything.