If you were my daughter, I'd share these 7 harsh truths about men. 

I’m in my 50s. The lessons I learned that I wish I had known as a young girl: 1. Nothing, nothing, nothing you can do will make him love you. He will want you or he won’t. 2. Most men are not motivated by love. What they really want is to be envied by other men. 3. You can’t compete with his fantasies. Look at his p0rrn. If he is into a certain kind/race of woman, and you aren’t that kind/race, find someone else. 4. He will know if you are what he wants very quickly. If he isn’t talking marriage in 3 months, he probably never will. 5. If he lies often, it’s because he is hiding who he is or what he is doing when he is not with you. 6. Men are usually like their best friend. If his best friend treats women like toys, chances are you are getting played too. 7. If he won’t talk about your relationship, it’s because you don’t really have one. 8. If he hides your relationship it’s because he is either already in another one or is actively looking for another one. 9. Don’t assume he wants what you want, especially children. 10. If he mistreats you, it’s a reflection of who he is, not who you are.

For busy people: 1. Not all men are honest, see actions not words. His actions need to match his words. 2. Many men fear commitment. Don’t wait for change. Look for someone who is on the same page. 3. Respect is crucial. If he disrepects you he is not worth your time. 4. Emotional availability varies. Some men don’t know to show emotions. Seek someone who is more emotionally available to you, because it’s key to deep connection. 5. Action speak lauder than words. Look for consistency. 6. Independence is attractive. Maintain your friendships with your friends and family, enjoy your hobbies. 7. Relationship should bring more joy than pain. If a relationship frustrates you, it might not be healthy.

My dad always said, " Men use words, Women believe words. "

I’ve wasted my youth completly on dishonest men. I’m an older woman now,,, I have lost all hope and all 😮faith in men. I’m just concentrating now, on my animals, preparing for death, ending well,, and my Precious Friendship with my Lord. ❤

My immigrant father from the Ukraine always told us daughter’s never depended on a man…always know how to take care of yourself financially!!…he was soooo right! Love you Tato!🇺🇦🌻❤️

😮❤ ladies,women & girls. If a man confuses u while dating or delays. U r not the 1 & not a priority. U r an option.

I’ve seen so many women leave because he’s not ready for commitment only for him to be married to someone else with a baby on the way a year later. If he won’t commit you aren’t the one.

1. Not all men are honest 2. Who claims his ready for relationship but flirt with other family 3. Respect is crucial 4. Emotional availability varies 5. Action speaks louder than words 6. Independent is attractive 7. You deserve the best

I wish someone told me this when I was 12. And reminded me at 17. Would have saved me a lifetime of man-hell.

This video needs to be heard by all teenage girls! I was married to a man that disapproved of all of my friends. Moved me an hour and a half away from my family. Got a job where he would be away for a month and home for a week. When I got myself established and had some new friends he wanted to buy me a new house 10 hrs away. I stood my grounds & said NO. Anyway, I definitely needed this knowledge when I was younger!

Never had a real Father to tell me these things. Wish I didn’t have to learn them, would’ve saved me a lifetime of grief.

There is a type of man who uses a girlfriend as entertainment, time filler, social liaison, etc. It can seem like they are giving you their time, but--actually--they're just taking your time. Their true character shows up in other ways though, so just go slowly--you'll see it.

Never invest yourself completely in a man. Always remain independent. As women we usually are the natural care givers and give so much of ourselves in a relationship. Be careful not to over give and not get anything in return. If you have asked your man to take the bin out and every day have to remind him, to do so….Leave the relationship. He does not love or even care about you. Repeatedly asking him to do something basic, that he should just do automatically is exhausting. And NO he did not just forget. You don’t forget what he likes, so why is it ok if he “forgets”. Speaking from experience here…25 years married with 6 beautiful children, married to the wrong man. So much time wasted. Some men see a good women and just want to use her.

And another important one, coming from someone who's had a job seeing the worst side of normal men for the last decade - be kind, but do not trust easily, do not let yourself be manipulated. and even family and family friends can be unsafe to leave your children with.

Whole heartedly agree with the notion about if a man isn’t honest or live with integrity in the other areas of his life, it will certainly translate in other areas.

