Having no charisma is ruining your life 

It's been 8 months since I used a "ruining your life" title and I couldn't hold it in any longer. It is my destiny.

Can we discuss how exhausting it is trying to be charismatic as an introvert in a space full of extroverts. It feels like a chore to come off as likable all the time, and if you’re naturally a “boring” person, or someone who hasn’t experienced a lot of the things the people your age have, it’s even harder.

Here are my favorite 'tricks' to show warmth: 1. Have a neutral face (not smiling, not angry) and when you see that person, wait a split second to look them in the eye and then give the warmest smile you have, as if someone just offered you ice cream. This little pause would make them feel that the smile was for them because in that split second, you noticed them, and that made you smile. The same thing works in phone calls - even if you see who is calling, answer with a neutral semi-dry 'hello' and then when you hear 'Hi, it's Suzie,' have genuine joy and smile, 'Oh! Suzie! Hi! So good to hear you!' Again, they would feel that warmth as directed to them and more genuine. 2. MICRO-touching. Really, really small because you don't want to invade someone's boundaries. But I like to do a super gentle tap on the shoulder to emphasize a point "Yeah, that story was great BUT (gentle touch, more like a tap, lasts maybe half a second) did you know the author blah blah..." When you do this intentionally, it comes off as genuine and bonding than creepy. Learn to read their body language and don't do it too often. 3. Specific compliments. What's better - "You look so beautiful!" or "I love that Rick and Morty T-shirt, you got some style!" One is generic and meh, the other is more specific and makes the other person feel like you are paying attention to the small details. I love to compliment people on things I notice about them and especially their actions, the things they have control over, that resonated with me. It's more original and makes the other person feel seen. 4. Finally - treat people as treasure islands. They are people with life stories filled with gems. Maybe someone has a hilarious story that I wouldn't know if I didn't start asking about who they are. This is the hardest for me because, like Joey in the video says, most people are not charismatic, and they don't know how to tell a story or talk engagingly. But try to be interested anyway. I usually start really small like "What brought you to work here? Oh really! What is your favorite thing so far?" From this question alone I found out there is a closet our work building full of merch that we could take for free. You never know!

When I reached the part of the video regarding compliments, I had to pause to share an epiphany I had a few years ago. Compliments can be really easy actually. How often do we see something, that we find remarkable, about a person but we keep that internalized? I took the approach of verbalizing those moments as often as I can remember to. It makes giving compliments really easy. People pick up on the honest enthusiasm and I prefer discussing something I was genuinely interested about. Just don’t be a weirdo. 😄

The most charismatic person I’ve ever met was recently - a retired member of the board for a government agency. He stood confidently, spoke clearly, and looked everyone in the eyes when they spoke and smiled a lot. We asked him a lot of advice in the one day we spent with him and he said that his most important lesson is to “care about the people” and you can tell he truly meant it. This dude was making 250k+ a year and people truly liked him. Now we have a terrible and political board rep and our agency’s productivity has been going downhill since everyone knows he doesn’t really care about the employees. If you care about people, listen, look them in the eyes, smile, and try to put yourselves in their shoes for even just a minute - people will like you! It’s really that simple (no really!)

Some of the most charismatic people I know are the most comfortable with being vulnerable to others. They admit their faults without shaming themselves, they lower their guard for you so that you feel comfortable near them, and they share their genuine thoughts and emotions.

I used to watch your content a couple years ago back when I was still in college and needed help with studying and time management. It helped a lot. I graduated, got a job, became more successful than I could ever imagine. Eventually I stopped watching your videos as I was doing pretty great in life and felt like I didn't need anymore help. I've grown a lot in the past 5 years but I'm now realizing that so have you. You're more articulate with your speaking and definitely a lot more charismatic compared to 5 years ago. It's really great to see that even after all these years, you're still out there making all this self-improvement content for the world and clearly you don't just give out all this advice, you actually apply it to yourself too and that's pretty evident imo. Keep going my dude! Really good stuff.

Depression stole my charisma but I'm slowly recovering and getting it back!

Or is having no life ruining your charisma?

Having charisma is not second guessing yourself- acting with certainty, being genuine to other people and sticking by your principles. It’s also about self respect.

Charisma is like a superpower in life! It's not about changing who you are, but enhancing your connection with others. This video is a great reminder that charisma can be cultivated.

