7 Disturbing Traits Of An INFJ Dark Side 

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Bro called me a Demon like 5 different times, chill fam, its hard out here for INFJs😭😭😂

the "door slam" is not to punish anyone, I think it is more of a way to avoid further hurt.

Dude the manipulative part is the exciting and terrifying part for me, like dude its fun but it's feels wrong so i only use it if necessary and in a goodway . It feels like playing a chess but the people around you is the chess piece

Manipulating can be used for many good things. Manipulation in general is not a bad thing, many people need guidance and manipulation is the way of providing this guidance in an understandable language. Remember that, INFJs intentions are almost always good. Except when they want to punish someone for lies, disgusting motives and etc..

A lot of these are defense mechanisms that we INFJs have had to implement in order to survive in a world that misunderstands us the majority of the time. We are good at these defense mechanisms because we are so observant. Sad to say, I have displayed many of these throughout my life, but now that I am in my mid-50s, I am no longer so defensive and don't need to rely on any of these. Especially the first one. I no longer bottle up my emotions and explode.

I continue to be absolutely ASTONISHED by how accurate these vids are. It's like a complete stranger just walking to your mind and perusing like one does at a Library. I honestly never believed in this "science" or discipline nor things like astrology. But I can't deny the accuracy of these profiles. It's like they KNOW me

Dont piss us off, and you’ll be good.😂 We do bottle it up, but the issue is usually at least mentioned. Usually only manipulate after being manipulated. A lot clears up as you mature too. I can only speak for myself though.

The manipulation trait can be used for good too. I find myself using it in coaching sports.

Many years ago before I knew I was an INFJ or even heard of the MBTI, I did the "door slam" on someone who wouldn't hear me. Wouldn't allow me to speak to clear my name. So I told him to always stay mad at me even when he learns the truth because he didn't want to listen to me in that moment I told him he doesn't exist to me anymore. YEARS later he tried to apologize and I told him if that immature person he was in the past is the person he IS then he never should have been my friend in the first place. Told him he made his call. And I said what I said about him not existing to me still holds. I don't hate him, but I don't need him in my life.

I don’t slam doors or manipulate. I just disappear (after planning quietly.)

For the first point tho, we INFJs are usually perfectionists. This is why we tend to hold back our criticisms towards other people becuz we know they might not be as strict towards themselves as we do.

Jordan Peterson said that you have to be a monster, capable to inflict pain to others ( paraphrasing here) so they will know not to cross the line or there will be a hell to pay. So, having these dark sides are not totally bad in my opinion so I embrace them as part of me.

people think im heartless because i can forget everything i had with someone and remove them from my life! but i guess infjs become this way AFTER giving many chances to the point where its like we get to a point where we want peace and 0 problmes even if it means cutting off loved ones!

These habits are accurate, but I'm aware I've done them and I'm not scared of being honest about them to my friends and family. If anything I'd like them to know how I think and act and that includes most of these bad traits. I'm especially aware of my unconscious use of manipulation and I deal with it by not involving those around me in my problems.

Don't poke us and you'll see the nicest people on earth. Poke us and you'll face the most cruel people on earth.

I always end up hating or disliking people in the end. Always. It happens after a long series of them doing me wrong.

I don’t do the “door slam” thing. It’s more like a “thanos snap gone in existence” for me when pushed to the final edge.

It is not true that INFJs do not compromise. I have studied this personality type for more than 8 years both theoretically and practically. This is not true. I disagree. These people can even sacrifice their lives for the well-being of others.

