That’s not funny or cute and you shouldn’t humor men when they use words that are degrading. Like the P word and bitch the way those are used a lot, there’s others too but you should call them out on it, I don’t care how innocent, cute, funny subtle it is or sounds, that still sounds objectifying and if women are ever gonna get equality in this world it starts with language
That's why I'm never gonna sleep with my best friend, we like each other physically but it would destroy our relationship, and we wouldn't be a good match as a couple
That's so easy, women hold all the power. You wait until he invests a lot. Players usually don't want to do that, go on a date or few, if she doesn't give it up - they ignore, trying to make her feel insecure and then a naive young woman feels pressured into giving him sex expecting him to give her attention, it always backfires. If he doesn't text you in a week - just block, if he only texts you "how are you" and it doesn't go anywhere, shows low effort tell him that you don't think it's gonna work and move on. If he really likes you, he will put you maybe if not in the first place but at least in the 3rd and will give you more attention and time. There were guys that texted me last year and came back now, I don't even remember them. Don't entertain that. And get the title first.
Some people say it doesnt matter if u give it up right away, but I swear like 70% of the time it did not work out for me within the first 3 dates. Elliot tellin it how it is 👍
One time I gave it up right away because people said they have and are now in a relationship/married I’m never doing that again the guy I was seeing 2 years ago I already knew him for like 3 years before us even dating so it wasn’t a stranger
Victoria Love right!!! These couples I went to church with slept with each other on the first date and been married over 25 years( still married) but for me it didn’t work at all ( I only did it one time never again) shit my friend even had sex with her boyfriend before they even dated and he still asked her to be his girlfriend after 2 months
Men are stupid and soulless...that's my conclusion after years of dating. They only like you when you reject them and you don't care. Never happened to me that I liked someone, treated them fairly, and they liked me back. On the other hard, if I don't bother texting, meeting, investing, he loves me like crazy. Elliot, it's always like that. And even you, one day you'll meet a woman who will not love you back, and that's the one you'll pursue and marry in the end.
I suffer from the nice girl disease : treat everyone like you want to be treated. What a shame that it simply does not work in dating and I had to learn it the hard way! Like your no-bs-approach so much! 🙂
Thank you. Very good advice. I have made all those mistakes. Next time I will follow the 5 ways to build value and not be taken for granted. I finally ended a 7 year relationship of purely being used. I love your straight talk. You are so helpful and appreciated.
I literally came to the comments to say that this is one of my favorite videos and I can see that other people said that too you are definitely the Goat 🐐 Elliott.
The more bullet points you in include in descriptions, the better. Many of us are visual learners and that’s how the materials sticks in our minds. Thank you again!
Late post, but why is it being advised for women to hook up without requiring a relationship first? That situation is only beneficial for the man. Makes no sense for a woman to hook up, then request a relationship afterward.
So informative I wish i had this knowledge 8 months ago. I was out of the dating world for 17 years so rusty on the red flags but knowledge is power and the eyes are wide open. Trust your intuition ladies it won’t fail you
Elliot, I know there are probably alot of people, both men and women who might watch your videos and flat out disagree with you JUST because they hate the truth. Because the truth hurts. You're a raw person. I know not all "men are dogs" But that became a common saying BECAUSE the majority have traits like that. And you address that to women. And they really need to here it like it is. You make great and valid points. Thanks for making these videos. You're one of my favorite Dating Coaches. 🙂
Please make a whole video about pacing. How can we stop it or push him away without hurting his ego? Because its often so difficult to stop them because they manipulate women. Either they set you under pressure with words or gestures or they pretend to be devaluated and hurted.