Charisma is essentially the ability to make other people feel at ease. In order to do this you must first have the desire to make people feel at ease without expecting any benefit in return for yourself. If you have the ability to do this, you will always win in the interaction.

I think another part of having charisma is being genuine. It’s one thing to come off as charismatic but another to ACTUALLY be it. I find it’s really rare nowadays for people to wholeheartedly give a shit about how you’re feeling, what you have going on etc. You can tell almost immediately when someone is being fake and talking to you out of boosting their own ego. The world needs more people that actually care and want the best for one another.

I've experienced a sort of ego death over the past few years. I used to be charismatic but life cuts you down and sometimes you just don't know where your past self went.

Such an amazing video, literally nailed how I lost all my social skills over the pandemic lockdowns, still struggling with trying to gain them back in university. One thing I don't quite understand is becoming charismatic is a key goal of what I'm trying to become and my feeling of inadequacy is the main driving force behind this want to change. If I must be comfortable with myself before I can be charismatic, I find it hard to believe I would still want to be charismatic.

I find the key to being more charismatic is to quiet your thoughts, especially negative ones in public. Thoughts are real. They produce an energy others can feel, not just through your body language and actions, but human beings are deeply connected on a higher level and can sense when your energy is out of sorts. You can't think your way into making people like you. Get some sleep. Handle your life and tell your mind to be quiet.

Here's the TRUTH: One of the best ways to have and develop charisma is to be doing things in your life that you'd be excited if the people you're speaking to found out about. If you're concerned that people might find out who the loser is underneath the facade of social skills, then true charisma will not shine through. The way out is to have a grind we are on each and every day so that we can create the kinds of things in life we both want to share externally and are intrinsically passionate about internally. It might be a hard pill to swallow, but there it is. Thanks BetterIdeas!!

You can't have charisma if you don't like other people, and you can't genuinely like other people if you don't like yourself. Those who are at home in themselves (body, mind, spirit) have a clarity and stillness that makes them strongly likeable. Mental turbidity and emotional stress make us feel trapped in our own bodies and separates us from reality. Taking a minute or two to try and feel content -- a feeling of not wanting or lacking anything in the present moment -- can make a huge difference in our behavior moving forward.

""Just be charismatic bro"

It's great how you get so accurate with things like people noticing you or darting around. Truly helpful man, thank you!

Thanks for the fresh content Joey. You're such a nice break from all the "alpha sigma ultra male" advice. You're just a dude, giving good life advice that I and many others can relate to. And you always put it simple and easy to understand. We need more of this

The inner voice in my head has so much charisma but whatever comes out of my mouth is less interesting than watching paint dry.

Thank you. I was having a vague feeling like something going wrong with my social relationships, not bad but also not good.. people don’t unlike me but don’t seem to give me respects that I thought they would. I was feeling like I was missing something that I was doing wrong, and was kind of trying to find something in common from people I thought were being respected and that I personally thought as capable of themselves, somewhat cool.. I think I am now having a grasp of how to change myself. I am extremely thankful I ran into your video(channel) in this particular time of my life. This helped me a lot. Definitely subscribed your channel, have a nice day. Love from Korea❤️

This has to be one of the most personal, deep talks I've heard ever from RU-vid. It almost feel like you're talking to me 'personally'. You communicate so well, you don't please anyone, and you state your opinion and being outspoken. Thank you mate. I'll definitely watch this video when I need it.

So basically having no rizz is ruining my life 😂

Well, for me, the most charismatic character that I've ever seen in a movie was Frank Abagnale Jr., interpreted by Leonardo DiCaprio, from the movie "Catch me if you can". I guess this movie really shows how confidence and charisma can become such a source of power. Anyway, I love your content my dude. Keep up with the good work.

I'm autistic so even though I do genuinely care about others and genuinely want to treat them well and be charismatic, it's been a lifelong struggle for me to be able to learn how to do that and not come across as bossy, or rude or mean. It's still something I'm working on and probably always will be, but now that I'm in my late 20s I genuinely think I've got the process down pat of how to make my genuine intentions known. I've built it up through my years in the workforce and I've come away from each job more confident and more able to tackle any sort of person and create a positive interaction with them. It's done wonders for my confidence and for my career and has led me to getting better and better jobs and leaving each job with lifelong friends that I'm so grateful for. I was so happy when you mentioned Aragorn! He's honestly the definition of a good leader in that he cares, he's present and he commands attention. Someone else I think who has those abilities is Faramir. He's such a kind, genuine person and you like him from the first scene. He doesn't let his childhood trauma get in the way of how he interacts with people and he cares for those around him. Inspirational!

