7 EARLY Signs A Guy Wants To Be COMMITTED To You

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5 Stages of a Relationship Every Couple Goes Thru
1) Honeymoon
2) Doubt/Denial of noticing differences
3) Disillusionment problems become more obvious during the winter phase (Disillusionment is when the hard truth of reality makes you lose faith in your dreams and ideals.)
4) Decision stage end the relationship and do nothing, stay and be miserable, or fix the problem
5) If you fix the problems, that is... real love.
7 EARLY Signs A Man Wants To Be COMMITTED To You
1) He makes time for you and keeps in touch (this is obvious)
2) His actions match his words
3) He's transparent about his past (it's not a secret)
4) He engages you in his life (asks for your help/opinion)
5) He asks to meet your family and friends (he wants to see if he fits in)
6) He's protective of you (not just physically but, more importantly, emotionally)
7) He understands that relationships are about the future vs. living in the moment
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@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

@skyangelmd1skyangelmd120 9 месяцев назад

Where is the link to donate to the fund.

@phionxdavis729 9 месяцев назад

Omg thank you

@dbrown2728 9 месяцев назад

Thank you, Jonathan!

@sharonraina5023 8 месяцев назад

Next day after the divorce - you signed up for a dating app? Made me laugh. I went from court the morning "OF"... straight to work at a bank no less. It was an absurd thing to do. Yeah - should have used one of those "mental health days" they offer...

@user-du2mr7gs4f 4 месяца назад

i enjoy your style

@monicaraybon1802 9 месяцев назад

In this day and age, I don’t trust anyone. People mask their true intentions and their past. No matter how careful you are or aware, it’s hard to find someone with integrity.

@sherriflemming3218 9 месяцев назад

Well said.

@dianneciresi7208 9 месяцев назад

Agree completely

@christinaeager4418 9 месяцев назад

Then why are you here listening to this dating coach if you don't want to find someone to trust?

@motowngirl5891 9 месяцев назад

There is no such thing, men want their freedom, it’s a fact of life Plus people are on their best behavior when you meet them

@consciousequus 9 месяцев назад

Agreed 💯

@sylviawright720 10 месяцев назад

I'm a therapist. 3 important things that you need once the the sexual high is gone: Listening and responding, conflict resolution skills, and accepting each other for who you are.

@naomykaukuata122 9 месяцев назад

Good presentation

@jessenceq3250 9 месяцев назад

That last one makes me think I won't ever be in a relationship. I can't accept myself nor others as is; the imperfections are too repulsive and need to be fixed. I know how that sounds :/

@kxp66 9 месяцев назад

Then you need to know why you aren’t embracing yourself. If there are necessary changes for you to be happy then you still have a project. I dare say the project would also include finding out why you are the way you are and that would be square one in order to even begin to make changes. The other would probably be to have patience with yourself and learn to translate that toward others. Truth be told most people are more patient with themselves than others EVEN if they tend to be harder on themselves than others. Until you have skills to know yourself for who you are and find direction to make desirable changes then you will only have desire for another on a superficial level and you won’t be vulnerable enough to truly share your life in an intimate capacity. If you can’t or won’t get to that point you really wouldn’t be a lifetime partner material because we all have flaws no matter how much growth is accomplished. We should always realize there is room for improvement with a healthy dose of patience. Sometimes it requires baby steps during some of our growth and it requires patience toward oneself and allowing others to go through the same kind of processes. There has to be a like for one another at least in friendship in a potential life partner before it turns into a commitment based on love.

@lanakorvin2860 9 месяцев назад

YOU ARE NOT GIVING GOOD ADVICE TO OTHERS, IF THERE IS NO INTIMACY OR SEX, THERE IS NO USE IN KEEPING THE RELATIONSHIP.

@queenbeebeth 8 месяцев назад

I'm happy being single still and unsure what I want. I do know, I don't want the fun to stop completely being single. Traveling and partying with my friends.

@LBB2622 9 месяцев назад

My husband was nearly 13 years younger than me, he wrote to me from a dating site. I tried to gently reject him, He said later on that I didn’t say no so he asked me out. He wasn’t really what I was looking for but he was everything I needed. I was 46 almost 47. He was 34 but I never felt older. He was an old soul. We had an amazing relationship. Unfortunately he passed away suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 48 while on a run at work. Sometimes I think that’s why he always moved so fast, it’s like he knew he didn’t have much time

@alanamcmillian5810 9 месяцев назад

I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences 🙏

@marypalumbo4894 9 месяцев назад

So sorry...😢

@joaniejoymorganministries 8 месяцев назад

I can’t imagine what it’s like when a spouse passed on. My condolences to you.