As a woman , I watch how a man relates to , his mother, his grandparents , his siblings ,his Co workers , this is all very revealing . LOVE THIS . ❤️ 😍

I grew up in a very toxic environment. My father treated my mother like trash. He not only favoured my brothers over me, he was very abusive to me. He was a textbook misogynist. He cheated on my mother. I wanted to find a partner who was not like my father and brothers (I was the scapegoat). However, I found myself in the same toxic relationship with partners one after the other. In therapy, I found I was being drawn to men like my father, which disturbed me because I intended to get away from all that. Apparently, I was drawn to what was familiar. In addition to that, I still think there are far too many men out there who treat women like trash. They just want the sex and not the commitment. They will be as dishonest as they like just to get what THEY want. This behaviour is the height of selfishness, misogyny, and downright cruelty. Thankfully, I did finally meet someone completely different from that. I did not meet him until I was 46 and married him at 50. It is not so much that men are born with these tendencies to use women and not commit, it is how they are brought up, thinking they have this divine right to take pleasure from women and not accept responsibility. Boys should be taught to respect the opposite sex and about commitment and responsible behaviour in a relationship. In addition, girls should be taught to say no to suspect behaviour, to respect themselves enough to not take crap and draw boundaries around unacceptable behaviour. I think the last point about independence is key because girls are not taught enough to be independent until they find someone right. Unfortunately, i had a very poor role model in my mother, who was too dependent emotionally on my father and put up with everything rather than get a divorce.

My father passed away 11 years ago, now I'm 30. Seeing this on father's day.

1. Not all men are honest. Actions speak louder than words. Reliability and honesty is a character trait. 2. Commitment. Says he loves you but avoids talk about the future. If he’s not committed to a shared vision, it might be time to move on. Find a partner whose goals and readiness match yours. 3. Respect. Valuing your opinion, boundaries, thoughts and time. If a man speaks to you rudely, call him out. 4. Emotional availability varies. Look for a partner willing to communicate. Be patient and set boundaries. Support his growth. It is key to deep connection. 5. Actions speak louder than words. Promises and sweet words mean nothing if they aren’t backed by the consistent and caring actions. Fairly to follow through means his promises are empty. A man who loves you will do small actions. 6. Independence is attractive. Spend time with your friends and have your own social circles. Encourage each other to pursue your dreams. Be your own person. 7. Never settle for less. A good man should enhance your life, support and uplift you. Don’t be afraid to walk away from a relationship that doesn’t serve you.

I never met a man I could trust. I have always been single and independent. I own my own home and acquired a pension. I am good!

I got this information from my dear mother and grandmother. Very savvy women who saw men for what they are.

Thank you, growing up without a father defintley has a big impact on how we navigate romantic partnerships. Especially if we have been abused. Sending love to everyone reading this ❤

#1 - Men Lie. Yes, this deserves to be #1. When I went back into the dating game after being out for a while, I had to relearn this. I think men think it's completely normal and acceptable to lie to the women they pursue.

When do we get videos teaching men to stop being narcissists instead of teaching women to detect narcissism? Putting the accountability on women yet again.

They should talk about the differences between independence, interdependence and codependency.

I wish I'd had a wise father who would have cared to teach me all this

I've never met a man im willing to put up with. Im 60yrs old, i live alone & couldn't be happier 🙃 My entire home is victorian shabby chic. Think more purple & less pink. I love that i get to hog up my king size bed. I love that my house is spotlessly clean all the time. I love just doing only my laundry. Most of all i love that there's always Dr.Pepper in the fridge when i want one. I do have one son in his early 40's. I believe in trying everything at least once except certain foods 🤮 I have an 18yr old grandson & a 2yr old granddaughter ❤ What i love doing more then anything else on earth is read! I read a book 📖 every 24 to 48hrs. I am disabled. Reading takes me away from my pain. I love escaping to another place or time that a good book takes me.If i feel the need to socialize i go out to eat with friends or family 👪 or to a play, etc. I didnt consciously choose my life to turn out the way it has, just that i found the older i get the less im willing to put up with from a man 😈 Sinfully happy in the Sunshine State of Florida 🍹🏖🌞 Best wishes 🙌🙏😇💙

All true! Don't waste time second guessing yourself. Go with your gut. Trust and value yourself. Don't think your love can change him. If you see unhealthy patterns, know that they are most likely forever and won't change. If his flowery words don't match his actions, run and never look back. I wish I could go back and tell my young hopeless romantic self these words of wisdom. But knowing me, I probably wouldn't have listened...so I'm telling you...listen and learn. Learning these hard lessons by experience is far too painful and will cost decades of your life, investing in toxic men. Rather learn from someone else's mistakes. You're very welcome.

This is true no matter the age of the man also. I just broke up with my BF bc of almost all of the negative things he said men will do in this video and he is 54 yrs old.

I had a college boyfriend that made me cry. Realized there are a bunch of fish in the sea - so why am I crying ? Got rid of that loser . Dated a man who was real - and never let me down, and married him. I hope that loser found his match or stayed single.

No matter how much you read, learn or listen to noth will stop a relationship from falling if it is already doomed. The problem is that people change and what is said in the vid is applied for both men and women. I believe it is just luck. Some people get to meet good soulmates who share the same values and vision unil they die. Others might meet them but they change over time or external factors impose themselves on them be it family, illnesses, jobs etc. What is important is to be honest with your own self, know your boundaries and values, and respect yourself and every human being. Continue to grow with or without people. By the end you will have a fulfilling life, good memories, no resentment, guilt or regrets!

