I can respect Giro for being honest and respectful as everyone should but the girls made the right decision and for Giro hopefully he can learn from his mistakes, make sacrifices, stand up for the people you care for, be the better person for yourself and others but not everything is easy and it's his own life to control not us.
@@johankaewberg8162 Nah, I love my spouse, but I wouldn't do anything illegal for him. If he's asking me to sacrifice my morals and values, he's the problem.
He said that he would teach his mixed children to be strong, but he wouldn't even be strong enough to stand up to his parents and friends. He can't teach someone else to be strong if he is not. I am glad that he was honest, though.
I mean, it's a cultural thing. I guess in korea people value a lot what the elders have to say. Theres that hierachy when it comes to age. It'll be considered a hudge disrespect. Rather than "stand up " to his parents it's better to try to convince them by showing how amazing the significat other is.
@@cvyyjgwell one thing many people ignore is that Africa and Asia have so many in common and the respect about elderly is part of it. Many men in Africa don’t marry the person they love because their parents didn’t agree on the wedding and many other men/women also get married without their parents attending the wedding because they fought for their love. Sometimes after insisting the parents will give up but still be upset and eventually accept it. I think that it is as the main comment said. It’s depend on your strength and willingness to fight for your love if you really love the person of course. And the weirdest thing about the elder’s refusal in Korea or in Asia in general is mostly just because the « might be » in-law is black so they won’t even want to know you they see you as 💩 literally. And I say all this coming from a mixed family Afro Asian so I know both .
@@brennathecatlover4360 Yes, well, traditionally speaking. The Bible also says when you become husband and wife that they become the most important person in your world. And everyone else becomes secondary period so therefore what his parents think shouldn't matter. His wife is supposed to come first
I think his major issue with dating a girl of African descent would be his parental/family's influence. Which in all honesty is the problem with most Asian interracial couples.
Not Asian but Eastern Asian, people in the Southeast are more flexible and chill about everything so don't worry guys y'all will have a chance with Asian, but the brownies Asian (Southeast Asian and/or Pacific Islanders) 😂😅
@@skudzag737that's probably because they are from a third world country. You probably don't know but many Western man (black and white) go to third world country to marry cheap poor Asian girls. Basically most of interracial Asian relationship in America is from that. Majority are from war brides of American troops stationing in post world war Japan, Vietnam colonisation, Phillipines colonisation and Thailand and Phillipines sex tourism. Basically the power structure is different. These girls are poor and can't wait to escape their poverty stricken country. They would even marry 80 year old to do so. If South East Asian were developed and rich as East Asian what makes you think they will be okay to marry non Asian? Especially Black African.? I have nothing against black people but just wanted to correct your misconceptions. Yes I am originally from South East Asia living and working in Korea. Scientifically people are attracted to other people who look like them
And the elders don’t like blacks, or interracial dating of any kind. Sad that the BL series seem to have the same prob as here and Black folks are mostly religious from the womb!! To be 27 and not have chosen any religion is still surprising to me with Asian culture but they go religious ceremonies to make merit … for what if you don’t believe?!!!!
@@exo_comeback_please i agree he would not really be committed to the relationship as he said he would only fight a little then give up if his parents disagreed, not true love.
@@kkoikii Parents approuval matter a lot. Its a cultural thing. Blame the parents who can't seem to see their kids happiness which is generally for the sake of keeping the bloodline pure
It's was a good concept, i liked because the guy was honest until the end, but i'm agreed with the girls i can't be with someone who can't fight for me or for us...
Agreed! That would be interesting.🤔 The girl should not look mixed. IJS. I am fair skinned (not the fairest). They almost always pick a light to really toned woman. My daughter is a dark brown color and beautiful.😊 She wouldn't likely step outside her race, but there are plenty of lovely girls who would.
