5 things you probably need to hear 

As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.

"Even if you're not okay, that's okay too." - so true. I think people need to be reminded that life isn’t about feeling 100% happy all day every day, we have to go through the dark moments to appreciate the light sometimes. Character development mostly only happens through retrospect, by applying empathy and understanding. idk if that makes sense but yes, wishing everyone love and light. We need it.

I wonder how much Joey enjoys the "not taking care of yourself" scenes where he's eating junk food and/or being a potato playing video games. Like does he secretly look forward to it? Loved this video haha his sense of humour really comes through. Great advice and had a good laugh 😆

Please Never delete your channel, I will always have to come back to it when I get stuck in my life in future Thank you for making amazing videos that are actually useful and relatable

Dawg you can’t just make a homie start crying in the kitchen and then spit out an audible ad. That comedic timing and your warm words snapped me from spiralling. Thank you so much dawg. Really glad to see your growth, it nurtures my own.

"At the end of the day if you are willing to stick with it, things will be okay; they always will be okay. Even if you are not okay, it's okay." Thanks man needed to hear this.

Joey, I'm writing this as my gratitude journal entry. I'm grateful for your contribution to the self improvement community. You really contribute great and meaningful ideas to my life, and I appreciate the tremendous amount of effort you put into each video.

man you have paid a very big role in my self improvement journey. because of you and your fantastic videos i have been improving a lot lately. you have changed my whole view of life completely, from the past one month i have been really more present and more happy and more productive. you have made a huge contribution in your audience's life . keep up the good work and i hope you grow more.

I laughed so hard at no. 4. The quote was all that was needed.

I feel that number 1 is not about blaming ourselves but feeling in control.

I recently fought out of a dark and low place in my life, although I’m still in this place, I’m learning a lot about myself and realizing, truly it will be okay. So to whoever is out there struggling, keep fighting and as I say to myself: Ruck up, move out, move forward.

I agree I often find myself looking at my past realizing that all the struggle has just made me stronger. It all depends on how you handle bad times. Treat them like lessons

The quick Number 4 actually left me wheezing. This guy is so hilarious without even trying.

I've had the worst 8 months in my life, life crisis, times of no food, unpaid rents, bed ridden from stress and depression sobbing for weeks, cutting ties with someone I loved, I'm so tired, every day, but I know the future holds a lot of possibilities. It's so hard to get out of the chronic tiredness and get things going again, I know things will be okay, I'll find someone who loves me, I'll find peace.

the first one I've also heard as "no one is coming to save you" as you have to do basically everything yourself for example getting in shape sure you can pay a personal trainer but if you don't force yourself to be displined no amount of shouting or encouragement from someone else will help you you have to save yourself

#1 Everything that happens to you is your responsibility 0:10 #2 Life gets easier when you're on your own side. 2:06 #3 Nobody owes you anything. 4:40 #4 Communism has failed every time it was tried. 6:19 (?) #5 It's going to be okay. 6:23

Number 4 hits different... as someone who was living in one of those former soviet sattelite country - seeing westerners falling to the same trap, not learning from past mistakes, is depressing because this nightmare will never end.

Happy you exist man. Ur videos felt in my feeds in the right period and love every single one of them. Subbed liked everything... Also nr.4 made me stand up and applaud while laughing.

for #5, i was storming the weather for almost 10 years, but it was the love for my family that kept me going even when i thought of ending it, because i thought id never be happy, im 29 now and those 10 years have helped so much with my current perspective ive also recently finished welding school and got a certificate, and business school is done too, im doing my exercises, so yeah, ive learned to love myself, and others

I _do_ need to hear this! Thank you, Joey. You're absolutely on the money regarding continue being mindful, compassionate, and productive in trying times. Thanks for the reminder. All the best luck with everything.

I appreciate that you emphasized self-respect as the essence of loving oneself-too many people out there take "love yourself" as an instruction to overinflate their egos (all that "you're perfect" bullshit), which is ultimately just as bad as always bringing yourself down and hating yourself.