@amazynga8868 7 месяцев назад

@jdub99 7 месяцев назад

😢

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

I will not live with anyone again without marriage

@smilevids1337 9 месяцев назад

I think that is a wise decision. In my family and marriage class I’m in, statistically the relationships that begin with cohabitation first have a higher rate of divorce and physical violence as well actually. It’s totally not worth it.

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

@@smilevids1337 Agreed

@fayejordan175 3 месяца назад

If someone just wants you to live with them without marriage, they don’t really value you. There used to be stigma to that. I have been married for over 4 decades and love my husband more than ever because I’ve learned over the years what a top tier guy he is. I would never have lived with anyone when I was younger and I would have been insulted if a guy suggested that! Nowadays women just don’t value themselves.

@glitterginger 2 месяца назад

I appreciate your style! 🎉

@mandynevels4424 4 дня назад

So is it necessary to discuss past relationships? He hasn't said much about anything outside of highschool. I have learned not to discuss mine because because I am filtering out the we stories with me stories. Not allowing those failures to define me. Not wanting to carry them into current moments anymore. I don't really think I will feel good about hearing about them. I still have insecurities so don't know if I will feel better after hearing about them.

@deec411 2 месяца назад

I was breadcrumbed for over 11 years by a crummy guy. I stayed with him because I didn't wanna be alone. worst reason ever!! I finally ended it and gave up on guys, focused on myself and met Ed 3 months ago and he treats me like gold. I'm loving every minute of it. ✨💖✨

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

The man I am dating calls me out when he sees a red flag, and we discuss it, and it's always a misunderstanding. I have also called him out. We work on good communication. Women and men think so differently

@Sunnysideup01 8 месяцев назад

I’m finding it a challenge in my 50s ….these mid life men don’t want anything serious…it boggles me !!! At this age and still playing the field

@montanasky2253 10 месяцев назад

Jonathon…. I just want to tell you that I’ve been watching you for a couple years now. Last night, I had the opportunity to use one of the “techniques” that you preach. I asked a new guy some questions about his last relationship 😮… this felt a bit uncomfortable for me but I just kept hearing your voice cheering me on. He was totally open and vulnerable with me …. and now I have the information and need to decide my next steps 😊. I’m proud of myself and have you to thank. I’m now looking at men from the angle of “is this man a good match for me?” Versus “does he like me???” Big difference!!!!

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I just used this comment in a video I recorded which will air on Sunday

@montanasky2253 10 месяцев назад

BTW, JA, I bought your book in January 2021…during the height of the aloneness of the pandemic. I also bought it for one of my staff RNs who needed to read it. I have also read many of the books you recommend…so thanks for all of that!

@monicaraybon1802 9 месяцев назад

Yes we women turn into chameleons and become what men want us to be, instead of just being ourselves. We don’t want to rock the boat. I’m going to be authentic no matter what.

@suzyerichsen6184 9 месяцев назад

Yes, because you are making the decision and not letting him make the decision. This is so important because it's your life and you are responsible for it.

@lesliestrothers4055 3 месяца назад

Agree with other posters, be yourself right from the start!

@ivettea5368 10 месяцев назад

yes , i’ve experienced a broken man & have learned my lesson . if they haven’t done the healing, forgiven, learned lessons, then bound to repeat .

@sherriflemming3218 10 месяцев назад

Indeed. Repetition compulsion.

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

Same

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

Consistency and respect are important to me in the early dating phase. Have the "hard" conversations early on

@joconna 27 дней назад

I have finally found a man who has integrity and communicates. For example, he called me tonite and acted a little shy( not his usual demeanor), he asked If I would go with him to get tested for std's. I told him absolutely. We have been dating since February, I only see him about once a week. We have not been intimate, and we care enough about each other to get tested. I am a nurse, and am aware that seniors are the fastest growing group of HIV cases. So, although it sounds weird, I feel like he cares about ME, not using me for sex, and protecting both of us. We are going on a trip in a couple of weeks, and we both will feel better( but I will still be nervous lol , it will seem like a honeymoon).