@@GenerationNextNextNext No, not necessarily. I dated a korean national and had another one that was chasing me hardcore when I was with my ex (but I'm dumb and thought he was just being a really good friend). The latter guy invited me to Chuseok with his family. I didn't go. But he did invite me to his (moms) house. I stayed over the weekend. He took off from his business he ran with friends and brother, but brought me there to meet them. Paid for the whole weekend. Mans was campaigning for almost 4 years. Even when he got engaged came to see me in Seoul, even though his Korean fiance was pissed. Spent the weekend with me (again I'm dumb). Black women are no different than any other group of women. And straight men like women. I think what matters most is if they have ever lived or travelled extensively outside of Korea. My ex had not, but the "friend" did travel outside of Korea a lot. They just have to vet for men that will take foreign women and specifically black women seriously. Also, there are Korean-Americans in Korea as well and some of them can be included.
He didn’t look that fussed. Don’t think he was attracted to any of them anyway. They were right to leave. He was right to be honest. I think he is representative of most Korean men when it comes to black women. The image of black people in the media is very positive. Black women shouldn’t bother trying to date Korean men in Korea. It’s a waste of time. Go for well travelled men who live outside of the country and have the courage of their convictions. Honestly, with Asian men I think that is hard to find.
I dated 2 Asian guys with no problem from their parents, but these guys predominantly dated black women, so their parents already knew their girlfriend would be black. I wouldn't date a guy long term that would hide me from his parents...but honestly, if the parents are racist, I wouldn't want him to fight for me, cuz I am going to leave him anyway, I wouldn't want to be involved in that kind of unnecessary drama. Life's too short, go where you are worshiped.
@@freethinkingMILFthis is correct only if she a white woman model it's accepted most of the time it's not only if the parents are strict with keeping the bloodline strong most people parents are racist AF not just a Asian thing some black family are the same too and hispanic parents. My parents don't mind they're open minded that's why I'm mixed
At least he was honest but with the adversity a black partner or interracial relationship would face there...folding on your principals is foundationally unstable doesn't matter if it's your parents or not if it's just based on prejudice or racism. If you're in love, it's your life not your parents or anyone else's. The fact he was shocked was funny. Why would they want to be with you? 😂
Young koreans are gonna do themselves in with this mentality of allowing pressure from parents control their existence and this is not about black girls. Almost every decision they make revolve around what people will say. I enjoy their dramas but I've learned to just be entertained and ignore the aspects of it that i find ridiculously fake cos i know for a fact that they are NOT open minded
Personally, I think Black people are too caught up and brainwashed by colonial Christianity, to the point of celebrating pagan European holidays. That's the least problem he has.
I mean you can't blame them all for leaving because if you're not going to fight for me then there's no point in us being together. Especially if marriage and children are on the table. Because when you get married you're supposed to cleave to one another as one flesh and everyone else becomes secondary so if your parents still can tell you what to do then you don't need to be getting married
It's good to know that these women know what they are looking for in a male counterpart and not compromising for less. I think some would have left earlier, but they just wanted to see where he was coming from after hearing he was dating only Asians only.
I pray and wish black peoples will see how beautiful, warm, kind, smart, loving, sweet, forgiving, and amazing they are. Im glad the girls left because it shows how valuable they view themselves
These ladies asked the correct questions. We have to deal with the same thing in the U.S. regardless of race & cultures; but yeah, Asian can be a tough nut to crack even if the languages and both cultures are comprehended. As women & men we all want and need to know that our potential significant other is gonna have our back and put someone in check, even if it's family or friends or whomever if they come out their mouth wrong or give a bombastic side eye. Dating & marriages outside race was common in my family. In a way I was fortunate to grow up with that first hand. I've gone out all sorts, including Korean a couple times (they, and other races too, broke my heart. But both Korean and one Japanese guy was over their parents. The cowardice killed me. I "think" they loved me. Or the idea of me. But that wasn't love. Just an ego boost for him. Like a "trend"). My late husband (I was a young widow), whom was Caucasian ,British & fluent in French, was my rock and ALWAYS had my back. He never swore or was vulgar and still put one of my older sisters in her place when she was out of line with me and she was verbally abusive, but he was still calm and respectful at the same time towards her. After that she told me and my Michael that she had even more respect for him. Not everyone could put my sis, Ann, in her place... but he did. My family though majority are African~American, almost looks like the U.N.: German, Jewish, Muslim, Catholic, Church of England, non-practicing, Puerto Rican and lgbt. It comes down to mutual love and Respect and stepping up for each other against anyone regardless who. Bon chance to the ladies and to the guy as well.
