7 Things Men Do When They’re Extremely Attracted to You 

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I've been single for so long that even THINKING about wanting a life partner feels out of the question.

My husband and I have been married for over 40 yrs. My husband will thank me for doing his laundry, or for cooking dinner. These are things I do all the time for him. But at times he will thank me.

I know seven things men do when they are attracted to you. 😊. 1. Love Bomb you 2. Date other women 3. Ghost you 4. Block you 5. Unblock you 6. Try to program you to love them like a mom loves their son 7. Blame you for them being unavailable to you And 8, get engaged with someone else, but still think about you.

Unpopular opinion. Sex without an actual long, term, commitment, in the name of being "sexually free" is a horrible way to date anyone of quality. This is only good for most men . I weed out a lot of damaged, weak, men, simply by not putting out to ANYONE who doesn't want to actually love me, and who I don't actually love. This takes ACTUAL time, not face time, or cyber time. The best feeling is when you don't need a man, but you chose to allow a man into your heart and eventually your bed. Too many people are giving it up, and giving their heart away to just anyone. I have been single a long time, I am not lonely, and I refuse to give up any part of my peace, my heart, or space in my bed, unless the man is worth my time and TAKES THE TIME to get to know me first.

7 Signs He Is Very Attracted To You (Jonathan Aslay): 1) Genuine eye contact = I like you! (Trust) 2) His acts are chivalrous (opens the door, pulls out your chair) 3) He is protective & territorial (he is off the market, too) 4) He might temporarily pull away (especially after initial initimacy) (is this the person I want to invest in?) 5) He expresses appreciation & gratitude for you (after he pulls away for introspection) 6) He teases you! (His little kid comes out - fun & playful side) 7) He progresses the relationship forward & devotes his available time to you (2-3 days & nights a week together, doing activities & hobbies with family & friends, with the intention of exploring a relationship, moving in together, and potentially getting married)

I absolutely want a life partner even at 68. Not in a rush. I have everything I need in life. So a life partner will add to my happiness

I see those things: looking at me, being present, watching my reactions, wanting to know more about me, show interest, leaning closer, being gentleman with nice manners, speaking with low soft voice, showing me that I'm priority, trying to anticipate my wants and needs, etc.

My beloved late mate didn't say "Golly-gee, I hope you'll consider being exclusive with me." His confidence was magnetic: he said, "I'm not sharing you with anyone." I thought I'd died and gone to heaven. i'd love to meet one more with that much confidence.

it's so interesting. I saw this video a year ago and was with a spender and a user and knew we didn't have any future together so I finally ended it after realizing I didn't need anyone to make me feel safe. Ed came into my life about a month later and we both just want to enjoy our time together by doing the things you always say Jonathon--spending time together, shared interests, spending time with family and friends. It's wonderful, but I truly believe that what we really want we need to let go and that's when it comes to us. I think we're afraid that if we let it go, we'll miss it or it just won't come to us at all. Have faith and God Bless. ✨🙏🏻✨

Also dating in 2023 is absolutely awful disheartening disrespectful. I just don’t know what happened, to all the good people I have met throughout my life there Hass to be one good man out there.

I did the self compassion guided meditation with Matt Hussey and it was really a hard reset that was long overdue. I stopped the casual relationship I had realizing it was not the loving or self honoring thing for myself, especially since he expected me to always drive to him. I remember & appreciate men in my past who’d be gentleman & not do that & look out for my safety & well being. That’s what I need not compromising for selfish individuals for romantic or platonic relationships. It stops in 2023!! 🎉 I’m reading your book next. Thanks for all your perspective!

What I want is pretty much the same things as on this list: someone I'm attracted to; but, more importantly, a trusted friend I poke fun at life with. It just seems so unnecessarily complicated. I know this stuff is important, to prevent wasting time. I just don't know if I can think about this stuff, and still enjoy the time I spend with the person I'm getting to know. It's overwhelming. I'm perfectly content on my own, and I like things as they are. Maybe that will change. Maybe not. Or perhaps I don't want a relationship as much as I thought. I just don't want any new drama. 😕

You made me laugh with the "magic fairy dust" comment. 😅 I personally have always been confident and upfront. My mother is a psychologist and sees many men and women with toxic relationship issues. I would like to add that if a person is whole themselves, they will attract similar people. Yes, you will still attract the users and spenders if you are physically attractive. However, you recognize where they are coming from and dismiss them immediately- as they aren't worth your time and energy. Jonathan, you are helping many people find themselves who need guidance. 😊🙏🏻

I meet this really nice guy at the wine store over six months ago. We would have small talk and laugh. I could tell he was really attracted to me. After a few months, he approached me and said he noticed a mutual attraction between us. We exchanged numbers. We texted and was not sexual. We finally went on a date, had a great time and decided to go back to his place. Almost immediately we became affectionate and then had sex twice. I stayed the night. He walked me to my car in the morning. I expected a kiss but nothing. I expected a call but nothing. I finally broke down and texted him to check in. He told me he wasnt ready to date, didnt expect to have sex, and that he needed to focus on himself. I didnt argue but deep down i was very hurt and felt used.