@vidaacheampong2563 19 дней назад

You're Too old for that just get married

@cynthiaabada3961 9 месяцев назад

Childhood or inner child unhealed wounds I believe contribute to many individuals having difficulties with relationships. Until we work on healing our traumas we will not be good partners. Peace❤

@jeanfitzgerald5334 Месяц назад

I enjoy your vulnerability and honesty. You are frank in your comments and pull no punches. After listening to you regularly, I finally think I know what to look for in a relationship! Thank you!

@HillaryHarris 10 месяцев назад

Jonathon - how about the men who are STILL married AND living with his wife but considers himself separated because they are like roommates but he hasn't filed for divorce yet. YES, I came across this too. UGH! And once I learned about it, I said NO and NEXT!

@sherriflemming3218 10 месяцев назад

Married however considers himself "separated" still living with his wife.. Not legally divorced or done any healing work. Married and attached men are kryptonite. Avoid like the plague. Ask these men if you can talk to their wives or girlfriends.

@phillyshawol9139 10 месяцев назад

I recently left a man for exactly the same reason

@claudieC. 10 месяцев назад

One guy stated his ex girlfriend was still living with him and I was welcome to meet her. Stating they are just friends Haha not in my life time. Passsss

@kTorres007 10 месяцев назад

Keep on moving along. Unless there's some extreme financial difficulties, nah... Don't even deal with that nonsense

@sherriflemming3218 10 месяцев назад

Right, that's another good one. Just "friends" or "roommates" NEXT! Where are you finding these guys?

@emilyc5625 9 месяцев назад

I love when I see a man write “ life partner “ on hinge . Makes me feel so much more comfortable to go on a date

@BonaFideWildLife 9 месяцев назад

Great points, Jonathan! Thank you for looking out for us!! Ladies & gentlemen, you are loved, worthy, and so valuable!!! 1. He makes regular time for you. 2. His actions match his words, which demonstrates character i.e. emotional maturity; mindfulness of others; trustworthy - fidelity & has your best interest at heart. 3. Transparent about past relationships - has capacity for growth. 4. He engages you into his life. 5. He's engaged in your life. 6. He's protective of you - physically and emotionally 7. Understands that relationships are about the future vs. living in the moment. They must be whole and not broken because they'll use you until it's no longer fun for them.

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Exactly

@wane205 9 месяцев назад

I'm u

@TheAttractionTriggers 9 месяцев назад

*Recognizing early signs of commitment can save us from heartache and wasted time. Let's all strive for relationships built on love, respect, and a desire for a genuine, committed future.*

@OlderWomenRock 10 месяцев назад

So agree , a persons character is super important . Yes having your best interest at heart and having your back is a must in order to build trust and security . Being anxious I need consistency , reliability , thoughtfulness . If a Man is sincere He will want You to meet those He cares about .

@bonnygoldberg5852 6 месяцев назад

I appreciate your style. Thank you for all your teachings. Blessings to you.

@avishill8613 Месяц назад

When they say the relationship with their wives is over and then they tell you later well I cannot leave her because she does my book keeping.😮

@Hesteforstanddk 9 месяцев назад

Afraid to speak up. So true. Earlier I spent years on training myself to be silent and never ever speak my truth. Even some of my friends are still telling me that I should change. Change to a person happy with casual. Which I am not. Speaking my truth is what I am training now.

@dianapaloma3102 9 месяцев назад

“You have to be your own advocate. “ Thank you 🙏❤️

@jenniferdavis9645 9 месяцев назад

I LOVE your energy!!! I laughed so hard when you were reprimanding yourself for being "passionate" about being emotionally mature. I was praying and stumbled across your video. It verifies to me that the decision I made to call it quits 2 days ago on a relationship was the right one for me. I even used the words placeholder with him. I don't think he's a bad guy. He's just not done the work to heal. I am very intrigued about human behavior and understand that there are reasons for it. However, I am also very aware of what I can and can not let into my space. I'm getting better at recognizing it sooner, though, which is helpful. Thanks for putting this info out there. So many people need it. I think it could be helpful for men as well.