As I was set on fixing some of my life issues in the past years, I've been thinking a lot about all these points you express in the video as the next natural step to be a better version of myself and have a better influence on the world and those around me. Thanks for putting a name on it !

I like when I realize I do most of these things, but I’m still able to draw something from the video. I’ve learned that “treat people the way you’d like to be treated” really does ring true, and simply treating people well and caring enough to ask them about themselves has done wonders for my relationship building. This is awesome thank you

Definitely I have noticed how detrimental is to be addicted to social media.. we just have to become more present. I hope you guys are having a great summer. Positive vibes to everybody here 💕✨🌴

So to summarize, a charismatic person is one who is listening and responding (Present), pinpoints the things that matter most (Warmth), and is ready to take action on those things (Power). So to become charismatic, one should engage with people more (Present), compliment them (Present/ Warmth), identify what matters most to them and what problems they have (Present/ Warmth), and give help even if it is just a word of advice or a shoulder to cry on (Present/ Caring/ Power).

This video has actually all the answers that I needed ❤ Thank You!

As someone with ADHD I've battled with this my entire life. It's actually only after going into university 2 years ago that I realised I have ZERO charisma. This is why my relationships ended, this is why I made no friends in university and self destructed 2 years of my life through inattentiveness. Now I find myself having to transfer universities, but this time... I'll be going in with 100% in mind. I've worked on my impulses for the last 3 months now, and I'm the happiest I've been in 5 years. I wish I knew about this channel a lot sooner, I couldn't respect your content more!

The last point about warmth is so incredibly true, and it immediately made me think of a song I really like, "How's the Heart?" by Nightwish. It's a song that speaks about human empathy, and how little it takes sometimes to make someone feel better and genuinely cared for. I hope more people will realize that just asking someone "How's your day going?" can make a big impact on that person's wellbeing. Honest compliments are also essential. By the way-thanks for your videos, Joey! Your "Inaction is a slow death" masterpiece is one of my favourite videos on this platform. Hope you're doing great, man.

Great video, always appreciate your perspective, Joey. I think another framing that I have found deeply useful thanks to its simplicity, is that love is attention. Giving someone your time is an act of love. By love I am not referring any specific type like romantic/brotherhood/whatever, but simply that truly paying attention, and being open to current experience is an act of love - and love is a verb, it is something to be done, not a static state. Pay attention, it is the basis of all love.

Big + for the presence. I noticed when i really forget about everything else and try to be really "present" with the person infront of me, it suddenly becomes much much easier for me to act in a way that makes the other person feel comfortable with me and for some reason it also helps me with any kind of anxiety i might have.

The most charismatic person I ever met was this random guy I helped while working at a thester concession stand. He was just a dude, my age, and he had a cane which I thought was odd He said: "hey man, how's it going?" I said: "its alright." Him :"is there anything I can do to change that?" Then I said something along the lines of "make everyone leave" or something like that. Thats all I remember, but what stuck with me was the charisma of this seemingly normal dude with a cane. I hope he is doing well and the cane isnt for some illness

Thank you! For real thanks 🌟

Super precise man Thanks for the knowledge

Oh hell yeah a “fake compliment” does wonders. I’m a good looking gay dude but Im like a regular dude. Older and old lady’s come into my work and I smack them with a “you’re hair looks pretty today” or “that’s a cute dress” you can tell it just makes them feel so good. I like that.

Totally agree with you and Warren Buffett, public speaking is a key life skill. Best classes I've ever taken. Being an engineer I never thought I'd need this, but I couldn't have been more wrong. Getting your points across are key, and negotiation is a major life skill to get what you want even if you don't think about it. "You don't get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate."

Love your new video, Joe. It hits right up on the things i wanted to improve of myself

Just a few days ago I realized that one of the biggest problems I had was a lack of charisma. This video came out at the perfect time.

Its just charisma/confidence and I’m totally agree. Its like there is so many people on instagram and youtube who’s doing really awkward content or stuff that genuinely isn’t important but for the right audience they are popular and they are making shit ton of money from it, while the “normal” person who laugh at them, doesn’t have the charisma or confidence to do something for themselves. At the end of the day you just need to be charismatic for the right audience and ignore what people from the other “audience” think about you.