I want a guy to leave because of he, himself thinks I am not okay but I don't want him to leave me because his parents think I am not okay. I get that one must respect his parents but hmmmmmmm it is too much if they choose the person I must spend the rest of my life with
Why do we keep doing this to ourselves.We the only group of people that keeps wanting to be accepted by everyone .It now seems as we are begging them to accept us
@@starrr432 I seriously don’t get the obsession of wanting to accepted by these other people if they don’t allow us to be in their spaces what makes them think they want us to be part of their families
MY JAW DROPPED WHEN THE LAST GIRL LEFT IT WAS SO FUNNY😭😭Honestly i cant blame the girls becuase he was not the one to rrally seem to have tons of love for someone in my opinion and the fact that he was not willing to fight alot for a girl he liked cause of their race is crazzyyy like?!!? That would have been an instant no for me.
@@brennathecatlover4360 Na, she doesn't mean it like that. Peris is a RU-vidr, and honestly these kinds of dating videos aren't really her thing so I and I'm sure everyone who knows her and her channel were surprised to see her. Cause, she doesn't seem to be the type to like dating or meeting potential people in this type of format. I KNOW for sure she's probably gonna mention this in her new video and I can't wait to hear what she has to say, or how she got there.
I love that all of the girls left for genuinely good reasons. To me, it sounds like he would be better off dating a Korea or Asian girl. Cause he’s not interested in fighting for his love or anything like that. He also seems to have some misunderstandings about African culture.
My fist gf was exactly like me (white upper-middle Swedish), and that failed horribly. My second was the daughter of a Thai rice farmer (subsistence farming) . She is now my wife of 11 years. And she “wears the trousers” in our marriage (Swedish saying, if the wife wears the trousers, she is the boss)
My parents are also VERY conservative saying i should marry only men from my culture but if life happens and i fall inlove with someone that isn't from my culture, My parents WILL have to accept them. I have already chosen him i just brought him home out of respect not for my parents to choose if he's suitable for me or not.
@@PoisonA-mc8fgthat’s easy to say but when u have to hear their nonsense it won’t be long before shit hits the fan. I’ve heard too many horror stories dealing with in laws especially with conservative and traditional backgrounds.
@@markigirl2757 I'll never let my partner get disrespected by any of my family members. Of that happens, they'll be dead to me. Just like how if my farmer can do the same, I'll save myself the heartache and leave. Boundaries are set for a reason
I think he was most attracted to the American in blue ripped jeans. After she left, he looked disappointed. He also was trying to tailor his response to match what she said before about gym. And after she left and said she's not an extrovert, he said he likes quiet girls. Or maybe he was just an opportunist. Amongst a pool of black girls, East Asian men will be more inclined to choosing someone who said they are from the U.S, rather than someone who said they are from Africa. They seem to be ignorant about Africa and Africans.
How many questions do you really need to ask before you understand that he will sleep with you but never commit to you..even if he tries to convince himself that’s what he is doing. It was painful to watch, he’s a cutie though.
This podcast is so nice because it deals with real black girls dating Korean guys/ Oppas and their questions relating to true emotions. Almost every culture loves African American music and swag 😎 and I love me some pretty girl Moon 💗 Black people life style grows on everybody around the world 🌍 but racism is taught by certain people who destroy other peoples' land and culture 👍 only to keep the humble and the weak separated from true love and acceptance. And the black women is who teaches the black guys how to cook, sing and dance in their householes🫰 The black women of the past are virtuous women and great teachers of TRUE LOVE and family values❤❤❤ ❤️❤
Love is not all about a cultures, religions and parents coz love doesn't demand a thing you just need to find a perfect foundation we're your love life will blossom
The girl who wanted him to leave his job, family & country if she had visa issues is delusional. She seriously must not know how difficult Korea's work culture is.