@christinedewitt3826 8 месяцев назад

Does anyone these days ever consider today that sex should not be in the equation as part of the dating experience goes?? Why would you give a man your most " precious gift" when you have no committment from him? Dating is a time of " getting to know each other. Sex is not a requirement. Its a time to know who you both truly are, by asking a TON of questions, to see what your and thier goals or intentions are towards each other, if you click together etc. But sex is not a requirement. And, if it is? Then, thats all they are looking for !! Take the time to get aquainted without the sex. Youll save yourselves alot of heartache this way....

@christinedewitt3826 8 месяцев назад

I knew that statement wouldn't be so popular

@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529 Месяц назад

@@christinedewitt3826 I TOTALLY CONCUR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@karenoyama8950 9 месяцев назад

This was so good. Thank you! I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine losing a child. Blessings ❤

@claudiacarley4050 9 месяцев назад

I've been seeing someone for 3 months and this video gave me the answer...it looks like I am going to end it, it's many reasons that surfaced. Thanks Jonathan 😊

@deborahlok2999 10 месяцев назад

I really enjoyed this Jonathon. I Appreciate you. I realized that I’m also Obsessed and Fascinated by human behavior and Relationships! I listen to you, Joe Dispenza, Ester Hicks, Lewis Howes, Maryanne Williamson, Jay Shetty…. Everyone you listen to from the time I wake, for4-5 hours!!!!! ….while I meditate 🧘🏻‍♀️ do my makeup 💄 dress and prep for work! That’s my PASSION!!!

@user-ef1sl4yl9e 8 месяцев назад

I appreciate your shake-up style! We need you to shake us up! You are passionate about what you do and that comes through. Thank you for caring!!!

@sherriflemming3218 10 месяцев назад

Jonathon you're a realist! We love it! ♥️

@colleencarbone2074 10 месяцев назад

I love your style! It's up front and honest. You care. Putting yourself out there, smiling, and being grateful resonated with me, thank you.

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

Thank you so much!!

@noname-jh3bd 10 месяцев назад

Oh, i am so very guilty of painting those red flags GREEN. Well said!

@janineshaw9495 10 месяцев назад

I really enjoy the truths you bring to the for front. So much truth in your words. We women need to recognize and open our eyes. Old school behavior never changes we just need to pay attention to the intentions behaviors and actions.

@kathleenhausser5566 10 месяцев назад

I like your style Jonathan you made me chuckle a couple of things you said.

@genaegeorge5932 9 месяцев назад

I absolutely love your style. If your mission is to shake people up, I’m officially shaken within less than the time it took me to watch the entire or complete video. You cannot imagine how much your obsession with studying human beings have done for another. Thank you much

@dianapaloma3102 9 месяцев назад

I feel the same!

@gc825 10 месяцев назад

A good wife is from the Lord - biblical

@sybilobrien1541 9 месяцев назад

You Sir are a breath of fresh air! You make no excuses, admit to be a work in progress. I love your style and the way you punctuate your points. Thank you so much!

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

I appreciate that!

@debraguerrero-tn4vp 27 дней назад

I'm new i love your last statement with the shotgun. I shall approach with my invisible one shotgun ..

@1ginarossi 9 месяцев назад

Love listening to you even though I'm single but not dating. I too love studying human behavior and body language. I am a widow of 6 yr. Loved my husband for 20yrs before he passed. Im enjoying life with me!❤

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing!!

@anneiconex1473 9 месяцев назад

The longer I’m alone the HAPPIER I AM 💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

@tamaraseyhun5688 9 месяцев назад

Exactly. When I met my guy, I was ready for a relationship and I told him. I said I want to be with a snuggle bunny.i want to sleep next to My love every night. I dont want to live my life alone. Well we fell in love and have been inseparable since. We are SO. Lastly, I asked him. Was he ready for love? A relationship? A travel partner. And yes. But he was no bull shitter. He’s from a solid family background.. makes a difference. M

@anandaceramicart6951 9 месяцев назад

Yes I appriciate youre style! I act the same when I try to shake up. You know it. You feel it. You show it.

@sweetypatnett6123 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for sharing this video, it was very informative and helpful. Making a mental note.😊

@maristella287 9 месяцев назад

Thank you so much Jonathon for being about seeking a life partner. I won't live on bread crumbs. You are RIGHT about these standards and boundaries. When I get passionate, I find I am yelling. I totally relate.