Thank You Joey. Waited long for this one.

I'm gonna be honest, I've been subscribed to you for 1-2 years and after watching one video back then, I've never felt like I was ready or deserved to watch your videos, like I wouldn't take them in correctly and would avoid altogether, but I still stayed subscribed. I've since moved with some help, had some real jobs and also took and honestly didn't feel like I needed the help anymore, though unsolved past always crawls back and I made a few steps back from that prior progress. The title of this video and seeing it was from you spoke to me, and I knew it was finally time and that I'm ready. I'm ready for the journey through your videos, especially on days when I really need to hear it. I never had anyone to lean on, nobody who would understand me 100%, but what you say makes perfect sense to me, and I couldn't be more glad that I chose to come back to these videos, and that you're still making them. So, thank you.

I've been in a major slump lately. This helps. I need to take care of myself even when myself doesn't feel like it!

I did need this, thank you ❤️

Number 2 is HUGE. The last couple months was the worst time of my life, and I would say that I hate myself multiple times a day. I was doing awful in every facet. But the past weeks… with the right combination of therapy, medications, and new habits, I’ve turned a new leaf. I’m finally the person I want to be and do things I want to do. I now am starting to love myself. And now I’m better than ever socially and I’m a better and more empathetic person

Thanks Joey for this video and your time in making these. This one resonated with me. Going through a rough time right now.

Dude #2 is huge. Can you make another video on this in detail? Like how do you reframe your mind to respect yourself and not require external validation? And how do you do this in a way that doesn't lead to #3 (being arrogant)?

So I just found your channel and you're an incredible human being. I love that you're pushing this content out. I myself have struggled with a lot of things in my life but I'm so proud of the version that I am today. It took a lot of self seeking and self investments and it was so worth it. I'm going to add you in my weekly video watch so I can gain a lot of wisdom from you I can see a great lighting you and you remind me a little bit of myself.

Needed this so much! Keep up the great work and support!

I found your channel 3 days ago and most of what I've seen I agree 100% and I learned some of it on my own while reflecting on my life but I needed to be reminded of Alot of it and God I admire how well you've distilled these important thoughts. Thank you!! Sincerely sir! and this is the only video I watched twice to truly absorb it and if there's any feedback that may help you as much as you've helped me may I say that when I just listen to your videos I absorb and connect with them so much more, when I watch im distracted by seeing your vision of your perspective that you've captured and edited whereas listening to you I apply my own expirences in the context that you present, imagining it as if it were my conscience breaking through to tell me what I need to hear. Thank you!

It took me years to learn these things. I'm so glad this is out here, reaching more people, so that maybe even a few won't have to struggle and flounder as much to learn the same lessons

I'm going through shoulder dislocation after an open surgery after I have suffered from it 6 years, now I'm back to the starting point. I hope things will be okey

Your videos just popped up on my feed and ive watched loads now, they are extremely powerful and a couple had me nearly in tears looking deeper at myself

Joey i just want to say thank you, thank you so much I have turned my entire life around because of you. You are the best teacher I have ever had in my life, your videos alone are guiding me to this never ending journey of self discovery and happiness. You've made a bigger impact on my life than anyone I have ever seen or spoken to. Please keep doing what you do, you are a truly amazing person!

2:15 that's the worst attempt of eating a chip I have ever seen in my life.

Aftdr watching this video, i was inspired to read "make your bed". I got the ebook version. Now, several hours later i finished reading it. I haven't read a book for a good 6 years, with maybe one exceptions. I felt paralyzed by the monumental task. Intinidated. Let laziness overcome me. Thinking i cant finish it anyways, seeking excuses. Make your bed is a fantastic book, just as this is a fantastic video. Thank you for your thoughtful advice and carefully-crafted videos. It might seem small, but they inspire me to get out of my very small confines of comfort and dare something new and exciting. To get out of the rut and live life. Thank you.