Postpone (Reject) their sexual advances with warmth. Let them know how attracted you are to them and how much you like them (Affirm). Then let them know you’re not comfortable at this point (Set boundaries)
Your content is always solid, meaningful and informative. Love how you deliver in a systematic manner, whether it's through in-person presentation or powerpoint. :)
Please make a video on budding relationships! Lots of your content lately is on how to get him back. What if you have him and things are just starting. How do you play your cards the best to develop a wonderful romance and relationship? ❤
I was talking to a guy who is 45 and never been married. So hearing you say that made me laugh, because it was so specific to what is happening in my life🤣
Xx xX With great power comes great responsibility lol I like assuming the greater responsibility, it gives us women more control. Use that to your advantage😘💕💕💕💕
Joselyn Diaz - that’s not how that works. It means men get away with abusive and coercive behaviors because the girl “allowed” it. It means women are fully responsible or their own safety while men are allowed and get away with predatory behavior. You might be to defend yourself from predatory men, but they can probably sense that and they don’t target you.. men target women who don’t have the skills to defend themselves, so they don’t have the skills to be responsible for their own safety. It logically doesn’t make any sense. And men get away with destroying so many women’s lives, women who didn’t know any better.
@@XxxX-wx3er exactly that's why it's our job to teach them their behavior is unacceptable so that they don't do it to the next let's say younger and more naive girl
When I slowed down he started playing games on me, trying to make me chase him, pretending hard to get. I said it didn't work for me. So we have been in no contact for over a half a year now, I know he's not contacting me because of his ego 🤷
Elliot, from all the videos you made, this one is my favorite. No powerpoint presentation needed, you made it very clear how sick the human male brain works😝thanks
Straight forward and to the point helps for the ones ego that don't want to learn this stuff i.e. my "S.O." them seeing the words listed above makes or feel like school. Which is an immediate shut down. They hear more based on the presentation and today's was perfect and I thank you sir
Oh & im 47 & hav never married - I dont believe that a ceremony & party for every1 elses benefit, piece of paper & a ring has anything to do with how much u love sum1. 'If' I ever did get married I would want to do it elope style
There is nothing wrong with being 45 and never married . I'm 47 never married, by choice. There is nothing wrong with me I've turned down 5 proposals just wasn't ready to get married in my 20s and 30s. But now I am. Just thought I'd correct you on that point, but good video though.
Men hold the cards for marriage. Most men who get to that age and aren’t married have something wrong with them. The truth hurts, but it is what it is.
i like these kind of videos and for the live streams i like when they are around 1 or 2 pm for you it is 12pm or 1pm and this was interesting to learn about Elliot
Mr. Scott, you can say slay the kitty all you want, as long as you call me Sugar Titt's. Also, I'm looking for my personal "slay master" to slay my kitty. It's looking a little weak around here. But, I will continue with my search. Keep up the awesome work.
It's ironic that the guy goes very fast and then acts as if the woman is needy for moving at the same speed. Lol I learned from the past to slow it down. Also, it's interesting to see a man's point of view on what sex represents. For me, as a woman, sex represents love.
I like both types of videos. I prefer seeing you talking like a teacher does to his class. Maybe you can combine both kinds of videos. Also at night after 5 or 6 pm would be great, after work. That all lol. Thank you Elliot 😊
He ended a relationship maybe 6 months ago and we have been talking for 5 months every day, i think we have an emotional connection, but he isn't ready for a relationship. How long would it be for him to be ready. I told him i don't want to be friends with benefits and looking for something more serious, but he said he doesn't want to "lose me" so he said lets stay friends
You're not his first choice, you're just one of his many other options. Sorry sweety. Move on. I've been there. He NEVER came back unless he just wanted to use me some more. He kept me on the back burner to stroke his ego here and there while he was out sleeping with other girls. Your guy isn't any different. It'll never work. And he only came back once he saw that i moved on. Guys love the chase more than anything. Once he has access to you without needing to be with you he'll always find an excuse as to why you guys can't bd together. It's simple bc he doesn't wanna be with you. Move on and find someone who you're really mean't to be with.
@@user-xi9hd1zw7v thank you, i am not. I have actually distracted myself, stayed "friendly" but have leaned back. I reply at the end of the day or when i can, but definitely not my priority.
Ok, if we were to flip what you said about pacing and "how fast they're going, " then the woman can also assume "they like you, otherwise, why are they going that fast?" Women could also likely feel/say the same about a guy!