Having no charisma also contributes to failing more spell saves.

Its quite refreshing to see your videos, always well put, narrated and often relatable. So, thank you for them.

In short: 1. Be present at the moment 2:04 2. Be powerful 6:18 3. Have warmth 11:42 4. watch the full video

You're one of the RU-vidrs who post videos that I have to rewatch and rewatch and learn from and I love it. They're always super beneficial. August 17th is my 27th birthday so I think I'm gonna have to join that Livestream and read that book.

Sadly due to several life cirscustances i gave up on making friends, having a gf, and i dont want to live anymore, im pretty antisocial and lone wolf because quite honestly i tried and failed so now idc anymore, lifes been kicking me again and again even tho i tried so hard so fuck it. Another thing people dont understand is that maybe if i did try for another 10 years ill have a better life but spending 10 years being miserable just to have a small chance of having what i want isnt really worth it, you normal people cant understand none of this.

I absolutely love how real you are. When you say something or promote something then instantly realize you contradict yourself and so on, that’s my whole life

This feels like a perfect video for me. Just jam packed with helpful content, instead of excessive waffling. Thank You! Thank you so much!

I loved all 17 minutes of this video!! Great Job as usual!!

The best advice about charisma I’ve every heard was live a life that others want to be a part of . If you are doing thing that make you happy it shows and the charisma comes out.

I just found your channel & I just wanted to say thank you for making these videos much love

Very sensible advice, makes a lot of sense to me! I am going to try implementaceting this into the new school year, see how it goes. Thank you!

A couple of days ago when I was into a pool, I asked some guy that I had seen there and after talking a little bit, I discovered that he went to my high school. He had graduated a year ahead of me. I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't asked how he was doing. Some of the most charismatic people that I know present themselves as warm, kind and confident and the latter is something I struggle with a lot but it's thanks to them that I have been improving on.

Something tells me you’re probably a brilliant writer. I’m glad I found your channel! ❤

probably my fav video you've ever made so far, love your sense of humor!

Thank you for your content! You‘ve been really helping me living my life to the fullest.

Someone who I admire a lot in fictional character roam is Ted Lasso. The calm charisma in the sense of kindness. That's what I aspire to be like. I know he struggles but he usually never takes it out on other people. You could argue there's spirituality in it as well.

Absolutely loving these frequent uploads!!!!

I love how direct and honest you were in this video, felt like a little different than most of the videos that do very well on your channel.. And just because of that, I also think this video was actually lot more effective, at least to me, because I do understand where you're coming from (those little things were so funny too like the end as well) and I'm not gonna lie I can totally vouch for whatever you said because ever since I got in college and started practicing being more social, all it takes is actually just going out there, stopping being on our own, and just paying a little more respect to the real life that we are given with.. The way people have started to slowly realize how important it is to "de-screen" and live a little in the reality too, I'm probably foreseeing a trend that might be arriving soon where we all go a little anti-technology, or just this practice of "de-screening" is gonna get more popular ig..

Great video. This one spoke to me. Thanks.

As a young nerd, I came to know charisma as one of the three non-physical D&D attributes, alongside intelligence and wisdom. I always avoided charisma-based characters because irl I'm not conventionally bold and extroverted like a charming bard or an inspiring paladin. Then one day another player said to me, "of course you're charismatic. When you say something, everyone listens". I hadn't really thought about it that way until then.

I've been doom-scrolling and feeling unmotivated for the past two days...thankfully this video came out so I can get on top of my game for a day and then go back to doom-scrolling and feeling unmotivated until you make another video👍👍

Your videos are actually so helpful Joey

Very true things said here. Excellent video

Easily my favourite RU-vid channel. You've been consistently uploading bangers for many years, and I thank you for that. You've genuinely taught me a lot about being my best self. I deleted social media completely about 2 years back, bought and read Atomic Habits using your affiliate link, and done many other things that have completely reshaped my life. You are appreciated greatly Joey, not just by me, but by countless other people who you have inspired to change for the better. Best of luck!