I am an ENTJ and dating an INFJ. These are hella accurate and gives me the “Aha! Moment” everytime. This video is very enlightening 🙌🏻

1. I don't want to seem like I'm being mean, so I compromise and let others do as they please; however if they're doing something that really bothers me I'm going to speak up. Even still people will ask me why I'm just staring at them or not participating and I will tell them exactly why. And you know what they do? They keep doing it because my feelings are insignificant compared to their own wants. 2. I've only done it once, and it really pained me to do it; I cried leading up to it and weeks after it because I didn't want to lose this friend that I'd known for 10 years. They were very unhealthy and would always ask for my advice, never do as I suggested, would then dump their feelings on me and then blame me for their life issues. I said several times it wasn't ok and he never listened. It really irritates me to see that this is a sign of an INFJ because literally everyone cuts toxic people out of their life. In fact someone who wasn't an INFJ doorslammed me simply because we didn't have the same religion; she was an ISTP and her reason was based on her misconceptions, she didn't even bother to do any research, just something she saw on TV made an impression on her. She just decided to never speak to me again without clearing up anything, and we had such a kinship; we literally talked everyday about everything. That kind of behavior is why I find it hard to open up to people. And again, going back to the first point, do you know how many people thought they could take advantage of me just because I was too nice? Too many, and that's why I started keeping to myself. 3. That's more of a sign of an ENFJ. Dominant extraverted feeling cannot be shut off in ENFJs; they don't even know they're doing it and because of auxiliary introverted intuition, they really believe that they know the best path for you and will try to guide you according to their vision. An INFJ will suggest something to you, even if it is triggering, and may even try to help you with it but ultimately what you do with that information is on you. I also want to say that manipulation isn't something exclusive to Fe because I've seen people say that. Fe is more like persuasion which can be good. Te can be very manipulative too, it's just more direct, and again can be used for good. I'm more than aware that I could manipulate, but it's terrifying and thinking about it also makes me feeled ashamed. 4. This shouldn't even be a dark trait because INFJs tend to be too compromising. I find that people only get annoyed by this because I'm not letting them push me around anymore. Why is it a problem when I make up my mind about something, when I typically let others get what they want most of the time? INFJs got to have some amount of self-respect. 5. Only when it comes to being around other people. I don't want others seeing me mess up and I also don't want to bother anyone else by seeming incompetent. INFJs use Fe to guide others so feel as if the appropriate way to act is to already have stuff figured out, and because of tertiary Ti are typically overanalyzing things and trying to plan everything in their head before even attempting anything. 6. I feel threatened by Te-doms because they're too direct, uncompromising, and think they know the most efficient way to do something without having attempted it themselves. My district manager is one and every time she pays a visit, she says some of the most inhumane things that leads me to believe she's never even worked in the position she is trying to coach; she doesn't even talk to us like we're people, she's only concerned about how to eliminate steps so she won't have to pay as much money. IxTJs are lovely and I have not had a problem with them because if you call them out on something legit, they will take a step back and at least hear you out. 7. This is true. I won't forget bad impressions or details; however I don't get angry that often and rather than use it against someone literally, I'm more likely to just keep it as a reason to remain emotionally distant. The most I really pester people about are their terrible eating habits and lack of exercise; I get on myself about it too and am aware that sometimes I avoid self-care and find it annoying to make into a routine. I really don't know my own physical limitations and have actually collapsed from overexercising or overworking because I don't feel the pain until I've gone past my limit.

It's funny that I relate to everything, especially the door slap... I stop to talk to people if I feel they don't want me in their life anymore

I'm INFJ and agreed on many things except manipulative and disrespectful towards someone's opinion personaly. I do read people and connect dots to find someone's strength and weakness but never used it to manipulate someone but to show empathy to them. but yeah I take some of advantages from only those who keeps me close to their hearts and show their vulnerability towards me. 😄

The way I deal with the last one, is that I never ever ever bring up a People weaknesses and mistakes. I’m not saying I’ve never done it, maybe once or twice and it was bad, but never to its full capacity. Because I know it could actually destroy someone.

my whole personality is the dark side of infj

This is fueled by high empathy. An unforgivable assault against an INFJ will receive an extreme response, either by indifference or ruthlessness.

