This is 100% truth. I wish I had known this earlier, I learned through personal experience. The sad fact is, even if I had known, I may not have believed as I thought I was intelligent and secure and in control. I have many regrets from not listening to my inner logic at the beginning, but I had to learn the hard way. Please believe all this is true.
I'm highly intelligent and saw all the red flags in the first 20 mins of talking to him (I realized he was lying to impress me, just because I happened to know facts, pure chance), despite that I ended up wasting 12 years on a narcissist.. Throughout this whole time I was aware of each and every red flag in real time, but have fallen deep fast. It's very dangerous to think sth can not happen to you because you're smart. That thought is exactly what makes it possible. I also never thought I would end up tolerating things I ended up tolerating.
I know exactly what you are saying. A women’s intuition is strong. Sadly, some of us (and I’m talking about me) only really learn through experience. I wish I wasn’t that way. I could have saved many, many wasted years of my life. However they aren’t wasted because gained the experience. But if I could have not had to go through what I have, and just learned by listening! Wow. What a difference it would have made.
I have lived through all of this and I couldn’t agree more. It’s just a bunch of love bombing leading to a one-sided narcissistic relationship. We fall for this when we haven’t learned to love ourselves correctly and we become blindsided by the love bombing or the relationship “potential”.
It's very hard to tell if his assertiveness is healthy or not. It's nice to have a man that knows exactly what he wants and takes the lead, but it's another thing if he's displaying narcissistic traits. I think the key to # 3 is being self aware of how you feel around him when he's assertive (relaxed or on eggshells) and if he considers you at all in his decisions. Does he know what he wants and is ok without getting it, or does he want control and gets upset when he doesn't get his way? Does he embody divine masculine energy or wounded energy? Does he become confrontational or avoidant when you speak up and disagree with his decision? Does he respect women, period? Stay aware ladies. Listen to your gut and intuition. See how he treats other people whether that's family, friends, or strangers. Test him early on to see how he reacts if you're unsure.
Number 2 really resonates. That's only happened to me once and it took a few months for that intensity to fade and come back down to earth. It was gripping in a way that was weird even to me. Almost like being on a mind altering drug. I was aware of it which helped but man, was that peculiar. It felt very exciting, delirious, giddy. It was too much! The brain can be a little weird sometimes.A friend told me it was just hormones. I don't know. Maybe a contributing factor but I felt like I had steam-rolled my own self! I laugh now but at the time it was intense! Thank you so much for your excellent videos! I hope you have a wonderful day!
You are so so awesome...very observant of people's emotional tendency, practical situations we face.... you cover all the aspects not just shallow advices
Listen to him. Everything he mentioned happened in exactly that same sequence and I thought I had finally met a man who could see my worth. Within a week of marriage he began to unmask right before me. Take it slow and don’t let them pressure you into the next stage with out proper observation.
Recently experienced most of these with an older man. What kind of guys have these qualities, in your experience? Emotionally broken, avoidants, narcissists?
He has been respectful,honest and vulnerable with me for the past 3 months.He Has ADHD he struggles to follow up on most of our plans but he makes sure we go on dates and spend quality together.We meet once a week or twice.Should I leave him because he does things differently?
Can you trust and rely on the man- offering good dates or luxury holidays is not what is long term. Participating in your life and discussing the future, meeting your needs is what is good.
If he doesn't follow up after suggesting, he's leading you along. My now ex-fiance built up taking me to a concert I'd been wanting to attend for years. A few weeks later when he got to my house on the weekend of the concert, I told him I had turned down plans for us because we were attending my dream experience. My ex at first pretended not to know what I was talking about. When I Insisted he had told me to put the music plans on my calendar, he made the excuse that the tickets had been too expensive and accused me of putting my selfish needs ahead of his financial means. Basically, he was gaslighting me. Unfortunately, this went on time and time again before I realized he was enjoying watching my disappointment. He knew which buttons to push. I should never have given him the satisfaction of becoming emotional nor should I have continued to accept his behavior after the first incident.
Love bombing 101 Wish I knew about these things while I was growing up. Glad to know them now. I appreciate the heads-up on this information that is desperately necessary. An ex of mine went from sweet and kind to psycho and abusive. 💞🫂💞 💜💕🦋🔥👑🔥🦋💕💜