My first thought of the most charismatic character in media instantly was Ashitaka from Princess Mononoke. And I didn't even realize why I like him so much until you explained why. He constantly proves time and time again throughout the film that he is capable with his physical strength & skill, he is confident and sure of himself- displaying this unwavering resolve to maintain balance in the forest -he carries himself well, and despite all of this power he strives to genuinely listen to and understand both sides of the conflict in the people of Iron Town AND the spirits. His warmth is unmistakable. Ashitaka has always been my favorite character maybe because he stands as this tantamount example of what it means to be a good person. Without knowing it, I looked up to him as a role model. Maybe we all should.

Thanks so much. Your videos are great

This is a great video! I am so glad that you called out that as humans we are not saying the most simple part of a basic conversation like "how are you?" It truely amazes me how many peoole dont!

I think that for me at least, it's important to realize that even if we aren't charismatic, it is actually something we can develop over time. I always thought of it as kind of like a trait, either you have it or you don't. This video also made it clear to me that there are different kinds of charisma. I recently met someone who I would consider to be pretty charismatic, but my charisma doesn't need to be the exact same as his. I don't need to change or force it or act a way different than I want to. I'll let my charisma take whatever form it will.

Thanks for your content Joey! I find it interesting and new in someway (even if it’s « common sense » for some people maybe, i feel like you always make a new point or add a new perspectives or anecdotes) keep up the good work 👍👍👍

Bro your content is amazing. Sending love from South Africa

Idk how, but your videos seem to find me right at the point when I need them the most every time, and I just wanted to take this opportunity to say thanks for making this content in the first place

I agree. After covid I had a hard time talking to a starbucks cashier. I would be anxious and fearful to asking for a flat white. I realised covid was effectively the reason (mainly it was because I was working on my business) but yeah my social skills took a big hit. Now I’m starting to come out of my shell a little bit as I’ve realised social skills are the holy grail to exercising things to come fruition in life (relationships, networking, friendships, business, etc). We’re social animals and if you are introvert (like me) you can he an extrovert for 30 minutes. You can do it.

I used to think having people skills was unnecessary until I started to actually get out there, I had to fake it until I made it.

Your channel works wonders for my mental state. Thank you.

Joey you are seriously my favorite self-improvement channel, please never stop!

Using social media as a platform to bring people more into a full experience of life is the future of social media. At least I really hope that is the case. All we can do is try! ❤🙏

There’s a danger here too: I’ve often been called charismatic by the people around me, but it was a coping strategy for a bad childhood where I had to put myself in the shoes of others to avoid traumatic abuse. It’s best to strike a balance between respecting your own energy/values and others’ energy/values.

Man I love your humor, great videos.

Yes I have no charisma. Yes I've tried and tried and tried to become more confident/charismatic/warm/likeable over many years - trying too hard, not trying hard enough, trying not to care what other people think, trying to be positive, trying to put on a brave face, but after all that effort with very little to show for it, I'm depressed, lost in life and completely exhausted. Thanks for rubbing it in.

Clive Rosfield from Final Fantasy XVI absolutely radiates charisma. He's caring, confident, willing to put his life on the line to save everyone around him. But he cares so much about everyone, he hasn't put any effort into saving himself. (don't forget, character flaws are also charismatic because nobody is perfect, but they're flaws as a result of selflessness)

Two weeks ago, I stopped wearing headphones whenever Im outside. I feel a lil more positive, I feel a lil more confident. I feel present. I feel more talkative to people. Im not trapped in my own head. The habit of wearing headphones whenever Im outside since 2019, added with the effects of lockdown, really affected my social skills. Before that, I can talk to ppl for hours. I can make small talk and strike up some convos. Still struggling a bit, but well, Im getting back at it. Also, I went back to using IG and FB only on my ipad and laptop, meaning i can only access them when Im home. Them being not in my phone is also making a difference.

This video is full of a lot of wisdom, and it made me laugh a lot. Thank you for sharing!

damn , you changed my perspective, I'm gonna watch your videos to gain my values, thanks man , you a life saver❤

This guy is the soft version of Andrew tate

Yes, being ugly is ruining my life

Man been working hard on this myself! Being a person 80% deaf with hearing aids i’ve avoided conversations just cause listening takes effort. Realized now this isn’t good for me. Great video man!