@@ElliotScottDating yep, esp when they push for intimacy (not just physical), sharing hopes, dreams, fears, deep dark secrets, love bomb you and future fake, falsify singular affections for you. Not just omitting, but outright lying about talking to/hitting on/pursuing/sleeping with other girls isn't just misleading, it is outright deceitful and manipulative. You should do a video about the differences between being "misleading" and being deceitful and manipulative. Also, let's discuss what a "relationship" is. When you're intimate w/ someone, spend time together, contact them daily, introduce them to your family and friends (or they know about you), help with their business and life? Oh wait, what does a BF/GF do again? What's the difference again? Because if people are going to use semantics and technicalities, then even WITH a "title," one could just as likely turn around and say, "well, you're my girlfriend/ boyfriend, but your idea of BF/GF is different from my idea" (and they go cheat without calling it cheating). If one has to use "technicalities" to excuse their behavior then 1. They're already wrong, 2. They intentionally and strategically worded and/or did it on purpose to deceive and manipulate you. Cheating by any other name is still a BETRAYAL! Esp if your partner feels betrayed and cheated.
He is doing all of these. We lived together for 3 years. Now we don't. Only we are staying abstinent after a 3 year realationship with sex. We are not official or unofficial. But neither of us talks to anyone else. We talk everyday all day. We confess our love morning an night. We are both discovering a mature an healthy life. My malfunction is I don't want to wait any longer. But also don't know if giving him that power over me is right just yet. 🙄🐑🎶❤
the guy I wrote about b4 who ghosted me all the time was 48 & his longest relationship was 11 months & he freely admitted that was bcoz he got her pregnant 1st time they had sex, he left wen his son was only weeks old & never bothered to see him - 1st 3 red flags ignored.🤡🙈 His son was oxygen starved at birth so had some learning difficulties, but when he was 21 he decided he wanted 2 meet his dad, & bcoz he wanted something different from wot his dad wanted to get him his dad doesnt like him coz he is ungrateful... 4th red flag. Anyway these red flags kept on coming & we hav now split up. I feel much better & hav bn able to do a lot of research into his behaviours & Im convinced he has NPD. I hav also done a lot of work on myself. The rsn i stayed wi this dude at all was bcoz I was on the rebound & insecure... my partner of 18yrs had died 7 months previous.
How much time should you give a guy before an ultimatum if it's a long distance and meeting is not possible? If it's an old old friend you once met at a trek and reconnected now and you haven't met in years and zero dates.
@@SK-ip2yp what?! Then why the hell you asking me about an ultimatum? You don't make that call. he already did. You ain't getting a relationship out of this :( im sorry
@@ElliotScottDating I did not want to waste more time considering he instable behaviour previously inbetween w couple of times. Infact when I put across behaviour indicating that I want a commitment ele I'd cut off he always somehow starts being more consistent etc. This time he expressed a d hence I directly asked. But thanks for being blunt! I needed that. Hurts! I'll be okay!
make a video about liking a guy so much but not knowing why... Also is it possible for a guy to do all these things but still feel real feelings for you?
I fell deeply with someone who wants more but I’m not ready due to circumstances (ie; job loss and poor health ) . I don’t want to lose them , how can I make them understand that I need some time without having them walk away ?
@@smiles9599 My dude's on month three (quarantine lasted the 1st month and a half), on the 6th date (drives half an hour each way for me). Didn't even kiss till the 3rd date (he's 22, I'm 19 - so dynamics are a little different). Men like this exist, he wanted sex the weekend after 1st date but it's about letting them know sexual attraction is there and building... just slowing it. Best of luck! xx
Elliot do you have any videos on how to help a guy moneywise? My guy is living paycheck to paycheck and he proposed and I said yes but he's poor as shit and I am to. I want to not judge someone based on how much money they make but there is definantly a diffrent mindset between poor and not so poor. The guy acts diffrent.
@@ElliotScottDating He treats me right in every way though, and he's got ambition. He also wants the same things I want. Said it before I mentioned it.
@@laurajoy1180 Tell him you'll only marry when financially stable... if it's so important to you. Not as an ultimatum, but as a standard (eg. "I wouldn't feel comfortable marrying before buying a house/having $____k shared income.")