Bro I am goin through a tough period and you fill me with love and compassion for myself every time I watch your videos, thanks so much for the work you do and the naked mole rat message you spread❤️❤️

I like the note about our responsibility. It's a bit of a fresh concept for me. I am not the blaming external factors person, I've learned to focus more on what can be done. However, the fact that it is my responsibility not only to deal with the situation I'm in but also to search for answers, set goals, keep going, to be in a better mood is what I needed to hear. The current situation and the circumstances that led to it shook my beliefs and the base of my life in a way. Even though it was obviously my responsibility to adapt in order to survive, I was still petrified and left with questions like 'how can I do that/be that if this situation happened' which kept me in the everlasting circle of pondering and sorrow

Another fantastic video, thanks man. Just wanted to say that in the last 12 months I quit my awful job for a great new one, landed my first ever long term relationship, and I'm currently in the process of buying my first house. Not that I'm hinting at any linkages here but I've now been watching your channel for around a year so...keep it up!

you're one of the best channels I've ever seen here in yt, you spread real life realizations that is relevant and can be reflective and applied long-term. it only can't be used by one but most people out there.

I must say this is one of your best videos yet. Simple yet genuine. And you are speaking these truths from experience. And this year, I have just begun to scratch the surface on these pearls. #1 I can’t control the circumstances given to me. But excellence is my responsibility. # You can create your identity and anchor to ground yourself. Or you can choose to drown yourself in the doubt of others and the current modern culture’s definition of who you should be. #3 You are not entitled to anything. #4 awesome comedic relief #5 Everything is going to work out. I don’t have to white knuckle it. The doors that are meant to open will open and those that close are meant to be closed. It will be okay. Stick with your gut and principles. Principles and perseverance are guiding forces.

I would add just one more. "It is 100% okay to get help". For mental health or physical health. It even applies to professional and personal life. Do not be afraid or ashamed to ask for help or admit you were wrong. Take the help or advice and grow with it.

The best advice is given by people who have experienced these situations in life. And the best advice received is by people who are experiencing these situations in life. Sounds like u know what ur talking about, appreciate it 🙏🏼

This video is amazing, thank you, truly. You really feel like the future version of each and everyone one of us who is struggling right now but still wants to make it, and you are the one that made it and is trying to help us out too. I appreciate the words and effort you put into these videos to give us the push needed to do it. Timing is perfect too, exactly today I wrote down every single aspect of my life I want to change since the second half of the year is officially here :) We got this❤️

I love the way you balance the seriousness of your videos out with subtle humor. Whether it's with funny background video, or #4. This stuff gets me back on track. Thanks

this helped sooooo much its like a pep talk from a brother i dont have

thanks a lot, I needed to hear these 5 things indeed haha. I wouldn't say my current situation is that tragic, but I'm currently feeling stuck financially and in terms of career, feeling hopeless. I am the only one responsible for un-stucking myself, not my boss, not my family, or whoever. I've also been struggling with self-love and have been telling myself that I'm incapable and incompetent, so I relied heavily on external approval. Again, it's actually not that hopeless for me if I think about it because there are actually a few ways for me to go from here, but it all depends on whether or not I want to take any of those paths, and I must if I think I deserve better in life. No more waiting from this point.

I love your contents man, you’re such an inspiration to me. I would really like a video about enjoying the process of our activities and find joy in the daily routine instead of constantly obsessing ourselves with our end goal and bigger picture still being aware of where we’re going to. I think this might be a great video idea: keep it up.

I'm on the road to see all your clips! Thanks for your work and dedication! Please keep the awesome work!😊

This was a good video, thank you for that Joey, I appreciate you, I appreciate the work you're doing. Definitely needed to hear those 5 things, thanks.