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

You are so welcome

@jessicadodds562 10 месяцев назад

Yes Jonathan! I appreciate your style...don't ever change!!! You're personality is amazing ❤

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate that!

@sandradodge7337 8 месяцев назад

I hear your desire to get people to hear you, we are in charge of ourselves in every relationship. I rarely get past third date. I am very honest about my boundaries at the start! It is sad that we are so dysfunctional.

@k.c.7. 6 месяцев назад

Hi Jonathon, I love your videos and your honest and impactful approach. Thank you so much for everything you do!!

@michelem365 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for a very interesting topic and video Jonathan. I have thought for a long time that there should be classes at high school on how to conduct oneself in relationships for successful long-term better outcomes. There are a lot of people coming from dysfunctional families these days with no knowledge on how to conduct themselves in a relationship. At this time, I choose myself over getting involved with someone who is going to cause chaos in my life.

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Great point!

@lorimcgowan8964 10 месяцев назад

Your caring and passion about your profession is clear. Thank you for every video. I learn from each. The journey is real.

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate that!

@mfraleigh107 6 месяцев назад

I really appreciate your style Jonathan. I haven't tuned in for a while as I've been wrapped up with family issues. Basically putting others first, whose mental and physical health are worse off than mine. Anywho... This is a great podcast, in particular, that really spoke to me. Thank you.

@l.jennings130 9 месяцев назад

This is my first time listening. Interesting and thought provoking.

@phyllisgosioco9392 9 месяцев назад

Yes I always look into through rose colored glasses my marriage I thought I was in love but later I found out I was in love with the idea of love!

@AW-xz9vc 9 месяцев назад

Be very careful with number four! A man can invite you into his personal life early in the relationship, due to a borderline personality disorder. They feel a need to secure stability right away, even if it is for all of the wrong reasons. Been there, done that one! It is a devastation of epic proportion, and a long healing process.

@jdub99 7 месяцев назад

Just escaped this. The longer I stayed it appeared more NPD than BPD though.

@HeleneSmith0718 9 месяцев назад

Jon Thank you for being you and showing your authentic self in your video.

@amylynn732 9 месяцев назад

This was great Jonathan!!! I wish my sister would watch you!!!

@HelaineChersonsky 9 месяцев назад

Jonathon I really appreciate your coaching Style It's. Very straight forward and real. Thank you so much for all you do.

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

🙏

@ndumi-light 10 месяцев назад

I got the book 8 Dates - i wish I'd gotten it sooner. Thank you Jonathon. 🙏🏼💚

@kimking3909 10 месяцев назад

Ok now I’m gonna get it 😊

@LeoaSolFlor 6 месяцев назад

It is sinking in and it is hurting a lot! Thank you Jonh, I really wish I could have ever heard from someone or learnd by myself all of that so many years ago, but Im really grateful I just met you two days ago and you are transforming me so much, I wish I am able to learn and still be happy, thank you so much!

@JonathonAslay 6 месяцев назад

You are so welcome

@user-wt1ug9ri9d 8 месяцев назад

I agree , now knowing it and doing it is a different story. I so appreciate you telling it how it is. I’m to chicken for the hot seat. Next time . I’ll be back!!

@missta1820 9 месяцев назад

Just be yourself Jonathon. We love you as you are.💚

@HillaryHarris 10 месяцев назад

I am hesitant to say all people's past determine their future in relationship. Maybe with men or most men? But those who have actually done the work and grown, there is possibility. This is true for me too - I used to be anxious attachment. Now I can happily say I am not. I am clear when it isn't right and I can cleanly let go with grace and without drama.

@CBReal1290 4 месяца назад

I appreciate your style! Your volume is more welcomed over being pushy control you’re just intensely passionate about this subject matter

@BirdieHaze2207 3 месяца назад

I love listening to you, you make me laugh. I like people who speak to the point without all the fluff and fanfare. ❤

@sweetypatnett6123 8 месяцев назад

Johnathan, im so sorry for your loss.❤

@user-gb8mh8kb6o 8 месяцев назад

In regards to this phase of a relationship or it’s progression, I suggest what I realized was a good thing to introduce into my life since my high school years, the “one year policy”. You cannot make a true commitment to a person without them being in your life, integrally, until after a full year. You can explore all avenues in this year. No one can hide their true nature longer beyond this time frame and you grow together or apart.