@@geogass it’s a personal preference🤷🏾♀️. It can bother people because it’s something that might be out of there control but at the end of the day there are some people who find height attractive and there’s others that don’t really care.
They were right to leave lol some ppl Can be very racist so no matter how good of a gf your are as long as ur black his parents won’t ever again meaning it will never work out lol
Les noirs ne se regroupe pas tous dans une seule charge ,la il t'avait six noirs de six lieux différents dans le monde tout comme vous en Asie ....et chacun a sa beauté, et ses critères de beautés,donc dires que telle race est plus belles qu'une autre .... Je trouve pas que ce soir acceptable,mais bon ...
Understand that this was his first interaction with black women for the purpose of dating. There is a language barrier so perhaps he could not put it more elegantly but point of the matter was that he was honest. Not everybody wants to go head in challenging relationships where they would have to fight everyone around them. And unlike other ‘people’ that fetishise us either for being ‘light skin’ or look ‘exotic’, either because they want to ‘experiment’, this guy not only told the truth straight up, (but whether we like it or not), it is the outmost normative for their society. I also applaud the girls for knowing their worth and walking off. They all seemed really sweet and will find the type of guys that will go the extra mile with them.
Interesting concept~ Very sad that so many people still allow parents to control their love life. I think that is one of the main things you should fight for in your life. Now if everyone is saying that person is a big red flag, that's different. You should run from them 😂
I'm starting to see a change in relationships between Korean and Black people. A LOT of Black women are in love with K-dramas, including me. There are Black women groups dedicated to K-dramas and who our favorite actor/actresses/programs are (Lee Byung Hyun and Kim Nam-gil being two of my absolute favorites). We dream of going to SK. We love the food and even share recipes. Some of us have even picked up a little of the language. As for the Korean side, I'm seeing more interracial/international relationships between Korean men and Black women. I wonder if there is a shift that is happening, where we are looking outside of the box to find love. IMO, that's a beautiful thing. This was really cute, and they are all beautiful young people.
Giro needed Chinese and Japanese women! Absolutely a waste of the ladies’ time! I’m a bit shocked that Trudi sat there the whole time! Any man who does plastic surgery on their face will not sacrifice a darn thing for anyone😂😂😂😂
Yo tambien me iria 😅😅😅 porque no puedo estar con alguien que no tenga religion, que no me ponga por encima de sy familia y que no quiera pensar en la posibilidad de vivir en otro pais. Ademas desde que yo lo vi supe que para el siempre seran las asiaticas y lo entiendo no es obligado estar con una persona de otra cultura, pais o continente asi que para los gustos hicieron los colores.
@@Linosairfryersetto180degrees all the other girls were prettier by far and I can have my opinion like anybody else cause everyone sees others differently.
@inoasf9075 I feel like I came off rude, but I needed to make the point I get you, though I kinda agree with you. But everyone is pretty ugly doesn't exist unless you quite liter look like a troll😭😂😂
This is not unique to Korea. There are many parents that would not approve of their children having a relationship with someone “different”. Whether that “difference” is religion (example how many Muslims will date non Muslims, and how many Muslim parents would accept their son/daughter marrying a non Muslim, and possibly their child converting to another religion in order to marry that person. I’m going to guess there would not be many that would accept it). Whether that difference is race/ethnicity/tribe etc. Even in some African countries your parents will not approve of marrying someone from the “wrong” tribe……or in India some parents will not approve if the person is from the “wrong” caste……. Or they may not approve of an age difference, or because of some shady things in a person’s past, or they may not approve of their child marry someone that has been married & divorced before, or that already has children from a previous relationship (or multiple kids from multiple previous partners). They are some religious people/cultures that don’t even want their child marrying someone that is not a virgin. People around the world, of all races, of all ethnicities, of all cultures can have expectations and “rules” of what they think is a union worth blessing or will oppose for many different reasons. This is not unique to Korean/Asian parents. Relationships between different cultures, different religions, different languages, different nationalities, long distance etc can be challenging. But ALL relationships come with different challenges. It comes down to how much do the two people love each other, and what are they willing to do to keep that relationship going……like she said……”Will they fight for it?”