It’s so hard to find a genuine relationship anymore let alone a life partner.. Hopefully one day I’ll find someone who wants the same things as me in a life long relationship .. Where are you my MR right

Great advise once again. I'll never forget "ladies! before the P goes into the V - ask him "what does commitment look like to you?". Ask this 3 months (or whatever soon means to you) into the relationship - not 3 years!!!! I was too scared about losing the relationship and ended up wasting HUGE amounts of time on mediocre relationships. NEVER again.

Dear Jonathon, I appreciate YOU. I have learned so much from you. I ended a previous date with a guy as he was the proverbial spender, turned out he had mental health issues - was a terribly sad, but horrendous hoarder! Lots of unresolved loss issues. Now I am with the 'ONE' Thanks to all your great advice and rants.

Yes, but OMG how hard it is to find someone that are compatible. Most men just want to get some, and then vanish. :(

I want a serious relationship and yes dating sucks!

I have to say that you impacted me more than you realize. I month or so I complained here about guys and the men I’ve recently met especially on dating apps. You responded with something like “Maybe you are choosing the wrong men” or “Maybe your priorities are not too narrow” I’m paraphrasing. I think I was offended (stupid of me). But I thought about it nonetheless. Well I have known this one guy for about 5 yrs now. Never thought of dating him at all. He’s short, cute but that’s it, so I thought. One night at a wine bar he sat next to me after my friends had left and we talked. I gave him my phone number. OMG he’s the greatest guy I think I’ve ever been with. Thank you for your insight, for your comment. It’s changed my life!

Yes, someone to share life with and also have fun.

Yes, I want a life partner, for life, with equality, and tons of kindness

I notice the tone of voice when he's serious. It's softer, deeper, more breathy than normal. The volume fluctuates so he's almost singing instead of speaking. It's the same tone as when he approves of what he sees and says "mm-MM-mm!" or "I LIKE you!" and means the same thing.

I've been seeing a man for about 10 weeks. I can't believe he hasn't pulled away yet! All my relationships have pulled away but this guy is still coming on strong. I'm not getting carried away though.....If he pulls away, I'm out quick smart. I have wasted so much time with guys who pulled away and I chased and got hurt.

yeah my son's are super protective of me and size up every male in my building as if to say this is my Mumma Bear and back off i love that about them...i only recently acknoweledged that is what they were doing as boys and as sons of a single mum who is single xx bless

Currently with my guy who is going to become my life partner and, I, his. Really happy. Yep we did the dating vows/agreement, and the books.❤ I am so fortunate, because my guy does the whole of your list. I love the way he looks at me,,,it makes me smile, he says he is grateful and appreciates me and all I do, and I reciprocate. I am so grateful for this wonderful relationship. He is chivalrous and gentlemanly, protective and caring ..omg he teases but it can be sooo funny. because we 'play' together a lot...we both love it! He is always saying he loves me and misses me ... we said we would move in together 3-6 months. Im ready now, so is he. Coming up for that time. We are looking at houses, furniture, flooring....it really is exciting. We go on holiday to Tunisia soon too...and we have concerts and a craft show lined up after that.

I'm reading your book about Self Love, and it is a great book! So glad you wrote it and told us about it! I highly recommend it! ❤

The values, the mutual hobbies and the family outings, but he was making fun of me and my dad. His, "I would have made you my girlfriend and for marriage, if you hadn't..." was just another ridicule he was having with me. He was engaged and said that if his fiancee was there, he wouldn't have let me in on Christmas! He's blind! The woman he picked didn't even wanted to be with his family on Christmas and having family over is top on his list! I even felt guilt for not helping him in selecting the right one. He loved me so much, but then he acted like a jerk again and again. I can't wait to be in a serious relationship with the 20 percent!

Seriously want a life partner , Unfortunately, after divorce, fell prey to love bomber (true narcissist) and have had to work very hard to overcome the damage!

Jonathan, I am quite amazed at your videos! They are comprehensive and the messages stick. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and I hope you make many more! 😊

Need to prove myself to myself! Love you for your contagious optimism!