@prunemabilais3345 10 месяцев назад

I apreciate your style ! Definitely ! Great communicator and you have your own personality and style 👍

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate that!

@carolynayala1490 3 месяца назад

Jonathan…you are not boring and you don’t have a big nose. You are a beautiful person.

@JonathonAslay 3 месяца назад

Awe... thank you 😊

@claudieC. 10 месяцев назад

I love your candid disclosures of your past behaviors. The relationship component of everyone's idea of what that looks like is right on because we (many single people ) wait too long to ask and waste our time. Also often time the men will agree to pursuing something but the woman is doing all the work only to find out we are with a manchild or a serial dater. Waste of time.

@sherriflemming3218 10 месяцев назад

Yes, Claudie.

@skibunny2257 9 месяцев назад

I think you have great advice. I recently have given up on dating. I really wish I could find someone but I pick the wrong ones. I thought I met a nice guy last October but he wasn't who I thought he was. I let him go. He was a waste of my time. Not sure if I should even try anymore. It's disappointing but I'm exhausted and tired of disappointment.

@marianakaye4423 10 месяцев назад

I love your style!!! Been following for a while. Will get the books you avidly recommend. Fan from Mexico City.

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

Awesome! Thank you!

@bobbiewall3699 9 месяцев назад

Yes I like your style and enjoy watching you,you help me learn what to watch out for in a guy,thank you

@kathyruder5301 10 месяцев назад

What I found so frustrating about meeting online--2 I met online I developed quite an interest in--they were sweet and we shared a lot in common. Both were cut short because despite the connection and compatibility--they didn't live anywhere close to me and decided to end the connection because they knew the issues with distance and found that too upsetting to even continue as friends. Admittedly, they were wise in choosing to be honest--but it still hurt that I had to lose a friend over THAT.

@Dasani_water_drinker 3 месяца назад

Ugh. I finally found love again after 15 years but he’s in Can. Im having my doubts about it now because of distance and cost etc. I don’t want to let go. 😢 why did he have to be so wonderful and in another country

@hortenseweinblatt1508 3 месяца назад

@@Dasani_water_drinker "What is unconscious must be made conscious - otherwise, it will govern you, and you will call it Fate." - Jung

@sundisturgeon 4 месяца назад

I appreciate your style!!

@JonathonAslay 4 месяца назад

I appreciate that!

@joyceshirley9599 9 месяцев назад

I appreciate your style... actually I love your style.... you speak the truth from the ❤️

@womannluvcpdwomannluvcpd4770 10 месяцев назад

That's terrible. I'm sorry that happened. Ppl are mean I have only listened to your shows a couple of times. I love your shows!! Thank you

@cdejewel 9 месяцев назад

People from highly dysfunctional families don’t know how to make these kind of judgments. It sounds very logical unless you’ve been abused and brainwashed your whole life. We should endeavor to see differently.❤

@melissabritt3039 8 месяцев назад

40:10 I appreciate your style. You have my attention.

@ceceliafears7822 9 месяцев назад

Great bunch of advice thank you and you get as excited explaying things that are deep and I had to laugh when you had to take a moment to just breath . Thanks For enlightens all of us .

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Glad you enjoyed it

@sallyhogan-hernandez9214 9 месяцев назад

This was very inlightening thank you❤

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

I am 53 dating a 40-year-old man. So far, we blend very well

@Tarasyoutube 9 месяцев назад

Nice, Laurie. I liked another one of your comments alot btw. I wish you the best

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

Thank you! I wish you the best as well!

@vidaacheampong2563 19 дней назад

40 is young

@kimking3909 10 месяцев назад

I love the yelling as well! You’re passionate about the human condition and I do believe you’re going to one day crack the code! 🎉❤😮🎉

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I hope so!

@margaretcampbell2681 10 месяцев назад

Hi Jonathan I haven’t been able to catch you live which I like most. ❤

@RaeBaeLove 9 месяцев назад

You’re absolutely right 💯‼️

@jenniferl1908 10 месяцев назад

This was such a great live and always appreciate your advice and wisdom. I am definitely more aware of human behaviors and relationships having done years of introspective work on myself, but I have always known none of us are NOT PERFECT and this is what I personally think is wrong with relationships and dating. People are looking for the perfect partner - looks, money, status, religion/political compatibility, physically fit, and more. This is why there are more single people than ever - and people in unhappy relationships. People can't appreciate/accept the person for exactly who they are. They want them to change/mold them to their life.