I like how the French girls use ethnicity instead of race. If people were from different races, their children would be barren... Biologically speaking, race is not accurate to describe humans.
I get what you mean but it's mostly cultural. in French (and most European) culture, the concept of race is dismissed since on a biological scale, it's not accurate or true. That's why they use ethnicity or nationality instead. However in American culture, due to their past and History, the concept of race is still deeply embedded in their culture and still feels relevant to distinguish people. By race, Americans are not referring to a biological race but to a social/societal one. It implies a society in which racism exists and in which a race has its own (sub)culture and history.
Yes it's very cultural, I am French and we consider the word race as very offensive, an insult as we all belong to the same race. I am always shocked to hear it haha
I don't wanna watch the video but it's very true now that I think about it lmao Even the most racist never use the terms of race (most of the time can't say for everyone) will never use the race, only ethnicity 😅
He lives only for his family, and if he marries a black woman, this woman will go through a lot of misery, because the man will give his family authority over the woman
This was so interesting to watch. He is seriously my type in looks but I completely understand why the girls left. There has to be some love and compromise in relationships or it’s not real. I hope he doesn’t take this experience and decides he never wants to date a black woman. 😂😂😂
am mad at two girls who were still sitting there after he says he will give up if his parents are not ok '(which i really understand ahah i would probably do same)... but girls you need to reconize giant red flag
I know it’s how things are done and his culture kids would most likely listen to their parents. I am really glad I don’t have that type of situation I make my own choices whatever makes me happy. Respectfully, I respect how honest he was with the questions and answers, and I agree with all the girls walk away because it makes no sense investing in some thing when it could end at any moment because, the parent or a friend or whatever object to the relationship, but I think parents should just make their kids do them whatever make them happy, because their choice might not be the best choice for their kids and that’s why some of them end up cheating or not happy with who they end up with because they’re trying to please their parents
Yikes! Lol 😅 They were right for leaving though. If they’re dating for marriage, what is the point if he won’t fight for them if his parents disagree… But I do like that he was honest and genuine. It’s better than leading people on. Even though he can’t fight for his love against his parents, I just hope his cultural exposure will keep him from getting in the way of his future children’s love if they happen to date outside their race. Solving prejudice one generation at a time I guess.
I am not even asian and I agree with them. I love my parents very much and I trust their decisions to not follow it. I mean they would never have a problem with another race, but just saying family bonds matter for many. It s not about pressure, it s about bonds and trust that they want my best
I'm acutally so surprised to see Peris here. The only reason i clicked on this video. Kinda over these videos. There are 6 Women and 1 man lol BUT i'm glad Mary got to meet the other women since she is so new to Korea.
I cringed so bad when he was saying he can accept African culture unless he has to eat worms 💀💀 You can tell he only knows a stereotype of Africa… and I guess he just forgot Koreans eat silkworm pupae 😂
I have so many questions, like why did he even agree to do this? These guys know they are not going to commit to dating or marrying a black girl, so why waste her time? Those who really marry us are committed to the end. And I've seen RU-vid channel with those types of marriages. The Asian parents didn't approve, but they stayed with the woman they loved and the parents learned to accept her in the end. I'm 67, been attracted to Asian men since my high school days. It breaks my heart to see how we can be attracted to them, but they can't have that same attraction for us.
Guys remember with this culture family values mean alot especially whenever choosing a wife or husband parent opinion acceptance play a vital role if theyre not open minded so one have to respect other cultures custom.
I wonder why he took part in this knowing his parents would disapprove of a relationship with a black girl. He was honest to the end so I’m a little sad for him that all the girls left, but they made the right choice. Disapproving parents are a dealbreaker, especially if you can’t stand up to them.
But isn't it the other way around. They aren't looking for his approval. It's more of who would stay with him. He said something they didn't like, they left because they know they are enough.