You're definitely correct on the fact that life is really tough. I'm a doctor and just matched across the country away from vancouver and my whole family and everything i've ever known. The first few weeks of knowing this was really dark. But now i feel i'm a bit more resilient to the fact. especially after having some compassion for myself and acknowledging that i'm doing okay, and not every day is gonna be 10/10

right on time. exactly what i needed to hear at exactly the right time. almost spooky. =) thank you

Needed this. Thank you

I NEEDED THIS. Thanks for the better ideas.

I think the world really needs to hear number 4 right now. Great video!

Awesome video Joey, it reminds me of a quote I heard at some point, somewhere, "that life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you respond to it." ✌️

I definitely needed to hear a few of these thanks man!

Thank you. I needed this video today. My anxious thoughts were getting the best of me today.

I just hope i work through this depression.

This dropped at a good time for me👌

Man I really needed this, thank you for sharing this video!

I resonate so much with number 2. When you don't love yourself you will be seeking love and validation from others forcefully. Your relationships will be passive aggressive, unauthentic, resentful.. I hope you do a video on this topic!

Thank you for the last one. Depression sucks. It helps to hear thing like this, sometimes. 🖤

Really needed to hear #4, thank you.

thanks so much for your videos, they really help me go through hard times.

I needed to hear this 💯 going through tough times but we still here!

This was a good video, thank you for that, Joey. I appreciate you, I appreciate the work you’re doing, and I just appreciate... us. I appreciate the audience members, and I appreciate living life to it’s fullest. ❤️👍🏻

As someone who just got out of a deep and dark depression, I can tell you. It will get better if you have the will to make adjustments. Don't be afraid to talk to someone wether its a friend or family member or better yet a therapist. Talking helps and is a step closer to figuring things out. Also eating better and trying to get more optimal sleep will help. These are all gradual things you can take to combat it.

Thank you Better Ideas really needed to hear this morning

Towards the end, you remind me of something that a friend told me after my first breakup, "If you came out of it knowing more about yourself than when it started, that time wasn't a waste." I subscribe to you because you have great wisdom, along with a passion for helping others and sharing knowledge. I believe this is what has propelled humanity as far as we've come. I hope you'll allow me to reciprocate in this small way. Every economic system ever implemented has failed, by one measure or another. Sure there may be different pros/cons, but participating or even inviting debate over which is all-around better, unlike a bad relationship, is time wasted. Cooperation, collaboration, and selflessness are what keep any population going, which you definitely appear to understand. History has demonstrated that no political or economic system can survive these aspects of humanity failing, and that any system will flourish as these aspects thrive. As always man, it's a great video, and I enjoyed watching. You are a positive influence on a lot of people. Thanks for being you

Number 2 honestly resonated with me so deeply. Ive noticed that often everything I do feels like "an exchange." exactly how he put it. I felt like even when I meant something (a compliment, etc) that I was still being insincere in some way because I expected something in return. Acting out of abundance instead of scarcity can do wonders for you. Im going to do my best to respect myself and love myself more.

Thanks for your continuous effort with these videos Joey! Really appreciate it. Inspiring and putting a smile on my face with every video you've made over the last couple of years. Happy for you that you're obviously right where you want to be in life :)

That was very needed thank you so much💙

always good to see a new video from you joey!

Thank you for that Joey, I'm currently reading the power of your subconscious mind which ties in quite nicely with this video. I've come a long way fighting my depression and personal negative habits but I hit a little bump recently, so I'm taking a step back and revisiting my self improvement habits to get back up and get ahead of the action again! This video was perfect.

I think I've finally figured out what my problem with the saying "take responsibility" is. A hard pill for me to swallow was that despite how we may look at it, blame and responsibility are intrinsically linked, period, and blame is in *no* way constructive, especially not to people with crippling mental and self judgement issues, like me. Basically hearing "it's not your fault, but it's all your fault" has only made things worse for me, but I couldn't articulate that. Now I see it differently, and it works better for me; *FORGET* responsibility. It's too narrow a way to look at things. What matters is when something goes wrong in your life, it is often in your best interest to take action, whether your responsible or not. I think that's what's being said when people say "take responsibility for _____," and I've actually finally saw change within my life. Please let me know if I'm wrong.