Yes I recognized these traits. I have been there in the shadow. Just to protect myself. I felt I was pushed to know my evil side. I bottled up emotions en exploded, door slam, called out there failures, rusthlessness, defensive, smashed the bias with worse bias. That how I dealt with my narc ex. I felt like throwing back everything they threw at me but then with force and harder comeback. I didn’t care how painful it was knowing it’s painful. But I couldn’t be nice anymore at time. Now that I am more self-aware. I still recognizes those traits that I could be when my vibrational frequency is low. So I learned to trust my Ni and Fe more and more plus Ti this is more powerful. I know my Se but I never use that to manipulate anyone or situation. It has become my tool to strengthen my Ni and Fe, and balance that out with Ti. I know soon enough when to remove myself from a energetic field that disturb my peace. Without harming anyone / or their egos. But use it to cheer people I care up and make them laugh. I let them do them, be them. No tendencies to fix people no more. It’s so clear to me why INFJ are often misunderstood, that’s when we are not in our power and go deeper in our shadow. So shadow work is recommended for my fellow INFJ. Don’t waste your energie on outside world that doesn’t serve you any good. And disturb your peace of mind. Just walk away and let them. Seal your energy and be in solitude. Be kind to yourself and others. But don’t take any bias.

1. Bottling up emotions, then exploding 2. Door slam 3. Manipulation 4. Uncompromising 5. Self-doubt 6. Defensiveness 7. Ruthlessness

I think I'm a broken INFJ. I never learned how to manipulate. I think it could come in handy.

The manipulative thing though, I'm aware that I can be manipulative and I only used this trait of mine once. That's when I found out that my dear friend's bf cheated on her and I manipulated someone who is chatty into ruining that guys reputation and attacked him psychologically and emotionally, remember I only did ONE thing and that's to chit chat with someone who likes to talk.

that manipulating part is scary but i just recognize that i was manipulating someone without even knowing that i was manipulating but in a goodway .

Only under extreme situations! You need better information or at least updated. I have ZERO self doubt.

I wouldn’t call it manipulative it’s more like we coach what we can’t explain as we constantly know better but can’t say why accurately so we express ourselves verbally until a Narcissist shut us out with the majority wheeling behind the narcissist leader

Life is a circle not a square, so go with it, don't expect walls but turns, hills and valleys.

I love how the self doubt comes after the uncompromising. You basically explained why uncompromising can come up in the first place. When we seek external validation for our ideas and thought processes and are met with alternatives or redirection, it came make us defensive BECAUSE it brings up self doubt.

Not sure if manipulative is true, cause we always want the best for others. Yes, we might have more info about a person, and use it to our advantage.

Yeah. 1. Explode. 2. Ghost them. 3. Be a bad guy to manipulate due to irritation 4. Stubborn on idea or explanations 5. imitate people . 6. Fighting back in some wrong ways 7. 2nd level defensive due to past experience Helpful in the sense I need to manage it, just like how to manage anger. Sigh...

I’m not sure if I struggle with all of these per-se, though I can certainly see myself in dark times managing to get to these points. The ‘INFJ Door Slam’ thing was totally new to me, and for that one I did go, ‘Holy heck I do actually do that!’ The fact that that is a thing is so bizarre to me.

the manipulative part scares and excites at the same time 🤣

It's good to have someone knows you well. Thank you!

i felt that door slam part very much. My fundamental about living with people around me is build on respect. I always want to treat everyone with respect but in return I expect them to do the same in return. A couple months ago at this point still a very good friend, suddenly out of nowhere startet to treat me like sh*t. Blamed me for all her problems. She literally treated me like a doormat. Even though I liked her as a friend and all my intentions were to make her a better version of herself. I shut the door. Had a last conversation with her, how about I felt that she treated me like garbage. Even though we are in the same grade, afterwards its not the same anymore. I only talk to her if i need to but . Its just all the things you do to a person, like helping everytime the person needs help. Being always there for the person and just only wanting the best for them. And then getting backstabbed like hell just feels so unfair. But whats the point of leaving a door open to someone who treats u like trash.

I've done all of them, I still do, but videos like this make me be more aware of my actions and understand more about me and be a better version of myself, thanks!

Haha I feel like I have been stripped naked! this is so me, I bottle up, I slam the door and shut people out, I am uncompromising, I have extreme self doubt, I am defensive, and I am Ruthless, the only thing I don’t do in this list is being manipulative, I wouldn’t even dare.

