6 Lessons Men Learn Too Late In Life 

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The lessons that men learn too late: 1. Don't put a woman on a pedestal. 2 Don't chase after a woman. 3. Have much better boundaries. 4. Don't compromise your values.

Society lies to you and says you’re “ too late” but they don’t make your choices… you do. As long as you’re breathing, nothing is “too late” to learn.

I'm 38 and broke up with my ex 2 months ago after 6 years together. Been listening to alot of you're content which has helped 100%. My 3 biggest takeaways from the relationship is 1. Don't become to attached to someone and always keep in contact with Friends. 2. Set and stick to boundaries! 3. What I'm learning now is happiness comes from within and doesn't depend on another person.

Long summary: 1. Emotional intelligence: question why you feel the way you feel. (you've been told to feel and express that way all your life, is that the right way to feel?) 2. Self care: take care of your physical and mental health. 3. Career and future planning: think about what you're going to do in the future and do it. From point 2, think of WLB as well as family planning, not just money. 4. Be good with money spending and usage. 5. Communication: expressing emotions in the right way (to not frighten people). Talk about it, but don't avoid it. (women are scared when men show their anger the way men do. Also, learn to listen to other people. 6. Being vulnerable: don't hide your emotion, but like point 1 and 5: express it in a controlled that don't scare people. Don't do emotion vomiting.

"Youth is wasted on the young." That's something I've realized is so unbelievably true as I get close to the big 40. There are so many things I wish I'd learned the other side of 25.

I'm probably older than most of your audience Courtney, but if I could tell my younger self a few things I learned way to late in life it's would be these: 1.) Live below your means. Save as much as you can. Invest. Save for retirement. 2.) Take care of your health. The younger you start doing that, and get into healthy habits, the better. Eat right, exercise, make time for good sleep. 3.) You're not perfect, you never will be. If you always strive for perfection, you're going to be very disappointed and frustrated. 4.) Understand that life is about compromise. I've spent 20 years at my current job. The work isn't exactly what I would call inspiring, but the benefits are unbeatable. Compromise. 5.) Keep your friends and family close. You'll never know when you'll need one another. Worse, but sadly very true, you never know when one day you'll wake up and they'll be gone. 6.) Don't be afraid to ask for help. You wouldn't try to do your own brain surgery would you? Of course not. You're never going to know how to do everything. If you need help ask. Myself, I suck at mechanical things. I try, but I often get stuck. For years, I wouldn't ask. Know when to admit you need some help. 7.) You don't need a girlfriend/wife, etc. to be happy in life. Would it be nice? Sure, but if you make yourself happy you'll never have to depend on someone else for your happiness. Just a few things I've learned way too late in life.

Everything said here is very true. My decision for my life began at age 17 to make the army as my career. Gentlemen I’m 61 years old now and a retired soldier of 20 years. I look young for my age because I swim, hike, lift weights daily and watch what I eat and practice mindfulness and meditation. I embrace hobbies such as reading and traveling to every state regularly. My friends my age are often in ill health or depressed because they didn’t care for themselves all these decades! Young men, you too will be my age someday. The choice is yours on how you will age. Happy and strong or sick and unhappy. 😉👍🇺🇸

I am a 59-year-old man. I wish I had known that most (not all) women love men who are evil. That's why you hear women saying they want to "change" the a-hole they are dating/married to. Also, when a woman puts you in the friend zone, it is a life-sentence with no parole. If a woman just wants to be "friends," walk the hell away and never speak to her again. Do not waste your time. I just saved you years & money.

The power of walking away is something everyone needs to learn. If you chose poorly in your youth and have been saddled with an terrible partner, you don't have to stay. I wasted my 20s with a single mom looking for a free ride. You've got one life to live, dont waste it being unhappy.

I'm a 53 year old man. The biggest advice I would give to my younger self would be to stop trying to understand women and try to understand myself. Along those lines, the next piece of advice I would give myself is, as I get to understand myself, try to understand people in general, rather than focusing on understanding women.