Little girls are made of sugar and spice, and everything nice; Little boys are made of snips and snails, and puppy dogs tails ❤

I feel your book on Self Love is really empowering. I did email about a coaching call however it is not possible at this time. I did not receive your Rules of Engagement, yet I did buy your book both the soft cover and the Audible book. In my own relationship I found your "wisdom" a good starting point, yet I feel we must be flexible to a degree. My BF is in law enforcement, he has been in for 25 years and has 8 more before he can retire. He is stoic, thoughtful, and even after nearly a year together he is quiet. He expressed as much as he can (he tells me every day throughout the day he loves me) yet his actions really show how he feels. It's important for us to be in our power coming from a position of self love so we can recognize and be just a bit flexible (NOT a rubber band type) but just enough to understand our partner. Keep up the awesome work! Many hugs to Marie for keeping it really beautiful 😊

Can’t wait to listen! Great topic 🫶🏽

Thank you for the advice! Valuable!!

The users think if they say "thank you" when you do something for them, they are being grateful. There really is a difference between tossing out those two words verses behaving in a way that demonstrates gratitude.

Thank you so much for your honesty!

Jonathan you are so smart! You help so many people! I appreciate you!Thank you!

They can tell you they are interested and they aren't interested at all. Impossible to tell if they are serious. I find lots of men are confused, messed up only when they are getting dressed. My ex devoted all kinds of time for me, until I moved in. Then I was fighting for his time. Narcissists move it forward quickly as well, love bombing, etc. It is a red flag for me.

This was the first video of yours that I have seen. I appreciate your valuable insight. Thank you for being so caring!

Love the valuables information Jonathan. You deliver a wealth of knowledge. Thank you 💕

Jonathan, just wanted to let you know I recently purchased your book on self love and really enjoying it! Also purchased Attached book that you recommend as well.😊

The experience of mine in last three years are like horrible nightmare that has swallowed my character

Absolutely true ...enjoyed your teaching...God Bless 🙌 😊

Thank you J! awesome insight

Yes I did want one but good man are hard to find don't have time for no games nowadays u got to be careful who u put In your life. To many crazy people out here.

Awesome advice 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Very helpful & a handful of advices video, I totally love the video,Thank you Jonathan 🙏🏻

My body is my temple where I delve deep into myself to learn to connect with myself, others, and the world..trashing my temple is like setting myself on fire...Yes, Jonathan, liberating doesn't mean running everything to the ground...I found inner child therapy extremely useful to reverse, heal, and promote growth multiplicity. I personally believe life and creativity forces originate when we are most connected to our source/higher self in the purest form. I know when I meet the right person for me and filtering through that is a big hassle every woman/man has to face, unfortunately. 🙏 But when the time comes, everything will fall into alignment without forcing...

I definitely getting your book ! Thank you

Yes! Makes perfect sense to me. Thank you ❤ 😊

I haven't had a man even approach me in 20 years. It's been so long I don't know where to begin on even being able to find anyone anymore.

I understand that better than before. Thank you Jonathan ❤ 😊

Thank you for your work. I appreciate you

Thank you!

I have been married for almost 15 years. My husband enjoys outdoor activities, while I'm much more of a bookworm. In particular he loves riding 4x4s whether winter or summer. I used to enjoy riding with him, although at times I refused to follow up or down steep hillsides, and into muddy water. I am 62 this year and he is 65. He worked a job this winter that took him away from home at 4pm, and get home at about 2 am.Twice I asked directly for him to talk to me, or change something so I'm not so lonely. He told me to go make some friends. I'm a severe introvert and don't understand how to make friends. He knows that but it was all he had to say. A few weeks ago I ran into a male friend I had met a few months prior to my husband, so about 15 years ago. He is a newscaster and very recognizable. We ran into each other at a restaurant and we ate together. We have lunched a couple times since then. My husband and I have been celibate for 4 years.Menopause has done a real number on my ability to enjoy intercourse.However, I offered to start taking hormone cream so we could try again and my husband said, "No, that's ok." I'm not intimate with my guy friend either. It's just nice having him compliment my outfit or appearance. Is my lunch friend a bad idea? He does make me smile, and I wonder if I should stop seeing my friend. We always eat in public where he can be recognized and

I want a man who uses words like stentorian, propinquity, fecund, spinnaker, penury, etc., easily in conversation. Also, he appreciates the absurdities in life and chuckles when someone says reverts back, continues on, vocabulary words, tiny speck, wealthy billionaire, etc. He is tactile and enjoys giving and receiving foot massages while watching Mel Brooks's movies or Quentin Tarantino's movies. These are non-negotiable.

Last time I started dating,out of sheer coincidence,found out he was cousin...actually 5th cousin.🙄

Yes, serious relationship please❤

Yes the dating marketplace is a real absolute mess as you say Jonathon!

Good one

Very valuable advice. You don't know how much I needed to hear this right now, as I've been very confused about someone. Thank you for all this insight. 💖

And when he pulls away women need to stop blowing up his phone with text after text after text.