My dark side is something that comes out when I get so angry not at one person but over a series of events and then there's a last straw and I get mad at one person because of a series of things that happened. But when I get to that point it's only happened a couple of times I literally black out. And I do things that I did not know I was capable of doing and I don't remember doing it and that terrifies me. The fact that I don't remember doing it means that I don't have control of it which is why I'm terrified of it..... It's not like someone else is taking over my body and doing whatever they want.... It is exactly that someone is taking over my body and doing whatever they want....That is exactly what is happening.... Someone else is using my limbs and body and my brain and performing actions that I'm not even capable of doing. How incredibly freakish is that!!!! I mean WTF!!!!!! HOW IS THIS EVEN POSSIBLE!!!!! GOD HELP ME!!!! Granted the things I did do we're not something that I regretted doing. Even though they were things that I did not think I was physically capable of doing they were things that more or less needed to be done so going into that state was like something I had to do to get to that point where I would be capable of performing those actions. Yes the bottom line is that it was a necessary evil but the fact that it was something that I would not normally do scares me.

As an INFJ this is so legit. Thanks, I get to know myself better.

Si.. a "disturbing trait" ? Sounds like a very powerful trait

man the door slam and stubbornness really relates and something that i dont want to admit. when i was younger, i never knew the door slam was a common trait, i thought i was just being immature and rude. but it naturally happens and it's just the way i filter people

All of these are accurate because I've done and experienced all of these, it's very informative for people who wants to know about us.

1.true 2.true 3. I dont think im manipulative, but yeah I guess I can be without realizing it 4. True 5. True 6. True 7. True

Very accurate information.

INFJ know your boundaries, then your life might be less tiring ☺️

this is so accurate its crazy!

Translation : after all infjs are humans.

To an INFJ… They aren’t disturbing”. It’s how we do life. “

“No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” ― 🐐

Refusing to comply with mandates is not stubborn--it is necessary. I am not free not to be free.

I have been watching videos about mbti for awhile now, i finally undestand myself better now, i experience all these dark side even b4 knowing my mbti, specially the first 3, i remember when i was just a child, i realize one time that i can just manipulate my relatives because they always believe me, and that scares me, they say i am the 'smart' one, how can i go wrong, and my intuition is always spot on, and they cant lie when i am around, my cousin once told me they thought i am a mind reader, specially when i am staring at them, and the bottling up and door slam, i once did that to a distant cousin, who's much older than me, up until now, i still pretends she did not exists, she experienced my eruption, and still afraid of approaching me, i am not proud of that, but cant help it, 😐😐

I can totally relate to all of the above mentioned topics. I feel 😪 sad when, I have been pushed, 😞 to a point, with no option but to door slam. I'm filled with a mixture grief and relief 😌 from losing the a contact that I have enjoyed but it has run its cause. I'm do tend to bottle up anxiety and depression so eventually something has to give way 🙂

Why am I smiling manically after this video -thoughts of an infj 🤣

these are so accurate

extraverted is called to be important which it isn't, but because the world is extraverted it says so...

this is honestly just insane. i had to pause it and think about how they were saying the exact things i was aware of myself doing personally.

lmao i didnt know there was a term for me ignoring my stepdads existence for months. what was really hard is that he seemed about the same mbti, just extroverted. we pretty much hated eachother for being horrifyingly alike and seeing owns dark qualities in another. the whole thing was really weird bc he was almost thirty and i was like nine or something. not very even lmao

I really really enjoy so much to know how people interpretation of my DARK SIDE

As an infj, I dont agree with being manipulative, even though we can clearly see some manipulative ways to acheive something, we dont take that route cuz manipulating others is almost like hurting others and being selfish.but if someone has done manipulation to an infj in the first place then its a completely different story...

I am SOOOOO guilty of the door slam holy fffffff. It usually feels so good, but I’ve had those who have been slammed on confront me and that’s where I short circuit

Oh gosh this so accurate. I did use manipulation before, as I needed tasks to be done at work., but I’m trying not to.. as I feel that this is very wrong.