The filmmaking aspects of your videos are amazing. What you say and teach is the best part. But the image quality and cinematic value is what makes me listen to what you say more. Very well done

Your videos go side by side with my morning meditation. So profound and thought provoking. Thank you!

Your videos have helped me reach over $180,000 in trading by age 23! Thanks Better Ideas. Keep the videos coming. 👍🏽

6:18 communism has failed every time it was tried 8:56 I just want to give a big thank you to audible, a subsidiary of amazon. Amazon, that company that's choking out competitors, busting unions, and sucking the soul out of all its subisiaries to make Jeff Bezos enough money to mess around in space and break the basic rules of capitalism as they were intended to be. I'm being sponsered by them now, since they've been pushing for a monopoly on sponsoring online content creators for forever and thus my choices are limited. 😂 Thanks for the video Joey, it's a high quality one as usual. #4 is definitely facutally correct, but we all know that it's used to dismiss communism and sometimes even socialism as inherently terrible political ideologies. This is unproductive at best, malicious at worst. We can only improve our societies if we don't voluntarily put on blinders when thinking of valid criticisms and solutions.

Really needed to hear this- great video!

Thanks Joey, this came at the right moment. Keep the great content flowing.

Prob my fav “self help” yt channel… your candor and honesty is just unparalleled

I subscribed to your channel a long time ago when I was at my, let's say, high form. I finally found a way to develop my career, fell in love and really raise the standard of living. Now is completely different. There is a war in my country, I lost my job and the other one paused for an indefinite period of time. I feel like I lost my ground and couldn't find a way to bounce back. So I wanna thank you for this video and your whole channel. It hit different when you're stumbling and it helps me feeling a bit better.

Thank you! I certainly needed to hear all of that.

Man, I really needed this and I've watched it maybe 5~ times along with bookmarking it. Thank you.

3:10 "Bold and brash" - is this a reference to Squidward's painting or is it just a common phrase lol

All your latest videos are cinematic masterpieces. This makes it more rememborable, thank you so much for your work!!

I just wanna say that I love this videos. Definitely part of my routine, and it's helping me change my mindset about several things. Thanks a lot Joey! Hugs from Brazil!

It’s like I’ve never needed to hear something more than this video. Made me feel calm and hopeful for once the title can never be more true . Thanks man, thanks a lot.

I've been in a really tough situation for the past couple months and it's been feeling like everything is going wrong for me, even though I work really hard every day, and I felt like life's been extremely unfair... This video won't solve my problems and make my troubles go away, and I will still probably have a lot of pain to go through until this period is over, but I found the ideas in the video really interesting and helpful. I think that if use them to gradually change my perspective I might just get better. Thanks a lot!

#2 is something im still trying to learn, self love & responsibility towards your own happiness. It's tough, after years of self loathing and harm, it's not as simple as flipping a switch. It takes a lot of effort, mainly in the form of consistency. Without discipline, it's near impossible to accomplish. I'm trying, but damn is it a mindfuck.

Thanks man, I really needed to hear that

I really needed this advice. Thanks Man

Maybe it wasn't a great idea to go so quickly for number 4 :D

I was not ready for #4 😂

Your content is so needed, man, thank you.

Thank you so much for this video. I have never had any self love or confidence in my life and I’ve always tried to get that from other people. I’ve always done things to impress others or complimented them in order to get attention back. But recently ive come to the realization that its my job to love myself and shouldn’t expect that from anyone one else. I’ve realized that i cant give love to someone else until I’ve started to love myself. Thank you so much for this video. From now on I’ll work on improving myself and learning to love myself and having confidence in my abilities.

Seriously needed this.. just started a RU-vid channel despite work being stressful so I could share videos with my nephew on a way to escape with a hobby, and this video notified me right after posting and having doubt.. sincerely thank you for the content man.. keep it up 🙏