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

That's because we want to be met because we don't need others for survival. Therefore, when we meet someone with SOME of what we seek, but the missing piece irritates us because we selfishly (ego) seeks perfect.

@user-hj2pg8rr2f 10 месяцев назад

Most men are seeking perfection. They want a perfect woman - brains, beauty, body. They want a woman to confirm to their life - take up their hobbies, sports, listen to what they say, including their politics and even religion. My mother said this to me as young girl - it is a man's world and women need to listen to what they say,

@jenniferl1908 10 месяцев назад

@@JonathonAslay do you think more men selfishly seek perfection since many are driven by ego and essentially looks and body type? I think women are less about perfection but more about the man's character, financial status, some introspective work. I live in NYC and I would say this how many relationships are based.

@lauriemorales7605 9 месяцев назад

As much as I wanted companionship and sex, I refused to date anyone for many months because I knew I wasn't ready and was honest about that with the man I am currently dating. He kept in occasional contact with me for over 6 months until I truly felt ready, lol

@user-rj4uz6uc6w 6 месяцев назад

Elyse to Jonathan. Thanks for all your helpful advice.

@anandaceramicart6951 9 месяцев назад

The relationship iceberg!!!! Wow that's great! Thank you so much Jonathan!

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

You bet!

@pattylyons9645 9 месяцев назад

I'm in my 60's. I never wanted to get married or be a mom. I did the cohabitation thing and that's not for me either, but I do want a life partner. I believe people can have a monogamous relationship and not live under the same roof.

@ritapeters1330 7 месяцев назад

Yes, that is possible and called true love

@KaraKahn 6 месяцев назад

Sounds like you have an avoidant attachment style. I recognize it because I have an anxious avoidant attachment style. And I always used to think the same thing- living apart would be ideal, but that's not being committed to love and growth in a relationship.

@michellegagne540 10 месяцев назад

As far as I'm concerned, the reason someone gives me not to see me again after a first or second date doesn't matter much. It just means he is not that into me. That is all OK and the purpose of dating isn't it. We can't click with everybody. Next....😅

@lilliankillian7366 10 месяцев назад

He did all this and togeather for 3 and ahalf years. And then he broke it off . It broke my heart. So what happen?

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

It's not cool to waste someone's time 😒

@kimking3909 10 месяцев назад

@@JonathonAslayit’s not

@jenniferl1908 10 месяцев назад

I feel the same way. There are many men I don't click with and they feel the same about me. We can't take it personally as the universe it saving you from getting involved with the wrong person.

@mandikelley7327 9 месяцев назад

I would rather them do this then string me along. And me get attached.

@nathaliet197 10 месяцев назад

Great Style Jonathon ...No doubt 👍 Thank you for sharing...Always full of golden nuggets!

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

awe... thank you

@wendyhenry8558 3 месяца назад

Love your insight and comments! My condolences for the loss of your son which I know is so difficult.

@laurathompson250 10 месяцев назад

After being burnt in not wanting to see the red flags in my ex-husband that I went into all my post-divorce dating only looking for the red flags. Worked out well as I could quickly move on from anyone not worth my time. I'm now in an over 4-year relationship with a great guy. Our conversations often turn to all the things we'll do once we're retired 😊

@vamp8903 9 месяцев назад

Over 4 years ...😳

@laniisavage410 9 месяцев назад

Are you guys married now since it’s been so long?

@laurathompson250 9 месяцев назад

@@laniisavage410 no, that isn't the right choice for us because of tax and inheritance laws.

@andrearowe4815 8 месяцев назад

What about Pre nuptials?

@randomreactions16 9 месяцев назад

I've always been the kind of woman that needs time before being intimate with anyone. I have trust issues (not gonna lie), and I've been hurt more by people who claimed to "love" me than anyone else in this world. So I guard my heart and my feelings with a vengeance. For me The act of sex is a a deep emotional connection that I don't take lightly. I have been in a relationship now for a few months, and we still have not had sex yet.