I like the advise. Good. I like the show.

Hi Jonathon I'm rethinking of revisit it once again but I need to be sure of what I'm getting into to.😊

Your right that the market for a good genuine relationship man is very scarce. I’ve been working on myself to be that genuine person.

Quite agreed. Met a man years ago who liked me. He used to look me straight into my eyes which embarrassed me. He was very caring asking how I was, how am I getting home can he help me but never about the physical side.

Great advice .

I have not got caught up with users or needy men, but I really appreciate your confirming the wisdom of my choices. And thanks for confirming its a mess out there. A good woman only needs one good man. You give us plenty of homework to figure out how to get ready for him and find him.

I have recommended your book to several people on Facebook.

That "pulling away " feels like rejection and relationship inadequacies. It would be nice to have a different way to assess whether to continue to have a relationship or not. People are so vulnerable especially at the start of a new relationship.

Excellent advice. Women need to hear your opinion it is right on.

I seriously want a life partner

I genuinely want a serious relationship……❤

And he has thanked me for comming into his life

I just started dating someone after being single and not dating for 5 years. Despite all the self work over the last 5 years, I have found so many old anxieties surfacing. Of course, I slept with him too soon. However, he's unlike anyone I've ever dated. Kind, compassionate, attentive but I'm so terrified I'm going to choose someone emotionally unavailable again that it paralyzes me. I'm trying to ground myself, practice self care and make sure I'm exploring my own interests. Dating is the worst. I am glad I found this channel to help guide me.

I would love to meet someone. Who wants a soul mate as I want that man too

You always reference the best sources, Barbara De'Angeles, Jay Shetty, and John Gottman. All of those who you have mentioned in the past, that I have followed or read their work prior to finding your channel.

Tyvm!

67 y/o ,professional and looking for an intelligent ,kind and considerate man . I went for a few dates but from the very beginning I can tell the person is not forme .Rather be single ( I am divorced ) than wasting my time

Yes looking for a life partner. My guy has 4 on your list yea!! Great info again ❤

Thank you😊

Seeking serious relationship

Yes, definitely, a life partner!

Have an attitude of gratitude and appreciation most ppl often neglect that virtues. Some ppl don't know the power of gratitude and appreciation. Heyy! JA I like your long sleeves. Marie makes you more handsome 😊. We feel young when we're inlove❤😊

I’ve stopped looking, I’ve had so many unfulfilling relationships. I don’t have sex with them…I tell them that’s reserved for when we both feel it’s the right time. So I’ve been without it for going on 8 years now. It’s discouraging, disappointing & yet I feel like I haven’t compromised myself or my standards. I just wish I could find a man who could appreciate that. 😢

Yes am serious about a relationship .

Has anyone ever felt like the person you love communicates with you on a subconscious level? I feel like he consciously rejects me, maybe a defense mechanism, but somehow I've tapped into his subconscious? I guess he's been so damaged and traumatized that conscious communication is not possible, so we've like developed our own language that we communicate love in that is safe for him. I suppose if you've been traumatized by your care givers and people who were supposed to love you, then lobe becomes weaponized and it's not a safe place or frequency to operate in until there is some healing that takes place. I am absolutely intrigued by it because I do like puzzles and cryptic things. Love does seem to make you do some crazy things and you put up with exactly the things you've told yourself you'd never tolerate and here I am doing just that. I feel like the nurse in that 70ies movie that Metallica used where the guy has no sight no voice no hearing and no limbs, but the nurse draws hearts on his chest. I feel like I'm that nurse. If this is how we'll end up being for eternity then so be it.

I'm so glad to be married.

Jonathan, I have followed you and enjoy your content. There needs to be a thought about older people who don’t want marriage. I still want an exclusive relationship, just not financial entanglement.

Yes, I am seeking long term partnership!

Yes- I’m 55, and want a life partner- may have found him but watching everything you say for guidance

Hi Jonathan. Am glad I found your RU-vid channel and to this I would love to ask you something that I have been always want to know. How do you know for the very few weeks if the guy wants you for a life partner and not a playhead. How can you tell if you are friend with him over two week?

I shared this with my friend who is so needy and can’t find the right guy

Good description on the ambivalent/needy. So are these type hopeless? Am I suckered in thinking it will improve, or could it?

I'm definitely seeking a 'rest of my life' partner, but it's so hard finding the same in a man. It's a bit discouraging, Jonathan.

I love how every time you mention Marie you point to her picture.

This Is True! I did All of this and Greater! Life Investment in Love! I m a Grower/"Builder" I LOVE TO LOVE! (It Shocked Me at 19) I adore it Now! Glad I Married My Crush!

I agree with you