Thanks for the video. You've done a great job. I'm an INTJ, but unlike other INTJs, I'm sensitive and also care about other people's emotions. I can also read people, and I also have strong personal values and ethics; maybe I have a developed FI. One of my co-founders is an INFJ, and the problem is that he is not ready to do hard work, take risks, learn new skills, or improve himself. He wants to get everything in his hands without doing any hard work. I didn't become direct for one year because I didn't want to hurt him, but after wasting 2022, I didn't want to waste 2023 any more. Here's the thing: He's in his 2nd year of college, and I'm a college dropout who took the risk to do something big, so from late 2022 on, I started becoming a bit more direct about his mistakes in a soft way, but he took it in a personal way, and at one point he exploded his emotions at me, but I didn't take it seriously. Now he is trying his best to manipulate me, betraying me, and lying to me. And one time, when I caught him lying about a work project and a client that was really important, I dug deep into his lies, and then, at the end, he himself admitted he was trying to betray me. But what surprises me is that he still wants to be my friend, as he thinks I'm one of his best friends. I too felt the same way back then, but now I can't be friends with someone I can't trust who will lie and try to manipulate every situation.

A Sigma/Assertive Infj Will Have a better control over these things ,Taking my own self As a Example I do Have a Better Control over these things now because i control my dark side now not the other way around . It also depends on how much experience you have with other people in social situations And with your own Dark side Over the Period of Time .

Awesome job. I wonder how different we infjs are from the other 7 empath types. You know a lot about us especially our demonic side.😂😅😂😂😂. Excellent video.

I'm an INFJ and this year I also slammed the door. Perhaps for the first time in my life. It was ESTJ and she absolutely did not listen to me, did not understand and continued to do what I asked her to stop. A person constantly broke into my life and wanted to spit on the fact that I am not able to speak or do something at the moment. She absolutely did not understand me even after several years of our friendship, did not understand and did not accept my principles. And this year I realized that I can no longer communicate with her, to continue is to slowly kill myself. At first I tried to keep communication to a minimum, but the person started asking why I didn't communicate with her, and I said straight out. She absolutely did not hear and did not listen to me. I surprised all my friends with this, few people expected that my patience could also run out. But after what happened, I have never regretted what I did.

When I was younger, I used to think that all "bad" people should die. That is why KIRA from Death Note really appealed to me. I used to think that way.

Wow this channel is all about intuitives

So accurate🥲 but as an adult we want to help ourselves to be better. I hope I overcome or lessen this dark side of me

Introverted sensing is the function that is useful to elaborate traumas in an INFJ, if combined with good introverted thinking and introverted feeling

correct 💯

I absolutely HATE the fact that even I have been manipulative in the past, so much it makes me cringe because I've learned to just be straightforward, friendly or not. I'm greatly against it because it's against authenticity and it stills falls under harming people's trust. That said, when narcissistic people or bullies are causing harm towards either me or someone else with no remorse, then I can be tempted to pull out the box of mental tricks to punish them as fit. It's getting back with sophisticated vengeance. So, as much as I hate to do it, I only become a trickster in order to gain peace or justice. I do take my own wrongdoings as a man when I know I've done wrong and improve myself. Self-awareness, honesty, as well as letting go of how things should go and how people "should" react according _your_ expectations, are keys to dropping manipulative tendencies.

Manipulation is not only for bad or hurting people it also has good intentions. Don't focus always on bad side try to manipulate a person for good purpose. Like for example: I manipulate my friend to bring his food, that person don't really like to eat lunch and I suggest him to bring me a food he always eat in their house, because I want to eat them. But all in all, I don't really eat it, I just use myself as an excuse, so that he can eat too. See I use manipulation in a good way that's it! ~sorry if my grammar is bad.

All of them. Looks like I have a lot of work to do. I thought I was going crazy I did a myers briggs test and found out its just My personality type. I need to find a balance between the light and dark sides. I have used manipulation on people who I thought deserved it. Like hypocritical managers at work. I have gathered Information that could harm them and when they have tried to throw me or a colleague under the bus I told them to behave or they would be under there with us. I've slammed the door on someone 8 months ago and feel much better for it. That is scarily accurate

This man has serious issues with INFJs 😆

@#1...we are not intentionally bottling it up. We give people the benefit of the doubt that they will grow and adjust. You know, start acting like adults at some point. So when that doesn't happen, they get the truth handed to them, and the truths not always pretty. Most of the time The INFJ has spoken on the issue however people only understand toxic or negative communication so their words fall on deaf ears.