I'm nearing 30 in a few months. One thing that I learned a bit too late is that work experience is king in the labor market, the masters degrees & certificates are only valuable once you have some sort of value pre-established. If you start recruiting with all of your qualifications and not enough work experience, you'll appear overqualified on paper & employers will suspect you want too much $ for basically being a rookie (basically, the on-paper qualifications don't set you up for roles with more responsibility).

If there is one lesson I would like to share is that people don't really change. Don't bend backwards to please anyone expecting them to appreciate your effort. More important than feeling happy is feeling respected. Walk away. All this within reason, nothing relatable to those checklist people.

Here’s mine: don’t ever make a major life decision based solely on what other people want. Unfortunately, while growing up with tiger parents and in a bad area, I was taught to always put other’s people thoughts and opinions before mine. I ended up developing terrible anxiety and making major life decisions that I preferred not to do. Now, I make decisions based solely on what I want, including where I’m living, my career, what I spend my money on, and who I decide to spend my life with. I’m much happier now. Sure, I lost a lot of friends in the process and my parents aren’t very happy with my life choices, but so what? It’s their problem, not mine and I’m not going to lose any sleep over it.

I struggle with self care (physically), career & future planning, and being money literate. Everything else I'm proficient in. This has been THEE most helpful video that I needed to see from all the videos I've watched on your channel because it made me realize that if I want someone who has their act together and wants to live the best life- I need to do that too. Afterall, how can I have such expectations and not show any of that in return for my significant other? Thank you Courtney! ❤

Hindsight is 20/20. I was a nice guy and now working on becoming a good guy. Going through a divorce & being in a rebound relationship made me a better person than I was in those two relationships.

"Is this a dumb decision?" and the even better "how does this become a bad decision?" Are incredibly valuable questions to consider before starting anything... great advice.

I've been very thoughtful about my life for the most part of my life, and it's been a huge disservice to myself, because it made me constantly anxious of being behind the schedule,while also too careful to undertake anything at all. So if you're a naturally careless person - yes, you've got to work on being more mindful; but if you're naturally prone to overthinking, it may be better to focus on just doing it.

Vulnerability = blood in the water for the sharks. A great woman would never weaponize it against you, but great humans (male or female) are exceedingly rare.

My advice with regard to communication with women (sorry Courtney): 1) When she asks "how was your day?" or "how are you feeling?" or "what do you think about that?" Your response is: "it was fine, how was YOUR day?" or "I'm OK, how are YOU?" or "that was interesting, what do YOU think?" Don't reveal yourself (because that will be used against you) and turn the conversation to HER as quickly as possible (because women love nothing more than talking about themselves). 90% of problems solved, right there. So, yes Courtney, communication is very important.

Courtney, you nailed it, I can tell you because at 64 yrs old, I can attest to and support what you are saying 100 % ... you are very wise for your age, and I believe that because your good parents were not able to financially support you, you had to learn life lessons and succeed on your own power....there is a direct connection there. Anyway, I am certain that they supported you in ways that money could not approach in effectiveness. Great job as always in articulating these really important issues that men in my generation were not properly exposed to. Thank you

It's never too late to know what you want to do with your future, but don't wait around too long and end up living with regrets. #3 is very true and if more people did this, you wouldn't have a lot of disgruntled and angry people who hate their lives.

Your compassion comes through in this video. You're a kind person, Courtney. Great advice!

So much wisdom!!!!!! You talk like a 47 years old person,,, and you are only 27 ,,,,, awesome...

One of the most important videos you’ve made, Courtney. Simple to follow and thought provoking.

I am doing each of these things. Didn’t learn it from the family, but found out everything myself. Now looking for a high value woman to come across in my life.

On that last point, the two times I tried to be vulnerable with women I was in a relationship in ended both of those relationships. There is clearly a wrong way to be vulnerable in my experience.