This is very sound advice….for all women. If his relationship with his mother is not normal….run as fast as you can.

As another viewer commented, I wish I had known all this, years ago. This info should be taught in high school to females. There should, also, be a separate class for males about females. (This info could help so many young people and they wouldn't make as many mistakes as we have all these years. Knowledge is power! Grateful I found this video.

If you're not loved growing up, you will always chase that and sell yourself short sadly. And that is unisex.

I would have needed a father like this. I wasted my life in a toxic relationship....

I learned that my partner is Not my father nor my happiness. Always do you. You do not need others to make you happy.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

So helpful,wish I knew 50 yrs ago😢

This is actually an aesthetic and vibe that's very safe and comfy to my female brain. Other pro-woman videos are actually kind of stressful. This is where I want my headspace at.

This video is everything women need. For the first time, it seems to me like someone cares about women.

Happy Father's Day to my biological father Felix Rene in heaven , almost two months , you passed away papa.

This is my 5th year without my Dad on Father’s Day. Im seeing this on Father’s Day.

I had a dad, but I wish he would've been a good dad and told me that you told me. Tank you very much I appreciate what you have in your video. If you have a daughter or daughters they're blessed to have a good dad like you.May God bless you for being such a good father.😊

Best advice when first meeting a man go with your gut feeling, if it does not feel right it probably is not right. We form a opinion of a person with in seconds of meeting someone, no matter what they look like or talk a good talk if it feels off then it is.

thank you for playing the role of teaching me about these valuable advices. im still healing from my first heartbreak that happened 6 months ago, i loved him for four years but he ended it in four months like it was nothing. i did everything in my power to make this relationship work, but i couldn't move a couch without my partner's help, he was my first love but him disrespecting my boundaries was my last streak.

Dad here, I enjoy explaining this world to my boys. They let me go into as much detail as I want, asks questions, ect. From the cosmos to how people are. I'm pretty cynical but I can't explain it that way to them, obviously. I think that helps me sometimes.

Im single and I found this video, very helpful!😊❤

wish i had read this before i spent 5 mos. dating the wrong man. it took me that long to see his dishonesty and lack of respect. better to be dateless, and just value friends and family.

Thank you for explaining how a healthy relationship needs to be.

Lying, cheating, and stealing are what entitled men do. And then deny it all when confronted. Run.

Wish I saw this 11 years ago. This isn't only about a man in your love life. This reminds me alot of my parents and how I was treated.

You forgot to mention “If a man truly loves you, he will not hit you or abuse you physically.”

🌸 <a href="#" class="seekto" data-time="279">4:39</a> no communication. If someone refuses to talk when there is misunderstanding and they are angry Don’t waste your time with them. Communication is the key 🔑 Don’t waste time on arrogant sods like that, just move on and you will meet your true soulmate ❤

As a man, I found this interesting because it gave me a basis for self evaluation.

It a woman's responsibility to love herself enough to invest in herself above all other's. He's just a man, not God. Wait on The Most High while you work on being the best person you can be. You attract what you are.

Told him not to say intentionally mean shit to me just cos he was mad at me. TALK to me. Donr belittle me mock me or call me names. Don't ask questions if you don't even LISTEN to my answer....cos u already made up ur mind.....not sorry. Not goin back. I told him several times...one day he was gonna hurt me for theist time

Truth is... This is for us all, for everyone human in this world, male/female, young/old, parents, grandparents, etc... These are very important needed facts in every relationship.

Then people try to find someone who "shares their vision for the future and are ready to commit? - and that is often an incompatible person. This spells "settling." Readiness to settle down and commitment is hardly a good enough foundation for a long-term relationship. People must be compatible on may layers. If they are not, they will discover later. Then commitment will turn to prison.

I find #6 to trigger most young men. Like, they are very insecure and even if they parrot "independence is attractive" and wanting to support goals etc, their behavior doesn't match up, especially when it concerns finances. But marriage takes an independent dependency to work.

Great illustrations.

Brilliant advice for both women and men !

Thank you something I needed to hear. My father wasn’t present in my life growing up.

extremely well said..thank you for saying what all women and girls need to memorize because the grief of choosing the wrong partner is devastating for everyone but especially if there are children

This content was thorough and made me know for sure why I ended my last relationship. When there are fundamental differences in a relationship, please walk away from that relationship. Do not stay hoping that it will work out. Give them the gift of your absence. FOREVER. AWESOME CONTENT

Thank you, I know it's common sense, reminders are needed and this serves as much needed support for keeping our senses with us at all times.