@brendahart3754 15 дней назад

I'm the same way, without emotional feelings for someone, sex would be just going through the motions. Us women of a certain age, no longer have those raging hormones now so we can be more discerning in finding a mate.

@Erendira72 10 месяцев назад

Great video and I haven’t even finished watching it!!

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I appreciate that!

@virginiaholzer7358 2 месяца назад

You're just real and authentic, that's a great value, and you're confidence to speak the truth

@cupcakestupidlife 9 месяцев назад

My husband passed away 7 years ago we always seemed on our honeymoon.30 years still got butterflies. Now I find nobody compares.

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Each relationship is unique...

@luckyduckydaisyflower2344 9 месяцев назад

How beautiful

@stacyfaris281 10 месяцев назад

Why do I continue to hear, “I don’t want a relationship.” or “I’m not looking for anything’s serious.” then within weeks I see them with one another woman and they date them for years. I wish I had a dollar for how many times I’ve had this happen. All it’s means to me is, “I want a relationship just not with you!”

@jcool4358 10 месяцев назад

Yes Stacy, this is a way of letting someone down "easy" so to speak. But you are right on. You're not the one for him.

@Tarasyoutube 9 месяцев назад

It's because they have prejudged you. Unfortunately it seems up to us to Force them to get to know us *for a while* so they don't f up.

@bonnygoldberg5852 8 месяцев назад

I appreciate your style and your sense of humor.

@karenhsu251 9 месяцев назад

I love your style, Jonathan! Gave myself the gift of the Hoffman experience about 20 years ago. Told myself then it'd be hard to be with a man who did not have that experience, as well. I am reading "Eight Dates" End will purchase "Self-Love" today. I'm a wonderful man Whom I have had to check a lot lately. Each time he responds in the right way. I told him I'm looking for a progress, not perfection. His efforts are actually quite refreshing. I recognize him as a star player though I'm discerning whether or not he is good for the franchise. I do enjoy listening to you and learn volleyball nuggets every time. Grateful to you. ❤

@JonathonAslay 9 месяцев назад

Thank you 😊

@ladydragonrider421 10 месяцев назад

Here's the real thing. I've been studying psychology daily for 5 yrs with every great psychologist on RU-vid and here is what they're all missing. I was married to an alcoholic for 33 yrs who got on opioids and meth and set out to kill me, repeatedly. I had to be extracted from the situation, under a dvpo for 3 yrs, and lose everything I ever owned and worked for under the threat of being killed for it. Virtually no psychologists are pointing out the real problem in society which is alcohol and drugs including meds. Everything goes out the window and there's no reason to ever be associated with anyone who engages in those things. The end. I did a review of my life and everyone I've ever known in 62 years. Outside of my parents and a few neighbors that were rehabbed from alcohol, every person I've ever known is either dead from drinking, in jail, committed suicide, or destroyed all around them. All malignant narcissists become addicts according to Vaknin. It is the true measure of mental illness. I get plenty of men wanting a relationship but I will not cross my boundaries and I've met no one in 6 years that wasn't an addict.

@JonathonAslay 10 месяцев назад

I think you will see more people talking about this...

@marypalumbo4894 9 месяцев назад

I seem to meet a lot of alcoholics...I end it right away!! Sorry for what you had to go through!!

@graceunderfire941 9 месяцев назад

My present love is an alcoholic.He hides it so well, he tries to convince me it is of no concern & that he isnt hurting anyone. It feels insidious..he doesn't want to loose me tho i can't tell him how much his fermented corn breath at night turns me off or his groping me while drunk is a turn off because he cant face deep feelings of rejection. Hes been nothing but sweet and kind and loving to me and it takes maturity and strength to not be lovebombed into a commited live in situation where he thinks Id be happy and cared for , and no I would not be. Ive been learning about unhealthy codependency through this relationship. Smh.

@ritapeters1330 7 месяцев назад

I am a Psych. Therapist in Germany, you can find a good man who is not addicted but you have to attract a normal man with a good heart. You probably need drama, that maybe is the reason for not getting that man you desire. ❤

@ladydragonrider421 7 месяцев назад

Dont think you comprehend the extreme high level of alcoholics and med and drug addicts there are in the US with men over 40. It is almost 100%. There is no such thing as normal in the US anymore - and in my 62 years, everyone my age agrees. @@ritapeters1330