Hi Courtney, I agree with most of the things you mentioned here, except the Vulnerability part. One thing I have experienced in my life is this.. How much every you love/Respect your partners/friends, or how much ever your partner/friends Respects/loves you, When hard times hits your relationships (Like divorce or breakups), women (may be men too) will always weaponize your Vulnerabilities. When that happens you will always regret sharing that with them. In my opinion, its always better not to show your weakness/vulnerabilities to anyone. If you really need to, share it with your therapist. I have been naïve most of my life, I learned it the hard way.

These are the most common regrets of the dying, as observed by a palliative nurse: 1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. 2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. 3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. 4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. 5. I wish that I had let myself be happier. Some of your advice does help to avoid these regrets, like financial literacy, so you don't have to work so hard all your life, and you'd have more time to stay in touch with friends.

Good grammar + Abundant vocabulary = Good communication Skills

I can feel how much you care about the men you are speaking to. Takeaway: A lot of life comes down to the decisions we make. Whether that’s what career we choose, the person we marry, or how we connect with others. Making sure to align those decisions with who you are authentically, and aren’t about childhood programming is a lesson that MOST people don’t learn. 🙏🏻

I knew what I wanted to do from a young age, but the industry is very competitive that I wanted to work in and I had a hard time getting to the next step. Even though I did a lot of things to put my best foot forward. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I decided to pivot and try to work for myself under the same types of goals I had when I was younger.

Appreciate you, Courtney. Thank you for helping the community and positive thoughts for you and those close to you.

Hi Courtney! About "vulnerability". I have been in relationships with people who were never willing to admit that they were wrong, or made mistakes, or ever apologize for anything. You just can't have any real relationship with people like that. As a result, I have learned that I am hardly perfect and I am not going to try to be! Also, a great point about investing. I hope you and your husband have a great week ahead!

I appreciate this and shared it with my adult son.

I've had bad moments in life, and most of the lessons i've learned were learned the hard way because i was born on the wrong side of stupid, but as much as i appreciate the sentiment behind this video i can say confidently: If i had a time machine i would not go back and teach myself anything. I learned things as i needed them and i did it at my own pace, and that made me into who i am today. I think more people need to learn this mindset, but at the same time it definetly shouldn't be used as an excuse to not avail yourself of freely given advice (such as this video, or many in this comment section.)

I've been going through a lot lately and really needed to hear this. Thank you Courtney, keep up the great work!

One other lesson learn later or never, is that that there is nothing better from the love of a GOOD woman but if you cannot find one, it is better to leave alone

Almost 32 years old here , i wasted a lot of time in my life. Stayed in my comfort zone, struggled with mental health issues and was careless in my 20s. Needless to say I am no where in my life and I take full responsibility of it.

What an excellent and informative video, Courtney. You are so professional and such a sweet soul. Keep up the great work. Jim Reeve 🙂

Good general advice. About health, I was navigating through hospitals to take care of some of my girlfriends, and paid for them, but I wasn't allowed to catch a cough or rest if I was cold. Then mocked about how I had to take a medical leave at the job. Even when I had high fever, these girlfriends demanded the same things, nonstop. Some woman wants an iron-man, a machine who provides, takes care of them to feel safe etc. etc., and never get ill. I was dumped from these relations due to a cough.

