I literally come outside the house and count the number of cars parked just to know that I am not going to be the first one there. And if there are less than 3 cars, I hang around outside till many people come. Only then I enter.
a true introvert would not walk through that door, this is the best chance for one to have gone but leave early. you go so you can come home dressed up.
I have imaginary conversations with a non-existent therapist where I try to figure out what might be causing me to have imaginary conversations with therapists... What stage is that?
Well i don't think so 😄cuz if it would have been that much draining then i would have had died years ago becuz of how much i imagine and overthink about non-realistic conversation
@andrejagreen I don't relate to this at ALL. 🤣 My dad is the outgoing socializer while my mom and I are the introverts who would rather stay home, getting things done, over caring for our social needs.
same, I talk almost only in English both on the internet and in my mind, so randomly when I talk in French (my native language) I stop and just.. can't remember a really basic word that I was sure I knew 2 minutes ago.
I'm out of this world 👽, but learned, after two awful bouts of depression, that it is okay because I shouldn't worry about something I can't control. I hope this helps someone. 💝
I'm stage five, like exactly: I don't have social media, barely go to school, I have one friend that I don't talk to, lets not talk about me and fashion and I have interviews with myself and for some reason I don't feel lonely. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm really human.
Dude, each and every point is same as mine, even I don't go to school, it just sacrifices few internal marks but after some begging they allow me to sit in exam which I give by studying on youtube
My life "improved" a lot when I found alcohol, my savior. This one helps during embarrassing conversations and stressful events, in fact it helps in any situation that you have to go out for.
You forgot the introvert that, when push comes to shove, is super chatty and charismatic and sociable - for about 20 minutes, and then we crash hard and have to be dragged out of the safety of the bathroom and taken home. Nobody hears from us for a month.
So true. That's me when I'm stage 1, because as an INFJ I feel social responsibility - somebody might need to talk. If no-one need me, I do the stage 2 at the party. But must time I just have a good excuse
@@bluebellbell3725 I know! As an INFJ, I always feel so bad if I think people think I'm ignoring them. So then I interact with them and by the time I'm done, I can't do anything but lay down on the floor (what I'm doing now, actually)....
THIS. It makes me think of Goku when he uses Kaioken, and he fights really well until it starts fuckin' his body up. Then it's the full body cast lmao.
At which stage are you when you really only have one friend you talk to comfortably and when they’re too busy to talk to you, you’ll just be interaction-less until they come back? 🙃
I understand. Even worse, what if the last face to face friend you ever had is dead? My friend no longer replies. I think she's dead. That's what happened to my other friend.
Sometimes when I'm alone I start hypothetical "fights" with 'people' I don't like and I tell them off in a cool, nonchalant way... As opposed to real-life me who only knows how to breathe real heavy and sometimes cry when I'm too angry. 😂
@@itsbecca the thing that I do which probably looks weird from another persons perspective is that i ask the question in my head and answer it out loud-
I have a monthly subscription you have to call to cancel so my plan is to just skip each month until i die. My girlfriend has asked multiple times if she can just call and cancel it for me.
I reached that stage at age 7. I have moved beyond the normals now. (Maybe send help but... nah. I'm okay. Really.) - Lies in INFJ (Edit: Three child therapists ruled out psychosis.)
Stage 6: I have abandoned the English language entirely and now an the only one to speak a new language I invented-so no one will communicate with me ever again!
@@putrimonica3350 I don't imagine someone talking to me. I imagine I am giving speech to an invisible audience about topics like philosophy, science, social problems and so on. I feel like am an INTP but not quite sure about "I" part.
I have had the best time during Covid, everyone is making sure to stay away and I ignore every single text that I get until I forget about them for several weeks or more. I have worn pajamas and stayed inside for several years because of my health condition and its more comfortable than putting on clothes for no valid reason. I have been prepared for this new era my entire life. Being an introvert has never been this useful.