15:11 Something i've found to always help with compliments is to compliment CHOICES and especially not things the person cant control. It seems like a good way of know if what you're about to say could be taken as creepy

I think authenticity is a big one here, too. I admire people who are 100% themselves and don’t care about what others might think of them. (Ofc without being rude or hurting anybody on purpose). Our society consists of too many people thinking and acting the same way without questioning anything and just go with the flow, stuck in old and unhealthy patterns - too afraid to be and live their true self. Social media makes it even worse by pushing posts that you have to be and look a certain way and own certain stuff to be happy. When in reality the things that do make you happy are the things you just mentioned. Being fully present. Living a healthy life, being proud of yourself and caring for the people around you. Really trying to be more charismatic by being more present and less consuming. Thanks for another nice input of yours 🫶🏼

Being authentic is also a big part of charisma, wich is mostly also a byproduct of the three mainpoints in this video and I think you at least showed this form of charisma in the last seconds of your video while somehow ignoring every aspect you have talked about in the video.

You could have the most brilliant mind but if nobody likes you nobody will listen to you. 1) Presence: Be fully genuinely present, Actually listen. Be aware. Stop living in a passive state, do things with intentionality. Have a mindset of providing value and gaining value. 2) Power: Build self-esteem, be aware of your posture and the way you present yourself physically and emotionally. Be useful and capable physically and mentally, take up space, and be proud of yourself. Like your life, be content. Carry yourself with intention. 3) Warmth: Actually care, be empathetic. Spend less time in your own head, and have an awareness of others' struggles. Actively listen to problems, and be encouraging. Compliment. Tying it all together: Be present with intention, cultivate power with intention, and have warmth with intention.

bro i literally watch your videos and somehow brainstorm ideas at the same time and i suddenly realized that all my happiness comes from presence while also listening to you so i barely understood anything you said but i farmed you a view and i also found my source of happiness that's some good business

Great video, and your way of narrating seems so natural, unlike most youtubers. Thanks for this awesome video.

I agree. As an introvert myself I remember when I was in high school I believed this Hollywood fantasy that introverts will be more successful later in life than the extroverts, but as an adult I realized that couldn't be farther from the truth. From high school I learned that people usually remain the same as they were in high school (of course there are exceptions but this is the general rule). Most of my ex classmates are as successful now 10 years later as they were as teens; those who had high grades and were extroverts with charisma are the most successful and many of them have successful businesses, those who were introverts with high grades got good degrees and specializations and are usually working 9-5 jobs either in the tech industry, medical industry or as engineers and making a decent pay but nothing crazy. The bullies remained bullies and work as construction workers, factory workers, policemen, etc, others joined gangs or do some kind of job where they can yell at people without any consequence. The guys like me who were introverts, suffered from mental disturbances and had not particularly good grades are usually working a normal job, only 50% got degrees and the others are working lame jobs (in my case I'm trying to improve my skills in all aspects so I can change that). The other introverts with average grades that got degrees usually have the lowest paid jobs in their fields because they lack charisma and connections; they remained average. Also it's important to mention that those whose family had more money had a much higher rate of success compared to those whose families were poor, confirming that parents with money make your life much easier (even though most of them deny this reality and claim "they worked hard for what they have"). Now, keep in mind I'm from probably the worst country in South America, where poverty plays a major role. I don't know if it's the same in first world countries, but I read a study that concluded extroverts in the US have the highest paid jobs, so that might be a universal truth. Moral of the story: Charisma, matters! Mental health matters! And you usually remain the same as you were in high school unless you do something radically different to change. This is the truth, like it or not, we can't escape society.

Better Ideas delivered on the better ideas-- but maybe it's not just screens and social media that's doing the knocking down but performance and social anxiety, the way we're socialised, the way we "vibe" with one another. It's more complex surely. I agree that getting better with snappier, appropriate real-time responses is better than asynchronous social media responses that don't me add very much. Also, some people don't have "internal dignity" because they get the stuffing knocked out of them cumulatively -- and it's hard to regain faster than it's been knocked out! What say you? It's partly actually knowing what you are talking about and doing it -- specialists in a certain domain can be useful and capable, and hence be charismatic in that domain (i.e. at their work) but maybe not so much outside. A "king-like" energy at home seems like a funny image to me, especially when you don't see the correlates in your own life (salary, social circle, 'right' affiliations). I'm not saying it's impossible, I'm just saying it's hard. I think we should be getting at being less 'green' as the Americans say -- getting really good at a particular thing then dressing, acting accordingly. I might be wrong.

I really like that part about looking around in the grocery store, and you are like „i don’t know guys”. This was very true from yourself and I’ve felt that energy and feeling as you do. 😀

Just discovered your channel, good stuff.