Important things: 1:06 First Thing - Emotional Intelligence; 3:46 Second Thing - Significance Of Self-Care; 8:25 Third Thing - Career & Future Planning; 9:55 Important Two Decisions - Career, and Who we will marry; 16:20 Additional advice - Have balance; 16:57 Fourth Thing - Impact Of Financial Literacy; 19:08 Financial requirements: discipline; goal settings; financial literacy; 19:14 The benefits of the learning: personal growth, self-confidence, sense of accomplishment, helping to develop other disciplines in other life areas as well; 20:47 Fifth Thing - The Power Of Communication; 22:55 Sixth Thing - The Value Of Vulnerability; 25:24 That's one good advice - Be with the people that will encourage you to be open, and honest (meaning to accept you who you really are. With all the faults and the virtues that you have, cause we all have them. Men, and women); and 26:19 to summarize all the told here. I might say that the Third, and Fourth thing did hit me hard (in the positive way I mean). I don't know about you people, but for me it did hit me. I'm willing to hear your opinion. Is it possible that you share a link of David Ramsey's episode that you have mentioned Courtney? And just like you have said there Courtney, some of these things can also apply to women as well, and not just to men. Additional things that probably we all learn late are these: Seventh Thing - Worrying Too Much About The Outcome Of Any Situations (but that can be partly applied to first point); Eight Thing - Not Changing Our Mindset (sometimes it occur to either men, and women); Ninth Thing - Not Being Relaxed (and by that to know when to know to be relaxed, and when be serious - balance these two things); Tenth Thing - Showing Immaturity. When I was listening to you Courtney, I have remembered three quotes that I have heard, and some of them I have mentioned in one of your videos. And they go like this (you can correct me if I'm wrong): 1. Ivo Andric once told this (the famous Nobel laureate. You can find the details about him on internet if you are interested): "The human who never makes a mistake, he / she does nothing in life. And so his / her life passed. And that human who makes a mistake, at least he / she is doing something in his her life. And that's why he / she tries." 2. I have mentioned this thing from my professor at faculty: "It's easy to be a general after a battle. Let's see you as generals during the battle and you make some crucial and most important decisions to solve those dilemmas and the outcomes of problems. 3. In Balkan peninsula we say this thing as well: "He / She who helps himself / herself is also helped by mighty God." Thank you so much Courtney. It means a lot ❤💙🤍.

Thank you for giving men good advice. You are a person who is really pleasant to listen to, and there is so much bullcrap out there on the internet that it's really nice to find a person who is sincere in wanting to help people.

I think these are good lessons for men and women. I’ve met more than a handful of women who when young wanted to marry a rich guy, and now that they’re older they have 0 to fall back on and no man.

I love your videos! Thanks for your content and to verbalize aspects most of us don't know how.

I really appreciate how much effort you put into these videos. I can feel you genuinely care about what you're doing. You're one of the only content creators to actually create lasting changes in my thought patterns and lifestyle.

In regards to the last topic, the older I get, the more I realize how valuable and CRUCIAL support in a romantic relationship is. That sort of ties in with the last point in you both feel safe to express yourself because you know you have their love and support no matter what. I've had a tone of non supporter women in my life, so when I met a couple of VERY supportive and patient women over the last few years, it made me realize just how important it is.

Women ask themselves ”who am I?”. Men ask themselves ”Who can I be?”.

I love your videos. It is never too late to start over or doing anything new.

Thank you Courtney for all the information you shared with us.

Mental health is especially important when approaching modern dating. It's often tempting (and easy) to be bitter or depressed about all the unrealistic expectations, bad experiences, and poor behavior. But in the end, keeping yourself healthy and positive is the way to keep going and eventually attract someone who can be good for you. Reading up on ways to avoid spiraling into negative thoughts, plus large doses of sunlight/therapy light, has helped me stay positive even when I'm feeling lonely. I also have more fun at work now!

Thank you @CourtneyRyan for another important lesson for the youth. Love how much valuable information you fit into your content. 🥰🤗

Thanks for another great video Courtney; all of your videos are presented with a lot of thought, articulation, and knowledge. You are wise beyond your years. Keep up the great work.

i get so many compliments from women talking about how in touch i’m with my feelings and emotions. i have gotten so much better interactions with women since i learned about my emotions and feelings. it’s changed my life with self care alongside it.

Congratulations on the 626k subscribers. We appreciate your great content and hardwork you put into your videos

I loved your content. It's really comforting.