I have a friend whose words do not match his actions, he comes through for others but not me. I ignored him and now he calls me childish.

This brings me to tears, because I'm 53 and my Dad was left to die when me and my twin were a year old and an older sister. We have suffered greatly in marriages and relationships with men due to lack of wisdom in our household growing up, and environment. And my brother has suffered from a lack of wise men to guide him which has caused him greater misfortune. I want to thank you from the top of my head to the bottom of my feet and pray to the God of Israel and Judah to bless and favor you for helping not just me, but I'm sure many others. And I will pass this information along to the women of all ages that I am in contact with. ❤ THANK YOU...

1. Actions reveal the truth. 2. Consistency and commitment. 3. Respect. 4. Communication is crucial. Can come in different forms. 5 = 1 (look for consistency and reliability) + remembering little things 6. Don't lose yourself in a relationship. 7. Never settle for less than you deserve. You deserve the best! A good partner supports and uplifts you.

Thank you for sharing this video.

...thank you so very much, very helpful...very thoughtful

Great presentation. My mom taught me to consider how the man treats his mom. If he disrespects her, he'll disrespect you.

Thank you so much because I want to be sure I find the right man.

Efforts,respect,trust ,honesty nd constant communication really matters when it comes relationship ,when you dont see these ,you need to think more nd dont settle with the person who doesn't show the same vision f you ,beaing real nd transparent with a word of honor makes you a person to be trusted

This is great advice, thank you. ❤ The man I was in a relationship with most recently was a fellow I had to walk away from, since many of the 7 truths were true of him! What's said in the video is correct, "Actions speak louder than words." In the relationship, over and over again, the two didn't match up!

My advice would be, if there are red flags, get out of the relationship quickly. Don't do it like me, who waited 30 years of marriage for him to change, and that never occurred. After the separation, always forgive and forget no matter what the offense. You don't want to be carrying a baggage of hatred or animosity towards your ex. It's toxic for you, not him. That's it for now... I'm still at the beginning of my new chapter... God has been my help in every step. In Him, I can totally trust! Beautiful drawings, btw and great advice!!!

Thanku soooo much for putting this up for us❤ there are parents who need to teach this

Great advice and I love the illustrations.

A man tried enforcing that we were friends when we weren't, we went on a date that was more a sa threat and I told him after that I don't want any contact with him & that we weren't ever friends to begin with. He was a coworker who tried outright lying in front of everyone I worked with. I told em outright in front of every associate that no we're not & that he was outright lying through teeth. They try defending him like, maybe he just wants to be friends, then I told them the frightnight date we had and that shut them right up. The women & trans guys understood the message.

Amen, this is so inspiring, truthful, and spot-on ❤ Thank you for creating this video!

Thanks so much for this video. All that is pinpointed here could not be more real.

Thank you daughters need good fatherly advice

This really helped me see things more clearly, as I face divorce and hopefully a fresh start in the future! Thank you so much! ❤🎉

thanks for posting. excellent points.

My man is such a good man. Thank you universe for bringing him to me❤❤❤

Every girl needs this video thank you 🙏

I LOVE this British man.. This is appropriate for Father's Day 🎉 thank goodness I am not in a situation where my time is going. So far, the only love I have ever had was from my Father. A short time but at least I had it.

isn't it peculiar how men say they just want a compassionate and caring woman, but once they get a woman like that they end up mistreating her?

I had to learn the hard way. Good information, thank you

Thank you! ❤

Beautifully said ❤ Loved it 😊

Regarding commitment, I was supposedly engaged but he would never discuss a wedding date. Four years together. Then I met someone else, we were engaged within a week and married shortly after that. Still together 38 years later, and I am now the mother of four young men. Fortunately, they are good men, like their father. I am blessed x

Finding all of these characteristics in one person is almost impossible to find, and that goes for either sex.

The best advice I ever heard in my life. 🎯

Great information! Thank you!

The points were spot on. Thank you 😊

if you were a responsible person you would raise your son to be not like this. i know decent men raised by decent parents

This goes for women as well. Now days women have become much like men. 😢

Thank you so much for this video. This is a great reminder and super helpfull to hear from a man who truly cares and stand up for women by sharing this.❤ this really gives me hope, what you share and send is needed!

Not always easy to see bad signs. My late husband was good to his mother and sister, came from a good family and was doing well at work. We dated for 5 yrs before marriage. I never saw the signs that a) he didn't want a home life and refused to buy a house b) said he wanted children but when our son arrived he got jealous and never paid him any attention c) was a perennial teenager - out with his friends, playing sport and drinking and hardly ever home d) ducked out of responsibility and left me carrying the can. Everyone thought he was sweet and kind but he was never there for his own family, us

The artwork in this video is wonderful