#2 is soooo true

We all as humans and have a dark side. Those who are INFJ-T are more prone to exhibit these traits.

the first one just happened to me yesterday.. i feel so called out lmfao

I would have liked the 'manipulative' one to be a bit more specific. I think I sometimes use it in self defence, if I have been worn down enough. But it has to go pretty far before I do it, as I can't really do it to people I care about. I will admit, if someone is being severely cruel to me for years, intentionally. Then I do get a sadistic fulfilment from 'manipulating'/confusing them. But again, this is very extreme cases. I do think I 'manipulated' adults when I was a child, to make them think I was more mature and responsible than I actually was, to get more freedom to be by myself. Not sure if this counts or not. In general, I HATE manipulation, and I prefer to only use it for the most extreme cases, where all else fails.

Very accurate

The “door slams” is legit, i attended few colleges and met new peoples and friends but after that i just shut them down totally, they even tried to track me down or trying to in contact with me but i just dont give a damn response, the worse door slam i ever done was towards 2 of my best buddies.

The Epic Door Slam of INFJ. I always do that to people whom have affected me much

@#3 wish I could figure that one out😂😂😂do they give classes on that ability🤔😶!

Deceptive reasoning? I took that personal. 😁

the first one is such a big struggle

I'm not too sure if I'm INFJ, but I do bottom up my emotions and I do reach my limit and lash out only to regret everything a few minutes later, but music have helped mez whenever I know I'm starting to reach my limit and an outburst is soon coming, I put on my headphones and put on my music, staring off with sad and lonely music then it slowly progress to happy upbeat music and when I get sad I start to recall all the bad things that happened to me and what I should tell then it's followd up by memories of the good times which makes me cry because I know what I was about to do is very wrong (no one have ever saw me cry cause I hide that too😆) and then my emotions get reset,

I have done door slam thing for 3 people in my life for this whole 20 years. so it's not 'normal'

Everyone has negative personality traits.

Being an INFJ is difficult to explain: In my personal experience INFJs are so rare because you see “everything” and you have an innate sense of what is right and wrong almost like a built in moral compass. it’s very tempting to manipulate the situation by saying something to particular people to get them to do the right thing. You are almost always at odds with yourself because you just want to make people happy but you feel like you are very overbearing. It’s an isolating life as you don’t feel the need to perform or be someone you aren’t but you have to socialize so you are aware of what needs too change for the better. I know I can be manipulative but it’s never for personal gain it’s always for the greater good because people deserve that, they need that. The demon the video is referring too is need to be “authentic” INFJs believe they must see the world for how it is and to do that you must be as blunt to find the best solution. We aren’t afraid to tell people how it needs to be said, it just comes as a shock to most as normally we are so bubbly and upbeat.

I used manipulation on certain management that didn't conform to my personal values of the right and wrong way to deal with people and helped them to bring themselves down

Bro are you spying on me 😂 it's damn accurate each and every line specially bottling up emotions. That's something happens to me all the time my friends know that I don't get angry very often but If I am I bad mood it's best to not mess with me One time my best friend was teasing me and I was in bad mood he still remember that day as a lesson he never ever dared to tease me again 😂

...I got the feeling it's not good that I relate to all of those points..

Wait, so me wanting to defend people from bully’s is a dark side of me? Aw man :( (just making sure)

Just relax, take it one day at a time my INFJ's. Remember we are like Itachi Uchiha or Sosuke Aizen. We are like a substitution of god, when he wants to go on vacation, he picks one of us to take over temporarily till he gets back. Like bingo, and he spins the balls and one of us INFJ's is picked. Oh the pain and horror of such a responsibility. Sigh....but on the plus side. We might be the most pure people of heart. Wooo hoooo.