Great points Courtney! Emotional intelligence has helped me defuse escalating situations and arguments. I do wish that I would have been more financially literate growing up but I learned the hard way. Vulnerability is important for mental health, I talk to a few trusted friends about my feelings and it’s helped tremendously.

this video really educational and a great insight for me.Truly appreciate you brought this early Courtney💖❤‍🔥

I believe we all learn at least a thing or two much later in life. There was a mass shooting that took place a couple weeks ago in my hometown. I reacted by reaching out to a family member I've not spoken to in years and they were alright, as some friends I went to college. I even told this love interest and she was asking if I was okay and my family member. I said yes and was thankful for it. Told her how much I appreciated it, as I also maintained bearings. Self care is so crucial! There is a percentage where being selfish is not a bad thing...just many take it such extremes

Excellent points. As a retired guy, some perspective about career. Agree that you need to try and make best choice you can, but it’s just not that simple. I’m a chemical engineer, so I heeded your advice. However, I have seen so much turmoil due to external forces far beyond your control. Most people are going to have multiple careers, just to survive. I’ve always told people I was really a ‘bullet’ dodger’ just to avoid all the ‘challenging’ things that happened to me in my career. What I would say is that your husband’s emphasis on NETWORING is SUPER important. That saved my butt multiple times. But I would also emphasize staying current with what’s happening. In other words, you need to be at the front of your ‘ship’, looking out to see what ‘icebergs’ are out there that you may hit - and adapt before it happens. Wish it were as simple as choosing a career, but external events drive most lives. Like a cat, you need many lives to survive. Stay current and NETWORK.

Not sure is she will mention this as I am watching this video while typing but take care of yourself both mentally and physically. I’m 46 and didn’t give a flying F about my physical health until last summer. I’ve made major life changes in diet and exercise and it has made an impact on how I feel and the energy I have for my everyday. Guys, take care of yourselves.

Number Three is the most difficult thing - I have a clear image about a a feeling what is important for me but no clear location or job because I work for a tech corp and everything changes so fast. Unfortunately, this is often vague for many

Courtney you have some of the best advice on youtube. Thank you. ✌🏾

The sad thing to me about the career and future as a man is that some women don't tend to understand or value the hard work it took for the man to reach where he worked so hard to be. Many find it to be selfish to be a career-focused man when almost all our lives up to the point we are it's been non-stop work to reach where we wanted to be and the common doubts and tribulations of that risk tasking behavior that pays off the investment but some women don't see the value in that as the men do and it can be difficult to navigate in my opinion cause when a moment of choice comes...what will be the best option? Would that option later come with regrets?

One lesson I learned too late: if she doesn't bring you peace, she's wrong for you. She might be the finest babe in town, but if she's always stressing you out, she's wrong for you. She might be the most talented girl in the town, but if she adds to your anxiety, she's wrong for you. And she might check all the boxes for the perfect woman for you, but if her FAMILY is toxic, think very long and hard if that's what you want to get involved with. After all, how many women nowadays will listen more to her mom and sisters than her husband? My wife was being told by her family that she should leave me because I wasn't willing to put up with their bullshit. Fortunately she saw their claims were baseless and instead cut them out of her life.

Probably one of your best videos. Thank you. 👍👍

I’m so very grateful that there are women like this. I mean, she went into this knowing she’d encounter a great deal of “creepy” feedback, yet she carried on. Love this channel, and it is always a place for knowledge.

I needed to hear this again. Thank you

great list, thank you

Stumbled onto your channel by accident. The vision of a beautiful woman caught my eye. But, having viewed several of your videos, if ever someone (their brain, thought process) was to be cloned, girl you are the one. Every video is like you read my mind. There has to be another like minded person you somewhere on this planet. So much knowledge in so few years. The mention of Dave Ramsey, this girl is a winner.

One of the best videos, thank you Courtney! All men should know these!

My daughter also had to pay for her college education and appreciates it far more than I did not paying for mine.

Thank u for ur help 😇hope ur well and have a nice day.