Same though Sometimes I have this weirdly specific question I want to be asked, but at the same I don’t want to be asked because that means social interaction So I just ask myself. It’s a win-win situation
@@oxymoronic717 ah yes I do this too 😂 other times I ask myself these questions just in case I get asked them irl and then when I do I can’t remember what I said the first time 🤦🏾♀️
I think it’s because introverts get caught up in “self-therapy” and CBT techniques. Then, due to total lack of human interaction, the brain just becomes addicted to talking to itself and you get stuck in that self-questioning loop.
ohh damn! that's one of the greatest dilemmas. I had been into it to. Took so many tests, each one brought me more confusion. The videos weren't helpful either. But when I understood the cognitive functions, that helped a bit. But not directly, I observed myself first, then applied cognitive functions on me. Meditation helped a lot. So did astrology. Then finally now I am sure I am an INFJ. But my extraversion is a little higher than most INFJs I talked to. Yet an overall introvert.
@@seymae.6657 lol, Seyma.. I am not enlightened. Btw if one considers self realisation a form of enlightenment, I don't think the self realised will be willing to classify oneself as INFJ, or ESTP or so. He will be more concerned about his nature of being, rather than how psychology or science evaluates her personality. Just a personal opinion.
When your friends just stop inviting you out- not gonna lie, that hurts. Would I have made up a dumb excuse to get out of it? Maybe. But I still would like to know that you care.
*Level 7: The Try to Fit in Again.* You realize you've gone insane being alone for so long, circle back to trying to engage socially and stand there awkwardly as everyone makes in jokes that you "had to be there for" 😢 Then you go back home and realize stage 3 was your sweat spot and work up a nice rapport with the delivery guy.
still in stage 1-2 but with the "time has no meaning to me" always there. i'm just floating in life and people are making the structure for me to follow.
At this point I have isolated myself so much that I don't have to find excuses anymore because no one wants to do things with me and Im kinda proud of it😊
Frank is a person with everything...when you ask him sense or intuition....he’s both!!! Humour is his key factor so if you ever want a lecture from him, it’s probably gonnna be the best! Happy Tuesday and thank you Frank for bringing a smile to our faces (my jaws feel nice)
tbh i’m glad i stumbled upon this video. i’ve never felt so related in my life especially the philosophy talking and all the existential crisis. one moment i’m calming myself down and the next i’m thinking about what the world is and if everyone here isn’t real except for me. some times, you don’t need to interact to bond or relate with someone. just go watch a youtube video or something.
Step 6: having interaction with strangers online. It is ok at first time but when they gain expectations, you distance yourself and hope they don't notice.
"In most days I do fake interviews where I answer questions as though someone is talking to me even though I'm here, all alone... Like right now" OMG, I'm a Stage 5: Hermit Level 100 and everything Frank James said about it was true for me! O_o
So many uncomfortable situations have happened to me that I don’t bother to avoid to do everything to avoid them anymore. I just land in them and shove my way through it. Lots of hard swallows.
I'm beginning to realize that is really the only way to go. "Life expands in proportion to our courage." And "Comfort zones are only expanded through discomfort."
When he tries to give Norwegians an accent it is hilarious! I know a couple Norwegians and almost none of them have a noticeable difference in voice from normal people.
Oh my goodness... I'm not the only one going over pretend interviews and different random dreams and situations in my head that end up spewing out of my mouth when no one is around? Shower, cooking, cleaning, driving... any and all the time!!?
If you're an introvert, you can't become an extrovert. You can however work in finding way to make challenging social situations more tolerable and explore your own unique ways of enjoying get togethers and group activities. It's good to be a more balanced person either way.
Why? People can't actually turn themselves from introverts into extroverts, they can only 'act' extroverted, which is exhausting if done too much, and in the end, it is not satisfying to live in discord with one's nature. The implication that introversion is a flaw that needs to be overcome is ignorant and toxic, and it's something that most introverts have been battered with far too much already. To all the introverts trying to be extroverts, I hope you learn to love yourself for who you really are and live in harmony with your nature. That doesn't mean you can't have relationships or improve your social skills to some extent, but trying to full-on be someone you're not is a recipe for burnout and misery in the long run. You're not an introvert because you're lacking something; you're an introvert because you have different things going on inside you, different skills and strengths, and a different way of taking in the world and experiencing life that is not any less valid or valuable.
I’m at that stage where I literally had a mental breakdown because there was a different delivery guy than usual and I had to talk to him for like 1 minute..🥲
Bruh, I ordered food the other day and it clearly says "Leave at door" on the app. So I'm listening for them to drop it off and then they KNOCKED. It surprised me so hard I screamed, which immediately ruined my ability to pretend I wasn't home.