11:20 - Courtney, this is completely off-topic but, for some reason, hearing you say “my husband” sounds so much more refreshing than hearing a woman refer to a man as “my partner”.

U are such a nice person for helping us in your videos.😇

I've watched dozens of your videos, this one is truly a masterpiece. Thank you for sharing.

As a 40 year old, you are planting seeds that I wish had inside me earlier. I felt your heart, thank you.

I am just going to say I have been watching your videos and it has helped me get over my fears of women, and more importantly has allowed me to face my fears of getting my life in order. I find it ironic that when I want to find and meet women it's difficult, but when i am focusing on my life by, exercise, buying healthy food to make dinner, studying to obtain my dream career, all these wonderful women appear and want more of my attention. Balancing when to really pursue, and flirt, versus just focusing on my life is what i find the hardest challenge.

Well done, Courtney. For myself, realizing just how important special moments can be. Kind of sappy, but valuable later in life. You can't get them back. Pay attention, kick your ego aside and open your heart.

Great vid Courtney. So many ideas and values I wish I learned in high school and college. I had fairly low amount of loans, but I did not know the gravity of my 2 signatures till the loans started kicking in. Doing just fine now.

Your advice helps me a lot, Courtney. It's good to know there's women like you in our corner. God bless you.

What you have said today...Makes much sense...And to be "smart" in this time and place...Is to you have to be a "strategist" as opposed to just making money and a lifestyle you think will make you happy and with people who instead will make you miserable, the total opposite of what you are trying to achieve and pursue in this short existence. Good video..Very good to make one think deeply....Peace

This is the top Pinnacle of advice. Awesome presentation Ms. Ryan. Never too late.... So get with it!

Such valuable lessons! So great that you are taking about this Courtney. Thank you!

Great episode, thank you.

I find your channel to be genuinely geared towards helping others to find the true meaning of life. Excellent data.

Soo happy for u Courtney for ur success and u found ur purpose in life and thank u for all ur wise advice.. ur very lucky cuz ur smart, healthy, nice and very pretty.. i would be very lucky to find a woman like u.. i learned a lot from u, thanks..

Excellent video, thank you queen!

Great job. CR is so refreshingly practical and well-grounded.

I believe you are speaking to the Millennial Generation. I am 35 and am finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Been a long time coming but I am on the right path now. Great episode and Happy New Years.

Thank You - I listened to everything your hands were saying ❤

Great video. Thank you from a 37 year old male. I definitely have learned a few of these too late. However, I guess it is not to late once one takes action.

I,m a builder / carpenter who advocates therapy and wellness , a lot of guys i worked with on sites percieved me as being conceited because of my interests , but i really enjoy looking good , feeling good , smelling good , with the help of Courtneys videos ive fine tuned all of these things , i would tell my teenage self to trust my own judgement and dont mind what other people are doing !

Sorry Courtney I am awake now, I'm the man of today and will make a difference to my future generation promise. Thankyou for this video

I agree...I had to go through the penalty system for me to open my eyes and be blessed with the opportunity to start over again....of course I have never been married nor do I have any children.....it's been difficult @ times but it has definitely made me a better & stronger man.

Thank you Courtney ❤

Thank you Courtney...what you say about success is so true their is saying by Jim Rohn "Be aware of what you become in persuit of what you want".i am from Ethiopia

First time commenting here. Recently, I started doing Taekwondo and it's really helping me in my journey of figuring out who I am. I'm currently 20 and I do have a lot to think about. I'm starting a new job at the airport today and I am thinking what I should do afterwards. Thanks for the advice. I think I do need it at this point in time.

I wish #3 had been taught to me/i found out its importance sooner; cause right now it feels like life is going to be much harder. I cant go back to college and waste another 4 years and add debt. But my current career path sucks. Really wish i had someone tell me the importance of career choice/salary needed to live financially well.

9:50 Court, I would respectfully like to add a 3rd decision: where will you spend eternity? This is of course a question of someone's belief system, but to me personally this is THE most important decision.